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His videos are wonderful! 💛 I love that the house he built was actually featured in Architectural Digest...

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♫ ♫ (Something a Bit Different)

I’m doing something just a little bit different tonight with my music post.  My friend, Ali, sent me this and I thought it was simply too good to pass up.  I’ve always loved Elton John, and this shows just what a truly talented man of music he is! From a piece in Upworthy … Musical geniuses take on many forms. But the ones who can seemingly pluck inspiration right out of the imaginary realm and…

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[milesbutterball]

https://www.upworthy.com/motivation-expert-explains-how-2-simple-words-can-free-you-from-taking-things-personally-ex1

HEALTH

Motivation expert explains how two simple words can free you from taking things personally

You don't need to take responsibility for everything and everyone.

Tod PerryUpworthy Staff

01.28.25

Towards the end of The Beatles’ illustrious but brief career, Paul McCartney wrote “Let it Be,” a song about finding peace by letting events take their natural course. It was a sentiment that seemed to mirror the feeling of resignation the band had with its imminent demise.

The bittersweet song has had an appeal that has lasted generations and that may be because it reflects an essential psychological concept: the locus of control. “It’s about understanding where our influence ends and accepting that some things are beyond our control,” Jennifer Chappell Marsh, a marriage and family therapist, told The Huffington Post. “We can’t control others, so instead, we should focus on our own actions and responses.”

This idea of giving up control, or the illusion of it, when it does us no good, was perfectly distilled into 2 words that everyone can understand as the “Let Them” theory. Podcast host, author, motivational speaker and former lawyer Mel Robbins explained this theory perfectly in a vial Instagram video.

“I just heard about this thing called the ‘Let Them Theory,’ I freaking love this,” Robbins starts the video.

“If your friends are not inviting you out to brunch this weekend, let them. If the person that you're really attracted to is not interested in a commitment, let them. If your kids do not want to get up and go to that thing with you this week, let them.” Robbins says in the clip. “So much time and energy is wasted on forcing other people to match our expectations.”

“If they’re not showing up how you want them to show up, do not try to force them to change; let them be themselves because they are revealing who they are to you. Just let them – and then you get to choose what you do next,” she continued.

The phrase is a great one to keep in your mental health tool kit because it’s a reminder that, for the most part, we can’t control other people. And if we can, is it worth wasting the emotional energy? Especially when we can allow people to behave as they wish and then we can react to them however we choose.

How you respond to their behavior can significantly impact how they treat you in the future.

It’s also incredibly freeing to relieve yourself of the responsibility of changing people or feeling responsible for their actions. As the old Polish proverb goes, “Not my circus, not my monkeys.”

“Yes! It’s much like a concept propelled by the book ‘The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k.’ Save your energy and set your boundaries accordingly. It’s realizing that we only have “control” over ourselves and it’s so freeing,” 60DaysToLive2012 wrote.

“Let It Be” brought Paul McCartney solace as he dealt with losing his band in a very public breakup. The same state of mind can help all of us, whether it’s dealing with parents living in the past, friends who change and you don’t feel like you know them anymore, or someone who cuts you off in traffic because they’re in a huge rush to go who knows where.

The moment someone gets on your nerves and you feel a jolt of anxiety run up your back, take a big breath and say, “Let them.”

This article originally appeared last year.

[juapatral]

I'd rather not know which is last. It would be better if we all could enjoy more each of the things as if it was the last time.

how do you just get up and deal with the fact that there’s a last time for everything. there was a last time you sat on your dads shoulders and there was a last time your mom tucked you into bed. there’s going to be a last time you kiss your sister on the head and there’s going to be a last time you hug your best friend. there’s going to be a last time you feel exactly as you feel right now and there’s going to be a last time that person says i love you. i need to lay down

[bodybybane]

They thought their son lived an isolated life. But when he died, friends showed up in droves. https://www.upworthy.com/they-thought-their-disabled-son-had-lived-an-isolated-life-but-when-he-died-friends-showed-up-in-droves

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Upworthy - Good People: Stories from the Best of Humanity by Gabriel Reilich; Lucia Knell

US pub date - 9/3/24

There’s a lot going on in the world right now. Much of it bad and overwhelming to soul and mind. Something that brings focus to the good going on is a gift and this book, indeed, is a true gift. 

What a wonderful, heartwarming collection of stories that made me smile, tear up, cry, and laugh. 

A really great book to go through when you need to restore your faith in humanity. 

Recommended.

Thank you to National Geographic and NetGalley for the DRC

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ما هذه المجموعة من المختارات تسألني؟ إنّها عددٌ من أعداد نشرة “صيد الشابكة” اِعرف أكثر عن النشرة هنا: ما هي نشرة “صيد الشابكة” ما مصادرها، وما غرضها؛ وما معنى الشابكة أصلًا؟! 🎣🌐 🎣🌐 صيد الشابكة العدد #84 بالشراكة مع ميكو أفرغ بريدك الوارد! جمعة مباركة؛ والسلام عليكم؛ 🎣🌐 صيد الشابكة العدد #84🧐 الفرق بين المجتمعات الرقمية وبين حسابات الشبكات الاجتماعية🔗 طالع عن المجتمعات في مدونتي 👇🏼✨ مُبشِّر🧠🥫…

[trexalicious]

Go Grace Linn! Book banning is censorship and violates free expression. Did you know that book banning is the most prevalent form of censorship in the United States?

[filosofablogger]

Good People Doing Good Things -- Kelvin Ellis

Today’s ‘good people’ is something of a follow-up or addendum to last week’s good people post about young people doing good things to help others.  This story crossed my radar a few days after that one, and it melted my heart.  There are really two good people here … a boy and a man. Kelvin Ellis, nine years old, is the boy who was willing to give his only dollar to a homeless man.  Here’s the…

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MIT’s Trillion-Frames-Per-Second Camera Can Capture Light As It Travels! "There's Nothing In The Universe That Looks Fast To This Camera."

— By Tod Perry | Upworthy Staff | April 22, 2024

Photo from YouTube video. Photographing the path of light.

A new camera developed at MIT can photograph a trillion frames per second.

Compare that with a traditional movie camera which takes a mere 24. This new advancement in photographic technology has given scientists the ability to photograph the movement of the fastest thing in the Universe, light.

The actual event occurred in a nano second, but the camera has the ability to slow it down to twenty seconds.

The amazing camera. Photo from YouTube video.

For some perspective, according to New York Times writer, John Markoff, "If a bullet were tracked in the same fashion moving through the same fluid, the resulting movie would last three years."

In the video below, you'll see experimental footage of light photons traveling 600-million-miles-per-hour through water.

It's impossible to directly record light so the camera takes millions of scans to recreate each image. The process has been called femto-photography and according to Andrea Velten, a researcher involved with the project, "There's nothing in the universe that looks fast to this camera."

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[bodybybane]

Parents who grew up in the '70s and '80s remember the experiences that blow their kids' minds https://www.upworthy.com/parents-who-grew-up-in-the-70s-and-80s-are-blowing-their-kids-minds-with-their-experiences-rp7

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