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Who is going to shoot their cum first? Bring it on

Reblog trans lovers 🌈🍆

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Happy (belated) birthday @sewers-headmates!! Decided to make you something since you’ve been such an inspiration for us making this blog. You don’t have to do anything with them, of course, since this wasn’t a request, but I hope you like it anyway. - Darkwood

I heard you like Hatchetfield, I heard you like RTC, I heard you like AUs, so I bring you:

Ride the Tearjerker AU Headmate Pack (all level 1s with transids and paras, we wanted to do higher but I think we’d die a little lol- feel free to request any of them upgraded if you like them though!)

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Name - Grace Chasity

Pronouns - She/Her/Hers

Gender - Cisgender Woman

Sexuality - Bi, but heavily in the closet

Paras - Teratophilia, Erotophonophilia, Autotheophilia, Peccatiphilia

CisIDs - Christian, Murderer, Autistic, Religious OCD

TransIDs - TransStraight, TransHarmless, TransCultLeader, TransRighteous, TransCelibate, TransNeurotypical

Sys Role - Moral Compass, Belief Holder

Source (if applicable) - Ride the Tearjerker, Ocean O’Connel Rosenberg

Sign Off - ✝️, ❤️‍🩹, 📓, 🫧, 🪓

Name - Alice Woodward

Pronouns - She/Her, They/Them, 🌸/🌸s

Gender - Demigirl, BlossomGender

Sexuality - Lesbian

Paras - Autogratiophilia, Kinemortophilia, Odontophilia, Nyctophilia

CisIDs - Writer, Dyed Hair, GAD, Cottagecore

TransIDs - TransPopular, TransSuccessful, TransRebellious, TransVampire

Sys Role - Social Alter, Creativity Manager, Motivator

Source (if applicable) - Ride the Tearjerker, Noel Gruber

Sign Off - 👩‍💻, 🖊️, 📝, 💗, 🧛‍♀️

Name - Ethan Green

Pronouns - He/Him, They/Them, It/Its, Ey/Em, Pine/Pines, Wood/Woods, 🌲/🌲s

Gender - Boyflux, Transmasculine, ForestBoyic

Sexuality - Panromantic Demisexual, femme preference

Paras - Chierophilia, Mechanophilia, Scelerophila, Gratiophilia

CisIDs - Car Fanatic, AuDHD, DPD, Canine Therian, Cyborgkin

TransIDs - TransAlive, TransPhotographer, TransHeight (Taller), TransGamer

Sys Role - Protector

Source (if applicable) - Ride the Tearjerker, Mischa Bachinski

Sign Off - 🧢, 🪓, 🔧, 🚙, 🌲

Name - Richard “Richie” Lipshitz

Pronouns - He/Him, They/Them, Weeb/Weebs, Glitch/Glitches, 👾/👾s

Gender - Trans man, Animegender, Robogender

Sexuality - Gay, Ambiamorous

Paras - Thanatophilia, Poképhilia, Robophilia, Fictophilia (specifically Ficto-Biastophilia)

CisIDs - Cosplayer, Gamer, Anime Obsessed, Otaku, Weep, Lisp, ADHD

TransIDs - TransExchangeStudent, TransJapanese, TransPopular, TransMSpecAttraction

Sys Role - Cringe Culture Holder

Source (if applicable) - Ride the Tearjerker, Ricky Potts

Sign Off - 🤖, 📺, 🦅, 👾, 🎮

Name - Ruth Fleming

Pronouns - She/Her, Shx/Hxr, They/Them, Ey/Em, Star/Stars, ⭐️/⭐️s

Gender - Transfemme Pangender, LoserGirlic

Sexuality - Pansexual Polyamorous HyperRose

Paras - Aptophilia, Agonophilia, Opophilia, Autagonistophilia

CisIDs - Theater Kid, Attention Seeker, Socially Awkward, Loser

TransIDs - TransPretty, TransStarlet, TransAttractive

Sys Role - Trauma Manager, Optimist, HyperRose Holder

Source (if applicable) - Ride the Tearjerker - Constance Blackwood

Sign Off - ⭐️, 🤩, 🎬, 🎤, 💡

Name - The unidentified body of the Tearjerker Incident, Hannah Foster

Pronouns - They/Them, Shx/Hxr, Hx/Hxm, Web/Webs, Doll/Dolls, 🕸️/🕸️s

Gender - Genderqueer, FluidFlux, Dollic, Black&Whiteic

Sexuality - AroAcespec

Paras - none

CisIDs - Nonverbal, Autistic, Prophet, Ukelele Player, Abused, Spider Therian, Bunny Therian, Lamb Therian, Musician

TransIDs - TransNormal, TransVerbal, TransUnharmed, TransBlack&White, TransAlive, PermaDissociated

Sys Role - Memory Gatekeeper, Dissociation Manager

Source (if applicable) - Ride the Tearjerker, Jane Doe

Sign Off - 🎶, 💭, 🕸️, 🔲, 🧢

Bonuses:

Name - The Great Blikotep

Pronouns - It/Its, Eye/Eyes,

Gender - Eyegender, Black&Whiteic

Sexuality - Pansexual, Hypersexual, Voyeur

Sys Role - Observer, Gatekeeper

Source (if applicable) - Ride the Tearjerker, The Great Karnak

Sign Off - 💜, 🎢, 🔌, 🧿, 👁️

Name - Webby the Spider

Pronouns - She/Her, They/Them, Web/Webs, Mys/Tery/Mysterys, Wi/Witch, 🕸️/🕸️s, 🕷️/🕷️s,❔/❔s

Gender - Agender, Femmeflux, Black&Whiteic

Sexuality - Aromantic, Queer, Unlabeled

Sys Role - Gatekeeper, Internal Protector

Source (if applicable) - Ride the Tearjerker, Virgil the Rat

Sign Off - 🕷️, 🕸️, ❔, 🤍, 💤

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#MalikYoba explains being a #transattracted #heterosexual, and says its more about ”stepping up.” 📽: (@breakfastclubam) https://www.instagram.com/p/B2SYs63n8K1/?igshid=1r0n3ob0o3w3y

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To my fish everything i do is for the culture. For us by us. I created fishline for you to do you! As we approach our 1 year anniversary i want to stress the importance of supporting each other. We create our own narrative PERIODT. So help me help you. I would love to feature my followers so don’t be shy. Fish and Gents show me what your working with! Dm your best photos!! FISH show your best young fly and trans! GENTS show the ladies your best swag! Please don’t be shy! . . . . The time is now ! #girlslikeus is simply the shit. #periodt . . . . #goodvibesonly #transattracted #transdating #lovewins🌈 #_fishline #fishline #new #timeisnow #blackownedbusiness #lgbtbusiness #support #feature #dm #insta #instafamous #new #newbrand #1yearanniversary #wemadeit #popping #blackgirlmagic #transgirl #transgirlsofinstagram #transisbeautiful #cultivate #redlips #badbish (at Atlanta, Georgia) https://www.instagram.com/p/ByCB_1PnUmA/?igshid=122dnmmoobcah

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SPACE COAST AREA !!!

Im coming to your area this weekend. show me some love why don’t ya 

[beyond-mogai-pride-flags]

Transamorous Pride Flag

Transamory: describing a relationship and/or attraction involving transgender individuals.

It's similar to the bicurious flag, however with trans* flag colors using a purple lowercase tau (Greek letter, τ) in the middle.

[transx-mogai-cafe]

TransAttraction/Transorientation

Transattraction/Transorientation: an identity for those who feel they should have a certain orientation or be attracted to certain categories of individuals that they are not.

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This Trans-Attracted Man’s Life Gets Better And Better

Every time a client texts me with evidence their life is getting better, I delight in the receipt. That’s because I know when they send me such messages, they’re having the time of their lives. It’s also delightful because their improved life amplifies my knowing in this “you create your reality by the stories you tell” business, aka (by some) as “Wishful Thinking”. LOL.

When some people use that “Wishful Thinking” moniker, they’re being pejorative. They don’t believe this “you create your reality by the stories you tell” business is real. They believe that because this “you create your reality by the stories you tell” business is working for them. It’s just reflecting back to them the manifestation of their belief: that this “you create your reality by the stories you tell” business doesn’t work, or it’s pseudoscience or new age quackery.

The jokes on them though because this “you create your reality by the stories you tell” business isworking, just like it does for me and all my clients. I love that!

But I love more when clients text me with their wonder. That’s what I’m writing about today.

Beliefs defending themselves

This past week a trans-attracted client finds himself as wonder-filled as I am. Except, he’s finding himself so dumbfounded by his manifestation results, he sometimes slips into disbelief.

I love when that happens too because it means that client finds himself in a Belief Confrontation. A Belief Confrontation is when All That Is shows us something at odds with our beliefs. When that happens, the juxtaposition of our belief, and the reality we’re experiencing at that moment, is so jarring, our belief “defends” itself.

Our belief doesn’t put up its dukes and gets into a fist-fight with the reality. It’s not human after all. But the energy and momentum comprising our belief is strong. And that strong momentum, when confronted with another strong momentum of energy or vibration, experiences a kind of polarity shift. Kind of like when you try put two magnets together and they repulse one another.

When that polarity shift happens in a human, the human feels an emotion. Typically the emotion is negative. That negative emotion comes on instantaneously and can feel so strong it can compel the human into a psychologically defensive stance. They’ll resist that which doesn’t accord with their beliefs. Or they might willfully ignore it. 

Our civilization is full of examples illustrating this process underway. And it’s underway all the time, everywhere.

It really works

After clients produce evidence that “you create your reality by the stories you tell” is accurate, force accompanying Belief Confrontations ease, allowing the client to feel the force without it taking them over. That’s what happened with this client. He deserves some praise because he’s significantly soothed his Belief Confrontations around the fact that he’s in the driver’s seat of his life, no one else, and that he can create any life he wants.

So when he texted me, he briefly expressed some disbelief, but followed that up with a string of evidence showing this “you create your reality by the stories you tell” business works. And that balance – between the brief disbelief and the litany of evidence – amplified within him his growing momentum aligning with the belief “this ‘you create your reality by the stories you tell’ business really works!”

Here’s what he texted me:

^^A trans-attracted client amplifying his belief in this “you create your reality by the stories you tell” business by sharing his powerful results.

There’s no evidence proving this “you create your reality by the stories you tell” business doesn’t work. Again, even for those who think it doesn’t work, it’s working. It’s working by showing those people a reality in which the belief “this ‘you create your reality by the stories you tell’ business doesn’t work” doesn’t work!

But for those willing to soften that belief, those people’s worlds will increasingly show them that this “you create your reality by the stories you tell” business does work. And as that evidence grows, the person will consciously come into their own power. The power they knew they had when they first incarnated as human.

The Charmed Life

We all came here in our human experiences to enjoy our creative power. That includes trans people. We all are incipient gods becoming more in a structure we have created as a part of the consciousness of All That Is. That sure sounds like a circular argument. But that’s only because All That Is is circular in its awareness and purpose.

All That Is is all about one thing: knowing itself through expanding its awareness of itself. That’s its purpose. And it joyfully prosecutes that purpose. We are physical expressions of All That Is seeking to expand its self-awareness. As such, we too can joyfully create our experiences as we move through our human lives.

We don’t have a choice about the expansion or the experience. But we do have a choice in how that experience happens, what’s included in it, what’s not, and how much we enjoy that experience. That’s our innate gift we give ourselves.

And when we choose to deliberately create experiences which bring us joy, then that experience of human life just gets better and better. Just as my clients are seeing in their lives. And as I’m seeing in mine. It’s the Charmed Life. And it’s available to everyone. Even trans people.

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(Marsha's Plate: Black Trans Talk) We are having a conversation with Simaya Charlize-Theresa Turner​ and Tierre Turner​ . We talk about dating, vulnerability, Trans Attracted men and being grown and making love work one day at a time 

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IMPORTIANT REMINDER

Polydins is ALL of the paladins in a relationship, not just Shiro Keith and Lance. Or Shiro keith and Hunk, you want to be that asshole that childcodes Pidge  get out of this tag. Polydins is not an OT3 tag you nitwhits its a ship where all the paladind (including Allura) are in a polyromantic (proper definition derived from the term poligmy meaning more than one spouce; refers to a relationship between more than two people in a romantic and concentual manner.) Also fuck every fucking trans entitlest run piece of shitstain wiki that keeps getting that definition wrong because attraction regardless of gender identy is panromantic and attraction to persons who are trans is Transromantic you idiots. At least respect sexual bounderies you noobs.

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friends to lovers is old we should start calling it transattraction ptr (platonic to romantic)

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Transattracted/Transoriented Lesbian

Transattracted/Transoriented Lesbian: an identity for those who feel they should be a lesbian even though they are not.

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No, Sexual Abuse Doesn’t Create Trans-Attracted People

Back in May I gushed about the Netflix Limited Series “Baby Reindeer”. My focus, obviously, wasn’t on the main plot, but the sub plot; that being the main character “Donny’s” trans-attraction. I gushed about it because I thought the entire series did a great job describing how shame and self-loathing can create a truly, sucky life.

Which is exactly what Donny lived.

While writing that series of posts, I received an interesting comment from a trans-attracted guy. The comment made a point I hadn’t considered. I hadn’t considered it because I don’t believe the point the writer made about trans attraction or about the show. So the point went right over my head.

I’m glad then, that the commenter made the point. It’s worth taking a closer look at it.

So let’s take a look at what he wrote, then unpack what he’s saying.

The comment

Reading between the lines of his comment, it’s clear the writer isn’t ashamed of his trans attraction. Not only that, it seems he’s out about it. That’s great. So here’s what he had to say. I’ve added some clarifications [in brackets] for reasons that will be obvious:

I was baffled at first that people kept asking me if I’d seen Baby Reindeer – I’ve never seen *any* must-see TV shows. Then I realised there was this cis-trans relationship subplot. People I know wanted to know how I felt about that because they know of my own orientation and dating experience… I thought [transgender actress] Nava Mau’s performance was fantastic and [her character] “Teri” was probably the only likable and relatable person in the show tbh. But I did feel that the show let her down in plot terms. No exposition at all for *why* the main character decided to go on a trans dating site. In an ideal world, sure, it would be unremarkable, but in the real world, it’s obviously not something everyone *just does*. And in that absence of explanation it felt uncomfortably like we were supposed to see it as some kind of sexual trauma response to his previous experiences as revealed in ep. 3. When, after their split, he hardly seemed to give her another thought, that seemed to reinforce that she was almost just a plot device to show him going through stages of trauma and self-questioning. Given that it’s based on a true story, of course, that may just be a reflection of this individual’s reality. And yes, that reality may reflect a wider reality of a lot of cis man/trans woman relationships. But I guess I’m just disappointed that the plotline in that regard always seems to be one of trauma, hangups, internalised shame, etc. That’s not at all my experience in my own relationship, and I’d like for once to see that portrayed! So as representation goes, yes, Teri was a triumph, but as a portrayal of a relationship between a trans woman and a trans-attracted man I felt it was a lot less positive.

Shallow thinking creates condemnation

I really like this guy’s perspective. And, he’s right. I believe a trend exists in the minds of people that trans attraction is a response to some unsavory past. Often, that past includes sexual “trauma”. And while that may be true for some, I don’t think that’s true for the majority of trans-attracted men.

The commenter, clearly, hasn’t had that experience. As well, most of the men I’ve worked with also don’t have sexual “trauma” they’re responding to. Many of them did experience an event which surfaced what may have previously been unconscious orientation behavior. But sexual abuse “trauma” doesn’t create trans attraction in people.

Take me, for example. I didn’t realize my trans-attraction until a girlfriend in Japan took me to a bar that featured trans go-go dancers. That doesn’t qualify as sexual trauma or abuse. But it did open my eyes to an aspect of who I was.

One could say the trope that trans-attracted men trans attracted because of past sexual abuse parallels the idea that trans women are just “men in a dress”. Like the latter, the former offers no introspection or analysis. Nor does it reveal any effort on the part of the speaker to understand trans attraction, nor the men (and women) who orient that way sexually. Such comments don’t point to a truth. They just represent shallow thinking on the part of the person expressing them.

Which is why they’re worthy of us ignoring them.

Another trope needing examination

Trans-attraction is just as valid as any other sexual orientation. For transgender people, it is an important orientation. That’s because such people represent perfect matches for trans people. And because of that, trans people can find love they desire.

I’ve written before about how every sock finds its shoe. The way the Universe works, no aspect of being goes unmatched. There always exists someone to match someone who wants to match with someone.

Now, some people do exist for which no match exists. Such people eventually discover they are happier without relationships. I’ve known women who, after dating men and women, for example, discover their best relationship is with themselves.

That’s a great realization to come to. But it often comes after trial and error. Because all of us are conditioned so strongly to have a relationship. Otherwise something is wrong with us. And that’s another expression that’s gone without much examination.

A lot more happiness would exist if people didn’t try fitting themselves into the box the peanut gallery prescribes. That goes for trans people, trans-attracted people and everyone else.

Stories DO create reality though

All that said, I did have a client who believed part of his experience in desiring trans women came from what HE considered to be sexual trauma involving a relative. After looking at what happened over several months, however, we discovered a couple things about that experience. One, such sexual experimentation between relatives is very common. It’s not sexual abuse. And two, his role in it was far less offensive than he was making it.

In other words, his stories about what happened shaped his judgments about what happened. They also shaped his self-judgement. A self-judgement so harsh he contemplated suicide many times. 

These days, however, this client is becoming more and more free of his negative stories. As a result he’s finding himself more comfortable accepting who he is, what he likes, and what happened in the past.

And that’s the point of all of this. Our stories create our realities. That’s why it’s so important looking at the stories we have. Looking at them we change those that create experiences we don’t like. Every experience we don’t like comes as a result of beliefs we hold. That means any experience we don’t like we have the power to change.

I think Donny, the main character in Baby Reindeer showed us this. By changing his stories he came to embrace who he was. The result not only transformed his life, it also produced a sensational hit streaming show.

Read my series on that show here: Post one, post two, three and four.