#toxic masculinity BECAUSE hes trans
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Transfem sanji, sure sure, I guess I get that-
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transmasc sanji with so much toxic masculinity because he was freshly trans and wanted to be seen as a man so badly and of course thinks theres only one way to be a man and that is to be a straight gentleman he eventually realizes hes bisexual and also through the Drag Queens learns he can also still like “girly” things like wearing dresses and makeup and still be able to be confident in his masculinity because WE NEED MORE TRANS MEN REALIZING THEY STILL KIND OF LIKE DRESSES BUT DONT WANT TO BE SEEN AS A GIRL! TRANS MALE FEMBOYS PLEASE
#one piece#sanji#black leg sanji#anyways-#totally not projecting idk what you’re talking about#haha gives sanji all my gender issues#but seriously- trans men able to wear fem things please#he/him men still allowed to be feminine and not go all ‘oh so youre a trans girl'#trans men wearing dresses without being accused of detransitioning#BECAUSE PLEAEE i need that#personally thats why i dont like transfem sanji#because what if him but transmasc learning he can still enjoy girly things#toxic masculinity BECAUSE hes trans
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'It's normal for men to-'Girl the patriarchy
#hate this argument tbh.even the most normie men i'm friends with are hardcore feminists who listen to women#that guy is like that because he's a misogynist.stop acting like men hating women is a natural state they do that shit on purpose#same for masc/male gender roles if a dude wants to op out of masculinity and be gnc all the power to him.yes including cis men#and goes hard for people who aren't actually men and just amab(trans women).trans women being feminine will ALWAYS be defying gender norms#girl the patriarchy#misogyny cw#androcentrism#toxic masculinity#transandrophobia is not real#transandrodorks#gender essentialism#trans#transgender#trans rights#trans pride#intersectional feminism#antiterf#transfem rights#transmasc rights#bigender#genderfluid#demigirl#misogynoir#transmisogyny#transmisogynoir#💌#summerposting#bimisogyny#lesbophobia#cisheteronormativity
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what if they where T4T?! What then?
#TMNT#TMNT 2012#casey jones 2012#that episode where Casey said I liked being a girl really expected me to ignore the comment?#no#raphael hamato#2012 raph#rasey#I mean you don’t have to ship them to appreciate the concept#idk raph has short trans man vibes I love him#toxic masculinity is him trying to act the part in a house of males#he’ll get over it dw#though I do like cos man raph dressing as a fairy princess and having feminine qualities#I also love trans man raph struggling to accept his more traditionally feminine behaviour#especially when they are only exposed to these gendered roles through old media#these two go out and beat up transphobes for a romantic date x#Raphs not got any trans stuff on because he doesn’t need to explain who he is to anyone his family knows#oh I tried so hard not to scratch and bruise them up too much#but I still can’t draw people#sorry Casey’s heads too big I’m learning#really like the shades of green on Raph though#also Raphs names always been raph splinter was a ninja he doesn’t know how to sex frenshly mutated pet turtle tots#OH QUICKLY I AM LOVING LATINA CASEY SO MUCH#these two spray paint graffiti in every ally and drop one trans or personal cultural significance reference in each#trans casey jones#trans raph#lgbt hc
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Ok so. Miles Edgeworth is trans. Gregory was definitely a trans affirming father so when Miles told him he was like “sure son. What name do you want to go by?”
And so all Manfred von Karma knew was that Gregory Edgeworth had a son. When he gains custody of Miles, he just. Does not realize that the kid he’s now in charge of is a trans boy. (Maybe Miles already had a name change. Idk. Somehow legal name wise, von Karma just. Does Not realize.)
So Miles grows up being raised as a boy and von Karma just. Doesn’t realize. Until puberty begins.
And he notices something, that Miles isn’t experiencing puberty the way he would have expected and he’s like hmmm. I am not sure what is happening.
And then like preteen Miles, incredibly nervous, comes to him and he’s like, “excuse me, Mr. von Karma, sir, but would I be able to start puberty blockers please?”
And von Karma’s just like “WHAT!”
He’s so caught off guard and so used to thinking of Miles as “Gregory Edgeworth’s pathetic son” that he just… kinda lets Miles medically transition bc he’s so caught off guard by the realization.
And for his entire life, Miles is like. Unable to wrap his head around von Karma being surprisingly trans accepting???
#especially because von karma was decidedly NOT accepting of the fact that miles is gay#for the rest of miles’ life he is forever confused about this. and he never realizes that von karma just. didn’t know he adopted a trans kid#in my headcanon franziska is also trans and basically i think that like. von karma was so shooketh by having one trans kid in the house#that he was like. I. I. I don’t know what to do#and also Franziska would TOTALLY weaponize the fact that miles had transitioned without comment#‘why does miles edgeworth get to but I don’t??’#also also. Manfred von karma probably has some toxic ideas about what it means to be a man. that were definitely taken to heart by miles#especially bc he wanted to prove himself as being ‘valid’ in the eyes of bin karma#I like to think that as he let go of the other ideas von karma taught him he also let go of this ideal and let himself embrace#less ‘traditionally manly’ things#this is the ‘not traditionally masculine transmasc’ in me coming through#I feel like that’s such a specific thing to work through when it comes to reconciling masculinity ESPECIALLY if you’re someone who’s#felt like they’ve had to fight to be accepted for it#wow. that got actually serious on my stupid lil post.#anyway miles as of chief prosecutor wear jewelry and makeup and maybe sometimes skirts#also fun like trans kid headcanon: Phoenix comes out during the year he miles and Larry were best friends and his mom went to Gregory#for advice about how to support your trans son :)#ace attorney#miles edgeworth#phoenix wright ace attorney#manfred von karma#trans miles edgeworth#miles edgeworth is trans dammit#and so is Phoenix Wright#Phoenix Wright#mention#gregory edgeworth#franziska von karma#tw transphobia#like. Hinted but tagging just in case
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transmasc jason grace who's on board
#learning to have healthy relationships w masculinity...#makes the issue with being the perfect son perfect soldier even more prominent because like. its like he has to meet a certain standard to#be a perfect man and to prove himself that he somehow has to 'prove' he is worthy of his identity and this ingrained thing that#he owes it to work harder 'towards masculinity' which he kind of knows its a toxic concept but he feels like for himself it makes sense#he has to and he cant. he cant be free. but thats why he came out wasnt it? to be free#he doesnt want to be a girl he likes being a guy but its soo hard until#one day he realises that... it doesnt have to be!! he can exist how he wants to he doesnt owe the world anything he doesnt have to#PROVE himself & he starts indulging in a bit more feminine things because he can be confident as a transmasc without having to 'back it up'#and percy likes plushies and pink teddy bears and frank wears bracelets and nico wears eyeliner#that doesnt make him think theyre less of a guy. so... isnt it the same for him? why DOES he have to cage himself?#and then its so much better. hes free. THIS is what he wanted when he first came out#to be HIM.#jason grace#ohhh these long-ass tags making me Feel Things tho#pjo#percy jackson#hoo#heroes of olympus#toa#trans jason grace#transmasc
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look, i enjoy transgener quark as much as the next guy, but thematically i think it's important that he's a cis gay man. i dont think you can have trans quark without ignoring key parts of his character, and i also think cis quark presents a much more interesting dynamic to play with. now, trans brunt on the other hand,
#trans brunt is the toxic trans guy who hates gnc cis guys because they represent something he thinks he can never have#trans brunt is the guy who faked his death in order to resurface post-transition in boymode and never breathe a word about his past life#his speech in Body Parts about how he hates quark on principle is SO loaded under this lens#because quark represents a complete failure of ferengi masculinity but is still respected as a man. and brunt is certain#that if he himself ever failed the way quark failed he'd be outed as trans and lose literally everything#do you see it. do you understand
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zerophilia
#through came on the playlist sorry#shakes fist at god one day I'll make you all watch this movie just u watch me#2000s transgender bisexual comedy with surprisingly deep themes and two people having 4 different relationships#at the same time what's there not to love#they're bros they're best girliefriends they're a beautiful toxic heterosexual couple. well. two of em#supporting cast includes transgender femme fatale who's actually a gay man. bisexual woman. most homophobic#guy ever slowly becoming a fierce gay and trans ally. and the dead father haunting the narrative ❤️❤️❤️❤️#making the main character always strive to live up to a male ideal he will never reach#it has sex it has body horror it has really bad yet sincere jokes it has beautiful shots#it has the most confusing relationship constellation ever. including an accidental bisexual love triangle#because turns out his best friends girlfriend only has a crush on him when he's a woman#IT EVEN HAS SPORTS AND VIOLENCE!#and what I can only describe as the hottest technically trans guy being really good at toxic masculinity. and being UNDENIABLY#bisexual with it.#also a beautiful accidental transfem storyline#I'll never shut up about this
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So I see so many people coddling cis people's feelings about their partners transitioning, and I'm normally very polite about it because attraction is complicated. But honestly, cis people?
Do better.
My partner is the straightest fucking cis man I have ever met in my life. When I came out, it was very hard for him. But I did not know that at first, because he did not make it my problem. He dealt with the initial shock on his own, rather than push it on me when I was most vulnerable, and then later, we worked through it as a team. Because he loves me and our relationship is important to him. He's not attracted to men. At all. Repulsed, actually. But he is still with me, and is attracted to *me.* I have a full fucking beard and ass hair, and we have made it work.
Normally I would add a "I know it can't work for everyone and that's okay" disclaimer, but I'm not doing that today. Do better. Do better for your partners, who you say you love so much. Put your money where your mouth is. If my autistic, laser straight partner can do it after he'd been with me as a woman for five years, so can you.
#this post brought to you by my partner driving across the city to rescue me when i was having a panic attack in a LIGHTNING STORM#because my phone had died and i didnt know how to get home and i knew if someone saw me in hysterics in my cab i could be in danger#because i look like a man now#and him sitting with me in the cab of my truck holding my hand with my head on his chest until i could breathe again#this man was being visibly gay in public#it doesn't matter that hes straight and our relationship is complicated by my gender identity#he was being visibly gay in public because he loves me more than he cares about how others view us#more than his need to cling to a rigid identity for the sake of toxic masculinity#more than his preference to be completely non-offensive and invisible in most situations#when he goes out alone he is invisible#when we go out together - him with the crippled tranny jew on his arm - he is the center of attention#and he does not hesitate to go out with me. to be seen with me. to love me openly.#so fucking do better or get the fuck out#gender stuff#trans
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just saw the 'if ur oc was canon what discourse would there be' post and suddenly i remember that actually i dont want Celia & co to be seen by a large audience.
#Cecio would be woobified#Cecio would be the best & worst bc he would be treated like a baby that did no wrong#and anyone who went “no hes a bad person thats the point” would be hated#'bad representation' slapped on every single charecter#Celia... yea no im glad this is just some ocs in my head#Celia would be framed as a bitch and the true villan but for none of the right reasons#or a girlboss but i doubt it- shes to genderfuckery for that#she would be the woman when ppl talk about hating a female[*] charecter for what you love in a male one#Rametto...#would be made into a femboy. bc nonbinary amabs dont exist and ppl hate trans-femininity#ignoring that they would be happy as a girl/woman if not for the extremely toxic masculinity environment they are in#NEED to write the Rametto travels somewhere fic where she decides to be seen as a girl instead of being openly genderfucky#and is very happy#but yea ppl would ignore how Rametto & Celia are both people who dont fit the gender binary and cannot yet be who they truly are because#of the world around them#also just so few people would engage with the fact that these people live in poverty and in a society structured around denying them the#opportunity to get out#anyway its kinda fun to think of but also ive seen to many fandoms to not know how it would go and i dont like it
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Random thoughts about gender headcanons.
#fnafhs#further thoughts: meg and deuz are/were so t4t you can't change my mind#owynn is weird about his gender. he doesn't fully know if he's nonbinary or just a gnc guy#he goes back and forth on it a lot during his life. gender is confusing#chica identifies herself as demigirl/boy because she sees herself as half girl half boy#he could just go by bigender but he feels like that doesn't fully represent how he feels#golden doesn't have a specific label. they have a lot of gender thoughts™#fred is in a weird situation. he's always been very toxic masculinity™ but then freddy came out as a trans girl#and that kind of turned his world around in a lot of ways tbh. it made him revaluate everything#he and freddy talked a lot about how transition would affect him and how they could compromise to both be comfortable in the body#it led to him reconsidering his own identity a lot#onnie... is more complicated. I have a lot of incoherent thoughts on him#and some are. weird. so let's save them for another day
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literally begging and offering people five million dollars to go one fucking minute without saying dipper is trans.
#dipper is trans#<- tagging bc SO MANY OF YOU FUCKERS USE THAT TAG#stop#seriously#stop transing fictional characters#god#it makes me nauseous#ive blocked so many of the people in that tag it genuinely doesnt show up anymore#it's an empty tag for me#ive blocked over a thousand people in that tag.#over.#a .#thousand.#over a thousand people saying because a growing boy is struggling with toxic masculinity being shoved down his throat hes actually female#over a thousand people saying because a growing boy isnt hyper masculine he is actually a female#you people completely misunderstood the entire point of dipper vs manliness because your brains have rotten right out of your skulls
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thinking about benny being trans again. benny can you tell us what’s up with your fucking ghost gender please
#i LOVE transmasc butch benny. love love love. HOWEVER i think trans dude benny who’s internalized toxic masculinity while at the same time#resisting it is very crunchy. you’re gonna die because you’re so fucking vain because of what a dead man’s gender gave you yknow what i mean#the dismissiveness of where he came from who he was and who he loved because he doesn’t want any part of any of it the rejection of self of#family of community of who he was pre benny. and yet he doesn’t really wanna be benny as benny has been put out for him. his him is a suit#he outs on but he’s slowly tailoring the suit to fit him better. something veeeeery crunchy going on there#like obviously most of this has more to do with benny rejecting the bootriders and what it means to live in the post war world in the#wasteland (and also the racial/cultural othering mr. house pounces on) but then to throw gender in there on top of that. oooooo#benny gecko#benny fnv
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There's nothing quite as healing as two trans people being mildly transphobic towards a third trans person who happens to be a dick about gender and transness
#its like ah finally someone i can express this too without worrying about if they're using this as a way to express their general bigotry#someone who i can have a nuanced conversation with#it was my friend who's trans fem#and me#a trans man#being bitchy about a third trans person#another trans man#and my friend started the conversation with#'i feel a little bad saying this because you we're sitting right next to me but...'#basically this guy passes in the general public#and expects that to translate to this overwhelming trans and very queer space#so he expects to be read as a cis man#even though he wears shirts that show his top surgery scars and always has at least one trans pride thing on him#and he thinks that just existing with people thinking hes cis is going to single handedly end toxic masculinity#and then he comes out as trans to the other trans people expecting us to be shocked#like dude#you very obviously and visibly code yourself as trans#and this is a queer enough group to have picked up on that#we already know#he has almost a superiority complex about it#especially towards me#because were the only two trans men in the group#so he's acting like hes taking down toxic masculinity left and right and im copping out by being openly trans#like first of all i was here for a year before i even started transitioning#so being open was never a choice i made thats just the way it had to be#and second of all#get over yourself#you're just some guy#and you're not even that good at the job all of us are here to do#op
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#.#I can't sleep and my brain won't shut up#my therapist called me a people pleaser the other day#and I didn’t realize how true that was until I reflected on my relationships with friends...family...and exes#I let others hurt me or use me because I want love#my ex is one that really stuck out when I was journaling#like he did a lot of shit that hurt me and I brushed over it because#I loved him and I so desperately wanted him to love me#but a lot of what he had done was so toxic and stuck with me#he first broke up with me years ago and I asked him why and he tried to say there was no reason#but I was desperate to know why so I could change and he had said that I could stand to be happier#I didn't have to be sad all the time or anxious or depressing#then most recently psycho analyzing my decision regarding my gender#accusing me of trying to compensate for my brother's passing by acting masculine#saying he had hoped it was a phase#when I had reminded him of my gender questioning years before my brother had passed#saying my natural curly hair was unattractive#saying that cutting my hair didn't matter because it didn’t matter whether he was attracted to me or not#ours was a relationship that wasn’t about the physical#constantly snapping at me that he isn't trans when encouraging him to wear whatever clothing he likes meaning skirts#and panties...thigh high socks and etc...#so much more but those are what hurt most#the ones I can think of#I don't think I want another relationship after that#I think I have a lot of stuff to work through before I even consider a relationship#because a lot of those things he had said and done did traumatize me
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#being bigender/genderfluid feels kind of like the bisexuality conundrum. like.. just cause I'm one thing today doesn't mean I'm not both#just because I'm guy mode today doesn't mean I can't be girl mode tomorrow. being transfem one day doesn't trap me into a forever of she/her#tag talk#like the bisexuality thing where it's like “just because my current relationship is het doesn't make me any less bi”#(which I don't personally relate to cause I'm very very very gayly into men but it's the closest simile I can think of right now)#I need people to know I'm trans to keep my options open. I need to be visibly genderfuck so that I don't get locked into expectations#because the thing I fear more than death is a cage (wow look at me referencing lotr I'm so cool and smart)#like. I can't get caged into gender. I won't get locked into what people think I should be.#being a trans woman means nothing except what I want it to mean. I refuse to derive my meaning from other's perspective#idk. just thoughts. because being visible to the public eye is stressful sometimes#a guy was talking on the phone at self checkout and was like “I know what a woman sounds like” and I don't think he was talking about me...#but also my paranoia kicked in and I dropped my voice on purpose because being seen as Trying to be a woman is still terrifying#like. idkkkkkkk. I don't even know how to say it without sounding stupid#and also that thing where voicing internalized transphobia directed inwards just makes people think you're being outwardly transphobic#but like. I want to be someone who is. not someone who is trying to be.#this is where I go cheesy validation mode and go “I'm not trying to be a woman i AM a woman” and I get thirteen reddit upvotes or whatever#but like. it's the chronic man-in-a-dress fear. which is both toxic masculinity and also transphobia.#whooo intersectionality ftw I'm experiencing two forms of internalized fucked-up-ness isn't that so cool?#anyway. that one line from All The Shine: I'm not trying to come hard. I'm trying to come me.#I don't wanna be trying for anything extra. the constant accusation of trying to turn yourself into something your not.#as if your true self is this fucking husk of human skin that you've hidden inside your entire life.#I just want the freedom to be myself without all this fucking cultural detritus. this ideological scum that clings to you as you emerge#I just want out from under this massive rock.
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As someone w pcos, fuck right off. I don’t take spiro for “gEnDeR afFiRmiNg feEwiNgS” I take it because without it I get extremely painful and irritating cystic acne, I’m chronically tired, and I start to lose my hair, plus a handful of other physically taxing affects. I take spironolactone to treat the symptoms of my autoimmune diseases.
Comparing treatment for people suffering symptoms of physical conditions, to people taking drugs/surgery to change they way they look is not only grossly inaccurate but wildly offensive.
TIL that hormone replacement therapy is used by older women when going through the menopause to ease symptoms. i learnt this from my mother who is a retired nurse who is now a medical advocate for older women and she's big mad about how hrt has been demonised the scary "trans treatment" when in her mind its a marvellous bit of modern medicine that can improve the lives of so many for whatever reasons they need it. more estrogen (or testosterone) for all!
Yup cis men and cis women are prescribed testosterone, estrogen, etc for a variety of reasons.
#as someone who’s close with a handful of women open abt their exp with menopause#this is so fucking unfair#it trivializes the drastic physical experiences women go through#get back to me when trans women need to take#estrogen to lessen their heat flashes#also#stfu abt joe rogan#he takes testosterone because he’s the embodiment of toxic masculinity#but insecure toxic masculinity#gender#gender critical#radfem#radfems do touch#radfem safe#radfems do interact
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