#women of remorse

[mountain-in-springtime]

the cody ko allegations going on make me so sick

[the-binding-blade]

MINDFLAYER for @otherfishmonger !

[volfoss]

it is beyond infuriating how anne rice seems to insist on marius being a positive force in anyone's life ever. like she can't fully commit to exploring the fact he groomed armand and has repeatedly taken away his consent for what marius thinks is best (take the end of TVA as an example) and just kind of flatly puts it in the narrative. there's not really much interest in how these horrific events make marius come across as the worst because EVERYONE loves him. for gods sake, lestat learns from armand exactly what marius did to him in TVL and then proceeds to go find marius and be super friendly to him in the same fucking book. even armand and pandora, two of the people who have MORE than enough right to hate him, do not. it doesnt feel like shes trying to explore the toxicity of the abusive dynamic he traps them in, it just is there. and like yeah ofc the toxic vampire romance series but i think that this should be handled with more care. and it is not ever really framed in a way that she is interested in exploring how marius should easily be one of the most horrific characters in this series because it kind of feels like sa/rape/grooming/other things of that sort are just put there to further plot and not to really get the respect that they deserve in a medium.

[arsenicflame]

i need anne bonny to be terrible btw (affectionate)

[gaypirate420]

Being a Jasper girlie (gender neutral) is constantly living on the fucking threnches.

[deiscension]

"There's no way I'd let Pei Ming pin this on the State Preceptor of Banyue and protect Pei Xiu. It doesn't matter if you're a mortal, a god, or a ghost, you have to be responsible for your own actions. Bullying a little girl is low."

Sometimes I wonder how much these exact words come back to haunt Shi Qingxuan after everything is said and done because those have been and always will be her convictions: you can't trample over others and expect there to be no justice, whether it finds you in one year or one hundred years or a thousand years. It's unforgivable to use another's life as currency for your own. And yet, she might as well have been talking to herself. Even if she hadn't known, she benefitted from the lowly actions of 'bullying a little girl.' What Banyue was rescued from, He Xuan's sister and mother and fiancee weren't. All because of her (in her mind, anyway; the way she interprets her brother's actions being her fault is another can of worms). I think on late nights when she's nursing the aches of a mortal body, she'll remember so confidently saying those words to Xie Lian and cry for the girls whose breaths were smothered out and traded so she could know the wind as its master. Even though it's presumptuous, she'll cry for them and feel nothing but the type of shame that wells up from knowing her tears, too, are stained with their blood.

[sonhogentil]

I love the way you draw vampires, they always looks like playful rascals! Like oh I'm gonna bite you hehe ^w^

LMAO i love that actually, all vampires should be playful rascals or whats the point

[wyllsravengard]

john in rdr1 is so special to me i feel crazuyzuzyszy

[homosandhomies]

One of the best decisions made in 2013 Carrie was NOT putting Carrie in a trance during the Prom Massacre. In most versions, Carrie’s powers take control over her, whereas this Carrie takes control over her powers.

It feels like a real breaking point. She’s done playing nice. She is intentional in every part of the scene so everyone can understand the pain she has felt for so long.

Every single murder is unique. Trampling two girls to death Mufasa-style. Lighting a girl on fire. Crushing a group of guys in the bleachers. These are all too specific for them to not be choices she is making on her own.

And later when Sue says “Don’t hurt me,” Carrie says, “Why not? I’ve been hurt my whole life.” Carrie clearly feels horrible for killing her mother, because to an extent she loved her, but she doesn’t feel any remorse for the prom. And she shouldn’t. This is a way of her reclaiming her agency right after a traumatizing event where Billy and Chris deprived her of that.

The writers didn’t cushion anything to make her more “likable.” Having Carrie take control in the most gruesome way possible makes her more likable because it actually provides a character arc, and it teaches a lesson. If you hurt someone, don’t be surprised that they will hurt you back.

[nasirsagron]

About Gaetal i don't know if it will make sense for him to be Lee Min-Soo. Since the beginning the show is hinting he is the one that killed Professor Kwon's daughter and it is showing us he is a creep to young girls, so how would he become the one who punishes men that have made crime against women (only the second victim is a women, the other two were all about crime against women).

Like how do you go from there to let me punish men that have avoided jail time for their heinous crimes mostly done at expense of women when you are a pervert and a killer of young women??; We have seen him beat up a girl just because he asked if he was embarassed too.

Unless it is one hell of convulted plot to get closer to Professor Kwon using the same "justice" he used but still...

[alicentflorent]

The way lucaerys acted around aemond is perfect example is why adults should teach and disapline their kids instead of acting as if the did nothing wrong and of taking the time to talk with him about the fact that at 7 years old he maimed another child who now has to live without one of his eyes and instead of taking the injury seriously that room full of adults were like “it was an accident, just an oopsie and that aemond kids mama is just a crazy lady” and now Lucaerys is smirking and laughing when he sees the boy who he stabbed in the eye wearing an eye patch for life because the adults around him let him believe it was just child’s play and not a serious thing and that his actions and use of a damn knife in a fight with other children had dire consequences that a young child won’t understand unlesss he is taught by those who know better” also this kid seems to be younger than he’s supposed to be? so i suspect his development was stunted after the incident or from being coddled in a bubble privilege idk but it frustrates me so much that this kid was not even privately taught to feel remorseful and sorry for his actions that cost his mothers own kid brother an eye

[femmedionysus]

why cant transmascs use the t slur? we're all transgender whether we're nonbinary, trans men, agender, transfemme, trans women or whatever. why does the assigned birth gender matter? we've all experienced transphobia and the t slur is used the same against transmascs as it is transfemmes.

yes, we have all experienced transphobia, you’re right! can you guess what we haven’t all experienced though?

that’s right, transmisogyny! while all trans people do face transphobia, trans women & transfems face a unique intersection of transphobia & misogyny greater than the sum of its parts. I don’t say that to downplay transphobia - transphobia is dangerous & horrrible to experience, genuinely.

when you are in a community with many different people, sometimes you share one axis of oppression with some people, but they may experience a different type of oppression too, one that you don’t experience. that doesn’t mean that you stop experiencing the type of oppression that you share with them, it just means that they experience other forms of oppression, and sometimes those are connected to each other. sharing one form of oppression with someone doesn’t give you the experience of other forms of oppression that person has.

for example: all non-straight people experience homophobia. all women experience misogyny. as a lesbian, I get both homophobia and misogyny directed at me, & where those two things intersect, I experience lesbophobia. this doesn’t mean that every time I experience oppression, it’s automatically lesbophobia - sometimes it is “just” homophobia or “just” misogyny. I share the experience of misogyny with cis & trans women of all sexualities. I share the experience of homophobia with gay & bi people of all genders. the fact that I am a target of lesbophobia doesn’t make the homophobia that a gay man experiences any less dangerous or awful; it would still be inappropriate for him to reclaim the word dyke for himself, because that word was never meant as a slur against him. the fact that I experience lesbophobia doesn’t make the misogyny a straight woman faces any less dangerous or awful, but it would still be inappropriate for her to call herself a dyke.

the t slur originated as a hateful term used against trans women. when it is used towards tme people, it is not meant as an insult for being transmasc, it is meant to insult us by grouping us in with trans women. do you see why it’s different for someone affected by transmisogyny to reclaim a transmisogynistic slur than it is for someone who is not affected by transmisogyny to use it?

you sound young so I am genuinely trying to explain here. I’m not your dad, I can’t tell you what words you can or cannot say, you are a complete stranger to me. I’m just letting you know that when you use a slur that is not targeted at you, the people around you who are targeted by that slur will probably feel less safe around you, & a lot of people around you will probably think you sound like an asshole.

[tinyslyme]

CW: Smoking, light blood //

Transfem C!Wilbur has such a special place in my heart. She's so fucked up and I love her for that <3

lyrics from Noel's Lament, Ride the Cyclone: The Musical

[glittertimes]

Honestly I really do think not working on your trauma issues is a luxury sometimes. Obviously I’m not talking about working class people / people of color who can’t access therapy, medication or other resources to help them heal.

And I’ve said it before that therapy and healing work are really hard and I get why people avoid it. And I don’t think that shaming people for not going to therapy is always the best approach.

But at the same time, there are lots of people who are never going to work on their issues because they have no incentive to. They don’t care who they’re harming because of their trauma or insecurities, and they often use those traumas as an excuse for harming people, when they have no intention of healing those traumas or repairing the harm they’ve caused.

People who are already marginalized in some way are also going to face more stigma and discrimination for their mental health / trauma issues and they feel more pressure to heal to be accepted in predominantly white patriarchal spaces.

[coochiequeens]

If members of your group are regularly spared jail time your group isn't really oppressed

A transgender woman who appeared on Welsh TV documentary about her transition launched brutal attacks against two girlfriends but walks free as court is told she would be 'vulnerable' in prison

April Welsh, 37 from Caerphilly, Wales, brutally beat two girlfriends in 2020

She was spared prison after her lawyer said she would be 'vulnerable in prison

By OLIVER PRICE 

PUBLISHED: 07:30 EDT, 17 October 2023 | 

A transgender woman who appeared on a Welsh TV documentary about her transition has walked free despite launching brutal attacks against two girlfriends, after a court was told she would be 'vulnerable' inside prison.

April Welsh, 37, drunkenly throttled one partner and pushed her to the floor before punching and kicking her on January 3, 2020, a court heard.

The repeat domestic abuser from Blackwood, Caerphilly then attacked a second girlfriend just weeks later - kicking her in the face after knocking her to the floor.

Welsh had appeared on a TV programme about her transition in 2019 - and months later went on to attack the two women.

Prosecutor Roger Griffiths said the first attack happened after Welsh and her victim had been out together in Cardiff. But the defendant later became 'rowdy' and 'drunk'.

But after the pair after returning 20 miles to Blackwood, Welsh wanted to continue drinking in a pub - but her girlfriend of two years had work the next day.

Mr Griffiths said Welsh's victim went home but was locked out. She then found Welsh drinking red wine in the town.

When Welsh returned home at 2.15am she banged on the doors before 'running towards' the victim in a rage.

He said: 'She rang the doorbell and the victim went to answer. When she opened the door, the defendant ran at her, put her hands around her neck putting her on the floor.

'She was then punched and kicked and was called a dirty s***. The victim was sat on the bed too scared to move.

'It was only when she heard the defendant snoring that she left and went to a friend's address for help.'

Welsh pleaded guilty to assault occasioning actual bodily harm for the attack in January 2020.

The the court heard she has a previous domestic violence conviction, against her new partner following this attack.

Harry Baker, defending, said: 'The injuries were not that bad although the incident must have been very unpleasant.'

He added that Welsh 'expressed remorse having got involved in yet another incident' and said she would be 'vulnerable' if sent to prison.

Judge Hywel James told Welsh: 'You had been drinking heavily and in fairness to your victim, she had sought to assist you during that day.

'I've seen photographs of the injuries sustained and they show cuts, bruises and a swollen ear.

'I have taken into account that two months after this you were involved in a similar incident with a new partner.

'That is a matter which has been dealt with but it shows a pattern of offending.'

Welsh was hand a sentence of 21 weeks suspended for 12 months, meaning she will not go to prison unless she breaks the law again in that time.

Welsh previously told how she had hidden the fact she was a female for more than 20 years after being brought up as a boy.

April, who has two children, told the story of her transition to S4C programme Merch Fel Fi in 2019.

She said: 'From the age of four or five I would lock myself in the bathroom and dress female, I just had this constant urge to be myself.

'As cliché as it sounds I thought it was just me, I didn't know who to talk to or who to explain it to. I had never heard anything about being transgender.

'I didn't want it to be revealed. I thought I would go to prison, I thought I could be rejected by my family.

'I played football and rugby at a young age but it didn't last very long. As soon as I started getting involved in something I would retreat as I thought they would know. To go in a locker room - it was horrendous.'

She came out as transgender in 2014 but suffered adverse effects from having female hormones pumped into her body and ended up in hospital for more than two weeks in 2016 after suffering seizures.

She said: 'I thought I was going to die. It was meant to be the key moment of my life but it almost killed me.'

[235uranium]

every time the female character discourse happens i just sigh. the ppl critiquing fandom misogyny don't even like that interesting of women