#what a lovely ask

[your-queer-dad]

Hey Queer dad, I only just found this blog, but I'm writing you anyway, I Don't want to be anonymous, I want my name attached to my story I fear that I'm probably going to explain myself poorly but here goes anyway I am going to be 24 years old this May, I've been on E since 10 - 2020 Ive had to move out to live with my boyfriend of 3 years and it feels like I've all but abandoned my dreams of going through college as an engineer, things were hard to keep up with when covid struck and now I'm a trans-woman living in Georgia USA, I understand that its not as good as my home-state of New York on trans issues, but I have my BF and his Family who are supportive... I'm SCARED as of late sure I live in a fairly chill part of the state, but i'm SCARED like big time, its making my mental health journey harder, and I'm finding a lot of VERY bad thoughts creeping in, mostly about my appearance and all that, I don't look all that fem when i have trouble taking care of my day-to-day hygiene,

My dad is ""Supportive"" as far as accepting the fact that I'm his daughter now, but he and most of my extended family still doesn't use my pronouns or chosen name. My mom, well she left this world, and me alone in it, sure she was never the best to me, but she would have been the one person to support me. When she left I promised myself and her that I would take the little support I spit on and ground into the dirt as a teenager and actually be true to myself.

I know that at this point I am rambling, but I want to put meaning and journey behind my words THANK YOU, for being here for us. THANK YOU for providing a space for us to ask questions, and get parental style advice when we have no-one else and I ask of you this, how does one find community in this world when one struggles to navigate the fear she feels from the world around her?

Hi!! Thank you so much for reaching out. Honestly, it sounds like you've had such a rough time and I am really proud of you. Thank you for sharing your story, I appreciate it, and I'll do my best to help out.

Personal story time: I myself was (and still am sometimes) in a very similar situation myself. And it is scary, it's really isolating to see so much hate from others just for being yourself, and it makes you want to withdraw and hide. And I hid, for so long- it's really hard to show your true self in a world so full of hate and fear.

But I did, slowly, step by step. A little bit every day. Us humans, we're not supposed to be on our own. We're pack animals, like wolves or lions, we thrive off other people's company (some more than others). With mental health, when all you want to do is hide and let the world forget that you exist, what helps you the most is finding others who feel like it and can help.

Easier said than done right?

I'm still working on it, and there's never going to be a stage where you're perfect at it- but every day, just actively trying to engage with others around you, I found helped me. Not running away when people offer help, speaking to new people, finding my local queer community- just actively being aware of my surroundings and gently pushing myself to talk to new people.

The worlds a lot less scary when you have an army of support behind you.

It takes time, and energy. It's hard. And definitely baby steps, small steps. But there are so many good people out there, who will love you and accept you and value you, you just have to find them.

I'm really proud of you, I'm always here if you need someone to talk to and feel free to reach out anytime. Everything will be okay.

- dad x

[regal-bones]

hello !! i loves pride fighters so much, its very pretty and the dialogue is really fun :D i'm not very good at these types of games (alas, i am currently bad at dodging😔) but im still having a blast !! i love the characters <333 cant believe yall made it in just 5-6 days !!

i was wondering tho, would it be ok to make pride fighter ocs with other identities ? :> i kinda wanna make an ace pilot y'see !! :D (idk if id actually end up getting the energy but. i am ideaing lol)

totally ok if not tho !! its yalls game after all !!

PLEASE DO PLEASE DO!!!!!!!! Some ppl in the team are already makin OCs!! Also if you wanna make OCs of the flags we have in game go for it !

As for the Ace flag - that is one we want to implement! We’re gonna revisit the project next year and getting more flags in is a priority. The ace flag will be PATROCLUS, piloted by Alexi!

Thank you so so much ❤️ and make sure to keep up to date with the most current version! We’re making balance changes to make it a lil more forgiving, as well as adding in some more dialogue!

Last thing , if you make OCs, I want to see them more than I need oxygen pls and thank u

[great-and-small]

Thank you for the herpes virus info! Maybe you should write the book! :p

Don’t you tempt me 👀

Seriously though I’d love to write a book like that but at this point in my career I don’t think I’m qualified. Though I did just find out my first paper that I’m primary author is going to be published! So I will keep learning and hopefully gain the skill to share the things I’ve learned in a way that is interesting to people. I plan to someday jump into the deep end of scicomm but for now I am getting comfortable in my floaties

[tongue-like-a-razor]

I've been binging so many of your series lately, and oh boy are they good!! their so insanely addictive (your mission of keeping me up past my bedtime has been achieved with me going to bed at 4am and having to wake up at 9a). no but like seriously your writing is so so great!! the amount of times I'm giggling, kicking my feet, twirling my hair and getting stressed out in the same fic is crazy. the way you write is seriously captivating, like I can just see what's happening like it's a movie. I cannot wait to read more of your work seriously!!!

Wow this is such a wonderful compliment 🥹 I’m literally giddy!! Thank you so much, it’s honestly amazing to hear that you’re enjoying the stories (and that they’re keeping you up past your bedtime..oopsie daisy 😆) So sweet of you to send this in 🫶

[msfbgraves]

I looked at the very first thing you wrote down for Knights and Pawns and god, you can really feel how very young and frightened Daniel is in this. Terry controls the entire situation in the room to his liking. Daniel seems little more than a sold child. I get the impression that he not only grew up a lot those first couple years of marriage with Terry (even while having puppies!!) but also that Terry…not exactly molds him into the grown-up spouse he wants from the “little” boy that he married, but rather…sharpens the mob-side of Daniel like one would a slightly rusty knife. While at the same time making him embrace even more of his natural Omega side, and become even softer and sweeter year by year. An eternal brat and the perfect little housewife. The duality! Terry, Terry. I bet he loved that Danny was only 18 and had never been with an Alpha—and therefore was easier to cultivate.

He didn't set out to fall in love with the boy, but in the three miliseconds that took (again I keep thinking how in the film Terry is fascinated by Daniel's dancing silhouette!), yes, he would have set up a whole perfect life in his mind's eye. But this is not just a courtship, this is a payoff, a victory, and Terry is mean enough to want to enjoy and relish that, because at that point, he doesn't know this boy, this prize. He wants his due.

And Daniel regresses somewhat in his fear around this poweful, dangerous, and as he can immediately sense, wounded man. But as Terry gets him with pup so fast, he snaps out of that real quick, and becomes more like that sweet boy we know with someone to care for. Also because he has Terry whipped within a day. The way that boy can love - and I don't mean fuck, but launch himself straight into your soul - Terry didn't stand a chance. Yes, Terry will bring out his mob-side, if only out of necessity. But the utter sincerity of Daniel's love throws him. It's not manipulation, it's what that boy does and it strips you naked. It does drive him crazy and he wants to control it and he can't and then he blows everything up. And Daniel of course is not a saint, he has that shrewd side that you're right, Terry "sharpens like you would a slightly rusty knife"... Still this is Terry Silver, that man can obliterate you with a look! Sometimes Daniel prefers to melt into it all, let himself be overpowered. But especially with his pups, he's so sincere and warm and sweetly fierce Terry wants to melt into a puddle. At times he's shocked at how much he loves him, and keeps loving him, every iteration of his mate it doesn't lessen. He only loves him differently through every change. Maybe I'm having a case of wishful thinking but with these two, it wrecks them but it never dulls.

[starlightrosa]

BIG SISSSSSSSSS AAAA ME SO HAPPY YOUR ON TUMBLR AGAAAAINNN!! Hope yous enjoy big sis ROSAAA

Ohhh Lola aren’t you sweet! Happy to be back, armed with more fun ideas than ever :)

[xbellaxcarolinax]

I'm like a small dog with the eye crustys shaking and frothing at the mouth every single time you post. There is no reason you should have that much power over me. But you know what? I would rather it be nobody cause damn, I eat up your writing every single time 😩

LMFAOOOOOOOOO omg not the crusty dog 💀

You made my night! Literally going to bed right now lmfao

Im so happy you like my writing! I hope you'll stick around and enjoy whatever fics are in store for the future! <3

[blairsanne]

Maybe your other blog answers this question, or you've answered it before. What was the first show/movie you saw Dean O'Gorman in and what made you stan him?

The first thing I actually saw him in was Young Hercules back when it was on tv and I loved Iolaus. I didn’t know who he was though.

Fast forward to 2021 and I watched The Hobbit trilogy for the first time and fell for Kili (sorry Dean 😅) and in searching for Kili content, came across gifs of Almighty Johnsons. I saw gifs of the scene where Anders asks Ty if he wants to see his stick and I got curious about the show. When I watched TAJ, I fell for Anders, and then looked into Dean more and eventually realized he was Iolaus from Young Hercules days lol.

My love of Anders led me to @laurfilijames’s amazing Anders fics and eventually we became friends and she got me into more Deano content and the rest is history. 🥰

I really enjoy a lot of his characters, like Anders, Iolaus, Jon, and Barnaby, etc. and when I like a character a lot I tend to want to write about them.

Dean himself reminds me a lot of my husband at times with his sense of humour and improv etc. (and my hubby’s hair was long and curly when we met) but I think Deano’s a bit more erm… misbehaved I guess you could say. But not in a bad way. 💛

I’ve never really been much of a celeb chaser and I have to admit that if Deano threw himself at me irl I really wouldn’t be interested in anything romantic or physical. I’m very loyal to my husband and I’m pretty demisexual. I just think he’s attractive and I like imagining scenarios with his characters. 😅 I guess what I mean is, it’s all pretend to me. Hypothetical/fantasy but not something I actually want.

Part of my Deano obsession is also like… the fun of trying to find all his obscure media and watch/share it etc. 🤓🤣 And getting to chat with other Deano fans about him and his shows etc is one of my favourite things too.

[cake-bread]

Hey, Davey. Are you doing alright? That might seem like a moot question to ask, but I feel like it's nice to ask it anyway. I hope you are. Doing alright that is

Hey - I am actually fine.

I am pleasantly surprised that this still is getting found but that is just how art world works. The art is left in public and sometimes, even if we don't expect it, this grain of sand can still be found by others.

Today is a colder evening. But I'm drinking a hot chocolate with whipped cream and some sprinklers. So it's getting warmer.

I hope you have your own hot chocolate to warm you through your colder nights, too.

[meimi-haneoka]

I don't really have anything to ask about, but I've just gotten into CCS a few weeks back and I wanted a community so bad, you can only imagine my happiness upon finding your blog also you like akiho and kaito I automatically like you!!🤍🤍🤍

AND I AUTOMATICALLY LIKE YOU TOO, ANON!! 😂❤️❤️❤️ So happy to receive asks like these!!

I'm so glad you found my blog and it's giving you a sense of community 😊 I definitely have some friends and faithful commentators who support me all the time, and they always have such great insights into the story, often coming up with theories that become true! So I'd like to think my blog could be also be a place where people who want to discuss the chapters can gather...

I also know very well how lonely sometimes it can be, to like Akiho and Kaito (even not as a pairing, even just the characters alone) and finding lots of unpleasant comments in the fandom. You're safe here! ✨

[jarpadandjensens]

BEAUTIFUL PERSON AWARD!

Once you are given this award, you're supposed to paste it in the asks of 8 people who deserve it. If you break the chain, nothing happens, but it's sweet to know someone thinks you're beautiful inside and out!😘💛

I adore you and your blog, it makes me so happy 🥰

thank you so much!!!!! Sometimes it feels like i am just talking to myself, so i really appreciate this ask! *smooches your face*

[bklynmusicnerd]

It’s so refreshing when you watch a show that has you on the edge of your seat with anticipation for what’s gonna happen next. All the speculation/theories that fans are coming up with are awesome. I suck at theories but I still love the energy that the Sprina fandom has. It’s been a while since I’ve been invested in a soap opera. We all know Spencer isn’t dead but the theories on how he’s gonna show back up and when has got the fandom throwing all kinds of theories/wish list out there and a lot of them sound so amazing. I just don’t want a long separation and I wonder if Trina will come back to PC without Spencer if he doesn’t show up right away. Once again there’s no Sprina spoilers for the following week so they are keeping all that under lock and key. Portia being grateful could mean that the ordeal is over and Trina is safe, it doesn’t necessarily mean she’s back in PC. Very curious how this next week plays out. You have any thoughts or theories?

This is such a positive ask, and I completely agree about loving the energy of positive fandom. The last time I was this invested in GH, I think I was 12? So I definitely relate to you.

As far as potential Trina and Spencer separation, my money is on it not being a particularly long one. I'm leaning more on the side of Trina not leaving Greenland without finding Spencer. Just because she's been so forthright about not abandoning this entire adventure that I can't imagine her relenting when she thinks there's a chance he could be dead or seriously wounded.

She wouldn't give up on him, and neither would Laura. So I'd be very surprised if they left Greenland without retrieving Spencer, regardless of what state he's in. I think Trina will be leading the search to find him and they will but he'll be seriously hurt and need medical attention.

And don't sell yourself short when it comes to theories, anon. You could be better at them than you think, and even if you end up being wrong, wild speculation is part of the fun.

[dreamnotnapss]

Okay those last two anons have me thinking about dn express their love for each other vs how they express it for George.

Dream and Sapnap have a quiet love because it was always inevitable they would be together even if they weren't In Love (although they are) because they love each other so much.

But George being with them is so new and impossible after missing him for so long, that Dream and Sapnap both want to tell the entire world that he's here in Florida beside them because they hardly believe it themselves.

this ask is a littol old sorry sorry here are the two anons this ask is referring to: x x

"it was always inevitable they would be together" so true anon !! i mean, why do you think it only took a day for Sapnap to get in his car and drive across the country to move in with his best friend of 11 years? it only took him a day to realize "yeah this is my future"

but George couldn't do that. so instead of being able to satiate their desires within a day, they had to wait 2 whole years. it makes sense that after such a long time of wanting him around and waking up without him that dreamnap would still be in disbelief when they wake up and see him eating breakfast in their kitchen at 8pm :')

[procrastiel]

I saved all the pictures and printed them out because I liked them so much. I often struggle with being hungry but not wanting to eat what I could potentially make, and/or generally being uninspired by my options. These really help me get nutrients into my body and make me feel like it’s totally achievable and no big deal. I can really recommend the Shakshuka! That was a first for me. ❤️

hi,

i’d like to say thank you for what you share on this platform; ofc the lovely fan interactions, but also the ‘the world is scary but we’re in this together’ things and the ‘there’s still a lot of good in the world’ things.

i’ve been meaning to go to the grocery store for several days and hadn’t managed to get myself to do so yet. ive been ordering a few things to my apartment which is tend to get in my head about because the grocery store is less than a block from my home. i’m having a lot of trouble eating again, regardless of what’s in the fridge, and expected this morning to be like any other where at some point hunger will turn into nausea which will get pushed to the back of my mind until mid day when i can maybe manage to get something down.

but i woke up this morning to your reblog of that post about all the things you can eat if you’ve got just a couple things lying around.

and then i got up and took my meds. i showered and shaved and felt like i was scrubbing away the outermost layer of this particular Depressive episode. i brushed my teeth and washed my face, put on clothes that aren’t the gym shorts and tee i expected to. i’m about to leave my apartment for the first time in three days. i’m about to go to the grocery store.

i know it’s not your original post, but you saw it and reblogged it for it to reach a greater audience. i don’t think i would’ve seen it had you not done so.

okay i’ve gotta quit writing and get my shoes on and be off (to the store! woo!!)

you put a lot of good in the world and in so many big ways. thank you for adding to the good in the seemingly smaller ways too <3

I'm really proud of you.

[fly-chicken]

A Pragmatic and surprisingly comforting perspective about the Trump 2nd Presidency from the ACLU

***Apologies if this is how you found out the 2024 election results***

Blacked out part is my name.

I’m not going to let this make me give up. It’s disheartening, and today I will wallow, probably tomorrow too

AND

I will continue to do my part in my community to spread the activism and promote change for the world I want to live in. I want to change the world AND help with the dishes.

And I won’t let an orange pit stain be what stops me from trying to be better.

A link to donate to the ACLU if able and inclined. I know I am

[inkskinned]

she's singing in another room and my dog is asleep at my feet. my grandma asked me why i haven't found a man yet and i laughed. oh, you know. i like my house clean.

my girlfriend is also my man is also "my partner" if i'm in a professional setting. yesterday we went to a ren faire and a man mimed at me - you're together? and at my delighted nod, his baffled, you're gay? made me laugh. a woman with rainbow hair said i love the two of you together. you're both so beautiful it's absurd.

my dad introduced my partner as my "..... friend. or whatever" the other day. he knows we're dating. in the same way, i was never able to get my sister's husband to stop saying that's gay like it's 2008. he still uses the word fa***t, and my sister's defense of him has always been well, he's just kidding.

my lover and i dance to old music in a tiny kitchen. we judge new music together and take food critique very seriously. we watch love is blind before we fall asleep and agree that if they had a queer season, it would be bloody but also make for excellent tv. of fucking course queer people would know someone for only 2 weeks and agree to get married. what are you saying.

at a bar with friends, a man puts his hand on my wrist. got a boyfriend? and yes, i do have a boyfriend, she's amazing. i am texting her while i wander around a gas station named after geese. i am visiting a swing state for a wedding. in the candy aisle i overhear: she's actually like a lesbian it's disgusting. two teenage girls with packaged sandwiches in their hands, giggling. no literally, like. i'm not, like. okay with her being there while we're all, like, naked and changing.

my girlfriend and i tailgate, drink gin and cider out of cups. from the frat group beside us, a man corrects himself with one of his friends: bro, i mean, nonbinary entity, and it makes everyone around him laugh, myself included. he razzes his friend the same way i would have killed for at 19 years old - like nothing happened, he continues: you apply sunscreen like an alien. he does a little sassy (and fairly accurate) dance interpretation of the motion. his friend is laughing so hard they're crying.

i am lucky, i live in a safe neighborhood in a safe state. my masc passenger princess comes up from DC. i drive her for an hour to where all the leaves are a violent arrangement of color. we walk along the trails, letting autumn into our blood. in this part of the state, there's a lot of pickup trucks and trump signs. when we chastely kiss before getting into the car, i accidentally make eye contact with a woman holding her child's wrist. she looks disgusted. she looks fucking pissed.

two hours later my girl and i are eating dinner on a patio, soaking in the last warmth of new england sun before the chill of winter sets in. we are giggling and trying to talk through plastic vampire teeth. at another table, i see a young woman sit up straighter. i watch her watch us. she blushes and takes her partner's hand from across the table. shy, like the taste of evening has just become something deeper.

it's worth it for this moment, i think. my lover is still humming the same song she's been singing for four days straight and i don't want to kill her for it. her guitar is beside my bed. her toothbrush is in my bathroom. in a few moments i will make us lunch. we are lucky enough to have found each other. it is lucky enough to be in love.