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[thepalecascade]

"You were My First Love, My First Crush, My First Kiss, My First Embrace, And My First Heartbreak"

[isabeaulajolie]

Bisogna cercare Qualcuno con la stessa voglia di fare l'Amore, di dare affetto, di riempirti di baci, abbracci, di guardare film sul divano, di fare passeggiate al parco, andare al cinema e giocare, di amare in modo genuino; di sostenersi, di ridere, scherzare, di vibrare con la stessa intensità affinché non faccia male, che sia bello e che duri.

Bisogna cercare un Amore che sappia che a volte puoi essere fastidioso, pesante, stressante, ma che ne vali assolutamente la pena, ogni giorno, tutta la maledetta vita, e che senza di te nulla sarebbe lo stesso.

Qualcuno che abbia paura di perderti e ti custodisca come il Tesoro più prezioso che possiede....

Isabeau ...❤️

[altrovemanonqui]

Ho la prova provata che si può amare senza oggetti e senza soggetti. Si può amare un’essenza, uno spirito e una fragranza senza per questo pretendere che questa compagnia si consumi e ti consumi.

Cosa ti da' la forza per nuotare contro corrente ed arrivare?

Cosa ti da' la forza per dissolvere la nebbia che rende più buio il buio?

Cosa ti affida ad un sentimento a cui non chiedi protezione ma solo idee che diventano parole?

Cosa ti allarga le narici fino a farci passare un treno che ti fa scendere nel punto esatto in cui vuoi o devi ?

L'amore inspiegato che ti appare nelle preghiere, sulle labbra di un desiderio, sul pelo di un precipizio e ti dice che tu non vali per quello che hai, o sei, ma vali per quello che senti: sentire il bene, o sentire il male, è frutto della stessa forza vitale.

L’ho sentita questa forza, spero solo che ti arrivi senza colpa.

[evolv66]

Devi cercare qualcuno con la stessa voglia di fare l'amore, di dare amore, di riempirti di baci, abbracci, guardare film sul divano, uscire al parco, andare al cinema e giocare, amare bello, appoggiarti , ridere, vibrare con la stessa intensità affinché non faccia male, che sia bello e che duri. Devi cercare un amore che sa che a volte ti fotti tanto ma che vali tutto il maledetto dolore, tutta la tua vita, e che senza di te niente sarebbe più lo stesso, che ha paura di perderti e si prende cura di te come il tesoro più prezioso che ha.

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[the-lovers-ailment]

Refuting Ai’sha’s age

Author: Ayatullah Muhammad Husayn Husayni al-Qazwini (Vali-Asr Institute)

Translated by: Abu Noora al-Tabrizi

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Ahl al-Sunnah insist on proving that A’yshah was betrothed to the Prophet Muhammad (S) at six years of age and that she entered his house at nine years [where the marriage was consummated]. [Ahl al-Sunnah] consider this to be evidence for A’yshah’s superiority over the other wives of the Messenger of Allah. Does this, however, reflect reality? In the following article we will investigate this matter.

However, before embarking on the crux of the matter, we must shed light on the history of the Prophet’s marriage to A’yshah so that we may afterwards draw a conclusion as to how old she was when she married the Messenger of Allah.

There are differing views in regard to the history of the Messenger of Allah’s marriage to A’yshah. Muhammad b. Ismaʿil al-Bukhari [d. 256 A.H/870 C.E] narrates from A’yshah herself that the Messenger of Allah betrothed her three years after [the death] of Lady Khadijah (Allah’s peace be upon her):

حدثنا قُتَيْبَةُ بن سَعِيدٍ حدثنا حُمَيْدُ بن عبد الرحمن عن هِشَامِ بن عُرْوَةَ عن أبيه عن عَائِشَةَ رضي الله عنها قالت ما غِرْتُ على امْرَأَةٍ ما غِرْتُ على خَدِيجَةَ من كَثْرَةِ ذِكْرِ رسول اللَّهِ (ص) إِيَّاهَا قالت وَتَزَوَّجَنِي بَعْدَهَا بِثَلَاثِ سِنِينَ وَأَمَرَهُ رَبُّهُ عز وجل أو جِبْرِيلُ عليه السَّلَام أَنْ يُبَشِّرَهَا بِبَيْتٍ في الْجَنَّةِ من قَصَبٍ.

It has been narrated by ʿA’yshah (may Allah be pleased with her) [where] she said: “I have not been jealous of any woman as I have with Khadijah. [This is because first], the Messenger of Allah (S) would mention her a lot”. [Second], she said: “he married me three years after her [death] and [third], his Lord (Exalted is He!) or [the archangel] Jibril (peace be upon him) commanded him to bless her with a house in heaven made out of reed (qasab).”

See: al-Bukhari al-Juʿfi, Muhammad b. Ismaʿil Abu ʿAbd Allah (d. 256 A.H/870 C.E), Sahih al-Bukhari, ed. Mustafa Dib al-Bagha (Dar ibn Kathir: Beirut, 3rd print, 1407 /1987), III: 3606, hadith # 3606. Kitab Fadha’il al-Sahabah [The Book of the Merits of the Companions], Bab Tazwij al-Nabi Khadijah wa Fadhliha radhi Allah ʿanha [Chapter on the Marriage of The Prophet to Khadijah and her Virtue[s] (may Allah be pleased with her)].

Given that Lady Khadija (Allah’s peace be upon her) left this world during the tenth year of the Prophetic mission (biʿthah), the Messenger of Allah’s marriage with A’yshah therefore took place during the thirteenth year of the Prophetic mission.

After having narrated al-Bukhari’s tradition, Ibn al-Mulqin derives the following from the narration:

وبنى بها بالمدينة في شوال في السنة الثانية .

…and the Prophet (S) consummated the marriage in Madinah during [the month] of Shawwal in the second year [of the Hijrah].

See: al-Ansari al-Shafiʿi, Siraj al-Din Abi Hafs ʿUmar b. ʿAli b. Ahmad al-Maʿruf bi Ibn al-Mulqin (d. 804 A.H/1401 C.E), Ghayat al-Sul fi Khasa’is al-Rasul (S), ed. ʿAbd Allah Bahr al-Din ʿAbd Allah (Dar al-Basha’ir al-Islamiyah: Beirut, 1414/1993), I: 236.

According to this narration, the Messenger of Allah betrothed A’yshah in the thirteenth year of the Prophetic mission and officially wed her [i.e. consummated the marriage] in the second year of the Hijrah.

From what has been related by other prominent [scholars] of Ahl al-Sunnah, we can [also] conclude that the Prophet wed A’yshah during the fourth year of the Hijrah. When commenting on the status (sharh al-hal) of Sawdah, the other wife of the Messenger of Allah (S), al-Baladhuri [d. 297 A.H/892 C.E] writes in his Ansab al-Ashraf that:

وتزوج رسولُ الله صلى الله عليه وسلم، بعد خديجة، سودة بنت زَمعة بن قيس، من بني عامر بن لؤي، قبل الهجرة بأشهر... فكانت أول امرأة وطئها بالمدينة.

After Khadijah, the Messenger of Allah (S) married Sawdah b. Zamʿah b. Qays from Bani ʿAmir b. La’wi a few months before the Hijrah…she was the first woman that the Prophet joined [in matrimony] in Madinah.

See: al-Baladhuri, Ahmad b. Yahyah b. Jabir (d. 279 A.H/892 C.E), Ansab al-Ashraf, I: 181 (retrieved from al-Jamiʿ al-Kabir).

Al-Dhahabi [d. 748 A.H/1347 C.E], on the other hand, claims that Sawdah b. Zamʿah was the only wife of the Messenger of Allah for four years:

وتوفيت في آخر خلافة عمر ، وقد انفردت بصحبة النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم أربع سنين لا تشاركها فيه امرأة ولا سرية ، ثم بنى بعائشة بعد ...

[Sawdah] died in the last year of ʿUmar’s caliphate, and for four years she was the only wife of the Prophet (S) where neither [free] woman nor bondmaid was partnered with her [in sharing a relationship with the Prophet (S)]…

See: al-Dhahabi, Shams al-Din Muhammad b. Ahmad b. ʿUthman (d. 748 A.H/1347 C.E), Tarikh al-Islam wa al-Wafiyat al-Mashahir wa al-Aʿlam, ed. Dr. ʿUmar ʿAbd al-Salam Tadmuri (Dar al-Kutub al-ʿArabi: Beirut, 1st print, 1407/1987), III: 288.

According to this conclusion, A’yshah married the Prophet in the fourth year of the Hijrah (i.e. four years after the Prophet’s marriage to Sawdah).

Now we shall investigate A’yshah’s age at the moment of her betrothal by referring to historical documents and records:

Comparing the Age of A’yshah with the Age of Asma’ b. Abi Bakr

One of the things which may establish A’yshah’s age at the moment of her marriage with the Messenger of Allah is comparing her age with that of her sister Asma’ b. Abi Bakr [d. 73 A.H/692 C.E]. According to what has been narrated by the prominent scholars of Ahl al-Sunnah, Asma’ was ten years older than A’yshah and was twenty-seven years of age during the first year of the Hijrah. Moreover, she passed away during the year 73 of the Hijrah when she was a hundred years of age.

Abu Naʿim al-Isfahani [d. 430 A.H/1038 C.E] in his Maʿrifat al-Sahabah writes that:

أسماء بنت أبي بكر الصديق ... كانت أخت عائشة لأبيها وكانت أسن من عائشة ولدت قبل التأريخ بسبع وعشرين سنة.

Asma’ b. Abi Bakr al-Siddiq…she was the sister of ʿA’yshah through her father’s [side i.e. Abu Bakr] and she was older than ʿA’yshah and was born twenty-seven years before History [i.e. Hijrah].

See: al-Isfahani, Abu Naʿim Ahmad b. ʿAbd Allah (d. 430 A.H/1038 C.E), Maʿrifat al-Sahabah, VI: 3253, no. 3769 (retrieved from al-Jamiʿ al-Kabir).

Al-Tabarani [d. 360 A.H/970 C.E] writes:

مَاتَتْ أَسْمَاءُ بنتُ أبي بَكْرٍ الصِّدِّيقِ سَنَةَ ثَلاثٍ وَسَبْعِينَ بَعْدَ ابْنِهَا عبد اللَّهِ بن الزُّبَيْرِ بِلَيَالٍ ... وكان لاسماء يوم مَاتَتْ مِائَةُ سَنَةٍ وُلِدَتْ قبل التَّارِيخِ بِسَبْعٍ وَعِشْرِينَ سَنَةً

Asma’ b. Abi Bakr al-Siddiq died on the year 73 [of the Hijrah], after her son ʿAbd Allah b. al-Zubayr [d. 73 A.H/692 C.E] by [only] a few nights. Asma’ was a hundred years of age the day she died and she was born twenty-seven years before History [Hijrah].

See: al-Tabarani, Sulayman b. Ahmad b. Ayyub Abu al-Qasim (d. 360 A.H/970 C.E), al-Muʿjam al-Kabir, ed. Hamdi b. ʿAbd al-Majid al-Salafi (Maktabat al-Zahra’: al-Mawsil, 2nd Print, 1404/1983), XXIV: 77.

Ibn Asakir [d. 571 A.H/1175 C.E] also writes:

كانت أخت عائشة لأبيها وكانت أسن من عائشة ولدت قبل التاريخ بسبع وعشرين سنة

Asma’ was the sister of ʿA’yshah from her father’s [side] and she was older than ʿA’yshah where she was born twenty-seven years before History [Hijrah].

See: Ibn Asakir al-Dimashqi al-Shafiʿi, Abi al-Qasim ʿAli b. al-Hasan b. Hibat Allah b. ʿAbd Allah (d. 571 A.H/1175 C.E), Tarikh Madinat Dimashq wa Dhikr Fadhliha wa Tasmiyat man Hallaha min al-Amathil, ed. Muhib al-Din Abi Saʿid ʿUmar b. Ghuramah al-ʿAmuri (Dar al-Fikr: Beirut, 1995): IX: 69.

Ibn Athir [d. 630 A.H/1232 C.E] also writes:

قال أبو نعيم : ولدت قبل التاريخ بسبع وعشرين سنة.

Abu Naʿim said: [Asma’] died before History [Hijrah] by twenty-seven years.

See: al-Jazari, ʿIzz al-Dim b. al-Athir Abi al-Hasan ʿAli b. Muhammad (d. 630 A.H/1232 C.E), Asad al-Ghabah fi Maʿrifat al-Sahabah, ed. ʿAdil Ahmad al-Rifaʿi (Dar Ihya’ al-Turath al-ʿArabi: Beirut, 1st Print, 1417/1996), VII: 11.

Al-Nawawi [d. 676 A.H/1277 C.E] writes:

وعن الحافظ أبي نعيم قال ولدت أسماء قبل هجرة رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم بسبع وعشرين سنة .

[It has been narrated] from al-Hafiz Abi Naʿim [who] said: Asma’ was born twenty seven-years before the Hijrah of the Messenger of Allah (S).

See: al-Nawawi, Abu Zakariyah Yahya b. Sharaf b. Murri (d. 676 A.H/1277 C.E), Tahdhib al-Asma’ wa al-Lughat, ed. Maktab al-Buhuth wa al-Dirasat (Dar al-Fikr: Beirut. 1st Print, 1996), II: 597-598.

Al-Hafiz al-Haythami [d. 807 A.H/1404 C.E] said:

وكانت لأسماء يوم ماتت مائة سنة ولدت قبل التاريخ بسبع وعشرين سنة وولدت أسماء لأبي بكر وسنه إحدى وعشرون سنة.

Asma’ was a hundred years of age when she died. She was born twenty-seven years before History [Hijrah] and Asma’ was born to her father Abi Bakr when he was twenty-one years of age.

See: al-Haythami, Abu al-Hasan ʿAli b. Abi Bakr (d. 807 A.H/1404 C.E), Majmaʿ al-Zawa’id wa Manbaʿ al-Fawa’id (Dar al-Rabban lil Turath/Dar al-Kutub al-ʿArabi: al-Qahirah [Cairo] – Beirut, 1407/1986), IX: 260.

Badr al-Din al-ʿAyni [d. 855 A.H/ 1451 C.E] writes:

أسماء بنت أبي بكر الصديق... ولدت قبل الهجرة بسبع وعشرين سنة ، وأسلمت بعد سبعة عشر إنساناً ... توفيت بمكة في جمادى الأولى سنة ثلاث وسبعين بعد قتل ابنها عبد اللَّه بن الزبير ، وقد بلغت المائة ولم يسقط لها سن ولم يتغير عقلها ، رضي الله تعالى عنها .

Asma’ b. Abi Bakr al-Siddiq…she was born twenty-seven years before the Hijrah and she was the seventeenth person to convert to Islam…she died in Makkah in the month of Jamadi al-Awwal in the year 73 [of the Hijrah] after the death of her son ʿAbd Allah b. al-Zubayr when she reached a hundred years of age. [Despite her old age], none of her teeth had fallen out and neither was her intellect impaired (may Allah – Exalted is He! - be pleased with her).

See: al-ʿAyni, Badr al-Din Abu Muhammad Mahmud b. Ahmad al-Ghaytabi (d. 855 A.H/1451 C.E), ʿUmdat al-Qari Sharh Sahih al-Bukhari (Dar Ihya’ al-Turath al-ʿArabi: Beirut (n.d)), II: 93.

Ibn Hajar al-ʿAsqalani [d. 852 A.H/1448 C.E] writes:

8525 أسماء بنت أبي بكر الصديق زوج الزبير بن العوام من كبار الصحابة عاشت مائة سنة وماتت سنة ثلاث أو أربع وسبعين.

#8525 Asma’ b. Abi Bakr al-Siddiq married al-Zubayr b. al-ʿAwwam who was one of the great Sahabah. She lived [up to] a hundred years of age and she died in the year 73 or 74 [of the Hijrah].

See: al-ʿAsqalani al-Shafiʿi, Ahmad b. ʿAli b. Hajar Abu al-Fadhl (d. 852 A.H/1448 C.E), Taqrib al-Tahdhib, ed. Muhammad ʿAwwamah (Dar al-Rashid: Suriyah [Syria], 1st Print, 1406/1986), I: 743.

[He also wrote]:

لها سن ولم ينكر لها عقل وقال أبو نعيم الأصبهاني ولدت قبل الهجرة بسبع وعشرين سنة

[and] she had [her full set of] teeth and she had not lost her intellect. Abu Naʿim al-Isbahani said [that] she was born before the Hijrah by twenty-seven years.

See: al-ʿAsqalani al-Shafiʿi, Ahmad b. ʿAli b. Hajar Abu al-Fadhl (d. 852 A.H/1448 C.E), al-Isabah fi Tamyiz al-Sahabah, ed. ʿAli Muhammad al-Bajawi (Dar al-Jil: Beirut, 1st Print, 1412/1992), VII: 487.

Ibn ʿAbd al-Birr al-Qurtubi [d. 463 A.H/1070 C.E] also writes:

Asma’ died in Makkah in [the month of] Jamadi al-Awwal in the year 73 [of the Hijrah] after the death of her son ʿAbd Allah b. al-Zubayr…Ibn Ishaq said that Asma’ b. Abi Bakr converted to Islam after seventeen people had [already] converted…and she died when she reached a hundred years of age.

See: al-Nimri al-Qurtubi, Abu ʿUmar Yusuf b. ʿAbd Allah b. ʿAbd al-Birr (d. 463 A.H/1070 C.E), al-Istiʿab fi Maʿrifat al-Ashab, ed. ʿAli Muhammad al-Bajawi (Dar al-Jil: Beirut, 1st Print, 1412/1992), IV: 1782-1783.

Al-Safadi [d.764 A.H/1362 C.E] writes:

وماتت بعده بأيام يسيرة سنة ثلاث وسبعين للهجرة وهي وأبوها وابنها وزوجها صحابيون قيل إنها عاشت مائة.

[Asma’] died a few days after ʿAbd Allah b. Zubayr in the year 73 of the Hijrah. And she [herself], her father, her son and husband were Sahabis. It has been said that she lived a hundred years.

See: al-Safadi, Salah al-Din Khalil b. Aybak (d. 764 A.H/1362 C.E), al-Wafi bi al-Wafiyat, ed. Ahmad al-Arna’ut and Turki Mustafa (Dar Ihya’ al-Turath: Beirut, 1420 /2000), IX: 36.

The Difference in Age Between Asma’ and A’yshah

Al-Bayhaqi [d. 458 A.H/1065 C.E] narrates that Asma’ was ten years older than A’yshah:

أبو عبد الله بن منده حكاية عن بن أبي الزناد أن أسماء بنت أبي بكر كانت أكبر من عائشة بعشر سنين.

Abu ʿAbd Allah b. Mundah narrates from Ibn Abi Zannad that Asma’ b. Abi Bakr was older than ʿA’yshah by ten years.

See: al-Bayhaqi, Ahmad b. al-Husayn b. ʿAki b. Musa Abu Bakr (d. 458 A.H/1065 C.E), Sunan al-Bayhaqi al-Kubra, ed. Muhammad ʿAbd al-Qadir ʿAta (Maktabah Dar al-Baz: Mecca, 1414/1994), VI: 204.

Al-Dhahabi and Ibn ʿAsakir also narrate this:

قال عبد الرحمن بن أبي الزناد كانت أسماء أكبر من عائشة بعشر.

ʿAbd al-Rahman b. Abi al-Zannad said [that] Asma’ was older than ʿA’yshah by ten [years].

See: al-Dhahabi, Shams al-Din Muhammad b. Ahmad b. ʿUthman (d. 748 A.H/1347 C.E). Siyar Aʿlam al-Nubala’, ed. Shuʿayb al-Arna’ut and Muhammad Naʿim al-ʿIrqsusi (Mu’wassasat al-Risalah: Beirut, 9th Print, 1413/1992-1993?), II: 289.

قال ابن أبي الزناد وكانت أكبر من عائشة بعشر سنين.

Ibn Abi al-Zannad said [that Asma’] was older than ʿA’yshah by ten years.

See: Ibn Asakir al-Dimashqi al-Shafiʿi, Abi al-Qasim ʿAli b. al-Hasan b. Hibat Allah b. ʿAbd Allah (d. 571 A.H/1175 C.E), Tarikh Madinat Dimashq wa Dhikr Fadhliha wa Tasmiyat man Hallaha min al-Amathil, ed. Muhib al-Din Abi Saʿid ʿUmar b. Ghuramah al-ʿAmuri (Dar al-Fikr: Beirut, 1995), IX: 69.

Ibn Kathir al-Dimashqi [d. 774 A.H/1373 C.E] in his book al-Bidayah wa al-Nihayah writes:

وممن قتل مع ابن الزبير فى سنة ثلاث وسبعين بمكة من الأعيان ...أسماء بنت أبى بكر والدة عبد الله بن الزبير... وهى أكبر من أختها عائشة بعشر سنين... وبلغت من العمر مائة سنة ولم يسقط لها سن ولم ينكر لها عقل

…of those who died along with ʿAbd Allah b. al-Zubayr in the year 73 [of the Hijrah] in Makkah [were]… Asma’ b. Abi Bakr, the mother of ʿAbd Allah b. al-Zubayr… and she was older than her sister ʿA’yshah by ten years…her life span reached a hundred years and none of her teeth had fallen out nor did she lose her intellect [due to old age].

See: Ibn Kathir al-Dimashqi, Ismaʿil b. ʿUmar al-Qurashi Abu al-Fida’, al-Bidayah wa al-Nihayah (Maktabat al-Maʿarif: Beirut, n.d), VIII: 345-346.

Mulla ʿAli al-Qari [d. 1014 A.H/1605 C.E] writes:

وهي أكبر من أختها عائشة بعشر سنين وماتت بعد قتل ابنها بعشرة أيام ... ولها مائة سنة ولم يقع لها سن ولم ينكر من عقلها شيء ، وذلك سنة ثلاث وسبعين بمكة.

[Asma’] was older than her sister ʿA’yshah by ten years and she died ten days after the killing of her son…she was a hundred years of age and her teeth had not fallen out and she did not lose a thing of her intellect. [Her death took place] in the year 73 [of the Hijrah] in Makkah.

See: Mulla ʿAli al-Qari, ʿAli b. Sultan Muhammad al-Harawi. Mirqat al-Mafatih Sharh Mishkat al-Masabih, ed. Jamal ʿIytani (Dar al-Kutub al-ʿIlmiyah: Beirut, 1st Print, 1422 /2001), I: 331.

Al-Amir al-Sanʿani [d. 852 A.H/1448 C.E] writes:

وهي أكبر من عائشة بعشر سنين وماتت بمكة بعد أن قتل ابنها بأقل من شهر ولها من العمر مائة سنة وذلك سنة ثلاث وسبعين .

[Asma’] was ten years older than ʿA’yshah by ten years and she died in Makkah a little less than a month after the killing of her son while she was a hundred years of age. This took place in the year 73 [of the Hijrah].

See: al-Sanʿani al-Amir, Muhammad b. Ismaʿil (d. d. 852 A.H/1448 C.E). Subul al-Salam Sharh Bulugh al-Maram min Adilat al-Ahkam, ed. Muhammad ʿAbd al-ʿAziz al-Khuli (Dar Ihya’ al-ʿArabi: Beirut, 4th Print, 1379/1959), I: 39.

Asma’ was fourteen years of age during the first year of the Prophetic mission (biʿthah) and ten years older than A’yshah. Therefore, A’yshah was four years old during the first year of the Prophetic mission [14 – 10 = 4] and as such, she was seventeen years of age during the thirteenth year of the Prophetic mission [4 + 13 = 17]. In the month of Shawwal of the second year of the Hijrah (the year of her official wedding to the Prophet) she was nineteen years of age [17 + 2 = 19].

On the other hand, Asma’ was a hundred years of age during the seventy-third year after Hijrah. A hundred minus seventy-three equals twenty-seven (100 – 73 = 27). Therefore, in the first year after the Hijrah she was twenty-seven years old.

Asma’ was ten years older than A’yshah. Twenty-seven minus ten equals seventeen (27 – 10 = 17).

Therefore, A’yshah was seventeen years of age during the first year of the Hijrah. [In addition to this], we previously established that A’yshah was officially wed the Prophet during the month of Shawwal of the second year after Hijrah, meaning that A’yshah was nineteen years of age [17 + 2 = 19] when she was wed to the Messenger of Allah.

When did A’yshah convert to Islam?

A’yshah’s conversion to Islam is also an indicator as to when she married the Messenger of Allah. According to the prominent scholars of Ahl al-Sunnah, A’yshah became a believer during the first year of the Prophetic mission and was among the first eighteen people to have responded to the Messenger of Allah’s [divine] calling.

Al-Nawawi writes in his Tahdhib al-Asma’:

وذكر أبو بكر بن أبي خيثمة في تاريخه عن ابن إسحاق أن عائشة أسلمت صغيرة بعد ثمانية عشر إنسانا ممن أسلم .

Ibn Abi Khuthaymah narrates from ibn Ishaq in his Tarikh that ʿA’yshah converted to Islam while she was a child (saghirah) after eighteen people who had [already] converted.

See: al-Nawawi, Abu Zakariyah Yahya b. Sharaf b. Murri (d. 676 A.H/1277 C.E), Tahdhib al-Asma’ wa al-Lughat, ed. Maktab al-Buhuth wa al-Dirasat (Dar al-Fikr: Beirut. 1st Print, 1996), II: 615.

[Muttahar] al-Maqdisi [d. 507 A.H/1113 C.E] writes that:

وممن سبق إسلامه أبو عبيدة بن الجراح والزبير بن العوام وعثمان بن مظعون ... ومن النساء أسماء بنت عميس الخثعمية امرأة جعفر ابن أبي طالب وفاطمة بن الخطاب امرأة سعيد بن زيد بن عمرو وأسما بنت أبي بكر وعائشة وهي صغيرة فكان إسلام هؤلاء في ثلاث سنين ورسول الله يدعو في خفية قبل أن يدخل دار أرقم بن أبي الأرقم.

Of those [among males] who had precedence [over others] in their conversion to Islam were Abu ʿUbaydah b. al-Jarrah, al-Zubayr b. al-ʿAwwam and ʿUthman b. Mazʿun…and among the women were Asma’ b. ʿUmays al-Khathʿamiyah (the wife of Jaʿfar b. Abi Talib), Fatimah b. al-Khattab (the wife of Saʿid b. Zayd b. ʿAmru), Asma b. Abi Bakr and ʿA’yshah who was a child [at the time]. The conversion to Islam of these [people occurred] within the [first] three years of the Messenger of Allah having invited [people] to Islam in secret [which was] before he entered the house of Arqam b. Abi al-Arqam.1

See: al-Maqdisi, Muttahar b. Tahir (d. d. 507 A.H/1113 C.E), al-Bada’ wa al-Tarikh (Maktabat al-Thaqafah al-Diniyah: Bur Saʿid [Port Said], n.d), IV: 146.

Similarly, Ibn Hisham [d. 213 A.H/828 C.E] also mentions the name of A’yshah as one of the people who converted to Islam during the first year of the Prophetic mission while she was a child:

إسلام أسماء وعائشة ابنتي أبي بكر وخباب بن الآرت وأسماء بنت أبي بكر وعائشة بنت أبي بكر وهي يؤمئذ صغيرة وخباب بن الأرت حليف بني زهرة.

Asma and ʿA’yshah, the two daughters of Abi Bakr, and Khabab b. al-Aratt converted to Islam [in the initial years of the Prophetic mission, and as for] Asma’ b. Abi Bakr and ʿA’yshah b. Abi Bakr, [the latter] was a child at that time and Khabab b. al-Aratt was an ally of Bani Zuhrah.

See: al-Humayri al-Maʿarifi, ʿAbd al-Malik b. Hisham b. Ayyub Abu Muhammad (d. 213 A.H/828 C.E), al-Sirah al-Nabawiyah, ed. Taha ʿAbd al-Ra’uf Saʿd (Dar al-Jil: Beirut, 1st Print, 1411/1990), II: 92.

If A’yshah was seven years of age when she converted to Islam (the first year of the Prophetic mission), she would have been twenty-two years old in the second year after the Hijrah (the year she was officially wed to the Messenger of Allah) [7 + 13 + 2 = 22].

If, [however], we accept al-Baladhuri’s claim that [A’yshah] was wed to the Messenger of Allah four years after his marriage to Sawdah, that is, in the fourth year after the Hijrah, then A’yshah would have been twenty-four years of age when she married the Prophet.

This number, [however], is subject to change when we take into consideration her age when she converted to Islam.

In conclusion, A’yshah’s marriage to the marriage to the Messenger of Allah at six or nine years of age is a lie which was fabricated during the time of Banu Ummayah and is not consistent with historical realities.

[soltantounaragazza]

La mia famiglia non mi ha trasmesso l'amore per la cucina o i valori per diventare una brava moglie ma mi ha insegnato come trattare gli altri.

Mi ha insegnato il valore del rispetto, ogni persona merita di essere rispettata, anche se difficilmente bisogna aspettarsi lo stesso trattamento.

Mi ha insegnato il valore dell'altruismo, per quanto possa essere difficile non bisogna focalizzarsi sempre su se stessi e dare il nostro (minimo) contributo per migliorare la condizione altrui. Che sia un abbraccio, l'offrire una penna o semplicemente dare un passaggio, tutto questo potrebbe risultare prezioso per l'altro.

Mi ha insegnato il valore della gioia, forse un po' troppo sottovalutata. Offrire un sorriso e una risata a qualcuno, anche se sembra banale potrebbe cambiare la giornata di quel qualcuno senza nemmeno rendersene conto.

Mi ha insegnato il valore dell'ascolto reale, tutti hanno qualcosa da raccontare. Se una persona si fida talmente tanto da raccontarsi merita tutto la nostra attenzione, perché magari non è mai stata ascoltata sul serio. Ascoltare una persona vuol dire 'io ti offro il mio tempo, per me vali il mio tempo'

E infine mi ha insegnato il valore del comprendere, non capire. Comprendere vuol dire andare oltre le apparenze e scavare nel profondo di quella persona. Andare oltre quella rabbia, quel 'no, va bene così' e entrare in relazione con la sua parte più intima. Non limitarsi a un primo giudizio, ma vedere quali mostri si nascondono dietro ogni persona.

Non sono la figlia perfetta,sono imbranata, poco femminili e per alcuni versi controcorrente, ma so come si sta al mondo e trattare le altre persone con il rispetto che si meritano e tutto questo lo devo solo alla mia famiglia.✨

[thepalecascade]

Speedpaint of my last pic!

[maurobroccalifecoach]

📍 TI SENTI IN COLPA QUANDO RALLENTI?

Viviamo in una società che ci ha insegnato che fermarsi è sbagliato. Che se non produci, non vali.

Ma io ti dico una cosa: rallentare è un atto di potere.

💡 Non sei inutile se ti fermi. 💡 Non sei pigro se ti ascolti. 💡 Non stai perdendo tempo se ti prendi cura di te.

Con la PNL e l’ipnosi Mind Unlock accompagno ogni giorno persone a liberarsi dalla colpa e riscoprire una verità semplice: 👉 Tu vali. Anche quando non fai nulla.

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[zombiebianconiglio]

E iniziò affannosamente a riprendere fiato.

Grandi boccate d’aria accompagnate da lunghe espirazioni durarono almeno mezz’ora.

Aveva trattenuto il respiro a lungo per concentrarsi su quell’incantesimo accovacciata sulla sua disordinata scrivania di legno antico piena di cianfrusaglie, rune e pergamene . Con le braccia in tensione tremanti per lo sforzo, le mani rigide e i tendini del viso raggrinziti in un’espressione di concentrazione cercava di far crescere quella fiammetta gorgogliante davanti a se.

La fissó a lungo prima di cimentarmi in quella cosa nuova e intrigante. Era una flebile fiammella ambrata dalle luci biancastre con un cuore rosso vivo. La fissó per ore, giorni, passando notti insonni per captarne ogni movimento, ogni suono, ogni odore, ogni colore danzante nelle sue piccole e poco curate mani piene di calli, graffi e pellicine.

Dedicó diverso tempo a studiare svariati libri antichi impolverati - alcuni strappati, altri incompleti - che teneva rigorosamente sparsi per la stanza ma inaspettatamente ordinati per lei.

Contemplò le stelle e le fasi lunari per scoprirsi e domandarsi se fosse ciò che bramava.

E quando l’incantatrice credette di poter far divampare quel fuocherello a tal punto da scaldarle il capezzale, iniziò uno degli incantesimi che sapeva sarebbe stato uno dei più complessi mai fatti fino a quel momento.

Sapeva che sarebbe stato arduo, ma non impossibile. O almeno cosi credeva.

Chiuse gli occhi, impose le mani intorno a quella calda luce e inizió a concentrarsi su ciò che bravama. Che colori avrà? Quale sarà la sua danza? Quanto sarà splendente? Quanto durerà il suo ardore?

Fantasticó nelle notti più gelide mentre invocava il suo incantesimo su quanto l’avrebbe tenuta compagnia, quante storie avrebbe letto nel suo bracere, quanto calore le avrebbe dato a tal punto da credere di avere la pancia piena.

Notte.

Giorno.

Pioggia.

Nuvole.

Luna piena.

Fumo grigio.

Flebili parole.

A ripetizione si susseguivano ingarbugliandosi tra di loro l’essenza dei giorni e della loro pienezza in attesa di un mutamento non necessariamente significativo.

Ma più arduo diventava il suo sforzo, più quella frase rimbombava nella sua mente crescendo come il battito del cuore mentre tratteneva il respiro.

“ Non sei abbastanza “

Provó a contrastarlo, a scacciarlo ogni volta che si presentava nelle sue orecchie, ma più ci provava e più diventava persistente, invasivo.

“ Non sei abbastanza “

“ Non vali abbastanza “

“ Non funzionerà “

Resistette a lungo finché non si sveglió di soprassalto da quella interminabile trans.

Si sedette lasciando la schiena sbattere contro lo schienale e le braccia molleggianti lungo il corpo.

Sentiva le mani cosi pesanti lungo le sue braccia a tal punto di credere che se si fossero staccate avrebbero fatto un tonfo immenso sul pavimento.

Guardó il soffitto inerme mentre la pelle del suo viso riprendeva quel colorito roseo che aveva sempre avuto e che la tensione aveva smesso di far circolare sangue.

“ Va bene così ” - si ripetette mentre prendeva grandi sorsi d’aria -“ non fa niente “.

[justmeandmyshadow]

Sei tu che sentenzi sul fatto che non ti conosco

e allora se abbiamo tutta questa confidenza perché non cacci le palle e me le dici senza anonimo ste cose?

vali zero per quanto mi riguarda

[viplala-things]

Okei teeme

Sisekõne: omg seal on nii väike palk, sa päriselt võtad selle

Sa ei taha ju seda kaua teha, miks sa petad ennast ja teisi

Aga nad nii tahavad mind ja ma saan proovida esinemist ja podcaste ja kirjutamist ja uusi asju

Aga omg kas sa saad siis kuskile mujale tööle - hirm - tegema midagi mis sind rohkem kõnetab ja tõmbab. Äkki nüüd on maailm läbi kui sa sinna lähed

Fine, ma ei lähe

Sisekõne: mida, jälle ütled ära

Kes sind veel tahab, oledki ilma tööta siis

Ja ei tee midagi, ei suhtle kellegagi, ei jõua kuskile

Siin nad vähemalt tahavad sind ja on valmis midagi tegema

Mina: aga teine töö tahtis ka ja oli valmis suuremat palka maksma. Sa eksid, nemad ka tahtsid mind teise tegelase ees

S: Ja aga sina ei tahtnud neid ja pealegi see oli nii tehniline.

M: aga sulle ju meeldib kui on tehniline?

S: jaa aga ei

M: ...

S: igatahes, praegune turu olukord on wtf ja kui sul on pakkumine siis võiks selle vastu võtta

M: aga praegu on võimalus olla tööta ja nautida ja teha asju ja hüvitise rahade peale teha ise tööd mingite projektidega

S: jah, ja ei tea kust sa neid projekte leiad? On sul veel julgust postitada LinkedIni asju ja kuulutada et otsid või on su väärtus su tegemistega nii läbi põimunud, et sa ei ole kuidagi enam väärtuslik kui sa tööd ei tee?

M: no igal juhul kavatsen ma teist tööd vaadata ja oma projekte ka edasi ajada. Ja ma olen edukas kui ma usun ja kui ma fkn sinu suudan ka endasse uskuma panna, sa vana kriitik.

S: ma üritan sind kaitsta.

M: jee. Sa võiks teisi meetodeid valida

S: ???

M: midagi mis innustaks ja pushiks edasi mitte ei tõmbaks tagasi ja võtaks kogu usku ära. See su minu piitsutamine ja kahtlemine teeb mind haigeks, migreenid, seljavalud, unetus, kõhus keerab, käed ja keha väriseb, esimest korda ohatis ja kohe tervel laual varsti kaks nädalat, südamepuperdamine ja mega tempo ainult sinu mõtetest. Sa saad aru mis sa mulle teed oma kaitsmise ja parimat soovitusega? Sa tapad mind!

S: ma... ei taha sind tappa. Ma tahan et sul oleks hea ja turvaline

M: ei sa ei taha

S: tahan küll! Kui sa neid riske võtad, siis mida mina tunnen? Ma pean kõigi nende tagajärgedega tegelema, kõiki võimalikke stsenaariume välja mõtlema mida teha ja mitte teha ning kalkuleerima mis on järgmine parim samm!

M: ...sa tõesti ei pea seda tegema. See ei aita

S: aitab

M: ei, tõesti ei aita. Surra kiiremini ja valusamalt, jah, aga mitte elada täiel rinnal, katsetada, võtta riske, proovida. Selles sa mind ei aita.

S: mis sa siis soovid et ma teen?

M: kui sa päriselt mind aidata tahad, toeta mind. Ole alati minu poolt, isegi kui ma olen naiivselt delulu. Kiida takka. Kiida mind otsuse puhul, ükskõik mis see ka poleks.

S: see aitaks sind?

M: ma arvan küll.

S: okei. Aga selle otsuse puhul... ma tõesti kardan et kui sa ei lähe sinna siis sa jääd inimesteta istuma ja kaotad oma enesekindlust veelgi. Samas kui sa lähed, siis sa kaotad eneseusku, et kas sa paremat teha ei saa

M: kas me ei võiks niimoodi suhtuda, et kui ma lähen, siis see on katsetus teha midagi muud vahelduseks. Ja kui ma tahan, siis ma lähen edasi midagi muud tegema. Ja küll ma saan ja küll elu hoiab ja annab võimalusi.

Ja kui ma ei lähe, siis mul on aega oodata õigemat asja. Udida enda asju vahepeal edasi. Teha bingeid värke. Ja kui ma lähen ja mulle ikka ei meeldi, siis mul on okei ka ära tulla. Aga ma tahaks lihtsalt et ma valin enda pealt, südamehääle ja aususe pealt, mitte hirmu kriitiku suurte silmade ja sassis põlvede pealt.

S: hea küll. Vali... oot. Ma ei suru sind takka :) ms tran et sa seda ei taha. Pealegi meil on aega õhtuni. Sinna on veel neli tundi.

M: mhm. Ma tean, et ma olen nüüd varem mõelnud ja ümber mõelnud seda otsust. See kogu aeg tundus kuidagi ebameeldiv, et ma pean seda tegema.

S: sa ei pea seda tegema, kui sa ei taha.

M: onju? Aga miks ma tunnen et ma pean? Kas ma läksin esimest korda sinna intekale juba nii, et omg, ma ei tea ma ei oska, ma ei taha siia saada. Ja siis teine kord minnes mõtlesin et ah, pole vaja minna aga savi, käime ära. Ja nii ma siis käisin ja lubasin mõelda kas väike palk sobib - ma lõpuks ei öelnudki et sobib.

Jumal tänatud et ka see läheb mööda. Muid polegi selle kohta öelda, et ma soovin oma rahu saada. Et on okei olla ja asju teha.

Ja ma ei öelnud et sobib ja aga ma ei julgenud või ei tahtnud siis kohe ära öelda. Kas siin tulid sina mängu?

S: ma... võibolla. Ma ei tahtnud et sa end peaksid tahtmatult tundma. Ma soovisin et sind tahetaks

M: kas see on äkki midagi millega me peaks töötama? See vajadus olla tahetud. Vot, siit tukeb see baasvajadus välja. Mina ei taha ja ei vali, aga mind tahetakse ja valitakse. Oi kui hea tunne! Aga kas sellest on võimalik jagu saada? Olla õnnelik ja enesekindel ka siis kui sind ei valita. Või kui sa ise valid mitte valida neid. Osata öelda ei, julguses ja kindluses, et elul on enamat. Et sa saad midagi rohkemat kui sa soovid. Ehk ei pea jääma kinni ühte asja.

S: ma usun et see võiks olla võimalik. Teised saavad? Võiks uurida, kuidas. Kuid ma usun, et teised on saanud jagu sellest. Kui teised on saanud, saad sina ka.

M: aitäh sulle selle toetuse eest! Ma tõesti hindan seda <3.

S: :)

M: aitäh.

Huh. Tekst on veel alles. Käisin arhitekti konsulti asju vaatamas.

Nii, mulle tundub et ma tahaks nii enda asja kui sellist süteemiarhitekti rolli. Samas oleks äge ka proovida midagi muud. Proovida.

Nii raske on öelda jah, sest na olen harjunud tegelema pikaajalisemate asjadega. See mõne-kuune esitleja amet ei tundu nagu hea plaan. Aga sa saaksid proovida?

Samas kui ei lähe, siis saab proovida oma neid ideid. Mida saab isegi siis proovida, kui sa lähed, onju? Ükski ei välista teist, lihtsalt ajaliselt võib sul tekkida piir ette kuskil kui sa päevad läbi chillid ülemistes ja pead eestist rääkima. I mean, sa võid sealt ka midagi uut õppida. Kindlasti õpidki. Aga, nagu ka eelmis arendusega, kas sa liigud sinna suunas kuhu sa tahad? Kuhu sa tahad jõuda? Vähema töö ja suurema palgani. Nii nagu sa kunagi valisid it töö, sest see oli su eesmärk mitte fun, siis ka nüüd on täiesti variant valida seda. Küll sa hakkama saad ja ära õpid. Aga igast kogemustest võib ka midagi kasulikku või meeldivat saada.

Kokkuvõttes mul on hea meel selle arutelu ple. Ma küll ei jõudnud otsuseni, aga me saime rääkida

S: ja ma luban et ma toetan sind.

M: aitäh. Nii on palju julgem elada.

[setokaubamajapakkumised]

Uusvada küla sümbolsärk: Kanna endaga unikaalset kultuuripärandit

Uusvada küla, väike ja eriliste traditsioonidega paik, asub Setomaa südames. See küla pole lihtsalt koht, vaid elav kultuurikogukond, kus hoitakse au sees vanu kombeid ja väärtusi. Kui otsid midagi, mis väljendaks sinu seotust selle unikaalse kohaga, siis Uusvada t-särk on just see, mida vajad. See särk on loodud neile, kes hindavad Uusvada Kultuuriküla eripära ja tahavad seda igapäevaelus esindada. Miks vali Uusvada t-särk? Uusvada t-särk on rohkem kui lihtsalt riietusese. See on sümbol, mis ühendab kandjat Uusvada küla elava pärandiga. Särgi disain ja materjal peegeldavad küla rahulikku, kuid tugevat iseloomu. Valmistatud Gildan 5000 sarja kvaliteetsest 100% puuvillasest kangast, on see särk loodud kestma ja pakkuma maksimaalset mugavust. Puuvillane materjal on nahasõbralik, hingav ja sobib ideaalselt nii suvisteks päevadeks kui ka kihilise riietuse osaks jahedamatel aegadel. Särgi disain ei ole juhuslik. Iga element, alates värvivalikust kuni graafiliste detailideni, on inspireeritud Uusvada küla ajaloost ja kultuurist. Need elemendid sümboliseerivad kogukonna tugevust, ühtekuuluvust ja austust esivanemate traditsioonide vastu. Kandes seda särki, väljendad oma seotust nende väärtustega ja annad oma panuse Uusvada Kultuuriküla säilitamisse. Uusvada Kultuuriküla eripära Uusvada ei ole lihtsalt tavaline küla – see on koht, kus kultuur elab ja hingab. Uusvada Kultuuriküla on tuntud oma pühendumuse poolest säilitada ja tutvustada kohalikke traditsioone. Igal aastal toimuvad siin mitmed kultuuriüritused, käsitöölaagrid ja töötoad, mis toovad kokku inimesi nii lähedalt kui kaugelt. Küla atmosfäär on soe ja kutsuv, justkui astuksid ajas tagasi, kus väärtustati lihtsust ja kogukondlikku elu. See särk on loodud selleks, et saaksid viia tükikese Uusvadat endaga kaasa, kuhu iganes sa ka ei läheks. Olgu see siis igapäevane kandmine või eriline sündmus – Uusvada t-särk toob esile sinu sideme selle erilise paigaga ja võimaldab sul näidata oma toetust selle kultuuri säilitamisele. Kust saada Uusvada t-särki? Uusvada t-särk on saadaval Seto Kaubamaja veebipoes, kus on koondatud parim kohalik toodang. Seto Kaubamaja on tuntud oma pühendumuse poolest pakkuda kvaliteetseid ja autentseid tooteid, mis on seotud Setomaa ja selle unikaalse kultuuriga. Iga ost toetab kohalikke käsitöölisi ja aitab hoida elus meie piirkonna kultuuripärandit. Seto Kaubamaja veebipoest saad tellida Uusvada t-särgi mugavalt otse koju. Särki on saadaval erinevates suurustes, et igaüks leiaks endale sobiva. See on suurepärane kingitus nii endale kui ka sõpradele, kes hindavad unikaalseid ja tähenduslikke esemeid. Ära jäta kasutamata võimalust omandada midagi erilist ja tähenduslikku. Külasta Seto Kaubamaja ning lisa oma garderoobi Uusvada küla sümbolsärk. Kandes seda särki, kannad endas tükikest Uusvada kultuurist ja toetad selle säilitamist tulevastele põlvedele. Read the full article

[ifpoetiswhoiam]

Kui vaid su nutt poleks nii

Suur, ma kummarduks üle

Laua, sätiks juuksesalgu su

Kõrva taha, laulaks mõne

Laulu, tantsiks mõne tantsu

Üritaks sul tuju tõsta, aga —

Mispärast on su hala nii

Kole vali, see kumiseb

Mul kõrvus, tekitab

Meelehärmi, muudab

Mindki üheks tüütuks

Enesehaletsuse plekiks.

[alephsblog]

Le argomentazioni di Nasr mi colpiscono perché questa lettura di un Iran moderato e tutto proteso verso una soluzione pacifica della crisi mediorientale l’avevo ritrovata in tempi recenti anche in alcune autorevoli pubblicazioni italiane. Sono tesi che considero prive di qualsiasi fondamento se si considera che l’Iran, oltre ad essere una Teocrazia oscurantista che opprime i propri cittadini con brutale violenza, è anche il principale finanziatore e fornitore di armi di una serie di gruppi estremisti dediti al terrorismo nello scacchiere mediorientale, tra i quali spiccano gli Hezbollah in Libano e gli Houthi nello Yemen.

Ma soprattutto, come ha scritto su Wired Kevin Carboni, “senza il sostegno dell’Iran, Hamas non avrebbe mai potuto attaccare Israele lo scorso 7 ottobre. I mortai, i lanciarazzi, le mine anticarro, i parapendii e i fucili usati dai miliziani sono quasi tutti di fabbricazione iraniana o prodotti all’interno della Striscia di Gaza secondo indicazione che arrivano dalla Repubblica islamica. Una piccola parte di armi arriva dalla Corea del Nord o dalla Siria, tutti paesi alleati con la Russia, che sembra aver fornito alle forze fondamentaliste della Palestina alcuni armamenti occidentali catturati in Ucraina”.

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