#very specific butch way yk

[torahtot]

& it's like the thing is gideon IS terrible butch stereotype #1 like she's the service butch jock who puts everyone b4 herself to an insane extent, covers up all her emotions w jokes, has this deep seated shame she cant talk to anyone about & inside is the saddest loneliest girl in the world who is literally nothing if she is not servicing another woman. & on the one hand im not sure if i feel totally comfortable with this- even tho it's obvious from kiriona that it's definitely an intentional critique, i wonder if giving this character to a butch was intentional as well or just stereotyping- but on the other hand. that's literally me she's sooo me i can't be mad that the butch is like this hwen i am the butch who's like that.

[cuntyglam]

hi! sorry in advance if this is bothersome, like fr feel free to just delete if you’d like, but for some reason your ask box seems like a good place to go to talk about this? anyway, that “lovingly help her transition” post has me thinking about transfem butch zoro again & just, like, yes sexy muscle woman blah blah but also honestly it just adds several really interesting layers to zoro’s relationship with women, as well as her relationship with strength itself that don’t really get discussed in conjunction with that headcanon & it’s a travesty fr. like, the way she hears kuina- a girl who will come to be the baseline for zoro’s view of strength for the rest of her life in someways- struggle with internalized misogyny as a result of their environment goes from something that frustrates zoro as it relates to his own strength to something that frustrates her on a much more nuanced level because, though zoro may or may not be aware she’s trans yet, if she can’t beat kuina, & kuina can’t be the strongest because she’s a woman, then what hope does zoro have? & that’s not going into the ways that the rhetoric placing any win specifically on zoro’s body rather than skill could be a huge source of dysphoria, & honestly i think that both of those would follow zoro for quite a long time in the context of her being transfem? but it also adds another layer to her taking on kuina’s dream as part of her own- like it was meant to be a pair of women fighting for the title & now that it can’t be zoro would feel like a more gendered? ig? responsibility to take the title on top of just the more directly interpersonal stuff. & it’s also a reading that i think has a very interesting impact on her whole thing with tashigi because i think both in canon & in this context part of what frustrates zoro so much about her is, for all she looks like kuina, she in many ways lacks kuina’s resolve or desire to prove her own strength. for all tashigi is very clearly (rightfully) outraged by the misogynistic expectations placed upon her, we very rarely see any desire from her to better herself for her own sake or in spite of those expectations (though the scene at the end of alabasta is a noteworthy exception) & like where in canon i think zoro tends to fuck with her because of it in a way that’s a tad more spiteful & demeaning, i think in a transfem reading of zoro it’s a bit more like… genuine indignation over how much of her ability to move through the world tashigi is willing to give up as a result of those expectations in comparison to her actual capacity. like it goes from “you wear the face of my dead friend who has come to be definitional to my person while in some ways being antithetical to her existence, & so i am fine talking down to you” -> “you are allowing the expectations placed upon us as women to hold you back & wasting the chances to do better never knowing when you’re gonna die & you can’t even see it. my best friend was willing to fight for it as a very young girl before death caught her, i’ve had to fight for it my whole life, what the hell are you doing to yourself?” & then there’s tashigi’s insistence on zoro’s disconnect being a result of being biologically male… like tashigi goes from irritating to triggering for zoro in a way. & with strength it’s like… kuina defined both strength & girlhood for zoro in a way that is incomparable to any impact anybody else has ever had on her, but the blueprint was cut off before completion, & now zoro is having to figure it out all on her own. & her commitment to being herself takes on a role that’s just as large as her commitment to strength, if not outright merging the ideas in a far more direct way than canon itself. to be the strongest swords(wo)man she has to be a woman who is herself who is able to carry the people she loves for the girl that taught her all this in the first place, yk? plus it just adds a cute layer of solidarity to everything going on with zoro & okiku. anyway sorry if this is too long or irritating or incoherent, just wanted to say butch transfem zoro rights!

oh my gods this is fantastic you need to write an essay NEOW. i’ve always headcanoned zoro as trans masc just because they feel very trans masc to me, and i’ve also headcanoned kuina as someone who may have been trans masc if they were able to grow up, but i really love this interpretation !! it’s just so fantastic, and i really love it. you could do debates or something fr. while i’ve always interpreted their relationship with women and misogyny in a transmasc light it’s so cool to see that reflected on a transfem zoro. i don’t know why i’ve never thought about it but i adore it !!

[redr0sewrites]

2024 writing wrapped !

just a silly little thing i wanted to do !!! just some stats for my fics + some of my fav writers at the end <3 im so excited for the new year !!!

Fav Fic: I love you most - Jason Todd x reader - very much a self indulgent fic, and i go back to read it when im anxious. as someone w an anxiety disorder and other mental health issues i don't talk about much on here, a lot of the time i cope using fictional scenarios and other means, so this fic just means a lot to me

Least Fav Fic: Sub!Eris Vanserra Hcs - this could have been SO. much better, and each time i see it i cringe. i remember really wanting to write this but i just,,,, couldnt, so i settled for really half assed hcs. eris vanserra is also one of my absolute favorite characters of all tiem as well, but i never write for him bc A) the acotar fandom scares me B) i can never do him justice and these hc show that

Fic w Most Notes: NNN Hcs w The Hashiras - oughh this was a pain in the ass to write but. it was worth it. nearly 8.5k notes is CRAZY to me when i thought it sucked ass when i posted it... thanks yall

Longest Fic: Decent? - not including fics w multiple parts,,, probably this

Character I Wrote Most For: easily aaravos. he was my claim to fame and still one of my biggest blorbos. i love him so much

Most Requested Character: either Vox/Lute from Hazbin Hotel, Caitlyn from Arcane, or Jason Todd. they're probably my most asked for characters even to this day

Fav Fandom to Write For: i really LOVE to write for Bnha or DC because there is SOO much interaction and reblogs WITH SPECIFIC COMMENTS TOOOO its so nice in those fandoms specifically. and the writers from those fandoms r very kind as well

Least Fav Fandom to Write For: easily a tie between acotar and tdp. for acotar its because the fandom is incredibly heteronormative to the point where people would be annoyed when i used gender inclusive pronouns in my fics, and there was just a lot of arguing over headcanons that made me super uncomfy 😭 and then for tdp people kept asking me for dragon smut over fifteen times even when i said i wouldn't write beastiality so. yk. it was Weird. i do miss it tho.

Fav Character to Write For: Aaravos because i could characterize him in my own way and basically ignore canon bc he was just. My Guy. there was a point in time where i was THE ONLY active aaravos fic writer in the aaravos x reader tag and he was literally up to my interpretation. i also ADORE writing for Alastor because as someone who might be somewhere on the ace spectrum it is WONDERFUL to experiment with the idea of a character who isn't really a fan of sex, and he's so unique and interesting to write for. i also really like writing for Sevika (even tho i have NAWT written enough for her) because she's very much my type irl, and i just. love butches so much.

Fav Unfinished WIP: probably If Only, which was an adam x reader fic that only has two parts and i never really got around to finishing it- BUT I WANTT TOOO

Fav Fic Writer(s): i could never choose just one, but here r some writers whom ive been absolutely hooked on this year !! most of these r my mutuals or just lovely people with just as lovely writing :)

@peachdues , @mostly-imagines, @flametrashira , @luca-star1ight , @rueclfer , @graveyardcannibal , @bigfatbimbo , @sniigura , @hanasnx @archangeldyke-all

obviously this is not every writer i follow as i follow so many AND I LOVE THEM ALL but these r just my top ten whom ive gone back to reread their stuff again and again !!! i adore yall and i recommend everyone check them out!!!

[cleromancy]

the specific flavor of roydick when they were queercoded, or at least--i mean theres *at least* a *strong* argument that they are, starting around... maybe devins arsenal mini through titans 99, but *definitely* outsiders all the way through roy leaving the team. but like, they're simultaneously queercoded and maintaining that very late 90s/early to mid aughts-specific heteronormativity yk. a swell couple in an erotic butch and sundance kind of way

(and i mean we do know devin in particular was writing with bi dickie in mind, shes gone on record on that, but like specifically roy and dick in relation to each other...)

and im just. thinking about this because in my beloved The Cheshire Contract in the *80s* they are not actually queercoded, the homoeroticism was just. two bros gettin naked in the same hotel room, being touchy feely bros hetero style... idk man theyre really affectionate with each other in it! but then by the time graduation day rolls around you can't even picture them that comfortable touching each other despite like. still being written as... i mean they're close, you know? *close.*

but they don't touch anymore.

and like thinking about. by contrast. my beloved outsiders #11 where. dkdkckflf. god. grace's famous you boys would make a swell couple in an erotic butch and sundance kind of way quote, roy cuts her off with a kiss, they have sex, and-- god im sorry please just read outsiders v3 because this issue is. insane. anyway then dick and roy have what *eye* would argue is a sexually charged sparring scene, particularly bc of the way it was juxtaposed with roy and grace. and it ends when dick pulls a fucking gun on roy *as an expression of care.* like explicitly that's why he's doing it. like oh my god! the rituals are so fucking intricate!

and like FIVE ISSUES LATER they have this massive blowout fight and-- fkflflfm.

the point is. the point is. my last reblog was about fictional male intimacy needing violence as a pretext. and i was thinking about the specific flavor of heteronormativity at the time and. weighing in my mind whether my beloved outsiders 11 or my beloved action comics 613-618 feels more intimate. thinking about the heteronormativity flavor of, these two guys can't be physically affectionate bc of it vs the flavor where they *can* be physically affectionate precisely *because* heteronormativity means it wouldn't be gay if they did. and i think its not quite a fair comparison bc i do believe the point of outsiders 11 *was* the intimacy, compared to the cheshire contract where it was an easy comfortable byproduct of their friendship. but, well! there most certainly is violence as a pretext, huh?

much to think about.

[lycanstonebutch]

I feel like I have a Dom and Sub persona and not in the D.I.D way, but like i feel like my subby puppy petplay self is such a different headspace than my dom self and part of me feel more comfortable having them be separated a little

Hence Des/Butch

Cuz butch is my puppy name yk, im butch the puppy

Anyways talking of butch the puppy i kinda wanna enter my sub space and top someone in the subbiest neediest ways like let go of my fears n anxieties and shame and rllybjust be a desperate puppy rutting and whining and barking as i top someone or let them dom me (although i do not bottom im ojay with very specific gender affirming touches when packing)

Wearing my puphood and having someone tell me my cock is theirs and that theyll put it to good use and please themselves with it would make me go crazy insane thats all im aaying

[catboyklug]

oc x oc / oc x canon ships i have + my thoughts on most of em yay

i was enabled by gav . blame him

color coded - oc x oc is orange, oc x canon is urple.

if ur wondering who any of these guys r feel free 2 ask and/or just check out my artfight 'cause they're all on there

humaliens / hk:

masa x frey - the first!!!! love them sm. short punk femme x tall goth butch ftw. also theyre both super smart which makes them go well together imo

masa x frey x dusty - i made them a moodboard specifically bc their vibes go together well and it made me consider... consider what idk but

masa x hornet - now there's a thought

qeum'e x zismith - very very cute. originally wasnt even a thought, i was gonna make zismith go w/ some girl based off of a side character from tall girl ig?? but q x z won in the end and im glad it did.

berro x wist - not much 2 say. berro holds all the gender so wist doesn't need to

berro x wist x april - literally never happenin (april's aroace and wist's only attracted 2 nb people) but very very funny to thnk abt yk. two ridiculously romantic guys and the guy who is just sorta there

nothing for labfixation bc there are only like 1 possible ships

puyo puyo:

kikki x doppel - i thought abt this as a way to force kikki to interact w/ nate if sexism is no good ever is played in again but then i was like WAIT I CAN DO SOMETHING WITH THIS. have been thinkng abt it since....

ajax x kikki - never happening but it's interesting 2 think abt. they both hate ace and r gay it could work

he/they polycule - couldnt go long enough w/o mentioning this. they r everything 2 me. i want them to kiss so fucking badly ok

remy x maguro - THE OG. the perfectest. they're so so so<3<3<3 mentally ill but they're there for each other & test out cool and new pronouns w/ each other

remy x klug - klug had a hate-crush on remy and nate and a legit crush on maguro which contributed to his hate-crush on remy earlier in the rp. they're also sort of terribly perfect for each other in the worst ways possible AND their brothers are dating. AND they have "i got possessed and it really was awful" solidarity. AND they have colors. AND-

aloe x ruby - very very cute. they love each other at a respectful distance bc that's what they both need & when they do need affection they know they can always ask. also rlly funny if you consider it for more than a few seconds

doppel x aloe - kurro kept bringing this up as a joke and it's sorta funny. aloe has minus 10 attraction towards doppel (in an affectionate way) but doppel has a massive crush on anyone who's taller than him so

splatoon:

8.1 x captain 3 - they shoul hold hands and homoerotically spar more often

8.TT x the concept of denial - OTP UWU

8.2 x captain 3 - they have 2 kiss immediately i think

there are more so this will prolly be updated a couple times in the future i just am being forced off my laptop and yeah

[purringbookworm97]

Hii! I'm like rlly new here and I saw ur blog and stuff I'm very confused about the "crystal vibe" thing? Why is amethyst feminine and why is obsidian masculine or why aquamarine is both

Is it because of the properties? Obsidian came from lava and fire so it's masc and yk that and that I almost got my head around it,but then I got confused again

I hope this was okay to ask! I totally understand if you don't wanna asnwer or don't wanna explain,I like ur blog alot btw and tysm for the pinned links

I hope you have a great day 💖 or night

Hi nonnie!

First thing I'm going to ask is, did you see anything about gendered crystals on my blog? Because I don't remember reblogging or writing anything about gendering crystals, since I myself don't particularly appreciate it.

Now of course it's okay to ask and I'm glad you did! Now why do people gender crystals or random objects for that matter? in my limited experiences, it comes from two things, property and aspect.

As you may know, some people associate qualities and flaws with specific genders. If you, like me, have lived in a westernized society, you might have noticed the emphasis that these societies put on the binarity of the sexes and genders. Most of the time, there must be the Masculine and the Feminine, which are pretty much forbidden to come in contact out of procreation.

Yes, you can find depictions of gender neutrality in New Age Spirituality, but when considering gendering objects, one usually decides to separate them into definite Male/Female categories, following guidelines that can be arbitrary about what is which. Let me give you an example:

Usually considered "feminine": healing, family, children, passivity, motherhood, love, affection, softness

Usually considered "masculine": aggressivity, violence, strength, sharpness, assertiveness, dominance

On another plane, fire, stone, and thunder, but also all "violent" phenomena are usually considered masculine, and on the other hand, everything soft such as plants (especially flowers), rain, and round shapes are considered feminine.

Therefore why do people say amethyst is feminine? Because its aspect and properties fall in the usually "feminine" category of things Obsidian would on the other hand have qualities deemed more "masculine", and Aquamarine would have qualities from both.

Now why do I say usually? because none of these qualities is inherent to one gender or the other, there are also more than two genders, and that is my main issue with gendering objects. I'm a transgender guy, and my femininity doesn't make me less of a man, the same way that a very butch lesbian is still a lady because what matters is the ways she identifies.

Of course, if you feel that associating genders to crystals or anything else matters to you, by all means, do it, but do remember that gender is a fluid concept that must resonate with you before it resonates with anybody else. Alternately, it doesn't matter what a crystal looks like or what it does, that doesn't define their gender.

The best way to know what something's gender is: asking. If you know any divination methods (pendulum, runes, tarot but also many more), ask your crystals, and then you'll know!

Hoping I wasn't aggressive in my answer, and that you're having a lovely day, night or evening!

Thank you for sending an ask!

[butchlilith]

writing meme part 2: i’m back

realized i never posted part 2 of my commentary on stuff i’ve written. it’s been ages at this point, but thank you to the lovely @ladynoblesong​ for sending these in! if you’d like to send in parts you’d like me to discuss, that’s also cool. check out this post if you’re wondering what’s going on and my fic tag if you like feeding my ego.

under the cut learn more about...

lesbian niles’s continued hair obsession

lilith and gaydar

flowers, as always

lesbian niles’s continued hair obsession [buzzed]

“Your haircut?” she asks. “I’m— I can’t tell you how happy I am for you, Daphne.“

This surprises her, though not so much as her happiness at it. Daphne says, “Are you?”

“Of course. I haven’t forgotten the first time I cut mine. It was never so short as yours, and I would never have done it myself, but the feeling of it… It’s indescribable.”

basically the main thing here is the gay solidarity with a side order of niles’s hair fixation. wrt the latter, niles is definitely feeling a bit of a conflict here because it’s daphne’s hair, which in the Lesbian Niles Expanded Universe is very representative of niles’s connection to her, more so even than in canon, but she knows even though she’s pretending that she doesn’t know because she couldn’t possibly assume something like that about anyone, and certainly not daphne. so she is kind to her because she does, at the very least, know how it feels to present oneself in a way that is not entirely pleasing to others however freeing it is to oneself, but i didn’t want her to comment specifically on the hair itself for a couple reasons. first, as i’ve already explained, she’s still… niles who is obsessed with daphne’s hair, and this is forcing her to readjust the image she’s constructed of her. but also because the haircut really isn’t the focus so much as its meaning. and that’s pretty much what i was going for with the niles dialogue.

with the daphne bit here, i’m basically emphasizing that pretty much no one has been happy about her choice up to now, but, more than that, with the “not so much as her happiness at it” i’m kind of trying to suggest the relationship daphne has had with gayness and other gay people and the importance of that connection.. i think even once you are able to say to yourself that you don’t mind if nobody likes you or your haircut or your “””lifestyle””” or whatever, people need to feel Seen by people like them (see: the best post i’ve ever made on this godforsaken site). and i think niles was able to provide that and, by doing so, affirm daphne’s status as ~community member, so to speak.

lilith and gaydar [untitled; song prompt: “hard feelings/loveless”]

The moment you meet your soon-to-be sister-in-law, you know that you’ve made a mistake. Her rigid walk, the surprising softness of her handshake, the smell of product in her hair—it seizes you completely. The only other butch with whom you’ve shared more than a word is the handywoman you first hired while you were still in medical school, when you realized you knew nothing of basic home repair. She—Susan—was entirely different from the woman who stands before you now, with a deep bark of a laugh and strong, calloused hands. You felt drawn to her, of course. How couldn’t you, with how rare it was to find a woman who dared to take up space? A simple, easily explained reaction to the unknown.

But Niles is hardly the unknown. She’s her brother in miniature, repulsively in need of validation, but quieter, surely, and pretentious, but not cruel. When she laughs—rarely, which is a virtue all its own—it is not with her head tipped back, mouth opened wide, but a small flicker of her mouth, the faintest trace of a vocalization. You aren’t attracted to her, of course. The feeling is entirely wrong. But you know what she is, and you overhear her in the kitchen asking Frasier a question that means she knows the same of you.

honestly 90% of my thought process for this excerpt was “i… gay” and i just followed that feeling where it took me. i truly just find women completely captivating so i love describing them, and i wanted to show this contrast between women who are—to borrow my own phrasing—of the same sort. it kind of goes back to the matter of not really having models for being a gay person that i talked about wrt the clothes-sharing scene in synchronicity. i think it’s quite easy to rationalize attraction or, possibly more troubling, recognition of oneself the way lilith does here when that person’s an exception to what you know. i imagine the lilith in this fic to have realized some time ago that she was a lesbian but to have resolved not to deal with it because she has aspirations that such desires could not satisfy. so she’s just kind of like, “this happens to be true, but i am choosing to pursue other needs.” but niles is ALSO a repressed lesbian, albeit in a different fashion, and may i just say? we know.

flowers, as always [untitled; song prompt: “hard feelings/loveless”]

She sends you flowers in secret, note unsigned, until you do it for yourself. All your life, you’ve known they were frivolous, niggling things, but your affection for them grows though they cannot. You call when you are sure her brother is nowhere to hear, and tell her: You have learned to care for the things you have no reason to care for.

the flowers actually cross off two of my boxes here, first in my egomaniacal, self-referential “niles is big on flowers” thing, and second in having some kind of connection to “hard feelings/loveless.” those lines (“i light all the candles / cut flowers for all my rooms / i care for myself the way i used to care about you”) are my favorite in the song, so i wanted to give them a little lip service, if you will, so that’s the development i wanted to give lilith here, because i think it’s reflective of her larger relationship with sexuality etc. (i.e. valuing it instrumentally). & the reason i chose to have her interact with niles in that way is because i feel like, in the same way lesbian niles loses some of that closeness with frasier and martin, that’s sort of gained between her and lilith. just sort of a looking after of each other even if they don’t particularly like each other, still feeling that love between them yk?

[mirtifero]

I got so used to stop using labels that I forgot that I’m not cis for a moment LMFAO like I forgot my gender.

Like, I’m a woman, right? But not a cis woman. Nonbinary works but it’s kinda idk. I’m a girl in a boy way in a girl way in the not anything way yk.

There was a time I used the “bigender” label and considered myself a boygirl. I guess it kinda works now too but it’s not exactly that. Gender’s funky.

I think the way I present myself online makes that a bit difficult in comparison to how I present myself offline. I’ve been called a tomboy and someone asked if I was a (brazilian version of d slur, I think) because of the way I dressed and shit before and I guess that explains a lot what I mean.

But I don’t like the idea of being genderless at the same time I like it. Same thing with “boy” and “girl”.

Am I a girl? Absolutely, mentally ill girly here. But a girl in a boy way in a genderless way too.

I tend to find butch lesbians and feminine gay men very “gender” and I thought that’d explain it but I think it makes the situation worse. I was going to say I also thought very feminine people were “gender” but while I was typing I realized that in specific was actually attraction 😓

Gender sucks so idc rn I think… I know I’m a lesbian tho. But every time I say that people tend to look weird at me like I was saying “I am a terf!” or something which makes me a bit sad… I’m not thaaat good at social cues tho so maybe I am wrong (I hope so)! I don’t think I’m necessarily transmasc too, I think the label doesn’t fit me whatsoever. Eh, I’m not labeling myself anytime soon, they don’t really work with me I guess. Very fucking queer.

[silvaurum]

hi i saw ur ask about transmasc lesbians, sorry if i got you wrong

yk how transmascs often get called butch lesbians because. well transphobia and stereotypes gross really

i think since they've been called that as an insult they feel a different connection to it and reclaiming it as a label can be empowering

from the different side, like how some transfems reclaim the term femboy since they've been called it so often they now feel a connection to it

i hope i helped

i don't know what this is referring to specifically? but like, i think trans people can totally call themself whatever. lesbians on hrt are great, lesbians doing fun things with gender are great, feminizing or masculinizing or whatever, that's all good.

the only thing i remember saying about this is trans men, specifically, who are binary men only. which is not my wheelhouse or experience.

and my thoughts on that are like. men calling themselves butch is fine, tbh, like the black 'gay' ball culture it came from didn't really see the need to delineate explicitly like that, so, whatever.

but men who have no other connection to womanhood calling themselves 'lesbian' is like... i don't get it. even if it's been used as an 'insult', it's an identity label before it's that. like the whole 'who can reclaim what' discourse is p stupid overall, just don't call someone a label they don't like, don't use labels as insults, don't use slurs as slurs, be considerate. so i'm not gonna say anyone can or can't use whatever. i just don't... get it. you want people to see you as a man without any qualifiers, except... that you're using a term that still means 'woman who exclusively loves women?'

like that seems misdirected to me, not necessarily like "a problem" but... considering how people act around straight trans people and especially straight men, with the radfem reactionary bleed-through we're dealing with, i understand why straight trans men are hesitant to label themselves that way and it's honestly none of my business.

i just don't see how like... a man can reclaim something that isn't even really about him as a man? like that's just people being transphobic and misogynistic about gender non-conformity.

it seems to not quite match what the intent is, to me, idk. like if i had to translate it to something i personally experience, it would be like me trying to reclaim 'schizo' even though i don't have schizophrenia or schizoaffective symptoms. i've had mild psychotic symptoms before, more to do with ptsd/anxiety/depression. but... that doesn't mean i actually fully understand that experience of diagnosis and marginalization through that diagnosis. i am 'crazy' in other ways that i am comfy joking about, just not that specific one. and i think that the distinction does matter enough to question why someone would want to identify with one over the other. not necessarily because there's a "right" way to identify, but because We Live In A Society etc, and it seems more thoughtful and compassionate to really consider the impact it has.

especially when like... if people are calling trans men lesbians as an insult, it's because they are being misogynistic about gender non-conformity and see lesbianism as an invalid 'choice' or 'lifestyle' for a woman. they believe that not adhering to gender and sexual roles makes a woman worth less. which isn't directly an insult to men, other than the misgendering of that particular man. although some people do very much misgender trans men as a class for similar reasons, on the assumption that they are all misguided lesbians trying to 'trick' innocent straight women. but, again, as much as that is transphobic, it's also very much lesphobic and misogynistic.

and again, this isn't about multi-gender, fluid, non-binary transmasc people or anyone who doesn't fit neatly into the 'binary trans man' mold. i love the diversity of experiences with gender and sexuality we all have and i think it's great when people find themselves fitting under a number of labels.

it's more about... binary trans men and binary cis men are the same gender. and lesbianism excludes men. so... it doesn't add up for that small portion of men to feel entitled to the label, even if it's been "used against them". i'm not gonna tell anyone they can't, regardless, because gender is confusing and blurry and the lgbtq framework isn't universal and shouldn't be. i just don't think i'm ever going to get that particular quirk.