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the world might not like my posts... but my mutuals will - and that's all I need <3
#mutuals are the best#they slay#thanks so much guys#honestly though#I think I would perish without them#<3#books#bookish#booklr#thoughts#musings#random post#idk mutual appreciation post#valentines day is for mutuals who dont have a valentine#valentines day#mutuals ily all#moots
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i will shut up abt this i promise but like. the concept of being in a stable safe mutually loving whatever relationship is INSANE . like how can you ever feel bad about yourself or wounded or whatever again. it’s like a superpower or somethi ng. <- doesn’t know what she’s taking abt bc she’s never experienced it or the absence of it after having it merely the negative space of it and is filling in the gaps w logic or something. but it’s INSANE to me. like of course i feel like shit about myself i am catcrumb unloved.jpg!
#purrs#imbeing insane about it i know it’s not that simple / reductive and i will still feel like shit abt myself once im in a relationshp (if i#get to be ♥️) and there are lots of other legitimate reasons to feel shit agtbyiurself. but it’s like no ficking wonder i feel inadequate i#am a 24 year old who lives at home and has never held a hand or whatever next to two 50sometjinf year old married men with pets and phds. of#course i am going to feel inadequate and stupid and lonely. like i canttttt 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂💀💀💀💀💀💀💀 and th w worst part is you can’t just go out into#the world saying that and looking for that it has to find you so i will not join any dating apps or whatever but i don’t fucking go anywhere#so im not going to meet anyone and i knowi am so young and stupid and just having a horrible day that is reminding me of horrors. but the#way i am mentally shoving my whole fist in my mouth. OF COURSE I FEEL LIKE SHIT I DONT HAVE A LIFE PARTNER!!!!!!!!!!!! I DONT HAVE THAT#SAFETY AND STABILITY AND TRUST AND UNCONDITIONAL LOVE!!!!!!!! AND I NEVER HAVE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!#delete later#like this is what makes me crazy abt parents and kids too and whyi don’t think ihave kids. bc i think (and i know this is wrong / unhealthy)#it is a primal human need to be mutually someone else’s number 1 person and when you have kids it’s like you’re gonna love your partner more#than the kids and then the kids (read: me) watch that and get fucked up over it. but also that could just be me reacting to the UNSPEAKABLE#psychological damage of being a twin. which again is ridiculous bc it’s n out like abuse i just had to share something with someone else si#since before i was born and ofc there was more like actually kind of abusive stuff on top of it LOL but that aside. idk what im saying i#just feel so crazy. the amount of composure it takes me every day to not start SCREAMING with frustration and envy when i see ppl being#RIGHTFULLY DESERVEDLY visibly confident and loved. like ok valentines grinch go sit in the drainage pond forever please. but it’s so crazy#like how are you supposed to go through the world unaware of how much love you’re missing out on because you’re young and then you realize I#it and then somehow you miss the train and you are scared you are going to d*e alone ♥️ im normal
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#not to dump in the tags but friendship/valentines day has got me thinking about like. how much my mutuals and internet friends have#positively affected my life. its sounds so dumb but for real knowing im not alone and having people who are unconditionally nice to me is#something that means so much to me#and like. minor vent but the few months when i was made to cut off my friendship with one of my old mutuals (hi) were some of the worst#months ive had in a long time#and since we've been able to talk again via tumblr and discord for the past couple years ive felt so much better#and its not like i dont have irl friends! i do but having friends with whom i can talk to and be silly with means. so much to me#anyway. wow hello everyone happy destiel anniversary and peter tork birthday also#emi's meandering jotts
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I just noticed that on your about you have EngieScout marked as a "current interest" but not TF2 itself lol
Engie//Scout is my child, my love and joy, the water for my crops, the sugar in my lemonade...
TF2 is just kind of there
#I KNOW that every time I talk about TF2/TF2's fandom I'm like SO negative#I'm like SO sorry I really am#but I have NEVER been out right harassed until I joined this fandom#I have NEVER been suicide baited until I joined this fandom#I WAS LITERALLY CALLED A TRANS FETISHIST while in this fandom#''its not all of us'' I know I've met SO many amazing people here and have so many amazing mutuals and friends now#but for every amazing person there are a bunch with such shitty personalities I don't even want to be associated lmao#sorry for rant it just makes me mad#<- got his fun ruined and now cant enjoy things#mine.mebs#ask.mebs#apologies if this ends up in the engie//scout tags#also this isnt me being like ''wow im the only one whos ever been harassed'' because thats obviously not true#i just never been stoned to death for existing#fr fr the rare pair event was like the tipping point that made me throw in the towel#literally was going through the worst week of my life and some bozo got mad because *checks notes* I copied d/nad2022 valentines day rules#and didnt want to talk about spy//scout publically on my event blog :) wowie#''dont expose minors to bad things'' <- insists on exposing minors to bad things#yall dont understand how mad about it I still am
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So I can't be the only one who's noticed the decline in fanmade exo content here on Tumblr. We've gone from a fandom who's new posts could be measured in hours to a fandom who's posts have days....to weeks....to months....to even years for some specific tags.
We have had 6 solo album comebacks this year, 3 fancon tours, 2 solo concert tours, a myriad of festival concert appearances, youtube videos, magazine shoots, instalives, etc. Yet if you go to the exo tag it's mainly populated by archive blogs. And the nude bots, which....that's a whole other problem on its own. I digress. My point being, the tags, at least from what I've seen (I admit I haven't looked into the shipping tags) are being filled by the same handful of blogs yet given the high amount of source material, no one seems to be doing anything with it beyond archiving it.
Again this could just be because I didn't delve too deep or too far back, but it does have me wondering if part of the reason participation this year was down was simply because there's hardly anyone left.
There's been instances in the past where others have attempted to inject new life into the fandom so to speak, with....varying...level of success. The exo revival project being the first and most successful that comes to mind. I'm wondering what everyone else's thoughts are on the matter and if holding new fandom events might be a way to involve more people year round because I really do want to continue holding this event next year but if things keep going the way they have been there won't be anyone signing up.
Let me know what you think, ideas you might have, reblog this and tag your mutuals to get them involved in the discussion. I have a few ideas that I've pilfered from other fandoms, watch alongs. Fic bingo. Theres valentines exchanges. Fandom sleepovers. Heck I'd set up a Tumblr based scavenger hunt if I thought people would play. Like....we dont have to be monoliths in a placid sea of we don't want to. Fandom can be fun. It should be fun.
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hi i'm the guy who wrote a whole ass essay about my fav ships, with Nene as an unwilling match-maker. headcanons for the Shinonomes bc i love them;
- Akito can draw, courtesy of having an artist as a sister. Like, if he decided to pursue art instead of music, he could. His art is almost on par with Ena's. I think that when VBS was too lazy to do a choreography for a song they want to upload on social medias, they'd make Akito make an MV for it lol (ofc the others would help him make it, n25 style)
- I think it's pretty much canon that the Shinonomes have sweet tooth, especially for pancakes and cheesecakes, but i want to expand on that; New dessert shop down the street? they'd already bought the entire menu by the end of the week. New dessert recipe on trend? when Shinonodad (i forgor his name) came home, the kitchen was messy af and the culprits were on the sofa, eating said dessert while watching netflix or smth.
- Adding to that, everytime it's like, Valentine's, or White Day, or any celebration day where cafes and shops would have like, couple discounts, Ena and Akito would pretend to be couple just to get that discount or free dessert. it's the only time they were nice to each other. Mizuki caught them once. She took a photo of them and sent it to the Kamiyama gang gc. An died laughing. Nene said that's actually genius.
- Everytime N25 had a meeting, at one point they'll get the honor of witnessing the fight of the Shinonomes first hand. like, it's so common for the Shinonomes to fight in the dead of night that at this point, Mizuki already prepared popcorns.
- None of them are a morning person. At 6 AM every morning, you will witness the waking up for school Akito and just finished school Ena. They either stare at each other before having a mutual understanding, or the other would somehow trigger the other and they would have a boderline almost physical fight.
- also yes they have fist-fighted each other for at least 5 times in their life. And i just know one of the fight was bc one of them ate the other's cheesecake.
- Akito is trans-masc and Ena is trans-fem. They traded genders.
- They also traded clothes.
- When they came out, Shinei (shinonodad, i remembered his name finally) actually doesn't really care. for how much he's an asshole, he still loves his kids. Shinei just goes "oh, ok" and hugged them. Shinei's not the best parent but he's trying.
- Shinei actually bought Akito a binder. Akito cried.
- WLW and MLM hostility. that's them.
- Akito knows how to style hair. He taught Ena how to do it.
- ENA GOES TO VBS' CONCERTS AND AKITO ALWAYS WAITS FOR N25'S SONGS PREMIERES. they'd rather die than admit that tho.
ok yeah this is getting long enough. i love the Shinonomes sm.
-- also can I call myself unofficial mod Tsukasa from now on :D?
i love. everything. about this. also call yourself whatev you want (im a lil confused about it but as long as no ones going after my name(iwillfindyou(iamtherealakitoshinonome))). ive read so many sad headcannons about akito being able to draw really well, and ena getting so upset about it that he just stopped all together. dont get me wrong, i am an angst enjoyer but man. one of the serious fights theyve had was over akito supposedly "stealing" the only thing ena enjoyed. :( - 🥞
OUGHFHFHHFHFHFGHGHG.... this is all so real I'm sobbing - mod ena
#mod akito#prjsk#project sekai colorful stage#proseca#prosekai#prsk#project sekai#proseka#project sekai colorful stage featuring hatsune miku#project sekai headcanons#proseka headcanons#shinonome ena#akito shinonome#shinonome akito#ena shinonome#tagged by mod rui#mod ena
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Mirai Nikki Dashboard Simulator
#i imagine this is how deus views the world #am i insane for thinking that? #probably...
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I just want my pussy ate out again =/
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man school sucks! can anyone like manifest a bomb threat so we dont have to take algebra?
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my god this cant be happening!
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Happy Valentine's Day!
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when your beloved mutual turns your zero note flop post into a one note flop post <33333
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You ever get so tired you start vividly hallucinating?
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Me when I overdose on sleeping pills and start hearing the Supreme God of Time and Space
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THE WHO?!
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Oh this is not a safe space suddenly
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#hope you enjoyed even if it was shorter than other fake posts!#i focused on the minors and childish characters of mirai nikki because they'd be most likely to use tumblr#i'll add the adult diary holders next time#fake post#unreality#mirai nikki#future diary#hinata hino#ouji kosaka#reisuke houjou#yukiteru amano#yuno gasai#murmur#tsubaki kasugano#yomotsu hirasaka#minene uryuu#dashboard simulator#off-duty
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i dont think andy and jodi would actually work as a couple or even mutual crushes (andy and ollie are both aroace coded to me) but something about the idea of jodi who is a socially anxious germaphobe afraid of everything crushing on this STUPID stupid adorable baby boy who literally eats his own boogers and doesn't wash his hands and has never paid attention to a single one of his classmates other than his twin brother is very funny to me
jodi buys him anonymous valentine's day rose and andy doesnt even ASK who sent it he's just like omg ollie you shouldnt have ^_^ <33 and ollie (who does not remember sending the valentine but will take credit nonetheless) is like of course andy you're always gonna be my valentine!!! <3 and jodi is sitting behind them in the back of class like. ahh well <- too shy and anxious to ever talk to andy in any situation but pines from afar
she's the ONLY person in their class who can tell the difference between andy and ollie but she's never talked to either of them so it never comes up (or she asks ollie for advice on how to woo andy romantically and he's like ????)
THIS is pure eye candy to a nine year old girl with several anxiety disorders and glasses bigger than her entire face
#literally no basis for this I think they're in the same frame for like 5 seconds in the entire series#but something about the idea of somebody having a stupid unrequited crush on andy who is 100% clueless is very funny to me#no thoughts up there about romance or otherwise#txt#bob's burgers#headcanons
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Happy Valentines day everyone! Here's a ship meme of a bunch of Madoka Magica ships, along with transparent versions of individual ships. Explanations for all of the ships under the cut.
If you'd like to see more like this, feel free to commission me. Info linked in my profile bio
Ship you fell in love with at first sight: MamiHomu There was this palpable tension in their interaction at the end of episode 1 that made me squee
Ship that you didn't like at first but like now: Hitosuke Looking back, they're just kids who are bad at communicating to their friends. Their friendship with Sayaka could have survived a love triangle in other circumstances.
Ship that you used to like but now you dont: KyouSaya I technically still like KyouSaya. It's just my least favorite ship in the quintet.
Favorite popular ship: HomuMado Do I even need to say anything?
Favorite rarepair: KyouMado The respect these two ended up nurturing over the course of episode 9 made me really want to see them interact more.
Favorite controversial ship: HomuSaya I've said before that I love the mutual antagonism between these two. They hate each other deeply, yet they also care for each other just enough that they can't hate entirely
Ship that you want to become canon the most: KyouHomu I liked their dynamic as reluctant allies in the series and confidants in Rebellion. They understand each other in a way the others don't. Also I didn't color Homura's eyes. Oops.
Comfort ship: MadoSaya These two are just so cute, I can't~!
Ship that deserves more attention: KyouMami The Different Story manga made me feel for these two in a way the series wasn't able to. There's affection and admiration, as well as lingering regret in their partnership that fell apart.
#puella magi madoka magica#pmmm#madoka kaname#kyouko sakura#mami tomoe#homura akemi#sayaka miki#fanart#mouse drawing#colored#transparent#artists on tumblr#digital drawing#redlerred7 draws
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thanks for the tag rowan!! @mountainashfae
Last Song: Brave Shine by Aimer (i may be an enstarrie now but i will never forget my fate roots)
Favorite Color: Reds and Pinks bc im at my strongest during valentines day <33
Last Movie/Show: umm ive obvs watched ratatouille for the millionth time but have also been catching bits of doctor who as my roommates watch it. oooh mr eleventh doctor ahaa <333
Next on my Watchlist: i should check out dungeon meshi...
Last Book I Finished: slight crisis bc i cant remember the last time i actuallt finished a book... i rly should get back to the count of monty crispo
Last Game: i have been playing toontown nonstop for the past week or so. im obssessed please help
Sweet/Savory/Spicy: all three sound really good... though id have to say savory!
Relationship Status: im dating the most beautifulest girl in the whole wide world she is my everything my silly rabbit my gorgeous kitten my- (gets dragged off stage)
Laat Thing I Searched Online: i was looking at pictures of rockstar cooky. he look so cool god bless
Current Obession: see the toontown thing. mutuals please come play toontown rewritten with me we can race cars and play toys together
Greatest Flaw: you know my ass is impulsive. this is really bad with gacha games (looking at my np5 sherlock. most expensive bitch)
Fic I'm Currently Reading: i dont read much fic but when i do its usually smth @writer-and-artist27 made everyone go lookie her fics right now
this was fun <33 im tagging @beastofmoss @umilily @menodorasmoon @bitter--edge and anyone else in the world who wants to love ajd light <333
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Do you think Eichi is more severe with the idol/idol people or with the people who write the enstars equivalent of BTS imagines
Idol/idol. X reader imagines can have redeeming qualities (He Is The Reader. But i think he'd get annoyed in a "wataru wouldnt fucking say that" way and he'd lose interest in the genre) but idol/idol rpf? He'd be taking down wttm shipper ao3 accounts left and right. And calm himself down by thinking up new ways to torture tomoya. This might as well already be part of why he hates tomoya and we just dont know yet. And it's not like eichi can go discuss what to do about the wttm fic writers to wataru, thatd be too embarassing, so how is he letting out his frustrations? Poor keito man, i know he's had to hear so much whining on the subject. In my head he was also mutuals with one of the wttm writers on priv and he's so incredibly done with this situation. Keito valentines day scout where he stops eichi from threatening to sue rpf writers who ship the wrong ships is going to be real and true, trust
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Hello! List 5 things that make you happy, then put this in the askbox for the last 10* people who reblogged something from you! Get to know your mutuals and followers :)
{but also no pressure, i usually dont do these things x3]
5 things that make me happy hm? You got it!
1. Tina. She's got so much personality crammed into such a small body. How does it all fit!?!? She's so funny. She's petty. She's cuddly. She likes to scream at us when we're cooking until we pick her up and show her what we are making and then she is happy because all she wanted was to be part of Team Dinner. It's very cute. A year ago at ten years old she learned to paw at things to show she wants something which is also adorable but she's started to use this power for evil things like expressing that she knows the other cat is in your lap but she would really like to be in your lap so won't you please evict him before she bitch slaps him in his sleep and does it for you?
2. Tea makes me really happy. My collection of teapots too. They're just really nice. My tea and tea accessory collection brings me a lot of joy.
3. My mom is a really sweet lady who not only got me and my gf Valentine's day gifts but also got a little something for my housemate (my gf's brother) because she didn't want him to feel left out and also I let slip that they didn't have the best childhood and my mom is and always has been ready to adopt my friends, lovers, and acquaintances who have terrible parents. I love my mom and I'm glad she's my mom.
4. My friends! Most of my friendships are online but I am so glad for all my friends. My mutuals I chat with in DMs or on Discord are the best!
5. My Buddhist practice brings me a lot of joy. I joined a temple when my last in person friend moved away because I wanted to make friends and the going is slow because I'm not always able to join in person but last week I mentioned in Geshe-La's (the monk who teaches there. Geshe is a title for monks who have a doctorate in Buddhism) hearing that I was going to take an uber home because I missed the last bus that goes past that neighborhood because we ran late and he called someone over and said "Tenzin, give her (I'm not out there) a ride home" because he knows I'm really poor. So I got a ride home from this older guy in the sangha and he told me I could ask for rides on days I can't catch the bus home. It made me feel like I was part of the community, which made me really happy.
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seeing mutuals who have a partner online on valentines day like dont you have someones arms to be in right now?
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Hello! List 5 things that make you happy, then put this in the askbox for the last 10 people who reblogged something from you! Get to know your mutuals and followers :D
by the nine an inbox meme. i think these are soo so scary because i think everyone is better than me and therefore i am not allowed into ask boxes. its probably nothing <3 but if you wanna do this you can
my boyfriends~ my real ones and fictional ones both <3 i figure since its valentine's day i should mention that first
my ocs <3 i always end of having like One OC in every fandom im in that gets way more attention than the others and for elder scrolls its voka but i do love all of them equally i promise (except kyle)
stuffed animals. i mean this quite literally when i say the amount of stuffed animals i own is borderline criminal. pokemon and raccoons are my favorite kinds to collect
pokemon <333 ive been a pokemon fan since i was four, what can i say? dusknoir is my favorite and ghost types is best type.
sewing! i love sewing. i dont know how to feel about my machine still (i can use a machine, i just dont like it) so i prefer to handsew and i think the repetitive handmotions are nice. plus, i feel like i get better control doing it by hand
and now two tes related ones bc i realized halfway thru i should make them tes related...
maro rufus <333 i am literally that one post about elf superiority complex so i think elves are The Hottest but like maro is so.. he's so <33 he's got such a cute face <333
alchemy in oblivion. sometimes i like to take little notes while i make potions so i can remember cool ones
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ok whole ask game have fun
SPOILERS! readmore cos its long
Favorite main 6 omori character?
Hero :)
Favorite side character?
Brett, the ankylosaur cashier at dino's dig. fishboy also
favorite songs from the OST?
All the deeper well OSTs, Bready steady go, GOLDENVENGEANCE, dear little brother, it means everything, world's end valentine are Most of them i think....big fan of carrot113's remixes
favorite bosses?
i like spaceboy/boyfriend/exboyfriend/husband/exhusband. and mutantheart
favorite photos from Basil's album?
picnic one is good
Favorite area in headspace?
orange oasis & deeper well
favorite area in black space (1 or 2)?
the watermelon & mewo rooms are messed up. <3 just realized i didnt go into black space 2 actually..
favorite area in faraway town?
didn't poke around in here very much tbh. basils house is pretty cool
do you prefer headspace, black space, or the real world? why
black space fucks severely
favorite omori ships (if any)?
not super into omori shipping. kel/sunny fanart is usually pretty swag tho
do you kin any of the characters? who?
no i gender envy hero tho
favorite route & ending of the game?
true route/ending
any headcanons?
mm i think sunny actually didn't want the violin his friends got him & eventually broke it in frustration, which is what caused his fight with mari at the top of the stairs
(citations: the "present" item in the game inflicts Angry ("it's not what you wanted...") & in one of the lost library scenes sunny is upset he has to miss out on saturday morning cartoon time to practice, + the broken violin at the bottom of the stairs before their fight)
favorite moment in the game?
memory lane was pretty cool. + black space watermelon. i like the messed up stuff
What stood out to you the most?
hero's "you have to trust that we'll forgive you" line
favorite in-game items, skills, or moves?
veggie kid charm is cute. I like combining kel's Tickle with omori's Red Hands & aubrey's headbutt/beatdown/last resort
favorite boss fight?
humphrey is creepy. it got to me the first time so it's very good
most annoying part of the game?
rerunning it for achievements...actually finding berly's ball was hard screw that shit
what do you dislike about omori?
took me a while to figure out how to figure out where to go/what to do. isnt always easy to figure out how to start a new day either
something you wish was different in the game?
i dont tend to think of these kinds of things
if you could change something about the game, what would it be?
nothing in particular. id like an "ignore all minor enemies" mode to just blast through areas if ive got somewhere to be but it takes some of the point away
what was your initial reaction to the true/good ending?
oh boy
to be real my initial reactions are always dimmed it takes me several hours to process anything
what was your initial reaction to the bad/neutral endings?
underwhelmed, ngl
scene in the game that scared you the most?
see below i think. i enjoyed it greatly
what do you think is the scariest thing/event in the game?
the hands cat in marina's area of humphrey (experiment 667)
do you own any omori merchandise
nope
How did playing omori change you (if it did)?
hmm..i think my perspective has been expanded. really liked the nonsensical aspects of the game
Have you made any new friends after playing the game?
a little! got closer with an ig mutual who likes it
has playing omori introduced you to new games or hobbies?
very vaguely. theres a sort of "if you like undertale youll like omori" attitude that finally got me to try it
why is omori special to you?
has a lot of the things i like. good ost, visually interesting & appealing, surreal/nonsensical elements, funny, fucked up shit, scary shit, plants, dinosaurs
do you want to high-five Kel?
don't see why i wouldn't
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hey, sorry if this is too much or smth, but i really don't wanna tell anything to my friends i fearike it'd be "too real" AND OBVIOUSLY I WANT IT TO BE REAL BUT, i don't know, i feel like i'll jinx or fuck it up somehow if i tell it;;
hello, again, okay so, a few weeks back we had this thesis project 6 per group and ive had converstaions w all of them except for 1.
by this point i was lamenting over a past love, we werent necessarily together since we were like, idk 14 or smth when it happened and its been 7 years, we kinda drifted apart after graduation since i thought 'it wouldnt last anyway' and i kept rejecting their advances for a year or two, but i still liked them;;; anyway back in 2020 we got in touch again and i told them that i still liked them and i was just dumb and all that and they seemed to return my advances and ofc i asked if they were comfortable and not just going w the flow yknow and they said yes so.
i confessed and they said not yet cause of school stuff but they do like me still and so i said id wait, THEN it was all okay since we joke and all that but they always seem to reject when i ask them directly about us or like even just to meet up or smth, and ofc i get it so i try not to bother them too much until valentine's rolls in and they post smth on ig with them and their friends and theres this girl with a solo shot of her being goofy and smiling and i just.
idk i took it as a sign to stop since he always used to do that w me before so yeh.
and then like with school i just got lost in all it and directed every ounce of my passion so we finished some stuff quite early, theres only 2 big ones of them we needed to do so a member suggested to split the work between us six. one of thems easier than the other so i got grouped with the guy i havent talked to, kinda scared abt it but all was fine. i added him (lets call him graham) on facebook so we could talk in messenger about planning what to do and all that, then after i found that he's friends with another group member who happened to be someone im close with, kinda AND they messaged me so i asked whats up cause i thought it was abt the project and they reply with smth along the lines of "nothing, graham's just rlly overjoyed since u addrd him cause he likes u" AND IM WHAT CAUSE IM P SURE WEVE NEVER MET then he follows it up w "ure his type, smart and hardworking" AND I DONT HAVE THE HEART TO TELL THAT IM A FALSE ADVERTISEMENT CAUSE IM RLLY NOT ALL THAT AND IM SCARED OF DISAPPOINTING ANYONE
anyway they let it be and i didnt think much of it cause maybe theyre just messing around yknow so nothing much happened, we finished the project and everything's all right until we were grouped for another thing through our society/club whatevr and i was kinda nervous since its my first time meeting them and everything was fun actually turns out it was graham's bday last tuesday so i greeted him and we joked a bit cause wednesday's the club thingy, i didnt even know what he looked like since his pfp's from when he was a kid
wednesday rolls in and im in the library with a friend, a mutual friend of ours and he said hello to me and i was so happy somehow??? I DONT REALLY GET IT MYSELF I USUALLY TAKE SO LONG TO ACCLIMATIZR TO SOMEONE BUT LIKE THE CLUB THINGY WENT WELL AND WE WERE JOKING BY THE END OF THE DAY AND I JUST, i think i like him as well?? he even asked to take a picture with me he seemed so nervous i wanted to hug him I ACTUALLY THOUGHT ITD BE OUR WHOLE GROUP IN THE CLUB but it turns out it wasnt so !!!!!!
thursday comes and we messaged a bit (he chatted first, abt the thesis) we were in a seminar and i was a bit late that day so i was at the back and our other classmates r upfront w him so never really met, until a friend of mine and i were going home and we MET THEM ON THE TRAIN ISTG MY HEART WAS JUMPING UNTIL I GOT HOME SMILING LIKE AN IDIOT WHILE WALKING
okay sorry but like, tldr, im a bit afraid that i only "like" him cause he liked me first, yknow after i waited for the previous person and evrything for so long and receiving little to nothing ++ i think his expectation of me's kinda high im neither smart nor hardworking im just anxious all the time so i have to do my work quick or else i'll die and some part of me's still doubting his feelings for me as just a prank cause nsjdhbf idk im not really pretty too so whats up why is this happrning but he's so fucking cute (generally) and i am falling as well and im scared cause we'd be graduating in a year so what if this also doesnt end quite well and i end up losing a friend?
i kinda also wanna just come up to him and invite him for a date but yeh :( and yesterday my phone died and i was stoked to meet him but he wasnt at uni so i was kinda sad then i find out the previous person i like messaged me and idk they were kinda flirty and i feel bad if i leave them again cause ive done it once and i was only left with regrets so what if im just repeating history aaaa its so hard to like manage everything too if graham and i somehow manage to be together im not great at balancing things what if i let him slip away or smth
again sorry for this i just wanted to know what other people think i really wanna shoot my shot at the same time i feel like im a people pleaser so yknow what if im just doing this cause of attention or smth idk huhu thanks in adavmce if u answer this but no hatd feelings if u dont thank u boo
Hello, you seem very stressed out! Please take several deep breaths, put on some calming music and remember that none of this is life or death.
First of all, you're right to let this past love go, it's simply not in the cards and I'm proud of you for recognizing that. Throw the whole man away, if he makes you feel bad(even if he's not doing it on purpose!) you don't need that drama.
I'm not going to diagnose you with anything over the internet, especially not based on one interaction, but I will say that in this ask specifically, you are exhibiting pretty high levels of anxiety and worry that it might be good to speak to a professional about. Your university should have free mental health services, if you have insurance you can call and ask what providers they cover, and failing that, there are many therapists and psychiatrists who offer sliding scale coverage for low income patients.
Alright, now that's done, what needs to happen here is something that I know you will not like, but is pretty much mandatory-you need to have a conversation with Graham. It's okay if it turns out you only like that he's interested in you, and when you get to know him you're less into him. You're not asking him to marry you after all. It's also okay if you're not smart or funny or hardworking (I think you're being too hard on yourself, but even so, it's okay).
If you talk with him and express your interest, you can set a boundary on how you like to be complimented(i.e., low pressure compliments that don't comment on your abilities) and specify if you want something casual just to see how you vibe. Even if you graduate, you might stay together, or you might not. You definitely won't know unless you try.
Also, who cares if you want attention???? you're human, that's totally natural. You're not gonna go to Needy Jail for it.
All that to say:
go to therapy
figure out what you want (in general and from Graham specifically. You can do this in therapy)
stop talking to past love
start talking to Graham about what you want
remember that even if things end up less than ideal, it's okay
#relationship advice#love advice#advice#anxious anon#come back and tell me how it goes!!!#im rooting for you!!!!!
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