#totally not projecting with the asexual headcanons

[stupidlittlespirit]

i've seen the "he'd never date a woman" thing with ford so much, which i think about a lot. like it's one thing to just headcanon him as gay but there are a lot of posts where internalized or blatant misogyny shine bright. one i saw straight up had multiple people going "he respects women too much to want to date/fuck them" like hello? do you realize what you are implying ab real women when you say that?

i'm not great at articulating my thoughts but i think it's especially prominent with ford because of his intelligence + unconventional demeanor. he's off-putting and a genius and didn't want to give up his work to settle down into a standard marriage with kids. women can't be weird or smart in the same way men can for example and all women want the typical white picket fence nuclear family american dream. therefore you are off your gourd if you think he'd ever want to be with a woman. so there’s that on top of the already rampant misogyny present in fandom spaces with shipping especially.

there's also the whole "gibe the oracle your phone number" / "i miss dimension 52" that could have some implications if you want but ig i can't blame people for forgetting jeselbraum because hirsch barely expands on her LOL. but basically it’s all up to interpretation and it really isn’t all that wild to think he could be attracted to women.

personally i just enjoy projecting my own sexuality onto him. “what gender are you attracted to?” don’t care. can i show you my isopod colonies. “how would you describe your sexual attraction?” uhhhhhhhhhhh (<- is probably demisexual)

So, I deleted my post because I felt like I was rehashing points I'd previously made a million times before, but I stand by it.

I want to address what you said and then I want to kind of go on a tangent (shocker, I know) about the interpretation of GF at large because I've been engaging with a lot of Lynch stuff recently, who we know was by and large the most influential person for Hirsch, and one of the biggest things around Lynch's work is the beauty of subjectiveness. I think Hirsch carries that legacy with him at the heart of his work.

So yeah, the comments about Ford 'respecting women too much' is insane. If anyone thinks that they are probably the kind of person who doesn't respect a woman anyway. If your hands sully the one you touch, perhaps your hands were not so clean to begin with, yknow? That's the vibe I always get with those kinds of comments.

Society approaches women so differently from men in this regard, as you said. Where a man is 'quirky' and 'cool', a woman is 'annoying' or 'trying too hard'. She suffers for her differences where as he profits for them. She can only commit the crime of being Cringe, and in my experience, people will forgive many things but never that.

There is certainly merit in the way in which a lot of people recognise that Ford is partial to things that are 'weird' or that are shunned by society, especially because of his hands, and that plays well into Queer culture. It's a feeling most of us (if not all of us) experience. So I can see where there connection comes and it's totally cool to hold that belief. Queer is BIG umbrella and I think he falls under it myself, what with the ace/aro stuff. We're given much more canon evidence of him being ace/aro, in fact, than of anything else. I maintain personally that canon Ford is asexual and aromantic, and that romance doesn't factor into his life in the way it does for 'normal' people. It's why when Bill mentions that quiz Ford does in his dreams in TBoB it makes me think of my own struggles with asexuality: "I'm not normal, everyone else is feeling this type of way and I'm feeling that type of way. There's something wrong with me. I'm weird. I need answers." It feels very much like Ford is attempting to understand that side of himself and is very afraid of the answer.

The Oracle stuff makes me so sad it was never expanded on more. I really love Jheselbraum and it felt like she was one of the first people that Ford met who was of higher intelligence than him, and who actually did just want to help. She extended an extreme kindness to him. Whether it was more than that doesn't even really matter. There was still a relationship formed there that can't be discounted. But again, it can be interpreted in lots of different ways.

This is the other thing. There's nothing wrong with projecting yourself onto your favourite character. We all do it. I do it. It's fun and it brings comfort. And that's okay! But that means we can all do it. So it's unfair for someone else to say "you're wrong for thinking XYZ about Ford" because we're all just kids in a sandbox playing house with these characters. You can't gatekeep someone else's enjoyment.

You can believe Ford is gay. You can believe Ford is ace. You can believe Ford is whatever you want him to be, but what you can't do is then rescind that privilege from someone else just because you don't like it or because it makes you feel better about yourself to punch down on someone else. People are entitled to their own interpretations of media, even if they make you feel uncomfortable or whatever.

Which brings us onto Lynch. Now, I'm not a huge surrealist fan, I like Lynch most for the person that he was (ugh I'm still so sad to type that). One of the biggest things about him was that he valued the intelligence of his audience and respected them enough to allow them the space to interpret his works as they saw fit. He never wanted to define his films in a way that would prevent another person from taking their own meaning from it. There was no definition, only feeling.

There's a clip of him being asked to expand on his meaning for one of his films, I forget which one, and he just replies "no". It's so fucking good because that, to me, is art. It is fundamentally subjective in its existence and the way I view something is not going to be the way someone else does, so why take that interpretation away from one to give to another just for their approval? We may align in thoughts but the way we process the media is going to be entirely different. Why? Because we're different people. Our experiences throughout our lives have informed the way we interact with things.

I think Alex Hirsch enjoys other people making their own interpretations of his work in a similar way. Just as Lynch does. Hirsch wants you, the audience, to derive personal meaning. He doesn't need (or even want) to tell you how to engage with the themes because why would he? It would only make him work harder to get a simpler point across and it would risk alienating parts of his audience. He wants the audience to connect and to find their own familiarities, and he respects his audience enough to give them the space to let them do that. He's often evasive when he's asked to tie things down firmly. To be honest, I think he should be braver in just saying "no, I don't want to answer that" sometimes. You can tell he wants to but he also wants to engage with people so it can be hard.

People are very desperate to want to have answers in black and white. They need things to be canon in order to feel vindicated, when in actual fact, an idea is just as legitimate when it comes to fiction. Fiction IS an idea. It isn't tangible and therefore cannot be quantified, so it can be interpreted however.

Anyway, by forcing your interpretation of the work onto others (ie. 'Ford would never', 'Stan would never' etc), I think you fundamentally misunderstand what the purpose of the work is. You're taking away the light of other people because you're scared yours doesn't shine bright enough. And you're scared because other people previously took your light away, but all you're doing is repeating the cycle and taking away from the rest of us.

Your ideas can coexist with others. No one is right and in that, everyone is right. Does that make sense? Idk.

I voice my opinions of disliking certain ways the fandom engages with elements of the show, but I don't think they have less right to have those ideas than I do to have my own. I interpret Bill as one way and someone else will interpret him another. That's okay. You're allowed to do that. But I don't think you're allowed to be actively vicious to others over it.

Engage with honesty and recognise that other people enjoys things in different ways, and it's okay not to control the narrative of that sometimes.

I have my criticisms of Hirsch but I also have a lot of love for the guy, and one of the biggest things I respect about him is him allowing us to draw our own beliefs. Do I think he could stand to do some things better? Yes. But that doesn't mean I don't love what I already have from his work.

I'm not sure if this makes sense, I'm having a bit of a Day, but I hope it at least reads well enough to convey my meaning.

[celester0se]

Uhhhh sexuality headcanons because yes

Oh yeah more drawings that i have sitting in my gallery

[ultrafangirlishness]

aroace hobie inspired by @anotheroneofthegaysharks !

[peerless-minty-cucumber]

Actually can't believe I got "You can't keep this shit in the tags"'d from OP I feel like a fucking celebrity rn

Part-spirit tiger LQG assumes most cultivators have spirit animal ancestry or made pacts or otherwise have inherited traits.

He can smell the severe and constant stress on SJ, but assumes SJ is bullying other disciples. LQG's solution is of course to fight SJ himself so SJ can let out his aggression in a more appropriate way.

Everything is the same until the mission where SJ saves LQG's life. His instincts and SJ's bearing tell him that SJ tried to kill him, but he smells stress giving way to relief so he just asks if something has attacked his back.

Since SJ saw LQG's initial expression, he was ready for a fight and is somewhat flat footed. He couldn't says that obviously something was attacking LQG's back, what else was sj going to do, give him a hair cut?

Sadly this piques LQG's interest and he starts following SJ around even more and finally catches SJ being bullied. Worse, he realizes SJ's 'den' is the woodshed.

LQG interferes with the bullies and SJ just about loses it because this is going to make everything worse and LQG off handedly says that they can't afford to offend the Liu family even if they think Shen Jiu's relatives won't care

SJ's reaction to that (along with other things over the years) makes LQG realize SJ isn't in fact some prissy young master.

So LQG makes it his mission to get SJ to throw away the facade and show his true self. SJ would rather kill him, thanks.

LQG does start correcting SJ's social faux pas though is dicey bc sometimes SJ does know and messes up on purpose for strategy and LQG gains real appreciation for his insight. LQG also gives SJ a bunch of cultivation boosting and stabilizing pills bc it's no big deal for him to get them and maybe SJ didn't know to ask?

That starts a gift giving war where sj gives things he thinks will be insulting and LQG thinks they've started courting.

(it's ace4ace but LQG wants to sleep together cuddled up and purring. SJ still isn't sure LQG knows what sex is)

[turn-my-hollow-purple]

AOT Sexuality and Gender Headcanons

idc that no one asked for this you guys can chill I just wanted to share... may or may not have projected on a few... *cough* Annie *cough* Hange *cough*

Eren: straight; he/him pronouns; he’s an ally but he’s very clueless about it all; “Armin what’s a pronoun? OH! Yeah just normal one’s- well not that the other pronouns aren’t- I just… fuck. Yay gay! Wait, is that offensive?”

Mikasa: bisexual with a preference for men; she/her pronouns; her interactions with Sasha, Historia, and Annie were her bi awakenings fr, however her man Eren always comes first. 

Armin: okay controversial, but he’s panromantic guys, he just loves people; I could also see him being demisexual, only having sexual relationships with people he really really is intimate with; he/him or they/them pronouns, but he’s not necessarily nonbinary or gender queer, he just doesn’t care; “Do I like men and women? I like anyone even if they’re nonbinary! It’s about their hearts.”

Sasha: straight; she/her pronouns; definitely an ally; she buys Jean and Armin the craziest shit during pride month and thinks it’s so fun; wears a “my best friends are gay!” shirt to pride rallies

Connie: AROACE KING!; he/him pronouns; he literally couldn’t care less about sexual or romantic attraction, he just loves people platonically and that’s just not a problem for him

Jean: Maybe also controversial… but he’s bi with no preference; he/him; he just doesn’t like making his sexuality a big deal; he likes boys and girls because both are hot and that’s all there is to it

Annie: I feel like there’s not a lot of commentary on her sexuality, but I think she’s panromantic and asexual; pronouns are she/they; I just feel like she doesn’t like to be perceived… she just exists and it’s not that she doesn’t have sex, she totally would with her partners, she just doesn’t experience that sexual attraction, it’s just romantic and personality based

Reiner: bi (probably gay he just doesn’t know it yet) and internally homophobic (kind of joking…); he/him; he just… he’s confused guys, he’s trying his best right now

Bertholdt: I lowkey have no thoughts on him and I think that’s fine. I love him, however he’s probably one of the token straights, but one of the ones who doesn’t care; “Oh damn it’s pride month… yay!”

Levi: alright fam, as much as I love this fucker, he’s probably gay… *sighs*; he literally never talks about his sexuality or romantic relationships though, so it’s just not a big deal to him…. The only people who know his sexuality are Erwin (duh) and Hange; he/him pronouns; “what the fuck is a valentine…?” 

Erwin: he fluctuates in my mind between bi and gay so do with that what you will; he/him pronouns; he enjoys teasing and flirting guys what can I say!; “you’re looking especially dapper today Captain Levi” (said with the intent of sleeping with Levi tonight)

Hange: YIPPEE MY LOVE!; probably omnisexual though I have no idea what their preference would be (hopefully fem enbies not projecting or anything); obviously they/them pronouns, I think they’re both nonbinary and gender queer; “wait, not everyone is gay???”

Ymir: LESBIAN OF COURSE?; she/they pronouns; she just exists in a realm where her only love is Historia or else she’s not alive (awkward….); “I hate straight cis men”

Historia: she also teeters in my opinion… I don’t know if she’s fully lesbian or just bi so again, do with that what you will; she/her pronouns; “I just love love! But mainly Ymir”

[jinxed-sinner]

hey fellow aroaces. can we not act like fics being tagged as Radioapple (or any ship for that matter) inherently means the fics are ignoring that Alastor is asexual?

I saw someone (claiming to be "local aroace Alastor defender") imply the amount of Radioapple fics vs the amount of queerplatonic Radioapple fics is bad. It's not, here's why:

Not everything included in a fic is going to be tagged because AO3 has a tag limit

Just because it's not tagged doesn't mean it's not in the fic (see above)

572 fics in the Alastor/Lucifer Magne | Morningstar tag on AO3 are tagged with Asexual Alastor, 135 are tagged with Demisexual Alastor, and 54 are tagged with Grey-Asexual Alastor, meaning a total of 761 fics have Alastor tagged as somewhere on the asexuality spectrum. This doesn't include potentially untagged fics, fics tagged as some variant of Aromantic Alastor, or fics focusing on other ships besides Radioapple

It is not inherently bad to write a fic where Alastor isn't asexual because it won't affect Alastor canonically being asexual

Not every aroace person is sex/romance repulsed (me for example)

Alastor's position on the asexuality spectrum has not been specified, so some people might headcanon him as somewhere between asexual and allosexual (demisexual, for example)

If you've never been in a QPR it can be hard to write it. I am asexual and I have done research on queerplatonic relationships and STILL can't fully grasp it. I wouldn't feel comfortable writing queerplatonic anything as a result because I don't think I'd be able to do it effectively (and also me being aroace doesn't stop me from being a hopeless romantic who projects my desires for a romantic relationship onto fictional characters)

ITS FANFICTION

Anyway sex and romance repulsed aroace people please for the love of all that is both holy and unholy stop acting like your experience being sex- and romance-repulsed is a universal aroace experience because it's not. Being aroace or even just asexual or aromantic is a complex experience and not everyone has the same experience of being sex- and romance-repulsed

[kit-screams-into-the-future]

a couple of guys have been throwing around doc being ace in the tags of my recent post so naturally. i have thoughts. allow me to subject you to them:

i agree. that man is asexual. clara is also asexual. i would think both of them are a little bit bi as well!

not that either of them think too hard about it though. if you ask them they would say they are 100% attracted to the opposite sex and for the most part that's true. but doc totally had some sort of vaguely homosexual rivalry with another scientist while working on the manhattan project and clara probably had a crush on another girl when she was little. also the 1980s has a lot more Gender than the century previous so once the shock of women wearing pants wears off she's going to be like hold on a sec.... they're kinda cooking in this century

(clara would not use those words in that order fs but that's the only way i can convey that lmao)

none of them would look into those experiences. they'd just assume oh every girl thought this one specific other girl was like super pretty and smart and cool growing up. every scientist has an infuriatingly stubborn yet brilliant and objectively good-looking rival in the same department. that's just how it is!

bisexual tangent over. back to asexualism

doc and clara are more the "enjoy each other's company" couple than anything like sure they'll kiss or whatever and that's nice but they'll have infinitely more fun talking about their interests

they'd probably only get schnasty because they know that's just what couples are meant to do. like they'll try it once and they'll agree it was a solid 7/10 experience but do you know what's a guaranteed 10/10 every time? 49th reread of journey to the centre of the earth!! woohoo!!

which brings me. to the real point of this post. where did jules and verne come from.

as an ace doclara truther i initially subscribed to the "they travelled in time to adopt a couple of orphans who were otherwise going to die and be lost to time" bc it's cute and it's like how doc saved clara so now they're in love. but the more i thought about it i was like hold on. something's up here

because doc spent 10 years building that train so the first thing he'd want to do with it (besides going into the future to get parts for it to fly) is return to let marty know he's alright right. like in the movie sure he picked up einie first but that's bc that's einie

so unless those boys are freshly picked up off the great depression streets logically i do not think that can be the case. as nice as this headcanon is

so my next thought was like ok. we can still make this adoption thing work. maybe these orphans have naturally occurred in the 1880s (<- certainly one of the string of words i have made)

but we know doc. sure he's had his moments of flipping the bird to the space-time continuum but in general he tries his best to keep it intact i think

taking up a blacksmithing job? minor improvements to the lives of the citizens of hill valley. probably not going to cause anything major. also he needs money. marrying a schoolteacher? she was going to fall off a cliff and die originally so it's not like that's going to make anything worse. (although now a lot more kids are literate in this timeline so something is definitely different. but also what is she gonna do, not teach?)

but adopting two kids without knowing their fates beforehand.... risky business. who knows who those two are supposed to be. and it's not like they can pick up two kids who they know for sure would probably pass without their intervention bc doc is a doc from the future but he's not THAT kind of doc from the future.

so with that said. begrudgingly. i think jules and verne are biologically theirs. unfortunate for the adoption headcanons but that's the only logical way i can see it

not to say the adoption headcanons are wrong and bad i just don't know how they could obtain two children without worrying about messing things up. so if anyone has any ideas how please enlighten me

[love-laugh-daydreamarevolt]

• Tsuya is aroace as well, she's in a very happy QPR with ochako

• Kyoka and Katsuki are both Demiaroace. thisbis definitely NOT me projecting on my favs. romance and sex is but a side note. music and hero work is much more important as it should be.

• Tooru is cupioromantic , she thought he wanted romance but realised she just rly liked rom coms

• Shinsou is Amicusoromantic but also uses the demiromantic label ( no no definitely not me)

• Kouda is aroacevague. would just like to be nonverbal and left alone with his animals please.

ACE/ARO BNHA CHARACTERS BECAUSE I SAY SO

Starting strong, Midoriya is asexual. No, this is not self-projection. Totally not.

Mina is aromantic, maybe pansexual, maybe not. Her and Izuku are ace/aro buddies.

Aizawa is gray-sexual. And does not accept acephobic or arophobic comments in his class, than you very much.

Midnight is aroace sex positive. Yes, she’s not lesbian wine aunt. She’s the aroace wine aunt.

Snipe is aroace as well, in a queer platonic relationship with a man.

Really, when someone bothers one of these three, they always end up together sighing and saying “Allos...”

By popular demand, Todoroki is demisexual. I’ll say, he gives off those vibes.

Tenya is demi as well. He was told he had to listen to Demi Lovato as a ritual. He studies with Sober and workouts are always with Confident.

Ojiro is still figuring it out. But the odds of him being in the spectrum are high.

Monoma is ace, case closed. His dream is to beat up 1A, live in a mansion with pets, nice clothes and garlic bread.

Tetsutetsu is ace grayromantic. He’s figuring out his feelings towards Kendo.

Kendo, a demisexual goddess.

Setsuna Tokage and Manga Fukidashi are ace. I don’t have proof, but I have no doubts either.

Kurogiri is the ace of the aces. The ultimate asexual.

Shigaraki is following his steps.

[anodymalion]

ok I am in fact using this as an excuse to make a long post about this thank you thank you asjksdjfaljdf

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Interpreting Yuri as asexual is my very very favorite type of headcanon, which is one that 1. is compellingly coded in the source material (even if that wasn't the creator's intent), 2. is thematically relevant to what the piece of media is Trying To Do as a whole, and 3. just means a lot to me, personally, because I said so.

Coded in the source material

Yuri’s short program is “eros”, aka desire (you can interpret what “eros” means in various ways, but YOI itself explicitly refers to sexual love, at least in the English translations). Yuri struggles with this. Hard. He can’t come up with an answer when asked what eros means to him. His big revelatory moment about desire is that it’s how he feels about wanting to eat his favorite food (omg… boy). Even as the season goes on and the way he views the Eros program changes, the program doesn’t ever really embody the idea of eros as sexuality or romance (which was how the other characters expect him to interpret it) but rather as a desire to keep Victor in his life.

Like look. I’m obviously not going to say that the creator intended any kind of ace subtext to be there. I kind of doubt it was her intent. But goddamn is the subtext there.

2. Thematic relevance

The central theme throughout YOI is “love”, and especially loving people in a way that inspires you both to be your best selves: Yuri learning that the people in his life truly love and support him; Victor finding someone who makes him feel joy about skating again.

Like, Yuri’s whole skating theme for the Grand Prix is literally about him exploring what love looks like to him, even when it takes a form that other people don’t totally understand. Viewing all this through a lens of him being ace is really compelling. It adds depth to the idea of learning how to express the way you feel love even when it looks different than what other people expect. I think it’s a really delicious layer that adds even more nuance to what the show is getting at.

Besides, it’s an interesting way of viewing the criticism of the show that occurred for it not being 100% explicit about them being a couple (aka people getting mad because the kiss in ep 7 is blocked by Victor’s arm lmaooo). Like, ok, did you see the ending scene of ep 9? Did you see ep 10??? They definitely, definitely love each other, in whatever way that means for them. Their relationship takes a form that’s pretty different than the other way people in the show are going about romantic relationships, but that doesn’t mean it isn’t real for them. That is very much in line with the main themes of the show.

3. Means a lot to me

In the final scene of the penultimate episode, Yuri tells Victor that they should end their coaching relationship after the Grand Prix ends. This is because he thinks he’s holding Victor back, that Victor would be happier being free to go back to skating on his own instead of being Yuri’s coach. When I watched this (and, I’ll be honest, this is completely me projecting here) I REALLY interpreted this as an ace thing. I think it’s pretty easy to internalize the idea when you’re asexual that you just won’t be… enough, for other people. In my case I ended up a strong impulse to self-sabotage relationships because I would rather be the one to end things than to let someone else tell me that who I am as a person is fundamentally lacking. Yuri destroying a connection he desperately wants because he thinks there’s something about him that is holding Victor back from a life he’d be truly happy with? Oh yeah. I can fucking relate to that.

Also: YOI came out in 2016, which was the absolute peak of hostility to ace people I was seeing on this site. It was bad here. At the same time Tumblr was going wild over this show. Everyone was watching it. Seeing a whole site of people absolutely adore a character I very deeply in my heart believed to be ace? Extremely vindicating.

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In conclusion Yuri is asexual because it is fun and interesting that way, and also because of this:

[monstersandmaw]

First time romancing Astarion, and I'm all aboard the ace-spec interpretation of Astarion that I've seen floating around. As someone who's ace, I definitely resonated with him in this scene anyway. That hug reaction from Astarion. Oof.

And the fact that if you also romance Halsin, one of the dialogue options Astarion can give you is to say something like: 'it's not because... we haven't... in a while... is it?'... My heart cracked painfully at that, I'm not going to lie. I have spoken almost exactly that sentence before, worrying that just kissing and physical affection is not enough for someone who's not ace. To have that validated by Astarion was really special for me.

(aka, I really didn't get to know Astarion very well in my first playthrough because he didn't approve of my absolute doormat of a Tav (Kaerlyn the drow) and I didn't spend much time with him, but now with my sassy monk...? I get it. I totally get why you all love Astarion so much).

EDIT: additional dialogue from Raphael talking about Cazador indicates that it might be linked to vampirism (my own headcanon for vampires anyway is they can't get aroused without having fed recently, not just BG3 vamps, but in general)

[some poly-ace-astarion thoughts under the cut too]

I'm not 100% convinced that Astarion is really ok with the consensual poly situation in-game, because he famously doesn't say what he actually wants and is the king of manipulating others, especially in sexual situations (e.g. what Cazador sent him out to do, and how). I'm not sure if I'll reload a save and just have Halsin as a friend...

The dialogue when you check in with Astarion before the Halsin scene is... strained? Odd??? Maybe it's just me over-analysing it. He sounded strained though - his tone high pitched and more grandiose than he'd been in previous cut-scenes, where he was more softly-spoken. It sounded more like early-game Astarion to me...

Also, my dialogue options may have been totally randomised the next time I approached Astarion after a steamy night with Halsin, but they sounded kind of strained there too, and I got the 'I can never say no to you' one, which set my ace people-pleaser alarm bells ringing...

As someone who's poly-romantic but asexual, I can project/imagine here that Astarion has come to care for Tav a lot (more than he ever expected, for sure), and he genuinely wants Tav to be happy. He trusts Tav enough to know that Tav respects his autonomy and right to decide things for himself, and values Astarion for who he is, so Astarion is intellectually/conceptually happy for Tav to get something from Halsin that Astarion is not providing (sex), but perhaps emotionally that additional fact and dynamic is harder to deal with.

That could totally be me projecting though, because that's how I'd react if my husband (not ace) and I (ace) were in that situation (we've discussed it between us, actually XD). Feelings of guilt and inadequacy around sex itself are apparently very common with us ace folks, even in very healthy and happy relationships.

Anyway, that turned into a ramble I didn't intend on a rainy Sunday afternoon. I'm not looking to start any discourse about this though. If you don't see Astarion that way, or had a different experience and interpretation, that's all totally valid and I'm not trying to invalidate it in anyway.

[god-damnit-vinne]

guys i totally dont project onto characters i love (headcanons asexual transmasc shuichi)

[a-roguish-gambit]

I love how when someone headcanons a not totally sex repulsed character as asexual or on the aro/ace spectrum people can't just... respectfully disagree. They gotta pull out ALLL the aphobia.

"x character can't be asexual cause they enjoy sex and have it often"

"X character is too dirty minded to be ace"

"x character can't be in a healthy relationship if they are ace"

"some ace people I met don't agree with this headcanon that means you can't headcanon it either."

"as a non ace person this character doesn't seem ace to me"

I've come across so many comments on ace Gambit posts alone and even anti ace Gambit posts....like Jesus fuck what is this, 2017 again? Let me enjoy my dumb headcanons in peace. It's my comfort character and I get to decide how to project onto it!

[lilyginnyblackv2]

My Queer Fruits Basket Headcanons

Image: An image of the bisexual flag with images of Haru, Ayame, and Mine in the middle of the flag. On the top part of the flag there is white text that states their names (Haru, Ayame, Mine) and on the bottom half of the flag is large white text that states: Bisexual.

Thoughts: I feel it's very common to view Haru as bisexual in the fandom for very obvious reasons. For Ayame and Mine they give me chaotic bisexual vibes, but I can totally understand if some people view Ayame as Pansexual. That's an another queer interpretation of Ayame that I can totally understand. I also know that some people view a few other characters in Furuba as bisexual, and I can see and understand some of those as well. But these three are the main ones for me (and there is only so many characters I can fit onto one flag, lmao).

Image: The image of the AroAce flag with Kazuma Sohma in the center of it. White text with Kazuma Sohma is across the top part of the flag and white text with Aromantic Asexual is across the bottom part of the flag.

Thoughts: In one of the little messages that Takaya-sensei wrote on the side of one of the chapters (which was translated and included in the old TokyoPop manga volumes), she mentioned how Kazuma tried dating a woman once. It didn't work out and he is dedicated to Kyo and his family. Plus, maybe its just projection (since I am aroace), but Kazuma just gives off big aroace vibes to me. He doesn't seem to care about romance in the slightest, and just seems to be very happy and content with being a parent and caring for his Kyo (his son) and the other Sohma children (also, eventually, his grandchildren and Tohru).

Image: The pansexual flag with an image of Momiji (post glow-up) in the center of the flag. "Pansexual" is written across the bottom of the flag in large, white text, and "Momiji Sohma" is written across the top of the flag in large, black text.

Thoughts: There are no really thoughts here. There's nothing that really hints or even vaguely implies a pansexual reading of Momiji, it's just more how I feel like this is a sexual orientation that works for Momiji as a character. I can just easily see this for him, is what I am saying, lol.

Image: The image of Kyo and Tohru from the Kyoto Trip, where Kyo takes Tohru's hand is overlayed the demisexual flag. Kyo x Tohru is written in large, black text at the top of the flag, and Demisexual is written in large, black text at the bottom of the flag.

Thoughts: Honestly, I can see both Kyo and Tohru being demiromantic as well. This may be a hot take, but I feel pretty much all Shonen Jump Battle Shonen protags are on the aspec spectrum in some way. A lot of the time, people are just like "they're dense protagonists" but an aspec reading of them really explains so much, imo. Kyo is basically a Battle Shonen protag stuck in a shoujo, so that's why I feel this way about Kyo. Tohru is very similar in a way though too. Kyo does show to be a bit more aware of sexual things in general, more so than Tohru anyway, but both are very "dense" in regards to things like this, and both of them really require a bond to form before we see them thinking about romantic and sexual things in regards to their relationship. Of course, there is a trauma element involved with all of this as well, but I don't think that negates an aspec reading of the Kyoru relationship.

Image: The gay flag with an image of Hajime and Mutsuki from Fruits Basket Another sharing Valentine's Day sweets with each other. Next to their image is the term "Gay" written in large, black text. At the top of the flag is white text that reads: "Hajime x Mutsuki" and at the bottom of the page is white text that reads: "Fruits Basket Another."

Thoughts: Among fans who have read all of Fruits Basket Another, this pairing is actually fairly common and "popular." I've written posts before about the queer and romantic undertones to their interactions and the above image that I used, from the textless omake at the end of Vol. 4 of Fruits Basket Another, is basically a soft confirmation (in my eyes) that the two are a canon romantic pairing.

Image: Images of Mutsuki, Ayame, Momiji, and Ritsu are all overlaid on the genderqueer flag. There is large, black text in the middle of the flag that reads: "Genderqueer" and the character names for Mutsuki and Ayame are at the top of the flag, while the character names for Momiji and Ritsu are at the bottom of the flag. They are all written in large white text.

Thoughts: There are definitely more specific queer headcanons that you can have for all of these characters and their gender presentation, but I'm choosing genderqueer for my own headcanon because I feel it is a more simplified, umbrella-like term that can fit all of them. If you are a fan of Fruits Basket, then I feel the inclusion of Momiji, Ritsu, and Ayame are all very self-explanatory. But, I know not as many people are as familiar with Fruits Basket Another and Mutsuki, so the main reason Mutsuki is here is because of these moments from Another:

Basically, Mutsuki absolutely loves Ayame and is similar to Ayame in the sense that he is comfortable (and likes/enjoys) wearing dresses and engaging in more outwardly feminine appearances. He's nothing like Yuki in this regard and very happily states that Ayame went out of his way to make the dress (costume) that he wore for Sports Day.

These are all just my personal queer headcanons for some Fruits Basket characters and pairings. This was sort of spurred on by the recent artwork that Takaya-sensei did of Ayame for this new year (2025 - The Year of the Snake). In this new artwork, Ayame is extremely feminine looking and his queerness as a character really shines through, so it caused me to think about this headcanons again and just write this up.

Feel free to share your own thoughts and opinions on those and have a great night, everyone! :D

[fox-pr1nce]

PLEASE tell us your pride headcanons for Ashley and Andrew, those two are the queerest "straight" couple I've ever seen 🏳️‍🌈😈🏳️‍🌈😈🏳️‍🌈😈🏳️‍🌈😈🏳️‍🌈😈🏳️‍🌈😈🏳️‍🌈😈🏳️‍🌈

Ok ok ok :3

Starting w/ Ashley cause I have many many thoughts abt her. I see her as asexual! We see many times in game where she views sex in a transactional way. Getting pregnant to get out of the apartment, putting her number on the wall to use her body to get money, and after the vision when she thinks to herself that it’s a way she can keep Andrew close. And never do we see her actually desiring sex for sex. It’s always a means to an end for her. Someone else has def analyzed her in more detail and more coherently, but I needed to word dump abt this lol. As for her orientation in a romantic sense, I’m not totally sure. I wanna say she’s also somewhere on the aro spec, but that could also be me projecting on her lol. She definitely loves Andrew, but I don’t think it’s necessarily romantic, but also not merely platonic or familial. Some secret 4th option that comes from their toxic codependency. 

Now for Andrew! I see him as either bi or pan. He’s def into ladies, but there’s just something about him that screams not straight lol. I think I’m gonna settle on that he’s bi w/ a preference for women. That feels right to me. He’s pretty much the same with romantic orientation as he is w/ his sexuality imo

[osmorino]

HAPPY PRIDE MONTH!! (also the con was pretty fun) Anyways, have my headcanons. Peppino: Trans masc & bi (totally not projecting) Pepperman: Aro/Ace (aromantic & asexual) Vigilante: Straight Ally Noise: Bi Noisette: Pan Fake Peppino: Genderfluid & Asexual Pizzahead: bro he hella gay /lhj

[twsthc]

savanaclaw headcanons and projection 🦁

...this is what the poll from like last week was for. sorry heartslabyul and diasomnia fans teehee </3

⚠️ warnings: self harm, eating disorders

last updated: may 4, 2024

LEONA KINGSCHOLAR !! 🦁🥩

🇲🇱🇹🇿🇰�� UNLABLED + INTERSEX TRANSFEMNEU (she/him)

APPEARANCE HCS:

Leona is actually the twst character I've drawn the most

I hc all beastmen to have fur everywhere thats elastic and akin to mink skin

You know the texture of squishmallows? It's like that.

╰Doesn't include the thick hair in other places (head, facial, armpits, chest, pubes, etc)

Lots of scars in general + healed dermis self harm scars on thighs

Has a flat nose like a cat

RANDOM HCS:

Savanaclaw mom/big sister...

Overstimulating thunderstorm? Go whine to Leona. Diasomnia students bothering you? Get leona to deal with them. Your food is too hot? Cry to Leona.

During freshman year she was way more outgoing and extroverted but eventually She mellowed out (depression moment)

She used to change hairstyles a lot before settling on freeform dreads

Also got into way more fights back then (also how she became housewarden)

Now she is (kind of) calm. Tranquil. At peace. Has depressive episodes. Relaxed.

Mostly does her own thing, and if that "thing" isn't sleeping it's some other bullshit the underclassmen roped her into

SHE CAN SEW AND MAKE JEWLERY

╰While wandering the castle one day, Leona stumbled upon the servants quarters. They taught him life skills (mending clothes, cooking, etc :3)

Despite being a big sis figure if she doesn't want to do something she Will Not.

And if she does do it afterall it's because she gets something out of it.

NPD, GAD, PDD (persistent depressive disorder)

RUGGIE BUCCHI !! 🍩🌼

🇺🇸🇧🇷 UNLABLED + TRANS MAN (he/him)

APPEARANCE HCS:

Similarly to Leona he has a furry textured skin

Though his body hair is more coarse and longer due to him being a hyena

He has a lazy eye and tipped ear similar to Ed from The Lion King

Probably my second most drawn twst character :3

Healed epidermis self harm scars on inner wrists 🥶

RANDOM HCS:

He's like the cooler afrolatino Luke Blovad

He's either winning the idgaf wars or dying on the battlefield

Has an insane collection of weird shirts from thrift stores

And he makes it work every single time! his outfits go crazy!

More connected to his AADOS/Gullah side than his Brazilian side

Though he does speak Portugese!

In fact, he speaks multiple languages because polyglots are marketable

The type of person to take a half empty bottle of ketchup and rotting apple from an empty ass fridge and make dinner happen

Constantly going to Scarabia to snag their party leftovers

Used to be a scene kid!!!! This is canon and true!!!! Pls trust me

diabetes, GAD, MDD, undiagnosed ADHD

triggering content ahead !!

he has bulimia nervosa

╰fun fact! a lot of food insecure people have eating disorders

self harmed a lot from the ages from 10-12 before eventually stopping at 13

he stopped after his grandma found out and started checking his arms regularly (#projecting)

JACK HOWL !! 🐺🌵

🪶🇪🇬 PANROMANTIC ASEXUAL + GENDER CURIOUS (he/they)

APPEARANCE HCS:

WAY thicker fur than leona and ruggie

Trims his body hair a lot because he overheats in savanaclaw easily

RANDOM HCS:

The type of guy to be totally in love with the world and nature

They're just like. Wow. We were put on a spinning rock. With food to eat, and water drink, and air to breathe. I love being alive.

Had a little garden back at home and named every single plant

Remembers small things about people and brings them up in conversation

╰Hey dude I got you a Chipotle bowl. How did I remember your exact order? You told me. Yeah, I know it was a year ago, but--

Random but I think he dresses how Tupac did

Not even to be tough

But because he's a black suburban kid

(I'm a black city kid but this is probably how black suburban kids dress trust)

Loooves chewing on things. Has one of those chew necklaces

Autistic with botany and physical health special interest