#this shit is important

[skylerfurmaniac-deactivated]

Alright I'm probably gonna be gone for a LLOOONG time after this message :/

Uh, let me explain

soooooo, my parents decided to take away all of my social medias for a while, and to be honest, I don't know how long it will be. Some people already know from my discord server but yeah. Soo, prepare for m account to be just, kinda blank (but I may still be able to pop back in for a bit here and there, because where I use my Tumblr, I need to use the device for school work) for the next few weeks.....or months.........or..........forever........yeah.....they may delete my account haha.........I honestly don't know the reason why this is happening, but........it's happening.......so, this is my goodbye for now......I love you guys/p okay? You all make me super happy and just awesome people to talk to......i'll miss you all, so, so, so, SO much.........I just hope you remember me...........and with a smile on your face.............and don't.......worry about me.......i'll.....be fine, I promise......

........I'm used to it....... :,)

bye ya'll.......

<3

(this Is for me lol https://www.tumblr.com/skylerfumaniac/716660732900573184/rules-and-description-p?source=share)

[fandomsoda]

Hey guys, I hate to break it to you, but all posts that mention suicide need to be tagged. Yes, even the “in memory of” ones. This is a topic where even the mention of it can greatly upset and trigger someone. So tag your shit. /nm

[vintagesoul1975]

Since I'm so late with celebrating Neil's birthday, I figure I combine him and my birthday with my favorite jam. Because this song slaps

@meadow-dusk you know what time it is

😆🤘

[donnaemerson]

hello guys and gays,

here is the link to my Google form: https://forms.gle/iHeNad15iEdjEunY8

this is a 3-part questionnaire for my BA Psychology research project, the objective of which is to measure Attachment Styles, Self-esteem and Assertiveness among certain demographics

it would be a big help if you all filled it up and circulated it among your peers and/or accounts for the purpose of further research in this area

[auto-pause-me]

So, here's a thing, and it's very important. Autists: think and process our thoughts slower than others. The peri/menopause can cause brain fog, where, oh yes, thoughts and processing are slower.

So the two together can make navigating the world in which we live in super stressful. I mean, not that it's not stressful as either. I don't want to devalue any other experiences. But I do want to emphasise that a combo of the two is a thing!

I had a situation recently where I was navigating the ways of queueing (shit, there's a lot of vowels in a row in that word!). The challenges I face with queueing really comes when it's at a bar, or a market stall, or any other place where the que isn't just a nice ordered line of people. This actually happens quite frequently!

As an autist, its goes something like this: [and excuse the loooooong sentence, im trying to get across the noise in my head while doing an everyday thing]

I'm looking for who looks like they are queueing, and who isn't, who was there before be so I can let them go first, while trying to do the other stuff, such as remembering what and where my payment is, how I'm going to cope with my bad coordination while packing my stuff and paying and chatting to my server, which means looks for a space for my bag and the stuff I'm packing, while being security conscious of my belongings and not getting in the way of others, and practice in my head how I'm going to ask for what I want , but I need to take my headphones off so i can hear what is being said to me, but then that means I'm going to get a flood of audio processing to manage, and I've got to keep a track of my headphones too now and....

So my thoughts are exhausting, and I think many other autistic people would agree.

The approaching menopause brain fog makes this slower still, and frustrating because its taking longer to decode the queue cues, I'm having work harder at being organised and my coping strategies aren't quite as smooth as they have been, and I feel like my reaponses to others movements and conversations are labourious, and it's even harder for the words in my brain to match up with the words that come out of my mouth. And you know, the sunflower lanyard is clearly just a fashion accessory, not an indication of how fucking difficult some shit can be.

Anyway, even though I thought I had done the right thing here, I still got a telling off for being in the wrong place. The fight, flight or freeze response kicked in [which is most likely a cptsd thing, but still relevant!] and thats usually a freeze for me while i asses the situation. While I'm aware of it, my brain just won't work fast enough to make a decision and I can feel being stared at, adding to the pressure, and at this point any reaction is going to make me look like a Karen having a hissy fit.

So I speed it back home, and have a crying meltdown on my own. Joy(!)

[fandomsoda]

I am literally begging everyone to STOP reblogging that post about reporting posts that contain suicidal ideation. Reporting those posts does not help, it only gets someone’s account terminated and can actually put someone in MORE DANGER. If you have reblogged anything that encourages reporting these types of posts, please delete it to stop the spread of misinformation.

[enemywasp]

I'm sorry I keep posting my tiktok comments but please. What does this mean. What do people THINK shipping is for anymore???

[fandomsoda]

Hey here’s a reminder that XVials is NOT pro/ship, every pro/shipper trying to co-opt it should know that they are NOT WELCOME OR SAFE HERE and if I EVER catch ANYONE infantilizing Ink in this pairing or doing any other shit like that, IT’S ON SIGHT.

And by that I mean blocking you.

[daincrediblegg]

OK THIS IS NOT A FUCKING DRILL EVERYONE FUCKING REPEAT AFTER ME. THIS IS WHAT YOU WILL DO WHEN YOU WATCH MUPPET CHRISTMAS CAROL THIS YEAR:

You will navigate to the page on disney plus (and it has to be here. Unless someone has actually uploaded the REAL movie anywhere else you cannot get it elsewhere)

BUT YOU WILL NOT HIT PLAY. You won’t do it. Because it’s NOT THE REAL VERSION OF THE FILM AND DISNEY IS FUCKING LYING TO YOU AS IT ALWAYS DOES

You will scroll down HERE. To EXTRAS instead. You MUST GO HERE. This is non -negotiable

THEN YOU WILL SCROLL DOWN TO THE BOTTOM OF THE EXTRAS AND YOU WILL THEN HIT PLAY ON THIS BAD BOY: THE FULL LENGTH VERSION

And you will watch it. And you will thank me for having been so blind and led astray by that stupid fucking mouse. You’re welcome.

[cozylittleartblog]

cant tell you how bad it feels to constantly tell other artists to come to tumblr, because its the last good website that isn't fucked up by spoonfeeding algorithms and AI bullshit and isn't based around meaningless likes

just to watch that all fall apart in the last year or so and especially the last two weeks

there's nowhere good to go anymore for artists.

edit - a lot of people are saying the tags are important so actually, you'll look at my tags.

#please dont delete your accounts because of the AI crap. your art deserves more than being lost like that #if you have a good PC please glaze or nightshade it. if you dont or it doesnt work with your style (like mine) please start watermarking #use a plain-ish font. make it your username. if people can't google what your watermark says and find ur account its not a good watermark #it needs to be central in the image - NOT on the canvas edges - and put it in multiple places if you are compelled #please dont stop posting your art because of this shit. we just have to hope regulations will come slamming down on these shitheads#in the next year or two and you want to have accounts to come back to. the world Needs real art #if we all leave that just makes more room for these scam artists to fill in with their soulless recycled garbage #improvise adapt overcome. it sucks but it is what it is for the moment. safeguard yourself as best you can without making #years of art from thousands of artists lost media. the digital world and art is too temporary to hastily click a Delete button out of spite

[auto-pause-me]

So my first post is going to be about VAGINAL DRYNESS! Go me. And my vagina.

The lack of self made vag lube is a thing for perimenopause and it sucks. And not in the nice way. Now vaginas are amazing. They bring pleasure, they're self cleaning, direct babies into the world and can even be turned inside out to make a penis. I do recommend a medical professional for that last one.

However, as an autistic person, being aware of changes in my vagina can be a thing I HAVE to think about. Generally, autists have to work harder on being aware of their bodies. I know I definitely have more than one occasion a week where suddenly I'm aware of being at the knicker wetting stage of needing the loo... usually followed by thinking "how the fuck have I not noticed?" And reminding myself that this is an autistic thing.

The thing is, being aware of my vagina is also tremendously important for vagina health. And my vagina has been good to me, so I'd better be good back. I have no intention of not having orgasms after my periods have stopped, and a healthy vulva is essential for that.

The other thing is, if I'm not aware of when I'm busting a gut to release my pee, I probably could be more aware of my downstairs lubrication. Not gonna lie, this is a thing I have, pre perimenopause, been working on. A tracking app and setting a routine for it really helped me to understand where I was at in my cycle, how those hormone changes impacted my moods, and how my vagina communicated where I was at in my cycle. Still got those days of :has my period started, or are my downstairs lips rather more sloppy than usual, because you know, my Vah Jay Jay loves to make me panic.

However, here are some things they DON'T tell you about your vagina and its wettness in perimenopause, that are of note if you're an autistic person:

You might not notice just how dry it's become:

Personally, my big wake up call to this was having a wipe, after a wee. And then screaming out loud because I thought I'd accidentally managed to rip my left inner labia off with sodding loo roll. Or the time I felt really uncomfortable, and I thought I needed a little scratch of an itch* only for my nail to actually scratch me. When bodily awareness is something you have to work on, vaginal dryness should be pretty high on the priority list.

You might have a hell of a time finding the right lube

Especially if sensory processing is a huge thing for you.

Lubes vary greatly in smell, taste, texture, how they react to our skin and how they dry. Some dry sticky as fuck, and take all the fun out of having 2 extra sets of lips between your legs. Think chub rub, but localised around one of the areas of your body with the most nerve endings.

I can't give much advice here, other than doing what I did, and spend an absolute fuck ton trying a load of different ones. I've still not found one that I like enough to buy again. I might make a post about lubes, but then again I'm want to forget, so I might not.

They also don't really come in a keep in your pocket or bag size containers (as far as I'm aware). What a gap in the market for a small, discreet little bottle to take on the go. It would be extra convenient for on the go quickies too, but I digress.

And here's a Really Important Thing ™️ please don't use coconut oil on your garden of pleasure. Coconut is a great anti fungal and a good anti bacterial. Enough to play merry havoc with all of the good tiny little life forms down there and cause some nasty infections. Think thrush or bacterial vaginosis. Please use a search engine if you don't know what these are. Please. If you do, don't berate me for directing people with less knowledge than you to finding some stuff out.

It's going to fuck up all the routine and things your used too about your cycle.

No more: ah, I have the contents of a chicken egg, minus the yolk in my undies, so clearly I'm ovulating. No wonder I look hot and feel horny. Nope, it's I'm horny as fuck, my period tracking app says I'm ovulating but bloody hell, I'm tighter than the British government deciding on funding to local authorities. And you know how us auties don't like unpredicted change.

If your sensory processing challenges include your clothes, your bum covers are about to add a whole other level.

So, the peri/menopause also likes to pop a couple of piles around your arsehole. If your vagina has taken a holiday to the Atacama and brought back souvenirs, it's not helpful if your arsehole is popping out, hoping to join in. So I actually prefer wearing thongs / tangas / g strings when I'm not gushing out the lady cream. I can use a smaller gusset, and not have a visible panty line. The piles fucking make sure that's a no go. However as some one who regularly wears my underwear instead out (because labels, often leave a seem if cut out, also seams that are a part of pant construction in the crotch area, are the devil's work), one you've notice you're having a dry day, suddenly all pants are grim.

I saw menopause pants in bloody pradamark as well. Very specifically marketed for hot flushes, but not the sate of one's vulva. I made a face. Everyone is so fucking clueless.

So, that's the end of my brain farts on this. Thanks for reading. I've gor no idea how to bloody end this, I was going to link an article, but then I realised it pushes a product and while it mentions how diet can affect vaginal dryness, it doesn't expand on any changes one could make, or any known foods, or known food additives, that can have a negative impact on one's downstairs circus tent. I think I feel the need to do some poking around the Internet for more info...

* we ALL do it, stop with the judgments please.

[pastadoughie]

many people were confused about some of my previous posts, so for the sake of clarity i am condensing everything! tumblr has extremely transphobic moderation practices, often flagging completely innocent posts as explicit, solely for containing trans women in them or mentioning transgenderism. while letting untagged porn in sfw tags (ive literally seen porn tagged as "sfw agere") and blatent hatespeech, especially twards trans people (just look at the "gender critical" tag) go completely unchecked recently the CEO of tumblr had a big public hissyfit about people (rightfully) calling him transmysogenistic, going into random trans womens dms to harrass them, and saying that predstrogen saying she "hopes he explodes with hammers and then explodes again and hammers fly everywhere" is a death threat and saying he is calling the FBI on her (repeatedly misgendering her and calling her "it") and many bloggers, apon speaking out about it or even making harmless jokes (one trans woman posted a picture of a car and a hammer with the caption "reblog to scare matt" and got nuked for it) and many are very very angry (rightfully) about this whole affair and tumblr in general. if you would like to look into it i reccomend scrolling the "predstrogen" tag as she is the case most people are talking about at the moment. So, what can we do? this is clearly an ongoing issue, and, dispite having lost a lawsuit about their transphobic moderation in the past (see : https://www.documentcloud.org/documents/21274288-tumblr-nycchr-settlement) its clearly not gonna stop with just user complaints, as staff members are perfectly content to just go scorched earth on users who even so much as lightly poke fun at them well if you want to help you should contact the human rights commision (i will give clear details further down) ! you dont have to be in the US, nor be an adult to file, and it only takes a few minutes. this is the best and most effective method to fix this, because it hits tumblr where it hurts. human rights acencies have a lot of legal and financial power and tumblr CAN NOT just ignore them, and given that this will be the seccond time this is happening, the commisions shouldnt be playing nice anymore eaither. its really important that AS MANY PEOPLE AS POSSIBLE FILE, and with different examples! while maybe your case might not be enough to prop up a lawsuit on its own, we need to prove a general trend. so every little bit counts! to respond to another question abt this ive gotten, as for what exactly to report, you should a) write about an act of discrimination youve recieved on tumblr that was eaither administered by a staff member OR that staff refused to give adequate moderation action in for example : a terf posted some blatent hatespeech targeted twards you, and you reported them, and staff looked at the issue and refused to persecute it. example 2 : you were unfairly flagged, deleted, or otherwise punished by a staff member and you are queer ( AND the post they banned you for has some kind of tie to your gender, ex : a sfw transition progress photo ) OR b) if you have not personally recieved something like that, please look for other peoples stories (THEY SHOULDNT BE HARD TO FIND, within the last couple of hours trans people have been being banned LEFT AND RIGHT for trying to speak on this. i would reccomend checking some of the tags related to what happened with predstrogen) and you should describe that incident as best as possible (be sure to disclose that you are speaking for someone else, ideally you should tell the story of someone you know, if possible.) you can also mention any reports you have made twards people posting blatent hatespeech that, opon reveiwing tumblr refused to prosecute dispite it being very obviously against terms of service. just so nobody gets confused about the filing process, im laying it out in more plain languadge!!

first you should email the SF HRC (san francisco human rights commision), at hrc.info@sfgov.org and say something along these lines :

Hello, I am [full name] from [country or state] and I am filing a complaint against Tumblr, witch is owned by the parent company Automattic Inc. located at 60 29th St, San Francisco, CA 94110.

Tumblr has had previous issues with the NYC DHR for their moderation being unfairly biased against trans women (see : https://www.documentcloud.org/documents/21274288-tumblr-nycchr-settlement).

Despite a legally binding agreement with the NYC DHR, staff members still regularly harrass users based on their gender or sexual orientations. For example : on [date of most recent infraction] [describe incident] (if you are describing an incident that did not happen to you specifically, say something like) This incident involves the user [username] who I am not affiliated with (or/) who I am filing on behalf of.

I can be reached for further inquiries about this incident at [email you want to talk over] or [phone number you want to talk over]. (if you would like to be anonymous) However, In the event of legal prosecution against Automattic I would refer to be kept anonymous, where possible, in court proceedings. alternatively, you can also call the SF HRC at : 415-252-2500, you can use the above text as a starting point for this as well, next you want to fill out the form for the NYC DHR (new york city department of human rights) here : https://www.nyc.gov/site/cchr/about/report-discrimination.page for company you wanna put : Automattic and/or Tumblr for address you wanna put : 770 Broadway, New York, NY 10003 for phone number you wanna put : (646) 513-4321 and for category of discrimination you can put : Discriminatory harassment and basis of discrimination you can put : Gender; Gender identity you can then use a similar script on the written section of the form. when describing a specific incident, you should attach as many screenshots and links as possible! (for links, include both a live link and an archival link, so take a capture with the internet archive and have that as an alternative, incase a staff member gets petty.) this should only take a few minutes at most, and it helps alot! you can fill this out if you are a minor, and you dont have to be a us resident, please please take the time!!! and, just to clarify because there are many posts going around that are confused about this tumblr moved offices to san francisco recently, so their main HQ is at : 60 29th St, San Francisco, CA 94110 they DO still have an office in new york city, and thats where their PREVIOUS HQ was, the address is : 770 Broadway, New York, NY 10003

[mugiwara-lucy]

The MAIN reason I’m voting AGAINST Trump is because this guy is a legitimate THREAT to America. What do I mean? Let’s not forget he STOLE CLASSIFIED DOCUMENTS FROM THE WHITE HOUSE:

What the fuck was he going to do with those? And when you couple the fact that he kisses ass to DICTATORS:

He is NOT someone we can afford to let back into the White House.

For the sake of us NOT becoming a dictatorship, please let’s all vote blue down the board.

SO MUCH that the votes won’t be taken to the Supreme Court because they will fuck us all over for him.

[fandomsoda]

These examples typically describe ADHD alone and as someone who experiences such, it is hell on earth and I often feel like a helpless bumbling idiot because of it because once something happens or leaves my sight, it’s lost to time unless recorded. What was I talking about literally a minute ago? It takes an average of 30 seconds to a minute to mentally retrace my steps and find it again, with a 45% chance I won’t be able to remember.

But like think about larger examples of amnesiatic disorders. The types the elderly get, the amnesia experienced by virtually all systems, that type of shit. It must be horrific.

forgetfulness isn’t laziness it’s actually very scary to personally experience no matter what flavor it is, and we should be treated with way more respect.

i feel like we dont talk enough about how distressing and disturbing memory loss issues are. forgetting what you were talking about halfway through a sentence, putting something down and instantly forgetting where you put it. having to reread one paragraph over and over again because by the time youve moved onto the next sentence you dont remember what the one before it said. always doubting if your memories of things are real, not being able to remember important life events.

its so incredibly scary, it feels like your mind is constantly playing tricks on you and you start to doubt whats real and what isnt.

“i forgot” is treated like a lazy excuse when it’s genuinely such a big issue for so many people.

[townofcrosshollow]

Shocked how many people think you can just turn on a computer and leave it on for weeks or months or years and never turn it off and it'll be fine. Computers need their sleep, and sleep mode does not count

[anticapitalistmongoose]

alright boys, girls, neither, both, and those in between we need to clear something up:

if someone says they are queer, they are queer.

no ifs, ands, buts, etc. they are queer.

and if they discover later that they're cishet, great, amazing, wonderful, i'm glad we gave them community when they were figuring themselves out and needed it.

no gatekeeping of queerness here, alright?

because when shit hits the fan queerphobes wont care whether you're a cis gay man who goes by he/him or a bigender aromantic pansexual who goes by it/its

so stop with the respectability politics.

we're a community, fucking act like it.