#you can be squicked/grossed out but... yeah

[slugass]

for the love of god why is the “war flashbacks” meme still a fucking thing to this day

(because people thrive on stereotypes about serious mental illnesses)

[daz4i]

i have "pregnancy" "give birth" and "mpreg" blacklisted how do i keep seeing posts about/art of men being pregnant when i go on my special little guy's tag.

[stickers-on-a-laptop]

I GOT MORE PEOPLE TO WATCH KS7... THE CELLPHROGANDA IS WORKING...

HELL YEAH!!!!!!!!!!!!

*points to my followers* YOU. YOU MUST GO WATCH KEITAI SOUSAKAN 7. IT WILL MAKE YOU LAUGH AND CRY. AND HAS EVIL!TEZUKA RYUKI.

[zombiefuckrr]

its so funny dating a guy who isnt as into gore and blood as you. we watched a movie and a girl was choking on/spitting up blood and im sitting there thinking "damn thats kinda hot" while he is squirming uncomfortably and looking away

[olderthannetfic]

its kinda hilarious to be honest that saying "because of the rampant bigotry in harry potter, and because of j k rowling's extremely pubic behavior, and the fact that she spends any money she gets from harry potter, which includes library purchases, official merch, etc, on material harm, i can not think of the fans as safe people to interact with" is something thats a controversial opinion.

its not even a "this thing is gross, evil, and should not exist" thing its a "you realize she uses any money she gets from this, which she will continue to make tons of money from this as long as it remains culturally relavent, to actually harm a marginalized minority she has decided to hold a personal vendetta against until the end of time".

if she were dead and the money wasn't going to hurting a group of people who can't actually defend themselves against a whole entire billionaire, i don't think the people squicked out by harry potter fans would care so much.

and the people squicked out haven't actually put out calls to harass them or anything, more just saying things like "i'm going to block you for my own safety, because you're not safe to me"

they aren't pulling anti shit. they're calling the fandom a personal red flag, who they choose to avoid.

pretty telling to be honest, that the reaction to that one account going "yeah no." in regards to not judging harry potter fans got so many people angry at them.

reminds me of why i choose to stay anonymous in fandom spaces.

oh no. someone is uncomfortable your personal comfort media written by a bigot who uses her money to make a very vulnerable minority groups lives hell, and her rhetoric has actually caused deaths! better block the person and write a bunch of stuff talking about how thats anti behavior so i don't have to think about the fact that i help rowling maintain cultural relavence, and therefore help her earn money that she uses to hurt people!

pathetic

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We've had this wank many a time.

Personally, I'm not sympathetic to the fact that it's people's comfort media or unique for them. That just ends up annoying me for how other fandoms could be bigger or more vibrant if some of those HP fans migrated.

However, the reason people are pushing back so much on my tumblr is that we talk a lot here about censorship and media and the bigger picture. JKR is a menace, but HP is so astronomically popular that the fanfic arm of its fandom is essentially meaningless to its overall cultural clout.

I think people should go stan some other author because we could make a book fandom happen and authors able to pay the rent if we cared to put our energy towards somebody smaller. I have this same objection to the forever fandom of SPN and all the people whining about but not leaving MCU fandom. To JKR, we're gnats, but our presence would actually make a difference in some smaller space.

But the kind of ask you've just sent only makes people less willing to let go of HP.

[ducktracy]

SOMETHING ABOUT HOW PORKY LOOKS IN LTC AND TDTEBU LOOKS WEIRD TO ME

LIKE

HIS EYES

THEYRE TOO.. BIG?? DETAILED?? IT'S WEIRD CUZ I LIKE LONG EYED PORKY BUT NOT IN LTC CAN YOU TRY AND ARTICULATE IT FOR ME

AWWWW i love the tall eyes personally!! i think they fit his face volume well, nice slim contrast to his round head to create visual interest

i think it's a Jim Soper thing... and Jim's probably my favorite living artist lol. it is funny comparing the LTC model to the TDTEBU model though, he's adorable in LTC but in revisiting some eps since TDTEBU's release i can't shake some of the "his proportions are too even"-ness of it out. but it also depends on the ep. the eps that Jim does layouts on tend to look the best and most naturalistic, i know this first model was pretty early into production

as for what might be squicking you out though.. hm. it's hard to say, but Porky's design has a lot of golden age "cuteness points" baked in. for the same reason a lot of cartoon babies are drawn with huge foreheads, he has that big ol' forehead that can make him seem cuter and enunciate this sort of round... "fleshy" sounds gross when i say it HAHA but "fleshy" i guess appeal. again, very baby-esque

this Bob McKimson model sheet does a good job of showing that appeal, even if he often seems to give Porky these tiny, beady little eyes that can read as UNappealing... which is perfect for the cynicism and grounded humor of his shorts, where Porky is at some of his most violent and awful (which are some of the shorts i laugh hardest at) HAHA. but it kind of gives off this feeling of him not having properly grown into all of his features yet, and that makes him seem more cute and compact

in my near 6 years of drawing him, this is always something i've STILL been stuck on. i tend to default to the taller eyes because i really love the contrast they give against the roundness of his face--i like big eyes in general, and i admit i'm more won over by that appeal than by "big forehead" appeal... but there is something to having his eyes smaller. it gives a sort of modest and demure appeal that perfectly fits his character. i go back and forth on what i wanna go with him..

i actually just found this pig i'd doodled last year while i was looking for screenshots: this has its own appeal but it feels naked to me!! maybe i needed to angle the eyes forward more. this feels a little uncanny to me. but it has an appeal of its own

i think i'm also biased to the tall eyes because John Carey's my favorite Porky (and in the running for all-time favorite) animator, hugely influential to how i draw Porky and tall(er) eyes are his specialty... just love that contrast of slim and tall against his round, pudgy baby face. it matches his tall, slim ears which is a great balance!! aaaagh! these are so appealing to me personally

actually all my favorite Porky animators usually draw him with tall or huge eyes... Bill Melendez and Rod Scribner have entered the chat. particularly Melendez in terms of the wide eyes (top three)

my god isn't this such a good drawing. Scribner's a frequent culprit for my favorite animated scenes of all time, this being one of them

BUT YEAH! i think a more forehead-forward pig maybe connotes a bit more of a modest, reserved, baby-ish charm which is all perfect for Porky's character. a lot of the wider eyed expressions i used above are certainly for more high octane moments, i can see how it might be weird or off putting too have Too Much Eye on his face... i guess the overlap in shape language is stronger with the wide eyes and wide face. i personally prefer it, or a mix between that and the tall eyes, just because i like a more wide-eyed Porky--it's personally cuter to me and i think there's something to be had with that wide eyed innocence. i very much would love to learn how to effectively capture a more modest appeal with smaller eyes, but i haven't quite figured it out yet...

[wc-confessions]

I want to preface this confession by saying very big age gaps are a major squick for me in shipping, but I *still* think the Warriors fandom can be a bit. Weird about them?

Like. I see so many things of ppl being like "UGH, [insert ship] is SO problematic bcus it has an ENORMOUS age gap and [older cat in relationship] is a TOTAL CREEP even if they pursued [younger cat in relationship] as an adult!!!"

And then I'm like "Wow rly? Sounds terrible! Just how big is this age gap?"

So I look it up. And then it's like. Twelve moons.

You folks realize that's... twelve *moons*, not years, right? This is a one year age gap, not twelve. A one year age gap is *nothing*

One could argue that it is a big age gap, or should be considered one (bcus the canon series doesn't care about age gaps at all lol) by the standards of Warriors society, bcus the commonly accepted average age of becoming a warrior is 12 moons, meaning that the younger cat would be born by the time the older cat would be considered an adult

Which, yeah, does sound a bit weird when you put it into that light. But if that's enough to consider the ship "problematic," you have an extremely limited pool of "good" ships, so limited to the point where it rly wouldn't make sense for the long run of the series

You're telling me that cats' only eligible partners are ones who are born within, like, less than six moons of them, if they wanna consistently stay in the same life stage? What are the odds of a good match happening within that pool? What if the uncommon situation of a cat being the only one in that age range occurs (ex: Birchpaw (Birchfall) in The New Prophecy), are they just supposed to never get a mate no matter how badly they may want to (if they don't want a mate, awesome, and a convenient coincidence, but if they do)? What if all the cats in that range just so happen to be somehow related?

The warrior cats, despite how anthropormorphized they are, still aren't humans, and mature at a different rate than humans, so one being an adult at the same time as one being a young child and then pursuing each other later in life, a year between them (WHEN THEY'RE BOTH CONSENTING ADULTS!!!), has a way different connotation than it does for humans, who would have to have an age gap of over eighteen years (in the US for me, age of consent may be different elsewhere) in order for that to be the case

I get being grossed out by age gaps, I am too, but I genuinely don't feel like an age gap of one year or so is anything to freak out over the way so many ppl do. If that's your limit then there's hardly a ship that's not "creepy" in terms of age gaps. If you're fine with that, whatever, but you might be surprised by what ships you may like that have an age gap of that size

For me, personally, an age gap bigger than roughly three years is when I start feeling squicked (in Warriors shipping specifically), but it varies from ship to ship, and ymmv of course (and of course this only applies if they pursued each other when they were both adults)

But point being I think the Warriors fandom should rethink what's considered a "big" age gap bcus no small amount of the ones I see accused of being that aren't that at all, not by my personal standards at least

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[mod2amaryllis]

man invincible is so good.... i forgot how much the first season rocked me when it came out.

i really can't stand on screen violence, especially gore, it just squicks me out. so sometimes jose will scout shows for me beforehand and he's good at knowing if something will be too much. he watched the whole first season of invincible then came back to me like "listen. it'll be a lot for you to handle. but i still think you should watch it." he said the same thing about train to busan and fuck off was he right so i was like okaaaay just warn me when it's gonna get spaghetti saucy.

and like, yeah, jesus. it's so much. it's gross, it's crazy, the end of the first episode kept me up that night. and yet instantly, instantly!!! i could see what the show was going for. i could appreciate the intention and purpose and artistry behind the hyper violence. it's executed in such a good way that even little baby piss pants mod can enjoy it. the whole show is good in part because of the violence, not in spite of it, and i don't feel that way about very many shows.

i know this is the violence blood killing biting eating you website but I'm an outlier LOL so if you're a pussywillow like me, you should still watch it

[no-shxme]

long ramblings about talon + sex + a little sett:

in writing i go pretty 50/50 with talon being sexually experienced or not. usually it's bc there's a lot of setup with talon being inexperienced and sometimes i just dont want to write long setups.... so ive gone back and forth but i think in CANON talon is probably completely inexperienced with intimacy in all forms.

my personal thoughts on talon's sexuality is that he's bi. i dont mind hc where he's ace but i think he'd be sex positive bc sex for him is a very easy and understandable form of intimacy for him, and talon likes intimacy. i think in a lot of cases he's not really into sex for the sex, its kinda a means to an end, if that makes any sense. (though yeah there's totally times ive written him being an outright enjoyer, godspeed)

all that being said, my personal aspec hc for him (in verses where he's aspec) is demisexual. the idea of being intimate with anyone is utterly abhorrent to him. he can't find anyone sexually attractive at all bc they're strangers and the idea of doing secks with a stranger is AWFUL. talon doesn't want to be known so he's just grossed out. and i think its really only after some intense connection that he finally is able to be attracted to someone (yeah in this case: sett.)

idk i have many thoughts on bi talon too but it's nebulous and complicated bc i think even when bisexual he's still not straightforward. like in teeth he's more attracted (via jealousy) to sett's masculinity and also just wants to stop thinking and sex is his way of doing that. sex to cope. in other fics its his way of bridging the gap that being aromantic creates, or he wants to have sex more bc it's fun and feels good rather than raw sexual attraction. idrk if this makes much sense. to me these are big and important differences. even in fics i write where he thinks sett is hot, im not sure if it's 'i'm sexually attracted to you' hot or 'you're crazy handsome and i want you to bone me so i can say you've touched me' hot. once again, the difference is big and important to me. i think bc i write lots of quick smut one shots its easy to lose the sexual context surrounding it, even though it's still there.

it doesn't really help that i dont really label talon except for what is completely straightforward/clear (in my opinion) which is that he's definitely aromantic/romance repulsed and has anxiety. (in a lot of fics i autism code him or aspd code him but i never actually label whatever he's got so we really can't be sure. so stuff like his sexuality/brain IS a bit nebulous. he's a nebulous guy.)

idk why im saying all this, its just talonposting. i have a lot of thoughts all of the time.

i think the version of talon that i would consider the most feasibly/realistically canon would be demisexual, but aside from that he's just bi with extremely repressed and confusing sexual attraction, and i think that is also very feasible.

i really don't like labeling it though. even typing it out here kinda squicks me, because unlike his romantic orientation i dont find his sexuality straightforward at all, and giving it a label is kinda a disservice in my personal opinion. like i'm way more prone to labeling his mental conditions than i would be to labeling his sexuality.

this is all my opinion of course, and everyone is welcome to have a different one. i guess im just explaining my thought process. if you ever think talon gives off demi vibes in a fic,, it's intended. thanks if you've read this whole thing. lunatic ramblings for sure. im a pedant so i think about details quite obsessively, even if i fail to do them justice in my writing.

[secretsideblog1234]

I’m starting to admit to myself that a lot of my presence on tumblr and bdsmlr are a mild form of self sabotage - I feel like calling it self harm is far too extreme a description but it’s at least self punishment. Punishment for what? well tbh I think I figure out one of the things that makes the Asexual Guilt Complex go brrrrr in the way that it does for me. I find my identity in asexuality to be important, and it’s still true that I don’t experience sexual attraction, and the idea of sexual contact happening to me in Real Life grosses me out. But I do have a libido, enough that I can be distracted from the inherent grossity of sex enough to do fingering and hand jobs with my boyfriend. Enough that looking at some types of porn can be a turn on. But that about as far as that takes me. dating an allosexual person when you’re ace already comes with the guilt built in, even when your partner is understanding. My boyfriend says that sex is fun but not a huge priority for him, but I know that our extremely mild sexual contact pales to his previous relationships. I know that he’s the one who initiates between us, and I know that he could have more fun if I wasn’t asexual. But there’s something about feeling arousal that makes me feel even more guilty. Like I can be sexual enough to do a tiiiny built of sexual contact but not much. And I’m not physically aroused by an attraction to my boyfriend (or anyone) but I’m aroused by porn? It feels more useless and misleading of me that if I had no sex drive at all

so I think that’s why I tried to seek out porn that really makes me uncomfortable - part punishment for liking porn on the first place (like hey you shouldn’t be allowed to just be enjoying the porn, you have to feel bad about it while you do it, so the porn itself should squick you out) and part the idea of being punished sexually myself for not being “useful enough”. And part the idea that some fucked up men would actually get off even more to my genuine dislike of sex irl, so that could make my useless state of being useful to someone. Because I don’t think I could change who I am enough to be useful without being forced, but I still have some hatred for myself about it. So yeah. I’ve given myself a complex where I want to feel bad because then I’ll be serving some purpose. Which is fucked lol. anyways as always you can take this as an invitation to treat me like you secretly want to treat women but are too afraid you’ll get caught or banned for it.

[yeetus-feetus]

look, I don't like pussy.

Unless the person with pussy is domming me. Because tbh, I'm not into pussy; it's scary and kinda gross and I wouldn't know what to do with it -even though I have one :/ )

Pussy on its own isn't hot and I don't like actually like it. At all. What is hot is when I'm forced to eat it out anyways because my Dom told me to and I really really really wanna be good boy. Please call me a good boy.

I'll do just about anything for praise, if I'm being honest.

And you know now that I'm thinking about it? I don't like dick either. I just like the feeling of being made to choke on it anyways.

I don't wanna see your cock dude that's fucking gross, but I'd let you make me take it anyways.

Idk, bodies in general are really off-putting. Bodies are weird and all the parts everyone else seems so into just really squicks me and grosses me out. I don't like sex because of the parts involved, I like it because of the feelings involved. If that makes any sense at all?

So I guess when people ask: "do you find men and women sexually attractive?" In regards to my sexuality, the real answer is actually no.

I like anyone who can Dom me, regardless of what parts they have because I'm not particularly interested in anything physically, I'm attracted to the energy you can put out. I'm attracted to the way you'd talk, the way you'd make me feel, the mental and emotional aspects of the act.

So yeah, I don't like pussy. And I don't like dick. And I'm probably not attracted to your body at all. But I do like being put in my place, I like being good, I like being told what to do, and I like being used.

and I feel like I'm the only one who feels this way. And like I can't say it out loud without being misunderstood. And I can't find a general word to describe it to make it easier for people to understand.

I really like sex, but I'm not physically attracted to the body. It's weird :/

[neutrallyobsessed]

If you don't mind my asking, what is it about the enemies to lovers trope (Or people who barely tolerate each other, ala Ema and Klavier, becoming closer) that sets you off?

Well you see, enemies to lovers is not just a romance trope, but a supertrope composed of smaller tropes, character dynamics and such. all of them that I absolutely hate. like I can tolarate the individual tropes to an extent, depending on excecution and relevance to the plot/themes but I CANNOT and WILL NOT tolerate all those things at once!!

Because I avoid E2L as much as possible, I went places where its fans explain why they like it and as I read I was all the time like nope, I don't like this, don't like this at all so here's the list of me explaining why I don't like the tropes that compose this particular dynamic.

I hate that it's a long process slow burn. I dont have the patience, I read <5k words one shot smut fics primarily. If it's a show that ship teases protag/antag, then everything else better be fucking perfect or I'll drop it as soon as shit gets annoying. This usually doesn't happen (because I avoid shows with this trope and won't watch it if I know beforehand it'll have it), so it's just a matter of avoiding the fans which is no problem at all.

I don't like when characters that don't get along are forced to interact and it's treated as ship tease. The characters aren't having a "funny banter", they are mocking each other, at least that's how I see it. They are suffering with each others presence, they are making comments with the explicit purpose of hurting each other and I don't enjoy that.

Whatever romance "blooms" out of it just feels out of character, like the plot is forcing them togheter and it doesn't feel natural. Yes, even if it is well written and was meant to end like that since the thought appeared in the authors mind. You've presented them to me as enemies, nothing will change my mind.

I've read something about the sexual tension and it severely squicked me out. Sexual tension between characters that like each other? Beautiful, perfect, immaculate, my eyes and tits are paying attention. Sexual tension between characters that don't like each other? No, gross, ughhh, disgraceful, disgusting, despicable, I cover my eyes and my chest is now concave.

I hate character development and changing sides. I hate realizing of mistakes and humbling arrogants so much. but there is nothing that I despise the most than redemption arcs. No becoming good, only becoming bad here!!

Like I said, I can tolerate any of the previous points in small doses, if it's good for the plot and if it's not romance. Enemies to Lovers is all 5 points at once and meant to be romance.

I've read that see us at our worst and fall in love anyway phrase so much and it's always so funny. That's a FRIEND. a FRIEND will see you at your worst and love you anyway because that's what FRIENDS do. Nothing more frustrating than an enemy who doesn't take advantage of the protag's dire situation, yeah yeah something about honor, whatever, it's still frustrating as fuck yo!!!

I agree that love and hate are two sides of the same coin but guess what smartass, two sides of the same coin can never see each other. Love can be about protecting each other's back but it's also about meeting face to face and that can't happen between two sides of a same coin. Draw lines in front of the faces and keep them going, you'll never see them cross paths or becoming one. Good analogy for the Enemies to Lover appeal, good analogy for me to explain why I don't find it appealling

But what I truly dislike the most, what always drives me away from this trope is its past. When they finally become lovers, they'll look back to where it all began and they'll find nothing but fights, conflict, bickering, getting on each other's nerves, wishing them the worse... the very base of the relationship is hate, and no matter how good the rest of the foundations are, it will never erase that it all started with hate. Sooner or later the difference that kept them apart will rear their ugly heads again to create conflict and chaos. If they hated each other once, it'll happen again.

And I don't like break-ups either. If I wanna see incompatible people get togheter to waste their time with the wrong person and have the relationship crash and burn then I'll just go experience Real Life. My Imagination can cover my desire for characters perfect for each other getting and being togheter forever.

Yeah yeah, in the world of fiction one can also make an E2L that ends all cute and fluffy and conflict-less but refer above about the unplausibility of it all, that it doesn't change that it all started with hate, my anal attitude about canon compliancy and that if, let's say, Ema finds Klavier's personality annoying I'm not going to fucking change Klavier's personality to fit Ema or viceversa, I'll ship him Trucy instead, who doesn't find his personality annoying but charming and attractive! Because it makes fucking sense

There are very few things that can break my suspension of disbilief. The people who barely tolerate each other becoming closer thing is definitely one of them. I just cannot find any sense on the Whys or Hows would that happen :///

I get that the F2L pining can be grating but at least they enjoy each other's company, whatever they find annoying they either solve it or don't actually find it annoying at all, and it's all nice and chill, which is what I prefer. You know what's fucking grating?? Spending time with a person you don't like and/or find annoying goddammit

Now if you read all of this and thought something along the lines of "but that's what makes it good!" to that I say, yes but not exactly, because yes, those can be the elements that make a GOOD E2L, but it's not what it makes it a good trope in general, it's neutral, it makes it good TO YOU who likes it but NOT TO ME who doesn't like it! None of these tropes appeal to me, I will not argue further, do not interact to change my mind, you won't, let this be a safe space for E2L bashing and F2L praising...

Welp, that was upsetting to think about, time to think of a boy friend and a girl friend becoming boyfriend and girlfriend to be less upset

[teddy-the-queer-wizard]

actually more on this

i love shipping and i even love taking certain ships that squick people out seriously

like okay narrow down the thing that bothers people and express it in that way and that can be compelling or necessary too

like. i think having sex with children is wrong.

outside of that leaves a lot of nuances that i dont care if people agree with me

however i have read a fic that completely agrees with that premise and still includes fucked up shit about that topic that im glad i read

and while i do not in anyway care if people are writing fictional porn of fictional children having sex

even though its not my thing i wanted to read something that took that subject seriously and see what the fuck was going on in the dynamics and god knows what else. just curiosity probabably.

but i opened up a fic, the main character was having fucked up thoughts and impulses, acted on them, and rapes the kid. and it was rather horrific in a way that made me sick but even though ill probably never read anything in that vein again

im glad i read it for one line the man character thinks. gone through all this trouble and self loathing of these thoughts and impulses, acts on them anyways and realizes in the moment of action that its just like any other sex. functionally the same thing nothing special about it

and sure the fic continues so who knows whats happening there, probably more fucked up shit to explore fucked up shit

but like it was pretty cool to me that a) it gave me a good idea of "hey maybe dont read things you dont enjoy and make you sick and the second that happens youre allowed to bail thats fine" which had never occurred to me in reading ever

but it also really gave me a lot to think about. in intrusive thoughts or attractions or thought crimes vs actually harming people and whatever.

but it did give me that line to look at and realize that in the end your body cant tell the fucking difference and does not care about what it is that gets you off.

its all stimulation until triggered good feelings dump.

so like maybe your brain is like "only the sleek lines of an m16 can satisfy me" but your body? does not care it just wants to feel good.

and like. if youre not truely harming anyone to achieve that goal its probably more or less fine.

which like. yeah. actual pedophiles are hurting people. beastiality is its own can of worms - horrifyingly litterally sometimes - but in general just talking about people if they can communicate and have the ability (childern don't, a coma patient doesnt, etc) to consent and does so youre probably fine.

if those qualifications aren't met youre probably not fine.

if youre not dealing with real people then it doesnt matter if you're not harming real people with it

and saying a specific fictional ship is valueless because you find it gross or distasteful or try to saynits morally wrong is like a choice you can make for yourself but not anyone else

but honestly even things i dont personally like - like the above - holds value for someone in some form or fashion

so like there's a lot of ships im not into or don't agree with and wont interact with

but i honeslty stand by the right of exploration into it for other people.

i also dont think its any of your buisness if you think the person who's sole attraction is the sleek lines of a m16 is "broken" in some fashion as largely

therapy is to help you fuction better in ways you want to or that allow you to interact with others in a beneficial or neutral (as opposed to harmful) manner

if m16 man isnt putting his dick in inappropriate places that harm him - or others - about it and is staying in his lane and is happy saving up to buy his beautiful wifu and jerking off to targeted porn about it hes not a problem and doesnt actually have a problem

if youre invading m16pornland dot com and hate it there and knew you would going in and try to get it shut down because you cannot coexist with either m16 wifu man existing or his interests/ needs being serviced in some way that isnt harming him or the m16 or effecting anyone else

then id argue you have a problem and might need to do a therapy about it instead of trying to control other people outside of your lane

but honestly therapy can only help if you honestly want help and weaponizing it against people- who need it or not - is stupid

but those are some of my bad takes of the day

feel free to comment if discussion is the goal and not bashing

[thecastlesystem]

OSDDID terms: a completely subjective rating list by solace

based on this post by @jaybird3756. this is not objective by any means, just personal opinion on what we like to be called. if you love a term we don't like or vice versa, that's completely ok. this is just for fun :)

individual

alters - 7/10. a little clinical but accurate. points taken off because it feels like i'm armchair diagnosing myself when i say it (<-- has been diagnosed for years)

parts - 10/10. we love this one. integrated into the english language enough that it doesn't call attention to it, but also nonspecific enough that it can mean whatever each part wants it to mean. part of a person? part of a system? part of a family? all valid!!! emphasises that we're all in this together, which helps with system unity. can also cover any alter from the most elaborated to the most fragmented. cannot say enough good things about parts language!

headmates, brain friends, other 'quirky' names along those lines - 2/10. idk why it just squicks me out. something about it being so obviously a term that was made up specifically to talk about this experience, which feels othering to me.

others - 9/10. if we can't use parts, we're using this.

voices - either 1/10 or 8/10 depending on context. if it's anyone talking about it in a serious way, ew. if it's someone talking about their own system in a lighthearted manner, it's fun and i like it.

insiders - 4/10. very confusing, do you mean only ish alters? or any alter that isn't the host? it kind of reinforces the idea that only the host is 'real' to me. however, it's not something that makes me feel gross so it's getting a higher score than some others.

people - 5/10. fine i guess. not super accurate in our case, we're heavily fragmented and most of us don't have the emotional range to be considered a fully fleshed out person, but a couple of us like it.

any word referring to family members, friends, or coworkers. - 7/10. discreet, which i like. kind of a cool code if people know what you're talking about. points taken off because i can't tell whether people are talking about their outer life or inner life.

[legal-sounding words] (eg: delegates, jury members) - 8/10. we don't really remember to use it but very fun.

system members - 5/10. accurate, but a bit boring and clunky.

comrades - 8/10 cool and commie.

mes - 5/10. alright i guess. our younger parts use it sometimes.

collective

system (as in 'the system is saying this') - 10/10. the classic.

collective - 9/10. we don't use this personally but i wouldn't think anything of it if we were referred to as one.

constellation - 7/10. cute!! we don't use it but it's cool.

[a name for a group of people] (eg: the kids) - 10/10 if it's accurate, 4/10 if it isn't. one part calls us all children even though he's including the adults in the system and it's a little frustrating.

[a name for a group of animals] (eg: pack) - 2/10. gives me the ick. maybe it's just that i was dehumanised as a kid but please don't call us this.

the [blank] system - 6/10. a bit clunky.

^ shortened to just [blank] (so for us, castle) - 10/10. we like this one a lot. gets rid of the clunkiness but retains the ability to distinguish the whole system from each individual alter.

[a collective human name] (so for us, alex) - 7/10. wish we had chosen a better collective name but it works so it's fine. problems come in when the name is also the name of an alter, or people assume it's the name of an alter when it isn't.

chat - 10/10. no notes, funny as hell.

the counsel - 9/10. yeah man that's what it's like.

identity terms

system (as in 'i am a system') - 8/10. sure.

multiple - 5/10. we don't really experience our did as being a group of people in one body, so it's not really accurate to our experience.

plural - 2/10. ^^ plus it feels icky idk.

dissociative - 10/10. accurate, doesn't sensationalise or put undue focus on the alters aspect of osddid.

person first language (as in 'i have did/osdd') - 10/10. this is one of the only things where we prefer person first language.

possessed - 1/10. we believed this for years and it's not helpful at all. don't ever call us this.

[beckitty]

All nurses have a squick. They all have that one thing that is really hard for them to deal with, and migh leave them gagging in a storage cupboard.

I'm putting a cut here, because below will be graphic mentions of wound care, blood, and other bodily excretions

For some it's wounds, pus, phlegm, even urine or faeces, despite the fact that we have to deal with it constantly. But I've never known anyone to be squicked by menstruation. This could be because people who have a strong reaction to blood are likely to faint, and many will leave because of this.

Menstrual blood really is just blood. There is tissue in it, but that can be true of any blood coming out of the body. Some people think clots make it worse, but I have pulled clots out of people's wounds before now, and there is no difference.

So yeah, you can treat menstrual blood the same as you would any other blood. Kind of gross, but also normal and nessasary. You don't want it going everywhere or making a mess, but if it does, no big deal, get yourself cleaned up and don't feel like it's shameful or anything. It's normal, it happens, it's ok.

I disagree that periods *aren't* gross, but they're also no more gross than other bodily fluids and waste like urine, feces and vomit. Sometimes life is gross and that's nothing to be ashamed of. If you treat periods any differently from the above then that's a problem and a double standard.

[silverhairednonsense202]

i have such a love/hate relationship with comments on fics

sometimes they really cheer me up and my day a lot better and sometimes im just like.... bro, did you have to drag down my mood like that?

but also when i tag someone dead dove and they comment with like "oh this seems immoral" and im just like.... NO SHIT, SHERLOCK

theres this one particular commenter i have who's honestly quite nice overall so i dont really wanna be mean abt it but sometimes they just say some wild shit

like one chapter they'll be begging me to write underage dubcon sex (not my thing so i dont write that) and the next chapter they'll be like "arent they a bit young to flirt?" and im just

i have no idea where your moral line in the sand is and its boggling

one time they commented how something seemed too 'daddy kink' to them (i wasnt writing daddy kink, it just seemed that way to them. i was p bummed out over it cuz that wasnt what i was going for at all) and then a couple chapters later they were cheering excitedly about something that seemed 'mommy kink' to them (again, unintentional, im not into writing any sort of parental kinks) and im just... where is your moral line in the sand????? i dont understand??????? im not planning to change my story for them, i write what i feel like at my own pace but i do like to listen to my commenters when its a harmless thing to give them

tbh i started writing some of the flirt scenes BECAUSE they kept wanting horny scenes and i had No Intention of writing that until they were grown up but i figured some entirely innocent childish flirting (bc yeah, kids flirt, its a thing, its painfully awkward too) as a sort of "oki i cant give you what you're actually asking for but i can write something small" and then they say its creeping them out and im just??????????????????????????????????????????????????

underage sex isnt creepy but 100% harmless awkward childish flirting is creepy??????? (and by flirting, i mean the way that kids sometimes say shit like "we're dating now cuz we hold hands", ya know, that level)

and like... theyre not a mean commenter, even if sometimes they ask me to write some stuff that squicks me out, but like......................................................... what???? WHERE IS YOUR SQUICK-METER? I DO NOT UNDERSTAND. YOU ARE SO INCONSISTENT

anyway long story short i think i'll just... not update for a minute. they want me to time skip now and i already have the next like 10 chapters written that are not time-skipped and im not scrapping what i wrote but now i just feel gross and shitty. and i have a plan for what im writing and frankly maybe i should just tell this commenter that theyre starting to make me uncomfortable bc i dont think its intentional but also like..... theres a reason i tagged it as slow burn?? and dead dove???? im sorry you want me to timeskip to when they can fuck but the whole purpose of the story is to slowly work out their trauma together and to develop a strong platonic relationship before they ever even consider one another romantically (one-sided childish crushes set aside). w/e im just gonna stop writing/posting this fic until i stop feeling like shit over it.

ahhh now im really getting depressed over it, the urge to just drop the fic completely is growing... im tired ;; i just wanted to have fun writing a stupid fic