#this is also life advice in general

[tanadrin]

[badninken]

Little Hearts Chapter 8 - Fire

He closes his eyes for a moment, pulling his hat down deep. The air smells the same as it did three nights ago. Like fire—dying but still breathing within the embers and in the smoke.

[sulkybender]

True whether it’s irl or on ao3 or on tumblr.

I’ve been trying to get more comfortable with just sending asks to say I really appreciate someone’s art, which I always used to get anxious about!

Definitely that fear of bothering people always creeps up, but it’s outweighed by the chance that you might make someone’s week a bit better.

[starry-sophrosyne]

staring at my writings rn and I feel genuinely awful. i think it's mainly/entirely in part to it being that time of the month, but STILL; it's not bringing me any satisfaction to write like it normally does, nor do i have any genuine motivation to continue writing my drafts. i can still force myself to work on my drabbles because i still inherently want to, deep down in my soul - that's how much i love writing - and i can still write words and detailed phrases that are probably similar to how i write normally; descriptions that others will support and admire like they always have, but I just don't like them all that much. They're not bad, it's just, they're not written with any passion behind it.

I get it can't be helped, but I really don't want to put my writings down, because I'm scared. I'm scared that this exhaustion will be permanent, that I'll put these drafts aside and then never touch them again. I'm scared that this weariness, that I have put back into my bones over and over again, will not come out this time. I'm not crazy right? This isn't a dumb worry to have, is it? This is an actual fear for me, not just for my blog writings, but for all of my future writings too. I'm genuinely scared of burning out and I don't want to be.

No matter what, I think I genuinely have to stop writing. Wasting hours of my life writing stuff while feeling like an empty shell, while it provides me no joy doing so, is almost as horrible of an idea to me as never writing again is. So i'll do it; In order for me to be actually happy with anything I produce again, I'll put the pen down and pray my spark comes back to me, but man, i'm praying to whatever fucking gods there are out there, please don't let me lose the one thing I have left. Even this was a struggle to write.

[thatsbelievable]

[mira-likes]

I found the scene of Fan Xian and Fan Jian jumping around with the discipline ruler and putting on the anger/punishment act very entertaining, but I just saw someone’s comment that like “Fan Jian knows he can’t hit him” and that made me pause. Can Fan Jian get away with flogging Fan Xian (the emperor’s biological son) if he wants to? How much of his approach to parenting Fan Xian is down to him being well aware that the emperor is looking over his metaphorical shoulder?

[deathgroupie]

writing from experience and the heart all fun and games until you look at your document and fear that your reviews will be like 'I can tell this pornography came from a place of pain'

[starscelly]

Hi Cel of Starscelly fame! I have a question I'm going to my first ever hockey game in April and I was wondering since you've been to many how can I prepare so I can have a good time

ANON my friend i have perfected the art of attempting to have a good time i'd like to think!!!! obvs its gonna differ per person but this is what has worked for MY neurotic ass over the years!

most importantly there is NO wrong way to enjoy a hockey game. i used to be stressed i'd miss stuff if i looked away for a second or be worried abt checking stuff on my phone and looking stupid bc i should be #lockedin ... it's not that serious DONT overthink it !! let ur spirit lead you to what feels right!

if you go to warmies (which i recommend! its just good silly fun!) i'd lowkey recommend going on the side next to the penalty box... generally less people crowding there than near the bench in my experience. though i know some arenas have it restricted to just behind the net now... but if ur at the aac its a free for all!

also i made the mistake . and this might not be applicable to you! but when i went to my first few games i was SO convinced i'd never go to games again (unemployed era lol) so i tried recording EVERYTHING.... you may return to these recordings/photos not only confused as to WHAT you were recording. but you also might not remember anything you watched. if your brain is like mine. so i recommend just living in the moment as much as possible !!! take a few pics if a guy is in front of you or whatever but its not that serious to archive it all !!! i used to have a full camera roll after every game and now i take like. 12 pictures total.

warmups are on the OPPOSITE end of where they'll shoot twice ALWAYS. so if u buy tickets in fucking. idk. section 116 where they'll shoot on net twice, they'll warm up on the other end of the ice. i forget this often bc my brain is teeny

also if ur willing to get there mad early (most arenas open doors 90mins before the game) . get drinks and do stuff like going to the bathroom first, then go to warmups, then to ur seat. easiest #flow least lines nightmares etc. like you dont need to hang out in ur seat nobody will take it

wait actually maybe this shouldve been at the start. FIGURE OUT PARKING/TRANSPORT EARLY AS FUCKKK even if u dont buy a pass or whatever day of at least figure out what ur doing! it can be a nightmare with some of these cities! i personally love googling like. "[arena name] parking reddit" or "[team name] parking reddit" ... ask the people of reddit. unless ur from the city and know what ur doing lol

ASK THE PEOPLE WORKING AT THE ARENA QUESTIONS.... my ass is always peeking all around the 100s like "hey (: where can i watch the away team warm up (:" bc i am NOT hunting by myself. and theyre always SUPER FUCKING NICE AND HELPFUL whether youre a home or away fan!

also chat to the people next to you if theyre friendly! there is truly no joy like being an away fan in td garden talking up old bostonian men. 2 me. but if they have the same team as you lol even better! you can high five and shit and commiserate over stupid calls. beautiful stuff!

ultimately. GET INTO ITTTTTT people act embarrassing at sports games ALL THE TIME. it was a struggle for me at first (#EasilyEmbarrassedGang) stand when ur team scores if ur able, sing along to the music, do all the chants and cheering, etc etc ! let urself enjoy the moment! there WILL be more hockey games in the future but you wont have THIS exact game again yk!

[vibingforjudaism]

I need a therapist who I can argue with and who will give me jewish advice ....a rabbi. I need a rabbi

[anto-pops]

Can someone with knowledge of anxiety or panic attacks tell me if I dealt with that last night because I have never in my life experienced something like this before and it honestly freaked me the fuck out.

I was getting ready for work at like 3 in the afternoon and my heart started racing. Like, beating insanely fast. I didn't check my heart rate until way later, but basically for the entire time I was getting dressed, doing makeup, etc. I had to continuously sit down cause I felt like I couldn't catch my breath.

I finally got in my car at like 5 to head to work and once I parked, I checked my heart rate on my watch and it was reading at 142 bpm. It had been bouncing between 140 and 130 for over an hour and there was absolutely no reason for it. No caffeine, no exercise, no stress that I could solely blame for any potential 'anxiety' or anything.

I was sweating my fucking brains out for like an hour at work, was super winded for literally no reason, and I only started to feel anxious and worried once I realized just how fast my heart was going. My coworkers told me I looked red in the face even when I was standing completely still not moving. It stopped around like 7:30 give or take, but that was still roughly 5 hours of dealing with everything. I have never experienced anything like this before, and everyone I spoke to last night was on my ass about going to the ER, but I wasn't about to leave work for that.

I don't know. Should I make an appointment to see a doctor ?? I'm at a loss for what to do cause this was a one time instance as far as I'm concerned, but it was super scary and it lasted such a long time. I thought I was going to have a heart attack and my one thought was that I didn't wanna croak at my job LMAO

[happybunnykat]

Always throw your knife out the window at every available opportunity.

[quaalussy]

hi beautiful ppl on tumblr dot com do u have any advice about navigating life after college when u are soso scared

[that-one-dark-smiley]

Not wearing my binder s u c k s but i took a break from binding today (mainly because i desperately needed to wash my binders) and I just gotta say

Take days off from binding for your own good guys. Remember it'll be worth it in the long run even if it sucks now

[maybe-a-gatto-or-a-catto]

I think more people should realize most people who are bigoted are normal ass people who are products of their environment. Like these are people who do groceries and taxes like their neighbour and don't go to the supermarket thinking "wow I hate gay people"

Anyone can unlearn transphobia, anyone can unlearn misogyny and anyone can unlearn ableism. It's hard, but it's possible. You just need compassion and patience to help them realize this

This also applies to you. If you have subconscious/internalized bigoted views, you can always unlearn them. Just be compassionate to yourself and give yourself the time (I should take my own advice)

[twpsyn-who]

Lowkey need a fic with the Young Avengers in which Spider-Man is not part of it, but more like a guardian to them. Which is funny because they're the same age, but each time someone points that out Spider-Man's like "I'll let you know I was in the Civil War. And during the fight against Thanos- twice!!! I'm an Avengers thank you very much" and everyone groans in annoyance because they heard that multiple times already.

Ten times funnier when Spider-Man drops some of his lore randomly and leaves everyone with lots of questions. One time he casually mentioned that he was stuck under a whole building during his own prom and couldn't actually attend and everyone felt like their life was a fucking joke.

[flikkerij]

erm are u not boycotting eurovision... come on now

...i am? i've only reblogged posts about the boycott too?

either this is bait or you gravely misread this post