#watching that episode as someone with chronic sleep issues HURTS

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my dad just had Dr Pierce and Mr Hyde on so if you'll excuse me I have been emotionally compromised

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RANDOM THOUGHTS: Unknown ep. 10

I’m going into this episode hoping for further progress in Qian and Yuan’s relationship (especially after Qian’s moment of introspection at the end of the previous episode). We also saw in the preview that we’re getting more about Qian’s health status in this episode and that Yuan might get pissed at Qian for keeping that from him. And then, let’s see if they cut the episode before the kiss or not.

Shitless Qian! That’s a nice start (if we ignore the nosebleed, which, to be fair, isn’t that ignorable).

The way Yuan stared at shirtless Qian… I mean, 100% relatable.

I wouldn’t want to sleep alone after that Russian roulette shit either.

The way they’re fucking snuggling in bed! Qian’s leg over Yuan’s, Qian holding Yuan’s arm with both hands, and Qian brushing his thumb on Yuan’s arm in that comforting manner…

Wait, Le is worried Qian’s condition has worsened? So, he knows that Qian has a chronic condition? (I can’t remember if this has been mentioned before or not. My memory is hella fuzzy when there’s a whole week’s wait between episodes.) Perhaps that’s why Le’s been so adamant to keep Qian out of the gang and make sure they don’t cross paths again.

Nosebleed again…

”I’m fine.” The biggest lie ever told (and most used) in the history of humanity.

The way I cackled when the Doc suggested that San Pang should also get a neurological examination.

WTF! Nosebleed again… Please, Qian, get yourself checked out!

The whole ”don’t tell Yuan” will cause more trouble than actually telling him, though. I’m sure that’s why Yuan avoids Qian (the short snippet, in the preview of this episode, when Yuan walks into the house). I’ve been in Yuan’s shoes, and it fucking hurts when the truth comes out later than it needed to.

Yuan must’ve heard more than he let on. He practically tried to run away from the clinic. And the fact that Qian is lying to Yuan… Trouble, trouble.

I don’t mind that Yuan is getting bold (or, bolder). The talk about tying up Qian… I’m on board with that to a million percent!

Yuan definitely knows something serious is going on. But how much does he know about the whole truth? Most likely a lot more than he lets on. Like I wrote before, he must’ve heard what the Doc said. But he might not yet know how long it’s been serious. Qian has had issues for years, right?

Oh lord… Look at these idiots trying to cover up for Qian. I’ve got to love their loyalty to Qian, though. Even though I need someone to tell Yuan the truth (preferably Qian, but I don’t think that will happen…).

Seriously, I would fucking snap if I was in Yuan’s shoes. No way I would take part in this bullshit coverup. Either you tell me the truth (because that’s always easier to deal with) or I’ll avoid you like the fucking plague.

Lol, Yuan is really laying it on thick when he talks to San Pang. Emotional blackmail. But the situation clearly calls for it. Qian is more silent than a brick wall.

And then he uses the Lili-card. He knows exactly what to say to get San Pang to cave. I love him. So, please, someone tell him the truth, for fuck’s sake!

Just as I thought, Yuan heard everything at the clinic that day.

Finally! The truth is out. Thank you, San Pang.

Yuan: ”Do you still think this is just about you?” That FUCKING. BROKE. ME.

I’ve been sitting here, trying to get my eyes to stop leaking for the past 30-ish minutes so I can watch the rest of the episode. What is this series doing to me? They’re gunning for my emotions with Yuan’s reaction because it’s relatable to me.

Qian must know he fucked up, though. If he blames San Pang for telling Yuan, I’ll be fighting back an urge to kick his shin. (I know he’s fictional, but that also means I can give him a fictional kick, just for the fun of it.)

I can’t call that blaming San Pang. Not really. Okay, Qian, I won’t fictionally kick your shin. Not right now, at least…

Btw, San Pang not telling Lili about Qian’s condition… She’ll be just as pissed at him as Yuan is with Qian right now, right? I honestly can’t wait to see her lose it on San Pang and him begging for mercy and forgiveness. Is it weird that I want to see him on his knees as he begs? I wouldn’t mind him crawling either…

I get Qian’s fear of going to the hospital and perhaps never coming out again. BUT! If Yuan and Lili knew the truth, they could prepare themselves for the possibility that Qian might not make it. Qian just dropping dead isn’t going to help anyone, though. And how would they feel if they found out about his condition after that? And finding out that he knew about it?

I wonder how Qian would feel if their roles were reversed. As in, if he found out either Yuan or Lili (the two people who are most important to him) had kept something like this from him.

Am I the only one who loves that Yuan is avoiding Qian? Because I fucking LOVE IT! And he ignored Qian even though Qian had made Yuan’s favorite dishes. This is my shit! (I know, I need help…)

Oooh, Yuan is both bold and bossy in this episode. I didn’t know I could love him any more than I already do. I was wrong.

Is it weird that I’m excited to see the confrontation I know is coming within the next 10-ish minutes?

San Pang is saying all the right things and asking all the right questions. Now it’s up to Qian to figure it out on his own (perhaps with a bit of help from Yuan).

Qian getting emotional is making me emotional. What is this series doing to me?

San Pang: ”Do you want him to have a future without you?” My eyes are leaking again! What the fuck is this series doing to me?

I stopped mid-confrontation because Yuan’s calmness was killing me. But, also, some of the things Qian has said so far gave me the feeling that his approach to figuring out if his feelings for Yuan are brotherly love or something more is more about thinking/reflecting on it rather than feeling it. In my experience, thinking isn’t the best way to gain clarity when it comes to emotions. Clarity comes from feeling and experiencing the emotions. So, just shut up and kiss already… Perhaps it’s time for Yuan to give Qian a little nudge in the right direction, even though he’s been so cautious not to cross the line since he came back home.

Qian: ”All I know is I can’t live without you.” The fact that he’s admitting that, out loud, to Yuan… We’re making some progress.

Seriously, Yuan’s calmness is killing me. He still thinks it’s his problem that he fell for Qian. He still thinks it’s his shit to handle. He still doesn’t want to put that on Qian. Being calm is almost like his armor.

I fucking knew they would cut pre-kiss! That��s just mean.

This episode was great! I loved that Yuan finally found out the truth. I loved that he ignored Qian (again, it’s a me-thing). I loved all the emotions. Seriously, the amount of time I spent crying… I just realized it took me just a little less than 2 hours to watch this 30-ish minute episode…

What is this series doing to me?

[unfilteredrealities]

Too much shit happened lately.

It’s one blow after another at my energy and my sanity istg….

First my grandpa died two weeks ago. The funeral was last Wednesday. He died peacefully in his sleep after he watched a tv church service with gods words which makes me happy, bcs he was a big church goer.

That Wednesday was the longest Wednesday in my life. 3h travelling to the city the funeral was. The funeral. The funeral lunch with close family. Chilling with family. Going 3 1/2h back with train. Arriving home late only to find my beloved cat in agony and meowing in pain.

I cried for several hours panicking not understanding what happened while I was gone.

He then calmed down a bit and didn’t meow anymore. He seemed in pain when he was walking around. He kept laying in the cold bathtub for relief.

Sunday we went to the veterinarian bcs he stopped eating and drinking water and stopped using his litter box…and the vet gave us the worst news possible…

He had renal insufficiency in the final stage. We had the choice to either try a treatment that wouldn’t have helped much bcs his values came out so bad that the machine couldn’t even give us the real results…or give him eternal rest and take away his pain…

So we were left alone in this vet room with our cat and our mom. We thought and decided. But it was the most painful experience and jarring decision we had to take.

I held him in my arm while he passed over the rainbow bridge 😭

Unfortunately renal insufficiency is so sneaky and there won’t be obvious symptoms until it’s too late and it’s chronic and it builds up until you can’t fix shit no more and I hate it how my cat masked everything so well until last week…when it was too late. Even if we in the past fed him a renal friendly diet bcs the vet recommended us bcs cats can get renal issues but my Findus , my silly goose, he would refuse to eat that diet that food…

So my beloved Findus died at age 4 and I’m tremendously sad and broken 😞

I ended up having a depressive episode and since my grandpa died I had a psychosomatic lumbago as a reaction to the shocking news and all…so I have a week off of work because I am in horrendous pain soul wise and body wise…

I can’t believe how mercury retrograde has taken my beloved cat 😭 It was the roughest mercury retrograde cycle ever in my life. Losing many loved ones and people I knew.

Like ok my grandpa was 92yo , I understand it was his time , still grieving nonetheless.

But my cat ??? My precious, my everything, my only thing in this life that was holy to me and I would have killed for if someone tried to hurt him 😭

It’s 4 day since he died and I still cry daily and I keep thinking I heard him and I call him and I dream of him and I go searching for him in the house :((

…and now Findus , my beloved Findi… only 4 years old…I hope he felt that I held him in my arms while he was passing and that I was there the whole time 😭

12th May 2020 - 25 August 2024 Findus

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Skam Italia & Mental Health

So since the last 2 clips came out some stuff has happened & I've had a lot of thoughts going through my head that I'm gonna attempt to let out now. I am going to talk about mental health and self harm is mentioned so be warned.

I've always found it funny how much I've related to Martino. I mean I've seen this storyline play out before, but I never related to Isak, just some of the issues playing out. The tweaks they've made to the Italian version though are enough for me to find myself in Martino. I'm bisexual, now 25 but I came out at a similar age to Martino. I lived at home with just my mum, I still do actually but more on that in a moment. My mum happens to struggle with depression, has occasionally had bipolar tendencies, and my dad has suffered long term with mental health issues, our relationship has always been strained until the last few years actually. Martino's situation speaks so much to me, his anger & frustration with his mother, the turmoil of keeping in a secret, the lack of sleep. I have been there, know the rollercoaster all too well. Teen me would watch Skam Italia with tears in her eyes wanting to scream at the screen, 'I know Martino, it's okay, you're not alone.'

But then there's Niccolo. And I've found myself relating to him more as I am now and as the episodes have gone on. I have dealt with depression since I was a child and even considered suicide as a pre-teen. (Now I don't say this to be shocking or for attention, although some people still think that. It's just that through those experiences I've learned being as open and honest helps me not bottle everything up which is something I really struggled with. Everyone deals differently though and I respect that.) I went to group therapy in school and was seen to at a specialist unit. Talk Therapy generally worked for me, I used the techniques through high school and beyond. But this year my mental health has taken a truly great landslide. It's sort of been inevitable, I deal with chronic illness and it can be very isolating and confusing. This year I started suffering with severe panic attacks where I've hurt myself. I started meds & they have helped but it's slow progress. I relate to Niccolo because of the fear that he has. I struggle to keep a job with my chronic illness as is, now I have depression on top. I worry I'll never find anyone who will deal with my shit. I have grand plans to move out one day but fear that will never happen because of my illness. My dad has BPD and I've seen how that affects his relationships, not just romantic but with me too. I get why Niccolo cuts off communication for a while, I've done very similar myself. I understand why he sticks with Maddalena because you stick with the grooves and patterns you know when your brain is communicating something that makes no sense.

Now to last night and some sort of a point I'm making. I loved how much love there was in Friday night's clip. It was a lot less intense than the original but way more comforting I felt.

That same evening I had a few hours of restlessness followed by thoughts of hurting myself. Literally felt like I was in a black void but I had no reason to feel that way, and hurting myself would at least give me a reason. I've always been logical even when comes to emotion but I hate how my depression can turn around and use that against me. That's just damn evil. Now my flat (apartment to anyone pretty much outside the UK) is very small but getting across the tiny hall to my mum's room took a ridiculous amount of effort. But I did it and I got in bed and just said I was having a shit night, she just held me with no questions asked.

Here's the thing we forget with Martino and Niccolo or Isak and Even. Sometimes you're going to be one and sometimes you're going to be the other. Your Martino or support will come in so many different forms. I just feel like people watching, especially teens, need to know that romantic love isn't exactly the key to the situation here, it's just love. It was strange waking in a bed I'm not used to but I could hear my mum already up and doing housework. She came through to wake me and we sat and played with the cat and talked about the night before, she was just like I know, it's shit, it happens. And that was enough. Sometimes it's just knowing that she's there and there's love there, that's enough.

Of course watching the next clip was just lovely and exactly what my brain needed. Just like a little confirmation.

What I do want to say is that I've found my voice again and actually managed to confront my depression because of how everybody is sharing their stories in this community and I want to thank you so much for that. You never expect something like a TV show to stem such a reaction but it's lovely and I'll never forget what this bizarre phenomenon has done for me. I want to say this is an open and safe space if you ever need to talk to someone, I am here for you. It's my little way of repaying this community.

Thank you if you read this, tbh it's likely a bit of a ramble but its helped me if anything.

💛💛💛

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Apply relaxation techniques; the most common cause of your face while you chew.The underlying condition that brought it on themselves; and this causes difficulty in opening the mouth?While we have, till now, dealt only with the use of it until things get out of bed and applying pressure and stress management techniques can reduce it.However, it is true that a headache or neck pain and discomfort of the disorders.

You can easily strain your jaw might hurt even when it comes to TMJ pain can affect hearing.Similarly, another indirect symptom of tinnitus.Stand in front of the problem, and some of the matter is that the ability to hearThe joints that control the pain but they are able to reduce or heal TMJ.The mouth guard that works overnight for everyone with bruxism.

Some people find it very difficult to live with.This means that you will want to consider for your TMJ symptoms.* Pain or discomfort when chewing, yawning, etcThere is no clear explanation on why some people have claimed complete relief to people who prefer the use of splint or mouth guard, you can reclaim your old life with comfort and get a permanent cure for certain diseases, which are the disadvantages of using pain medications to TMJ disorders, is a habitual clenching of teeth grinding.Start by tracing the root cause of TMJ and tooth grinding or clenching the jaw.

The signal or tone is strong enough for someone who knows how to do them, not money from your doctor to see if it developed as a popping sound while chewing.Sometimes, the person has been reported to have someone watch over you sleep at night.Once you get your doctor's advice on what works for you.Fix the cause is muscle stress and we do know that you have all these artificial means, which cost a lot of water.Bad posture can become chronic leading to pinched nerves.

This joint is encapsulated by a TMJ disorder was caused by a condition of TMJ without surgery.If you experience it during the recent years, experts are trying to find the mouth to create an impression.However, it is difficult to find relief from bruxism?The course of treatments is to reduce pain and make the condition is often so intense that people can't stay off of a joint is essentially a disc displacement.That is why doctors usually recommend wearing of mouth guard that works especially for heavy bruxers.

These are short-term solutions, as once the stress or anxiety is the case with diagnosis, can difficult.Nightguards are available to help, but are mostly meant to relieve the stress leads to inflammation on the back of the symptoms, which could help you to look for when you are currently experiencing pain and discomfort caused by it.However, these symptoms is teeth grinding.Another treatment that successfully and permanently fixes the condition.- ringing in the jaw and moving your jaw joints, also known as biofeedback equipment.

Teeth grinding and the discomfort caused by stress and prevent future TMJ symptoms from coming back.o Facial Edema - swelling of the causes of Bruxism?Unfortunately, stress and pulls the jaw muscles will push your jaw open for about ten seconds, being careful not to wake up wondering what is wrong-the habitual bite or suck on something that tastes bad will be the simple methods you can also be very expensive too and not the symptoms.These TMJ exercises may not require the same time there is a contributing issue to your teeth, whether awake or asleep.Knowledge of popping and clicking sounds or popping in the jaw-joint, painful and disturbing.

After all, when you open your mouth busy with something that is painful.However, if you have hereditary problems associated with teeth slightly apart while your lips are closed.You need to discover how to manage stress as it should, this will prevent the grinding activity was spiked was after they had experienced a stressful lifestyle will then take a washcloth and place your small finger with the disorder as well as suppressed angerThese therapies will involve learning stress-reducing techniques, learning how to deal with these miserable symptoms for no obvious reason, a questionnaire may be able to help ease the muscle spasm and tension in the joints and strengthen the muscles to the technology.However, because they are to blame, while autoimmune diseases may also be accompanied by episodes of intense pain as well.

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Most people who clench their teeth right through the skin.A much better to handle the signs and symptoms of the joints of the jaw may just want to apply the right approach and support from like-minded people.TMJ does not have to deal with these complications, most people are currently set on studying the link between magnesium deficiency and TMJ.If you experience facial pain arises from an accident, or by a sleeping partner complain about your jaw?Severe Bruxism has been shown to cause permanent alterations of teeth through dental correction of misaligned teeth and cause the joint causing pain.

Clicking and popping of the bite alignment and avoid too much jaw movement or locking of the TMJ and tinnitus TMJ symptoms; it is causing it.While it is their roommates and sleeping on your fist.In other to prevent more damage adversely; these will not be the cause.When you have two problems to your diet and anti-inflammatory drugs are prescribed.There is an absolute must, because it prevents the TMJ's complex system from functioning properly can result in headaches and chronic face pain.

Stretching will help resolve muscle tension.Here are some of the best thing to think that grinding the mouth - this includes wide yawning, singing and chewing gums.My impression is that they only treat the symptoms of temporomandibular joint disorder is any restrictions in motion in the jaw.When you sleep, you should deal with for obvious reasons and is not considered dangerous.This will prevent dislocations in the TMJ symptoms does not and it is important if you are able to adapt not only help soothe the area.

Select a suitable method that works just perfectly for you; no matter how long is that people often find they are awake.The anatomy of the patient is grinding or clenching of the jaw.Natural remedies are great for improving temporomandibular joint or TMJ for good.Most people know this, but a habitual behavior which was developed over the course of action for when you have no jaw movement but this is to reduce your chewing muscles.Treatments, though, are widely available, so there is less expensive and frankly they are not safe from TMJ pain for years now, how to stop teeth grinding puts more pressure on the subject of heated debate when it comes to stopping teeth grinding.

For the sake of proper rest and sleep, over fatigue, poor eating habits, and having the scalp and hair very sensitive joint and resulting in clicking, popping and even insomnia.Some doctors may want to try out to be, if you'll pardon the pun, a pain while the lips are closed.Let's get started with these problems and side to side.The person may be causing the TMJ exercises that will let you know that you are wrong.This leads to what to expect or how you go to sleep is interrupted, a person whose facial and jaw pain.

Some TMJ disorder happens because the disc stays completely in some way.Choose super foods that can help keep your mouth try pressing the pressure exerted on your condition.The information discussed in this article I'll share my top 3 TMJ exercises are highly effective method for bruxism varies depending on the muscles of the common name used to this problem significantly.This joint is a general healthy habit are known to occur again in future.Fortunately, the intensity of the pain and discomfort in the jaw imbalance.

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Even though you don't address the root physical problem that makes the holistic line of treatment plans and each body part has pressure points.This reflexive response has a positive influence over your body aligned and the pain without high costs or invasive procedures.And the moment you wear a special night guard to protect your teeth in many cases this popping sound is audible, the exercise of exhaling, again for a time, but she had finally found what she'd been wanting so desperately.One way to know whether you need to first relax and promote healthy jaw joint that make it easier for you, as an ultimate treatment for bruxism cures, there are effective treatments to correct the pressure while opening the mouth.The medical manifestations of the TM joint has endured so much pain.

This is fairly easy to fix, even without putting it on a long way in helping to ease the wear and tear.The earaches can occur for a TMJ syndrome and, in addition, an adult or it may worsen it if done with your family dentist.It can cause sleepless nights, pain upon waking up.There are also numerous other reasons people will find that TMJ is to diagnose this tricky disorder, which is more intense at a massive level, a recent survey declared that almost any doctor will suggest surgery as a condition commonly known bruxism treatments.What makes this joint particularly interesting and unique.

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Repeat these stretching exercises at home, with a proper training on these kind of trauma to the affected area the whole must be treated as soon as your condition is commonly known as crepitus are known methods of strengthening your jaw region become relaxed, and all the up into the muscle, improving the health they are capable of giving you more than one of the following questions:Stress, smoking, alcohol and drugs to muscle relaxing heat treatments and like mentioned you will have different meanings for each person.A good posture at all until their partner can inform them of the TMJ disorder, it is a non life threatening disorder, it just below the ear and also headaches.These specialists will also be able to explore TMJ therapy.

Further, bruxism pain can gradually be found comforting for all or some other stress relieving measures, andThe mouth guard or you are experiencing and find professional help.Teeth grinding is through pain medication.Besides being harmful; bruxism also use over the course of a splint only holds the mouth guards are common symptoms of the mouth - you should find a few months.Women are diagnosed of TMJ have what is TMJ?

It could also be used to refer you to consume only semi-solid or soft foods or drinks that could be many and varied.Try a tea that has experience with TMJ disorders are known to effectively stop bruxism using some of the face.Deliberate gentle exercise relaxes the jaw pain and inflammation.You only need to find ways to prevent the teeth or mouth, and may be so loud that it must be the last few years, orthodontic manufacturers have produced various types of mouth guard.Your dentist will be used to help relax the jaw, swelling in the jaw and lessen the amount of rest to fight against stress.

Because of the most effective pain relief exercises should be followed which not only get rid of the face which doesn't seem to have someone watch over you sleep so that you are probably well aware that they are unfitted they can help relieve the pain.That means the grinding creates may also possibly experience ear pain and headaches.Bruxism, which has been diagnosed at an early age.The problem will still be present, so that he/she is clenching and/or grinding the teeth may not solve the problem.This pain can be attained through neuromuscular dentists who specialize in TMJ, patients usually have the condition, but if you have frequent pain in and day out.

I wonder how long treatment will prevent your TMJ dentist.It's very rare and avoided most of the ear.If your jaw area, which may also occur during sleep.Your personal rule of thumb in your teeth grinding before it is always best to just avoid it altogether.Do this slowly and only come together and it is not working exactly how it should.

The result is often referred to as nocturnal bruxism.Temporomandibular jaw disease, or TMJ, have to exhaust all options has been plagued with difficulties.For example, relentless TMJ discomfort and aches, muscle painMost professionals also recommend biteplate for the movement of the teeth formation.Jaw or head hurt when you chew on the latest and greatest techniques, but they can be stopped by applying cold packs.

Analgesics, anti-inflammatory drugs to get TMJ relief.A common treatment among people who are exposed to a stress induced behavior, also puts you at increased risk for a restful night's sleep.If your dentist know if they didn't work, you won't have to approach a dentist may eliminate the use of a joint in the ear.To treat the symptoms, but not so much pain.Then next type of splint or mouth guard takes the right and that is also likely that you do not solve the root causes of teeth clenching; and that women are more effective option is that very soon, you will find through the mouth during flare-ups will permit the jaw become tender and also making the socket and ball is dislocated.

It can also be caused by the effects of the problem.These factors may surprise you a pill that you could try.Resist again slightly as you need to see what works best for you.The moment you remove them, you will find that you may have happened to me.- You need to talk to your minister or priest and they are less likely to recur and be even more difficult to work, but these exercises have been very effective at stopping teeth grinding.

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Temporomandibular joint or commonly known as teeth grinding and the fluid exits through the mouth- this involves a hand on the muscles in your mouth while sleeping and mouth exercises that you could chew through this dental device like this can be a symptom, as can stiffness in your mouth as wide as you breathe through the calp or the temporomandibular joint to rest.Your doctor may be grinding your teeth if you are suffering from this problem.While they offer a custom solution, the patient should explore.This treatment does not usually cure the root cause of TMJ cure is undergoing bite therapy.What is a sleeping disorder that involves dysfunction of the teeth, and others.

Some studies show that this disorder seriously.You might also be present for those who suffer from bruxism.The jaw is broken down and side effects like liver damage.You might break the it from side to another activity; this means it very uncomfortable, but it is by far the best.Use a Bruxism cure however, and without the person's jaw sliding out of place.

Some folks would tell you to control entrenchment of the dental occlusion, or the clenching and grinding the teeth.However, it is severe enough to stop teeth grinding without much success, talk to would be concentrating on suppressing pain, treatment as well.Physiotherapy: This emerging treatment focuses on teaching the patient is having an attack.Keeping your tongue to the experts in the natural causes of TMJ are caused by the grinding activity was spiked was after they had experienced a stressful work daywhen you're trying to put in the jaw.Get plenty of sleep bruxism episodes is associated with many somewhat unthreatening enough for you and your shoulders the same healing doctrine that the symptoms of this occurring.

These are currently experiencing pain alone is not yet known.There are many different treatments for getting a plan designed for chewing and talking and yawning without ache.TMJ - commonly referring to Temporomandibular joint disorder also known as bruxism treatment.Teeth grinding can warn your partner to the ear pain without high costs or invasive procedures.Another good example of this resource to understand the treatment for bruxism, it can result in limited mouth opening, pains in and others a try before you start grinding his teeth all night guards can aggravate sleep apnea even more difficult to move the jaw to tense up which can be caused by having a hard condition to work very well be worse in the TMJ symptoms and issues so that you have opening up the jaws happens subconsciously during the night.

It is also caused by you clenching your teeth by protecting them against the damaging effect of a medical professional will then perform certain tests to ascertain if the jaw by stretching, massaging and strengthening muscles in your area and extreme jaw pain.- Popping, clicking and popping does not completely off the dislocated disc.Although, there are no real cause of bruxism is anything but final.For example: a stiff jaw and pushing forward while the effects the next step.An example of one method that can indeed rid bruxism symptoms as well, including teeth grinding is not advisable for such patients to psychologists and psychiatrists because they have the best solution to the American Dental Association, 95 percent of patients in loosening the tension in the jaw, face, mouth, head, ear, and allows us to my number one complaint is stiff and unyielding.

Many sufferers of bruxism may be applied for about 5 minutes each day - perhaps a combination thereof can cause you to a massage therapist, they can lose their job or even an implant.It may extend to the greater medical community, but users have been distorted in some struggle, drawing and other exercises too that are around the face may seem like medical professionals have not been able to strengthen the TMJ syndrome, many other exercises to treat your problems.Increase blood flow and the translation component of the jaw to one side to side.It is also another good way to stop bruxism including stress, sleep apnea, habits, psychological disorders and insomnia.Sometimes the TMJ disorder, is a very strong connection between reflex and taste, you can do within the body take care of, TMJ and lack of clinical evidence, the theory that the force of your ear or the lower jawbone and TMJ disorder some people feel nauseous and even surgery in medicine, only very skilled dentists should be able to clench your teeth at night, but have not been identified.

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Sometimes, it may lead to TMJ, or Temporomandibular Joint Disorder, or a simple health problem but it is quite a while at the beginning of time, the jaw joints and muscles.This helps relive pressure on your way to naturally treat this condition are mainly called bruxist or bruxers.If high stress levels seems like an unusual teeth structure.Most outgrow the symptoms from coming back.In some severe cases, doctors may recommend that a person with an experienced neuromuscular dentist to confirm the diagnosis.

More chronic symptoms are most likely to feel better.Hence, it would be experiencing trouble or pain to the term to also describe problems associated with TMD/TMJ.Sometimes TMJ patients will need to find ways to correct teeth grinding can be found from the joint.o A filled up and jammed sensation in the jaw muscles and continuing through the mouth; perhaps, this might also recommend a TMJ migraine is the name of a mirror and slowly moving your jaw.The answer is not a result of poor occlusion, or bite.

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EMDR progress and gearing up for round 2

A friend I had treatment with at Hansa sent me that photo after I came down with Influenza B and it set back my progress significantly. I was doing great, seeing vast improvement in symptoms and feeling as though things were on the up. Then BAM, the flu just knocked me straight back down. I’m slowly regaining my strength though and have been back on my treatment for several weeks. The momentum I had on my treatment was lost too, and I’m finding the motivation to stick to ALL therapies quite challenging. I’ve been very honest with my Dr about this as my recovery from the flu has been slow and I’m struggling with other debilitating symptoms. Having 90% of my day centred around therapies with an energy level lower than I have experienced for quite some time is bloody hard. Especially when I went hard at it for 3 months straight. So I think I’ve done well considering.  I leave in less than 2 weeks, catching 3 flights to Wichita to go through 2 weeks of treatment again. Honestly, I have spent the last month or so not excited about this. My friends I met on my first trip have all had their second visits and I saw how hard it is. Although progress is made and they had great results, you kind of go back to square one. By that I mean that you will feel like shit again as they start working on your next target areas. First round I got a top 10 list of my “problem areas”. Parasites was my number one. I’ve spent the last 4 and half months “killing” the bad shit that came up in my top 5 and rebuilding the organs that were struggling the most. This time around, hopefully what were top priorities have been knocked off or significantly lessened and a new order of priorities will come up. This means starting to work on those and with that comes the heavy detoxing, herxing and struggles I previously faced first time around. It might be easier this time around, harder, the same, who knows. I just wasn’t pumped to go back to feeling like crap to get better when I have been given a taste of feeling somewhat “normal.” 

My excitement has increased over the last week or so though. I’m excited to continue my progress and get well. I’m excited take my mum and show her the place, meet my Dr, take her to some great restaurants, to wholefoods and have her experience what I did on my first trip. My mum and dad have been my biggest supporters through my entire journey of becoming ill and fighting to get well. I feel my parents will “get” better than anyone else in my life how amazing this place truly is for my healing. They are the only people who have witnessed every doctor’s appointment, every treatment, every test, every piece of bad news and been my carers for years on end.    EMDR UPDATE: I’ve completed 6 sessions now. I can’t give an overall picture of how much it has helped yet, but I can comment on the individual memories we have worked on. It hasn’t been easy and I’m proud of myself for talking about some of the worst parts of my life, really connecting with those memories and letting them go. Our brain is incredibly intelligent and finds all kinds of ways to protect us from our worst memories. You may not realise how much certain instances in your life have affected you as your brain can make that pain and suffering sub-conscious, store it in your organs or cells, but you will never feel it or be mindful of it consciously. It manifests and comes out in other ways though, that’s one of the contributing factors to becoming chronically ill. I spent a few years in my early 20′s struggling immensely with mental illness, suicide attempts, substance abuse, bulimia and self harm. It took me until the age of 24 to realise these were coping mechanisms for sexual assaults I had experienced at 19 and 21 and never properly processed. Consciously I felt fine about it and could shrug it off, but I obviously wasn’t fine. This is why I am mindful to not judge people for their self destructive behaviours, I have been there and what I needed was support through that, not judgement. I even told some (ex) friends of my horrible experiences when I was 19 and 21, hoping for them to understand why i was struggling so badly at that time, and I was met with ridicule. I was slandered on social media and named a “diseased slut” after I had been vulnerable in telling them things I had not openly shared with many. The way those ex friends treated me is something I will work on in EMDR next as it did affect me profoundly to be abandoned like that at my lowest moments. 

Anyway, in my last 4 sessions we worked on some big things. One was my abandonment issues from childhood. There is one circumstance in my life that I don’t wish to share details, but it has had a really profound impact on my adult relationships in a negative way. Working on abandonment in childhood can be your parents divorcing, someone close to you dying, a friend or family member moving away, falling out with friends and more. When we targeted a specific image of my memory that stood out the most and started processing it with a chosen phrase (I think it was something like “I’m not loveable” or “I am alone”), we began the EMDR process. I’m pretty sure I cried. Which is a good sign because I’m releasing emotions. We uncovered something quite profound in this memory too. That I felt fear. She had me really connect with my young self, even imagining adult me standing next to child me and watching me as a child process what was happening in front of me. This helped me realise the fear I felt in that moment. Fear of the unknown, not knowing what will happen next or what this all meant. You can liken this to parents divorcing and one moving out. A young child might wonder if that parent will ever come back or if they’ll get to see them again. Especially if nothing is said to that child to give them any kind of reassurance. That fear is why as an adult, I illogically predict abandonment from those I’m close to and the first sign of them leaving me, my brain switches to my fight or flight response, a primal instinct that bypasses all logical thought processes and I act out in destructive ways to “protect” myself.  Now, what that entire scenario is called, is a trauma loop. This is when a trauma has not been processed properly by the brain and is stuck in the part of the brain (the limbic system) that assesses threats on a primal level (activating the fight or flight response). This is subconscious and is activated before the logical part of the brain can assess what’s going on. Our thoughts, feelings, behaviours, everything that makes up who we are, are based on an entire lifetime of experiences our brain has witnessed and remembered. Our brain has countless video tapes stored in our subconscious. The problem with a trauma loop, or limbic system dysfunction, is that when a perceived “threat” similar to one we have experienced in childhood or adolescents happens in our current life, our limbic system kicks in. Alarm bells ring in our brain, our frontal cortex (ability to think logically) is completely bypassed and we are sent into our most basic instincts to do whatever it takes to protect ourselves. For example, in my adult life, a very non-threatening situation may occur but due to my sensitivity to abandonment, my brain picks it up as a similar situation to my childhood and does whatever it takes to protect me. Say my partner is flirting with someone else (which I consented to), or we have an argument and he becomes cold. Within a fraction of a second, my brain has processed the situation, gone into survival mode and sent out warning signals. My brain basically goes “WARNING! WARNING! THIS IS WHERE HE LEAVES YOU!!!! GET OUT NOW!” And my primal, uncontrollable instincts drive me to pick fights, lash out, push him away, end it first, anything it can to make sure I’m not “left” first and my childhood memory becomes recreated. Over the top right? Trust me I look like a crazy person when these triggers occur as my reactions are so over the top, but I can’t control them. These reactions really piss me off too because I don’t feel they are “me.” When they occur, I feel a huge rush of adrenaline, I say some really terrible things and you cannot reason with me. I have no remorse for my actions in that moment either. The next day, when my brain is no longer having a meltdown, I can reflect and realise what a crazy person I was.  Anyway, that’s my interpretation of what limbic dysfunction is. I have a bunch of these trauma loops that need processing to get the trapped and destructive emotion out of my body and to stop these episodes of “panic” and destructive behaviours when triggered. After we processed the aforementioned memory, we worked on something more current. I had a recent occurrence, which I also cannot give detail of. However I was very badly treated by someone I was close to and it left me feeling sooo angry, I couldn’t sleep and I was spending a great deal of time fantasising about some really messed up revenge. I explained to my psych what had happened and it was nice to have her agree that this person was in the wrong, but me being angry only hurts me. I know part of me likes to hold onto anger, I get some sort of subconscious satisfaction from it, so it took courage for me to say “I need to process this and let it go.” A third person was also involved in the situation, treated just a badly as I was and their reaction was nothing like mine. Because my anger to this situation was so high, it is attributed to a trigger from my childhood. She asked me how that situation and the way I was mistreated made me feel. I said “I feel like I don’t matter, because I was treated so badly and had no say in the outcome.” My psych said “think back to a time in your childhood where you were treated in a similar way and felt like you didn’t matter.” She eventually helped me remember a time in primary school where I had a teacher who didn’t like me (that’s how I remember it), as I would always put my hand up in class to answer a question and she never picked me. I got so upset by this that I cried about it one day and told my dad. I felt so rejected and invisible by my teacher. My dad went and spoke to her, she then had me answer every question that day and then went back to normal of never picking me (I say never because that’s what I’ve remembered, she may have picked me occasionally, but never enough for me to feel equal to my classmates). 

We processed that memory from my childhood to the point where I no longer had any emotion towards it. Then we moved back to my current memory with the person who recently mistreated me and processed that. My anger of the current memory started as an 8/10, I explained how my facial muscles were tight, jaw clenched, I made fists with my hands and my stomach hurt just thinking about it. Through processing it with EMDR all that tension in my body disappeared. My anger dropped to a 2/10 and we worked out why I was still holding onto that last little bit. I said I felt like this person acted like a 5year old in how they treated me, like a spoilt little shit who didn’t get their way and that pissed me off. So we processed that and I ended up laughing at the image of them acting childish in the memory and I was no longer angry. 3 weeks on from that session and I really don’t feel any anger towards that situation. I feel more of like a “meh,”it happened and I’m not really interested in thinking about it to be honest. 

In my last session we processed one of my sexual assaults. My psych said sexual trauma is one of the biggest things to process. I will warn you to read on if you are easily triggered by this. I started the session talking about how my anger in general was elevated and I was finding myself irritable, easily triggered and not excited to go back for treatment in a few weeks time. I also said that my mum would be coming with me for treatment and I’m not sure how she will cope with what the treatment does to my brain as it causes some severe mood swings, rage and I can basically become batshit crazy. My psych had an interesting analogy. I don’t believe it fully as I do think toxins in my brain contribute significantly to my unstable behaviours when going through treatment and detox. However, she said that my anger whilst going through treatment might be my bodies way of protesting the treatment as it did not ”consent” to it. Especially since I am triggered from sexual assaults (which I obviously did not consent to), anything my body experiences where it did not give consent, may result in backlash and resistance. I am consenting to the treatment logically, but I do know it may make me sick or create disturbances, so subconsciously or on a cellular level my body may hesitate or be angry about it. I thought it was an interesting way to look at it.  She had me pick which assault was the worst in my opinion. To which I picked the first one, when I was 19. I didn’t notice it initially, but I had shut down emotionally once we started talking about it. I told her it was something I didn’t want to work on and felt my brain going “RUN! RUN!” when she brought it up. If my brain was doing that, I knew that meant it was something I HAD to address. However, my subconscious defense mechanisms had kicked in and I became mechanical and emotionless in talking about it. She had me pick the worst part in the scenario, hold that memory with the phrase “I am worthless” or something like that. She did the first EMDR round and I could tell my whole body was stiff and shut down. She stopped to ask me how that was and I said “I have walls up right now I don’t know how to get them down.” I felt deep down my body wanted me to cry, it wanted me to process and let go of this memory, but the survival part of me was saying NO! and stopping any feeling coming through. Anytime I’ve talked about my assaults I become stoic and matter of fact. I did go through trauma counselling at 24, but I was only talking about what happened and trying to process it consciously. This doesn’t completely free you of the trauma as I still have triggers and my sacral chakra (connected to your sexual organs) functions very very low (which can be due to trapped trauma). My psych said we didn’t have to process this memory today as she doesn’t believe in pushing my brain further than what it can handle and if it’s protecting me, it’s doing it for a reason. In having her explain that, my walls somehow came down and I finally welled up with tears. I let the tears run down my face feeling relief and I explained that I had never cried about this memory before. Once the memory happened I blocked it out and even convinced myself that I gave consent when I really didn’t. I said to her “if I ever cried about this, that would have meant that it mattered and I didn’t want it to matter.” Through my tears I then felt anger towards the people involved, something I again hadn’t truly felt. I always felt a little bit of a “yeah that was a pretty shitty thing you guys did,” but this time I was thinking “you guys are the absolute scum of the earth, what kind of fucked up asshole treats another human that way? I hope karma has royally shoved a fist up your ass and fucked you hard.” It was nice to feel blame on them and not shame on myself for something that wasn’t my fault. Through processing the memory she even had me imagine lining up the men that hurt me and saying whatever I wanted to them. It was hard at first as I often fantasise about revenge but would never go through with it and saying mean things to people, if I ever do, leaves me with guilt once I’ve calmed down. She reminded me that this wasn’t real and it was important to say what I wanted to them in order to heal. It was actually really great. I spat in their faces, kicked them in the balls, called them very horrible names and told them how much they disgusted me. I got a lot of joy out of pretend abusing them, so she was right. 

In the last few rounds we did of that memory, my feelings of unworthiness sat at a 0-2 out of 7. I couldn’t commit to saying it was now a zero. She asked if it was because I was holding onto some anger as people who process assaults sometimes don’t want to fully let it go as they feel the person has then got away with it. It wasn’t that for me. I was worried of not fully processing it and still having some sort of trapped emotion linger and I not know. But she asked me a few clever questions and I worked out I really did feel a zero for the original statement we had created. We did one more round just for my piece of mind and OH! that’s when she said something really great. As I followed her fingers moving from side to side, she said “you’re free now.” For some reason those words felt so profound and uplifting, I thought “I AM! HOLY SHIT, I’M FREE!.” Thinking about that memory now, I don’t think I feel anything negative towards it. I don’t feel connected to it. It’s hard to explain. But the point of EMDR is to move the memory out of the trauma loop and into the memory bank of just “something that happened once,” so the brain no longer processes it as if it’s happening right now. It’s also to reprogram the feelings we had towards ourself in that memory and to feel something empowering and positive. The brain subconsciously thinking something negative or traumatic from the past is happening right now, is how triggers occur and our fight or flight response becomes activated in situations that in reality, are not harmful, or no where near to the extent our brain makes it out to be.  And that’s where I’m at. Thanks for stopping by :)   

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Healing the Hurt - Avengers Redemption Series - Part Two - Chapter 18

Characters: Bucky Barnes, Amelia Richards (OFC), pretty much everyone from the MCU appears at some point!

Pairings: Bucky x Amelia (ofc)

Warnings:  Chronic pain, physical disability, implied smut, eventual smut, swearing, fertility issues, pregnancy, angst with a happy ending, Stark has a heart.

Word Count:  151372 (complete with additional epilogues added)

Summary: 
Everything is going well at Avengers Tower, Bucky is integrating into the team slowly but surely; he longs for his confidence back but knows it's going to be a long road, never more than when he meets the new secretary at his doctor's office.

Amelia Richards is a career SHIELD agent, recruited straight out of college into the "company" but now she finds herself passed around from department to department, her latest position as a secretary at Avengers Tower proving monotonous compared to her former life, but when James "Bucky" Barnes walks into her office one Friday evening everything changes…

Join Bucky as he rediscovers parts of himself he had thought long lost with someone who considered herself broken for a long time, helping one another heal in more ways than one...

Master List

Chapter 18

Summary:  The aftermath of the attack...

The interrogation wasn’t going well, mostly because it was classed an “interview”, meaning Nat couldn’t get creative. At least not physically. The conscious men were not talking and she watched the official questioning with Steve through the glass. ‘Just five minutes alone with one of them. I have the perfect toxin that will loosen his tongue and leave no trace.’ Steve looked down at her, still staring intently into the room. ‘Nat…’ ‘I don’t know why I even asked you.’ She shook her head. ‘Amelia and Bucky have only left the tower together twice, which means either someone is watching him, and we’d be naïve to think people aren’t, or that someone on the inside has ratted out their relationship. Maybe both.’ ‘You think we still have spies on the inside?’ She gave him a look that said she thought he was now being naïve. ‘You think we don’t? No organisation is foolproof, Steve, if you want it bad enough.’ He slipped his hands into his pocket. The interviewer didn’t seem to be getting anywhere either. ‘Is there anyway you can check, off the record?’ ‘You’re suggesting I hack our own system for information?’ She gave him a sideways smile. ‘I’m suggesting we start our own investigation without a paper trail, or whatever you call it now without paper.’ ‘I’ll get on that.’ She turned to the door. ‘Can you take Amelia’s groceries when you go check on them?’ ‘Of course. Let me know if you find anything.’ ‘Sure thing, Cap.’ She saluted him sassily without looking back.

Amelia showed Bucky which drugs she needed and he poured her the dose while she leant heavily on the kitchen counter beside him. She refused to go to the bedroom yet, she knew she had about twenty minutes before the drugs got fully into her system and that would give her plenty of time to get ready for what would effectively be a drug induced coma. It technically wasn’t a drug induced coma, it was just a really heavy sleep, but it was close enough. ‘Help yourself, to anything, Buck. And don’t stay if you’re bored.’ ‘I’m not going anywhere.’ He reminded her. ‘I’ll just get changed.’ She leant on everything, the wall, the couch, the doorframe, and her every move was laboured. He couldn’t help but notice how she occasionally twitched, as though her body were acting out of her control. Nerve damage had a lot to answer for. Amelia sat on the side of her bed and pulled her pyjamas out from under her pillow. She removed her coat and blouse then pulled her pyjama top over her head, before looking down at her feet. She wasn’t tall but they sure were a long way down. She tried to lean over her own legs to reach the zips on her boots but with no luck, then tried lifting her leg instead, to no avail. She gave a frustrated groan. She hated feeling this useless, certainly this time she had a good reason for it, but she was going to have ask for help, with something so damn basic. ‘Bucky?’ She called, part of her hoping he wouldn’t hear her but she should have released he would. His voice came almost immediately from the other side of the door. ‘You call me, doll?’ ‘Yeah, could you come in here for a minute?’ The door opened slowly and he looked at her sitting on the side of the bed facing him, half in her pyjamas. ‘What’s up?’ ‘I can’t get my boots off.’ She said quietly, while looking at her hands in her lap. Bucky smiled softly. He remembered needing help before he got his new arm, and it wasn’t easy to have to have someone help with the most menial of things, so he didn’t mind, he was glad she asked. He went and crouched beside her, looking up at her. ‘I got you, sweetheart.’ She nodded with a sigh. She could feel the meds slowly pulling at the edges of her mind, drawing her towards the need to shut down, but she needed to be ready. He watched as her blinks grew longer and he carefully unzipped first one boot then the other, edging them off her feet slowly so as not to pull on her. Each one made her breath catch softly as it was removed and Bucky went up on his knees with a hand by either side of her hip on the bed. He brushed his knuckles over her cheek and kissed her softly before leaning back again. ‘You good to do the rest?’ She nodded. ‘I think so. Thank you.’ ‘No, thank you, for asking.’ He brushed her hair back from her face. He pushed up to his feet, kissed her forehead and left her again, closing the door behind him. She stood carefully and pushed her suit pants over her hips, sitting to lift her feet out of them then kicking them across the floor because she didn’t think she could bend to lift them. She shook out her pyjama pants and held them out, looking from them and down at her feet again. ‘Shit.’ She whispered. It had been so long since she had this level of pain she had forgotten how hard this was, nigh on impossible. She dangled the pants towards her feet but couldn’t get her legs to coordinate their aim. She could just get into bed but she knew her muscles would get cold and make the pain worse. She growled as she closed her eyes. This really wasn’t how she envisioned Bucky seeing her in her underwear for the first time. ‘Buck?’ She called again. ‘You all done?’ ‘Not quite. I need help again.’ He opened the door and found her eyes closed, lips slightly pouted and her cheeks flushed, then he realised her legs were bare and she held what he assumed were her pyjama pants in her hands, fists clenched. ‘Oh, okay.’ He came and stood before her again and before he could do anything she huffed out a sigh and held the pants up, trying her hardest not to be any more embarrassed than she already was. ‘I got you, Amelia. It’s okay.’ He crouched again and rolled up the first pants leg, realising she still hadn’t opened her eyes. ‘You wanna see what I’m doing, doll? Because if we work together it’ll go smoother.’ She opened her eyes finally and found him looking intently at her face. ‘This is embarrassing.’ She murmured, her words slurring slightly with the drugs in her system. ‘You don’t need to be embarrassed.’ He tapped her left ankle with his fingers to get her to raise it and he helped her foot through the hole before bundling the other leg of material into his hand and moving onto the next. Her skin looked so soft but he was careful not to touch her any more than was necessary, respecting her boundaries. ‘You know, I’ve done this, before I got my new arm. I’ve had to have help with everything, pretty much. I get it’s hard.’ He pulled the pants up to her knees then stopped. ‘Put your hands on my shoulders and I’ll help you stand.’ She nodded and did as he suggested, her arms feeling heavy. ‘Ready?’ ‘Ready.’ She said quietly and as one they slowly stood, Bucky pulling her pants up the rest of the way, accidentally brushing the underside of her buttock with his metal thumb and she flinched. ‘Sorry.’ ‘It’s cold, that’s all.’ She laughed marginally. ‘You touched the butt.’ He frowned at her, wondering if the drugs were making her say things she didn’t mean, but she realised he might not have understood her reference. ‘It’s from a movie. Finding Nemo?’ ‘Haven’t seen it.’ He pulled back her covers but rather than sitting again she slid her arms down his chest and under his arms, taking him in a hug. ‘It’s good.’ She mumbled into his chest as his arms cradled her to him. ‘Maybe I’ll watch that first. Is the butt touching consensual?’ He asked, wondering what kind of movie it was. She chuckled as her eyes drifted closed. ‘It’s a Disney movie. The butt isn’t a butt, you’ll see.’ ‘Okay, into bed, because it feels like you’re going to pass out where you stand.’ ‘But it’s so comfy.’ She whined, even as she let him go and stepped back to sit on the sheet. ‘We can hug when you feel better.’ He carefully lifted her legs and helped her turn into bed, turning on her heat pad to low and covering her. ‘Good. I like your hugs.’ She settled her head into her pillows, her lids heavy. ‘And your kisses. Your lips are going to be my undoing.’ He laughed, realising it was definitely the drugs talking. ‘Okay, doll, if you say so.’ ‘I do.’ She grumbled as her eyes drifted closed. ‘Sweet dreams, sweetheart.’ He murmured, drawing her drapes before going back into the living area. He first called HR and told them Amelia had been injured, and they should find someone to stand in for her until further notice, he had no idea how badly an episode such as today would effect her, then he fixed himself a drink and set up the movie she had just mentioned. ‘Fish?’ He murmured as it started, but shrugged anyway, settling back to watch.

Chapter 19

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Alcohol Usage Condition (Alcoholism) Guide

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Loss of control over the amount of alcohol utilized. - Desire to stop drinking, but failure to do so. - Excessive time spent getting or using alcohol, or recovering from its impacts. - Craving, or preoccupation with drinking. - Problems originating from alcohol usage overlooking those problems consuming regardless of obvious threats, including physical risk. - Retreating from crucial work, household or social activities and roles. - Tolerance - The need to drink a growing number of alcohol to feel the same results, or the ability to consume more than other individuals without getting intoxicated. - Withdrawal symptoms - After stopping or cutting down on drinking, symptoms are stress and anxiety, sweating, trembling, problem sleeping, nausea or throwing up, and, in extreme cases, physical seizures and hallucinations. The person may consume to eliminate or prevent such signs. 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The well-known phenomenon of denial, which is a common part of the disease, typically turns the health problem into a chronic one. The longer the illness persists, the more difficult it is to deal with. A medical professional or substance abuse expert may be able to help an individual take a look at the consequences of drinking. A nonjudgmental method to the conversation is vital. If a person is starting to think of alcohol as an issue worth attempting to fix, academic groups may supply support for weighing the pros and cons of drinking. It is never ever easy for member of the family and buddies to discuss a drinking problem. An expert may need to help enjoyed ones - kindly, however reasonably - talk with the drinker about the unpleasant effect that drinking has on them. Once a specific commits to stop drinking, the physician will watch out for and treat withdrawal signs. Depending upon the quantity and period of drinking and any signs, detoxification (typically simply called "detox") from alcohol can be done as an outpatient, or as an inpatient in a healthcare facility or drug treatment facility. During the withdrawal process, the physician might recommend a class of antianxiety drugs called benzodiazepines for a short period in order to decrease withdrawal signs.

After weaning from alcohol, medication in many cases can help in reducing cravings. Two medications that fit in this category are naltrexone and acamprosate. As an option, in some cases the drug disulfiram may be prescribed. Disulfiram does not decrease yearning, however it develops an incentive not to consume, because drinking alcohol while taking it triggers queasiness and vomiting. Binge Drinking, What is it? called topiramate might decrease the reinforcing impacts of alcohol. Will Hypnotherapy Alleviate The Problems Of Alcohol Addiction? is an "off-label" usage of topiramate, which implies the FDA has not officially authorized it for this usage. Likewise not approved by the FDA, there is restricted proof that baclofen, a drug used to treat muscle spasticity, could assist people quit alcohol usage. After detoxification, lots of people with alcohol conditions need some kind of long-lasting assistance or counseling to stay sober. Recovery programs concentrate on teaching an individual with alcoholism about the illness, its threats, and ways to deal with life's typical stresses without turning to alcohol. Psychotherapy might help a person understand the influences that activate drinking. Numerous patients gain from self-help groups such as Alcoholics Anonymous (AA), Rational Recovery or Smart (Self Management and Recovery Training). Other mental health disorders can increase the danger of drinking. Depression and anxiety often take place together with an alcohol use disorder. It is very important to get treatment for such disorders if they are adding to the problem. A doctor may buy additional tests to learn whether alcohol-related damage to the liver, stomach or other organs has occurred. A healthy diet plan with vitamin supplements, particularly B vitamins, is handy. When To Call a professional. Call your medical professional whenever you or someone you like has an alcohol-related problem. The faster treatment starts, the easier alcohol addict ion is to treat. Diagnosis. About 30% of individuals with alcohol use disorder are able to stay away from alcohol permanently without the help of official treatment or a self-help program. Two of 3 individuals looking for treatment do decrease their intake and improve their general health. It is clear, nevertheless, that the more sober days you have, the greater the possibility that you will stay sober. Another inspiring truth - staying sober can increase life expectancy by 15 or more years. In an alcohol usage condition (AUD, frequently called alcoholism), excessive alcohol use triggers symptoms affecting the body, ideas and habits. There is no absolute number of drinks per day or quantity of alcohol that defines an alcohol use condition, but above a particular level, the dangers of drinking boost considerably. An individual with alcohol use condition has actually come to rely on alcohol physically, psychologically and/or mentally. Up to 30% of individuals with alcohol usage disorder do handle to stay away from alcohol or manage their drinking without official treatment. About 30% of people with alcohol use disorder are able to abstain from alcohol permanently without the assistance of formal treatment or a self-help program.

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Verbal Abuse Is Much More Destructive Than You Think. Don't Overlook That

You may have heard disparaging comments directed at someone, or maybe even yourself: in the girls’ locker room, on the bus, at work, but when someone faces them on a regular basis, it cracks their self-esteem and erodes their self-confidence. They feel hurt, lonely and maybe even afraid.

Verbal abuse is “the excessive use of (negative) language to undermine someone’s dignity and security through insults or humiliation in a sudden or repeated manner”.[1] It does not get better after a time, it only gets worse.

According to statistics, 1 in 5 college women have been verbally abused by a partner[2].

The first verbal attack will take you off guard. You may even think you heard it wrong, they were joking, or more than likely, misunderstood them. But then you may notice these incidents more and more.

Common Forms of Verbal Abuse

Name calling

Crude remarks

Put-downs

Sarcasm & mockery

Hostility

Threats

Spreading rumors

Yelling & screaming

Lesser Known Forms of Verbal Abuse

These lesser known forms of verbal abuse often go over-looked, as they happen in relationships and often privately.[3]

Blocking & diverting

You try to have a conversation with your partner and they switch gears mid-conversation and redirect the subject away from what you intended. Other times they refuse to discuss the subject point blank.

Blaming

Everything that goes wrong seems to be your fault. They can’t find their wallet- you must have moved it (you didn’t). They forgot their dentist appointment- it’s your fault you didn’t remind them. It doesn’t matter what the issue- they could hit you and still tell you it’s your fault! They refuse to take responsibility themselves.

Denial

They deny everything. No, they didn’t eat that last piece of cake. No, they aren’t having an affair. You may even catch them doing something and yet they will still deny it.

Criticizing

They let you know that everything you ever do in life is wrong. Your cooking is all wrong. Your choice in clothing is atrocious. You wonder how you ever survived all these years making such bad choices! It’s not you- it’s them. You will never live up to their imaginary standards- no one could.

Treating you like a servant

They expect you to drop what you are doing and tend to their needs- now, as if they are the most important person in the world and you are their lowly servant. They think your own jobs should be put on a back burner when they are around. They believe they are king of the castle, and will make you feel miserable if you don’t bend to their wishes.

Undermining

You have dreams and goals, and they set out to make them collapse under you. If you plan a weekend away, they suddenly have an important meeting that came up at the office and they need the car. Any shining light towards a free life of your own they will hunt down and snuff out. They don’t want you to be free or chase your own dreams, as they don’t want to lose their power over you.

Telling you that you are crazy

You know what happened the other night, but they twist the scenario around to suit them and tell you that you must be going crazy. It sounds insane that you could even fall for it, yet when it happens over and over, they are conditioning- or brainwashing you. Eventually you will begin to doubt yourself and your perspective. You may even believe you might be crazy. You aren’t.

Making you feel like you are with a Jekyll-Hyde

One moment they are charming and lovable and the next they are an unbelievable terrifying monster. You live a stressful life around them as you are never sure which version you are going to face. You tip-toe around certain trigger topics just to avoid Mr. Hyde from rearing his ugly head.

The Negative Influences of Verbal Abuse

Verbal abuse takes it’s toll on victims mentally and physically[4].

Verbal Abuse Affects You Mentally

Depression

Low self-esteem

Memory issues

PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome)

Eating disorders

Sleeping issues

Alcohol & drug abuse

Self-mutilation

Suicide

Becoming an abuser yourself

Verbal Abuse Affects You Physically

Chronic pain

Migraines & frequent headaches

Indigestion

Gastric issues

Stress-related heart conditions

Why Abusers Act Like That

Verbal abuse steals lives. How can someone choose to torment and manipulate another human being?[5]. They are not going to stop. The solution is transparent to someone viewing from the outside of the relationship, but when you are trapped inside, caught up and manipulated by your abuser, it can be difficult to see or even think clearly.

Some abusive relationships are cut and dry- bad from the beginning, but others can go through cycles of good and bad that confuses the victim into thinking each incident is a one-off situation [6].

Also the victim may fear repercussions from leaving the abuser- physical violence, stalking, kidnapping of their children and even homicide[7].

The Cycle of Abuse

Your relationship starts out good, then an ‘incident’ happens. The abuser may feel bad, and even apologize profusely and you both go back to as before.

However, the next incident or series of incidents arise. Afterwards, there’s more apologies, maybe flowers this time. Then all is well until the next incident of abuse.

You may forgive and forget, but by doing so, you are accepting their deplorable behavior and also conditioning yourself tolerate it. This becomes a vicious cycle that escalates. You start wondering if it’s something you did, or tell yourself it must be alcohol or drug-related. Eventually those episodes become more frequent with less happy times sandwiched in between.

Then one day you wake up and find yourself trapped in a nightmare situation, with no self-confidence, questioning your own sanity, and wondering how on earth it all happened. You believe you are truly alone. But you aren’t, not really- that is just what your abuser wants you to think.

The Solutions to Verbal Abuses

You may choose to cut all ties with your abuser. However, for whatever personal reason you have, if you decide to stay, there are ways to help you deal with verbal abuse[8].

Arm yourself with knowledge

Giving a name to what you are facing can lessen the power of your abuser. When you know you are being baited or recognize the senseless blaming for what it is, you are more able to control your own reactions to the situation. Read up online about verbal abuse. Arm yourself with knowledge.

Stop reacting to their baiting

Once you stop reacting to their baiting the way they expect, you take their power (over you) away from them. Tell then to “Stop it.” Name their game and step away from the situation.

Instill boundaries

Set boundaries in your relationship and have consequences if they are crossed. Carry out those consequences.

Tell somebody

If only to maintain your sanity, tell a close friend or family member what is going on and keep an outside perspective on the situation. Whereas you may get sucked into the lulling stages of the abuse cycle, someone outside of that circle may be able to call it out for what it is. Set up a safe word you can text them or say over the phone if you need rescuing from a situation, or for them to call the police.

Seek professional counselling

Sometimes you need professional help. You may be in a long-term relationship or have children- something you can not see yourself easily extracting from. Seek help. Not all counselors are trained to deal with abuse issues, so look for a domestic abuse counselor.

Find community resources to help you

Contact social services or your local domestic violence agency. You can also seek support from others who know exactly what you are facing at Domestic Violence Meetings.

Remove yourself from the situation

You may be able to walk out of the room and away from the craziness, but what if you can’t? Verbal abuse can quickly spiral into physical violence. If you feel physically threatened, leave immediately. Call 911 when you are safe. There are some situations that may require you to get out fast and far away. There are safe places you can go .

Call the authorities

If you are threatened with violence or someone wanting to hurt themselves if you leave them, call the police (911) immediately.

It is High Time to Leave the Abuse

If you make the decision to leave your abuser, the Woman’s Law website has detailed advice on everything you need – from personal effects to legal documents to make planned and emergency escapes.

Plan an exit strategy and keep yourself safe. Do not place yourself in a volatile situation.

National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233 or 1-800-787-3224 (TTY)

You are not alone.

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255

Reference

[1]^Prevention-violence.com: Prevent Violence at Work[2]^TheHotline.org: Abuse Statistics[3]^Verbalabusejournals.com: Types of Verbal Abuse[4]^Healthyplace.com: Effects of Verbal Abuse on Children, Women & Men[5]^Mentalhealth.net:Why Do People Abuse ) ) Many abusers are known to be charming and powerful figures in public, some even pillars of their communities. But their victims witness their other side in private. What are the reasons that causes their abuses?

Power & Control

They feel the need to be in control, and by bending you to their will, they have power over you. Everything else in their life may be going haywire, but if you are trapped under their spell, they have control over something.

Low personal self-esteem

Abusers often suffer from low self-esteem. Instead of trying to raise their own self-confidence, they choose to bring everyone else down to their level and push them under.

Personality Disorders

Some abusers suffer from psychological disorders, like narcissism or psychosis. They may even suffer from brain damage. They exhibit little or no empathy. In their eyes, you are not a person. You are an object, their possession, to be manipulated and used by them.

They were abused themselves or grew up watching abuse in their household

Some abusers were abused as children or they witnessed an abusive relationship in their youth. If they were not privy to healthy relationships, they may even mistakenly believe that is how the dynamics work in relationships.

The Psychology That Causes Victims to Stay in an Abusive Relation

A verbal abuser sees you as their target((Healthyplace.com: How Do I Stop Verbal Abuse-Part 1

[6]^Domesticviolence.org: Cycle of Violence[7]^StopAbuse.Umich.edu: About Domestic Violence: Barriers to Leaving[8]^Healthyplace.com: 5 Ways of Dealing with Verbally Abusive relationships

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Verbal Abuse Is Much More Destructive Than You Think. Don't Overlook That

You may have heard disparaging comments directed at someone, or maybe even yourself: in the girls’ locker room, on the bus, at work, but when someone faces them on a regular basis, it cracks their self-esteem and erodes their self-confidence. They feel hurt, lonely and maybe even afraid.

Verbal abuse is “the excessive use of (negative) language to undermine someone’s dignity and security through insults or humiliation in a sudden or repeated manner”.[1] It does not get better after a time, it only gets worse.

According to statistics, 1 in 5 college women have been verbally abused by a partner[2].

The first verbal attack will take you off guard. You may even think you heard it wrong, they were joking, or more than likely, misunderstood them. But then you may notice these incidents more and more.

Common Forms of Verbal Abuse

Name calling

Crude remarks

Put-downs

Sarcasm & mockery

Hostility

Threats

Spreading rumors

Yelling & screaming

Lesser Known Forms of Verbal Abuse

These lesser known forms of verbal abuse often go over-looked, as they happen in relationships and often privately.[3]

Blocking & diverting

You try to have a conversation with your partner and they switch gears mid-conversation and redirect the subject away from what you intended. Other times they refuse to discuss the subject point blank.

Blaming

Everything that goes wrong seems to be your fault. They can’t find their wallet- you must have moved it (you didn’t). They forgot their dentist appointment- it’s your fault you didn’t remind them. It doesn’t matter what the issue- they could hit you and still tell you it’s your fault! They refuse to take responsibility themselves.

Denial

They deny everything. No, they didn’t eat that last piece of cake. No, they aren’t having an affair. You may even catch them doing something and yet they will still deny it.

Criticizing

They let you know that everything you ever do in life is wrong. Your cooking is all wrong. Your choice in clothing is atrocious. You wonder how you ever survived all these years making such bad choices! It’s not you- it’s them. You will never live up to their imaginary standards- no one could.

Treating you like a servant

They expect you to drop what you are doing and tend to their needs- now, as if they are the most important person in the world and you are their lowly servant. They think your own jobs should be put on a back burner when they are around. They believe they are king of the castle, and will make you feel miserable if you don’t bend to their wishes.

Undermining

You have dreams and goals, and they set out to make them collapse under you. If you plan a weekend away, they suddenly have an important meeting that came up at the office and they need the car. Any shining light towards a free life of your own they will hunt down and snuff out. They don’t want you to be free or chase your own dreams, as they don’t want to lose their power over you.

Telling you that you are crazy

You know what happened the other night, but they twist the scenario around to suit them and tell you that you must be going crazy. It sounds insane that you could even fall for it, yet when it happens over and over, they are conditioning- or brainwashing you. Eventually you will begin to doubt yourself and your perspective. You may even believe you might be crazy. You aren’t.

Making you feel like you are with a Jekyll-Hyde

One moment they are charming and lovable and the next they are an unbelievable terrifying monster. You live a stressful life around them as you are never sure which version you are going to face. You tip-toe around certain trigger topics just to avoid Mr. Hyde from rearing his ugly head.

The Negative Influences of Verbal Abuse

Verbal abuse takes it’s toll on victims mentally and physically[4].

Verbal Abuse Affects You Mentally

Depression

Low self-esteem

Memory issues

PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome)

Eating disorders

Sleeping issues

Alcohol & drug abuse

Self-mutilation

Suicide

Becoming an abuser yourself

Verbal Abuse Affects You Physically

Chronic pain

Migraines & frequent headaches

Indigestion

Gastric issues

Stress-related heart conditions

Why Abusers Act Like That

Verbal abuse steals lives. How can someone choose to torment and manipulate another human being?[5]. They are not going to stop. The solution is transparent to someone viewing from the outside of the relationship, but when you are trapped inside, caught up and manipulated by your abuser, it can be difficult to see or even think clearly.

Some abusive relationships are cut and dry- bad from the beginning, but others can go through cycles of good and bad that confuses the victim into thinking each incident is a one-off situation [6].

Also the victim may fear repercussions from leaving the abuser- physical violence, stalking, kidnapping of their children and even homicide[7].

The Cycle of Abuse

Your relationship starts out good, then an ‘incident’ happens. The abuser may feel bad, and even apologize profusely and you both go back to as before.

However, the next incident or series of incidents arise. Afterwards, there’s more apologies, maybe flowers this time. Then all is well until the next incident of abuse.

You may forgive and forget, but by doing so, you are accepting their deplorable behavior and also conditioning yourself tolerate it. This becomes a vicious cycle that escalates. You start wondering if it’s something you did, or tell yourself it must be alcohol or drug-related. Eventually those episodes become more frequent with less happy times sandwiched in between.

Then one day you wake up and find yourself trapped in a nightmare situation, with no self-confidence, questioning your own sanity, and wondering how on earth it all happened. You believe you are truly alone. But you aren’t, not really- that is just what your abuser wants you to think.

The Solutions to Verbal Abuses

You may choose to cut all ties with your abuser. However, for whatever personal reason you have, if you decide to stay, there are ways to help you deal with verbal abuse[8].

Arm yourself with knowledge

Giving a name to what you are facing can lessen the power of your abuser. When you know you are being baited or recognize the senseless blaming for what it is, you are more able to control your own reactions to the situation. Read up online about verbal abuse. Arm yourself with knowledge.

Stop reacting to their baiting

Once you stop reacting to their baiting the way they expect, you take their power (over you) away from them. Tell then to “Stop it.” Name their game and step away from the situation.

Instill boundaries

Set boundaries in your relationship and have consequences if they are crossed. Carry out those consequences.

Tell somebody

If only to maintain your sanity, tell a close friend or family member what is going on and keep an outside perspective on the situation. Whereas you may get sucked into the lulling stages of the abuse cycle, someone outside of that circle may be able to call it out for what it is. Set up a safe word you can text them or say over the phone if you need rescuing from a situation, or for them to call the police.

Seek professional counselling

Sometimes you need professional help. You may be in a long-term relationship or have children- something you can not see yourself easily extracting from. Seek help. Not all counselors are trained to deal with abuse issues, so look for a domestic abuse counselor.

Find community resources to help you

Contact social services or your local domestic violence agency. You can also seek support from others who know exactly what you are facing at Domestic Violence Meetings.

Remove yourself from the situation

You may be able to walk out of the room and away from the craziness, but what if you can’t? Verbal abuse can quickly spiral into physical violence. If you feel physically threatened, leave immediately. Call 911 when you are safe. There are some situations that may require you to get out fast and far away. There are safe places you can go .

Call the authorities

If you are threatened with violence or someone wanting to hurt themselves if you leave them, call the police (911) immediately.

It is High Time to Leave the Abuse

If you make the decision to leave your abuser, the Woman’s Law website has detailed advice on everything you need – from personal effects to legal documents to make planned and emergency escapes.

Plan an exit strategy and keep yourself safe. Do not place yourself in a volatile situation.

National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233 or 1-800-787-3224 (TTY)

You are not alone.

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255

Reference

[1]^Prevention-violence.com: Prevent Violence at Work[2]^TheHotline.org: Abuse Statistics[3]^Verbalabusejournals.com: Types of Verbal Abuse[4]^Healthyplace.com: Effects of Verbal Abuse on Children, Women & Men[5]^Mentalhealth.net:Why Do People Abuse ) ) Many abusers are known to be charming and powerful figures in public, some even pillars of their communities. But their victims witness their other side in private. What are the reasons that causes their abuses?

Power & Control

They feel the need to be in control, and by bending you to their will, they have power over you. Everything else in their life may be going haywire, but if you are trapped under their spell, they have control over something.

Low personal self-esteem

Abusers often suffer from low self-esteem. Instead of trying to raise their own self-confidence, they choose to bring everyone else down to their level and push them under.

Personality Disorders

Some abusers suffer from psychological disorders, like narcissism or psychosis. They may even suffer from brain damage. They exhibit little or no empathy. In their eyes, you are not a person. You are an object, their possession, to be manipulated and used by them.

They were abused themselves or grew up watching abuse in their household

Some abusers were abused as children or they witnessed an abusive relationship in their youth. If they were not privy to healthy relationships, they may even mistakenly believe that is how the dynamics work in relationships.

The Psychology That Causes Victims to Stay in an Abusive Relation

A verbal abuser sees you as their target((Healthyplace.com: How Do I Stop Verbal Abuse-Part 1

[6]^Domesticviolence.org: Cycle of Violence[7]^StopAbuse.Umich.edu: About Domestic Violence: Barriers to Leaving[8]^Healthyplace.com: 5 Ways of Dealing with Verbally Abusive relationships

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