#you reap what you sow. & god has a better plan for. glad he pushed my limits. it so helpful

[trust-over-love]

The conversation sucked but was so what I needed. I was asked to respect his decision to move on. & I asked for the respect to not have sex anymore. Because I love my husband & it makes it harder for me to move on. I was being cordial, not trying to fight. But instead of saying okay & ending the conversation I get shit talked about me. Like what?

I want to move on peacefully as well, just as he requested & not having sex with someone I love who no longer loves me back makes me wrong? So much negative things being said to me. When the convo could’ve been so short. Just crazy. Proves me how toxic he truly is.

But the conversation was needed for me to understand that I am not the only one who messed up. I was lied to & made to believe we’d always work through it & always get stronger through our downfalls. I mean I literally got all the proof of his betrayal, but to him it was nothing & I’m the bad guy. He told me to stay when I should’ve left & now he denies it lmao Okay. We both messed up. Take accountability as I have. I was willing to always try & you lied about never giving up & always trying & that divorce was never an option. Thanks for showing me your true colors. Even showing me how much of a snitch he is by threatening me with law enforcement like really. Thank you for the push. I’m with our kids 85% of the time cause you work a lot & that’s okay I understand that but you threaten to try to get me in trouble with the law. Fake AF. So unbelievable but it’s okay. Thank god I didn’t decide to go back to that place when you asked me to for our kids. I knew it wasn’t gonna be a good idea & I’m so thankful I stuck to my gut feeling.

& he’s mad I use this app to vent instead of talking to people & posting on apps where people know us. Don’t nobody know me here. Don’t nobody even care. You left me, you can’t dictate how I heal myself from being fooled. Crazy how the truth unfolds when things get rough.

[sunrayyellowhalo]

I'm really stressed out in life right now, so much is happening, and I have to make a lot of future plans and I'm afraid of making the wrong decisions. Staying away from maldaptive coping strategies is a must for me, and I'm afraid doing bad things to cope again, I used to self harm. But now I'm afraid ill start drinking

Hi there dear anon! Thank you for coming to my inbox!! I’m so glad that you are making future plans for the betterment of your life! I can’t imagine how stressed you must be or what you’re dealing with but I know stress is NOT fun and definitely can make us do things we wouldn’t otherwise. May I ask what healthy coping strategies you are using to deal with your stress? How strong is your support system? Close friends? Fam?

 If you’d allow me, I would like to apply some bible scriptures to the emotion of stress in your situation and I hope and pray you apply them and they further help you not to self harm or drink but to continue to push past your stress and achieve those beautiful goals you’ve set for yourself!! Life can be overwhelming at times but may you find comfort and courage in these words of God. Cast your cares upon Jesus dear heart!

When I feel stressed, these are the scriptures that help me: 

     Matthew 11:28-3

      “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.  Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.  For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” 

Psalm 55:22

Cast your cares on the LORD and he will sustain you; he will never let the righteous be shaken.

Psalm 56:3

When I am afraid, I put my trust in you. 

Matthew 6:25-34

“Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes? Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they?  Can anyone of you by worrying add a single hour to your life?  “And why do you worry about clothes? See how the flowers of the field grow. They do not labor or spin.  Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these.  If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you-you of little faith?  So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’  For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them.  But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.

Proverbs 3:5-6

Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding;  in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight. 

Philippians 4:6-7 (JUST READ THIS THE OTHER DAY TOO) 

Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.