#when will people understand that i do not amplify people saying shitty things about the boys and stop making up stories about what it means?

[asmileforyourscrapbooks]

OMFG THIS COMMENT. GUISE. THAT LAST SENTENCE IS SO FUCKING RAW

edit: i see a lot of people arguing over the 'eat the rich' thing and i'd like to clear up my standing currently! i know they aren't the same kind of fancy multi-million corporation that our beloved phrase talks about, and the reason i agree to a point with this comment is that watcher is evidently trying to become that. they're doing some shitty things in regards do disregarding poorer fans, and are seemingly blatantly ignoring the economic crisis by saying 'everyone can afford that!', all in direct contrast to their entire branding of being leftist and openly supporting things like eat the rich.

"You said 'eat the rich' then handed us the forks, laid on the plate, and expected us to spare you?" at least from my understanding isn't flat-out saying watcher are now the rich we eat, but are well on the track to becoming so, and are quickly developing the same ego.

BUT!! don't like people directly hating on steven like that!! they're all grown men who can make their own decisions, and pretending like shane and ryan are out little baby beans and then calling steven evil and whatnot isn't okay. they can all be held equally accountable. though i do somewhat understand being the most disappointed in shane, as he's the one who speaks on shit like eating the rich the most, and is generally more outward with his ideals, so it's perfectly reasonable to feel betrayed more deeply. but bottom line is they're all equally accountable for this decision.

some shit we can't take back. i probably got pissed and said some weird/uncool shit initially because of the intense emotions i was dealing with, which other people amplified. i do regret some of the things i've said to a point when it comes to being hateful, but i can't just un-say it all, so i'm not even going to try. i'm going to leave everything be and allow it to serve as something to look back on for what not to do in future circumstances. while this new path for watcher is, in my opinion, not the smartest and generally really shitty, they're human beings who make mistakes, and they deserve our acknowledgement of that.

in short, i don't like it but i'll stop being a bitch about it because they don't deserve that. also sorry for the wall of (probably incoherent lmao) text i got passionate <3

edit 2: guys. im screaming. the apology was amazing imo and i genuinely think they really mean it, like it doesn't seem bullshitted. i think they realized they fucked up for reals and feel bad. im so happy for them, but also for us as fans. yay :D

[hazbin-a-helluvamagines]

How about this? Headcanons for Loona and Octavia (separate) with a nerdy!male!reader??

Idk, but when I was thinking of this I thought of him just being Milo thatch from Atlantis: The Lost Empire if he was an imp (and maybe looking like him with a human disguise).

"My Geek" ; Loona, Octavia Ars Goetia

AN: I have never seen ATLA, so I hope I did this okay for you!!

Loona would tease you. Brutally, in fact. But she does it all out of love. She just doesn't really know how to show people that she cares about them, so she resorts to teasing to hide the fact that she does. She doesn't want to seem vulnerable, after all. Look where that's gotten her in the past.

With that said, that doesn't mean she lets anybody else makes fun of you. No, only SHE'S allowed to do that. Girlfriend privileges, she calls them. Even before you're actually dating.

But the second someone else tries? Ohhhh dear, be prepared for tears. And not hers (or yours).

"Don't be such a prick when he manages to pull hot bitches with his nerdiness, and you're going to die a loser virgin."

She'd of course comfort you afterwards, in her own Loona way. Telling you how that person was a loser, anyway. How they didn't understand your "weird, shitty hobbies", but that that only made them a little bitch.

Loona will act like she doesn't care about what you're suggesting to her, but in reality... well, her Mammazon cart is full of her gift ideas for you for special occasions. Comic books, manga, movies, costumes, you name it.

And y'know what? She'll never tell you that she actually paid attention to what you told her.

"Here. A random shut-up gift."

That's code for "I've been listening a lot, actually, and I know these are things you like, so I wanted to get you something that lets you know I paid attention", by the way.

Honestly, I feel like she'd prefer a nerdy S/O for a guy, though?? Someone she can be playful and fun with without having to maintain her stone-cold persona.

Now your human disguise... oh boy.

You saw how she was with Vortex? Yeah, well, with you, you can basically amplify that by ten.

Basically heart eyes lmao.

Don't worry, she eventually starts acting more normal around you in that form once she begins associating it back to you, her loving boyfriend.

She'd still have those momentary slip-ups where she says something she normally wouldn't, though, although they're much more welcome when you're actually her boyfriend.

"Uh... Loona? You okay?"

"You're hot... I mean, uh- Y'know, literally. Cuz it's... a hot day out."

Girl is down bad.

Honestly? Octavia seems pretty nerdy, too. Probably has a secret comic book hobby. So she doesn't see anything wrong with your hobbies. She even finds them endearing.

Likes to hear your little hot takes, whether or not she really agrees with them. It opens the floor for some productive discussion and banter.

"Oh yeah? And what happens if I do something like this?"

And she proceeds to either do it, if it's a physical thing she can do, or explain the idea, eager to hear your take on it or if it's something you'd suggest in that scenario.

Due to that, she really isn't hard to make conversation with at all, since she can relate pretty well to your more geeky interests, and even be persuaded to get into the same fandoms. Or have fandom battles, like Marvel vs. D.C..

She'll always side with D.C., though.

And of course, she'll happily come with you to those types of movies, since she usually really enjoys them, herself.

She's more of a music nerd, though, and she'll definitely try to get you to listen to some of her favorite artists. The music is pretty angsty, but it's not bad, either. And you love her, so you bear with it for her.

Definitely the type to take you to one of those geek stores for your birthday and just let you pick whatever you want.

Girl comes from money, and she knows how to spend it. :)

"S/O? What about this one? It's got that thing you like on it."

As she's proudly showing you a T-shirt of a character you mentioned liking, excitedly looking around for her own things, as well.

Always a fun couple experience.

Oh, also, Stella HATES you, but that's probably to be expected. Not that Octavia really cares for her absentee mother's approval.

[thegirlwhowrites642]

I just reread cos i sort of felt annoyed at weasley brothers esp. Twins ( I know they are very beloved in fandom but I found their lack of common sense annoying sometimes) Do you think in cos weasley brothers were sort of neglectful? I can understand ron he is only one year older & has his own insecurities but fred and George were 14 & percy was 16. I am not saying its their fault but still. I am older sis myself I just can't imagine not noticing ( god forbid) my younger sibling going something like this. Maybe it's a brother thing to be like this. Anyways sorry for long rant,please share your thoughts.

I totally understand your point of view because I'm an older sister too, and there would have been no way in hell I would have missed something like this about my younger sibling. Though I have to say, Percy at least understands there's something wrong and we also know Ginny at eleven is a very practised liar that doesn't like to ask for help and doesn't have much faith in her family being in her corner (the Quidditch training in secret is such a perfect back story for the diary).

I think when the Weasley brothers really fail is after Ginny's first year.

A lot of people seem to believe that the worst things Ron did were not believing Harry in GoF or the Horcrux thing but I completely disagree. Those things are frankly very minor all considered and influenced by a lot of circumstantial reasons. The one thing that really always kind of stuck with me that was really shitty of Ron was when he shoves away Ginny at the start of PoA. Your sister has been possessed for a whole year by a dark lord fundamentally because she grew up very sheltered and all her brothers decided to ignore her while an evil dark object amplified all her insecurities and the year after you decide to behave with her in the same exact way?

And I get that Ron is jealous of his friendships due to his insecurities but there's a limit to what is justifiable (he grows out of it at least so kudos for that).

And then after the dementor's attack, it's not even Ron who takes care of her while she trembles.

And of course, the fact that Ginny searches for Ron even after he sent her away tells you something about the other brothers (maybe Percy had prefect things to do so he might be excused, but why wasn't she with the twins?).

But after all, it's one of the big themes of Ginny's story: she doesn't have anyone in her corner but herself.

Ginny starts the story victim of unimaginable horrors because of her loneliness but she becomes someone whose greatest strength is her ability to stand on her own (the girl is a rock) and who takes care of the people forgotten by everybody else. She once was the injured girl on the floor of the Chamber and she becomes the one who takes care of the injured girl on the grounds (soon after her brother died I might add).

[note: it's also a full circle moment for Harry and Ginny because, in the scene in DH, Harry is projecting on the injured girl]

[baby--charchar]

Rhea & Deafness

Rhea is a Deaf character, and I've always tried to do justice by her in regards to both her clinical deafness, and more importantly, her cultural Deafness. This post expounds on some important historical, societal, legal, and medical information in regards to the Deaf community, and I wanted to expand on some of the topics here specific to Rhea.

So Rhea is Deaf?

Yes! She has some residual hearing, but it's only about 15%-30% of what a typical person hears. She can recognize Vaggie's voice if she's sitting right beside her, and she finds a lot of comfort in hearing Vaggie talk and sing to her. She does not hear with enough clarity in order to decipher language, so she does not understand what's being said. She also misses most ambient sounds from her environment, like say, people walking behind her or shouting across the room.

Why is there such a big communication gap between her and everyone else at the hotel. Why doesn't she just use lip reading/writing notes/etc.?

There's a lot of components to this, but by far the most important is: Her native language is American Sign Language, not English. Lip reading requires extensive familiarity with English, which she did not get at her Deaf school; lip reading is also a mediocre communication system in general, as even the best lipreaders can only recognize about 30% of what's being said, and end up filling in the gaps through context clues. To be blunt, Rhea just sucks at it, but it's no skin off her bones.

Writing things down leads to a similar issue- English is not her first language. English literacy rates among the Deaf community are often lower than hearing individuals, but this is not due to lack of intelligence or even education. To read, you have to KNOW ENGLISH (including the grammar, syntax, conjugation, word order, etc. that's wildly different from that of ASL); then you must use the complex SOUND SYSTEMS of the English language to decode and decipher. It's not impossible, but it has its limits. Rhea's literacy is okay, and originally she had communication cards at the hotel. But they were simple words like "eat," "pool," and "Vaggie," and were useless during her meltdowns when she needed so much more help communicating. Everyone in her life is learning ASL (yes, even her grumpy case manager Lute), and while it's a slow process, it's already proven more meaningful for everybody.

She went to a Deaf school?

Yes, it was a residential school in a shitty little beach tourist town. As a school it was okay; just a little old and outdated. She was never the most social, but she had community there. She was on the swim and dance teams. She's won a few state medals in swimming. If Vaggie could find a way to smuggle those into hell for Rhea, that'd be great.

So she has a hearing aid?

Yes, a hearing aid! Not a cochlear implant. The implants are way more invasive, controversial, and often unnecessary if a person has residual hearing.

Hearing aids simply sit on top of the ear and act as a microphone to amplify sound. She never had them on earth as her birth family was...pretty neglectful about her altogether. Maybe if she had them growing up, she'd be better at English and lip reading/writing would benefit her more. But that's not even close to being the worst thing they've done, so let's just move on.

She LOVES her hearing aids. She loves the experience of bolder & brighter noise at the hotel. She's always loved music, but her hearing aids add a whole new level of vibrancy to it.

It's important to note that hearing aids do not "cure" deafness, and that's neither Rhea's nor Vaggie's intention with them. Making things louder doesn't affect the pitch, tone, or intonation discrepancies that can make understanding speech hard for Deaf people. Rhea is just a stimmy girl who's enjoying the world around her some more.

But Rhea's not JUST Deaf, right?

Correct! And honestly I think this the most important thing to remember about her.

She is Deaf, as well as autistic, as well as an age regressor, and she struggles from mental illness. Deafness affects everything she does, but it's not what's causing her a lot of the struggles she goes through.

Her struggles, as well as her negative traits such as aggression, immaturity, instability, self injury, tantruming, dissociation, and meltdowns ARE NOT TIED TO HER DEAFNESS. She should never ever be seen as representation for the Deaf community, she is just one person, one FICTIONAL person.

[elytrafemme]

i think i'm going to take a break from tumblr. (that's the TLDR, the rest of the post is long ramblings) i know that's shitty, because God knows I never check discord (not nearly as much as i should, but there's just so much) and barely reply to ao3 comments and so the least i could do is just exist here. but being on here makes the anger and grief i've been feeling for the last few weeks amplify. i can't exactly place it (well, i can place some of it, but that's neither here nor there), but i think while online activism in a place truly as online and disconnected as tumblr can be meaningful, it's so much more important to me right now to be fighting the battle in the world around me. and to find that community. because obviously i love you guys but when i feel like i'm about to spiral into a horrible place, i have to find company in the form of someone physically with me (maybe my therapist was right about me having someone on standby in this city huh). and when i see people with the most horrific understandings of what is happening in the world, to my siblings across the water, it's easier to contest that and stomach it when it's around me here than online. because at least i can do something about one of those things. what's happening in Gaza (and i admit I need to educate myself more about what's occurring in Armenia & Sudan) contains a pain that i only know a sliver of, being a second generation Iraqi Muslim across the Atlantic. but the pain is still visceral, and i've never felt this disappointed in myself in my entire life every fucking second. i'm on the edge of a relapse into something i thought i got over two years ago, and i can barely exist with myself when i'm alone but can't bring myself to ask for help. i just want to lay on my friends' air mattress in the floor above mine and never see my old friends or family again. october was the best month of my life, but simultaneously the worst, because every time there wasn't a movie night or a hangout i was cracking into pieces. for the first time in five years i need to make a safety plan, not for my life but for what i do within it. because i have no idea what tomorrow is going to look like for me but i know it's not going to be good. i'm convinced people are watching me and that if i make just one post here i'm going to hear someone banging on my door and i am so fucking scared. i usually repress these things but yesterday's realization that i'm more alone than i've ever been, and that i've been alone for so much longer than i thought, is making it hard to breathe. i don't know how to be a good person. i don't know how to live with myself anymore.

so i'm taking a break from tumblr. i might still be liking posts, but i need to force myself to stop using the site. i don't remember my password entirely so i don't want to log out, but i won't be here. it's also safe to say i'll be gone from discord for a while, too. looking at my dms makes me nauseous and i hope at least one person may be able to understand why. i'm sorry to my friends who i've not replied to in a while, i love you and i think of you and there will be a reply. obviously with every "i'm taking a break" post there's the odds i'm back here tomorrow, but i don't think that's the case.

i'll be okay. i love you all. see you.

[runthepockets]

Tbh I'm really tired of battle of the sexes wars. Like, if it isn't cis men and women arguing over who has it harder, it's trans men and women doing the same shit. It's article after article of (rightfully) angry women talking about swearing off dating and sex forever due to dudes being so perverted and invasive, and the worst men you've ever met having their voices amplified in retaliation, both further alienating the women whose approval and affection we so desperately crave and making it harder for other men to talk about legitimate anxieties and struggles we have navigating the world. I hate that articles about high suicide rates and high rates of isolation and depression in men has brought out women who say things like "oh wah wah men's feewings I cannot BELIEVE I have to take RESPONSIBILITY for this CRAP again men are lonely cus they SUCK MEN'S FAILURES are the reason they're miserable", even when none of the studies are implicitly or explicitly blaming women for this problem (and even if they were, there's gotta be a way to deescelate / point out the entitlement of these accusations without victim blaming).

I hate that I end up dating and befriending a lot of feminist women who routinely encourage men to be vulnerable, and then my vulnerability immediately triggers an argument or a shitty dissmissive attitude or me being accused of manipulation, and I hate that those same women having (understandable) biases against men have gotten me up in arms reacting in pretty similar ways. I hate the way men talk about women's bodies when women aren't around. I hate the way women talk about male sexuality when there are no men around. It all feels awful. And I hate that voicing this to queer friends hasn't really gotten me anything but "lol thank god I'm not straight" or something of that nature. I hate how straight relationships have the potential to be just as beautiful and vindicating and empowering as any other human relationship but we're all barred by socioeconomic factors and poor / vastly differing communication skills.

This is why I got so into Men's Liberation two years ago. It gives me a space to vent my feelings and greivances as a straight guy without feeling like a total jerkoff while also being sympathetic to feminist ideals and views. It's very grounding. I can practice run and analyze my greivances after properly grieving in a safe and educated space, then I can approach the women in my life without the cotton between my ears and my defenses lowered instead of immediately shutting down at the first sign of discomfort. It's why I'm so loud about a lot of these issues; I believe everything is connected, and if men and women's lives and experiences and socioeconomic statuses are so deeply intertwined with each other under cishet capitalist white supremacist patriarchy, they need to be intertwined in the process of abolishing it, too. But I can't do that with my trauma and anger dictating my politics, nor can the women that find themselves in my sphere. It's also part of why I stopped hanging out in woman dominated spheres as often; while I'm not going to deny women their right to vent, the anti-male sentiment was debilitating, and I deserve a life free of any more neurosis around my manhood than I already may have (there was also nothing there for me anymore anyway, being a straight dude and all).

I think this is another thing I like about being straight; as nice as it I'm sure it is to never have to worry about these seemingly trivial aspects of "straight culture", and as much as I support gay people having spaces to feel at home in their own skin and to vent about their oppressors, it also seems like it sometimes blinds you to the fact that the "opposite gender" isn't really going anywhere (or that the opposite gender even exists, generally) and gay seperatism isn't a realistic or helpful solution, even for other gay and trans people.

[bathroomtrapped]

What if they didnt fight cary and convinced him to return for saw 3... Then, would the scenario "jigsaw kidnaps larrys family" become real? Then, then, would it be more awesome than his coming back in saw 3d? I guess the answers yes. I'll forever hate Larry's treachery.

if it went according to plan, allison is kidnapped again and lawrence takes the role of lynn where he cares for john (iirc). either way, yeah theyre involved again. not sure abt diana tho?

okay so, sorry to be That Guy. but lawrence as an apprentice makes the most sense for his character and the saw universe and im going to use this random ask to voice my opinion so thank you for using my ask box as a saw google lol

A LOT more under the cut

i DO with we got to see that version because it would mean more lawrence screentime and i genuinely do not dislike any saw content. idc how shitty saw x is, it could undo everything and shit all over it but i would NOT care. any content means an avenue to explore saw further

thats one of the main reasons the apprentice reveal was so good, in my opinion. before i get to why its great for lawrence, i want to point out why it works SO well for the other aspects. amanda is johns pseudo-daughter, he LOVED her like a father. we see it at the end of saw iii. no matter what he says, john does not forgive people. he punishes jill for losing their child but at the end of iii, we see him genuinely look at amanda with love and forgiveness. and yet? he never trusted her enough to tell her about lawrence. this random fucking guy who didnt even WIN, is the golden child. trusted with his wife!

as for mark, he is the definition of jigsaws philosophy. he may have jostled his victims around but he had the strongest will to live out of anyone and never relished in hurting them (crying after kidnapping paul + killing seth). another reason i like 3D is that he cant even look at jills corpse. his "game over" wasnt victorious. not like johns always is. YET he is not trusted. hes been there since before amanda, followed his rules, lived his philosophy and he was shafted again. i think the reveal does a lot of good for the apprentice-john dynamic for everyone involved.

secondly, JOHNS TESTS DONT WORK. CANONICALLY. they do not!! amanda says it herself. jigsaw traps make people worse, and not just bc thats a logical response to trauma. working for john amplifies everyones worst traits. amanda became a killer, mark grew to find some sort of enjoyment in killing (at the very least, it made him dependent on it for power and a sense of identity after the loss of his sister)

lawrences test was designed to show him what john said he was missing: empathy. he has none! he lies and doesnt care, he cant understand other peoples points of view, and he prioritizes his own whims and wants over everyone. CONSISTENTLY. so what happens when his tests presents him with the very definition of his heart and moral core, then asks him to kill him? he gets fucking worse!

lawrence is a narcissist. as in the personality disorder. he has low empathy (this is canonically the reason for his test!! not just "he cheated" or "he ignored john", he does these things for that reason) and god. just look at the symptoms, its like they made every scene an example of them on purpose. the idea that his game would be a wake up call and cause him to reflect and adjust his behaviors is just insane to me! within the canon logic of the story, and when taking into account his clear personality disorder... its the most logical choice (source: i have it and also i have eyes. SIDE SIDE note, my real source is that hes a clear parallel to john and john was evaluated for NPD in his psychiatric files in the saw game. so theres that) i think this has a lot to do with people not understanding low empathy. they cant understand why he would betray adam and join jigsaw

trauma wont change that overnight. getting fixed by john for 2 years without seeing the sun certainly wont help either

lawrence as an apprentice is the most logical progression of his character. he does what he wants and what he has to, at the expense of others. hes isolated from his wife and child. he cant understand other peoples prespective. he has an issue with guilt or feeling empathy for people, including those suffering like john. this wont change bc he experienced his first shred of empathy after MURDERING someone he got to know for 6 hours. low empathy =/= no empathy. thats like saying dude bros who do shrooms and experience empathy for the first time in their life are changed people. they arent lol

also the contrast between his game over vs marks 5 minutes earlier is SO important for their characters. theres so much good shit in that movie. take out the corny lines and jill mistreatment, and u have a lot to work with! so yes i do think that itd be more awesome. i love saw 3D and what it did for his character. im not sure how saw iii hostage lawrence wouldve expanded on his character, but id rather go with saw 3D bc im confident they didnt butcher his character. im glad that a beloved protagonist is a complete narc, and hes still beloved! im never giving that up

[drabbleswithdragons]

For the disability pride asks <3<3

7) what's a struggle you wish more people talked about?

15) what does disability pride mean to you?

16) free space to talk about whatever disability issue or experience you want !

7 - I think I wish more people talked about dealing with disabilities and the diagnostic process without a support system (especially family). a lot of online creators especially on youtube either don't talk about that or their experience is/was having a support system they could fall back on when doctors were being shitty. also known as just being doctors. which as a young teenager being told I was "just stressed" when I actually have an autoimmune disease attacking my brain and More.... it could have been really meaningful to have Something that explained like. you are not Wrong. the people around you just fucking suck.

15 - for me disability pride is a lot about working towards being proud of myself even if/when I can't live up to the expectations of people who don't understand? I find I less want to promote awareness and more want to work on actually. being able to like and be proud of myself as I am with my disabilities and limitations.

16 - this is the question that made this take so long because I wanted to Find the post I am thinking of and make sure I was Correct. there was this post that crossed my dash a while ago that was like. drawing of Twitter discourse as an ouroboros. and then following that was the same thing but with the twitter bird logo. and the person who did the image description (as they were *not* on the original posts) described them as emojis rather than drawings/art/whatever. and it didn't like Start anything but a couple comments were made like "this is art drawn by [person] actually". which prompted Someone to add in the tags a comment which amounted to "do you not know people draw emojis". so the original poster responds that yes of course emojis have artists. these are not Technically emojis. so they said it because they Know who drew it, it was their friend who was not credited in the description...

so all of that to say. i don't think there was anything Wrong with that though im a little...on the fence...about people directly responding to/interacting with image descriptions.

but when it is the creator of the post! if you have corrections just. add the description with your changes to the original post. but also just. the comment of "this artist was not credited in the description" just kind of stood out as many people just generally are not very aware of the purpose of image descriptions. most people know they exist and are an accessibility tool for blind people but. if the artist signature isn't in the image. why would it be in the description. the same goes for IDs that are in small text, or only in alt text, stuff like that. which I don't often bring up to anyone online because it is. so frustrating to me. I lost a majority of my sight in about a year and a half which is a very short time so the frustration is probably amplified by that, too. but I Really wish more people would actually take the time to figure it out themselves.

also on that same topic. if you are not the original poster and you are making an image description. please Don't add comments before/after the ID. do that in a separate reblog.

anyways. that was a lot more than probably asked for...but now I am done.

[hydravrtx]

ROGUE SPEAKS

“You, who call my sisters witchhunters. Women strong and powerful enough to advocate, to fight for the wounded and the fallen, brave enough to hold members of our community accountable for their actions despite the consequences, you liken them to medeival demons who tortured, murdered, brutalized whole scores, whole cities of women, our would-be ancestors brought to an early grave for the sin of their sexuality, their knowledge, their power. You are punishing us still..Maybe, for the first time in your life, you are feeling what it is like to walk into a room, and not automatically know if you're safe, not know who your friends are, or why they are looking at you like that. Maybe this makes you feel hunted. But you, my friend are no witch. And I don't have time to feel sorry for you, no way, no time, not when a woman in America is raped every 2 minutes...Every 2 minutes. Think about that. I do not have time to listen to your version of the story: your convoluted truth, not when there is a woman out there, millions of women, who have noone to turn to for support, for validation.

I don't have time to nurse your wounded ego, or shed a tear for the dying patriarchy.”

that was the ending piece to a zine i read called WITCH-HUNT: addressing mental health and confronting sexual assault in activist communities and it pushed me to write — july 26th 2023 i put together what is known now as the “list”, you might’ve heard about it if you are young and enjoy the nightlife in the city of atlanta. the masterlist of abusers with the creative communities here. i was compelled instantly to read the zine because i + the community that advocates for the same thing as i do been called exactly that, witches.

“putting a list together to cause mass hysteria and a witch hunt” some said to me and i found it compelling. shaking people out of the shitty broken bed they have laid in for years is a witch hunt? wanting safety for everyone is the mass hysteria? i’ll never fully understand but anyways…that’s not why i am writing this. i’m writing this because lately ive been seeing a ton of think pieces about how activist can be heavily impacted by the work they do and i can say that it has heavily impacted me. negatively and positively. negatively i’m hearing/seeing tragic stories from different people every day… and feeling sometimes powerless that i can’t just have everyone see what i/the survivors do. i can’t make people that don’t want to be empathetic feel empathy. it’s april in 2024 now and my passion still hasn’t shrunk to amplify the voices of each survivor but it has been hard carrying around 100+ people on my back. i appreciate hydra so much for this alone.

harm i’ve learned is inevitable, everyone causes harm. it might not be physically but verbally or emotionally. those are the most common forms of harm as human we enact on each other but i don’t believe in this lifetime we are meant to strive to be a “good person” because the concept of a “good person” is within white supremacist ideals. maybe, the concept of a “good person” should be abolished and reinvented. why to be considered a “good person” you must be compliant with oppression? to be considered a “good person” you must never feel anger and express it? to be categorized as “good” it’s to ignore and deny?

i say all of this to say, that during my journey advocating and standing firmly in my beliefs i allowed myself vulnerable to the perpetrators that caused me harm to take this time during something uplifting to contort the truth of the trauma they induced on me..and manipulate anyone that will listen for the benefits of their ego. on the opposing side i believe that the population of people that hate women are far greater than i believed..this weird patriarchal mindset that all women are “devious” and wretched witch like creatures seems far too comfortably sitting with the mass majority. this idea only amplifies more for black women and other women of color. sometimes i fantasize that one day the actors of my own harm will finally be accountable and just let go. i am tired of fighting for my autonomy, truth and desire to finally be seen and heard. the closest i got to being seen was when stephvon branch ( kashphon) pleaded guilty to aggravated sodomy and is now serving 5 years in prison. though, i never pressed charges…i still felt seen when talking to the advocate that asked me my story. but those 5 years dont erase the trauma…or hate that im still working to snuff out. yes, i advocate for abuse survivors because i am a survivor of abuse

“So this brings me to the dilemma of how to implement a safer space policy, if we cannot agree on who is "right" and who is "wrong". I believe that if believe that if somebody (man, woman, trans, etc.) feels that a crime was committed against them, that they were violated, assaulted, abused, or raped, no matter what the circumstances, we as a community need to acknowledge, despite the lack of "evidence" that something very wrong occurred. It is also my belief that many many people, good and bad, have harmed others without realizing that what they were doing was wrong. Therein lies the problem. Patriarchy, misoginy and abuse are so embedded in all of us (and by that I mean all of us), that it is inevitably a harrowing experience to be called out as an abuser or an assaulter. I feel that every incident has to be dealt with individually, and according to the reactions of the suspected perpetrator, as well as the wishes of the survivor. Often the reactions of an accused perpetrator can be more than revealing of their truth”

was something else from the zine that sat with me heavily, there’s so many harmful behaviors deeply imbedded in us that we are in no position to ever tell the next person that “i didn’t cause you harm” because we are not them you can’t tell someone how to feel based off your opinion or observation! trauma is complicated. people are so complex and different we aren’t in their bodies and the sooner people stop projecting their defensiveness everything would be rather different.

carl jung is a philosopher that i spend a little too much time researching, he talks a lot about archetypes and i believe that’s what he is most known for. one archetype that caught my eyes was “the fool” where’s a quote from this video i watched; “There are two ways to be fooled. One is to believe what isn’t true; the other is to refuse to believe what is true. When there’s an uncomfortable truth that needs to be spoken, and those in power are afraid to speak about it, it is usually the fool who steps in. There is something heroic about this. It is the fool who speaks a truth nobody else dares to utter, and this brings instant relief, because people know it has to be said.”

maybe, hydra and i are the fool

[gwemmieee]

Feminism is for everyone. The patriarchy hurts men, too, and they are also people who do not deserve that hurt. Being shitty to people you don't know and calling for harm to an entire category of people based on things about them that weren't actually a choice, is always wrong. This includes men. I stand with you on this.

I would like to chime in though to say that, in my experience as a trans woman who transitioned later in life, this both is and isn't quite accurate.

If we're purely talking about mainstream discourse on social media sites that are either designed to amplify hate and division and infighting or, in the case of Tumblr and TikTok, maybe aren't *designed* that way but also do *nothing* to try to reduce our natural tendencies towards that stuff... You're right. You're utterly correct. And I know why. It's because women don't really get to exist safely online anymore, and are isolated, and are in a place where many of them are much less able to resist lashing out.

I don't know if everyone reading this is old enough to really understand what I'm talking about, but girls used to *exist* online. Like on MySpace, and DeviantART, and Neopets/Club Penguin/etc., Tumblr, and even on YouTube. And not as content creators or influencers, but as fully open people. Young girls used to truly be half of meme culture and participating equally, back in the 00s. But then as the 00s dragged on, we started getting bullied incessantly for our femininity or for certain more feminine neurodivergent tendencies (as most people who spend a LOT of time online are neurodivergent, especially back then). Our entire existence basically became the dominant culture pointed to as cringe. And then GamerGate happened. And before I even knew I was a girl, and without being fully conscious of what was happening at the time, I watched every girl and every woman, neurodivergent or not, who had the ability to go outside and be with people IRL, leave the internet. And they've been outside ever since.

And when you go outside, you will notice that the reality of feminism among healthy adults and their children just doesn't line up with this description. I remember when I was perceived as male, before and during and after GamerGate, in the heyday of pop feminism when it was all about letting men in and teaching them that they, too, can be feminists. But I wasn't actually let in. Even though I wasn't even a man, and I was just an amorphous autistic genuine feminist perceived as a man, I was held at an arm's length and treated like a predator. Unless they wanted to date me, no woman ever actually let me be friends with her besides one close childhood friend and one college friend, both of whom were not passionate feminists or queer. Feminists *told* me that all I had to do to feel fully accepted was agree with feminism, and I believed them, but the check completely bounced.

Nowadays though, living outside among adults, many of whom are the same age as me and the women who kept me away before... I don't know if this is culture evolving, or just the fact that I and my peers are no longer so young as early 20s, could be some of both. But trans, cis, BIPOC, most women in general are so much more welcoming of *any* man who does not prove he's a predator, and so much less TERFy. It really is getting better... just not in these online spaces that all the healthiest women were bullied out of a decade ago. Yeah, we still see women everywhere on Tumblr, but most of them are some flavor of disabled and kind of have nowhere else to go, or they're part of the following sentence. Yeah, we still see women everywhere on TikTok, but there's a difference between dipping into social media between going out almost every night and having a life, and living online, and most women online just don't live there anymore. I would know. I tried so hard to find them online after they'd left and I finally realized who I was, from my disabled and lonely position in a remote forest.

i am not being needlessly alarmist when i say that popular feminism has become extremely radfem-esque and that the normalisation of negative stereotypes towards men needs to be resisted. like. i clearly remember when feminists were derided as "man-hating feminazis" and the main counter-argument to that went something like "we don't hate men, feminism is for everyone, patriarchy harms men too and our goal is to dismantle that oppressive system, this will benefit everyone including men, men can and should be feminists because feminism is a movement for gender equality"

in fact the major rebuttal to men forming "men's rights" movements was always that the issues these groups identified were the negative impacts of the patriarchy on men. they didn't need a separate group because feminism was for everyone and feminist thought and theorising already accounted for the ways patriarchy harms men. which is true! many of the societal issues faced by men stem from white supremacist patriarchy and restrictive gender roles and traditionally feminism has given thought and time to those issues. feminism is for everyone and it is concerned with men's struggles under patriarchy alongside women's.

but somewhere in the last few decades that attitude fell by the wayside and now popular online feminism is this radfem-flavored "all men are bad forever" thing. now mocking, belittling, or hating men is #feminist #praxis. it's feminist to make jokes about #killallmen. it's feminist to view masculinity as inherently bad and dangerous. it's feminist to talk about the men in your life like they're animals who need to be house trained, or emotionally stunted children who need to be babied and distracted.

it's this idea of flipping patriarchy on its head and saying that actually women are the Superior Gender, women deserve to run the world and make all the decisions, and actually it's men who are the Inferior Gender who can't be trusted or left unsupervised.

these attitudes will always have the most severe negative impact on marginalised men. i don't know how we got here but it's past time we circled back around to "feminism is for everyone".

[williedude]

Guilt Inhibits Progress

Hi! I know I haven't posted here in a while but I just wanna remind everyone that it's important that you WORK to be better and you have to WANT to be better before you can ever expect people to see that you've changed. When I was a young I used to mimic iDubbbz's racist behavior with my white friends under the guise of being "edgy". This is still something I look back on and not only cringe but feel a deep sense of remorse over. I apologize for this awful behavior and the pain that I caused with said behavior. Apologizing is exactly what you need to do to start on the path of being better; however, guilt is the opposite of what you need to move on from your past behaviors. Guilt isn't necessarily a horrible thing, in fact it shows that you regret the hurt you caused and what problems you may have been the source of; but it is important for you to move on from that guilt and move into a stage of hard work and action to grow from the harm you caused in the past. I have a gift for music and love teaching music, so I have been using my skills in that regard to help amplify the voices of artists of color that I know. That's how I have found my way of repaying my debt for the pain I caused in my youth. I just want you to know that the most important thing is first UNDERSTANDING the pain you may have caused. ESPECIALLY if it was racist behavior or any other bigoted behavior. Understand the pain that you caused, (ESPECIALLY as a white person like myself who will never understand the pain of racism [also in this case FOR THE LOVE OF EVERYTHING LISTEN TO WHAT BIPOC ARE SAYING]), then APOLOGIZE GENUINELY (no excuses, you know what you did and you need to tell the truth before anyone is ever going to believe you've changed), and then finally DO BETTER, reflect on what you can improve upon and do that, and then once you've gotten yourself worked out, work on doing things which can make up for the shitty things you did before. People can and will change over time, and some people will do shitty things, but wallowing in misery over getting called out for such mistakes only seeks to make things worse for those you hurt. (EDIT: Also for God's sake if you're a celebrity, content creator, or public figure, don't whine about cancel culture and actually TRY to be a (big shocker) GOOD INFLUENCE ON YOUR FANS)

[1ddiscourseoftheday]

Sat 24 Aug

Niall went over to Pride Park for the Derby championship match and was quite the man of the hour, being interviewed at length ('Niall Horan, Derby fan') signing a mural at the park of his own face ("since I was young," he wrote) and taking pics in the stands with other behind the scenes people. In the interview he says he will have new music.... in October? Et tu Niall, what happened to Sept? All men do is lie, truly. And in sad news for the weirdly large demographic of people-who-are-super-invested-in-getting-Niall-and-Tom-Holland-in-the-same-place, Tom has withdrawn his participation in the upcoming Omega European Masters Pro Am (imagine joke about him unexpectedly presenting as something else).

Liam posted a shirtless vacation selfie, Summerchime posted a couple more pics of him with Suki and her family, and Ant Middleton posted a ridiculous clickbait tease for their upcoming show together ("you'll be shocked [in a good way!]") Liam at least is "shooketh" but not by his upcoming TV special; he responded saying so to fan labeling a video of Jimin from BTS flipping mics "Liam Payne is shaking." She was shooketh too by the response and immediately took it back, "I'm dead you're still the king of flipping mics don't listen to me!"

The contest winners were announced for the Madrid meet and greets; they are not known names and have not met any of the boys before. Bravo to the the festival for running a fair contest and to Louis, who told us he would find a way to do meet and greets that didn't favor those with lots of money over other fans, and then did.

And in the general announcements category, the Harry Rolling Stone may be on the shelves before Sept 3, at least according to one Barnes and Noble that said they'll just put them out when they get them which might be next week, and there will be a strike effecting some transit and airline activity in Madrid over the weekend of the festival so lucky travelers should be prepared to make alternate arrangements. Consider planning ahead to find ways to get around without supporting strikebreakering!

[vampireprostate]

[I'll preface this by saying that it's very late, I'm very tired and of scrambled brain, and so there's definitely ideas I'm either missing or didn't properly connect/explain]

I'm having thoughts about The Quarry and... after watching JSE's playthrough, some miscellaneous alt path videos, and a video about all of the options in Abi and Nick's moment in the woods... I feel like Nick is a really subtle, underappreciated character, and I wish we coulda seen more of him

I like him for a similar reason I like Emma (who I love tbh). It's the way they both subvert unpleasant archetypes that always seem to get punished in these sorts of stories.

Nick has a very subtle and passive personality, I think. He isn't very in touch with himself, his emotions and thoughts, and when the option is presented, always prefers to just "go with the flow." I like the exchange about Jacob influencing Nick, with Abi implying they can kind of amplify each other's douchebag energies, and Nick comments on how "girls like Jacob." I dunno, I feel like Nick wants to be seen and accepted, but he doesn't have the emotional intelligence to realize this, and just lets himself get swept up in Jacob, who is like, sort of an idealized version of maybe the person Nick wants to be.

I've seen stuff talking about how the werewolf transformation brings out intense parts of a person's personality. A lot of people hate Nick for how he treated Abi as he was transforming. And while I agree that he was being a shit person, I also just like. Feel for him? Like he's so goddamn repressed that when he gets pushed towards expressing his negative feelings, they burst out of him and immediately make him feel guilty.

I think he's just an interesting take in the soft sensitive + cool jock guy. It makes him become someone who is genuinely good on the inside (as seen when he helps that camper and is kind about it, or seeks Abi out when he thinks no one is watching to see her art)(but that also makes him kinda shitty bc like, what, do you care that much about what other people think? maybe he just didn't want any outside attention to be put on their relationship bc he's shy enough as it is), but he sucks because he's got no real sense of self, just letting himself get pulled along for reasons he doesn't understand. But because everything is repressed, he also holds a lot of ugly, awful shit, as well as a lot of guilt, which. Idk it's sad that a true facet of him is only able to be expressed as he's being corrupted by a curse.

Also I brought up Emma earlier bc like, on the surface she's an egotistical mean girl? Which like, she sorta is, but she's also got so much more depth outside of that. I'll maybe make a separate post about her sometime bc I really do love her, she's one of my fav characters

But yeah I just had to get these thoughts out. The Quarry kinda sucks but it's also really neat, and I think Nick is a neat character :) definitely needs to get his shit together and actually grow into himself tho. He deserves more than being one of those people who slides into the sidekick/lackey role for someone who boldly embodies the things they want for themself

I will continue to gently rotate him in my mind

[onyxheartbeat]

I’m turning 30 this year. Here are some things I learned throughout my 20s about love and heartbreak. This won’t apply to every identity, obviously. I’m simply sharing from my own romantic/sexual preferences.

-You can’t make a man love or value you by dressing sexier, dressing more modest, wearing more makeup, wearing less makeup, buying him gifts, giving him nudes or sexual attention, or even by offering him love, friendship, and support. It’s easy to get caught up in the “But what if I was more ... ?” mentality. He loves you or he doesn’t. Love isn’t something we control or buy. Love, gifts, your energy, sexual affection may feel unconditional, but years can go by before you even realize he didn’t reciprocate any of it even though he gladly took all those things, and you’re probably going to feel like an idiot. Wanting attention from a man you like is normal, but unrequited love is a bitch. You have to take accountability for how long you indulge in the dysfunction of it all.

-Love, hate, and resentment for a man who took advantage of you can live in your heart all at once. It’s always complex if the friendship/relationship was complex. If you loved him, there’s a chance that you’ll never fall out of love completely. Acknowledge everything you’re feeling. 

-Giving chances is a healthy thing, despite this era’s obsession with cutting people off the second things get hard, but after a few incidents of the same disappointment, you have to take responsibility for enabling them. You have to find the self-respect to tell them what they’re doing isn’t ok with you, and you have to say goodbye. This was definitely the hardest lesson for me to accept. It took me a long time to express upset feelings to two different men I fell for while in my 20s, because I thought they wouldn’t want to talk to me anymore if I did (and I was right). But it’s a blessing in disguise when someone repeatedly doesn’t respect your boundaries. It lets you know they don’t care about you—it’s like the trash taking itself out. Just accept that they’re gone.

-Closure is a myth. You’ll never get closure if you’re upset about something they did that they never apologized for, etc.. You’ll never be able to “make them take accountability” for what they did unless you decide to do something reckless or illegal (I don’t recommend that). If you’re like me and you don’t believe in karma, you just have to accept that they got away with being shitty. It sucks. Being angry is valid and you don’t have to forgive and forget. Channel the rage and resentment into art, writing, physical activity, or just to better understanding yourself. Go to therapy or find a support group. You will drive yourself insane trying to understand why they acted how they did. You have to understand that they don’t care.

-Overseas/long distance or internet relationships can be incredibly intellectually fulfilling, if you’re like me and you don’t date, but you love writing and the romance of words and getting lost in a fantasy world. It feels less stressful because there’s no dating involved. It feels safer, as you get to know someone from a distance. It can feel very romantic, but unless you feel the same way about each other, years can go by and it can end up feeling juvenile, like a waste of time, and a lost cause.

-Keeping yourself single all the while perpetually being in “situationships” where you’re waiting and hoping and trying for a specific someone to want you back just amplifies the loneliness of being single. 

[tanzaniiite]

my personal headcanons about matsun bc i’m that obsessed with him

he’s the type of person to not tell you when you’re pronouncing something wrong even when he KNOWS you’re pronouncing it wrong. he’ll let you be stupid in peace.

also the type to wait till the last minute to agree to your plans. you can ask him if he wants to go out this weekend on a sunday and this dude will not get back to you until friday or the day of talking ‘bout, “i’m down.”

adding on to the previous hc, this man is a dry texter. do not text him any long ass paragraph with some meaningful shit in it because i promise he will respond with “‘kay” or “thx” depending on the context.

always late to everything. always. his sense of time is skewed so if you want him to show up somewhere on time tell him the event starts an hour before it actually does.

can’t cook for shit. he lives on a steady diet of fast food and thanks to his fast metabolism he doesn’t gain any weight (lucky bastard). you tell him his shitty eating habits are going to catch up to him eventually but he says he’ll cross that bridge when he gets there.

doesn’t take people’s feelings seriously?? idk why i get this vibe from him but i do. like, he’ll kind of brush off your feelings even if you’re being completely serious. only understands you’re not playing around when you have an emotional outburst, whether that be angry or sad. he only acknowledges your feelings when they’re extremely evident, ig.

on a lighter note haha, matsun knows how to make things up to you. even though he may be dense when it comes to your emotions, he does know you. he knows your likes and dislikes, what makes you happy/sad/ etc. and he’s not afraid to admit when he’s wrong so he has no problem apologizing to you.

i feel like he doesn’t have the greatest relationship with his parents. i created a whole backstory for this man, so here we go: matsun comes from a wealthy family that wanted him to go to university and get a high paying job. they never really approved of him playing volleyball and just saw it a silly little hobby (they never went to any of his games either). he probably got his nonchalant mannerisms as a response to his parents always having a stick up their butt. and i like to think they were mortified when they found out he was a funeral home worker, but issei could really care less. and basically cut all ties with them after he graduated from aoba johsai.

so matsun canonically has a younger brother and sister, i like to think although he cut ties with his parents he still manages to be there for his siblings. i believe that he was the “rebellious child” of the three of them and always rallied his siblings against his parents. and they always joined him no questions asked because they love him (and they all lowkey hate their parents ngl).

adding on to my hc of issei coming from a wealthy family,, this means he has no concept of money. what do i mean by that? i mean that this man will buy the most expensive & ridiculous shit just because he can (his parents didn’t shut off his credit card and still get billed monthly). it hurts you every time he makes a purchase because damn it matsun wtf do you need a vintage pinball machine for?

expects you to remember everything for him. like i said before, his sense of time is skewed and so is his memory. mans got the memory of a goldfish i swear, so i hope your memory is fantastic. you have to constantly remind him of anything important bc he. will. not. remember. but he has the audacity to get annoyed with you constantly nagging him like it’s your fault he doesn’t remember that he needs to go to the dentist for his annual checkup.

definitely not a morning person. and i feel this only amplifies when he’s starts working at the funeral home, like he works late at night and his shift ends early in the morning like 4:30-5:00 or something. so mornings are not his thing.

speaking of mornings, don’t attempt to wake him up because matsun sleeps like the dead and will not wake up. and if you do manage to wake him up, he will mean mug you like there’s no tomorrow. you interrupted his sleep get ready for a bitchy issei for the rest of the day.

holds his feelings in a lot. he likes to give off the illusion that he’s unbothered (which most of the time he is) but he’s still human and things do get to him. intrusive thoughts such as his parents being right all along abt him fucking up his future. also, thoughts abt him not being a good partner for you. things like that are what keep him up at night.

when matsun gets overwhelmed he doesn’t breakdown but i feel he just,, shuts down. completely. like he becomes uncharacteristically quiet, a bit more snappy and more prone to lashing out.

also strikes me as the type to say things he doesn’t mean when he’s angry, like he’s said some pretty hurtful things to you in the past. and you know he doesn’t mean it but that doesn’t make it hurt any less.

cannot stand the smell & taste of coffee. he hates it and will literally gag around the smell of strong coffee. so if you’re a strong coffee lover (like me) you’re gonna have to conceal that smell somehow.

lives to embarrass you, like obviously he means it in good faith but sometimes he does go too far (always apologizes after, obvi).

i lowkey feel like he would want to move to america or any other country for that matter. matsun feels as though japan has nothing to offer him anymore and he wants to do something somewhere else. he sees how iwaizumi talks abt america & oikawa with argentina and can’t help but want that too.

contrary to his parents beliefs, he doesn’t want to be a funeral home worker forever. he just hasn’t found his calling yet and thinks it might be in a different country but he’s not sure. issei knows you’ll support him in all of his endeavors but he doesn’t even know what those endeavors are.

he feels stuck and feels as though he’s running out of time. doesn’t know what the hell he wants to do in life but knows he not necessarily happy with his current situation.

regardless, as long as he has you and his friends’ support he’ll be fine. he knows that much.

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[angstmonsterwrites]

Had to unfollow yet another blog I've followed for years for going down the dark hole of assuming a few dumbasses *claiming* to be Americans making shitty comments and displaying an extremely myopic worldview is representative of what most Americans are like as a cultural fact.

So. I suppose I'll make this point: As an American, it does not shock or surprise me when someone from any other nation or language can speak fluent English. I can usually tell they're not American by their spelling conventions, however. I was taught both. It does not weird me out or bother me when I see the rest of the world use the metric system--I honestly don't care. Just tell me what side of the ruler, measuring cup, or thermometer will best communicate, and that's the side I'll use for that person and occasion. I was taught both. It does not strike me as fanciful--novel, maybe--but not unrealistic when I learn or hear about foods and other sundry good being sold in a different fashion elsewhere than they are here. Do they accept money for me to acquire those things should I want them? Yes? Okay then, that's not so alien. I think any culture shock would wear off in less than a day.

What does dishearten me is the gross ignorance--or intentional ignoring--of the fact that all social media platforms are well populated by bots and trolls who quite literally draw paychecks for spreading Anti-American views, and that one of their tactics is to pose as Americans and act proudly and flagrantly *stupid* and incurious with regard to the rest of the world.

Do we have some loud, rabid, bigoted assholes over here who are proud of the fact they can scarcely see any facts about the world outside of their own back yards? Sure, but so does everyone else. Ours are just amplified and manipulated by algorithms and bad actors, which have unfortunately allowed them the boldness to crawl out from under their rocks. They think they're more populous than they are...and sadly, it seems a not so negligible chunk of the world has bought into that illusion as well. I suppose it does not help that there is a wealthy contingent of US persons--that is, those most able to travel abroad for any meaningful amount of time--who feel their good fortune has bought them the right to act rude, clueless, and entitled.

(And no, you can't point to the US's current political problems and dangers as a sign of the will of the majority. There's decades of legal and legislative fuckery that has led this country to where it is now, threatened by a looming shadow of authoritarian *minority* rule.)

I'll end this by repeating three things I've said in the past:

1. Xenophobia is wrong no matter where it's pointed. And yes, I am also saying it would be wrong for me to make broad and sweeping character judgements of Russian and Chinese folks, even though the governments of those countries are by and large the sponsors of the aforementioned bot/troll problem.

2. There always seems to be a marked difference in perspective on the US between those from other nations who've been here and those who've merely interacted with people claiming to be Americans online. The former understands that the reality of how most Americans see themselves and the world is far more complex, varied, and nuanced than standard internet stereotypes and hot takes. "American Exceptionalism" is not currently a broadly held attitude. At all. Would we like to be exceptional someday? Sure. But by and large we know we're not, and we can barely even come to any kind of real consensus on what that means or the right way to get there.

3. No matter the nation, it is deeply inappropriate to hold random, non-wealthy, non-influential individuals from that country responsible for that country's gravest past errors as an international political entity, or to develop hard and fast opinions for all people of a given country based only on cringy bouts of internet behavior you've witnessed.