#wanting different things

[just-french-me-up]

'ao3 needs a like and dislike button'

what you need, my algorithm-rotten minded friend, is a grip

[butchfalin]

the funniest meltdown ive ever had was in college when i got so overstimulated that i could Not speak, including over text. one of my friends was trying to talk me through it but i was solely using emojis because they were easier than trying to come up with words so he started using primarily emojis as well just to make things feel balanced. this was not the Most effective strategy... until. he tried to ask me "you okay?" but the way he chose to do that was by sending "👉🏼👌🏼❓" and i was so shocked by suddenly being asked if i was dtf that i was like WHAT???? WHAT DID YOU JUST SAY TO ME?????????? and thus was verbal again

[batcavescolony]

Katniss is such an unreliable narrator. She says "Then something unexpected happens. At least, I don't expect it because I don't think of District 12 as a place that cares about me" girl you deliver strawberries to the Mayor, you hunt and trade for the district, when you fell at Prim being chosen someone caught you, when you went to Prim people parted for you, when you volunteered EVERYONE stopped. Idk how to tell you but I think you're a pillar of the community.

[pumpkin-the-girlie-girl-vixen]

*Loving Someone and Still Setting Boundaries*

As I sit down to write this, I'm reminded of the countless times I've struggled to reconcile my love for someone with the need to set boundaries. It's a delicate dance, one that requires a deep understanding of ourselves and our relationships.

For me, it started with recognizing that I deserve to be loved and respected, even if that means setting boundaries with someone I care about. It's not always easy, but it's necessary for maintaining healthy relationships.

One of the most important boundaries I've learned to set is the need for space. This can be a challenging one, especially when we're deeply invested in someone. But it's essential to remember that we're not just one half of a relationship – we're individuals with our own needs and desires.

Disagreeing with someone we love can be tough, but it's a crucial part of any relationship. It's okay to have different opinions and perspectives, and it's essential to learn how to navigate these disagreements in a healthy way.

Challenging someone we love can be even more difficult, but it's necessary for growth and development. Whether it's encouraging them to pursue their passions or supporting them through tough times, challenging someone we love can help them become the best version of themselves.

Standing up for ourselves is another essential boundary to set. This can be especially challenging when we're in a relationship, as we may feel like we're putting our partner's needs above our own. But it's essential to remember that we deserve to be respected and valued, and standing up for ourselves is a key part of that.

Changing our minds is a natural part of growth and development, and it's essential to be open to new ideas and perspectives. This can be especially challenging when we're in a relationship, as we may feel like we're committed to a particular path or decision. But being open to change can help us grow and develop as individuals, and can even strengthen our relationships.

Walking away when needed is one of the hardest boundaries to set, but it's often necessary for our own well-being. Whether it's taking a break from a toxic relationship or setting boundaries with someone who's draining our energy, walking away can be a powerful act of self-love.

Feeling frustrated is a natural part of any relationship, but it's essential to learn how to manage these feelings in a healthy way. This might mean taking a step back to cool off, engaging in a calming activity, or practicing effective communication with our partner.

Loving someone and still choosing ourselves is perhaps the most important boundary of all. It's easy to get caught up in the idea that we need to put our partner's needs above our own, but this can lead to burnout and resentment. By prioritizing our own needs and desires, we can actually become better partners and build more fulfilling relationships.

As I reflect on these boundaries, I'm reminded of the importance of self-love and self-care. By taking the time to nurture our own minds, bodies, and souls, we can become more confident, resilient, and compassionate partners.

So, what does it mean to love someone and still set boundaries? For me, it means recognizing that I deserve to be loved and respected, not just by others, but by myself. It means being willing to communicate my needs and desires clearly, even if it's uncomfortable or challenging. And it means prioritizing my own well-being, even if that means making difficult choices or setting boundaries with someone I love.

I hope this post has resonated with you, and that you'll join me in prioritizing self-love and self-care. Remember, loving someone and still setting boundaries is not selfish – it's essential. By taking care of ourselves and communicating our needs clearly, we can build more fulfilling relationships and become the best versions of ourselves.

[fairsweetlonging]

shang qinghua canonically didn't really care that much about being accurate, good for us

[shanklin]

Sentient Mystery Shack, who is really biased towards Stan, so when Ford tells Stan he has to give it back after the summer it’s on sight.

Ford keeps tripping over nothing, nothing is where it's supposed to be and somehow he keeps running into closets when he tries to go outside.

But the worst part, the WORST part is that Ford's lightbulb just won't. Work. No matter what he does it keeps flickering and exploding.

Ford is spiraling. 

There is no reason why it shoudln’t work. All his trial runs work perfectly. He’s already checked the Shacks wiring three times and relearned this dimensions science from the ground up. 

Nothing works.

The Rift? Bill? The impending apocalypse? Eating? Sleep? Who cares about that. 

WHY. WONT. THE. LIGHTBULB. WORK???

It doesn’t help that Stan keeps laughing at him.

“Then you do it!” Ford eventually snaps at Stan.

Stan shrugs and with a little song under his breath screws his own lightbulb in. It works perfectly.

Stanford screams.

[humming-fly]

He was feeling left out

and the higher rez stills, since gifs always export as if you're sending messages through a metal can~

[hinamie]

happy gojoday to all who celebrate

[mysticalfg]

Saw fanart of gale in a robe n went mildly feral, possibly

[corkinavoid]

DPxDC Al Ghul Twins Quick Thought

Jason, visiting the manor the first time after Damian showed up: *does a double take* Where's the second one?

Damian, stopping in his tracks and looking him dead in the eye: Dead.

Jason, rolling his eyes but dropping the subject: Alright.

The entire Batfam:

[chalkrub]

dinosaur in a lab coat - would you trust her with operating the centrifuge

[garbagequeer]

hilarious man (The National Play “Sorrow” for Six Hours at MoMA PS1)

[vinestaff]

sighs. another guy in my brain i guess

[strangebiology]

Success is Dependent on Secret Information

A lot of career success depends on you and the work you put into it, as well as luck beyond your control, but sadly, it also depends on secret information, magic words, and stupid little tricks.

That's not fair. I don't like it, but we can help by sharing that secret information--which is the antidote to gate-keeping. That's why I recently wrote this in my Authors of Nonfiction Books in Progress substack:

It can be really disheartening to realize that, when you thought you failed at something because you didn't do well enough, other people had the magic words. For instance, some injustices I've witnessed (that may or may not always be the case, or maybe not anymore!) include:

A good athletic score doesn't get you into a college sport--having a coach or parent talk to the college coach is mandatory

Many school-sponsored scholarships are often not tightly linked to grades, test scores, or financial need, but whether the student said the right words ("I can't afford that") to the right person (presumably some financial office person.)

Apparently, some aspects of some degrees are cheated on by most students (if that's the case, we should tell all students that it's ok to cheat on that so they don't waste their time on something that apparently wasn't important anyway, or worse, fail out just for being ethical.)

Especially related to books: Few people will mention that you can get grants! Not my agent, not my publisher, not the 1 zillion "pros and cons of trad publishing" articles out there mentioned grants (Grant eligibility is a HUGE benefit of trad publishing.) I got more money from grants than my entire book advance!

Let me know what magic words/secret knowledge you've learned, that you wish you knew sooner. Or: the widespread understanding of what information would make a field more fair?

And please share ANBIP with anyone writing, publishing, or seriously about to start writing, a nonfiction non-memoir book, especially if they're interested in the more practical side (I share more about resources and strategy than craft.)

[ruporas]

trigunned the hades or hadesed the trigun (id in alt)

[lazylittledragon]

mombin pt 9!! it's been too long i'm sorry

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