#weird doing this when i’ve been more active on twitter this year but 🤷‍♀️ i need to rb this haha

[nobodymoves]

this is a deeply funny post ten years later lol happy 11 years of 1d to meeeeee 🎉🎉

and happy new year 🥰

this new years i would like to acknowledge that it has now been an entire year since my life was swallowed whole by one direction. (even though it’s american time not australian shhhh i’ve had a few mimosas just lemme do this) 

i still remember coming home from my best friend’s house at one or two am with live while we’re young stuck in my head, and deciding to listen to take me home (which i had already downloaded bcs my dash raved about it ty guys) before i fell asleep. i spent the next few days watching all of the youtube videos and the entire x-factor run and that was it, i was in.

i thought it would last a week. and here i am. good lord.

gonna finish the new follow forever that’s been sitting in my drafts EVENTUALLY but i just wanted to say before i pass out that ilu all for sticking w me through this trying time.

[xplrvibes]

thank you for your genuine answer! i’ve been finding hard to communicate with the fandom because people are either hating the situation or eating it up so it’s always both opposite extremes. a lot of people say stas is hated but from what i’ve seen, especially on twitter and instagram, she’s actually more loved than kat? she gets drowned in compliments, people worship her, they kiss her ass and hype her up for the most mediocre or mundane things (and i don’t mean that as hate) ever, some even call her “bestie” and have constant interactions with her. you did bring up shea being in group chats (i only recently found out about that while getting in the tea loop but didn’t pay a lot of attention to that particular fact) and it now is making me wonder, giving the similarities and another fact i just found out (stas willingly sharing personal information abt the group, such as their location), if stas isn’t on group chats as well, but ones that are more lowkey and with people that kiss her ass? it could make sense, but i digress.

i’m just finding this weird overall, like it started out of nowhere and now both of them are making this bigger and bigger and bigger by only posting each other and so on? like doesn’t that feel… weird to you, in a way? their posts have always been more “group” focused, group pictures, etc and now all of a sudden we’re being slammed left and right with those two only?

Of course!

There are a lot of extreme reactions to this whole situation, and let's be honest- it's all down to Colby. Stas is involved with Colby in a way that is supposedly "open to interpretation." That's a hair trigger for a good chunk of the fandom, lol.

Stas does get some pretty polarizing things said about her a result- I've seen some brutal hate, thanks to her association with Colby, and I've seen some idolization that they could build churches around. Some of that love stems from the fans that just really, really, really want to see Colby in a wedding tux lol, but some of it does stem from how she treats the fans themselves. She engages with them quite a bit, encourages them...and I said it the other day, but that's a BIG thing with the social media stans. They are looking for someone to see them, and for someone who they can connect to. They're almost looking for a supportive older sibling type, and they're finding it in the most random of social media types- Stas included.

I know she is indirectly the reason that some of their whereabouts have been leaked, which is not cool and is something that snc should definitely deal with at some point. I don't know if she is active in any gc's, but I wouldn't be surprised. I'm hoping she isn't pulling a Shea and giving out private information that isn't hers to give out- and honestly, I don't think she is, because that information would've been leaked by now (if there is one thing I've learned about fandoms over the years, its that nobody can keep a secret lmao)....but who knows, at this point.

As far as her and Colby posting a lot of content of the two of them...eh. They do spend 90% of their days hanging out with Kat and Sam, who are an actual couple who have been together for like 300 years now. They're bound to be spending a lot more time paired off together as a result of that. 🤷‍♀️

I do think they know people enjoy Stas and Colby content, that it gets people talking, and so they aren't shy about posting content of the two of them together anymore, for that reason. That would be totally fine, except when they step over the line, throw gasoline on a fire on purpose, get everyone all in a tizzy, and then skidaddle. That's where they lose me in this whole thing.

Amber and Colby, imo, have perfected the whole "posting content that playfully encourages the shipping while simultaneously making sure everyone knows its all in good fun and not to be taken seriously or used to start fandom wars or get everyone all riled up" thing. That's the kind of pot stirring I can appreciate.

[ebenenoir]

Is there any actual evidence that people DM his family and friends? I’ve seen the comments on IG and the outrageous attacks on him on Twitter (not just the right wing crazies but his own fans back in May! Some of the same ones now complaining about him not posting!), but is it a case of these other things are happening so people are also assuming the other? I’m just asking because I’ve never seen a screenshot or anything and this fandom loves to be over dramatic and make things up simply so they can attack other fans. I acknowledge I may have just missed the evidence hence why I am asking.

I think there are probably many contributing factors to him not being active anymore and I’m sure some of them are reasons we will never likely know. In the last couple of years though his fandom has changed. It’s much larger, it’s got more hardcore fans now instead of ones that may have just been following more casually, they demand more attention from him (continually pestering him on Twitter), larger numbers means higher ratio of people who take it to the next level too far and start demanding attention from him from other sources (family and friends), the attacks in May (his activity level dropped dramatically after that and a section of his fandom don’t want to acknowledge their part in that), the attacks in November - there’s SO much noise now. Can you just put yourself in his shoes for 5 minutes and think about what that must be like? And any time he tweets or posts anything it’s got likes and retweets in the thousands in seconds. I would take a step back from that too. I noticed his IG following dropped and I think some people were taking the new year as an opportunity to step away from social media and delete their accounts. I don’t believe he will ever do that but he’s allowed to not want to engage anymore in all this noise. He doesn’t owe us anything on social media and he needs to do what’s best for him and if that is stepping away from the noise I wholeheartedly support it.

I think as fans, we have to stop pointing fingers at other people and blaming them for his inactivity. This year I am resolving to be more self aware and conscious of how I engage with him and with other fans online and to remember that ultimately he owes me and the fandom nothing. (I agree that I believe he will always lurk to a point! He can’t help himself)

You are totally right! You said it all.

I think it's so cute that you're committing to being more self aware of how you engage with him 😛

Exactly. There are so many factors that could explain his distance from social media and blaming one or the other is totally useless because when you dissect everything, we all have a share of responsibility then. 9

I don't like to say this sentence but it is still true "it was going to happen". As you said, if it's his choice to distance himself from social media, we must respect it. I'm not going to pretend that I don't miss those interactions with fans on Twitter tho because I do. I'd like to see a nice selfies too because you can't get enough of them but we deal with it. He's always going to give love to his fans in one way or another, that's the most important thing. 😛

That being said I still believe that he is as present as before on social networks in his free time but only with friends and family.🤷‍♀️

About the dm, I heard that his siblings used to interact with fans like in 2020. They liked posts where they were tagged, liked tweets. I also heard that some fans apparently sent them dms to which two siblings replied but I haven't seen anything really. I haven't heard of people sending dm's to his friends but honestly it's quite possible.

Can his friends and family see the messages sent? Won't it go straight to the spam tho? I mean I always get those weird group invitations on ig but I don't see them unless I looked for them.