#tolerance mechanisms

[kirby-the-gorb]

[romanticatheartt]

I hate it when people say Feyre, mated a high lord but Nesta was mated to a gym bro...

You mean Feyre Archeron? The savior of Prythian, the Cursebreaker, Defender of the Rainbow, Cauldron-blessed and the first high lady in the history?

And Cassain? Lord of Bloodshed, Warrior-heart, Lord in Good Deeds and the general of the biggest army and court in Prythian?

Put some respect in the name of High Lady of Night Court and her general!!!

[runawayfuture]

i can't get over his smug little smile and his fuckass haircut lmao

[sg-done]

John: *Gasp*

Rodney: What??

John: What if soy milk is just milk introducing itself in Spanish?

Rodney: *inhales*

Ronon, in another room with Teyla: Why can I hear screeching?

[the-c41n-instinct]

Fandom hot take

some of yall have taken "ship and let ship" too far. (This is targeted at a specific fandom but it applies to everyone)

I do not care how long your Fandom has been around, I don't care that it's from four decades ago whatever. Your second most popular ship in the Fandom should not be a fourteen year old boy and his 50~60 year old godfather.

proshippers should not feel this safe. especially in fandoms from media aimed at kids.

Ship and let ship should not and does not apply when your "ship" is illegal, inc3st, or whatever. Then you deserve the hate.

[y-rhywbeth2]

Sometimes I feel like the pinned post needs further disclaimers like: 'Sometimes you'll talk to me and won't get an answer and it's either because I didn't know how to respond or because I got distracted because I have the concentration span of a gnat and then it was a month later and it was awkward. Or both. Hi!'

'Also I might tell you stuff you already know in responses, but that's more for the benefit of other people reading it who might not know it and also my burning need to complain about 4e when I remember it exists.'

[eliserzilber]

ACCEPTS DBT Worksheet

*Corresponding DBT Skill*

This worksheet is a way for you to plan ahead and show up for yourself when you're in distress.

Print this out, fill it in and have it as a tangible list of things to take your focus off the emotional storm and avoid harmful coping mechanisms. 

List activities that will take your focus in the moment (for example draw, play a video game, put together a small puzzle)

List things you can do with someone who calms you (for example help with washing dishes, fold laundry, cook a meal)

List 2 times before when you were struggling emotionally and got through it (to remind yourself that you have before and can survive again)

List things you can do to activate opposite emotions (for example watch some funny videos to counteract sadness with laughter)

List numbers you can call for help (For example a crisis hotline, therapist, or loved one)

Bonus Project: Self-Soothing Tool Box 

Fill a small box with anything that you can grab in a moment of stress to occupy your 5 senses.

This can include things like fidget toys, stress balls, mini plushies, small puzzles (25 pieces or so), a laundry sheet or perfume that calms you, a print out of the lyrics to one of your favorite songs, photos of loved ones, a Box Breathing guide, post-it notes with helpful affirmations, and even sour candies or mints.

The goal here is to have a go-to collection of self-soothing assistants so you're not searching and struggling in the midst of your distress.

*More DBT Skill guides here*

[feralcleric]

The way i would be 1000% more interested in DA’s current plot direction if Flemeth had the role Solas does instead

[mad-hunts]

an idea for how another character could meet barton in an untraditional way: your muse met barton while he was in residency by expressing concern for him as they saw him at the grocery store... with only like five bottles of wine in his cart at the checkout 🫠 JSJSJ

[melhekhelmurkun]

The pain of watching Attack of the Clones in order to see Obi-Wan with long hair, but also having to deal with Whiny Angsty Kinda Creepy Teenager Anakin

[bitegore]

if you want to get better at smoothly shading in pencil without smudging your graphite (which to me just never looks very good unless you're really good at it, whereas carefully-layered light shading with a pencil rarely looks half as amateurish even when it is measurably less well-done so i'd imagine it also looks that way to some others) the best advice i have is to use a ballpoint pen, like a normal office pen that you can get some gradation out of because the ink doesn't flow- don't use one of those fancy wet ink bic ones or whatever, and use it like it's your pencil for a few weeks and then come back to see what kind of control you have over your pencil lines, darkness, coverage, etc after. i was working with a mediocre ballpoint earlier (didn't want to ruin my good inks on the gritty as hell watercolors i use) and was reminded of how fast my ability to shade in pencil picked up when i ran out of pencils to doodle with during part of my sophomore year in high school and started doing ballpoint drawings the same way i did my pencil ones

[umemiyan]

As the other resident old person I’m here to tell you you’re probably old but most definitely American :p I say plushie but I think stuffed animal is for sure an old American thing

damn, meemaw confirmed 🥲

i know pretty much all the kids now say "plushie" because my brother does but i just don't remember that from when i was younger??? like genuinely i cannot recall that terminology from any time before i was 18 lmao it's so crazy. so has it always been like that in other countries like the UK and stuff or??

also it's just... not my favorite term 🥲 i guess i'm being a hater but it sounds like baby/cutesy talk which i have issues with in regular settings/conversations LOL and i mean it makes sense because it's a children's toy first and foremost. it's truly just a me problem

[gaytobymeres]

i think growing up kind of lonely does a number on you because i was never in a friend group, only ever on the periphery of many, a lot of my friendships were very transient (except the two people ive been friends with for 10+ years), i was never in any group chat (and i was always very aware that my friends were in a gc together, i just never got added), i was often left out of things, and so i just tended to drift away from people. and then i wonder if im always just going to be a little bit alone, a little bit outside of everything forever. yes i have friends but im none of my friends' closest friend.

[candyn-gutz]

i was doing good for a few days why am i back here again

[thegreatyin]

What is the Scoundrel thinking about as they go through in this ship? Did they get down to the lowest level yet.

...did they find the thing that is in the deck. Admist the wax?

it isn't thinking anything, really. it's just- moving. quickly. no it's not breathing frantically that's just how its chest works. no its hands aren't trembling they just happen to feel a bit chilly today. if they pick on the (now thoroughly blood-soaked) bandages on their arms, well, that's their business!! it doesn't mean they're scared. they're perfectly calm. look at them!!! they're smiling!!!!! they're having a Delightful time!!!!!!!!

now where was that pesky-

oh.

oh, they need to get the hell out of here.

[gothicprep]

i always get so envious of people who are invited onto something like "9 million scoville heat unit burger challenge" and the winner gets a chef's knife or w/e. i want to try the 9 million SHU burger :/