#without the fandom ruining it for me

[fiannans]

Didn't watch the high-level combat preview for Veilguard because I heard the "minor story spoilers" they mentioned are actually kind of major and I already know more than I wanted to.

[sad-leon]

I think some people need the reminder that you can just not like things. For whatever reason. You don't need to justify things you don't like to anyone, as long as you're not making people feel bad for liking it.

You're able to not like something, but that doesn't make it weird.

You're able to not like that people like something, but that doesn't necessarily mean they're bad people (within reason of course)

And it's also important to remember that you may like something that other people don't like. That doesn't mean they have a personal vendatta against you for liking it.

That doesn't mean you're wrong, nor are they wrong.

People have preferences for everything. Just because you prefer something, that doesn't mean you're "right". This is fandom, there are very few things that even have a "right" and "wrong" side.

[twistedappletree]

paid a $130 application fee for the house i wanted to rent just for the owner to turn around and say “ooooops never mind, i don’t want to rent it anymore” then took it off the market. meanwhile, the agent was like “oh well he might put it back on the market in a few weeks” …….and that helps me how??????

i’m so fucking glad you all have time to screw around and play with other peoples lives like we’re your fucking barbies but i don’t have the capacity or the patience for your bullshit. i’m so fucking done with landlords, i swear on my life they’re not human

[piratefalls]

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[somewhereincairparavel]

people really downplay how genuinely AFRAID Ursa was for Azula, when she started displaying tendencies of unstable sadistic behaviour (burning the wooden duck without a thought, burning the doll iroh gave, wanting her uncle and grandfather to die, ecstatic that her brother was going to be killed, not caring about lu tens death etc) Azula was more or less a child who needed extra care, azula was psychologically affected even as a child, this kind of thing requires effort from BOTH parents, something Ursa wasn't able to provide for her, but with valid reasons.

Just put yourself in Ursa's place? What could you even do to correct that behaviour when you KNOW it would only be encouraged by your abusive sadist husband anyway? Ursa did correct azula for her behaviour in two instances, both of which didn't do much at all.

Ozai would only do something to steer azula away from her mother if she had any postive influence on azula, so I don't get why people are so quick to blame Ursa. There seriously wasn't much there could be done in azulas situation as long as ozai is in the picture.

The reason Ursa found it easier to be with Zuko is because ozai didn't care about him at all and wouldn't have done anything to keep him away from her because ozai only focused on his daughter's external influence. He basically threw Zuko away to his mom in a "you can have the defective child" type of way.

[wallabywhump]

This post gets a little into discourse, so if you want to avoid 9-1-1 fandom discourse I've put this under a read more/keep reading. I guess the TL;DR you can take from this is I'm likely not going to be posting the final chapters of my multichapter fic anytime soon, if at all.

The tags are *also* discoursey/venty, so don't hit the "see all" if you don't like discourse.

After my last post, I kinda went offline for a little while to rest and recoup. (I've lost access to my discord account because I've since got a new laptop.)

I've had my treatment and am, in general, feeling a lot better. But when I got back online after a week or so break and scrolled my dash a bit, I immediately saw shit slinging and aggression from everyone I seem to follow. Or, if it wasn't active participation in discourse, it was vaguing about ignoring discourse.

So, I logged off.

Then, I log back on a week later and I see even more discourse.

This time I blocked the tags of people I seemed to see the most, and moved on with it.

This week, I thought "third times a charm" and opened up tumblr. It is not the charm, in fact it is much much worse.

I'm not going to go into it, and I'm not naming names, but this is not my first fandom rodeo. I've been in a lot of fandoms over the years, and none (literally none) have ever come close to being this fractured and toxic to me (and I'm a fucking DC and SPN fan, Jesus Christ. I legitimately said to a friend of mine "take me back into the DC fandom, it's not safe in 9-1-1.")

I'm not going to "both sides are as bad as each other" but I am going to say I've never followed any actively 'Buddie' accounts, only BuckTommy's and multi-shippers, and all the shit I'm seeing? It's being slung by BuckTommy's. Back over the garden wall, for sure, but sometimes you're scooping out of your own toilet to throw at the people you're roommates with.

That's a messy metaphor.

Either way, some of y'all need the hiatus' you're saying you're taking. Wait for the show to come back, and all the trolls to get preoccupied with the new episodes, touch some grass, do some breathing, prioritize yourself and not people on the internet.

All this to say, I've never felt more demoralized and demotivated to write for other people before. I always have, and will continue to, write for myself. I post it to share for free so other people who might want to read what I do too, can.

Because of all the hate and vitriol, I no longer want to share it with you.

I had had plans to get the chapter beta'd this week and wanted the fic done by the time the new season hit (just in case my interpretation and HC's were severely contradicted) but that's no longer the plan.

I'm logging off, again, for the foreseeable future and taking my own advice. I'll be back when the new season starts.

[crocojagged]

Im so worried that if i am on ml Tumblr at all when the reveal happens and i haven't caught up on season 5 even if everything is tagged and what not i will just know™ because the freak out will be too much to contain

Either that or gloob shows it in a trailer and everyone assumes it's a fake out/not the final one bc they wouldn't actually put that in the trailer right? Right??? But then the episode releases and nope that really was the reveal for realsies and we just have to live with that

[onceandfutureheartache]

it still hurts. a lot actually.

[embracedthevoid]

feeling reminiscent of when I first joined the yr fandom back in August 2021. So much has changed.

[piraytoro]

Where was your outrage when Sam had his righteous anger stolen from him, over and over, and every time this was framed as a good thing? The black man cannot be angry the way Roy and Jamie and even Ted can be. His righteous anger would not be seen as righteous, and so it must be handled by others, he must be talked or maneuvered out of it. He would not be having a perfectly natural and reasonable human reaction; he would be seen as violent, uncivilized, uppity. This would not be an issue if this was framed by the show as a problem. If the show allowed his father to admit that his anger, while justified, is directly compromising his safety. That it’s not about him and it never was; it is and always has been about the systems of oppression and racist hatred both baked into the system and being actively perpetrated by those in power. But no: he should forgive people for things they haven’t even tried to stop doing. You know, for himself. The system must be opposed only using the tools of the system itself.

Where was your outrage when Edwin Akufo and Shandy were reduced to racist caricatures, leaving in fits of rage and losing their composure entirely—their true, savage natures coming out to belie their attempts at the trappings of civilization. They don’t know how to compromise, they don’t know how to accept the decisions of others with grace, they refuse to change their behavior and only think about what they want. They’re power-hungry, but don’t know how to wield that power responsibly or justly. Both of their endings involve literally shit, a defiling of these majority-white spaces, whether pantomimed or actually physically present, while their white foils in Keeley and Rebecca are allowed to conduct themselves with grace and poise, as presented in direct contrast to them. Where was your outrage when Akufo was brought back only to be denied the very same chance to redeem himself that this show so loves to give its white characters? In the end, even fucking RUPERT is unwilling to stoop so low as he.

Where was your outrage when Dani Rojas was reduced to a caricature of machismo as soon as he was removed from a majority-white space and reunited with other Mexican players? Where was it when we had to wait the better part of two episodes before being reassured that Isaac wasn’t a fucking homophobe? Speaking of, where was it when the show completely failed to address the racist fan hate that players in this sport just like Isaac struggle with every time their team is doing poorly (and often when they’re not!) during its emotional reckoning with an equally ubiquitous homophobic slur? Where was your outrage when a giant chunk of the fandom on this very website was spewing the most reprehensible shit at Nate for doing the exact same things that at least three white men had already been forgiven for within the first few episodes of the damn show?

In fact, where is your outrage about Nate presumably STILL being the ASSISTANT KIT MAN while Roy gets promoted to head coach despite having admitted that Nate is good at all the things he struggles with. “Nate has to work his way up” why? Jamie didn’t get punished for his years of tormenting Nate. He never even apologized, he became a better person and all of a sudden people started pretending none of that ever happened. But Nate, he has to apologize individually to everyone he hurt and then he still has to “earn his spot back,” and yet no one seems to see a problem with this.

And these are just the most egregious examples. But yeah, the worst thing this show ever did was fail to unite your two or three white faves.

[immortalspacelesbian]

can i ask what happened on twitter? i'm sorry BG3 twit is so insane but there are a lot of active folks here on tumblr that are much nicer imo. hope you can find a new place here and we stan all minthara lovers. queen shit. 🙏❤️

i’d say “long story short” but there’s 0 ways i can make this short there’s just SO much 😭

basically those datamined lines with halsin and minthara were found, where halsin refuses to work with minthara and makes tav choose between them even though minthara is begging for shelter from the absolute, and minthara lovers were like ‘ew wtf halsin fuck him she’s a victim of the absolute.’

we were in our own corner on our own tweets with our mututls ranting about these lines, and some halsin fans decided to come onto our tweets and talk about how they want minthara dead dead and the ways they’d kill her and stuff like that. which, to be honest, is completely unwarranted and a dick move. they were told to basically fuck off and that’s where shit hit the fan.

i won’t name names, but someone made a thread about how halsin wasn’t in the wrong at all because minthara was his abuser (which she wasn’t, she did nothing to him, it was the goblins, and she hardly knows who he is.) i think some people corrected them but i can’t remember? anyway, we made our own tweets like “minthara isn’t halsin’s abuser btw.”

person who made that thread proceeded to say that people who dislike halsin are queerphobic…

some of us tweeted about not throwing around words like abuse, abuser, and queerphobia and to not water them down. i made my own tweet too.

and then they said that we think ‘lesbians are the only “good” members of the community’ and that ‘supporting gay, bi, or trans members is oppressing lesbians.�� which is incredibly thoughtless and stupid of them to say considering queer history and how many lesbians are trans, considering how many of my minthara mutuals on twitter fall under the trans umbrella.

the lesbophobia got called out, rightfully.

i then said that i’m uncomfortable with the way halsin’s va interacts with the nsfw stuff in the fandom and it kinda gives me the creeps. yknow, on my own tweet, on my own account, not a single halsin account in sight. and since i’m a lesbian (and my personal history) it seems pretty normal to me to be uncomfortable with men being all nsfw like that’s not my scene thx. anyway, their little group found it and said i was targeting his ga and bring him into the drama (which i really wasn’t i was expressing personal feelings on my own account but aight.)

cue the ‘supporting halsin is anti-lesbian.’ and ‘if you like halsin you’re being “creepy” because all male sexuality is creepy to them, and halsin’s va, dave, supporting halsin’s sexuality obviously pisses them off.’ which is a wild thing to say. we never brought dave into it, it was them that did that. my tweet had nothing to do with the drama they kept making go on by not shutting up about it. by this point minthara lovers were back to normal tweeting and only reacting to whatever of those drama tweets showed up on the timeline.

oh! and here comes the inevitable: we all got called terfs. most of us fall somewhere under the trans umbrella. i’m agender myself. but we’re terfs to that person apparently. lesbians always get called terfs, no matter what.

i’m sure there’s more insane shit they’ve said in private.

all of that just because we got pissy at halsin sending minthara to a fate worse than death when none of what she did in act 1 was of her own free will.

[r0semaryt3a]

Can we normalise marking spoilers as spoilers?

Especially you sub viewers. As a dub watcher the amount of time I’ve been spoiled for something that hasn’t been dubbed yet because people post without spoiler warnings has ruined so many things for me-

[cosmic-ships]

I wish I could turn off the recommendation blog feature. 5 in a ROW were of Kylo and ugh ....her.

Just stick forks in my eyes please. It would be an improvement.

Nothing like waking up to vent! lol killme

[indi-glo-archive]

i hate imogen with a passion

[zannolin]

Fic Summary: When Roxy first comes back online, her limbs jerk so violently that Dad has Cassie three steps back from the workbench before you can say Pizzaplex. Her head whips to and fro, feet paddling at the air as she lies on her back like an upended turtle.

“Where am I?” the animatronic asks, sounding panicked.

Cassie says, chest brimming with an ache not unlike the one in her leg, but deeper, somehow, “Home.”

(or, how cassie loses a friend, gains an animatronic, and escapes the pizzaplex, mostly in that order.)

[julielilac]

Umbrella merch by his FC, the famous skirt-pants and Nike shoes 👀