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fandom etiquette is dying and it is a slow and painful death

[solarcali]

Hi again😍 I would like a synastry ship with TXT, Golden Child and Stray Kids( can you put second best match).

Thank you so much🙏🤭💖

P. S. I would love it more💋 if you do the synsatry ship with Eunwoo with more details😅🤗🙏

In TXT, I ship you with Yeonjun!

He has a Virgo Sun, you have a Capricorn Sun. This is a harmonious combination, especially since you also have your Juno in Virgo, so you'll find that the best partners often have Virgo traits, humble, intelligent, kind and thoughtful people. He would admire your drive and patience, you would value his hard-working nature and skills. You could achieve a lot together.

His Virgo Mercury trines your Capricorn Mercury so communication is very good, you are both focused on material results, you would function well together, like a well-oiled machine lol!

His Virgo placements are squaring your Gemini Moon and Saturn, which could be challenging, usually between Virgo and Gemini, it's more about teasing and bickering. You could find him a bit too strict and picky. But it's unlikely to be a big issue because of the trine with your Capricorn placements, including your Mercury which rules your Gemini moon, so as long as communication is flowing, the square is not a problem. Virgo and Gemini are also both ruled by Mercury, so they have that intellectual quality in common, and they are both mutable signs, so they adapt to different energies more easily, especially Gemini, as it's such a curious and sociable sign.

His Sun also falls near your Midheaven, so that suits your Capricorn Mercury which is your 7th house ruler, and you Capricorn Sun and Venus. He would be someone who would have a positive impact on your image, reputation and status. You eould see him as a respectable figure. He has a Libra Moon, an air sign like your Gemini Moon, so it eases even both the square aspect between Virgo and Gemini. This is very good, both of you need communication and fun, to share with your partner. It's unlikely that the two of you wouldn't have something to say to the other. As a Libra Moon he would put you first. The trine to Saturn would make the relationship last and would make you two emotionally comitted to each other. It also matches your Moon in the 7th house, the Libra house, so you both need partnership, you would make the relationship a priority.

His Libra Moon is also squaring your Capricorn placements. So we have this double trine, double square with the Sun and Moon. So you would learn from each a lot. You both have a sociable and a more introverted side to you.

His Venus in Leo match your Sagittatius Rising. Leo Venus admires courage, strenght, outspoken people with morals and integrity. They want passion and playfulness in love. And your Sagittarius Ascendant is full of life, so it matches that. He would treat you like a queen and your Capricorn Sun and Venus would like that too.😊

Your Pisces Mars is opposing his Sun, that generates a certain attraction and complementary energy, possibly some adjustments but given the rest of the synastry I think you would motivate each other to act selflessly and for the good of all.

His Mars is in Sagittarius with your Ascendant so he would be very attracted to you, and in Sagittarius he would probably make a grand, bold move to get your attention! His Mars is also squaring your Pisces Mars. So you have a grand mutable cross. It is an aspect that present a certain amount of tension, but the reward is big and the growth and balance that can be achieve is worth it, and you have enough harmonious aspects to handle it.

His Jupiter and Saturn are in Taurus, trining your Capricorn Sun/Mercury/Venus so with that grand earth trine, you would feel really safe and also powerful in that very stable relationship.

Second choice would probably be Soobin, Taehyun wouldn't be bad either.

In Golden Child, I ship you with Bomin! 

Another Virgo, so same that with Yeonjun, it fits your Juno and your Capricorn energy, but this time he has his Venus in Virgo as well, trining your own Capricorn Venus. So you would both value caution in relationships. For the two of you, love is about more than just the romance and passion, it's first and foremost about trust, honesty, being there for one another, and building something together. You would be secure for sure. 

His Venus would also oppose your Mars so there would still be a strong attraction, and it would be a very romantic. He would show his love through small acts of service, cook for you, fix things around the house...😊 Although Virgo Venus can be shy at times, your Pisces Mars would know how yo make him feel at ease and would let him reveal to you the sensual side of earthy Virgo.

Bomin has his Moon in Gemini like you with his Saturn and Jupiter. So the Virgo-Gemini square would be even less of an issue since he has Gemini energy himself. He would understand you perfectly, it would be like with Doyoung (if you remember 😅), talking for hours, when separated being on the phone and texting all the time. It would be very stimulating on a mental level, and because your Mercury are in trine aspect to each other, we know that the communication would be good. 

The addition of his Jupiter in this Gemini conjunction brings a lot of joy and it means that you would learn a lot together. You two could enjoy going to museums together, read the same books and then share about it, travel and explore, it's a bit like studying together but it'll be very fun. You will want to improve the relationship constantly, be a better person to make it work. 

His Leo Mars makes him act in a brave and noble way which your Capricorn Sun would admire. It matches your fiery Sagittarius Ascendant, you both have a tendency to start things with enthusiasm and passion. 

I feel like this relationship would be very rich and long-lasting. 

Second choice would be Jaeseok. Jibeom and Donghyun are good too.

In Stray Kids, I ship you with Minho! 

Minho is a Scorpio Sun, Mercury and Venus, which matches your Capricorn Sun, Mercury and Venus. He is more emotional and intense, you are more grounded and controlled, but both of you are commited, loyal, wise and realistic people with a lot of depth. It would be easy to open up with a person like him. Scorpio accepts the dark side of human nature and Capricorn understand that too. It would be a powerful match, both of you have a certain authority and a lot of determination and patience so you could achieve a lot together. 

His Scorpio placements also trine your Mars, so he would be your type. On a physical and romantic level you two are compatible, and with his Venus and your Mars in a water sign, the chemistry would be magnetic, it would be a deep, soulful and healing bond. 

His Sagittarius Moon opposes your Gemini Moon and conjunct your Ascendant. Even though he would easily relate to you, you actually have opposite yet complementary ways of dealing with your emotions. You may ask yourself a lot of questions and like to consider a lot of different ideas, he wants to find answers. So I feel like here again, there could be a bit of a teacher-student dynamic. But it would be on both side, because his Moon looks up to you (your ascendant), he sees you as a guiding light. You would learn and explore a lot, particularly on an emotional level. 

His Virgo Mars trines your Capricorn placements, so again it point to mutual attraction, romantic chemistry. Because both your Mars are in "shy" signs (Virgo and Pisces), you would approach each other with caution, he would just observe you at first, notice little details about you to try to understand you (especially with his Scorpio placements he would be the type to do that). 

You would try to magnetize him with your Pisces energy lol. And it would work because his Jupiter is in Pisces, and it rules his Sagittarius Moon. So he would be emotionally drawn to you even more and in this Pisces conjunction he is the guide, so again teacher-student relationship that goes both ways. He would help you channel your Pisces energy in a good way, use your intuition wisely, maybe inspire you with a project you could devote yourself to. He would give you faith in yourself and encourage you. 

His Taurus Saturn creates a grand earth trine with your Capricorn planets and his Virgo Mars, bringing stability and fruitful results to the relationship. 

Jisung would be my second pick, but Minho is by far the best pick in my opinion.

Synastry with Eunwoo : 

So first of all he is a Cancer rising so all your Capricorn planets fall near his descendant. Your Sun and Venus are in his 6th house, which points to working together, chores, health, routine, these kind of Virgo things, so as a Virgo Juno you may find it to your taste. Your Mercury is in his 7th conjunct his descendant so for you this is good because it fuels your Gemini Moon. Mercury is your 7th house lord so this means that as far as his ascendant goes, you have found the perfect partner to communicate with.😊 Communication would be the main focus in your relationship. 

Your Cancer Jupiter, which is your chart ruler since you are a Sagittarius rising, is near his ascendant, so again there is a strong identification on your part. You see him as someone you can learn from who can help you evolve, who shares your vision in life and your beliefs. 

His Moon is in Sagittarius with your Ascendant, so he would relate to you just like Minho. It is also conjunct your Pluto and South Node. So there would be a strong karmic connection. He would be magnetize by you, and would definitely see you as a powerful figure. The South Node points to past life connections, it's our comfort zone too. So you would definitely feel like you know him, there would be a strong familiarity on both part.

His Pluto is also right on your ascendant. So he would definitely want you very much! But he could also want to control you. It would all happen on a subconscious level, so it'd be confusing for both of you, could be either creepy or irresistible. Definitely can point to obsession on both parts! Whether one likes this type of contact depends on if they have a lot of Pluto/Scorpio/8th house going on natally. You have your Moon opposite and your Mars square Pluto, so you may have a tendency to attract this type of partners, but you may not own your Pluto. This is a powerful energy that with the opposition points to reclaiming your power by digging deep within yourself. 

Now his Aries stellium including Saturn, square your Capricorn placements. The square with Saturn can be tough, it brings lessons learnt in a harsh and challenging way. It is not a glamourous placement. It's controlling, restrictive. So on the long term the relationship could become hard-work. Even though his Aries placements are in his 10th house, which makes him ambitious and career-oriented like a Capricorn, it doesn't really understand your earthy Capricorn energy. 

His Mars is in Virgo and it rules his Aries planets so it makes it easier to some extend, makes him less impulsive than the typical Aries, and with the trine to your Venus it points to physical chemistry. 

But Aries is a very young energy, it's the first born, it's impulsive a bit selfish, impatient. Capricorn is associated with old age, these people are old souls, mature, wise. His Aries energy could be exhausting to you while he would probably think you are too "parental". 

Your 7th house ruler and Venus are in a square to each other, so your love nature is in conflict. In the end you probably have different expectations from a relationship. 

But your Junos, the asteroid of marriage, are in good aspect to each other in Virgo and Taurus, somewhat matching each other energy as well (your 2nd house stellium and his Virgo Mars ruling his Aries planets), so even if the relationship would become difficult, you would have a strong devotion to each other and it would be hard to let go. 

So not an easy match, even tough there are binding aspects. I guess the relationship could be very passionnate and intriguing at first. His Aries planets are in your 4th and 5th house so definitely a strong familiarity and attraction and it could be fun for a while. 

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[thebeautyoffandoms]

heya!! can i get an hq matchup? for starters my pronouns are she/her, i am bisexual, my personality type is INFJ. Im a ambivert, i do come off as outgoing however I do get easily drained from social outings and prefer to stay at home JDJDK but if I'm feeling down for a party then hey it is what it is. I am very organized, I hate messiness, I like keeping my area clean, I like my room to smell good, I like it to incorporate my cutesy side like Cinnamoroll, Sailor Moon, Rilakkuma, etc. I am very kind to others, I try my best to make everybody smile and if a friend needs help im always there doing my best. My cons are, I can be impatient, if something isn't coming out as to what I want it to be, or if I keep facing crossroads I cope with it very negatively, i tend to get frustrated easily. Another con of mine is, i lose interest very quickly in others, if you do one thing wrong i automatically don't like you 🥱😂 i guess i have "high" standards. For looks, i could care less, as long as you take care of yourself, and you have a very interesting personality. I tend to look for humorous individuals who have confidence, but aren't egotistical. Things I need in a partner is honesty, commitment, thoughtfulness and someone who I can rely on, also humor. My turnoffs are definitely liars, bad hygiene, snobby people, and ungrateful people. I also forgot to mention, I like ambitious individuals who are intelligent, intelligence is *chefs kiss* and someone who has wisdom, someone whose mature but then they can act goofy. My Hogwarts house is Ravenclaw. My hobbies are singing and performing, cooking, spending time with my pets, going shopping with friends, collecting cute merchandise, daydreaming,, and for music I like, I LOVE R&B and pop xP. THANK YOU SM!!!!!

Hello! You are so very welcome, and thank you so much for requesting!! Sorry it took so long, but I hope you enjoy it!!

For you, I feel like Kiyoko Shimizu would make a lovely match!

From the beginning, Kiyoko was never opposed to being your friend. She was always kind to you, and really appreciated your kindness to not only her, but everyone around you. To those close to her, it wasn’t much of a surprise that the two of you started dating, although she had to get a lot of reassurance that you weren’t straight before she was able to accept her crush on you. It was almost like slow burn, plus it was obvious to some close people that the feelings were mutual. No matter how obvious it was though, Tanaka and Nishinoya did take a while to adapt to it. I personally see Kiyoko as an ambivert as well, so your two personalities go together nicely. She’s also amazing at coming up with date ideas/spots for however your feeling. Want to get out, but not sure you can handle a lot of people? Covered. Think you can handle a crowd? Covered. Want to stay home? Did and done. Honestly, just tell her what you’re up for and she’ll come up with something. Like you, she isn’t big on messes either. Her house and room are always neat and organized, and she honestly really appreciates that yours is too. Despite having dealt with teenage boys, their messes (and how bad they end up smelling) sometimes can get a bit much for her, so you’re like a breath of fresh air. Literally- you smell so much better than the boys and the gym, so she could never get sick of how nice you smell. She also tries her best to always smell nice, so there’s no worries for you either! Your cuteness compliments her seriousness to no end. Seriously, even the boys point it out constantly. If they were to ever catch you two out, you probably wearing something cute and girly and Kiyoko wearing more womanly clothes, they’ll probably tease you and compliment you two. Tanaka and Noya may have a fit though- by then, they may understand why the two of you are together, if only because you guys compliment each other inside and out. The biggest difference between you and her are your levels of patience. She’s used to waiting, staying long after school, and watching the boys have to slowly learn moves as some fuss about not being able to get it. Kiyoko figures that you could maybe end up learning patience alongside her, but she also understands when you grow impatient and/or frustrated. In those moments, she’ll let you take a break from whatever it is, and maybe even try her hand at it while you’re gone. Once you’ve calmed down, Kiyoko will do her best to talk you through whatever it is, and give you her best advice. Once the boys figure that you easily grow bored of people (or… one boy figures, and has to point it out to the rest) they don’t really worry, and you shouldn’t have to either. While not an insanely out-there or humorous individual, Kiyoko certainly has a personality and sense of humor of her own. Plus, according to any person who knows her, Kiyoko is perfect- if you need convincing of it, all you’d have to do is mention it to someone working in or alongside the Volleyball Club. Kiyoko works hard and has high standards for herself, she always hopes to never disappoint anyone, and you’re now one of her top people she hopes to never let down. Kiyoko is the queen of looking fabulous and being grouped into “she must be confident.” While she doesn’t dislike herself, she’s certainly not egotistical, and isn’t very confident all the time either. She doesn’t have issues with wearing what she likes and confronting others, it’s mainly the issue of having all eyes on herself. Despite having many people interested in her because of that, she wouldn’t dare dream of leaving you. Once establishing the relationship, she believes that both of you should be honest and willing to help and rely on the other whenever they can. As I said, Kiyoko is a firm believer in honesty in a relationship- but that also applies to everyday life. While the way she gives her honest opinion can vary from blunt to slightly sugarcoated, she only wants to give the truth. Lying honestly makes her feel bad, and she’ll think about it until she admits whatever it was. To reiterate another thing, her beautiful outside doesn’t just come naturally. Sure, some of it is, but she also takes very good care of herself. Kiyoko will tell you day in and day out that she’s thankful for you. Even in good-night texts, she adds that she’s thankful for however you’ve helped her today. On top of that, while not overly determined or psyched, she is ambitious and has a lot of her future planned out. She’s willing to work for that future of course, and doesn’t expect to do anything less than push to achieve those goals. Parts of achieving those goals do play into her grades, so she does work hard to keep them up. While she’s mostly mature in public, and a lot of the time in private, Kiyoko does have a softer, less serious side. She also has a good sense of humor, and you should expect her to crack jokes with a slight smile before glancing at you expectantly from the corner of her eye. If you laugh, that’ll only encourage her to lighten up more. On another note, should you ever do performances or sing for her, Kiyoko will be your #1 fan! She supports you all the way, and will watch you with a loving glint in her eyes. She also enjoys your other hobbies and doing them with you. Expect her to offer you cookbooks wanting to make something to eat with you, buy your pet something to wear or play with (although animals aren’t her favorite things, she mainly enjoys the look on your face), or even show up saying that she just got payed and was wanting to go to your favorite store. Kiyoko simply admires you, and is happy as long as you are <3

[avgoar]

Interview Series Ep.6

Welcome back to our interview series! Hello and I hope everyone is staying safe inside and outside of your homes. In our continuation of the Eternal Essence interview series, today we have a special mention. Another recently revealed character has agreed to meet with us today. With the new information we get today, I wonder if you all can guess which one it is. You probably already know who our last guest was. Nonetheless, here we go! We have our ten questions ready so let’s get into it. Please introduce yourself and tell us a little bit of what you do.

Arx: I am Arx Canbrir. I am Weithalan born and raised. I serve in the queen's army as a Wanderer to aid our allies when the need arises. At times I am tasked as a mentor to the younglings in the towns about the island.

Same as Calix. How did you come to know Calix?

Arx: I was his mentor. I trained him into his essence and was the first one to find him when he came to the island with barely any life in him.

So, I have to ask since you’ve known him for so long, how would you describe him?

Arx: I would say he is strong, thorough and tactical when focused but he lets his emotions get the best of him. Outside of battle he is just like any twenty-five year old. He has a woman he looks to court, he enjoys not doing anything as long as he can and he avoids me unless he needs advice. He makes me feel as old as I look.

That’s not fair! Well, what do you like to do when you don’t have to mentor or be a soldier? 

Arx: (sighs thoughtfully) I like to read by the ocean. Depending on my mood I enjoy the quiet of the forest around the camp, the courtyard or my room in the camp. Occasionally I go into town and sit in the fish shops. It’s very calming for me.

That sounds really peaceful. I have heard that Weithala is like a sanctuary for Shiera in the west. They have very different needs to varying degrees. Have you witnessed any hardships with so many of them coming to the island kingdom?

Arx: The difficulties they face are similar to our own. Finding what they can eat, trying to figure out how to take care of themselves and their families, learning what it means to live with people and Shiera different from them- they still have the same needs. Some Shiera come in thinking that they can muscle their way into our lives. We make sure to remind them that we are all equal here and there is no need to assert dominance. 

Ohh. Do you have to get involved sometimes? 

Arx: On occasion. Sometimes I have to advocate for the Shiera because a human got ahead of themselves and started the altercation.

Humans are just as troublesome.

Arx: Moreso, in my humble opinion.

Since you also travel a lot as a soldier, may I ask, is there somewhere you have been to that has really stuck with you?

Arx: (strokes beard thoughtfully) The places that follow me into my dreams often are the ones that have seen the changes of time. I have served in the queen’s army for a long time now and I have been to many places over the years. The changes are striking in some areas but the ones that haunt me have remnants of the past among the buildings built up for the future. 

I’ve seen places that I remember from when I was little and it’s either gone or been replaced and that feels bad for some reason. I didn’t go there a lot but it feels like I lost something. 

Arx: No matter how small the significance, that place becomes a part of you. It felt like a loss because it was. 

Weithala is so accepting and speaking with you I can see how level headed and thoughtful you are- it’s refreshing! I’m sure that some people take you all as a not very threatening opponent. Have you had someone look down on you in battle or otherwise just because you’re from Weithala?

Arx: (chuckles lightly) Oh, yes. To begin with, Weithala has isolated itself from the world so most people don’t consider Weithala as much and even our allies do not speak freely of our relations; however, I have heard rumors among the other kingdoms of Weithala’s whereabouts. We are seen as a peaceful kingdom with no spine to speak of. When moving on behalf of our allies, once the opposing forces learn of our origins, they become very prideful. It’s almost amusing. The battles do not end in their favor.

They are completely caught off guard because they assumed peaceful meant that you were weak. You all don’t fight or at least you couldn’t handle a real battle.

Arx: Everyone wants peace but our Queen Ambrosia understands that peace cannot come from well wishes and stubborn refusal to engage when necessary. 

Speaking of royalty, we have yet to hear about this queen. Could you tell us a little about her?

Arx: Queen Ambrosia is like a mother to everyone. She worries herself over us despite how busy she remains with her duties. She has always had a good head on her shoulders and I have always tried to help her when I can. I watched her grow up so I feel the need to support Her Majesty in any way that I can.

I can’t wait to meet her, honestly. There’s something else I have been curious about. There are stories coming out from everywhere about essence in different parts of the world and how they viewed it and how it is perceived. How is essence received in Weithala?

Arx: Essence is a vital part of Weithalan life. We have technology that is powered by our essence. In Weithala, our lifestyle breeds simplicity and contentment. It is a wonderful place to reflect and manifest one’s essence. We have all of the tools and trainers, or mentors, to properly train those who want to use their essence. There are those who do not want to use it. We force no one into that lifestyle. It is usually the younglings who seek us out for training.

This was a much more relaxing experience than the last interview. Thank you for that.

Arx: It was my pleasure.

Now, I will ask if you can give those reading a few words of wisdom, encouragement or whatever you may want to share. 

Arx: Do not let your age hold you back. If you have set a goal for your life do not let anyone else tell you otherwise. There are people that will tell you because you are a youngling you can’t do certain things or they feel the need to tell you how you should act or what you should be doing. They may think that your ideas are unconventional therefore worthless. There are all kinds of adults in this world and they were once younglings. Do what you must to become the adult you want to be. Someone who will support your endeavors will eventually find you along the way. Don’t give up.

Nice. There are a lot of people still aspiring to be and do despite our current situation so that was a very timely message for everyone. I’m sure someone will appreciate your encouraging words. With that we will end our interview session. Ten questions will bring Arx back or five questions will bring him back with another character. Next time will be our last interview in the Eternal Essence series and some exciting news will be shared then as well. I hope you all look forward to it! See you all next week.

[fortunatelylori]

What I find so frustrating about Jon is that he never seems to learn his lesson about poor communication. It happened with tragic consequences in the NW, and it happens again in s7. He was so offended that Sansa publicly disagreed with him, and I get that it's because of his own insecurity and he felt undermined, but it never occurs to him that she wouldn't have HAD to if he'd discussed it with her beforehand and given her an opportunity to express her concerns privately. Will he ever learn?

Hey, nonnie!

First of all, I’d like to apologize for taking this long to answer. You guys have been sending me a lot of asks, which I love, so it’s taking me quite some time to go through all of them. On a general note, I sometimes prioritize answering asks that come as reactions to one of my posts or that are related to newly released info/promo/photos because I feel that letting those asks sit in my inbox for too long kind of defeats the purpose of them. Which means I don’t always go in a chronological order when answering questions. So if you see that I haven’t answered your ask, please don’t get discouraged. It’s very likely that it’s sitting there waiting for me to find time to give an in-depth answer. 

Now that that’s out of the way, let’s do this, nonnie!

Btw, love the sheer exasperation coming off of your post. What woman hasn’t asked the “Will he ever learn” question at least once in their lives. Men are from Mars and women are from Venus, indeed. :)))

I actually thought that this would be a good time for me to talk a bit more broadly about what I think Jon’s major two flaws/issues are at the moment and why I feel it’s important for him to overcome them, particularly in the likelihood of him becoming king at the end of season 8. 

The first one, as you already pointed out in your ask, is poor communication or, even more generally, his tendency to act as a lone wolf. 

This is a bit of a pickle for me because it’s one aspect, I feel, where book Jon differs from show Jon. I think book Jon displays lone wolf characteristics prior to his death. He essentially cuts himself off from his Night Watch brothers, sends Sam to Old Town and seems to take to heart Ned’s mindset of what being a leader is, which is to say that you can love your men but you cannot be their friend. Book Jon applies that to his Night Watch command and it’s in part the reason why he ends up being killed. He just becomes isolated and alone which in turn makes him vulnerable. 

Show Jon, I feel, doesn’t do that. Sam leaves for Old Town because he wants to go, despite Jon’s apprehensions and desire that he stay. He explains again and again the importance of the alliance with the Wildlings to his men and takes Ed with him to Hardhome. In private, he attempts to make Ollie see his reasons for making this decision. So I wouldn’t say that poor communication is what gets show Jon killed. 

What gets show Jon killed is Allister Thorne, essentially. For one, there is a strong personal animosity there that shouldn’t be underestimated. For two, I genuinely believe that Allister Throne is committed to the Night’s Watch and sees Jon as a dangerous element that needs to be stopped. So he gets his allies together and they plot against him. I don’t think the rest of the group is really as personally invested in the assassination as Thorne is, they’re simply his followers. 

The one glaring exception is Ollie whose motivations for killing Jon are deeply personal and, perhaps, from all of them, the one that is most understandable. He sees what Jon is doing as a personal betrayal and he is essentially taking revenge. It’s interesting to note that Ollie’s actions are the ones that hurt Jon the most and the first thing he remembers when he comes back from the dead. In many ways, I still don’t think he’s over Ollie killing him or that he had to execute him for it. 

Also important to mention here is that post-assassination, Allister and his group do not receive the support they were perhaps expecting. Ed and a few men loyal to Jon go as far as to oppose them outright and the rest of the Night’s Watch accept what happened because there is seemingly nothing to be done. Which is why when the Wildlings storm Castle Black, most of the Night’s Watch isn’t exactly chopping at the bit to protect Throne and his knife wielders. 

The reason why I say all this is because I feel like Jon’s lone wolf tendencies are very much a product of his resurrection and the betrayal he suffered through at the hands of men that called themselves his brothers. He’s naturally a man that values collaboration and communication, over imposing his will unilaterally. 

So in that sense, I do think in time he will get back there and be more open to communicating and debating his decisions. His communication issues are very much like Sansa’s trust issues. They’ve both suffered traumas and had their confidence in people abused and shaken, so they’re both reluctant to opening up fully. Also it’s important to note that once it becomes clear to him that Sansa feels excluded and wants her opinion heard, he adjusts and asks her opinion when it comes to Tyrion. So he is trying. That’s something. :)

There’s also a point to be made to what I believe are the differences between the two instances where Jon blindsides Sansa with his decisions, because I don’t think his motivation or intentions were the same in both of them. 

In the undermine me scene, I don’t think it occurs to Jon that Sansa would disagree with his decision to pardon Alys Karstark and Ned Umber. In his mind he is making the decision his father would have made (I’m not sure Ned would have done that but Jon tends to idealize him to a degree) so he thinks Sansa will have the same view on the subject as he does. In that sense, I think he’s genuinely surprised that Sansa disagrees with it. He decides to focus on the “undermining” aspect of her disagreement but I think in many respects that’s him deflecting what it truly bothering him which is that he feels Sansa doesn’t trust him enough to have faith in his decisions and that she would be so adamant to punish two young children. 

So his reaction to her challenging him is very personal and is a sign of deep vulnerability when it comes to her that he’s trying (not very well) to hide under some sort of political savvy pretense. 

Then there’s the scene where he announces to the Great Council that he has decided to go to Dragonstone. Sansa is naturally shocked by this because they’ve already discussed the subject and both her and Davos tell him not to go. 

The interesting thing about this scene is that Jon isn’t surprised by her reaction this time. He looks as if he’s expecting it actually. On top of that, Davos is surprised as well which means he didn’t discuss it with him either. 

What that tells me is that the reason why he doesn’t talk to Sansa beforehand is not a matter of poor communication in this instance but rather that he chooses not to tell her. The question is: why? 

Jonsa fans have theorized that Jon finds it hard to be alone with Sansa because of his personal feelings for her. That may very well be part of the reason for it but, more importantly, I think he doesn’t talk to her beforehand because he doesn’t want to be talked out of leaving. 

Let’s put it this way: Jon Snow is not an idiot. He knows going to Dragonstone is dangerous and risky. He knows that he might get killed or captured. He knows all of the things that Sansa tells him during the Council. But he still feels like he has to go because he needs men and dragonglass and dragons. So he avoids the council of Davos and Sansa, in particular, because he doesn’t want to hear the reasons why he shouldn’t go, he doesn’t want to think of the risk he’s placing Sansa in by leaving her alone and he tries, instead, to convince himself that all will work out well. 

Which brings us to Jon’s second major issue and one that, unlike his poor communication skills that need some adjustment but are not, in my view, catastrophic in the grand scheme of things (we all have flaws, after all), jeopardizes him and those he loves time and time again. And one that he really needs to get a handle on if he is ever to be a successful king: 

His “1st ranger” mindset: 

Sansa: Then send an emissary. Don’t go yourself!

Jon: Daenerys is a queen. Only a king can convince her to help us. 

Jon: The Free Folk will help us. 

Davos: They won’t follow Ser Jorah. 

Jon: They won’t have to. 

Time and time again we’ve seen Jon put himself at great risk and offer himself up for dangerous, almost suicidal missions. In theory, all of this has the makings of a hero which is great but, as D*ny puts it, heroes don’t tend to live very long because they end up doing stupid things. 

In order to understand where this issues comes from, we need to look back to what Jon first stated he had ever wanted, which was to be a ranger in the Night’s Watch and, in time, 1st ranger like his uncle Benjen.

While all the men of the Night’s Watch are expected to bare arms in the case of an attack, the rangers are the real soldiers of the order. So in essence what Jon always wanted to be was a warrior. 

Which is great, except that as early as season 1 he’s been constantly derailed from that desire. He wanted to be a ranger but became Joer Mormont’s stewart instead, something he felt was a punishment. It took Sam to point out that the Lord Commander asking for him personally meant that Jon was being prepared for command. But that didn’t seem to make Jon all that happy because and I quote: 

Jon: I just … always wanted to be a ranger!

So while everyone around Jon realizes that he is made for leadership, even as he displays alpha tendencies galore, Jon’s dream was to be a follower, not the ultimate authority. I think that hankers back to the hierarchy within the Stark family where the only Stark child actively prepared for leadership was Robb. Incidentally we see Robb embrace that role quickly and effectively because it’s something he always expected he would have to do.  

Jon’s first instinct is always to put himself at risk over other people and particularly post-resurrection he’s become quite careless with his life.

He suggest one on one combat against Ramsay, scaring the living daylights out of Sansa. During the battle of the bastards, fans tend to focus a lot on Jon’s charge in trying to save Rickon. I don’t really take that into account as much because it seemed like a natural reaction of a man desperately trying to save his kid brother. However, during that same battle, he charges singlehandendly against an army not once but twice: Once after Rickon is killed and the second when Ramsay runs from the battlefield (once again terrifying Sansa - no wonder the poor girl tells him over and over again that he needs to be smarter). 

And this trend continues in season 7 as well when he not only offers himself up for the wight hunt but also charges the zombie army on his own instead of getting on the freaking dragon. 

That’s very much the mindset of a warrior ready to face off against impossible odds but it’s not something Jon is allowed to do anymore because: 

Davos: You can’t lead a raid beyond the wall. You’re not in the Night’s Watch anymore. You’re King in the North!

Exactly, Davos! Exactly!

Jon can’t go around charging head first into impossible to win situations because he has a responsibility to the people he’s leading and because without him, the entire army/kingdom disintegrates. 

And in a way, I think Jon knew that at some point. During the attack on the wall by Mance’s forces, Jon acts not only bravely but strategically and decisively. And it’s the result of his good decision making that Grenn ends up dying. 

I think the guilt from that decision never left Jon which is why now he ends up preferring to put himself at risk than ask others to do it. 

But, unfortunately for him, Jon Snow was never meant to be 1st ranger. He is meant to be king and a medieval king, while needing to be a warrior, also needs to be a commander and a strategist, one that at some point will have to send good men, loyal men to their deaths. And he needs to learn to live with that. 

Which in essence is the real lesson that needs to be learned from book Ned’s commentary on the difference between a leader and the men he has under his command.

Thanks for the ask, nonnie! 

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Not sure how long I’m keeping them open.  I’ll let you know when closed.  

Request Rules:

Requests are only open for NJPW wrestlers at this time.  

I always acknowledge request asks.   If I didn’t respond I didn’t get your ask, so please ask if you didn’t get a response once requests are closed.    

I tailor the requests how they come to me during the writing process.  I don’t take specific requests for smut, fluff, angst, etc.  I never know what direction a story is going until I start writing it, so what comes out is what you get. Some will be short, some will be longer.  Depends were it takes me.

I have no problem receiving multiple requests from people.  Send in as many as you want.

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Thank you everyone!

That looks good on you, but let’s take it off

And what are you going to do about it

Say please or it’s not happening

I knew where this was going by the looks you were giving me

I know exactly what you want and how you want it

Get your fucking hands off of me

I don’t make love, I fuck

Do you want me to fuck you while everyone’s watching?

Keep spreading baby, I’m gonna fill you up so good

If you complain that it’s hot one more time, I’m going to give you a reason to sweat

Well, well.  My night just got better.

I’m sure we can put those lips to better use

Did you really trick yourself into thinking I cared about you?

Come here and get on your knees.  Show me how much of me you can swallow.

You wanted me to be rough, so I’m being rough.  What’s the matter?  Can’t handle it?”

If you turn your back on me again, you better be bending over

There’s no escaping my reach little one.  I can bend you and break you.

You need to meet my friends, they’ll love you

Don’t lie. You want it as much as I do

That’s it.  Suck it slow and good

You’re such a dirty girl.  Of course this excites you

I’m just not that turned on.  Sorry

How many times do I have to tell you that your body belongs to me?

I would watch how you speak to us.

“Before you were just a nuisance.  Now you made us mad.” 

“Don’t get up, I’m comfortable like this.”

You can touch my hair but don’t mess it up

There’s something I really need to tell you

Not everyone is meant to be a good person

I told you not too get too close to me

I don’t remember asking for your opinion

We all have our vices, don’t we

I can do anything I want to you and you’ll still enjoy it

You were never my first choice

You weren’t worth my time

You’re nothing but a warm mouth to me

You promised me you wouldn’t do this

You’re going to do it anyway aren’t you?

I hate you and I hate that I love you

She still means the world to me

It’s going to take more than this for me to break

When it comes to you I’m never good enough

I think I should go

Get on your knees if you want to make it up to me

I don’t think she trusts us

I just wanna tell you that you’re really pretty

Maybe he’s just trying to be nice

I know I have no right to be here, but I came to apologize

Don’t be sorry.  Be better

I’d be more than happy to show you a good time, if you’re looking for one.

How should I know her last name? I don’t know her first name!

“I’d say I’m sorry, but I’m really not.”

“They’re right behind me, aren’t they?”

Do you even know what you’ve done to me?

I’m gonna make your life a living hell

Your secret’s safe with me.

Those are my terms.  Take it or leave it

I think you need to learn how to shut the fuck up

I made a horrible mistake

I just wanna be good enough for you

You’re going to get me in trouble

I just sold my soul to the devil

Don’t move.  I’m going to kiss you now.

Give me a reason not to walk out that door. 

You’re the only one who ever gave a damn.

Don’t talk to me like I’m stupid

I’m not saying I want a threesome, but I’m not opposed to it

I don’t want to think

The world doesn’t revolve around you

Why are you going through my phone

You’re going to regret this

I don’t want to talk about him

Weddings stress me out

Selfish people live longer

You told me you were single

I just want to touch your hair

I try to walk away but I can’t

I thought I was the only one

You belong to me and no one else

This shouldn’t have happened

What are you doing in here

That was a big mistake

Why do you let him hurt you

You only wanted me for sex didn’t you

Go ahead and ask

I’m not wearing underwear today

You should be ashamed of yourself

Will you stay with me tonight

Only if your friend comes along too

Tell me what you want to do to me

I don’t fucking care

Stop biting me

What more do you want from me

I will find you, no matter where you go

I want your hands around my throat

Is there a reason you’re in here

I like to watch

I want to hear you say it

You’re creaming yourself

You’re going to have to do better than that

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(via Great Leaders Learn To Shift Their Mindset – Innovation Excellence) — an earlier version of this post appeared in Inc.com.

By Greg Satell

In Mindset, psychologist Carol Dweck argues, based on decades of research, that how we see ourselves is a major factor in what we can achieve. Whether it is children in school or executives in a boardroom, the mindset people adopt has a significant influence on how they perform.

Yet what she doesn’t say is that we need different mindsets for different jobs. A successful mindset for one set of tasks may hinder our performance in another. For example, aggression and competitiveness may work great for a professional athlete on the field, but not so great for building a productive home life.

Most of the changes in mindset we need to make, however, are far more subtle. They lack the social and environmental cues of the delineation between work and home life. So we always need to be looking for when best practices in one area lead to poor performance in another and shift our mental models accordingly. In an age of disruption, we need to learn to adapt.

Being A Motivator vs. Being A Manager

In Drive, author Daniel Pink lays out what you need to motivate employees. He points out that decades of research have shown that financial incentives tend to be a poor motivator for most tasks and people are far more productive when they are intrinsically motivated. It’s much easier to get people to do what you want if they want what you want.

His research identifies three key factors in motivation, autonomy, mastery and purpose. Autonomy gives people a feeling of control, opportunities to improve their mastery of skills helps them feel that they are making progress and purpose imbues work with meaning. None of these, it should be mentioned, are exorbitantly expensive.

However, managers often have conflicting interests. Giving people more autonomy sounds like a good idea in theory, but it makes it harder to coordinate work among a lot of people. Time devoted to training opportunities is time not devoted to productive work and giving people a sense of purpose sounds simple, but is much easier said than done.

So leaders must adopt two often competing mindsets, that of the enterprise and that of a trusted employee coach. That can be a challenge.

Managing Operations vs. Driving Innovation

A recent McKinsey report found that while 84% of corporate executives think innovation is key to achieving growth objectives, only 6% are satisfied with innovation performance in their firm. Part of the problem is that executives tend to rise through the ranks not through driving innovation, but by competently managing operations.

The truth is that there is often a tradeoff between innovation and operations. Good operational executives build consensus, get everybody to see things the same way and reduce variability to improve quality and efficiency. Innovators need to explore, seek out a diversity of views and accept the inevitable bugs and glitches that go along with doing something truly new.

Clearly, these are two very different mindsets and many are unable to traverse the two. Determined operators have a need to drive projects forward, while skilled innovators understand that sometimes you need to step back, change direction and give yourself options. They learn to accept failure as an inevitable pit stop on the way to success.

However, just as clearly, every organization needs to both innovate and optimize. The best leaders understand how to juggle mindsets.

Marketing And Publishing

Another case of dual mindsets that has arisen more recently is that of marketing and publishing. As I explained in a pair of articles in Harvard Business Review, marketers increasingly need to learn to think and to act like publishers if they want to be competitive in content-driven marketing.

A large part of marketers’ role within their organization is that of a customer advocate. They study consumers, identify their needs, work to ensure that those needs are fulfilled and message accordingly. This role is, necessarily, somewhat backward looking, focused on understanding trends and getting a sense of where they are going.

Publishers, on the other hand, are mission driven. They look to shape opinions and trends. Editors like Anna Wintour of Vogue and David Remnick of The New Yorker didn’t get to the top of their profession by telling readers what they want to hear, but by challenging them and expressing a clear point of view.

These two opposing mindsets explain why so many content marketers fail. They try to apply a marketing mindset to publishing by analyzing what customers want them to say and then delivering a message that conforms to expectations. The result is bland corporate-speak that goes largely unnoticed unless there is a major gaffe.

The One Thing That Every Leader Needs To Learn

The term “leader” is probably best defined as “one who has followers” because great leaders have little else in common. Some are extroverted and charismatic, others are introverted and cerebral. Some are visionary, while others are detail-oriented. Success is largely determined by how they apply their particular talents to the job at hand.

Peter Drucker famously said that “management is doing things right; leadership is doing the right things” and there is more than a little truth to that. More importantly, however, is that you need to apply the right mindset to the things you need to do. As should be clear by now, that’s not at all straightforward.

The main thing leaders do is make decisions, usually decisions that others in their organization are either unable or unwilling to make. These need to be made with limited information, in a rapidly changing context and under significant time constraints. No matter how smart or careful you are, you are going to get a lot wrong.

The one thing that all great leaders learn to accept is that it is their job to take responsibility for being wrong. They have to make decisions with the understanding that there may very well be a mess to clean up afterward and they will have to do it, without pointing fingers at anyone but themselves.

That’s why the most important mindset for leaders is to understand that being in charge doesn’t make you infallible, but it does make you accountable. Once you learn to accept that, everything else becomes easier.

[Entire post — click on the title link to read it at Innovation Excellence.]

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Questions Time Investors Should Ask Before Investing First

It is easy to find people's opinion about how to invest in the stock market as everyone has a different angle on what things to expect in the currency markets at every point in time, but most of the time people's opinion may be very confusing. The most typical problem that new investors do have is how exactly to determine great investments from the bad types, what to invest on, what period to invest among others. Some of the questions that you need to answer so as to make an excellent decision when you wish to get are highlighted below. Is This a Good Time to Invest in Stocks? On the off chance that you are taking a gander at money marketplaces amid a lofty decrease, you may think it is a terrible time to begin investing. On the off chance that you will be taking a gander at it when stocks are reviving, you may think it really is a decent time.

Neither among the times is certainly fundamentally great or terrible if you are trading for the long term (10 years or even more). No one can anticipate with any level of assurance which method the share trading system will move at any given time; yet over the long term, stock marketplaces has moved higher. Each bear advertises is trailed by a customer market (when share costs rise). Verifiably, trending markets have endured any more than bear markets positively, and the additions of purchaser markets have more than counterbalance the misfortunes in bear markets How Much Risk Should I Take? A standout among the most essential fundamentals of investing is the cozy relationship among risk and returns. Without risk, there may be no profits. You must will to accept even more risk on the off opportunity that you will be looking for even more noteworthy returns. In that regard, risk can be something to end up being thankful for, yet just in the event that you take into consideration adequate time to let the inescapable market cycles happen. More often than not, if you have a more slow venture time skyline, you ought to will to expect a far more noteworthy measure of risk, on the grounds that there will be more opportunity for the marketplace to work through the occasionally cycles. Generally, understanding financial professionals have been compensated with positive long term returns. New investors should put fundamentally in keeping money regularly, that may give moment enhancement, giving the most ideal approach to lessen risk. By putting resources into a couple of various shared assets talking with various resource classes, (for example, expansive development stocks, global stocks or bonds), you can lessen unpredictability promote without yielding long haul returns significantly. On the off possibility that you are beginning an investment system by investing incremental procedures of cash on a month to month basis, you will profit by dollar cost averaging. When you invest an modified way of measuring cash on a full every month premise, you get some share costs at an increased cost and some at a lower cost because of market changes. At the real point when the marketplace decreases, your settled dollar sum will purchase more shares. After some time, the normal cost of your shares should be lower than the present market cost. By utilizing dollar cost averaging, your drawback risk will be alleviated after some right period. WHAT'S My Investment Goal? The most essential question to consider prior to making any invest is, "What Is My Investment Goal?" Your ventures will contrast boundlessly if, for instance, you are attempting to spare cash for pension as opposed to wanting to spare cash for an in advance installment on the house. Stuff being what they are, consider, "Is this venture susceptible to help me fulfill my objective?" What Is My Risk Tolerance? If your investment objective is to income as would be prudent and you may endure any hazard, you ought to spend money on the National Lottery then. Putting resources into lotteries, be that as it might, practically promises you won't achieve your venture objective. There are speculations for each level of risk resilience. But if you are not a high-risk taker, buying long-term investment may be the key. What Happens if This Investment Would go to Zero? Among the 12 stocks in 1896 stock list, only General Electric is in operation still, the other eleven firms in the first record have either gone have or bankrupt been gobbled up. There exists a genuine plausibility that any investment you make could go to zero while it is claimed by you. Ask yourself, "AM I GOING TO end up being monetarily crushed if this speculation would go to zero?" If the solution yes is, don't make that venture. What Is My Investment Time Frame? As a rule, the more extended your investment period allotment, the even more risk you can take in your investment portfolio since you have more opportunity to recuperate from a mix-up. Likewise, in the event you're putting something aside for pension, and you're decades from resigning, putting assets into something illiquid (like an investment house) may bode well. "Does this venture bode well from a preparing perspective?" When and Why AM I GOING TO Sell This Investment? If you know why you are getting resources into something, you ought to have an completely smart thought of when to sell it. On the off chance that you bought a stock since you were expecting 20 percent income development for each year, you ought to anticipate offering the share if income development doesn't surpass your desires. On the off chance that you purchased a stock since the dividend was enjoyed by you yield, provide stock if the profit yield falls. Who Am I Trading With? It is extremely hard to judge the character and capability of anybody in light of a two-passage portrayal accessible in an organization's yearly statement or a common shop outline. However, you must at any rate know with whom you are entrusting your cash. What is their past record? What to expect are long fruitful track records and good turnover and dividend. Do I'VE Special Knowledge? A celebrated investment professional feels that normal people have a tremendous favorable position over investment experts in fields where they function in light to the fact that no expense professional will ever learn around an industry than somebody who works in it. Consider, "Am I putting assets into something I understand something about, or am I putting resources into something that some expert know something about?" I couldn't care less how great something sounds. In the event that I don't totally observe how it functions, I won't put resources into it. When an investment can't be clarified obviously, it implies one of two things: The individual clarifying it doesn't realize it either, or there's something about the investment that the average person is wanting to stow away. On top of that, one of the greatest keys to trading admirably is adhering to your arrangement through the good and bad times. That's difficult. Indeed, even the best investment methodologies have enormous down periods that make you reconsider. Sticking with your arrangement in those extreme times requires a practically religious-like conviction that items will pivot. Furthermore, the ultimate way to have that type of conviction is to comprehend why you're investing the way you are and what just of your arrangement is accomplishing for you. With out a solid comprehension, you'll more likely than not safeguard at the main indication of inconvenience. Why Do I Own That Investment Still? It is a smart considered to intermittently look through your investment portfolio to ensure regardless you have to claim your stock. Supplying an expenditure for a misfortune or supplying a major champ is exceptionally troublesome. Be that as it may, the greatest distinction among beginner and professional traders is that professional traders don't have passionate ensnarement with their expenditure and may strip themselves of their expense without kicking themselves if the expenditure keeps on picking up esteem. Should I Be Managing MY VERY OWN Investments? It is extremely difficult for beginner investor to execute well when compared to a professional investment expert. Unless you have adequate energy or slant to handle your investment, you ought to think about paying a specialist to do it for you personally. Every investor really wants to make profit, so there is no harm in trusting your expenditure in good hand. Looking for more help? then visit here to know more about 1031 Exchange

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Questions First Time Investors Should Ask Before Investing

It is simple to find people's opinion about how to invest in the currency markets as everyone includes a different angle on what things to expect in the stock market at every time, but most of enough time people's opinion is quite confusing. The most common problem that new traders do have is how exactly to determine great investments from the bad types, what things to invest on, what time to invest among others. Some of the questions that you should answer in order to make an excellent decision when you wish to get are highlighted below. Is This a Good Time to Invest in Stocks? On the off chance that you are going for a gander at money marketplaces amid a lofty decrease, you might think it is a terrible time to start investing. On the off chance that you will be taking a gander at it when stocks are reviving, you may think it really is a decent time.

Neither among the times is certainly fundamentally great or terrible if you are investing for the long haul (10 years or more). Nobody can anticipate with any degree of assurance which way the share trading system will move at any moment; yet over the long haul, stock markets has constantly moved higher. Each bear advertises is normally trailed by a customer market (when share costs rise). Verifiably, trending markets have endured any longer than bear markets positively, and the additions of customer markets have significantly more than counterbalance the misfortunes in bear markets How Much Risk Should I Take? A standout amongst the most essential fundamentals of investing is the cozy relationship amongst returns and risk. Without risk, there can be no profits. You must will to accept more risk on the off chance that you are looking for even more noteworthy returns. In that regard, risk can be something to become thankful for, yet just in the event that you take into consideration adequate time to let the inescapable market cycles happen. More often than not, in the event that you have a more drawn out venture time skyline, you ought to will to expect a more noteworthy way of measuring risk, on the lands that you will see more opportunity for the marketplace to work through the occasionally cycles. Generally, understanding financial specialists have already been compensated with positive long term returns. New investors are regularly encouraged to place fundamentally in common money, which can give moment enhancement, supplying the most ideal method of lessen risk. By putting resources into a handful of various shared assets speaking to various resource classes, (for example, expansive development stocks, global bonds or stocks, you can lessen unpredictability promote without yielding long haul returns significantly. On the off chance that you will be beginning an investment program by investing incremental methods of cash on a month to month basis, you will gain dollar cost averaging. When you invest an altered measure of cash on a full every month premise, you get some share costs at an increased cost and some better value because of market changes. At the point when the market decreases, your settled dollar sum will purchase more shares. After some time, the normal cost of your shares ought to be lower than the present market cost. Through the use of dollar cost averaging, your drawback risk will be alleviated after some right time. WHAT'S My Investment Goal? The most vital question to consider before making any invest is, "WHAT'S My Investment Goal?" Your ventures will contrast boundlessly if, for instance, you are attempting to spare cash for retirement as opposed to wanting to spare money for an up front installment on the house. Factors being what they are, consider, "Is this venture prone to help me satisfy my objective?" WHAT'S My Risk Tolerance? If your investment objective is to revenue as would be prudent and you will endure any hazard, then you ought to spend money on the National Lottery. Putting resources into lotteries, become that as it may, practically promises you won't reach your venture objective. There are speculations for every known level of risk resilience. But if you are not really a high-risk taker, buying long-term investment is the key. WHAT GOES ON if This Investment Would go to Zero? Among the 12 stocks in 1896 stock list, only General Electric is still in operation, the other eleven companies in the first record have either gone have or bankrupt been gobbled up. There is a genuine plausibility that any investment you make could go to zero while it is claimed by you. Ask yourself, "AM I GOING TO be monetarily crushed if this speculation goes to zero?" If the response yes is, don't make that venture. What Is My Investment Time Frame? As a rule, the even more extended your investment period allotment, the more risk you may take in your investment portfolio because you have more opportunity to recuperate from a mix-up. Likewise, in case you're putting something aside for pension, and you're decades from resigning, putting resources into something illiquid (as an investment property) may bode well. "Will this venture bode well from a planning perspective?" When and Why AM I GOING TO Sell This Investment? If you know why you are getting resources into something, you ought to have an smart thought of when to sell it entirely. On the off opportunity that you purchased a stock since you had been expecting 20 percent income advancement for each year, you ought to anticipate offering the share if income development doesn't surpass your desires. On the off chance that you bought a stock because the dividend was loved by you yield, provide stock if the revenue yield falls. Who Am I Trading With? It is extremely hard to guage the character and capability of anybody in light of a two-passage portrayal accessible in an organization's yearly survey or a common shop outline. However, you must at any rate understand with whom you are entrusting your cash. What's their past record? What to expect are long fruitful track information and good turnover and dividend. Do I'VE Special Knowledge? A celebrated investment expert feels that normal individuals have a significant favorable position over investment specialists in fields where they work in light of the fact that no investment professional will ever learn around an industry than somebody who works in it. Consider, "Am I putting resources into something I understand something about, or am I putting resources into something that some professional know something about?" I couldn't care less how great something sounds. In the event that I don't totally observe how it functions, I won't put resources into it. When an investment can not be clarified obviously, it implies one of two things: The individual clarifying it doesn't comprehend it either, or there's something about the investment that the average person is wanting to stow away. On top of that, one of the greatest keys to investing admirably is adhering to your arrangement through the good and bad times. That is difficult. Indeed, even the best investment methodologies have enormous down periods that produce you reconsider. Adhering to your arrangement in those severe times requires a practically religious-like conviction that points will pivot. Furthermore, the ultimate way to have that sort of conviction is to comprehend why you're investing how you are and what every bit of your arrangement is accomplishing for you. With out a solid comprehension, you'll more likely than not safeguard at the primary indication of inconvenience. Why Do I Own That Investment Still? It is a smart considered to intermittently look over your investment portfolio to ensure regardless you have to claim your stock. Giving an purchase for a misfortune or supplying a major champ is remarkably troublesome. Be that as it can, the greatest distinction among beginner and professional investors is that professional traders don't possess passionate ensnarement with their expenditure and may strip themselves of their expenditure without kicking themselves if the expenditure keeps on picking right up esteem. Should I Be Managing My Own Investments? It is extremely difficult for beginner investor to execute well when compared to a professional investment expert. If you don't have enough energy or slant to handle your investment, you ought to think about paying an expert to do it for you personally. Every investor wants to make profit, therefore there is absolutely no harm in trusting your expense in good hand. Looking for more help? then visit here to know more about BONDS

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Questions Time Investors Should Ask Before Investing Initial

It is easy to find people's opinion about how to invest in the currency markets as everyone includes a different angle on what to expect in the currency markets at every point in time, but most of enough time people's opinion is quite confusing. The most typical problem that new investors do have is how exactly to determine great investments from the bad ones, what things to invest on, what time to invest among others. A few of the questions you need to answer so as to make a good decision when you need to invest are highlighted below. Is This a great time to Invest in Stocks? On the off chance a gander has been taken by you at money markets amid a lofty decrease, you might think it is a terrible time to start investing. On the off chance that you will be taking a gander at it when stocks are reviving, you may think it really is a decent time.

Neither among the times is certainly fundamentally great or terrible in the event that you are trading for the long haul (10 years or more). No one can anticipate with any level of assurance which way the share trading program will move at any moment; yet over the long haul, stock markets has moved higher. Each bear advertises is certainly trailed by a buyer market (when stock costs rise). Verifiably, trending markets have endured any longer than bear markets positively, and the additions of buyer markets have more than counterbalance the misfortunes in bear markets How Much Risk MUST I Take? A standout amongst the most essential fundamentals of investing is the cozy relationship among risk and returns. Without risk, there may be no profits. You ought to will to accept even more risk on the off chance you are looking for even more noteworthy returns. In that regard, risk could be something to become thankful for, yet just if you take into consideration adequate time to let the inescapable market cycles happen. More often than not, if you have a more slow venture time skyline, you must will to expect a more noteworthy measure of risk, on the lands that you will see more opportunity for the market to work through the occasionally cycles. Generally, understanding financial professionals have been compensated with positive long haul returns. New investors are encouraged to put fundamentally in keeping money regularly, which can give moment enhancement, offering the most ideal approach to lessen risk. By putting resources into a couple of various shared assets speaking to various resource classes, (for instance, expansive development stocks, global stocks or bonds), you can lessen unpredictability considerably promote without yielding long haul returns. On the off opportunity that you are beginning an investment program by investing incremental actions of cash on per month to month basis, you will gain dollar cost averaging. When you invest an altered way of measuring cash on a full every month premise, you get some share costs at an increased cost and some better value because of market changes. At the true point when the marketplace decreases, your settled dollar sum will buy more shares. After some right time, the normal cost of your shares should be lower than the present market cost. Through the use of dollar cost averaging, your drawback risk will be alleviated after some right time. WHAT'S My Investment Goal? The most essential question to consider prior to making any invest is, "WHAT'S My Investment Goal?" Your ventures will contrast boundlessly if, for instance, you are attempting to spare cash for pension as opposed to wanting to spare money for an up front installment on the house. Things being what they are, consider, "Is this venture susceptible to help me satisfy my objective?" WHAT'S My Risk Tolerance? If your investment objective is to revenue as would be prudent and you will endure any hazard, you must invest in the National Lottery then. Putting resources into lotteries, become that as it may, practically promises you won't achieve your venture objective. There are speculations for each known level of risk resilience. But if you are not really a high-risk taker, buying long-term investment is the key. What Happens if This Investment Goes to Zero? Among the 12 stocks in 1896 stock list, only General Electric is in operation still, the other eleven firms in the first record have either gone bankrupt or have been gobbled up. There is a genuine plausibility that any investment you make could go to zero although it is claimed by you. Ask yourself, "AM I GOING TO become monetarily crushed if this speculation would go to zero?" If the answer is yes, don't make that venture. What Is My Investment Time Frame? As a rule, the even more extended your investment period allotment, the even more risk you may take in your investment portfolio since you have more opportunity to recuperate from a mix-up. Likewise, in case you're putting something apart for pension, and you're decades from resigning, putting assets into something illiquid (like an investment real estate) may bode well. "Does this venture bode well from a preparing perspective?" When and Why AM I GOING TO Sell This Investment? In the event that you know why you are getting resources into something, you ought to have an smart thought of when to sell it entirely. On the off chance that you purchased a stock since you were expecting 20 percent income development for each year, you must anticipate offering the share if income development doesn't live up to your desires. On the off chance that you bought a stock since you loved the dividend yield, offer the stock if the revenue yield falls. Who Am I Investing With? It is extremely hard to judge the character and capacity of anybody in light of a two-passage portrayal accessible in an organization's yearly survey or a common shop outline. However, you ought to at any rate understand with whom you are entrusting your cash. What's their past record? What to hope for are long fruitful track information and good turnover and dividend. Do I'VE Special Knowledge? A celebrated investment professional feels that normal individuals have a tremendous favorable position over investment specialists in fields where they function in light to the fact that no expense professional will ever learn around an industry than somebody who works in it. Consider, "Am I putting assets into something I know something about, or am I putting resources into a thing that some expert know something about?" I couldn't treatment less how great something sounds. When I don't totally observe how it functions, I won't put resources into it. When an investment can not be clarified obviously, it implies one of two things: The individual clarifying it generally does not comprehend it either, or there's something about the investment that the average person is attempting to stow away. On top of that, one of the greatest keys to investing admirably is sticking with your arrangement through the nice and bad times. That is difficult. Indeed, even the very best investment methodologies have tremendous down periods that make you reconsider. Adhering to your arrangement in those intense times takes a religious-like conviction that things will pivot practically. Furthermore, the simplest way to have that sort of conviction is to comprehend why you're investing how you are and what just of your arrangement is accomplishing for you. Without a solid comprehension, you'll more likely than not safeguard at the main indication of inconvenience. Why Do I Personal That Investment Still? It is a smart thought to intermittently look over your investment portfolio to make sure regardless you need to claim your stock. Offering an expenditure for a misfortune or offering a major champ is remarkably troublesome. Be that as it might, the greatest distinction amongst beginner and professional investors is that professional traders don't possess passionate ensnarement with their expenditure and will strip themselves of their expenditure without kicking themselves if the expense keeps on picking right up esteem. Should I Be Managing MY VERY OWN Investments? It is extremely difficult for beginner investor to execute well than a professional investment expert. If you don't have sufficient energy or slant to handle your investment, you must think about paying an expert to do it for you. Every investor really wants to make profit, so there is absolutely no harm in trusting your expenditure in good hand. Looking for more help? then visit here to know more about 1031 Exchange

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Questions First Time Investors Should Ask Before Trading

It is easy to find people's opinion about how to invest in the stock market as everyone includes a different angle on what things to expect in the stock market at every point in time, but most of the time people's opinion is quite confusing. The most common problem that new investors do have is how exactly to determine good investments from the bad ones, what to invest on, what period to invest among others. Some of the questions that you should answer in order to make an excellent decision when you want to get are highlighted below. Is This a Good Time to Invest in Stocks? On the off chance a gander is being taken by you at money marketplaces amid a lofty decrease, you might think it is a terrible time to start investing. On the off chance you are going for a gander at it when shares are reviving, you may think it really is a decent time.

Neither among the times is definitely fundamentally great or terrible in the event that you are investing for the long haul (10 years or even more). Nobody can anticipate with any degree of assurance which way the share trading system will move at any given time; yet over the long haul, stock markets has constantly moved higher. Each bear advertises is trailed by a buyer market (when stock costs rise). Verifiably, positively trending marketplaces have endured any more than bear markets, and the additions of customer markets have significantly more than counterbalance the misfortunes in bear markets How Much Risk Should I Take? A standout amongst the most essential fundamentals of investing is the cozy relationship amongst risk and returns. Without risk, there can be no profits. You ought to will to accept even more risk on the off chance that you are looking for even more noteworthy returns. In that regard, risk can be something to end up being thankful for, yet just if you take into consideration adequate time to let the inescapable market cycles happen. By and large, if you have a more drawn out venture time skyline, you must will to expect a far more noteworthy measure of risk, on the lands that there will be more opportunity for the marketplace to work through the here and there cycles. Generally, understanding financial experts have already been compensated with positive long term returns. New investors are regularly encouraged to put fundamentally in common money, which can give moment enhancement, offering the most ideal method of lessen risk. By putting resources into a couple of various shared assets talking with various resource classes, (for example, expansive development stocks, global bonds or stocks, you can lessen unpredictability promote without yielding long haul returns significantly. On the off opportunity you are beginning an investment program by investing incremental actions of cash on per month to month basis, you will gain dollar cost averaging. When you invest an changed measure of cash on per month to month premise, you get some good share costs at a higher cost and some at a lower cost because of market changes. At the point when the market decreases, your settled dollar sum will purchase more shares. After some right time, the normal cost of your shares should be lower than the present market cost. Through the use of dollar cost averaging, your drawback risk will be alleviated after some time. WHAT'S My Investment Goal? The most vital question to consider before making any invest is, "What Is My Investment Goal?" Your ventures will contrast if boundlessly, for instance, you are trying to spare cash for pension as opposed to attempting to spare money for an in advance installment on the house. Stuff being what they are, consider, "Is this venture susceptible to help me meet my objective?" What Is My Risk Tolerance? If your investment objective is to income as would be prudent and you can endure any hazard, you ought to spend money on the National Lottery then. Putting resources into lotteries, become that as it might, practically promises you won't achieve your venture objective. There are speculations for every level of risk resilience. But if you are not a high-risk taker, investing in long-term investment is the key. WHAT GOES ON if This Investment Goes to Zero? Among the 12 stocks in 1896 stock list, only General Electric is still in operation, the other eleven firms in the first record have either gone have or bankrupt been gobbled up. There is a genuine plausibility that any kind of investment you make could head to zero although it is claimed by you. Ask yourself, "Will I become monetarily crushed if this speculation goes to zero?" If the solution yes is, don't make that venture. What Is My Investment TIMEFRAME? As a rule, the more extended your investment period allotment, the more risk you can take in your investment portfolio since you have more chance to recuperate from a mix-up. Likewise, in case you're putting something aside for retirement, and you're decades from resigning, putting resources into something illiquid (like an investment home) may bode well. "Will this venture bode well from a planning perspective?" When and just why Will This Investment is sold by me? If you know why you are getting resources into something, you ought to have an completely smart thought of when to sell it. On the off opportunity that you bought a stock since you had been expecting 20 percent income advancement for each year, you must anticipate offering the share if income development doesn't live up to your desires. On the off chance that you purchased a stock since you enjoyed the dividend yield, offer the stock if the profit yield falls. Who Am I Investing With? It is extremely hard to judge the character and capability of anybody in light of a two-passage portrayal available in an organization's yearly survey or a common store outline. However, you ought to at any rate understand with whom you are entrusting your money. What is their past record? What to hope for are long fruitful track information and great dividend and turnover. Do I'VE Special Knowledge? A celebrated investment expert feels that normal individuals have a tremendous favorable position over investment professionals in fields where they function in light of the fact that no purchase professional will ever learn around an industry than somebody who works in it. Consider, "Am I putting assets into something I understand something about, or am I placing resources into a thing that some specialist know something about?" I couldn't treatment less how great something noises. In the event that I don't totally observe how it functions, I will not put resources into it. In the event that an investment can't be clarified obviously, it implies 1 of 2 things: The individual clarifying it generally does not realize it either, or there's something about the investment that the average person is wanting to stow away. On top of that, one of the greatest keys to trading admirably is adhering to your arrangement through the bad and good times. That's difficult. Indeed, even the best investment methodologies have enormous down periods that produce you reconsider. Sticking with your arrangement in those severe times takes a practically religious-like conviction that things will pivot. Furthermore, the easiest method to have that type of conviction is to comprehend why you're investing how you are and what just of your arrangement is accomplishing for you. With out a solid comprehension, you'll much more likely than not really safeguard at the main indication of inconvenience. Why Do I Still Own That Investment? It is a smart thought to intermittently look over your investment portfolio to make sure regardless you need to claim your stock. Giving an expenditure for a misfortune or supplying a major champ is remarkably troublesome. Be that as it might, the greatest distinction amongst beginner and professional investors is that professional investors don't possess passionate ensnarement with their purchase and may strip themselves of their purchase without kicking themselves if the investment keeps on picking up esteem. Should I Be Managing MY VERY OWN Investments? It is extremely problematic for beginner investor to perform well when compared to a professional investment expert. Unless you have enough energy or slant to handle your investment, you must think about paying a specialist to perform it for you. Every investor wants to make profit, therefore there is no harm in trusting your expense in good hand. Looking for more help? then visit here to know more about Early Retirement

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Questions FIRST-TIME Investors Should Ask Before Trading

It is easy to find people's opinion on how to invest in the stock market as everyone has a different angle on what to expect in the currency markets at every time, but most of the time people's opinion is quite confusing. The most typical problem that new traders do have is how to determine great investments from the bad ones, what things to invest on, what period to invest among others. A few of the questions that you need to answer so as to make a good decision when you wish to get are highlighted below. Is This a great time to Invest in Stocks? On the off chance you are going for a gander at money markets amid a lofty decrease, you might think it is a terrible time to begin investing. On the off chance that you are going for a gander at it when stocks are reviving, you might think it is a decent time.

Neither one of the times is certainly fundamentally great or terrible if you are trading for the long term (10 years or even more). No one can anticipate with any degree of assurance which way the share trading system will move at any given time; yet over the long haul, stock marketplaces has moved higher. Each bear advertises is certainly trailed by a buyer market (when share costs rise). Verifiably, trending markets have endured any more than bear markets positively, and the additions of buyer markets have significantly more than counterbalance the misfortunes in bear markets How Much Risk MUST I Take? A standout among the most essential fundamentals of investing is the cozy relationship amongst returns and risk. Without risk, there can be no profits. You ought to will to accept more risk on the off possibility you are looking for even more noteworthy returns. In that regard, risk can be something to become thankful for, yet just if you take into consideration sufficient time to let the inescapable market cycles happen. More often than not, if you have a more drawn out venture time skyline, you must will to expect a far more noteworthy measure of risk, on the grounds that you will see more opportunity for the market to work through the occasionally cycles. Generally, understanding financial specialists have already been compensated with positive long haul returns. New investors are regularly encouraged to place fundamentally in common money, that may give moment enhancement, supplying the most ideal approach to lessen risk. By putting assets into a handful of various shared assets speaking to various resource classes, (for example, expansive development stocks, global stocks or bonds), you can lessen unpredictability promote without yielding long haul returns significantly. On the off chance that you will be beginning an investment program by investing incremental procedures of cash on per month to month basis, you shall gain dollar cost averaging. When you invest an altered measure of cash on a full month to month premise, you get some share costs at a higher cost and some at a lower cost because of market changes. At the idea when the market decreases, your settled dollar sum will purchase more shares. After some right time, the normal cost of your shares ought to be lower than the present market cost. Through the use of dollar cost averaging, your drawback risk will be alleviated after some time. WHAT'S My Investment Goal? The most essential question to consider prior to making any invest is, "What Is My Investment Goal?" Your ventures will contrast boundlessly if, for instance, you are trying to spare cash for retirement as opposed to attempting to spare cash for an up front installment on the house. Issues being what they are, ask yourself, "Is this venture susceptible to help me satisfy my objective?" WHAT'S My Risk Tolerance? If your investment objective is to profit as would be prudent and you could endure any hazard, you then ought to invest in the National Lottery. Putting resources into lotteries, be that as it might, practically promises you won't achieve your venture objective. There are speculations for every level of risk resilience. But if you are not a high-risk taker, investing in long-term investment is the key. WHAT GOES ON if This Investment Would go to Zero? Among the 12 stocks in 1896 stock list, only General Electric is still in operation, the other eleven firms in the first record have either gone bankrupt or have been gobbled up. There exists a genuine plausibility that any kind of investment you make could go to zero although it is claimed by you. Ask yourself, "Will I become monetarily crushed if this speculation goes to zero?" If the response is yes, don't make that venture. What Is My Investment Time Frame? As a rule, the more extended your investment time allotment, the even more risk you can take in your investment portfolio because you have more chance to recuperate from a mix-up. Likewise, in the event you're putting something apart for pension, and you're decades from resigning, putting assets into something illiquid (as an investment house) may bode well. "Does this venture bode well from a planning perspective?" When and just why Will This Investment is sold by me? In the event that you know why you are getting resources into something, you ought to have an entirely smart thought of when to sell it. On the off opportunity that you purchased a stock since you had been expecting 20 percent income advancement for each year, you ought to anticipate offering the share if income development doesn't live up to your desires. On the off chance that you purchased a stock since you enjoyed the dividend yield, provide stock if the profit yield falls. Who Am I Investing With? It is extremely hard to guage the character and capability of anybody in light of a two-passage portrayal available in an organization's yearly report or a common shop outline. However, you ought to at any rate understand with whom you are entrusting your money. What's their past record? What to expect are long fruitful track information and good turnover and dividend. Do I'VE Special Knowledge? A celebrated investment professional feels that normal individuals have a tremendous favorable position over investment professionals in fields where they work in light to the fact that no purchase professional will ever learn around an industry than a person who works in it. Consider, "Am I putting resources into something I understand something about, or am I putting resources into a thing that some professional know something about?" I couldn't treatment less how great something noises. When I don't totally see how it functions, I won't put resources into it. In the event that an investment can not be clarified obviously, it implies 1 of 2 things: The individual clarifying it generally does not realize it either, or there's something about the investment that the individual is attempting to stow away. On top of that, one of the biggest keys to investing admirably is sticking with your arrangement through the nice and bad times. That's difficult. Indeed, even the best investment methodologies have tremendous down periods that make you reconsider. Adhering to your arrangement in those extreme times requires a practically religious-like conviction that stuff will pivot. Furthermore, the easiest method to have that type of conviction is to comprehend why you're investing how you are and what just of your arrangement is accomplishing for you personally. Without a solid comprehension, you'll more likely than not safeguard at the primary indication of inconvenience. Why Do We Still Own That Investment? It is a smart thought to intermittently look through your investment portfolio to make sure regardless you need to claim your stock. Offering an investment for a misfortune or offering a major champ is remarkably troublesome. Be that as it might, the greatest distinction amongst beginner and professional traders is that professional traders don't have passionate ensnarement with their investment and can strip themselves of their purchase without kicking themselves if the purchase keeps on picking up esteem. Should I Be Managing MY VERY OWN Investments? It is extremely difficult for beginner investor to execute well when compared to a professional investment expert. Unless you have sufficient energy or slant to handle your investment, you ought to think about paying an expert to perform it for you personally. Every investor wants to make profit, therefore there is no harm in trusting your expense in good hand. Looking for more help? then visit here to know more about BONDS