#why cant women exist without being objects of desire

[stardustivies]

why cant women be people

I like art that depicts women not posing seductively or gracefully but simply existing as human beings.

[ajaegerpilot]

i cant get out of my head this guy online i saw recently talking about how men need body positivity because.. all women, he says, regardless of how insecure they feel can look at their bodies sometimes and find themselves pretty. whereas men have a kind of ‘??’ relationship to their body and like . . . they don’t find themselves pretty, and just kind of . . . hope for the best wrt attracting partners. and like i really straddle this line, I do. like for my face, for my size, like lmao I have no idea what I offer. I hope I’m cute. I hope my face jives for future partners. and then sometimes I see my titties in the soft lighting of my bathroom and i’m like ‘nice titties’ but the rest of the time I’d rather not know that they exist (and i think my body looks kind of unnattractive the rest of the time). and like can we unpack this?

i cant get this out of my head because like one. sweeping statements are always going to be untrue. but like, i’m also just? can you imagine the level of unhealthy disconnect straight women must experience? to look at their bodies and find their bodies attractive (if they do)? it’s not like - sexual arousal or anything, but it certainly doesn’t feel like you should appraise your body. like that’s you, that’s your meat and bone and flesh and fat and hair, typically I don’t think if you understand the body in the mirror as your own, truly internalize it as yours, that you should find it attractive. it ought to be - dull. you’ve had it every day of your life. the common ancestor we all share never would have seen their face, and would have a distorted view of their own beauty (eg that venus of willandorf explanation of her having been a self portrait of a woman looking down).

and i don’t really know. what use body positivity really has. realistically. like for one, i really don’t see how like. okay look listen first of all. body positivity for plus size women, i think we can agree, really relies on hyperfeminity and a whole league of other things. like no one’s going to feel any such body positivity for gnc fat women or women who can’t meet white beauty standards or women with “”unnattractive”” stretch marks or whatever. or even, women without makeup. women without makeup, even if they’re thin, are often parsed as being ugly. lmfao literally ugly and sickly. so as far as i’m concerned body positivity, if its attempting to accomplish anything beyond selling products, it’s dragging its fucking feet to the point where it should just quit pretending that its trying to walk anywhere. like what is the accomplishment of bodypos?

i understand the purpose behind finding pride and love for your body if you’ve been told you should hate it and you deserve mistreatment or don’t deserve love because of it. but that’s as far as utility I can see body positivity having. because the way women have been oppressed throughout recent history and relegated to a few major roles namely mother, wife, or muse (rarely friend or comrade) to the men in their life . . . like it very much is the application of the body. the way women have been celebrated as the pinnacle of beauty is not because women are intrinsically more beautiful (for then we would have to discuss what the fuck even is beauty), but rather that men have been the dominant class in recorded history and thus the applications of women’s bodies have included two major purposes: motherhood and sexual titillation, and if you cannot provide these things you are not even managing to do the bare minimum of what is expected of, what is DEFINITIONALLY, your gender. like its not healthy????

like i understand . . . the politics of desire. most of us want to be loved. many of us want to have sex. the body is, for all genders, what we use to at least broach the topic. but for the life of me i can not understand why any man would want to be desired as women have been desired. what good does that do? isn’t it better to free our bodies from desirability politics and instead nurture the thought that our bodies are what we can do for each other and ourselves rather than objects to be admired? i swear to god str8 women are out here stanning kylo ren and benedict cumberbatch, and yeah theyre both thin but god pretty much any average man is better looking, like truly. yeah we cant snap our fingers and have sex or love fall into our laps, and yes we live in A Society so the quote endquote attractiveness of our bodies and faces will affect how we’re treated and what kind of opportunities in human connection we can have but i swear to god men. if you want to learn how to love your bodies it is NOT thru the mainstream body positive movement. 

if anyone made it this far, u have any thoughts?

[vatt-world]

value has changed political genre - power love after love -- death of father , sons r not mature central plot sub plot what is essential in story ? literary novels implusive one/cautious one/funny one group controlling idea in genre justice is restored because boss is more clever social drama genre - homelessness fantasy genre from characters pov this is why they live still rules exist in fantasy genre maturing of characters r able to handle fantasy powers they change their attitude mentality/morality/humanity characters have archs of change etha hunt tactical genius no childhood trauma deepen things education plot vs crime plot law and order -- what is happening outwardly /inwardly ozarks characters r developing and changing but its a crime story cops hv amnesia cops hv sucidal thots movie animated - automobiles talk to u why am i changing quality of luv .... various locations -- setups vs payoff they r clueless about kitchen they hv good car ppl behave differently depending on location in elevator location behavior different otherwise behavior is limited .... its enriching characters montages r cheap way of pumping exposition ..without dramtising pitch it to agent without agent impossible to get into hbo u need practise pitch world/arc /chracters 25 mins pitch u need to look at setups that need to be developed whole new problem, new needs whole new location ... introduce whole new character to develop series 2 sequel has to b radical new is the story honest ? if its not honest .. turn off ////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////// Bonus Q&A Session with Robert McKee anatagonism what does the story mean ? how and why life change ? indtify core value what was the force that changed core value ? controlling idea? core cause ? raise to ocassion they hv to evolve as human beings greater forces of antagonism story needs to go to limit limit of human experience strehgth -- weakness -- powerless -- inwardly -- they cant get up bed really weak but pretend to be strong mental strength weak testing plot mean girls - negation of negation some one pretends to b friend ordinary ppl anantogist negation mom develop characters .. life histories... worst poasssible/best thing narrative drive //////////////////////////////////////////////////// Bonus Q&A Session with Robert McKee subtext chinatown scene jack nick doesnt say that hi how r u doing (spiteful) what r ur fav movies ? they speak in character disney mammbi subtext integorating character u r aware subtext get actor characters love and actors need to listen each other put honesty sincerity in ur speech setups vs pauoffs arose curoisty dead body falls off need to empathy character apple character need to sense of integrity he made this iphone marketing first person novel protaganist telling the story y tu ma bien third person narrative counterpoint narrative /commenting more important /longer scene immersive theater to think as if ///////////////////////////////////////////////// this much i know it is true tv series really write well ///////////////////////////////////////////////// secondary character develops primary character Robert McKee's "The Art of the Inciting Incident" a single event crime /punishment action/reaction -- jaws --arose and curiosity action in back story /reaction horror story - monster invisible man -- movie crime story - crime is commited /discovered loing fr love/falling fr love fury social drama - social problem -- requiem in dream spractcus - revolts casablanca - 5 sub plots murder/refeguee/ rick rejects/bulgarian wife event driven story character driven story -- character makes a choice cops come with 30 parking tickets - she drives she cant work in sf uncle left 10 million dollars build out the character .. what needs to happen to make them maximum human life conceive the event arose in character balanced life - object od desire - death shark life in peace Carnal Knowledge- jack nicholson humliate and destroy women' he is luking fr ideal women

[marymosley]

Gender Pay Gap : An Unconscious Discrimination

Britannica defines Discrimination as “the intended or accomplished differential treatment of persons or social groups for reasons of certain generalized traits. The targets of discrimination are often minorities, but they may also be majorities, as black people were under apartheid in South Africa.” 

A number of terms have been coined as the society progressed, so are its methods to discriminate. Terms such as racism, sexism, anti-Semitism, homophobia, transphobia, or cissexism (discrimination against transgender persons), classism (discrimination based on social class), lookism (discrimination based on physical appearance), and ableism (discrimination based on disability) have found its very existence among us.

One of the Socio-psychological reason behind Discrimination finds its genesis in Social Identity Theory where an individuals belonging to a more prestigious and powerful group than others finds greater boost in morale and confidence that the rest of the others belonging to less powerful group. Further,  Discrimination that allows debasing and resultant deprivation of individuals belonging to less popular groups, of wealth and other resources by those belonging to powerful and prestigious groups gives them a sense of strengthening their group and indirectly serves as boost to the self-esteem and self-worth of the individuals of the powerful group. 

Although Discrimination contributes only a small part towards the gender pay gaps in India and the World. 

According to latest report of World Economic Forum on Global Gender Pay Gap 2020,  the Global Gender Pay Gap score (based on the population-weighted average) stands at 68.6%. This means that, on average, the gap is narrower, and the remaining gap to close is now 31.4%. While no country has yet managed to achieve full gender pay parity, the top 5 countries managed to close the gender pay gap by 80% with Iceland being the best performer for consecutive 11 years with gender pay gap closing by a score of 82%, while India stands at 112th Rank with an index score of 35.4%.

Among the 10 best performers on this subindex, four are from Sub-Saharan African (Benin has closed so far 84.7% of its Economic Participation and Opportunity gap; Burundi 83.7%; Zambia, 83.1% and Guinea, 80.3%); one is from Western Europe (Iceland, 83.9%); one is from East Asia and the Pacific region (Lao PDR, 83.9%); two are from Eastern Europe and Central Asia (Belarus, 83.7%, and Latvia, 81.0%); and two are from the Latin America and the Caribbean region (the Bahamas, 83.8%, and Barbados 80.8%). At the other end of the spectrum, economic opportunities for women are extremely limited in India (35.4%), Pakistan (32.7%), Yemen (27.3%), Syria (24.9%), and Iraq (22.7%).

In 1950s, the women, whether living in Asia or Europe or the United States, we’re often not educated and had not finished their college degree and not even been in one. Resultantly they come down to employed in menial jobs and grouping in Feminine Industries. 

Many factors responsible for the Gender Pay Gap were: Lower female Education Rate, Lower workforce participation of Women, Grouping in Traditionally Feminine Industries, the practice of Discrimination being completely Legal, and such other cultural norms like Women are less intelligent, Women cant hold power, Women should be HOMEMAKER, Women should raise children. Over the decades, things changed through various liberation and revolutionary movements. Many factors and cultural discrimination factors shrunk except for ONE: Women should raise children and is supposed to be a homemaker. This idea was prevalent in U.S., U.K., and even in progressive European countries. While when it comes to men, the majority of the population, even today, believes that newly become father should work full time. This is the Heart of the Pay Gap: unconscious discrimination.  

It seems Gender Pay Gap isn’t so much for being a woman but for being a ‘Mother’. It is therefore essential to change how we as a society look or perceive of women. The unconscious discrimination directly hits a sharp blow at the participation rates of women in the employment field. As a result, lesser participation due to maternity breaks, sabbatical required for family care, sick parents, etc. decreases leading to lesser promotions and a rise in an average gender pay gap.

According to the ‘Progress of the World’s Women 2019-2020’ report by United Nations Women, there are an estimated 13 million households run by single mothers while single fathers are far less constituting only to a small percentage. There is a lack of any cogent data on single fathers in India as the concept itself is rare.

In the US the number of single mothers is 3 times the number of single fathers, thus the majority of the children of single mother grows up learning that women are the caregivers. The roots of this issue go deep on how we understand FAMILY and mothers and fathers and that’s why the gap is so difficult to close.

While, Women in U.S. who do not wish to have children earns 96% to the men.

TALE OF TWO COUNTRIES: Iceland and Rwanda

Rwanda: 

The two countries almost closed their wage gaps in just a few decades. Rwanda is a poorest country on the globe and few decades ago, women were denied of their basic rights such as Right to vote or even to speak in public or to open a bank account without the authorization of her husband. In 1994, everything changed in Rwanda. The days of carnage and bloodshed in this central African country swept more than half of the male population. In just the span of 3 months 800,000 of people were  dead leaving the country with 70 to 80 percent of female population. Thus in order to rebuilt Rwanda, the participation of women became crucial. What started as a survival technique post genocide became the sole reason for bringing the equality of men and women in society and thus closing of the gender pay gaps. This had not only torned apart the traditional social fabric in totality but changed the very mindsets of the masses to combat the plague of ‘Female are Homemakers’ mentality. Women are later elected and allowed seats in parliament, in Naval and armed forces, in professions like Doctors, Engineers, lawyers, etc. which were earlier traditionally captured by males. Today, Rwanda has almost closed the Gender Pay Gap as each woman in the country makes 96% on a dollar a man makes. A host of new aggressive policies were introduced post genocide, including Monitoring mechanism to ensure gender equality. The new Preamble to the Constitution of Rwanda included commitment to Equal rights for both men and women making atleast a 30% participation of women at all levels of Government. Today, women in Rwanda holds 61% of the total seats in the Parliament, being the highest in the world.

Iceland:

In 1975, Iceland faced a major revolution from women across the country against the existing pay gap despite an adequate participation rate. The entire wave of revolution lead to dire scarcity of workforce in both organised and unorganised sector. This came as a turning point where women made themselves as a visible section of the society putting across demands and objecting to gender disparity. Resultantly, in 1980, Iceland welcomed its first democratically elected female President Ms. Vigdís Finnbogadóttir. In years to follow, a host of policies were introduced to boost both female participation in workforce as well as to establish pay parity. In 1981, Iceland for the first time, introduced to the world and made it mandatory for its corporate sector to provide Maternity Leave of 3 months, which was extended to 6 months in 1988. But this progressive law was rather reversing at its grassroot level as it encouraged more mothers to stay at home, strengthening the stereotypes of women being homemakers and responsible for childcare. To combat this, the country introduced mandatory Paternity Leave for newly become father which made the image of both men and women as caregivers and breadwinners. Today Iceland stands at first rank on Global Gender Pay Gap Index by with pay gap shrunk to 82% between men and women.

However the battle is far from being won worldwide and the fight somehow starts with men willing to share the burden of family equally as any gender pay gap holistically diminish the total family income. Thus it is a slap other way around on men as well. Food for thought.

About Author:

Pallavi Chauhan

A Legal Professional with over 6 years of experience in Corporate Laws and Environment Law. Presently working with National Commission for Protection of Child Rights under Ministry of Women and Child Development as a Legal Consultant.

(Views are Personal)

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[strawberry-siren]

every FREAKING day i make a day about how i’m freaking out, but i’m going to live or whatever. like i chose not to kill myself. but there really is no point. like there’s not. even if i go to a mental hospital, they really suck and they abuse patients, act like patients are infantile, like they’re not human. I don’t even have insurance, so the sheer price of that would mess up any chance i would ever have of making money or even just like…living–even if i wanted to. i dont even think treatment would be helpful. i dont think drugs would really help either.

i’ve tried weed before, and that’s the drug that everyone is always like “omg man weed totally takes away my anxiety.” no. weed literally did nothing to my sad and anxious thoughts. all it did was make me act completely spacey and waste time. i’ve heard from my friends that anti-depressants just make them feel empty. like just honestly whats the point of living and feeling empty? i did that for like a year to cope. i would just repress any emotion. i guess i lived another year. but it’s also like whats even the point. you’re not happy. you’re not anything. what’s the point of living like a zombie? like talk therapy wouldnt help because i’m not going to change….. i’ve had so many different therapists and it just really doesn’t do much… 

i should just go to church and follow their stupid rules because my family does and at least they would stop being mad at me and they could feel like they’re saving me even if church has no purpose. church honestly just makes me feel a million times worse and it is boring and kind of a waste of time for me. but, then they could be those people who talk about their reformed lesbian sister and how she found god and got her life together and is happy ! :-) i love sex and my sexuality, but it’s true that i’ve never even been in a real relationship. it’s not like relationships can save you… 

here’s another thing: ultimately everything is a two way road. people are not obligated to put up with me. i am draining. i am exhausting. i am boring. therefore i attempt to impose myself on people the least amount i can. but also i have poor impulse control, so i attempt to make friends despite this innate desire to minimize myself. it sucks though because relationships will never be permanent. there will never be a relationship that spans your lifetime. friends will leave. it’s just a fact of life. 

society itself doesn’t lend itself well to me. i grew up in an abrasive (and abusive) environment. i didn’t learn how to keep things to myself–or rather i recognized that you are supposed to keep all to yourself, and i fail at it. i burden people with my feelings far too often. like in some classes i might seem like the student who doesnt care, or in others, i am the student that makes too many comments or tries to talk about things they dont really grasp. I’m really just trying my best. but i know im stupid. im saying too many things. im saying wrong things. since i’m failing two of my classes, i just stopped going to them. so i go to art history, i feel stupid, i go home and cry. then on tuesdays and thursdays i go to theater and i try my best, but i feel untalented. i go home and i cry. 

because i’m just full of self-pity. no one wants a victim. i act haughty, i am narcissistic. but i am full of the exact opposite as well. i am one who is constantly at war with myself. i realize this is not a rare phenomenon though. 

like how can you want to live in a society where you’re wrong. In conservative circles, I’m wrong because of my desire and action upon my lesbianism. In liberal circles, I’m wrong because lesbian is a label that’s restrictive. Why aren’t you just Q****? let us call you q****. Don’t doubt that you can one day be attracted to men!

Artists are nothing. A dime a dozen. My art is meaningless. It’s all been done. Everyone wants something revolutionary.

 everything is dominated by men. my eyes are so open. from the smallest way we do things. how women give birth. names babies have. EVERYTHING was made by men. my chair. modern architecture. why i wear makeup. what my makeup is made out of. it’s all men. and i really do love individual men. i feel like a lot of men don’t realize things. but like it cant be ignored. it is a fact of life. until we completely remake our society, it exists to be hostile to me. and why should society conform to me…one person. 

im a sex object. im sexually repulsive. im fat. ugly. im beautiful. im cute. im the center of the universe. i’m purity– was virginity. im “dirty” now. a crumpled dollar bill. i am sex. im lust. im whatever label i prescribe to. im whatever label others project onto me. im all– i’m nothing. 

everything is utterly, utterly meaningless. words are words, meanings are meanings. “how nihilistic. how pessimistic” one may say. i suppose it’s true. nihilism can give a meaning to life. an inspiration to just let the forces of the world happen to you until you die. but it’s also i’m constantly feeling the weight of the world on me. the world that ultimately ignores me. 

“this is why you need god.”a god is a comforting notion to those faced with the uncertainty of death. i feel a god would not be so cruel. this notion of cruelty. why should a god care about humans. it’s the same hierarchical structure men have put me in– no thank you. not that i completely blame men. women could have done things. but men and women alike are selfish. why should straight women truly care about lesbians–they dont. no one truly cares. they do what makes them seem progressive. they perform. the worlds a stage and all that. we entertain ourselves, but for those who cannot find entertainment or arent forced to just spend their time working– those who must be confronted with their very existence, thoughts, ideas, ect. well no one cares. it’s all ultimately self-serving. 

everything you think. everything you do. it’s all for yourself. you may say “oh i do service for others!” well in the context of a church think about this. you do it because it will grant you favor with your god. it will give you the satisfaction that you are in a position above someone that you’re taking your time to “serve” them. Are you really doing this out of selflessness? 

There are

“Dont help panhandlers signs in utah. People ive talked to about this have been like “well there’s so much welfare available, there’s really no need to give them money because they’re just going to spend it on drugs.” as if drugs aren’t a cycle. as if being poor–being homeless is your own failure. not the failure of a society that lets people die. that lets people believe all the money you have– you’ve earned. I got money from my dad’s IRA when he died. Did I earn this? Because he worked until he died at 59, two and a half years ago. If it was my wage for how he raised me, the emotional labor I gave him, it was not enough money. If it’s just money because he worked his entire life, I didn’t earn that. Parents no longer even really hold up the “nuclear family” myth. I dont deserve this money. I deserve nothing. No one owes me anything. It would just be better to die than to continue taking up space and time of others. I am utterly unhelpful to society in general, personally, and as a whole. I will not contribute children. I will not bring joy to others. My art will achieve nothing. 

I am a commodity, an object. A Worker. Within my church, I was supposed to find a man to love and serve. To bear his children. To preach of God. In this regard, I am also useless. There is truly no point of my existence, and the world would truly be better without me.

[fanwarriorsunite4life]

So my bad anon, I totally ended up screwing up your ask and shiz by accident but i promise i got it- you wanted me to answer all questions so you got it:

lets get personal.

1: 6 of the songs you listen to most?

Its been varying a SHIT ton over the last two months especially, but ATM i currently love:

Body on Fire by Maggie Rose

Too Many Love Songs by Maggie Rose (notice a trend?)

B-A-B-Y by Carla Thomas

I Don’t Believe You - Pink

Life of the Party - All Time Low

Little Do You Know - Alex and Sierra

2: If you could meet anyone on this earth, who would it be?

um, all the people I’m gonna meet at ClexaCon in April! Celebs, other fans, and all! IM SO EXCITED ITS GONNA BE THE BEST FUCKING WEEKEND.

3: Grab the book nearest to you, turn to page 23, give me line 17.

There isnt a book next to me? theres random magazines on the kitchen table. page 23 is an add for Poise Impressa bladder leakage shit lol

4: What do you think about most?

I kinda really want to plead the fifth on this, but probably two things: how I want to make my work ethic better and make a better difference and how I dont feel I can do that until I get my personal shit together. And how I really want a certain someone to be at my side while I do that so I can be on theirs too. guess thats 3.

5: What does your latest text message from someone else say?

From my lil sis: “Okay, np”

6: Do you sleep with or without clothes on?

lmao it depends. If im really exhausted, then i may sleep without a shirt. If im with a SO then I will sleep naked, but I dont ever do that myself unless I’m just that hungover or something. So clothes it is. 

7: What’s your strangest talent?

I honestly dont know lol. erm... let me get back to you on that. Does it count if my left leg is wayyy more flexible than my right? dont ask me why. i have no clue 

8: Girls… (finish the sentence); Boys… (finish the sentence)

girls are a gift to the world. boys are a gift to the world. 

9: Ever had a poem or song written about you?

Not that I am aware of. Fun (not fun) fact: I’m way more afraid of not being spoken of than being spoken of poorly. idk man. if anyone has written a poem or song about me, plz feel free to share

10: When is the last time you played the air guitar?

holy shit, i have no clue. usually im more of an air drums person. in that case, yesterday. 

11: Do you have any strange phobias?

I HATE SPUDS ON POTATOES SPUDDY POTATOES SCARE THE SHIT OUT OF ME DONT PLAY 

12: Ever stuck a foreign object up your nose?

not that i reminder? maybe a coin or something as a kid? its very possible.

13: What’s your religion?

if i identified with anything, it would be an agnostic universalist.

14: If you are outside, what are you most likely doing?

hanging out with friends and family

15: Do you prefer to be behind the camera or in front of it?

behind, but i do have a secret desire to be in front of it. my insecurities currently outweigh my ego in putting myself in front of it, but if someone asked me to do it, i prob would. people just dont ask.

16: Simple but extremely complex. Favorite band?

Halestorm. Without a doubt.

17: What was the last lie you told?

oh god. I probably told one while canvassing today. I said i donated to one of the organizations that i represent but i dont. oops. did it to convince people that they are good orgs to donate too (in my defence, they ARE and they are wonderful orgs, i just dont have the money to donate)

18: Do you believe in karma?

yes, but i dont really use karma for consistent rationalization

19: What does your URL mean?

WE ARE ALL FAN WARRIORS OF OUR OWN FANDOMS AND WE SHOULD ALL FUCKING UNITE IN OUR AWESOMENESS

20: What is your greatest weakness; your greatest strength?

Greatest weakness? I’m loyal to a fault and will fight for what I want till the bitter end. I’m recently admitting that I have the martyr complex, im pretty sure. Strength? You get me passionate about something, you gain my love, then I’m all in. I’ll work my ass off for whatever that is. 

21: Who is your celebrity crush?

Kat barrell and Natasha Negovanlis, as of rn. but i love so many others

22: Have you ever gone skinny dipping?

nope

23: How do you vent your anger?

i dont. i bottle it up and try to avoid it. I’ve been trying to go to the gym tho; that helps when i actually do it. writing helps too, when i do it. Definitely need to find a better way to deal with my emotions. its harder to find time during adult life mayn.

24: Do you have a collection of anything?

comics, poetry books, my own writings, quarter collection... probably something else im not thinking of

25: Do you prefer talking on the phone or video chatting online?

FACETIME IS WHERE ITS AT

26: Are you happy with the person you’ve become?

Yes and no. 

27: What’s a sound you hate; sound you love?

Sound I hate? loud city noises, particularly construction shit. Love? ... I hate myself, but the sound of people I love telling me they love me too. SHUTUP ITS A SOUND I SAID NOTHING WHAT

28: What’s your biggest “what if”?

Usually its “What if I didn’t fuck up?” or “What if I was reincarnated into something?”

29: Do you believe in ghosts? How about aliens?

I wanna believe in ghosts but i cant say i do. Aliens: hell yeah.

30: Stick your right arm out; what do you touch first? Do the same with your left arm.

Right - kitchen towel and my ECU bag and keys. Left - magazine and table

31: Smell the air. What do you smell?

my house’s normal smell. and food i just ate.

32: What’s the worst place you have ever been to?

My own mind at its worst. Or, physical place, probably a mental hospital.

33: Choose: East Coast or West Coast?

I cant say; I’ve never been West. So East for now until I see the West.

34: Most attractive singer of your opposite gender?

I like never think about this. um. Zayn is cute?

35: To you, what is the meaning of life?

Finding a reason to breathe. Sometimes its family, friends, work, money, power- I think everyone’s meaning of life is different.

36: Define Art.

anything you make to express yourself or help yourself heal.

37: Do you believe in luck?

I kinda have too, I was an athlete.

38: What’s the weather like right now?

dark and cloudy.

39: What time is it?

7:07 pm and im totally running late to pick up my sis. (update - finishing this around 11:11 ooo make a wish cause i had to go get my sis so)

40: Do you drive? If so, have you ever crashed?

Yes. Never “crashed” but have hit someone before and have been hit.

41: What was the last book you read?

A poetry book by Lauren Zuniga. That counts.

42: Do you like the smell of gasoline?

No, but I like the smell of paint. 

43: Do you have any nicknames?

Laur-Laur, jiggles, cheesecake, Lo-ren, bean-bean.. others I dont think I should name i guess

44: What was the last film you saw?

Baby Driver

45: What’s the worst injury you’ve ever had?

Injury? Concussion. worst fucking thing of my life. it really was my fault though.

46: Have you ever caught a butterfly?

no

47: Do you have any obsessions right now?

oh god yes. if you know me, you know i always obsess. right now, carmilla and wynonna earp are my top two. easily.

48: What’s your sexual orientation?

bisexual, preference for women, fight me

49: Ever had a rumour spread about you?

I honestly dont know

50: Do you believe in magic?

I want too.

51: Do you tend to hold grudges against people who have done you wrong?

yeah. Well, yes and no. i dont hold a grudge to never have them apart of my life usually, but i never forget what they did to me. never.

52: What is your astrological sign?

Leo

53: Do you save money or spend it?

lol spend. i need to save. so bad.

54: What’s the last thing you purchased?

groceries

55: Love or lust?

I know this may shock people that know me, but love. lust isnt any good without it. thats what i would pick if i had to choose, but i rather like the idea they exist together. they can exist separately, but they go best together for me personally.

56: In a relationship?

no, but i hope things will get better.

57: How many relationships have you had?

ones I actually really loved being in wholeheartedly? 1. total? 4. I’d say 5 but im not really counting one of them lol.

58: Can you touch your nose with your tongue?

hell yeah

59: Where were you yesterday?

work and then home feeling down. then i played my video game, Just cause 3, till midnight

60: Is there anything pink within 10 feet of you?

magazine

61: Are you wearing socks right now?

yes

62: What’s your favourite animal?

kangaroos and zebras

63: What is your secret weapon to get someone to like you?

... be a huge fucking dork and hope they dont fucking hate me

64: Where is your best friend?

.......the ones talking to me? charlotte, greensboro, greenville, raleigh (NC), texas... the one not talking to me? ... virginia/dc area

65: Give me your top 5 favourite blogs on Tumblr.

any of the ones with funny text posts/memes on wynonna earp and carmilla

66: What is your heritage?

im a white asshole with some native american in me. Choctaw. I need to learn more about my family history AND remember it.

67: What were you doing last night at 12AM?

finishing up playing my name

68: What do you think is Satan’s last name?

angelface

69: Be honest. Ever gotten yourself off?

BWAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHA dear fuck yes. duh. oh my fucking god im laughing so hard at this.

70: Are you the kind of friend you would want to have as a friend?

loyal to a fault and there at your beck and call? yeah. not always the best listener? nah

71: You are walking down the street on your way to work. There is a dog drowning in the canal on the side of the street. Your boss has told you if you are late one more time you get fired. What do you do?

I’m gonna save the fucking dog and my boss can kiss my damn ass.

72: You are at the doctor’s office and she has just informed you that you have approximately one month to live. a) Do you tell anyone/everyone you are going to die? b) What do you do with your remaining days? c) Would you be afraid?

I’d definitely tell people. At first I wouldn’t know how, and id contemplate if its important enough to tell or not, but eventually i would. id start with those close to me. idk if id want to tell everyone. id want to travel a damn lot with those i love. go new places, try new things, build as many memories as possible. because hell yeah id be afraid. I’m terrified of death and the afterlife; not knowing what happens after we pass. 

73: You can only have one of these things; trust or love.

I think love is built on trust, so love. trust isnt always built on love.

74: What’s a song that always makes you happy when you hear it?

love on top, beyonce. literally saved my life freshman year of college.

75: What are the last four digits in your cell phone number?

F8ME

76: In your opinion, what makes a great relationship?

kinda a big one, especially for myself lately. um. I think a great relationship has a good foundation. because in the end, every relationship faces struggles and is gonna be “tested”, for lack of a better word. and what can we turn back to when we feel things arent where they need to be? the foundation. its like a house; if somethings wrong with it, but the foundation is still sturdy, its probably possible and worth fixing. if the foundation is cracked, its more risky; if the foundation is completely crushed, then its probably not a great relationship anymore.

77: How can I win your heart?

Unless you’re the person who currently has my heart right now, you can’t. or if you’re a dog. dogs win my heart. if you’re a dog, congrats. the person who has my heart has to share. sorry, i dont make the rules.

78: Can insanity bring on more creativity?

how is this a question? the craziest fucking people in the world are the most creative. Yes, yes, and more yes.

79: What is the single best decision you have made in your life so far?

this is intense. hmmmm. making a tumblr and going back on it in college. yeah. it led to my last relationship. best damn thing that ever happened to me.

80: What size shoes do you wear?

10 or 11

81: What would you want to be written on your tombstone?

I’d want someone else to write a poem or something about me. i dont want to be buried. cremation bitch (after taking my organs out for science of course)

82: What is your favourite word?

currently i really just like cussing. fuck.

83: Give me the first thing that comes to mind when you hear the word; heart.

the name of my current ex. 

84: What is a saying you say a lot?

We accept the love we think we deserve.

85: What’s the last song you listened to?

i legit am trying to look at my iphone to see what last played in my car, but its being an asshole. I wanna say the last i remember is Craving you by Thomas Rhett. im already listening to wayy more country than i usually do lately.

86: Basic question; what’s your favourite colour/colours?

in order: purple, blue, red

87: What is your current desktop picture?

A quote that says: “i know you’re sad, so i wont tell you to have a good day. Instead, I’ll simply advice you to have a day. Stay Alive, feed yourself well, wear comfortable clothes, and dont give up on yourself just yet. it’ll get better. until then, have a day.”

88: If you could press a button and make anyone in the world instantaneously explode, who would it be?

Can I make an entire building explode? preferably -cough- a building that houses certain gov officials i am not happy with -cough-?

89: What would be a question you’d be afraid to tell the truth on?

Any question that I know would upset someone. I’m working on trying to not be honest to a fault. to be honest when need be, and to know when i dont need to be brutally honest. im terrified of being too honest again in general.

90: One night you wake up because you heard a noise. You turn on the light to find that you are surrounded by MUMMIES. The mummies aren’t really doing anything, they’re just standing around your bed. What do you do?

honestly, scream and be frozen in fear. idk man. wheres my baseball bat when i need it? idc if they arent doing anything, they need to GTFO of my room.

91: You accidentally eat some radioactive vegetables. They were good, and what’s even cooler is that they endow you with the super-power of your choice! What is that power?

teleportation

92: You can re-live any point of time in your life. The time-span can only be a half-hour, though. What half-hour of your past would you like to experience again?

holy crap. wow. a half hour? idk. theres a lot. a recent one is the hayley kiyoko concert though. that concert was just absolutely phenomenal. 100/10

93: You can erase any horrible experience from your past. What will it be?

I wouldnt erase any horrible experience, because they made me who i am and helped me learn what i know. if i hadnt experienced what i experienced, that one thing not happening can change my entire life.

94: You have the opportunity to sleep with the music-celebrity of your choice. Who would it be?

Honestly, right now, I wouldnt. and i dont think i ever would. i get too starstruck easily and have way too much respect and awe for the celebrities i like. i honestly do think of them as higher beings than me (not gods but like, ya know, out of my league lmao) so nah. now if we become friends and theyre a cuddler? then yes i will SLEEP next to them. SLEEP.

95: You just got a free plane ticket to anywhere. You have to depart right now. Where are you gonna go?

i have that crazy urge to travel like a crazy person rn, so if i only had one free plane ticket, i’d go somewhere i otherwise couldnt right now, like italy. i really want to go to italy one day.

96: Do you have any relatives in jail?

not that im aware of, but who knows

97: Have you ever thrown up in the car?

...actually yes! I was severely dehydrated once and my mom had me drink 3 bottles of water back to back. then we got in the car and as she started driving, i got sick, so she pulled over and i sat there getting ready to vomit when a cop pulled over and was like “hey, you okay?” and my mom just explained i was sick, and as he walked over to look at me thats when i threw up ALLLLL that water. he stepped back so quick and was all like “do you want me to call an ambulance?”. it was great. thats how you get rid of cops. throw up in front of them (sarcasm)

98: Ever been on a plane?

Yup! ive flown to new hampshire and kansas before.

99: If the whole world were listening to you right now, what would you say?

probably some long ass rant about how fucked up the world is and how we need to turn around our governments and get them to work back for the people, not for fucking corporations and capitalism, or the capitalistic aspects of socialism. 

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Feminism and Asymmetries equality

The expansion of feminist movements in recent decades has shown remarkable progress. But to this day, feminism still provokes the relentless prejudice of some social movement retainers. Feminism is considered contradictory because it carries the ‘idea of gender equality’, which only defends oppression on one people only: women. Some of these prejudices arise because of the fact that the persecution has never known gender. But some of us are still vague about the fact that women are the most helpless in facing all the oppression (oppression, red) created by today’s patriarchal society. Why? Before we answer that question, it would be good to understand first what patriarchism is, which is the feminist’s main enemy, and matriarchism as a thesis always confronted with patriarchy. Patriarchism is a social system that places men as a central authority figure in many social organizations. Patriarchy is a form of crystallization of patrilineal culture. in other hand there is a matriarchism, which is also a derivative form of matrilineal culture. Then where did this conflict begin? Engels gave an explanation of the conflict that began when femininity became subordinate and considered second class in society. In the past, the same masculine and feminine tasks in the family have now shifted. The tasks performed by a mother are second-rate and are considered no greater than the duties of a father. There is never a problem when women’s duties in the domestic sphere are rewarded equal to men’s duties. But conflicts begin when women are subordinated and considered to be no more important than men. Besides that, there is Bachofen, a contemporary and like-minded philosopher with Marx, has managed to explain the development and shifting matriarchy to patriarchy in his work entitled Myth Religion and Mother Right. Here Bachofen explains matriarchism originating from matrilineal where from a mother, the concept of altruism, and universal equality is passed on to the child. A mother loves her children without choosing a child also learns to love from her mother. This self-concept that builds the character and principles of freedom, equality, happiness and the unconditional recognition of life. Changed by the matrilineal principle, patrilineal speaks of law, order, truth, and hierarchy. Even Bachofen explain that balanced fraternity and awakened from the hands of the mother, now turned into a competition and hierarchical domination in the hands of the father. Even more, Fromm says that this patriarchal principle of upholding the competition is the ultimate form of evolution. But this does not necessarily make matriarchism a fragile and obsolete concept. Furthermore, Erich Fromm examines the flaws and advantages of these two concepts. Matriarchism has advantages in the idea of equality, universality, and unconditional soul recognition. While this idea is weak because it is in blood and ground bonds. Weak in terms of progress. On the other hand, patriarchism excels in the principle of truth, law, the progress of the science of civilization and the development of spirituality. But the concept of patriarchism becomes flawed because it is thick with elements of hierarchy, oppression, inequality and inhumanity. In this case, patriarchy is impossible to establish a balanced and classless society. Gradually, the matriarchism manifested in subsistence life was displaced by patriarchism that promised a progress and a civilization. The principles of competition built by patriarchism now give rise to new enemies for the feminist as equally powerful and dangerous from his own father: Capitalism. Capitalism is a consequence of the principle of endless competition built by patriarchal society. In this case, it is not capitalism that preserves patriarchal culture, but patriarchal cultures give space and opportunity for capitalism to thrive and be invincible. Gender Conflict : Reality or imagination? From the historical concept that the author tried to point out above still get a rebuttal because it seems imposed. But Bachofen’s thought is not an image. Several decades later there have been many researches on communication patterns and the psychological dimensions between the genders. One of today’s linguistic linguists is Deborah Tannen. The results of his research prove the existence of differences in basic communication patterns in men and women. Men tend to promote Ethics of Right, they build a communication to achieve status, male communication patterns are filled with something called Nietczhe as desire for power and hierarchy. While women prioritize Ethics of Care and tend to communicate to build a relationship, in this case women emphasize the principle of equality, women will always fight with the dominance of any kind due to his desire for the equivalent, when men clashed with all kinds of Domination due to the unwillingness to lose and oppressed. This description is not an attempt to be sexist, this is a prove by a professor of linguistics from Georgetown University. In the eyes of women, equality is an antecedent. While some men pursue equality as a consequence. This asymmetry becomes a vital source of conflict. Indeed, we no longer need to ask where the conflict between the gender. The fight between two men will be strong as they build the same competition principle. But the feud between men and women becomes an unequal and never-ending feud. Caused for women conflict will stop when equality has been reached, but in male communication, the conflict will stop when there has been found a winner. Feminism: A Continuous Catharsis From these conflicts, Feminism, which became popular with the Suffragettes movement in UK, came as a catharsis. These marginalized conflicts did seem latent before that time, a breakthrough of the resistance movement that opened the eyes of the whole world that women workers were deeply wounded by their helplessness in the face of oppression in the era of industrial revolution. This oppression continues to this day, women are now no longer an object and have even become a tool of oppression itself. The era of Capitalism is now dragging women into diving in the flow of competition. Until the reveal of many Post-Feminist movement are no longer asking for equality, but are further dragged into the pattern of patriarchal communication that requires women to give birth to a position exchange movement to dominate. Oppression, patriarchism, and capitalism are not gender-sensitive. But they are born out of balance of gender communication. According to Tannen, when men sit with other men, it is more likely to create rules that require competition and hierarchy than when men sit with women. Feminist dreams are not interrupted by 30% in parliament. It was a superficial and hasty conclusion. The voice in parliament does not have the slightest of the Feminist ideals. Feminism dreams of a just and equitable society order, feminism tries to provide a balanced space, where masculinity and femininity combine into a harmony. Feminism directly against the concept of patriarchy and its derivatives, of which are Capitalism and Market Principles. In achieving this, the Feminist movement prepared many missions to fight for. One way is to enter parliament in the hope that new constitutions will be more sensitive to gender differences. As noted by Rocky Gerung, “Feminists are tired of boasting the reason for the high mortality of mothers and children, because of bacterial in the hospital.” Feminists understand this simply because of gender notions in the state budget. There are many more feminist political endeavors in fighting for their ethical feminists, not just with the movement of consciousness towards fellow women. In addition, the feminist movement also tries to free human beings from stereotypes by engaging them in the struggle for equality. Then what kind of equality does feminists aspire to? Feminism envisioned a harmonious equality in an asymmetrical order. The point is that feminism yearns for an equality that allows the unconditional and unimpressed right of life for all classes, even for men. Feminism yearns for an acceptance of the psychological and linguistic asymmetry that becomes the basic instinct of men and women. Feminism dreams of an equal, just, free society of oppression but still progressing. But this new feminist movement is still fragmented due to too many patriarchal products to be resisted. They are still wondering about who is the specific enemy of feminism, and why bringing the concept of one gender in the struggle for equality. Feminism takes aim at the same enemies as other resistance movements, but an epistemic process that brings different philosophical assumptions that make feminism marginalized and perceived as an egocentric movement to this day If we try to understand the feminist ethic more deeply, we will find the fact that feminism offers a more complex and have intersectionality form. Equality that enables everyone to feel safe and comfortable under its auspices, where this equality provides a place for all concepts of thought, even those of a competitive principle. A hope that is still very long to arrive at this feminist ideals, we cant make it alone. We still provide empty seats for men to join and fight together, toward the Future of Feminists.

[the5thforce-blog]

Morality

If the prostate really felt so good all women would be knocking down men's doors for sex as the female prostate is the skenes gland located in the same place as the urethra at the edge of the vaginal canal, not to mention the male prostate is located at an angle very difficult to reach using a penis without permanently injuring the sphincter and walls of the rectum, the sensation of needing to pee can enhance sex but very few are capable of 'prostate induced orgasm' while the hemorroids, anal fissures, and toxic human waste ensure that its almost never worth pursuing for men, notice it is usually women who claim the prostate feels so great when in reality it feels no different than the skenes gland which is much more accessible Animal sexuality is almost entirely dictated by pheromones, pheromone sensory disorder or residual scent from a female is the only reason males occasionally mount other males with the intention of rubbing their own pheromones on the inferior male but still intended for the females, animals that mount members of the same sex will mount anything including nonliving objects, their owners legs- etcetera, homosexuality is anatomically impossible for the vast majority of animals, the protruding genitals that bonobos have is a serious injury risk, even then homosexual orgasm has never been proven and exclusive oral sex has never been observed in any animal The factors which make sex unenjoyable for lesbians ensure their sons cannot enjoy even benign anal stimulation to enhance hetero sex or masturbation without injury Gays can never be prepared for what goes wrong in children which theyre most likely to cause by having weak genes that dont allow them to enjoy sex to begin with, this includes mental illness genes All energy is dictated by physics, mental illness is a physical illness, the mind is only made of photons and radiation and memory is made of brain cells Gay procreation creates the worst type of disability- an otherwise able bodied person who is completely undesireable, why would any good healthy father choose a lesbian to have his children and why would any healthy straight person procreate with the children of homosexuals Sex is the highest form of empathy which means lack of empathy for the opposite gender is already a sign of weak genes, If gays cant enjoy sex how would their kids enjoy sex regardless of orientation? Inability to enjoy sex is itself a disability, with enough imagination all heterosexuals could choose homosexual behavior but they'd only be settling for less, however, truly dysfunctional sex organs could never hope to enjoy heterosexuality, technology is already able to improve the lack of ability to enjoy hetero sex so to think that homosexuality wont be treated as a disorder in the future once technology can fully cure sexual disability is only ignorance Gays who have children not only ruin things for other gays who know they have incompatible sex organs/genes and would never attempt to spread them, but infinitely worse they bring a new life into the world with the same less sexually-able genes, since we dont plaster the media with other disabilities we should stop promoting gays in the media which children consume the most of, though of course jobs accomodating the truly disabled is in everyones best interest Until every gay can admit they have a physical disability be it in the brain or body, homosexuality will continue to exist under a pathological sense of self perfection where gays can do no wrong and an inflated ego enabled by society Whether its bad sex genes or brain genes (usually both as cells only differ so much) fundamentally they arent worth spreading, sexual dysfunction needs to be the cutoff for procreation otherwise their children not only get stuck with bad genes but are then forced into social obscurity to ensure they never even have a chance to develop properly If a woman desires children but truly cant get enough clit in her mouth she should consider having her ribs removed to end her 'suffering', rather than ruin the lives of her own children and everyone elses hard fought for daughters I would treat gays who choose to spread their genes even worse than a cancer patient who goes and gets pregnant, the social isolation gay parents put their children through is the single worst circumstance imagineable, any gay couple who cant understand that deserves to be locked in a cell with eachother with nothing new to say or do until they cant even stand to look at eachother or anyone (anything) else, that is what they put their children through and no child wants a for-pay artificial friend or family offered by ridiculous companies like 'big brother', especially not the same gender if the child is straight, gay procreation can only create the perfect kamikaze which is an able bodied but sexually disabled person be it a lack of function, aesthetic or both, who only fears more of themselves being created I have been told face to face by a lesbian with a son that she would rather die than be around men and that both the vagina and sex are disgusting, she even believed that the human penis had a bone in it, obviously such a person could never be fit for parenting, this same lesbian mother once hit her 11 year son in the face for disagreeing with homosexuality even though he never laid a finger on her, he grew up to be very, very troubled, and sadly the mother who herself had been abused as a child made a career out of teaching young children April 29, 2017