#transphobic abuse //

[feckcops]

Elon Musk is weaponizing Twitter against transgender people

“In 2023, you’ll no longer find him claiming to support transgender people, but you will still find him complaining about pronouns. Now, however, he’s giving alt-right transphobes an assist by claiming that people use their pronouns as a shield to protect themselves from being called out for genuinely nefarious behavior ...

“Watch Musk’s tweets for a while, too, and you’ll see that he actively interacts with and amplifies explicitly anti-trans accounts. ‘Odd,’ he replies simply to the same “End Wokeness” account, in a tweet this week, which attempts to group transgender and Black people with mass shooters ...

“Notably, the journalist Matt Binder recently highlighted that Musk not only follows Libs of TikTok — an account known for its intense transphobia and for highlighting trans people and their allies for dogpiling — but he also pays a subscription fee for their tweets. Libs of TikTok had been banned from Twitter for hateful conduct prior to Musk’s arrival. The account had targeted children’s hospitals providing gender-affirming care for harassment. Now, their tweets are promoted via the algorithm — even if you don’t follow the account — and regularly boosted by Musk himself. Even the explicitly anti-trans ones.

“Arguably then, when Musk amplifies accounts like Libs of TikTok, which trigger bomb threats at hospitals, he’s enabling a campaign of stochastic terrorism against transgender people and their allies. Inarguably, he actually pays to subscribe to one of the most virulently transphobic and hateful accounts on the platform.”

[absurdlyalive]

I disagree.

When I was threatened with murder and kidnapping to forcibly make me "a normal woman" by my family (implied also corrective rape), it was not to make me into a compliant footsoldier. It was either comply or die. Or at least be traumatized out of being the person I am.

If that is not eradication to you, then I wonder what is.

And so when people describe the hatred and violence trans masc people also experience, it is necessarily not about any notion "against" cis masculinity. It's related specifically to the experience trans mascs have due to transphobia in the name of keeping them from being trans, and being trans masculine at that.

It is imo necessary to not define the fact that it is geared towards trans masc people out of existence.

It IS transphobia - and not any less deadly than other forms of it. The fact that people give it this specific name probably comes from the fact that in a cisnormative society, people in a queer context tend to assume that if you're a man or masculine, you automatically struggle less. Which could not be further from the truth! So there is some intense focus on establishing a distinctive category for speaking about these problems that doesn't negate any other struggles that affect all trans people and are intertwined with it (imo).

most of my experience with the idea of transandrophobia or any specific hate towards trans men mostly came from a lot of the harm the “irreversible damage” book did to me as a teen and the harassment i saw a lot of transmasc youtubers go through. i don’t know if maybe i was just in a particular place on the internet where that was much more relevant but i think that rooted a lot of, idk, paranoia? in me? i’ve never compared my oppression to transmisogyny or believed that trans men were more harmed than trans women in any way, it’s always been like a next to but separate concept in my head, i suppose

So first let me say that Irreversible Damage and its ilk are HORRIBLE and the detrans TERF movement so thoroughly fucked me up. SO much. See my piece "My Dalliance with Detransition" for more on that.

I do not think that's transmisandry though. It's transphobia. And an attempt to recruit transmascs into the TERF detrans cult. They use corrective therapy tactics. (The group Health Liberation Now does a great deal to blow the whistle on this).

It's the same as ex-gay shit. That isn't misandry either. It's homophobia. I think people discount how bad homophobia and transphobia can be? People need it to be this special gendered locus of oppression these days. But those two things just really are that horrible. It's traumatic and manipulative. And they try to recruit us to use us as a cudgel against trans femmes. Doesn't mean we don't have it hard. But wanting to make us compliant footsoldiers is different from what they want of trans women, which is eradication.

[self-loving-vampire]

Whenever I make a post about the catholic church saying something transphobic there's always a handful of people awkwardly trying to like, rehabilitate christianity in the notes going all "oh but the pope and the clergy are wrong about christianity, which is actually super progressive and good and loves trans people".

I wish those people a very "maybe actually read the bible sometime".

[genderkoolaid]

Another trans man was killed in Puerto Rico. His name is Luis Ángel Díaz Castro and he was killed by his abusive ex-partner who has been arrested- thankfully, his family was supportive of him and he was buried under his proper name.

[wajjs]

to sum up SOME of the things happening in Argentina:

There's a nation wide manhunt for Loan, a toddler that disappeared in Corrientes (province that has borders with Paraguay, Brasil and Uruguay, three neighboring countries). Foul play has been suspected from day one. The family is believed to be involved by some people. The most popular on going theory is that he was sold to an international pedophile ring dedicated to buying kids from Latin American countries and selling them to people in power in the USA and aligned countries.

The court case connected to Tehuel, a trans young man that disappeared while going to a job opportunity he was offered by a local semi-political figure he was supposed to be able to trust, has been reopened. It is heavily theorized that this political figure, plus his partner and an accomplice, tortured and killed Tehuel for being trans. (There is a strong online theory that they fed him to the pigs after to get rid of his remains. Another popular theory is that they sold him to a human trafficking ring.)

The ex first lady, Fabiola Yañez, and ex president, Alberto Fernández, are in an ongoing legal battle after she was more or less forced to come forward and press charges against him for physical and psychological abuse. A lot of it was perpetrated while he was in office during the pandemic. He kept her locked up, isolated, and publicly blamed her for the things that went wrong during his presidential mandate. Unfortunately the media is having a field day with the pictures of Fabiola beaten up, basically showing off her bruised face and body while zooming in on the injuries. Fabiola had to come out and ask them to please stop showing those pictures as they are effectively re traumatizing her and her son.

Current president, Javier Milei, has effectively altered the employment contract law, taking away things that were meant to protect workers from corporate/employer greed and abuse. He has also effectively closed down the statal, official, ways to get in contact with authorities in case of gender based discrimination and abuse.

Current ruling political party (far right) is pushing forward a denial of facts and attempt at retelling our history by more or less saying that the last military dictatorship wasn't that bad, trying to pardon their sentences (even though the ones in charge of kidnapping, torturing, and disappearing people are living well while serving their sentences). A delegation met with one of the most heinous figure heads of the last dictatorship. A person from said delegation alleged it's old history and that people born during the 90s don't know and don't care about it.

[bioethicists]

trans ppl, particularly trans women, aren't allowed to be people. they get held up as trans first + foremost so everything about them must be a consequence of their transness.

there are thousands, millions even, of misogynistic cis women. of cis women with shitty, essentialist takes on gender. of vain cruel creepy rude vapid selfish ignorant cis women. these traits in cis women are either dismissed as individual flaws or even held up as somehow liberating or radical by neoliberal feminism.

in trans women, these traits are held up as Proof of their contamination by Maleness, rather than a consequence of living in a misogynistic society which is by no means unique to trans ppl.

[that-one-kiddo-in-the-back]

she's not abusive you people just push her! she is one of the only trans creators that actually give a shit about us but you believe that Maga hat Britney or that druggie Courtney! you dont deserve to be trans if you're going to eat your own you fucking redneck! FUCK YOU AND LEAVE LILY ALONE! WE NEED HER!

Congratulations, you pissed me off so much that I'm physically shaking.

...I don't deserve to be trans.

How fucking dare you say I don't deserve to be trans as if I chose too be trans. Do you think I woke up one morning and said "Hey I'll be a trans man because being denied gender affirming care sounds like such a blast."

I don't want to be trans, I don't want to have gender dysphoria, I don't want my fucking tits, and I especially didn't want my mother to grab my pussy to remind me that I was born a girl.

I don't deserve to be trans was the most transphobic thing I had ever read in my life.

So disrespectfully...

Lily doesn't give a shit about trans people. If she did, she wouldn't call actually trans people TERFS and use dehumanizing language, she wouldn't hide behind her own trans identity to try and get out of abusing Courtney, Britney, and all her other victims. If she cared about trans people, she wouldn't buddy up with her actual transphobic brother, who is also being accused of molesting Courtney and many others when he was in the army. The only person Lily cares about is herself.

I have a feeling you are Lily in the flesh, so I hope you take this to heart...

Get fucked and stay fucked!

[uncanny-tranny]

The first mistake I see people make is assuming there are completely "nonviolent" ways to be transphobic. It seems like some people conceptualize transphobia as being either violent (which is always physical in some way) or nonviolent (which is "simple" emotional, verbal, or psychological abuse)

It seems, also, that people presume that when somebody has "noble" intentions for their transphobia - "I'm trying to save you!" for instance - it is suddenly nonviolent. Consider, though, how a transphobe would "save" a trans person. Would they allow that person to exist unadulterated (including being able to transition), or would they prefer to put them through conversion therapy, or revoke their access to bodily autonomy, or force them to have children, or anything that will prevent them from transition or even identifying as trans or otherwise tying them down with the obligations that prevent transition or identifying as trans?

There is no true "nonviolent" way to be transphobic because being transphobic relies on denying one the ability to autonomy and personhood. Fundamentally, even the transphobes who "want to save us" only do so in their own self-interest to save them from the horror of knowing that more people than they are alive and thriving.

[parksrway]

I hate that "trans guy starts dating a cishet man and is coerced into detransitioning" has become some funny haha joke and not like. something actually concerning

[feckcops]

The culture war doesn’t exist

“It’s become common for almost anything not immediately recognisable as class struggle to be designated a new frontier in the culture war ...

“In this framing, my experience of [transphobic] street abuse is just another frontier. The function of my abuse is simple: to correct my deviance from cisgender norms leading either to my exit from public life or my return to normative gender presentation. The abuse does not arise in a vacuum. It is created, relentlessly, both by the continuous social process of gendering, and by the government and media’s creation of a moral panic that casts trans people as rapists and groomers. This moral panic suits politicians who wish to be perceived as defenders of women and children. It also reflects an anxiety about the stability of gendered roles and the family in a post-imperial nation experiencing a historic decline in living standards. Its effects range from the rise in queerphobic attacks to the functional removal of trans-inclusive healthcare in Britain …

“What does it mean to refer to these dynamics as part of a culture war? Undeniably, it is not divorced from culture. But is the institutional neglect, legalised discrimination and physical violence faced by trans people categorically distinct from attacks on disabled and poor people, for example? What is it about trans people and transphobia that is reducible to culture? If the expressions of this war are particular and material, rather than simply rhetorical, then what is the purpose of relegating the struggles of a community that is disproportionately working-class solely to the realm of culture?

“We might ask similar questions about the use of ‘culture war’ to refer to border violence. Legislation attempting to criminalise asylum, establish prison ships and remove people to Rwanda – all, we are told, are part of the culture war, a distraction from the Tories’ impoverishment of millions of people in Britain, a divide-and-rule tactic, a dead cat. Yet by noting the political utility of scapegoating minorities, the left has sometimes abdicated both meaningful solidarity and serious analysis. This ‘distraction’ is a reality for thousands of undocumented humans. What comfort is it to the friends of Frank Ospina, who died in Colnbrook Detention Centre last month; to the families of the hundreds of children under Home Office care who have ‘gone missing’; or to the Syrian refugees too scared to leave their temporary accommodation for fear of far-right mobs, to tell them these are classic divide and rule tactics?

“When we frame border violence as part of a culture war, we obscure its ideological roots: white supremacy, which is the dominant ideology of the political class precisely because it serves capital. The escalation of such violence is part of an internally coherent strategy to maintain the production of a migrant underclass and discipline citizens by manufacturing consent for ‘law and order’ (as explored compellingly in the recent book Empire’s Endgame). It also provides a logic for expanding the market for detention centres, camps and prisons by ensuring they are continually oversubscribed.”

[receivingtranny]

just saw a post saying that men shouldn't be allowed to become therapists because they *will* rape women/girls or at best... mentally ill women and girls *will always* catch inappropriate romantic/sexual feelings for a male therapist (not even gonna touch the flaming pile of internalized misogynistic shit lying within the later statement) and just...

what the fuck you guys.

like yeah fuck the "not all men" attitude that's just a fucking scapegoat abusive men love to say for why they never hold themselves or other men accountable, but actually *genuinely* saying all men will rape and abuse if they became a therapist does nothing to offer solutions that will actually make therapy safe for people.

because i'm sorry but i've had nearly 40 therapists in my life and unfortunately i've had a mix of really harmful experiences from both male and female therapists. the best therapist i had was actually nonbinary. the second and third best were male.

i've had both male/female therapists try to convert me to christianity and say my illness was god punishing me for sinning. i've had female therapists enable my father to continue being sexually/psychologically/physically abusive under the guise of "you're probably just being a dramatic teenage genderfuck" they didn't say genderfuck but they definitely thought my queerness had given some reason for why my dad should be the one to help "get me on the right track".

so i ask you radfem bioessentialists, in your utopia without male therapists, what's your solution for people like myself? multigender/nonbinary people who are seeking therapy, or *gasp* perhaps even schooling to become a therapist? do i get a female therapist because i was AFAB? or no since i identify as a man and have a penis now I must be planning on raping her so i'll need a male therapist. but wait, i'm AFAB and i identify as a woman so he must be planning on raping me. so another multigender AFAB person i'm guessing? wait but if i identify as a woman and a man... and they identify as a woman and a man... who's the one planning on raping the other in this situation? I just wanna make sure I know what to do here, being part man and all, is it in my nature to rape her? or is it his nature to rape me? or do we just rape ourselves all the time since we're both men and women simultaneously.

sorry not to sound like an asshole there at the end with the sarcasm, but like, i was human trafficked for several months and am now severly agoraphobic and even i'm not this terrified that everyone i meet is going to rape me. so idk man. get a grip? have some compassion beyond yourself? some critical thinking skills maybe?

[grecoromanyaoi]

this is so so funny. u cant possibly b that stupid

[bonefall]

yeah no it's entirely the "x-phobia is ok as long as its towards an acceptable victim!!!". I imagine these are the same people who misgender trans ppl they don't like and harass mspec lesbians bc they're "lesbophobic". they're still bullies just with a superiority complex

I got a terf in my inbox today btw, like, incredible that I spoke out about how it's wrong to mock disabled people and victims of incest and coincidentally that summoned the first frothing-at-the-mouth transphobic ask I've received in a few months.

[i-am-trans-gwender]

I need advice

I'm 19 years old and I need to escape my transphobic parents. A friend wants me to live with him, but there have been issues stopping this.

I have no car, and even if he drove me there, my parents would know where I went.

Even if they didn't find me, my parents control my bank account, medical care, and phone (luckily they can't put the Verizon Smart Family app on my computer.)

They also use my autism as a reason to prevent me from leaving. They claim I can't legally leave because of this. I've heard some people say that it sounds like BS but I don't know.

I need to transition, but I can't do that while I'm stuck with my parents. I'm willing to do almost anything to leave them.

[dayvan]

To be clear i genuinely don’t fuck with the term transandrophobia because it’s just misogyny with extra steps. it ‘exists’ in the way those extra steps do target trans men specifically but the explicit focus on TRANSmasculinity is inherently connected to our AGAB. it’s transphobia and misogyny.

[uncanny-tranny]

Something I notice is the idea with transmasculinity and transmalehood is almost this idea that we had beauty that transition has vanquished, and I honestly never related to this pretransition.

Beauty was never afforded to me as somebody who was obviously neurodivergent and traumatized and weird. I was never seen as beautiful pretransition, and I knew that. Conversations about how desirable we "used to be" never rang true for me personally because I wasn't even given the opportunity to be "beautiful." I was never going to be included in that even if I were not trans, you know? Since transition, I know I'm desirable now, even if it is not in a conventional way. It's interesting how my masculine features are now embraced because people can actually register my maleness, when before, they would never.

Desirability is often used as a tool and a weapon on trans people. The idea of not being "desirable" is a punishment. It's just weird when you're the trans person who was never desired in the first place, and you know it.