#who is also a victim of chronic physical and mental illness

[loverboykirstein]

a new administrator was hired last week… older woman, spent 2 hours explaining an excel table to her… walked into work today to see a massive blue lives matter sticker on her name plate.

get me OUT of here

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little repost

The dracula case.

Richard Chase , aka The Vampire of Sacramento.

He was nicknamed this, as he drank the blood of his victims and cannibalized their remains. Everyone in his life knew he was mentally ill, even his own mother! Please proceed at your own risk, as this case mentions children, the dismemberment of people, etc. It may be a little bad, this is my second time making this type of post!

Richard Trenton Chase was born on May 23rd in 1950, he was an American spree killer who murdered six people in Sacramento, California. He was allegedly abused by his mother whilst growing up, though his father also physically disciplined him but that was usual for the time. By the age of 10, he already checked out for the MacDonald triad, which is bed wetting, animal torture and fire setting. Chase realized very young about his dark urges, though not ever being able to be in with a girl due to his impotence, he in adolescence then became an alcoholic with a chronic drug problem. Chase, keep in mind, was a paranoid schizophrenic, moving out from his mother because he personally believed his mother was trying to poison him. He moved in with a couple friends, they often complained that he smelt of weed, though he never cared, paying no attention to guests, walking around naked, they eventually got tired of him, telling him to move out. But he refused, so they moved out instead.

Whilst alone, he began to torture animals, he would dismember these animals, making them into milkshakes blended into cola. He had a belief that his heart was shrinking, that it wasn't beating correctly since his childhood, he believed consuming blood and the animal remains would help him from not dying.

In 1975, he was institutionalized due to his blood poisoning from injecting animal blood into his veins. He scared the patients horribly, even the nurses, they gave him the nickname "Dracula", being described as awfully bizarre. He was then prescribed medication, being taken out from the ward in 1976 after being deemed safe (My god, were they wrong.) Anyways, he was placed in the care of his mother. His mother, the cruel woman she was, got tired of her son, kicking him practically out, forbidding him to take his anti psychotic medication, claiming that it made him boring, dulling his personality, like a zombie, even though advised not to by the doctors. So she instead got him his own apartment. When he got his own apartment, he began to eat dogs and birds, hanging them up. Chase's neighbor, said she saw cats and dogs enter the apartment then never go out, so she never knew what happened to them, though she could have reported it, as it was not allowed for them to have animals.

The killings

He used a .22 Automatic handgun to kill his victims, first was a drive-by shooting, then the rest were home invasions. After shooting his victims, he would mutilate, drinking the blood, he would engage within necrophilia with female victims only. The victims include : An unidentified woman ( Shot, but missed ) Ambrose Griffin, 51 ( Shot in the chest. ) An unidentified boy, 12 ( Shot, missed. ) Teresa, 22 ( Shot twice in the head, then once in the hand! She was repeatedly stabbed, her organs removed, cut off her nipples, forcing her to eat dog feces, partially eaten at. Also necrophilia was done to her body, three months pregnant. ) Daniel Meredith, 51 ( Shot, then mutilated. ) Evelyn Miroth, 38 ( Slashed throat, shot, disemboweled, partially eaten,  failed to take out one of her eyes, engaged in necrophilia. ) Jason 6, ( Shot, then brutally mutilated once dead. ) David 1, ( Shot, eaten partially and mutilated. )

Facts

In 1977, Chase was arrested in Lake Tahoe, he had a bucket of blood, also guns in his car. He managed to convince an officer it was just from an animal, so there was no report made. ( He claimed it was cows blood, specifically. ) Witnesses saw him with a dog once, though the dog was never recovered so they truly never saw it again, so they never knew what happened to it, this is the same time the lake incident had happened. He had delusions of an alien force, and insisted he only ate humans because the outside forces were going to steal his blood! He thought his heart was shrinking as I mentioned, so ingesting blood also helped him from not dying. He had schizophrenia noticeable in his childhood, but it worsened throughout when he got older. He had a stable life at 20, but it crumbled. He then got into the ward, though he had killed one before, his mother insisted and weared him off his medication, making him go onto a whole spree. He also had hypochondria. Neighbors heard him shooting at the walls, he claimed it was the voices he had heard. He lied about his mental illnesses, so he could get his weapon of choice, it happened after he had purchased it. He killed small puppies, trying to steal a large dog, but luckily, he failed. His sister was afraid of him. In prison, he spoke about ufos and nazis, being afraid of them, wanting to get a gun to protect himself, he also claimed to be jewish, drawing the star of david on his forehead. He believed the prison leagues were in contact with the Nazis, trying to kill him with the food. He was sentenced to death by , but instead, at 11:05 am, December 26th, 1980, he killed himself from an overdose when he was hoarding his medication. The reasons truly were unknown. more may be added later! I hope you enjoyed. :)

[literaryvein-reblogs]

How would you go about writing someone with mental issues? Conditions like schizofrenia?

There is a lot of awful takes that essentially end up being caricatures while actual people wity the condition are often quite chill. It's difficult to do them justice while also not being able to fully understand how it is

Writing about Mental Health Conditions

Questions to Ask When Reporting on Mental Health

Is mental illness relevant to this story? If not, there is no need to mention it.

What is your source? Don’t rely on hearsay to report that a person has a mental illness. If you are reporting on a specific condition, make sure you are talking to a mental health professional to provide the facts. Mental health organisations like the APA can connect you with experts to discuss a wide range of mental health and substance use disorders, as well as the medications and techniques used to treat them.

What is the most accurate language to use? See below for advice about language that is specific and avoids derogatory terms.

Choose Your Words Carefully

The words you use to write about mental health are very important, and can help reduce stigma around mental illness if carefully chosen.

ONE. Focus on the person, not the condition. The basic concept is that the mental health condition (or physical or other condition) is only one aspect of a person’s life, not the defining characteristic.

Preferred: She is a person with schizophrenia.

Not preferred: She is schizophrenic.

TWO. Be specific. Mental illness is a general condition. Specific disorders are types of mental illness and should be used whenever possible (see below for a brief list and definitions of common disorders).

Preferred: He was diagnosed with bipolar disorder

Not preferred: He was mentally ill

THREE. Avoid derogatory language. Terms such as psycho, crazy and junkie should not be used. In addition, avoid words like “suffering” or “victim” when discussing those who have mental health challenges.

Preferred: She has a mental health illness. She has a substance use disorder.

Not preferred: She suffers from mental illness. She’s a drug abuser.

Common Mental Health Terms

The following are definitions of some of the most common mental health disorders. For more complete descriptions, consult Understanding Mental Disorders: Your Guide to DSM-5 or the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders.

Addiction - a chronic brain disease that causes compulsive substance use despite harmful consequences.

Alcohol and Substance Use Disorders - the overuse of alcohol or drugs leading to effects that are detrimental to the individual’s physical and mental health, or the welfare of others.

Autism Spectrum Disorders - a range of complex developmental disorders that can cause problems with thinking, feeling, language and the ability to relate to others.

Bipolar Disorder - (also commonly known as manic depression) is a brain disorder that causes shifts in a person’s mood, energy and ability to function.

Depression - a common and serious medical illness that causes feelings of sadness and/or a loss of interest in activities once enjoyed; it can lead to a variety of emotional and physical problems.

Eating Disorders - illnesses in which people experience severe disturbances in their eating behaviors and related thoughts and emotions; anorexia nervosa, bulimia nervosa and binge eating disorder are the three main types.

Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) - an anxiety disorder in which people have recurring, unwanted thoughts, ideas or sensations (obsessions) that make them feel driven to do something repetitively (compulsions).

Posttraumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) - a psychiatric disorder that can occur in people who have experienced or witnessed a traumatic event such as a natural disaster, a serious accident, a terrorist act, war/combat, rape or other violent personal assault.

Schizophrenia - a chronic brain disorder with symptoms that can include delusions, hallucinations, trouble with thinking and concentration, and lack of motivation.

Facts about Mental Illness

Misconceptions and myths about mental health are unfortunately common. The following are a few facts about mental illness in the United States, as well as key resources for the latest statistics on mental health:

In any given year, more than 1 in 5 adults in the U.S. has a diagnosable mental disorder.

One in 20 adults has a serious mental illness.

One in 6 adults has a substance use disorder (including alcohol use disorder).

Half of all chronic mental illness begins by age 14.

Suicide is the 11th leading cause of death for all ages and the second leading for people ages 10 to 34. It is more common than homicide.

Most people with mental illnesses are no more likely to be violent than those without a mental health disorder. In fact, people with a mental health disorder are at significantly higher risk of becoming victims of violence compared to the general population

Excerpted from The Centre for Addiction and Mental Health (CAMH):

Write often about mental health challenges—the greater awareness generated about mental health, the more chance there is of helping people who have problems associated with these illnesses.

Let us know if you are looking for story ideas—we have lots of them and would be more than happy to share these ideas with you (you can find their contact details here).

We are asking for your help in reducing the stigma around mental illness including addiction because stigma is a huge problem for people living with mental illness.

We can accomplish this by dispelling some of the negative stereotypes that follow people who have mental illness such as: people with mental illness including addictions are all potentially violent and dangerous; are somehow responsible for their condition; and have nothing positive to contribute.

Labels matter. Don’t describe a person with a substance use disorder as a “heroin addict,” “drug user,” or “alcoholic.” Defining a person by their disorder makes the disorder become that person’s “master status”—the reader or viewer will only see the person as defined by the illness not by who they really are as an individual.

Help reduce stigma by not leaving the person out when describing an individual. When a person is called a schizophrenic, the reader will only see the disorder and conjure up mental images that are likely negative and stereotypical. The same can be said for a person who is called a “manic-depressive or a "depressed person.” Chances are they could be receiving treatment for these symptoms and are in fact not feeling depressed at all.

Exploring Mental Health in Fiction

As fiction writers, we take normal, everyday conflict and crank it up to a 10 to make our stories compelling.

In a mental health focused novel, it’s the absence of and quest for mental health that’s the meat of the story, the source of the conflict at its heart.

What drives the plot is not what happens in the story, but the interplay between external factors and the hero’s response to them.

There are dos and don’ts to writing about neurodivergence or mental illness that will make your characters and their struggles ring true—not flat and stereotypical.

Origin of Your Character’s Mental Health Issue. This can be rich in terms of your story creation. Even if you only hint at it in the narrative, as an author, you need to understand the root cause of your character’s struggle before you decide what the manifestation will be. Family quirks, trauma, relocation, immigration—all of these can impact mental health.

Your Own Past and Life and Family. The old write-what-you-know adage can prove fertile ground for character development.

Understand the Role Mental Health Will Play in Your Story. Is the story about mental illness? Based on something very familiar that you know well? Is the book set in a psychiatric hospital? Is the condition a side issue, a challenge that makes your protagonist’s life a little more complicated?

Be Accurate and Avoid Stereotypes. If you are not writing something autobiographical, drawing on your own personal experiences, make sure to do your research. Interview people, read articles by and about those with the psychological challenges you intend to feature. Make sure to keep it three-dimensional, even if your book is about being mentally ill. No one is just depressed or just anxious. No character is the sum of their quirks and ticks. Make sure any character with a mental health issue is well-rounded and interesting in other ways.

Don’t Be Afraid to Lean Into the Humor. Par for the course with mental health issues are misadventures, foibles, and overcorrects that can end in comically disastrous results. As long as readers can laugh with rather than at the mix-ups, it’s all good. In fact, if everything we wrote about mental health were tragic, if everything we wrote about trauma were traumatic, the work would be pretty hard to stick with as a reader or as a writer. Whatever story structure you employ—classic three-act, spiral, or what have you—a well-drawn main character is essential. The interplay between the self (Passenger B for example), her circumstances (air turbulence), and others in her life (the frightened son and the maddeningly calm Passenger A) creates conflict, obstacles to resolution. Your hero’s place on the mental health continuum gives her texture and relatability. Her mess-ups, embarrassments, and misunderstandings are what resonate for readers and make your work thrilling, agonizing, and yes—satisfyingly fun!

Characters with Mental Illness. The megalomaniacal CEO. The sociopathic killer. The suicidal teen. The anxious woman self-medicating with booze and pills while caring for her demented mother. As writers, we invite these characters into our stories because they are true-to-life and because their psychological problems invite curiosity and compassion.

To avoid stereotyping and caricature—and to keep your story believable—try these 5 strategies and tips:

Make the character relatable. Although common, mental illness is not the norm, so characters with such disorders, especially psychoses, are imbued with “otherness.” The writer must provide a way for the reader to relate to the character despite the illness and because of it. 

Keep the narrative front and center. Stories work best when they are spun around a person and a set of relationships, not an illness. Even “issues books” are successful only when the story focuses on what happens to a particular cast of characters. Mental illness can be debilitating and all-consuming, but it does not define a person. That job still rests with the writer.

Balance internal and overt symptoms and behavior. The internal world of a mentally ill person is fascinating but can readily overwhelm the reader. It doesn’t take pages of suicidal ideation, obsessive thoughts or internal word salad to deliver the message of an altered mental state. Go easy on the subjective "craziness" and opt instead to show how others are reacting (or not) to what is going on inside the ill person’s head. Also, not all mentally ill people have insight; they don’t necessarily know that their behavior and thoughts are abnormal. Obviously, if the person doesn’t realize they are ill, or if they become confused about it, then they might be an unreliable narrator. This can be a powerful tool but it is important to know upfront what relationship your character has with his or her illness, how that affects the interplay of external and internal worlds and the access others have to the character’s problems. It can be as complicated as you wish, but don’t leave the reader behind.

Specify the disorder, at least in your head. Generalized “craziness” does not exist. A mental illness can elude diagnosis, or have a complicated diagnosis, but as a writer, you should try to pinpoint the disorder, even if your character is never properly diagnosed. Why? Disorders are defined by specific behaviors and cognitive flaws, so the more you narrow down the diagnosis, the more you know about how your character might behave, feel and think. For example, mania is evidenced in several disorders, including bipolar disorder, drug-related disorders, and some sub-types of schizophrenia. Knowing the underlying problem has ramifications for your character’s other behavior, their prognosis, treatment, and whether the problem might have a genetic component.

Get the details right. For instance, relief via medication, if it comes, can begin after 2 weeks but the maximum effect can take 8 weeks. Details like this matter not just because they satisfy knowledgeable readers but also because spreading misinformation about mental illness does everyone a disservice. Mental health is a rapidly changing field, so ensure your information is correct for your time period. Terminology, diagnosis, treatment options, and prognosis can be vastly different from one decade to the next.

Fortunately, there are resources at your disposal:

Consult the relevant version of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (DSM), the official guide to mental disorders. The American Psychological Association updates it periodically, so use the one corresponding to your setting.

The National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) is also an excellent resource;

Seek out mental health professionals and those who have first-hand experience with the disorder (patients and/or loved ones) to lend authentic details;

Visit online forums, but be discreet, respectful, and appropriately cautious.

As with all research, don’t rely on a single source.

The credibility of your story is worth the extra time it takes to gain a deeper understanding of your mentally ill characters.

Knowledge, profound knowledge, engenders respect and compassion, two traits we all could use more of, both as writers and as people.

Writing about Your Own Mental Health

Writing about mental health is one thing, but making yourself vulnerable and disclosing your own illness, especially a serious one, is another.

First-hand accounts, though, are essential in making this national discourse authentic and true to life.

Writing to explain your experience to someone else can help you understand it better as well, leading to additional closure.

Writing fosters personal sense-making, especially when you learn how to reframe your experience more positively.

Exploring meaning in your traumatic experience through writing can mark a turning point in your recovery.

Your increased awareness and articulation of feelings and thoughts can be beneficial to others who may be going through a similar experience.

Sources: 1 2 3 4 5 ⚜ More: Notes & References ⚜ Writing Resources PDFs

Thanks for the question. This is important to write about. All the best with your writing!

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Fellow disabled people/in recovery people/suicidal people, please avoid interaction with @skylarthethompson .

I tried to kill myself last year because of my ED and chronic pain. I was in a coma for 2 days, in the hospital for 2 weeks, and am still suffering the after affects of the damage the 3 months worth of pills I swallowed did to my brain and body, and I'm still struggling with suicidal thoughts due to my many physical and mental illnesses. I just hope me exposing this cruel human will keep them from hurting anyone else who is also struggling.

Telling someone they have nothing to live for is so fucking beyond ok and I just want to warn anyone else who is suffering from chronic pain/illnesses/disabilities and mental illnesses/suicidal ideation that this person is a cruel and insensitive troll and to not let them rent space in your mind.

I reported them; anyone else who sees this please report this despicable behavior so they don't do any further damage to the mentally ill/chronically ill community here on Tumblr.

The first comment is clearly suicide baiting, and I guess they realized that and tried to seem a little less depraved; but you can't undo saying shit like this:

Also, take a look at the victim mentality at work here: "you're a smart smart nice person and I'm a dumb dumb mean person." 🙄.

And then there's the fake "do-gooder" story. So telling a very disabled person that their life isn't worth living is helping, and "a good coping mechanism"?? Anyone with half a braincell can tell you're just trying to seem less like an asshole when you've been exposed as one. Nice try to not seem like an absolute garbage person; but it didn't work.

And this selfishness: "I don't feel safe now! I don't want my virtual life ruined! I don't want gross people telling me horrible insults when my mental health can't take it!" Funny, because I didn't want your gross opinion on why I should just kill myself because my life is too miserable to be worth living with all my mental and physical illnesses. Nice ableism you got there. Also I didn't ask anyone to send you "horrible insults." I just asked my followers to avoid and report you for suicide baiting; which is a very severe problem on the internet that no one deserves; least of all mentally and physically disabled people like me and many of my followers.

"Please don't ruin my life over this!" If you say things online that you don't want everyone to see, that you can come to acknowledge are the actions of an asshole, that's your problem. Don't tell people they should just give up and kill themselves if you don't want people to see how heartless you are. If your life is "ruined" by something you said you have no one to blame but yourself.🤷

And of course the classic "I reported your post; I won't let you ruin my Tumblr life." ...are you even serious? You wrote those words; all I did was take screenshots and show them to my followers so they don't become victims of your harassment themselves- not everyone has the great support system I do, so they deserve a warning about people like you. Plus I said nothing wrong, I just told you that telling people to kill themselves is fucked up and made a post exposing your cruelty so you couldn't harm others who struggle like I do. If your "Tumblr life" gets "ruined" from this, your have no one to blame but yourself because all I did was post the words you put on my posts. I don't give a shit that you're "only 18;" you're still an adult and should know better than to tell strangers on the internet that their lives are so horrible they should just kill themselves.. also if you were actually "sorry" you wouldn't have said more cruel things after your oh-so-sincere apology.

There were even more responses they made saying they were going to kill themselves and it was my fault because I posted things they publicly said on a public platform, telling me they were going to Livestream their suicide and publicly blame me for their death, etc. (I reported those comments to Tumblr for a suicide threat but didn't get screenshots before they were deleted.) You can look at the amount of notes on said posts; this one has 27 replies with only 2 from me so they were harassing me all day with 25 comments while I went to some of my many appointments, so obviously I didn't get screenshots of them all, but the ones I did screenshot are more than enough proof that this person who told me I should just die and was trying to blame me for their mental state; saying I was guilty of something THEY actually did to ME, and that if they killed themselves it would be my fault... For simply making a post telling vulnerable people to be aware of them and their disgusting behavior because no one deserves to be told their life isn't worth living; especially when they've been fighting with those thoughts in their own mind for years and don't need some asshole online trying to push them over the edge towards suicide.

When I was a fucking child I knew that telling people to kill themselves is wrong. Not my problem that you're so cruel you can't see it that way and harassed me all day as I went to my disability appointments finding out if I need more surgery while my notifications were going off at a ridiculous rate as you were trying to convince me I'm the bad guy for warning vulnerable people about you; a person that told someone they don't even know who is a suicidal, ED recovering, physically and psychologically disabled person, that their life isn't worth living and they should just kill themselves.

This person is a threat to the mentally and physically disabled and they need their blog to be terminated so they can't trigger people on the edge like me and so many of my followers and others in the disabled/ED communities on Tumblr.

[taintedwrote]

Why I personally think: 'This is Love' by Air Traffic Control could be about being Disabled/Chronically Ill 🙏

This gets really long and I'm running on no sleep making this but I've had this thought for a while and I had a surge of energy 🙏

Starting out with the very first line of the song, the opening that sets the tone for the rest of the song: "You're no good, you're no good, you could kill me and you should." For me, when I first heard this line I correlated it with love, but as I thought more about it and attempted to think about the song without the context of knowing it was a type of 'love song' (I say this loosely) I began to think about it in the context of being disabled.

For a lot of people, finding out you're disabled (especially as a teenager/kid) can feel horrible, it's a damning feeling that leaves you feeling lost.

It feels like a type of death.

The death of a life you dreamed about, the death of dreams that kept you going, the death of having that typical romcom life, the death of a future you thought you could reach.

Which, only cements itself with the next line: "I'm an idiot for thinking, this was anything but blood,"

Being disabled/chronically ill, for as much as abled people want to deny it, is a fight. It's a constant battle against your body with no surrender in sight; it's something you learn about and then have to consistently sit at the table to find ways around it, to find things that help but will never lessen the bloodshed.

The next line, personally, is the one that cements the underlying subject of disability within the lyrics: "On the wall, on the couch, on the corner of my mouth. You must like being the victim, you've done nothing to get out of this pattern of pain."

Abled people tend to assume that disabled people are simply unwilling to 'get better' and just wish to wallow in their pain in order to garner sympathy (which is laughable) from abled people. Doctors along with regular people on the street will offer advice that isn't anything other than "if I can do it so can you," or "You're just not trying hard enough," and refuse to listen when disabled people say they've either already tried it and it doesn't work, or that they are physically/mentally incapable of doing it.

Chalking it up to 'laziness' instead if an inherent issue within the culture/systems we live in.

"Washed away by the rain, you'll forgive me if I promise, and do nothing but the same." This line, to me, speaks to many of our shared experiences and traumas surrounding doctors or medical practitioners. We continuously go to doctors, ready to fight for ourselves, advocate, and just want to be heard and nearly every time they ignore symptoms or refuse to help (especially in regards to afab people).

It's... Exhausting to say the least.

"This is life until death," being chronically ill/disabled is something you can never get rid of, it's a life long aspect of your life. "Could be my last dying breath," many chronic illness and disabilities can kill you. Whether it is by the illness/disability itself or by outwards circumstances (caregivers, hate crimes, malpractice, ect).

"But this is love, love, shut up, this is love," this line just reminds me of people telling you they love/care about you while also diminishing your disability or your needs.

"Forget everything you used to know," when you're newly diagnosed, or when it's finally confirmed, it feels like you have to forget who you used to be; finding new tools and new understandings that could make you feel like a new person entirely even if nothing changed. The "rules of life" that were previously understood were now worthless with this new sheet of societal rules we're meant to follow.

"I think you better tell your friends to go," it is extremely hard to have/keep friends as a disabled person. (Especially as a disabled teenager which is where I have most of my own experience from.) Often, when you're newly diagnosed the friends you have will pull themselves back. The knowledge that they might need to accommodate or that they might not get to do the same things as before can make a lot of abled people pull away from their disabled friends.

"Stick around cause I'm about to show you, the beginning is the end." (This connects to the above paragraph about how it could be the beginning of the end of a lot of relationships)

"Yeah, I know wrong, I know right, but I just love to pick a fight," this line just makes me think of people trying (Ill intentioned) to offer advice contrary to what you know works best for your body (especially doctors) where you're then labeled as argumentive or difficult.

"I can sleep with one eye open," I just interpret this as being hyper vigilant of your disability. "If there's any sleep at night."

"I got my knife, got my gun," Your medication, "Let's see how fast you can run, you might think that you can hurt me but the damage has been done." I just thought about the medication chasing the disability and thought that was kinda funny. I could go deeper with this but it's already getting long.

"It's pathetic, I know, a jealous fool who won't let go." This line just personally hit me in the gut because for so long I was jealous of my friends who could live their lives without needing to make sure they would be safe or without planning ahead so they didn't end up hospitalized/in a flare and unable to move. For a long time I refused to let go of the wants I had for my future that I realized if never be able to get to, it was a mourning process they didn't understand which only made me even more jealous.

"If I was sorry for my actions, would I ever stoop so low?" This just made me think of all the times I had to apologize for being sick/unable to do something and it pissed me off so that's all I'm gonna say.

"Got no reason to live," Again, it just made me think of the mourning process that tends to happen when you have to let go of the life you wanted to live in the life you got.

"And I've got nothing left to give you, but my love!" This line felt like those moments when you're trying really hard, when you're putting all your tools and spoons into doing something and trying to keep other people from needing to accommodate only to be told you're not trying hard enough.

"Oh, I was hit as a kid," (refer to top paragraph)

"I was good but then I quit," most chronic illnesses that "don't show" in childhood usually get worse during puberty when your hormones are all fucked up and messy. Hensel feeling both like it's always been there and that it just spawned one day.

"Everyone that tried to fix me knows that I can't change a bit." Just...the constant ring-around of doctors that have been either unable to diagnose or unable to help.

"I've got no shame, got no pride, only skeletons to hide." Just, that odd feeling where a lot of people feel like they need to hide their disabilities to the best of their ability.

"And if you try to talk to someone, well then someone has to die." This just makes me think about the disabilities hiding themselves (or unconscious masking to the best of their ability) in front of Doctors, like they're a vampire hiding from the sun.

"Once you chase me down the hole," or once you try and figure the disability out, "yeah once you think you're in control," when you've been able to manage it for a few weeks or months or even years, "you'll believe that we are partners and you'll feel uncomfortable." or the classic "was I really that bad or was I just being dramatic" feeling that comes with feeling too good for long periods of time.

"Oh then the darkness rolls in," a flare, or a bad day. "And you'll forget who I have been," how to manage it.

"The simple love that your grandparents had, this kind of love will only make you mad." Realising that finding a partner will also include making sure it's someone that is okay with being "with a disabled person" which is, for some reason, not something people are okay with. 🙄

"It hurts at first but it ain't that bad," the beginning tends to be the worst but once you understand your body and it's limits it's not hard to "deal with" (I can't think of another word for what I mean) anymore. "You gotta wonder what it meant."

Anyway, this got really long but relating love songs (I use the term loosely) to the relationship disabled/chronically ill people tend to have with their disabilities. So.... ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

[evidence-based-activism]

Is there any proof men that claim to be 'raped' actually suffer or are they whining for nothing? I'm so tired of this narrative that the poor male victims have it so bad.

Before anyone says anything, yes, I know this is might be a troll. Yes, I plan to answer the question anyway. (I'm feeding the audience not the troll. :) )

So ... let's start from the top.

You've emphasized "claim" and put raped in quotes, presumably to imply that men cannot be raped. However, I have previously established that, while less common, a significant number of men have experienced rape. While not the main focus of the post, I discussed the specific numbers, sourced from the CDC here [1].

The conclusion was that 11% - 26% of men report being raped (penetrated) and/or made to penetrate and/or coerced into sexual intercourse in their lifetime. (Readers may differ on which of these acts they consider "rape". That topic is also addressed in the linked post above. But even if you only consider acts where the victim is penetrated as rape: 1 in every 26 men report being non-consensually penetrated at some point in their life. That means that, if you know 26 men, it is likely you know a male rape victim.)

Beyond the frequency, however, I have no idea why you'd think that any rape victim is "whining for nothing". Even if there was only 1 single man (or 1 single woman for that matter) who had ever been raped, that person would have experienced an egregious violation of their physical body and their personal autonomy. That -- all on its own -- is something.

Concerning victim impact, the same CDC report details how:

Of men who have been raped, 50% reported concern for their safety and 51% reported feeling fearful

Of men who have been made to penetrate, 23% reported concern for their safety and 23% reported feeling fearful

Among men reporting any form of sexual victimization, there was a higher prevalence of: HIV/AIDS, frequent headaches, chronic pain, difficulty sleeping, and serious difficulty hearing along with higher reported prevalence of difficulty dressing or bathing, difficulty concentrating, remembering, or making decisions, and difficulty doing errands alone. All of this suggests that sexual victimization among men is correlated with higher disability rates among men.

If that's not enough, consider the fact that 41% of made to penetrate victims and 57% of male rape victims were first victimized when they were a child (younger than 17). I trust your (genuine? facetious?) lack of empathy doesn't extend to child victims?

To extend our sources list and highlight some specific findings:

A 2023 review of literature about male victims [2] describes mental and physical illness among male victims, along with interpersonal and sexual dysfunction.

An early study [3] found greater odds of psychological disturbance, sexual problems, self-harm, and substance misuse among male victims of childhood sexual abuse. This study is of particular relevance given the rate frequency of childhood victimization reported in the CDC paper.

A more recent study [4] found increased depression, anxiety, and related somatic symptoms among both male and female victims (the specific patterns were slightly different but similar overall).

Another review and meta-analysis [5] found that sexual abuse is associated with anxiety, depression, eating disorders, PTSD, sleep disorders, and suicide attempts. These associations were consistent across sex (when data was available for analysis).

An additional review and meta-analysis spanning 44 years of research [6] found no evidence of a difference in effect size by sex (i.e., sexual assault was associated with psychopathology to a similar degree for both women and men).

All together this indicates that while men are less likely to be sexually assaulted/abused, they are affected in similar ways/to similar degrees as women when it does occur.

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Just to avoid some inevitable discourse: anon, if you are being genuine and/or to anyone who does believe this sentiment, know that you are in the minority.

While data on this is sparse, consider the results of two studies.

A 2006 study [7] analyzed men and women's responses (victim blame and reaction to perpetrator) for male sexual assault victims. They varied the scenario asked about by victim sexuality and perpetrator sex. They found that (1) women reported less victim blame than men for all the scenarios, (2) women did not differ in the amount they blamed the victim for each scenario, (3) men were more likely to blame gay male victims with a male perpetrator and straight male victims with a female perpetrator -- suggesting the "sexuality incongruence" drives their assignment of blame. In addition, men but not women reported more favorable views of the female perpetrator, regardless of sexual orientation of the victim. And again, women did not differ in the views on the perpetrator across scenarios. In absolute terms, degrees of victim blame and perpetrator support were low across all conditions.

A 2023 study [8] confirms and extends these results. This study examined empathy towards male victims of non-consensual "sexual touching". The study shows high levels of empathy overall, with no difference between scenarios involving male or female perpetrators. I have some issues with the language used for in this study. (They refer to "antipathy towards men and their domination" as "hostile sexism" and " traditional admiration for men’s role as protector" as "benevolent sexism", but it looks like this may have been the terms used by the tool they chose.) For ease of discussion I will use these terms. So, in addition, they found that hostile sexism predicted more empathy for male victims but only for female participants; hostile sexism predicted less empathy for male victims for male participants. Benevolent sexism predicted less empathy in general.

This all suggests that, in general, people are supportive of male victims. The people who deviate from this trend are men and/or report greater adherence to traditional gender roles. It's of note, however, that when analyzing the groups with these deviations overall support is still high. This indicates that these demographic/political differences result in relative differences, but in absolute terms people are overwhelmingly supportive of male victims.

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TL;DR:

Yes, male victims "actually suffer". No, they are not "whining for nothing". Male and female victims both "have it so bad".

People generally already know this and indicate support for male victims. Feminists are particularly likely to report empathy for male victims, which means you (anon) are either a troll or an outlier.

References under the cut:

Basile, K.C., Smith, S.G., Kresnow, M., Khatiwada S., & Leemis, R.W. (2022). The National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey: 2016/2017 Report on Sexual Violence. Atlanta, GA: National Center for Injury Prevention and Control, Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.

Thomas, J. C., & Kopel, J. (2023). Male victims of sexual assault: A review of the literature. Behavioral Sciences, 13(4), 304. https://doi.org/10.3390/bs13040304

King, M., Coxell, A., & Mezey, G. (2002). Sexual molestation of males: Associations with psychological disturbance. The British Journal of Psychiatry: The Journal of Mental Science, 181, 153–157. https://doi.org/10.1017/s0007125000161884

Choudhary, E., Smith, M., & Bossarte, R. M. (2012). Depression, anxiety, and symptom profiles among female and male victims of sexual violence. American Journal of Men’s Health, 6(1), 28–36. https://doi.org/10.1177/1557988311414045

Chen, L. P., Murad, M. H., Paras, M. L., Colbenson, K. M., Sattler, A. L., Goranson, E. N., Elamin, M. B., Seime, R. J., Shinozaki, G., Prokop, L. J., & Zirakzadeh, A. (2010). Sexual abuse and lifetime diagnosis of psychiatric disorders: Systematic review and meta-analysis. Mayo Clinic Proceedings, 85(7), 618–629. https://doi.org/10.4065/mcp.2009.0583

Dworkin, E. R., Menon, S. V., Bystrynski, J., & Allen, N. E. (2017). Sexual assault victimization and psychopathology: A review and meta-analysis. Clinical Psychology Review, 56, 65–81. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.cpr.2017.06.002

Davies, M., Pollard, P., & Archer, J. (2006). Effects of perpetrator gender and victim sexuality on blame toward male victims of sexual assault. The Journal of Social Psychology, 146(3), 275–291. https://doi.org/10.3200/SOCP.146.3.275-291

Le Brun, C., Benbouriche, M., & Tibbels, S. (2024). A study of empathy towards male victims of sexual violence: The effects of gender and sexism. Sexuality & Culture, 28(2), 654–672. https://doi.org/10.1007/s12119-023-10138-3

[dufferpuffer]

I’m going to agree with you siding with the werewolves. Just because JKR traced a really awkward metaphor that falls flat when one tries to frame it within the context of HIV, doesn’t mean that the general idea that lycantrophy is a stigmatised chronic illness is not very clear in the text. The biggest clue for me is the wolfsbane potion: it means the condition can be managed and rendered harmless to both the victim and people around them - but stigma and misinformation prevents this medication from becoming accessible to all.

Pretending JKR has never said anything about HIV, we still have someone suffering intense physical pain and discomfort, emotional distress (surely the average werewolf doesn’t want to accidentally kill their partner/children/family), social isolation, systemic oppression. Maybe if you read it flatly as “they do turn into man eating dangerous monsters” it’s easier to defend their blorbo for the hatred and prejudice. But it’s not like monsters haven’t been metaphors for complex sides of human nature for millennia, before JKR even dreamed of making it a poorly written HIV parallel.

I straight up think the author mentioning HIV at all was a mistake. Like she didn't even really mean it - she's just a stupid dumb idiot who doesn't think about what she says. Sure, she likely considered the life experiences of those with HIV as she planned out Remus and werewolves. It was a big issue while she was writing the books. But I think she made an error in saying she based werewolves on it.

Lycanthropy reflects broader themes of stigma, isolation, and societal failure that resonate with many, while having little specifically to do with HIV.

Her comment about HIV feels more like an attempt to sound insightful in an interview rather than a thought-out analogy. Not just because the HIV analogy is gross and harmful. Because the most obvious alternative fits better.

She puts a lot of her own life experiences into her characters. Depression, domestic abuse, childhood trauma, adult trauma, grief - perhaps even a little gender dysphoria. It gives authenticity to her portrayal of struggles like isolation, of how they change people. They have changed her. Unfortunately all that experience didn't stop her from being such a fucking bitch-

Part of her life experience has been scraping by in poverty while suffering severe mental illness - and her mother's multiple sclerosis. She's suffered the UK health system, lack of support, and relying on community - during the hellscape that was Margaret Thatcher.

As a disabled person, who is working with a lot of disabled people in worse situations than me this year (federal elections are coming up) - the way Remus is portrayed hits damn close to home. As far as I know she hasn't had personal experience with HIV.

Lycanthropy isn’t a direct metaphor for any single illness - it's a fantasy representation of how society treats those who are different, sick, or 'impure'. It’s less about the experience of having a disease and more about the social and systemic barriers faced by disabled people in general. From expensive and inaccessible medication all the way to being shunned from work you are provably able to handle.

Reducing it to a comparison with HIV misses the point and oversimplifies the complexity of what is conveyed within the text. Lycanthropy is intentionally broad - not intentionally specific.

Replace 'a cycle of actually transforming into a wolf' with 'a cycle of intense psychosis: an honest belief they have turned into a wolf' ...suddenly Lycanthropy takes a far more 'real' form.

I have no doubt HIV was an inspiration for Lycanthropy. I also have no doubt multiple sclerosis was, and any other disability the author had close contact with. The poverty line and homeless communes are full of the disabled - being disabled is often how you get there.

Lycanthropy's role in Harry Potter is more about what happens to sick people within society - how normal people being treated as unwanted monsters can lead to something dangerous.

[cloudroid27]

Unprompted Rant Post that I'm deciding to put up:

America has forgotten what being a Free Country is.

(TW for mentions of: Anti-LGBTQ mentions, Anti-Abortion mentions, 1nc3st [ie], p3d0philia [e,o], r.pe [a] other topics associated with these, and mentions of Religion [as an example])

Now, by no means am I political, nor do I bring up "political manners" at all, but what I'm saying is true.

Because now, there are laws that prevent people who are apart of the LGBTQ+ community. From people not being allowed gender-affirming care, censorship in various ways on them, there being OVER 520 BILLS that are Anti-LGBTQ+, so on and so fourth.

People aren't allowed to EXPRESS THEMSELVES in a way that DOESN'T HURT ANYBODY and MAKES THEM HAPPY IN THEIR OWN BODIES anymore BECAUSE of these laws!

And that isn't the ONLY issue in society that we have in America.

Anti-Abortion is also another issue in America.

Abortions are sometimes REQUIRED for people to have for a variety of reasons: Health (Mental and Physical), 1nc3st (i, e), P3d0philia (e,o), R.pe (a), etc.

Health:

- Physical

Some people can be in a REALLY bad health crisis, either because of Diseases/Genetics (for example, Psoriasis, which is a chronic illness. It can depend on its severity, but if it is EXTREMELY severe at a point, it can make someone unfit to give birth [which can cause death IF they try to give birth when it's severe]).

- Mental

Sometimes, certain behaviors can be really bad and having a child can negatively affect those, changing that person for the worst. And some people aren't fit to become parents. They could also be apart of a family that causes them more mental harm, which could leave the child in a bad spot, especially if there is only one parent with the child.

1nc3st (i, e):

This can cause many, MANY different problems. Not just for the person giving birth, but for the child as well.

It can cause birth defects to the child ranging from mental problems to physical abnormalities that can negatively affect the children.

It can also take a toll on the child later for them to, lets say, hear that their father was an uncle, father, etc., which can leave a child traumatized if they learn that (either by being told or by taking a DNA test and getting the results back).

It can also affect the birthgiver negatively by making them guilty about having to have a child that comes from that sort of thing.

P3d0philia (e,o):

Sadly, this can make someone have a child as a result of someone abusing and sexually assulting them when the person is a minor (under the age of 17).

It can hurt the person who bears a child from this experience by: negatively impacting their overall well-being, can remind them of the person who caused their trauma (for when the child is actually born), can lead them to dark states (with Depression being an example) and can potentially separate them from their family.

It can negative a child born from this experience too, with reasons being: potentially facing abuse from the parent as a result of the trauma that they experienced; they could be abused by family too, which can make them feel unwanted and make them feel as if they aren't truly there to begin with.

R.pe (a):

Similar as to P3d0philia, it can negatively impact the person who is the one giving birth AND the child born from the negative experience.

It can lead to the victim of it remembering their trauma by just looking at the child that was born as a result of it, as well as it negatively impacting them overall since experiences like this can leave people traumatized for the rest of their lives.

There are plenty of other reasons as to why someone would want an abortion, such as:

Low Income/Finance (which can prevent them from taking proper care of the child that can come as a result to that), Failed Protection during the act (99% doesn't mean that it can't happen), Not having the proper medicine/items for it to be prevented and more.

Just remember: There is ALWAYS a reason for something.

Something doesn't come out of nothing, after all.

But to me, if something doesn't harm anyone OR helps a person during a dire time or if they are in need of something because of a result of trauma or potential death, it Shouldn't be banned or denied.

Because banning it and denying it makes it so that America stays an NON-FREE nation, compared to what it's supposed to be.

And side note: Religion isn't an excuse for ANY of the behaviors that can cause negativity/damage to others.

Because- and I'm going to use Christianity as an example- The Bible says "Love Thy Neighbor As You Love Yourself" and it says that God loves his children.

So why would he NOT want us to be ourselves if it DOESN'T hurt anyone AND why would he NOT want us to do something that is for the better of our mental health and WON'T cause lasting damage to themselves AND other people who may come as a result of it?

Your religion isn't an excuse for bad behaviors that can cause pain to others.

Thank you for reading.

[cosmichighpriestess]

Some of us are their karma, we are purposely placed in the way of people who claim to be honorable, high status, people who claim to be providers with integrity.

When we step into the room, very quickly they show us their true nature, their false projections, their own insecurities and doubt in themselves, because our energy will expose any insecurities, false projections and facades they were manipulating and abusing everyone else with.

If we walk in, the sharks start circling us and we are treated differently. These sharks have a choice to make, either to swallow their pride and fear, insecurities and false projections, and envy to treat other's they see as beneath them with respect or would they chose to instead try to bully us, control us, use us, steal from us, blame us, abuse us and manipulate us? We are the Earth Angels placed in their path for God to see which option would they choose?

They chose to use me, oppress me, spread lies about me, abuse me, belittle me, and gaslight me. We also take on their pain, guilt, shame, fear, problems and burdens, and transmute it. They don't even realize that by constantly focusing on tearing us down, they are pulling on our energy and we are taking on their burdens, their blocks, and their pain.

What they don't realize is that I don't get my approval from humans. I get my approval from God, the most high, the creator of the entire Universe, because no energy is more powerful or more my best friend than God. I get no sense of validation or favor from any human. If we relied solely on their approval we would never love ourselves and we would never come back to Source. God is the only validation I ever want because their opinions don't matter because they don't know who I am, and God is the only one who knows who we truly are.

If you cross paths with an Earth Angel, or an empath or someone just trying to survive, and you go against them, without knowing their circumstances, and you use them instead? That's instant karma. It's not a punishment. Always remember all karma is self imposed. Your own higher self is going to teach you a lesson.

They had a chance to see our light, and let the light and the favor come in and they decided to use us, steal from us, and abuse us because our light threatened them. They were used to using lower vibrational energies and getting away with it. They did it knowingly, willingly, and they were unapologetic fools who couldn't support anyone, they could only manipulate, control, gaslight and lie.

They cause chaos because they feel like they have lost control of everyone around them. They constantly gaslight when they feel they need to lie to be seen as the myter, the good guy, the victim to you. They are nothing until you give them power over you. Thank you for showing me God who they really were, thank you for showing everyone else even if they are still in denial. and they believe their fake image is still working on the ones they still use.

Inserting your misery, your insecurities, your abuse and lack on people who do not deserve it will be exposed, and they will see the truth. The rug will be pulled out from underneath you and your faulty foundation will collapse because nothing real based on love and truth was holding it together, only lies and deception which are false, an illusion.

How dare you, hurt these innocent people who only meant to help you and reward them with chronic neglect and smear campaigns. We had to cope with our traumas alone. These narcissists don't realize that they caused physical pain and mental illness in their own children and people that they bullied. They created PTSD and a terrifying life for the people they hurt.

We had nightmares and panic attacks everyday. We felt like we were in constant danger anywhere we went, we attracted more dangerous narcissists like you. There was no safe person in our reality. Chronic anxiety and constant fear was our entire day to day life. We were buried in trauma from every age since we were born, instead of blooming and growing.

Only we bloomed in the darkness, like a rose growing in the concrete. We as the Chosen could not be stopped, our rapid growth is favor from God because we are the light bringers, we are the changemakers because what you learn in one week takes us only one hour to learn.

Your projection of your perfect family image and perfectionism is a lie and you know it. Everyone can see through you, people are not easily manipulated anymore, there's a lot of information on abusive people we all have access to now abundantly. People are stronger than they appear to be. You want to run your agenda and not respect our wishes, our boundaries. Who do you think you are damaging people further than they are already in pain?

We are ten steps ahead of you at all times, that's what you didn't realize when you thought you were manipulating us and everyone around you. You made your choice, you made your bed now lie down in it like the liar and thief you really are. Time will always reveal the real face of you. You have no awareness, no self assessment of yourself. No accountability and you have no boundaries. You just point the finger and blame all your issues and trauma onto everyone else who you view as weaker because of their kindness.

How can you point the finger if your hands aren't even clean and you have all these skeletons in your closet? You did this to yourself and have no one else to blame but the person in the mirror you refuse to look at. Leave us alone, stop stalking us or face your karma, you give us no equal give and take. We're already protected by our ancestors and our spiritual team, our fears are behind us. I only have one thanks for you, thank you for making me into the stronger, unbreakable version I am today, my heart is so pure now because you forced me to love myself, by never supporting me and always treating me like nothing. The life I was born into has humbled me in so many intense ways. I will forever be grateful that I had you as an example of what to never become.

[innerangeltoadlover]

4. So I was diagnosed a thousand years ago at 25 and from that time on I existed in a world of stupor and the early years were especially hard. There is nothing quite like taking meds and sleeping pills and still being awake at 4am. It’s actually the worst feeling I’ve experienced in the medication side of the illness - being alone with your thoughts and having them spiral in unending repetition is difficult to describe but the added feeling of physical coldness paired with sweating that chronic insomnia brings makes the chirping of birds at sunrise an unhappy occasion. There is also nothing like having to go to bed at 10 pm because your sister is visiting with the newborn every fortnight and hearing the baby crying at 6am and hearing your sister making gurgling noises to get him back to sleep and then hearing her snoring and then hearing her waking at 8am and then hearing her shouting in the kitchen about how lazy I am and knowing it's going to be a really hard day because I’ve spent the night awake. To the layperson the answer to insomnia is always the same : just go to bed earlier! I have heard this so many times it is like an anthem of people's complete ignorance of mental illness. Being exhausted does not guarantee a good night's sleep and in my case I find being tired more often than not guarantees a cycle of insomnia that also guarantees a day of couch sitting but no sleep - that’s real insomnia - it’s continuous. Since being diagnosed I have also never experienced a night's sleep without being medicated which is kind of hellish when I see it written. I’m including this because it illustrates how hard recovery is and how fragile we are in those early years and how bad it is to have to endure someone who is not interested in helping you to wellness. I probably should have gotten support from my sister who is a nurse but I may as well have been sitting on the couch eating chips all day .

Certainly it is difficult to be around a person who has a mental illness especially if you lack empathy however the effort I was making to help out was met with hostility and stereotypical statements about ‘craziness’. It was only after the Court case that we understood that my sister was returning home and telling her husband I was abusing her. Why would she do this? Throughout her relationship with her husband our family has been actively involved in my sister’s life by means of scapegoating. Though she wanted very little to do with us keeping contact fulfilled the same fiction by which the relationship and initial attraction began- that of victim and saviour. Returning home with an abuse story allowed her to initiate feelings with her husband that were obviously extremely important. This lie is the reason we ended up in Court and with a diagnosis of schizophrenia to support this scenario it was easily enabled. However as my story will show the above scenario was used when it was convenient and was contradicted in the next mood change. There was no steady theme in my sister’s abuse as she was an opportunist and I could never see what was coming next. My sister’s ability to be quick off the mark would be seen by herself as an asset however when it is used against not only me but our whole family it’s nothing short of disgusting. I think there was also an element of resentment that I was living with my parents and stealing the limelight from her and her kiddos even though my input was minimal . I always had it in my head that she should count herself lucky that she had not inherited an illness which had generational impact in our family and act accordingly but I don’t think that fact had any impact - I was just a fucking annoyance . However I also must be cautious about my abilities in interpreting human behaviour - because unlike ‘normal’ people i have been trained by therapists to disregard all that I observe because of my diagnosis (this has worked well) .

[anumberofhobbies]

Perhaps someone physically harmed you, violated your privacy, gossiped about you, disrespected you, or downplayed what you are going through as you live with a chronic illness.  If you are struggling with your need to forgive, you may also want to consider the emotional, mental, spiritual, and physical cost of not forgiving. Think of the inner pain, mental torment, lack of peace, and even physical symptoms you may feel due to bitterness. Realize that if you have a pattern of withholding forgiveness, you will likely hurt yourself more and more. The betrayal, disappointment, anger, or whatever emotions you feel will fester, and the pain will build from one circumstance to another. Forgive so you can heal.

Consider some principles that promote forgiveness so you can work toward breaking free of what has happened to you. You will find that some of these points are more appropriate for minor offenses and some for more serious transgressions.  10 SUGGESTIONS TO HELP YOU FORGIVE Recognize that, in His love, God commands forgiveness: Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another (Colossians 3:13).He knows that holding onto hurts will only continue to harm you.  Reflect on God’s forgiveness of you and how He wants you to forgive others as He’s forgiven you. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you (Ephesians 4:32). Think of it as an opportunity to become more Christ-like. Look to those in the Bible who forgave others of some horrific offenses. For example, Paul was a victim of persecution. Joseph was sold by his brothers (What betrayal!), yet Joseph said, ”You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good…” (Genesis 50:20a). Remember that God warns us not to retaliate: Do not take revenge, my friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge, I will repay,” says the Lord (Romans 12:19). You may not see what God has in mind for this person but know that what happened has not escaped His view. He knows. Also, if you try to get revenge, it could backfire on you, and you could be even more hurt. Recognize that someone hurt sometimes lashes out to hurt others. That is not to say this makes what the individual did okay. It does not—but consider that the same thing could happen to you. If you are hurt and become bitter, you could get to the point of wanting to hurt someone else, something you would never do if you were not hurting. Stop the cycle. Don’t let someone else’s actions toward you change you into someone who will hurt others.  Work through the emotions associated with the offense while keeping your heart open to God’s healing and direction. He is there to love you through this process and heal you. Ultimately, you will end up with more of God, and He will have more of you. Break it down if need be. If you cannot absolve everything someone did to you, start by forgiving one offense and work from there. Certainly, the ultimate goal is complete forgiveness, but it is better to go about it in steps than to get overwhelmed and discouraged and not do it at all. Be honest with yourself. If you have chosen to forgive and then feel hurt and bitter all over again, do not bury those feelings. Acknowledge them, pray, and journal about them. Maybe you are still in the process of healing, or maybe there were numerous or horrific offenses. Perhaps you struggle to be sincere in forgiving. Explore what you think and how you feel. Discuss your concerns with a counselor, pastor, or someone else you trust—then choose to forgive again.  Forgive as many times as it takes. If you forgive once and it doesn’t “stick,” don’t let that stop you from trying again.  Pray for the person who has hurt you. Begin with a general prayer if that is all you can do. If you cannot bring yourself to do it, keep trying until you can. You might even write out a prayer to use later. FORGIVENESS IS A PROCESS Forgiving may seem impossible to do, but give yourself a chance. Actually, give yourself several chances because it might take many attempts. An added benefit of practicing forgiveness is that it may enhance your relationship with God and increase the peace and joy in your heart. When you experience the positive results of forgiving, you will be glad you made the effort. 

That bit, "Don’t let someone else’s actions toward you change you into someone who will hurt others.", sadly, I did fall in to that for a time.

[nursingscience]

100+ Different Types of Nurses and Nurse Specialties

DIFFERENT TYPES OF NURSES

🔘A-C: NURSING SPECIALTIES

Agency Nurse: An agency nurse works their contract through a third-party agency. While a contract nurse will just contract directly with the facility.

Aids Nurse: See HIV/AIDS nurse

Advanced Practice Registered Nurse: An advanced practice registered nurse or APRN is a nurse who has gone to graduate school and have received either their Master of Science in Nursing or a Doctorate of Nursing Practice. An APRN includes a nurse practitioner (NP), a clinical nurse specialist (CNS), nurse anesthetist (CRNA) or a nurse midwife.

Ambulatory Care Nurse: A nurse that takes care of patients seeking medical care for acute or chronic illnesses. Typically in an outpatient setting.

Associate Degree Nurse: An associates degree nurse is a nurse who may have their registered nurse licensure but they received their associates degree in nursing from a 2 year junior college instead of their bachelor’s degree in nursing from a 4 year university.

Bariatric Nurse: A nurse that takes care of patients who are being treated for obesity-related reasons.

Burn Care Nurse: A nurse that treats patients who have been burned by fire, chemical, water, or by any other means.

Camp Nurse: A nurse that takes care of people at camps or retreats. Typically a setting that’s far away from a hospital or medical facility. Typically a job that’s considered kid-focused, but not all camps are geared towards kids. Also, the camps that are for kids have adults that are there also.

Cardiac Care Nurse: A cardiac nurse takes care of patients with heart disease such as: heart failure (CHF), coronary heart disease (CAD). They also take care of patients who are recovering from heart surgery such as heart bypass.

Cardiac Cath Lab Nurse: A nurse who works with patients who have undergone a heart catheterization procedure.

Case Management Nurse: A nurse who helps coordinate the long-term care plan of patients.

Certified Nurse Midwife: An advanced practice registered nurse who specializes in childbirth and reproductive health.

Chief Nursing Officer: See Nurse Executive

Clinical Nurse Leader: An advanced practice nurse whose job is to improve safety and quality outcomes for a specific patient and population.

Clinical Nurse Specialist: An advanced practice registered nurse who has chosen to become specialized in a specific area or type of nursing.

Community Health Nurse: See Public health Nurse

Complementary Health Nurse: See holistic Nurse

Contract Nurse: A nurse who contracts with a hospital to provide short term nursing support when staffing is low. Similar to travel nursing except contract nurses maybe taking assignments in the general area where they live year round.

Continence Nurse: Provides care to patients with urinary or fecal incontinence.

Correctional Facility Nurse: A nurse that takes care of incarcerated patients. So these would be patients in jails, prisons, and other correctional type institutions.

Cosmetic Nurse: See plastic surgery nurse

Critical Care Nurse: A nurse that takes care of critically ill patients. These are patients usually found in the intensive care unit or ICU.

🔘D-F: TYPES OF NURSES

Dermatology Nurse: A nurse who takes care of patients with skin disorders or diseases.

Developmental Disability Nurse: A nurse that works with patients who have mental or physical disabilities. For example down syndrome.

Diabetes Nurse: A nurse who works with patients who have diabetes.

Domestic Violence Nurse: A nurse that takes care of patients who were victims of domestic violence.

Ear, Nose and Throat Nurse: See Otiorhinolaryngology Nurse

Emergency Room Nurse: A nurse who works in the ER taking care of patients who are dealing with anything from minor bumps and bruises to acute and life threatening symptoms.

Endocrinology Nurse: A nurse that takes care of patients who have endocrine disorders. For example diabetes and pituitary disorders.

Endoscopy Nurse: GI nurse and an endoscopy nurse are typically used interchangeably. The term endoscopy nurse is referencing more to the GI nurses that assist gastroenterologists in GI procedures such as a colonoscopy or an EGD.

Faith Nurse: Parish nurse.

Family Nurse Practitioner (FNP): An advanced practice nurse who takes care of patients across the lifespan.

Fertility Nurse: A nurse whose patients are either couples or individuals who are having fertility or reproductive issues.

Flight Nurse: Also called a transport nurse. This nurse takes care of patients in remote locations stabilizing them until they can be transported via aircraft to the nearest emergency facility.

Freelance Nurse Writer: A nurse that writes for publications. Can be books, blogs, articles, journals, etc.

Forensic Nurse: A nurse that works closely with the legal system to collect forensic evidence in a case where there’s been a victim of violence.

🔘G-L: TYPES OF NURSES

Gastroenterology Nurse: Also called an endoscopy nurse. This nurse works with patients who have an illness related to the GI tract.

Genetics Nurse: A nurse that works with patients with hereditary illnesses such as Alzheimer’s.

Geriatric Nurse: A nurse who’s nursing practice focuses on the elderly population.

Gerontological Nurse Practitioner: An advanced practice nurse who’s primary focus is the elderly population.

Gynecology Nurses: (See Obstetrics nurse)

Health Policy Nurse: Helps in the legislation process for giving input in the creation of public health policies.

Hematology Nurse: This nurse takes care of patients with blood disorders such as hemophilia.

HIV/AIDS Nurse: A nurse that takes care of patients with HIV and AIDS.

Holistic Nurse: A nurse whose focus is on treating the “whole patient.” Also called a complementary health nurse, this nurse on top of the traditional nursing approach also takes a mind, body, and spirit approach also.

Home Health Nurse: A nurse that takes care of patients in the patient’s home.

Hospice Nurse: A nurse that provides care to patients with terminal illness. Requires very compassionate care because the goal is to minimize pain and allow the patient to pass on with dignity.

ICU Nurse: See critical care nurse.

Independent Nurse Contractor: See per-diem nurse.

Infection Control Nurse: A nurse that helps prevent infections in a hospital or clinic setting.

Informatics Nurse: The liaison between software/system engineers and the healthcare providers who use them.

Infusion Nurse: A nurse that administers medications to patients via intravenous lines central lines and other access ports.

International Nurse: A nurse that travels and works in other parts of the world. Similar to a travel nurse.

Labor and Delivery Nurse: A nurse that cares for women during labor and childbirth.

Lactation Consultant Nurse: Helps new moms learn how to breastfeed and bond with their newborn.

Legal Nurse Consultant: A nurse that works with lawyers as a medical expert in legal cases. As the medical expert they help the lawyers understand the medical and Healthcare related points of the case.

Licensed Practical Nurse (LPN): A nurse who has graduated from LPN school and is able to take care of patients. An LPN can either function independently or under the supervision of a Registered Nurse.

Licensed Vocational Nurse (LVN): See licensed practical nurse.

Long-term Care Nurse: A nurse who takes care of patients who need medical attention for an extended period of time because of an ongoing medical condition, disability or illness.

🔘M-P: NURSE SPECIALTIES

Managed Care Nurse: A nurse that works with patients (young to elderly), providers, medical facilities, insurance companies and government agencies to provide high quality healthcare, while keeping costs down.

Medical-Surgical Nurse: A medical surgical nurse works with a variety of patients on a Med-Surg floor. From pre- to post- surgery to minor and severe illnesses the med-surg nurse will see it all.

Military Nurse: A nurse that works in the military and cares for military patients.

Missionary Nurse: A nurse that works for a non profit (religious or non-religious) providing care to patients who are many times in underserved areas or parts of the world.

Neonatal Intensive Care Unit Nurse (Nicu Nurse): A nurse that takes care of premature and usually critically ill newborns in the NICU of a hospital.

Nephrology Nurse: A nurse that takes care of patients with kidney problems/disease.

Neuroscience Nurse: Takes care of patients with central nervous system disorders.

Nurse Advocate: A nurse that’s the liaison between the physicians and the patients. In a certain capacity all nurses are advocates for their patients.

Nurse Anesthetist: See certified registered nurse anesthetist.

Nurse Attorney: A nurse who has both their nursing and law licensure and degrees.

Nurse Author: See freelance nurse writer.

Nurse Educator: A nurse that teaches nursing students.

Nurse Entrepreneur: See nursepreneur.

Nurse Executive: A nurse that holds a high level management position in a hospital. For example chief nursing officer.

Nurse Historian: See freelance nurse writer.

Nurse Life Care Planner: A nurse that creates a long term care plan for a patient that’s going to need some form of medical care and attention for the rest of their life.

Nurse Manager: The nursing supervisor for a floor or a unit. Can also be the hiring and firing manager.

Nurse Midwife: See certified nurse midwife.

Nurse Practitioner: An advanced practice nurse that provides primary care to patients. Depending on the state can treat, diagnose and prescribe medications.

Nursepreneur: Nurse + entrepreneur = nursepreneur. This is a nurse who is also an entrepreneur. It’s a nurse that uses their training to start their own business. While it’s more commonly referenced for nurses who start healthcare or nursing related businesses, it doesn’t necessarily have to.

Nurse Researcher: Nurses who design studies and analyze results for the improvement of nursing practice.

Nurse Writer: See freelance nurse writer.

Obstetrics Nurse: Also called an OB nurse. This is a nurse that takes care of female patients during labor, pregnancy, childbirth and postpartum.

Occupational Health Nurse: A nurse whos job is to protect the safety and wellbeing of employees.

Oncology Nurse: A nurse that takes care of patients who have cancer.

Operating Room Nurse (OR Nurse): A nurse that works in the OR and assists the surgeons during the surgery. The OR nurse can work either before, during, or after surgery.

Ophthalmic Nurse: A nurse that takes care of patients with eye disease or illness. For example glaucoma.

Orthopedic Nurse: A nurse that takes care of patients who have musculoskeletal issues. For example fractures and osteoporosis.

Ostomy Nurse: See wound care nurse.

Otorhinolaryngology Nurse: A nurse that takes care of patients with ear, nose, throat, head, and neck disorders.

Pain Management Nurse: A nurse that takes care of patients with chronic and sometimes debilitating pain.

Palliative Care Nurse: See hospice nurse.

Parish Nurse: A nurse that takes care of patients within a religious community.

Pediatric Endocrinology Nurse: See endocrinology nurse.

Pediatric Nurse: A nurse that specializes in taking care of children.

Pediatric Nurse Practitioner: An advanced practice nurse who takes care children by providing primary care services.

Per-diem Nurse: A nurse who works for a facility on a temporary or as needed basis (i.e. not a regular full time staff).

Peri-Anesthesia Nurse: See poet anesthesia care unit nurse.

Perinatal Nurse: See obstetrics nurse.

Peri-Operative Nurse: See operating room nurse.

Plastic Surgery Nurse: A nurse that takes care of patients who are undergoing cosmetic and sometimes surgical procedures. For example liposuction, face lifts.

Poison Information Specialist: A specialized form of toxicology nurse

Post Anesthesia Care Unit Nurse (PACU Nurse): Nurses who provided observation and treatment services to patients who have recieved anesthesia.

Post-Operative Nurse: See operating room nurse.

Psychiatric Nurse: A nurse that takes care of patients with psychiatric disorders such as bipolar, schizophrenia, and substance abuse.

Psychiatric Nurse Practitioner: An advanced practice registered nurse who provides specialty care to patients psychiatric and behavioral health disorders.

Public Health Nurse: A public health nurse provides education and care to patients/people within a community.

Pulmonary Care: A nurse that takes care of patients with respiratory disorders or illnesses.

🔘Q-T: DIFFERENT TYPES OF NURSES

Quality Improvement Nurse: A nurse that focuses on improving the quality of medical facilities.

Radiology Nurse: Takes care of patients who are undergoing radiation treatments.

Rehabilitation Nurse; A nurse that takes care of patients with long-term disabilities.

Registered Nurse (RN): The RN licensure is what’s needed to be able to work and function as a registered nurse. You can get this licensure by either going through an associates degree nursing program, a bachelor’s degree nursing program, or a nursing diploma program.

Reproductive Nurse: See fertility nurse.

Research Nurse: A nurse who does clinical trials to figure out new evidence based practice.

Respiratory Nurse: See pulmonary care nurse.

Rhematology Nurse: A nurse whose patients dealing with rheumatic diseases. For example osteoarthritis and gout.

Rural Nurse: A nurse who works in rural geographical areas. Often these areas are going to have limited access to health care.

School Nurse: A nurse who takes care of children in school. Typically Pre-K to middle school is what people usually think about when they think school nurse. But it can also include nurses who take care of high school and college students.

Subacute Nurse: A nurse who takes care of patients who require around the clock care. The difference between this and a long-term care nurse is that subacute nurse patients usually only require the care for a short period of time.

Substance Abuse Nurse: A specialized version of psychiatric nursing specifically dealing with patients with substance abuse.

Supplemental Nurse: See contract nurse.

Telemetry Nurse: A nurse who monitors patients who are on life-sustaining or life monitoring equipment such as an electrocardiogram.

Telehealth Nurse: See telephone triage nurse.

Telephone Triage Nurse: Helps patients over the phone by assessing their need and making sure they’re referred to the right healthcare facility or provider.

Temp Nurse: See per-diem nurse.

Toxicology Nurse: A nurse who takes care of patients who have swallowed poison or came into contact with toxic chemicals or venomous animals.

Transcultural Nurse: A nurse that provides a culturally sensitive and inclusive care.

Transport Nurse: See flight nurse.

Trauma Nurse: Usually works in the emergency room. This nurse provides care to patients in dire situations.

Travel Nurse: A nurse that works for a staffing agency anf takes temporary nursing positions in facilities across the country and globe. Typical assignment length is usually an 8 week minimum.

🔘U-Z: TYPES OF NURSES

Urology Nurse: A urology nurse takes care of patients with diseases or illnesses related to the urinary system.

Veterans Affairs Affairs: Works in the VA health system and takes care of veterans.

Wound Care Nurse: A wound care nurse takes care of patients with wounds, either by medical procedures, or injury and disease.

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Unveiling the Unseen: A Deep Dive into Preta, Bhuta, & Pisacha in Bhoot Badha

Bhoot Badha, the concept of spirit possession, is a complex and multifaceted phenomenon that has intrigued and frightened people for ages. To understand and manage Bhoot Badha effectively, one must delve into the characteristics and astrological indications of its main entities: Preta, Bhuta, and Pisacha. In this extended blog, we'll explore these entities in detail, shedding light on their origins, astrological signatures, and impacts on human lives.

Preta: Unfulfilled Longings and Ancestral Ties

Preta are restless spirits of deceased ancestors who haven't found peace due to unfulfilled desires, sudden or unnatural deaths, or a lack of proper last rites. These pitiful figures wander the earth, perpetually hungry and thirsty, seeking fulfilment. They often appear in dreams or visions, pleading for help or offering cryptic messages.

Astrological Signatures

Specific planetary placements in your birth chart can indicate the presence of a Preta. A weak or afflicted Moon in the 6th house (house of deceased ancestors) suggests the unfulfilled desires of a departed loved one. Rahu's placement in the 1st or 9th house may also indicate a Preta connection, along with unresolved karmic debts. Additionally, the 12th house, which represents the afterlife and spiritual liberation, can offer insights into Preta's influences.

Impact

While Preta are generally not malevolent, their presence can drain the energy of the living, causing feelings of lethargy, dissatisfaction, or recurring dreams of a pleading figure. Their influence can also lead to disruptions in family relationships or sudden financial difficulties, reflecting the unfulfilled desires and unresolved issues of the ancestral spirit.

Bhuta: Earthbound Spirits and Disruptions

Bhuta are earthbound spirits that can range from malevolent to neutral. They include disembodied spirits of people who died violently and elemental spirits associated with specific places or natural elements. These spirits often remain attached to specific locations or objects, causing disturbances to those who encounter them.

Astrological Indications

The influence of Bhuta might be indicated by strong placements of Mars or Rahu in particular houses like the 1st, 4th, or 8th house. An afflicted Lagna (Ascendant) might also suggest susceptibility to Bhuta influence. Additionally, the placement of Saturn, the planet of karma and discipline, can reveal the nature and severity of Bhuta disturbances.

Impact

Bhuta can manifest through strange noises, moving objects, or unexplained chills. In severe cases, they might even cause physical harm or illness, leading to a pervasive sense of unease or negativity. Continuous exposure to Bhuta disturbances can result in chronic anxiety, sleep disturbances, and deteriorating mental health, affecting both individuals and families.

Pisacha: Demonic Entities and Malevolent Forces

Pisacha are considered the most dangerous and malevolent spirits, deriving pleasure from inflicting suffering on the living. Unlike Preta or Bhuta, they are not associated with unfulfilled desires or lingering attachments. They are purely driven by malicious intent and often target vulnerable individuals.

Astrological Signatures

Strong malefic influences like Rahu and Ketu, or an afflicted Sun in the birth chart, can indicate the presence of Pisacha. These shadowy planets are associated with negativity, deception, and destructive forces. Additionally, the influence of malefic planets in the 6th, 8th, or 12th house can amplify the malevolent energies of Pisacha.

Impact

Pisacha is believed to cause significant disturbances, terrifying nightmares, and severe mental or physical illness. Their malevolent nature makes them challenging to ward off. Victims of Pisacha attacks often experience prolonged periods of depression, isolation, and physical ailments that defy conventional medical explanations, necessitating specialized spiritual interventions.

Remedies

● Propitiating Ancestors: Performing Shradh rituals and offering prayers can appease Preta, allowing them to find peace and move on. These rituals involve offerings of food, water, and prayers to honour and appease the ancestral spirits, seeking their blessings and forgiveness.

 

● Purification Ceremonies: Specific pujas like Shanti Path or Homa can cleanse the environment of negative energies associated with Bhuta. These ceremonies involve chanting of mantras, offering of ghee, grains, and herbs into a sacred fire, invoking divine blessings for protection and purification.

 

● Protective Mantras and Yantras: Chanting powerful mantras or using Yantras can create a shield against the influence of malevolent entities like Pisacha. Mantras dedicated to specific deities like Lord Shiva, Goddess Durga, or Lord Hanuman are particularly effective in repelling negative energies and strengthening spiritual defences.

 

● Gemstones and Spiritual Practices: Wearing specific gemstones like Rudraksha or practising meditation can strengthen your aura and increase your spiritual resilience. These practices enhance your spiritual connection, balance your energy centres, and offer protection against psychic attacks and negative influences.

Beyond Astrology: A Holistic Approach 

While astrology offers valuable insights, a holistic approach that includes psychological evaluation, environmental assessment, and spiritual guidance is essential.

 

● Psychological Evaluation: Consulting a mental health professional can help rule out mental health conditions and provide therapeutic support.

● Environmental Factors: Investigating potential environmental causes for disturbances is crucial, including factors like electromagnetic fields, infrasound, or geological anomalies.

● Spiritual Guidance: Seeking guidance from a spiritual teacher or religious leader can provide additional support and insights into spiritual practices and rituals for protection and healing.

The Bottom Line

Understanding the different entities involved in Bhoot Badha empowers you to approach the situation with awareness, compassion, and confidence. Consulting a qualified astrologer, ruling out other causes, and following Vedic remedies can help create a more peaceful environment. Remember, Bhoot Badha is not always a cause for fear. By taking the right steps, including a holistic approach that addresses physical, psychological, and spiritual aspects, you can ensure a harmonious living space for yourself and your loved ones.

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There have been countless jokes and horror stories about the notorious mother-in-law, commonly referred to as the "monster-in-law." But what many people don't realize is that there may be scientific evidence to support these claims.

According to recent research, mother-in-laws have been found to possess hepatotoxic properties, making them a potential threat to their unsuspecting prey, also known as the son or daughter-in-law. Hepatotoxicity, or liver damage, can be caused by a variety of factors, such as exposure to toxic substances, including certain drugs, alcohol, and even environmental toxins.

But how could a mother-in-law, a real-life human being, possess such destructive abilities? Some speculate that it could be due to the overwhelming stress and anxiety that often come with dealing with difficult in-laws. Others believe it may be a result of the natural biological competition between a mother and their child's spouse for the attention and affection of the beloved offspring.

However, researchers have found that it may actually be linked to an ancient mythological creature - the succubus. The succubus, often depicted as a seductive female demon, feeds on the life force of its victims, draining them of their vitality and ultimately causing their demise.

In the case of the mother-in-law, it is believed that their hepatotoxicity stems from a similar desire to consume and control those around them. Like the succubus, the mother-in-law can often be manipulative and controlling, using their toxic behavior to overpower and drain the energy of their victims.

But how does this hepatotoxicity manifest itself? The liver is responsible for filtering out toxins and other harmful substances from the body. In cases of chronic exposure to such toxins, the liver can become damaged and unable to function properly. This can lead to a variety of health issues, including fatigue, digestive problems, and even liver failure.

Furthermore, the constant stress and anxiety brought on by a difficult mother-in-law can also have a negative impact on one's physical and mental well-being. Studies have shown that chronic stress can weaken the immune system, making individuals more vulnerable to illness and disease.

So for those who have had the unfortunate experience of a hepatotoxic mother-in-law, it may be best to stay on high alert and limit exposure to their potentially harmful behavior. And for those who have yet to encounter one, remember to always approach with caution and be aware of the potential dangers that lurk beneath the surface of a seemingly innocent family member.

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People in this fandom treat Louis like he’s a saint but he was a emotionally and verbally abusive partner to both lestat and Armand a lot of the time (trapping a person you barely like in rebound situationship hell is a different kind of cruel and if Armand and lestat weren’t Armand and lestat and were not abusers themselves people would be able to see this more clearly) was physically violent with Claudia ,Armand and grace, put hands on lestat and was an entire serial killer during the 70s specifically preying on gay men who were down and out, left the first person who helped him in Romania to get put down like a dog, tried to kill a young junkie kid for being stupid and saying dumb shit ( Daniel’s insane lack of empathy during that episode is acknowledged though because telling someone you’ll be better than their dead kid sick) and prostituted women fully knowing it was wrong just so he could keep his family in luxury and was physically and emotionally violent with a chronically ill elderly man who didn’t do anything wrong other than try to hold him accountable . He is an awful person like everyone else in the diabolicule and that’s just a fact. He tends to hide it in this hypocritical genteel veneer, but if you ignore his words and look solely at his actions you’ll see that Saint Louis is not an apt nickname at all. What’s worse is usually only does good things to assuage his guilt ( making claudia after getting an entire community screwed over, the bright young reporter speech after trying to kill Daniel and provoking Armand, making madeleine to make up for constantly neglecting Claudia and picking mentally ill twunks over her).

And ok this is the toxic fruity bloodsucker show and we don’t expect any of these guys to be sweet and wholesome but the way people treat him like he’s done nothing wrong in his relationships grinds my gears.

They are all bad people. Louis was no doubt the victim of manipulation, gaslighting and physical abuse in his relationships but he was also abusive, and we can try to justify his mistreatment of Armand and lestat because they are lestat and Armand but there’s no excuse for his neglect of Claudia, grabbing her that way, ignoring her self harm, going back to her abusive cheating father, choosing Armand(one of her murderers) over her and then spitting on her memory by running right back into the arms of the man who made her life miserable and lead to her death.

That’s the thing about this show, it’s just cruelty and bad decisions and romantic toxicity, it’s very heavy allegory of the way familial and platonic relationships are neglected in favour of romantic ones or used to sustain them. It’s knowing you have failed so many people you claimed to love and having to live with that until the sun fucking explodes because you’re literally immortal, but it’s also the hope that by having time as a completely infinite resource it’s possible unlearn these cycles. Louis and lestat were never healthy or good to each other but there was love there and it showed , and maybe they can find a way to make that enough this time around. I don’t think lestat will get over the events of their first marriage and I think when the self awareness kicks in Louis won’t escape the guilt either and maybe that’s what they both need,

There are always 2 sides.

The discourse around Louis and Lestat being a victim and abuser and nothing more drives me insane.

Something i don't think enough people remember is that the very same reason the fight began in 1×05 (lestat grabbing claudia by the throat when she tries to "take louis away") we see Louis himself do to her in 1×07 when she tries to get Louis to burn Lestat.

They BOTH would harm her rather than live in a world without the other. They are both guilty of abusing her and each other.

There is an implication that a good deal of time passed between Louis and Lestat meeting and the church. Louis expresses that he shares himself with Lestat in a way he only had with Paul. I would assume that goes both ways, to a degree. We know Louis knows at least enough about Nicki to discourage Claudia poking that wound. He also clearly knows that the threat of leaving is his most powerful weapon against Lestat.

Mental abuse is abuse. And Louis abused Lestat mentally for years. Shaming him, ridiculing him, shutting him out, manipulating him into making Claudia (a traumatic moment for him, whether Louis understands the depths of it or not) by promising to give him what he's being denying him, promising to never put him through what he fears the most.

Louis admits to purposely making Lestat suffer. He admits he was warned that Claudia would suffer and he wanted her anyway because he needed to feel redeemed. He is not innocent. He is not a trapped, weak victim. He made choices to hurt both Lestat and Claudia time and time again.

Does this justify Lestat's actions in 1×05? Obviously not. But we now know Louis was not willing to stop the fight. He taunted Lestat the same way he taunted the Alderman. He was unleashing years of frustrations just as Lestat was. His priority was not to protect Claudia, it was to hurt Lestat, consequences be damned.

I hate the drop scene as much as the next person and Lestat has admitted he will never earn forgiveness for what he did. But if you view Louis as some squeaky clean victim who was manipulated, trapped, and abused by Lestat you are missing so much of what this show is conveying.

We will always tend to paint ourselves as the hero of our own story. It is hard to accept your faults or that you hurt people you love. It is much easier to shift that blame on to someone else, to frame them as the villian. But life is not usually that black and white. Claudia had harsh words for them both in her diary, even before they got to Europe, for a reason. They both made hurtful mistakes with her, both treated her like a pawn in their relationship instead of a person, both harmed her, took away her choice, never prioritized her.

That is the great tragedy. That she never had a choice and was not allowed to be her own person. And in the end, they both are responsible for her misery and her death. That's what makes the reunion scene so important. They have been grieving her and carrying that guilt alone, all the while longing for the comfort of the other for 70+ years. Louis has found clarity in his memories, he has accepted his role in their suffering, he has seen Lestat's perspective more fully. Lestat is broken, totally consumed with that guilt and grief. Both know that although they cannot change what they've done, they can forgive the other, even if they can't forgive themselves. They can love each other despite everything they've done to one another because they cannot stop loving each other. But now they can try to rebuild that love from the rubble.

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The Road to Recovery: How Chiropractic Care Aids Patients After an Auto Accident

Auto accidents can have serious consequences for the human body, leaving victims with a slew of physical and emotional issues. The consequences of an automobile accident can be serious, ranging from whiplash to musculoskeletal ailments. In such cases, seeking the advice of a chiropractor becomes critical for a complete recovery. This blog examines how chiropractic therapy might benefit patients following a car accident, emphasising the advantages of specialised Car Accident Chiropractor Treatment.

Understanding the Impact of Auto Accidents on the Body:

Even modest car accidents can expose the body to severe forces that result in injury. Whiplash is one of the most prevalent injuries, which happens when the head is violently pulled back and forth upon collision. This abrupt movement can strain the muscles, ligaments, and discs in the neck, resulting in chronic pain and discomfort. 

Furthermore, the jarring nature of a collision can induce spinal misalignments, impairing the neurological system and overall physiological function.

The Role of Chiropractic Treatment:

Chiropractors are healthcare specialists who specialise in the diagnosis and treatment of musculoskeletal and nervous system diseases. When it comes to car accidents, chiropractic care can be extremely beneficial in terms of aiding healing and restoring function. 

To address the specific injuries incurred in a vehicle accident, chiropractors use a variety of techniques such as spinal adjustments, massage therapy, and rehabilitation exercises.

1. Spinal Adjustments for Alignment:

Realigning the spine is one of the key goals of chiropractic care following an auto accident. Spinal adjustments, also known as spinal manipulations, are mild, targeted movements used to rectify misalignments in the spine. This not only alleviates pain but also ensures that the neurological system functions properly. Chiropractors aid the body's natural healing mechanisms by restoring appropriate alignment.

2. Pain Management through Massage Therapy:

Massage therapy is frequently used by chiropractors to ease pain and reduce muscle tension. Massage therapy's hands-on technique can assist enhance blood flow, relax tight muscles, and boost the production of endorphins, the body's natural painkillers. This might be especially effective for people who are suffering from chronic pain or stiffness as a result of a car accident.

3. Rehabilitation Exercises for Strengthening:

Chiropractors advise rehabilitation activities customised to the patient's individual injury to prevent long-term difficulties and enhance overall wellness. These exercises are designed to strengthen muscles, increase flexibility, and improve general body function. Patients can actively contribute to their recovery and lessen the likelihood of recurrence disorders by actively participating in rehabilitation.

4. Emphasizing the Importance of Timely Intervention:

Individuals affected in traffic accidents must seek chiropractic care as soon as possible. Even if symptoms are not immediately apparent, underlying damage may show later. Early intervention can help to prevent the development of chronic illnesses and hasten the healing process. When started early, a Car Accident Chiropractor Treatment plan can greatly improve outcomes and restore normalcy to a patient's life.

5. Holistic Healing for Emotional Well-being:

Auto accidents may be distressing, and the emotional toll can last long after the physical injuries have healed. Chiropractors understand how important it is to address both the physical and mental components of rehabilitation. Deep tissue massage and relaxation techniques not only relieve physical discomfort but also aid to reduce tension and promote calm. This holistic approach recognises that effective rehabilitation necessitates the nurturing of both the body and the mind.

6. Customized Care Plans for Individual Needs:

No two car accidents are same, and neither are the injuries that ensue. Chiropractors recognise the individuality of each patient's circumstance and adjust treatment plans appropriately. Whether it's a mild case of whiplash or more severe musculoskeletal injuries, the chiropractic care provided is personalized to address specific needs. This personalised approach guarantees that patients receive the most effective and tailored recovery care possible.

7. Educating Patients for Long-Term Wellness:

Chiropractors go beyond treating acute conditions to provide patients with the knowledge and tools they need for long-term wellness. This includes educating people about appropriate po sture, ergonomics, and lifestyle changes that can help with general spinal health. Chiropractors empower patients to prevent future injuries and maintain a healthier, more robust body by encouraging a proactive approach to well-being.

It is critical to understand that chiropractic care is not a one-size-fits-all answer. Chiropractors can develop comprehensive treatment regimens that prioritise long-term health and well-being by conducting extensive examinations and taking into account the particular circumstances of each patient.

Chiropractic care's holistic approach is especially beneficial in the context of car accidents, since the impact on the body can be multidimensional. Chiropractors play an important role in assisting individuals towards a complete and sustainable recovery by combining physical adjustments, therapeutic exercises, and patient education.

Accident Centers of Texas – Your Partner in Recovery:

As people deal with the frequently difficult aftermath of car accidents, the assistance and experience provided by Accident Centres of Texas become crucial. Their dedication to patient-centered treatment, along with a multidisciplinary approach, distinguishes them as leaders in the field of post-accident recovery. The Accident Centres of Texas provide a reassuring environment where patients can embark on their journey to recovery with confidence, thanks to state-of-the-art facilities and a staff of dedicated specialists.

In a nutshell, the road to recovery following a car accident is complicated, necessitating a holistic approach that addresses both the physical and emotional components of well-being. Chiropractic care emerges as a critical component of this process, providing personalised, comprehensive solutions that promote healing and long-term wellness. The Accident Centres of Texas are a beacon of hope for people seeking skilled care in Texas, assisting folks towards a brighter, pain-free future. Remember that prioritising your health today will lay the groundwork for a more resilient and energetic tomorrow.