#this is what being hypersexual is like

[shingekinomyfeelings]

People really need to stop equating virginity/lack of sexual experience with someone being 'naive' and 'innocent' and any other bullshit terms indicating immaturity. Getting fucked for the first time will not imbue someone with wisdom or a deeper understanding of humanity or love or the realities of the world. Sorry if you think sex is literally magic, it's not.

Also, this shouldn't be a hot take, but if someone who has never wanted to have sex has never had sex, that's actually a good thing.

Don't you fucking dare imply I'm lacking something.

[psychobabblefluiddruid]

Are these two photos meant to be related? Does anyone know the original creator? I need answers.

[bhaalsdeepbat]

my astarion hot take

i'm sorry guys i do actually HC that astarion was temporarily sex repulsed, but not in an ace way. i do think he has a moment of 'ohmygod was i ace???' and then realizing he's just blood starved and also has to get out from being crushed by the weight of being viewed only in terms of sex. it's not sex-repulsed bc he doesn't like sex, but repulsed bc of the baggage that comes with it.

and like having to deal with the fact that he objectified himself the same way caz was, but there was no force this time. he just fell into old habits. and repulsion that omg can i fucking control myself ??? after nearly two centuries of not having to show an OUNCE of self-control bc Caz had them so closely controlled.

but then the freedom of no longer being repulsed bc he's been freed of enough weight from his guilt and self-loathing to not only no longer be repulsed, but eager to try new experiences - with someone he's certain won't only view him as a sex object. who will still see him for who he is beyond that one moment they share.

[inner-egg-pong]

the thing about heartstopper is that the show itself is really good but so many of the fans have veered into the "not like other queers"/purity culture rhetoric that it actively puts me off from watching it

[my-thoughts-and-junk]

thinking about superheroes unfortunately

[ghostslimu]

as much as i like the whole sentiment that being ace doesn't mean there's something wrong with you or you're traumatized, it's important to remember that there are people who identify as asexual due to being disordered or traumatized, who might also suffer from hypersexuality, and that doesn't make them any less asexual <3

[oflgtfol]

i think the whole discourse around whether or not cishet aro men are queer stems specifically from the idea of allo aros being hypersexual - and so the idea of an allo aro, specifically a straight aro man, draws to mind the idea of like, fuckboys, or sexist men who only view women as sex objects, etc. And that is likely why the idea of cishet aro men leaves such a bad taste in apparently so many peoples mouths

now, i’ve spoken before about how attraction =/= libido. i’ve mostly spoken about this in the context of being ace, where asexuals can still have a libido despite not experiencing sexual attraction. the confusion and conflation between attraction and behavior has been a huge source of frustration for me with regards to the popular idea of asexuality and how it has confused me on my path to figuring out my own sexual identity over the years

BUT. the idea holds true not only for aces who have high libidos - but also for allosexuals who have low libidos. the idea that to be allo aro is to immediately be some hypersexual fuckboy is just, so warped? just because you experience sexual attraction but not romantic attraction does not mean you immediately become some sexist pig who always needs your dick wet. like idk it’s just beyond fucking frustrating to see the way that people sexualize alloaros when they’re just - they’re just people. you would not assume what another person’s sex life or libido is if they were otherwise alloromantic allosexual, because your orientation describes the way you experience attraction, not your behavior and sex life, nor your libido. in the same way, being alloaro has literally nothing to do with what your actual libido is. so why are allo aros the exception? to try to divide the community and exclude them based on your assumption of their sex lives is just so fucked

[rawliverandgoronspice]

ok guys in an extremely tragic twist of faith my hyperfixated brain betrayed me and the article will actually just be about female characters in game in general using EoW as a jumping board, which does fill my soul with dread and weariness instead of joy :((

(perhaps for nothing, maybe it will be great but still I'm SO DISAPPOINTED)

[sillyfreakx5]

i miss him so much :(((

(tw for implied grooming/csa in the tags)

[sassyandclassy94]

Oh wow the delusionals are delusioning again🥴

[bylertruther]

question: what does a crush feel like? how do you know it's a crush and not just a particular fondness for someone?

[northwest-cryptid]

I'm providing no context for this:

[artemismatchalatte]

I hate constantly questioning and not knowing what identity I am. I am fully 30 years old and still do not know what I want. I usually just know what I really DON'T want because that's usually what is offered to me. I'm very good at finding what I don't want.

At this point if I am actually asexual or demisexual I would not be surprised. Because I got repulsed a woman who was being extremely forward on the dating site I was on. We did not know each other at all (literally the second message I got from this woman was sexual and all I said was hi). Am I crazy for thinking that maybe we should at least try to get to know each other first???

[mangosmoothiepussyv3]

sigh, i remember the days when i could cum like, 8 times in a row

nowadays i get one and thats it

but i still appreciate the one i get