#will still excuse their behaviour

[running-in-the-dark]

today was exhausting - my friend was here for about 7 hours and I just. oh man I love her and all but it's just a lot sometimes. it's probably for the best that we only meet up like 2-4 times a year now (gives me enough time to forget how draining it is so I look forward to it, and recover afterwards)

I don't talk to anyone but my husband most days, and he doesn't really talk. so that's maybe 15 minutes total of talking. and today it was literally. 7 hours. no breaks except when we were eating (but no even then someone was always talking).

first of all ouch, it hurts (my voice is very hoarse now). and also. it's so so so draining. like. we really have nothing in common at this point. but she's my oldest friend and I do love her so it's tolerable... but just barely. these days there's way too much diet/food/weight loss talk, and also she seems to be getting into alternative medicine which I cannot fucking stand (it's one topic where I can't pretend or be nice about it either). lots and lots of very preachy vegan stuff too (I don't have any problems with it, I admire people who can do it, but fuck dude you know I eat meat and that I've said many times that I *can't* go vegan (I would starve. there's not enough foods that would be left. seriously.) and it feels pretty shitty to keep going on about it every damn time. I'm not sitting there trying to convince her that she should really be an atheist or something, because I know what her thoughts are about that and I respect it.

when she hangs out with her other friends a lot it's mostly just talking about all the issues that come from that (they fucking suck). I don't know, it kind of feels like I'm her therapist. when I talk about something I'm interested in she doesn't ask many questions and it kind of sucks. like, dude I don't care about your plants either, but I'm interested because you care, so. maybe try that too. would be nice!

[spilycoris]

no, really. you shouldn't have.

[museofvoid]

i can't read posts defending ascended astarion because they make me so angry so i need to rant. and no it's not because i'm a "hater". i love astarion! and while i do prefer spawn astarion, that doesn't mean i don't enjoy ascended astarion as well!

yes if romanced he still loves tav, but he does so in an unhealthy and obsessive way. he literally forces tav to become his vampire spawn (just because he calls them his "consort" doesn't change that) if they want to keep their relationship with him. he doesn't even give them time to think, they have to decide right now. and if they say no, he gets mad.

and if tav asks about becoming a true vampire astarion will avoid the subject and say something about them needing time to adjust. he's afraid of tav leaving leaving him and so he needs control over them. if tav questions him about their relationship before making a choice he'll even say, out loud, that he views sex as a means of control. right before he plans to have to sex with you.

i've talked about this before but the line - He will see you as degrading yourself if you continue to be with him. But perhaps you wish to degrade yourself. And he knows it. - that you get if you read his thoughts later, literally confirms his motives. Tav will always be in a position below him, they will never be equals. But to him, if Tav still says yes, that means they consent to that. (and maybe they do, who am i to judge! my first durge certainly liked that idea)

astarion is bad at relationships, understandably. he doesn't know how to do romance proper, all he knows is practiced lines and physical touches. but if he loves you he'll want to get better at it! spawn astarion knows that a relationship with him takes a lot of work, both from his partner and himself, and he's willing to put in that work, but also understands if it's too much for you. meanwhile ascended astarion completely skips that step and takes the relationship he wants by force.

i've kinda lost the thread of where i was going with this, but the first time i ascended romanced astarion he made me deeply uncomfortable. and that's the point. now as i said, i still enjoy him, while also recognising that he is fucked up and abusive. the main difference between his ascended and spawn endings is that aa doesn't work through his trauma, he sweeps it under a rug of power and influence, and that will show in a relationship with him. and that's not a bad thing from a story perspective! it's very good and well done actually! i like it!

anyway i like ascended astarion and you're also allowed to like ascended astarion for whatever reason but please at least recognise the red flags

[devasdiary]

Courfeyrac is definitely that type of friend who would scold you like he was an old ass man when he is just 3 years older than you

Inspired by this part of the brick :

At times, Courfeyrac folded his arms, assumed a serious air, and said to Marius : 'You are getting irregular in your habits, young man.'

Vol.IV - Book.VIII - Ch.III

[hatsunevitu]

my favorite thing to do in a conversation with kyman haters is hear them go “but it’s bully x victim, that’s problematic!!” and respond with “yeah i agree kyle was a bully but i believe he can really change” and then watch them sit in total confusion

[aurorangen]

Since coming out of the hospital and learning of the spy, Vincent has been more vigilant of his surroundings. He felt uneasy that someone might still be following him...even in another country. After resting he was a bit more alert, so just to be cautious, he asked Jay if he had any hats to wear to hide his face, especially in the busy town centre.

Some paintings in the building caught Renee's attention and she took some photos. One stood out in particular. It had a plane statue and she could see some people in the background. Armed with weapons.

Transcript:

Renee: Jay do you know what these paintings are of? Jay: These are of Chestnut Ridge and the plane one…I dunno. Maybe the next town? Or made up? Renee: Oasis Springs doesn't look like that. I wonder if that's Strangerville.

[nayruwu]

we accept the love we think we deserve or whatever Stephen Chbosky said

[askblueandviolet]

Are you two dating?

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[defenestrationtactics]

Roman and the dog cage thing and then that conversation between Shiv and their mum thats like "well you could’ve had dogs" “no not with ur father, he never saw anything he loved that he didn’t want to kick it just to see if it would still come back" and romans constant need to prove himself to his father above everything else and in the end nearly always backing him and folding whenever he ever did something remotely nice. and then people always gaslighting him saying 'well you wanted it' (like the whole military school + dog cage thing) whatever and making him LITERALLY THINK HE DESERVED EVERYTHING!!

then there's the whole thing with the walmart shirt which is literally just showing how everyone always reduces him to being the 'baby' of the family. when he cried at the funeral and then kendall basically said 'nah he's not fit to be ceo because he's too immature and breaks down and can't handle pressure'. like babes. honey. that was your dads funeral. sorry if your a stone cold bitch with other very glaring mental health issues but it doesn't mean other people can't express their emotions. and then theres everyone making fun of him for being 'sexually stunted'. basically making him the baby of the family and saying he cant sit at the adult table when he's probably - trauma aside - more capable then anyone else in the family. like yeah. hes a bitch who either completely hides his emotions or cannot help but lay everything on the table and he does everything to prove that he's better to his father and that he can sit at the adult table actually. but like, also. y'all make fun of him every time he's the slightest bit vulnerable. how to you expect him to be able to regulate his emotions when you WONT LET HIM HAVE THEM.

anyway point is hes literally just trying to be loved everything he does is to prove himself to his father and all his shitty fucking choices can probably be linked back to that fact. he's kinda just morally fucked up. like who cares if this is good or bad - will my father love me?

[captainshorter]

Oh no im starting to really feel (sorry) for Ming

[savethedots]

It’s interesting to have such a different view on things. I thought the sparks he were mentioning was their friendship because he’s described it that way before. They do have great chemistry as friends and I didn’t get the impression from his tone it would be anything more. I hope we’re both right

English isn’t his first language (and it isn’t mine either), so it could be very well a word used that doesn’t quite fit with the intentions he had while saying those things, but he also said:

“So maybe that New Year’s kiss will spark into something romantic, maybe not. I can’t say anything but i will keep you on your toes. You have to watch.”

Where he intentionally mentioned romance. But who knows… With how this season goes i wouldn’t rule out the possibility of it happening, tho (i would’ve during or right after s2).

[silverraes]

yes getting Babe PREGNANT surely is the best solution and won't have any long term consequences whatsover Way whAT THE FUCK

[iandarling]

Yes, Debbie is annoying and makes horrific choices but let us not forget how she grew up…

In the Pilot we see a 10 year old Debbie bring her toddler brother to school because someone needs to babysit him and Fiona’s got work.

In season 1 episode 2 Debbie is terrified her father has died and spends her day searching for her missing dad, and once he returns she wants to hear stories of his trip to Canada because she’s still a little kid

In season 1 episode 3 Debbie gains a maternal figure in the senile woman her family steals borrows from a nursing home. She spends a full 24 hours loving her and creating memories she never got to have with either of her grandparents or Monica. She knows this isn’t the real Aunt Ginger but she mourns her loss as if she was real

In season 1 episode 4 Debbie borrows steals a neighbourhood toddler because she was desperate for attention and no one wanted to bake a pie with her. She tells her family she misses aunt ginger and fiona responds “who?”

In season 1 episode 10 Monica returns saying she loves her and misses her, but she’s here to take steal Liam and “start a family of her own”. Fiona moves out of the house, and in the end Monica leaves her yet again

In season 2 episode 3 Debbie witnesses an old man die and is horrified to learn that her loved ones can also die and therefore leave her forever

In season 2 episode 9 Monica returns and Debbie is the only one worried about her dead grandmother laying alone in a hospital freezer

In season 2 episode 11 Debbie’s mother attempts suicide in front of her and her new nephew isn’t even Lips so she lost him too

In season 2 episode 12 Debbie helps break her mother out of hospital and she leaves her yet again shouting “i love you debbie!” as she drives away

In season 3 episode 1 her father has been missing for 140 days and she’s the only one in the family who cares while the others ignore her fear of loosing Frank

In season 3 episode 2 Frank destroyed her history project and her childhood with it. She finally understands who he truly is and she has now lost both parents

[captainclickycat]

Can we just retire the phrase “boys will be boys” forever please? Please? I’ll pay cash money to get rid of it.

[leojurand]

also the fact that even in his calculated rage nicholas tells simon something like "i know you were forced to marry my mother and you were 15 and she was nearly twice your age but i can't excuse you denouncing her or me" :(

[feynavaley]

I keep seeing people claiming things that straight-up contradict canon about America and Canada's dynamic, so I'm going to clarify a couple of points.

What's canon: Canada makes America cry after insulting him at length during an argument. Once. (The other time, we don't get to see America's reaction, even though we can certainly surmise he doesn't take it well.)

What's NOT canon: Canada constantly bullies (or even abuses!) America, treats him horribly and believes to be above him.

As I have already stressed, Canada makes America cry at most two times in canon.

Now, this obviously isn't okay and I'm not claiming Canada's actions were right. However, people just love to dismiss the context. First of all, this isn't Canada just insulting America out of nowhere without a justification, they're in the middle of arguments. Not to mention, both times, America is the one who starts insulting Canada. (This is another thing people conveniently never mention.) Then, Canada answers and, with the spirits running so high, he definitely goes too far. Even so, there is a context that, without justifying it, does explain why he lashed out so.

Moreover, Canada insulting America definitely isn't their everyday dynamic. They're depicted at ease around each other numerous times, doing activities and spending time together. All instances in which both of them are nice and friendly, clearly enjoying what they're doing. To make this even clearer, in most of their interactions, Canada shows no hostility towards America and is, instead, very kind to him.

Lastly, regarding the assumption that Canada feels superior to America... that one is explicitly denied in canon. Canada does have some issues with America's behaviour, this much is true. However, he believes himself to be overall inferior to America, not superior. He explicitly says so.

With all this, I'm not trying to claim that Canada is perfect or that he never does anything wrong. Just like every person, he has his limits and flaws and even though he's generally nice and accommodating, he can reach the breaking point when put under a lot of stress and then, make mistakes. But not being perfect all the time doesn't make him a bad person either. Not when that faulty behaviour is so different from his normal one.