#with me this isn't f/f it's non-binary but it's sapphic :)

[multigenderswag]

Multigender Survey Results Dec 2023: Anything else relevant

Participants were asked "Share anything else about your multigender identity that you find relevant" and had the option to respond with long answer text. Some notable responses include:

As a m+f bigender person who uses he/she pronouns, I sometimes feel like the "he" refers to my female side, and the "she" refers to my male side

I am no longer religious/Christian, but the expression “God is Change” resonates deeply with me and my approach to gender as experience. I accept that my gender (holistically) is an amalgamation, something that breathes new life into itself repeatedly and often unexpectedly, sustained by its own willingness to grow past its bounds and taste richness anew. Teaching is part of my work, and as such I consider myself an eternal student: gender is just one avenue for discovery and learning for me.

I feel so boring but it is what it is, name wise I use one (completely feminine) with group A and one (completely masculine) with group B and hope and pray that they never interact

I identified as a 'tomboy' (gender wise) as a child and transmasc as a teenager. As an adult part of my being multigender is honouring these past versions of myself and acknowledging that who I was is an important part of who I am today.

I like to describe my gender like this: imagine there’s a house on a street. the house represents being a boy/male, and being *in* the house means you’re binary male. The road represents a neutral, non-male/female gender. My gender is like the driveway — both part of the road *and* the house

i think this is relevant-ish, but the way i experience gender kind of feels like. there's a man and a woman in my head at all times, not in a system way so much as a (this is very obviously stupid but i can't find another comparison to articulate it) inside out way. they're both always there, and they're both separate, but at the same time, they come together to make the same person, me! nonbinary is a label i understand and identify with, mostly to simplify the matter for others, but in reality, it kind of feels like a... superbinary of sorts. i'm 100% a man, and 100% a woman, but because the binary only "allows" you to choose one, nonbinary is technically correct, isn't it?

I'm multigender in the "one gender that fits into several categories" way than being multigender in a "has multiple genders" way

My gender is the intersection of butch dyke and trans man. I'm questioning things right now, but I'm somewhere in that region, with a foot in both at once. I've always been drawn to butchness and sapphicism as well as transmasculinity. I think most of my journey to understand my gender has been a balancing act between identifying as enough of a guy to feel comfortable in my skin but non-binary enough to not have to abandon my identity with butchness. Recently I've adopted the label multigender, and it's helped a lot. I'm only even a little bit a girl if I can be a boy first and foremost, and I could be just a boy or just a dyke but I would have to kill part of myself to do so. I'm trying to find a way to exist in my gender without blood on my hands. I think I'm getting there. It's hard but I'm getting there.

It is complicated but I love it

Yay I love multi gender people we are so cool. <3

A number of participants also referenced being autistic and how that has influenced their multigender identity, so it is possible that autism may be included as a question on the next survey.

[romance-dawning]

THIS IS LITERALLY SO IMPORTANT ! Like speaking as a butch leaning non-binary lesbian I always depict myself more masc or ambiguously gendered and on top of that I headcanon literally every male-in-canon f/o of mine as non-binary or just in any way not cis! Like for me my being sapphic is so intrinsic to how I see my f/os and connect with them! And it's important to see that this isn't how all lesbian selfshippers feel! Selfshipping means something different for everyone and that extends to how their own identity's play into it ( shout out to the fictos out there, you're our strongest soldiers <3) Like how myself being a lesbian or aroace is so important to me and my relationships with my f/os but for others their identity may play no part in it! Sincerely a trans masc non-binary butch lesbian with transmasc and genderqueer f/os <3

back on the topic of lesbians and sapphics in the self shipping community, please don't forget that lesbians n sapphics can be butch or transmasc or just have weird fucky genders in general. this goes for BOTH the self shipper and the f/os! not all lesbian n sapphic ppl and characters are cute petite li'l femmes!

sincerely a genderless lesbian with transmasc and genderweird f/os 💖

[p.roship fuck off :3]

[queerenteen]

OTPs of 2021

While it feels like yesterday when I posted my Favourite Couples of 2020 list (three months too late), it is once again that time of the year to compile a new one.

(this list isn't in any particular order by the way)

Raeda || Raine Whispers and Eda Clawthorne (The Owl House)

*plays eda's requiem on a loop for hours*

No, I'm not joking, I genuinely play this soundtrack so often, and you can find me humming it under my breath at least once a day.

There is something so heartbreakingly beautiful about them, how they drift apart and still find their way back to each other, years later.

Also, a sapphic relationship between two older characters where one of them is non-binary? What a win for representation in kid's animations. I'm so glad there are kids growing up watching this.

Owl House, you've done it again.

Lumity || Luz Noceda and Amity Blight (The Owl House)

Okay, I'm technically cheating with this one because they were on this last year and I already have another ship for this show but I don't care.

I love them.

They got even more adorable this year which I didn't think was possible.

The cheek kiss? The tunnel of love? The confession?

Another year goes by and here I am, still a Lumity stan.

Wangxian || Wei Wuxian and Lan Wangji (The Grandmaster of Demonic Cultivation)

This, is the ideal ship dynamic.

It has everything: the enemies to tumultous allies to I absolutely adore you but I am apparently not good at expressing emotions in a conventional manner so everyone thinks I hate you (lan wangji) or You're the best thing in my life right now and I think you're the most beautiful person out there, also do you want to raise my beloved son/radish with me in a small cottage in the countryside? no homo though (wei wuxian) to those thirteen years that make me want to curl into a foetal position and sob but we're just going to ignore that for now to you're the only one who will always know me best to pining^100 and aware (lan wangji) or pining^100 and oblivious (wei wuxian).

Don't worry, they figure it out... eventually.

In all honesty, it is perhaps, the best love story I have read. The sheer artistry with which their story has been built is amazing.

Just please, go and read the book/watch the donghua/read the manhua/watch the c-drama.

Look at all the options!

Kyoru || Sohma Kyo and Honda Tohru (Fruits Basket)

To absolutely no one's surprise, I ship them.

I watched Fruits Basket recently and oh my god, it's so fucking good, and Kyoru's dynamic is just so wonderful? It makes me so happy?

To see two people overcome the struggles thrown their way, to believe in the other so fully, and just to derive so much happiness from being near each other?

I adore them.

Malori Crowlett and Queen Velverosa (Mage and Demon Queen)

Okay, this one is a little different from the others because it's actually a manhua on Webtoon called Mage and Demon Queen.

And it is honestly one of the best things I've ever read.

I'm going to be honest, yuri is probably the hardest genre to find good stories in, simply because it isn't as popular as mlm or m/f (but i can gradually see the greater flow of good sapphic content and it makes me so happy).

And a story with a main wlw relationship that is so forward without it overtaking the base plot? I'd never found one before this, and I am very greatful for it.

(you seriously underestimate how much i love banter and innuendo, and 'mage and demon queen' does not disappoint on their aspect.)

To give you the last bit of incentive to pick up this amazing manhua if you haven't already, here's the summary:

Adventurers seek to take the demon queen’s head, but a love-struck young female mage wishes to take her hand. Join us won’t you, for this bawdy tale of love and persistence set inside a real-life RPG.

Why wouldn't you be interested?

Koito Yuu and Nanami Touko (Bloom Into You)

(Okay, so I binged this one because I had to suddenly get my wisdom teeth surgically removed. Which meant I was basically ordered to take it easy for a day or two and just eat icecream. It was a good time.)

I think this was the first show that I watched that was literally just about the main wlw relationship. The entire plot revolved around the two of them and what they meant to each other and it was just so beautifully done.

It had multiple sapphic relationships, an aroace character, a main relationship where two girls showed their affection to one another in a way that I had never really seen before. I never knew how much I needed this because I saw so much of myself in all of these characters.

(Every time I see a gif of them being this adorable couple I have to take a moment to squeal and then another to go: god I wish that were me.)

Renga || Kyan Reki and Hagasewa Langa (Sk8 the Infinity)

*pulls their cheeks* adorable.

Bright sunshine boy and his lovestruck ice boyfriend. What more do you want?

Oh, an incredibly nuanced dynamic about grief and self-worth, overcoming your fears and finally realising that the true joy is in each other's company?

Also, the english dub is so good, god bless.

Nothing will ever be funnier than 'Reki, my love... For skateboarding'.

The VAs sure knew what they were doing.

Matchablossom || Cherry Blossom and Joe (Sk8 the Infinity)

I once again break the one ship per show rule because what was I supposed to do? Not include them?

They're dynamic is so good, from their banter, to their shared history and eventual mending relation.

Also, once again, the english dub has blessed us becuase they went from bickering, married old couple (sub) to 'we used to date once but i'm not really over him' (dub).

Harlivy || Harley Quinn and Poison Ivy (Harley Quinn)

Harlivy are quite literally, partners in crime. (i'm sorry, i'll show myself out now)

Morally grey sapphic characters? Who love each other unconditionally and would do absolutely anything for the other? I adore them.

(ngl, the whole show has a very crack-ish air to it, which is very intended and it just works flawlessly for the dynamic between these two.)

Bakudeku || Midoriya Izuku and Bakugou Katsuki (My Hero Academia)

You will genuinely not believe how much I've talked about these two all year. I literally use their dynamic as a blueprint for literary analysis and comparison. I cannot possibly get any more invested.

I know I said this list isn't ordered, (and it isn't) but if I had to choose a favourite ship for the year, it would easily be the two of them. (not even surprised at this point)

Past experience has shown the childhood friends to enemies to lovers dynamic that just gets me hook, line and sinker.

I can't even begin about how I feel about their dynamic without getting into a two hour long tangent but one thing I will say is this: I love how their relationship has progressed over the course of the story and I cannot wait to see how it will develop.