#trans people are valid btw

[triko-the-fluffy-artist]

you'll forever be a cringey immature straight girl no matter if you call yourself a he or a xim or a identify as a table leg, no matter how many bone-eroding cross-sex hormones you take or whether you amputate or boobs or not. biologicallly you will always be a female heterosexual since that's what you were born as. neuroscience proves that heteros aka opposite-sex attracted people have distinct brain phenotypes from gay people, regardless of if they identify as trans or not. heterosexual aka male-attracted 'transmen' have the same brain chemistry as any normie het woman, proving both that sexuality is only determined by sex and that transness isn't innate the way homosexuality is. you can larp as whatever, call neuroscience and basic knowledge on sexuality 'stinky doo doo opinions' like a petulant child who just realized santa isn't real. the only thing you're doing is embarrassing yourselves in front of anyone with the slightest cerebral functionality because you're mad we're calling out your gay-fetishizing homophobic anti-scientific bs for what it is unlike the tras who pretend to see you as 'gay' 'men' because they feel sorry for your mentally ill ass and your internalized misogyny. sure you het women will never be in an equal relationship with a male because straight men see you as throwaway sex toys and free domestic servants but this isn't an excuse for you to fetishize gay men and pretend to be them, certainly not an excuse to expect them to go along with the charade and put up with you het weirdos preying on them. het males aren't dumb when it comes to manipulating women for easy p*ssy which is why they're already on grindr with your het ass, pretending to be QWeEr and non-binary to get that mentally ill gullible cooch. no actual gay male will look at you and have any other emotion aside from anger and pitiful laughter. even if you 'pass' completely, they'll be disgusted after learning you have female genitalia and lose any attraction they may have had because het sex is abnormal and undesirable to gay people, not falling for and not wanting to fuck the opposite sex is the literal essence of our sexuality which you are diametrically opposed to. you'll just rub your nub away to yaoi like any other fujo who is either an ugly woman or understandably disillusioned with men but the only outcome is that you'll be a bitter p0rn sick lonely coomer just like those crusty basement-dwelling straight men who can't get laid. the worst part is that nearly any het woman like yoy can get laid, that's no achievement, het men will even pretend to be bi or gay to use you as a fleshlight but no gay male will ever want your musty homophobic vag, they want none at all and deep down you know it. that you'll never be loved and wanted by a gay man, that you'll never be seen as gay or male by anyone. you'll never know the ultimate compatibility and sublime equality that only exists in same-sex love. and now that you've ruined your straight woman privilege, only the most abusive and weird straight men will go after you, whose only purpose is to take advantage of you. what a sad existence, foaming at the mouth at gay people for standing up for ourselves when you fake progressive breeders try to brainwash your fellow homophobes into your heteronormative bioessentialist homophobia, insisting gay people could be bisexually attracted as long as you wear 'boy clothes' and cut your hair off. congrats on alienating the very people you pretend to be, most of us were 'trans allies' just a few years ago before you went full crackhead and started pretending sexuality is based on a made-up gender not biological sex. enjoy withering away in your early menopause knowing no gay person will ever love or desire you, knowing you'll never be us and should be grateful since you couldn’t stand a day of real oppression. choke on as much d*ck as you'd like, it only proves what a wanton female hetero you are and that straight males would stick their d*ck in anyone female

DAYUM dude, that's a whole PARAGRAPH of hate, are you ok??💧 There is no way i'm reading all of that, i've better things to do in my life, since I do have a good one! I hope you have a good one too :3

[not-that-debonair]

It’s been said I know but sometimes I get so angry that so much is socially tied to gender like why does it matter what someone’s gender is why do you change all your assumptions about someone based on their gender why do things have to be masculine coded or feminine coded why can’t we all just live

[placeholderusername121]

thinking about trans girl light yagami again...

[shmowder]

pray for me; I read the most god-awful opinion on this website today

[am3ya]

Trans men are NOT a monolith. And every trans man will have different experiences and comfort levels.

Trans men can still be feminine. Trans men don't have to change their body, Trans men don't have to be dysphoric. Trans men don't HAVE to be your typical 'manly man'.

This isn't to denounce trans men who want to be manly, who have extreme dysphoria, or who don't want to be seen as feminine at all. This post is made because people don't seem to realize that transness doesn't come in one shape.

This can also be said for both Nonbinary people & Trans women. No one owes you anything. Trans men don't owe you masculinity, trans women don't owe you femininity, and Enby's don't owe you androgyny

-Signed, a genderqueer person who was/still is heavily in trans spaces.

[renofthewoods]

you are trans if you change your gender identity. thats it! thats all you have to do. you dont have to conform to some binary box, nor do you have to do anything you dont want to. you dont have to dress differently, you dont have to alter your body, you dont have to change your pronouns nor your name if you dont want to. the most important thing you can do is be yourself and present yourself in the way that *you* want of course, it's perfectly fine if you want surgeries or hrt or to change everything about yourself. thats amazing that you can bloom into yourself through those things. i'm just saying that not everyone has the same experience in those regards, and sometimes it can be isolating when all you hear is praise for people who transitioned in that way change as much as you want about yourself as long as it is what *you* want!! it's your body, your being, your canvas to express how you feel on the inside. you are wonderful!!! exclusionists suck!!

[catboyfurina]

Idk what precisely to call it since honorifics aren't Pronouns but vertin using she/her while routinely being addressed as Lord, sir, etc is soooooooo 🥰 it's like mixed pronouns but not.

[5t4r-b0y]

I Took Some Pics With My Sword

[shinysoroka]

While the critical thinking on this hellsite was always low, things like Shinigami Eyes have made it even easier for some of you to turn your brains off. Yeah, sure, I'm gonna let an app with a silly weeb name check if the person I'm speaking to is transphobic and never look into anything myself. This is a solid plan that will never backfire.

[the-xenogender-painter]

this ask has been painted with the xenogender playdohcookieic!

[hyp3rfixation-h3ll]

listen if i manage somehow to cement my legacy in this fandom as the "transfem burgertron guy" that'd be enough. like the bare minimum

[bugbuzzbugbuzz]

I think as a lesbian other lgbt people owe me like $20 for having to put up with bullshit like “you should just TRY dating/fucking a man!!! Sexuality is fluid!!”

YOUR sexuality might be fluid but Mine sure fucking isn’t. I’m not interested in men at all, cis or trans. I also shouldn’t have to fucking worry about a man LYING TO ME that he’s a woman just to fucking date me?? Bestie you are one fucking moment away from actual sexual assault you need to step off!! If somebody says they don’t like men don’t fucking push it!! Let people live!!

Transphobes fuck off and die btw when I say I like women I mean women. Trans women are women so yes they are included. Stop assuming every lesbian is a fucking transphobe or terf.

[ghost-orion]

the issue with guides like these is that they often work. in high school i followed those, and i watched kalvin garrah and i denounced the cloudgenders and made myself grey and desaturated and earth toned and black and short haired and repressed, and it worked. i passed.

it's not the fault of the ftms who wrote the posts and articles and videos, like The Guides Work, but part of my journey was to let go of the idea of passing because male socialization, if you're 12 or if you're an adult/in high school, it beats happiness out of you, and you have to learn to be yourself. you have to kill the calvin garrah in your brain, because you have to kill the patriarchy in your brain. these guides are shallow and misery-making but that's because they're the quick fix, they're the boy-coloured bandaid, you have to do the work yourself to be the guy you wanna be

gotta say i don't like how many "how to pass ftm" guides are straight up just like. be monotone and uninterested and don't engage in your "feminine" hobbies and don't wear bright colors and don't be polite and don't smile at people and don't show emotion ever. like how precisely is this a healthy thing to be teaching people (especially the young people these are often targeted at)??? i am a bubbly boy. a cheerful chap. a merry man. a good-humored guy. a glowing gent. a veritable ray of fucking sunshine and i am NOT toning that down!!!! fuck you!!!!!!!

[possessesnightshift]

Hey. I saw you sticking up for trans men in the reblogs of some post.

I don’t think you realize how much that means to some of us… thank you

Oh wow... Thank you so much for the appreciation, anon! <3<3

[reallysaneguy]

Until I started passing as a cis man, I didn't realize how horribly I was treated compared to them. Yes, I struggle being trans, but my life has improved significantly in how I'm treated by those who assume I'm cisgender. I honestly feel privileged that I get to experience both ends of the spectrum because I'm able to share just how drastic the change is.

things that happened to me when i was a woman in STEM:

an advisor humiliated me in front of an entire lab group because of a call I made in his place when he wouldn't reply to my e-mails for months

he later delegated part of my master's thesis work to a 19-year old male undergrad without my approval

a male scientist at a NASA conference looked me up and down and asked when i was graduating and if i was open to a job at his company. right before inquiring what my ethnicity was because i "looked exotic"

a random male member of the public began talking over me and my female advisor, an oceanographer with a pHD and decades of experience, saying he knew more about oceanography than us

things that have happened to me since becoming a man in STEM:

being asked consistently for advice on projects despite being completely new to a position

male colleagues approaching me to drop candid information regarding our partners / higher ups that I was not privy to before

lenience toward my work in a way I haven't experienced before. incredible understanding when I need to take time off to care for my family.

conference rooms go silent when I start talking. no side chatter. I get a baseline level of attention and focus from people that's very unfamiliar and genuinely difficult for me to wrap my head around.

like. yes some PI's will still be assholes regardless of the gender of their subordinates but, I've lived this transition. misogyny in STEM is killing women's careers, and trans men can and do experience male privilege.

[foone]

I love trans fursonas. Like, this is not a person who lived a life. They aren't AMAB or AFAB because they weren't born: they were drawn or modeled or written or whatever, and what parts of their non-life that covers are entirely up to the creators. They can't be "trans" in the traditional sense because they didn't exist prior* to being a person who is trans, you know? They aren't transitioning from anything, there's no from to transition from.

They could look cis, in their appropriate gender. But they don't. They look trans, in all the forms that can take. Wolfgirls with bulges and catboys with top surgery scars... And that's why it's amazing. They could look like anything. Infinite possibilities and they look visibly trans. It's such a celebration of the trans experience because it's saying "this isn't just an unfortunate period between looking like my AGAB and passing perfectly", this is how I look, this is a valid way to look, this is a beautiful way to look, and there's reasons why you might want to look this way. This is can be a desirable way to look, in both non-sexual and sexual ways: you can want to look like this, and you can find looking like this attractive.

It's about the wish-fulfillment. It's about how it's explicitly saying "even in my wildest dreams where I can be a wolf who is a secret agent ninja with a billion dollars and five girlfriends... I'm still trans, and that's fine."

Cause like, there's no reason why your fursona couldn't just be cis, or trans but using magic or future science to pass perfectly! You could totally do that, and it's completely valid if you do want to do that.

But the fact you had that option and didn't choose it is what gives me such hope and love. It's the explicit confirmation that this is how you wanted to be that's so great.

* technically there are some cases where this isn't true: some people had a fursona that was the same gender as their AGAB, then they realized they were trans, and they transitioned their fursona alongside themselves. Those people are awesome, btw, and probably braver than any marine.