#this is also life advice in general

[askchilchuck]

Sir do you have any tips on how I can get Dandan to settle down with me? You're his best friend I feel you're the best person for advice

In all honesty, if your goal is to settle down, I’d pick a different partner. Dan’s a great guy in a lot of departments, but he’s not interested in long term relationships. You’re better of finding someone with the same life goals as you than wasting your time on someone who prefers to keep things casual.

[postflython]

Damn you are jacked man. How often do you workout? I’m tryna see how much time in the gym I should be spending.

haha thank you anon! it’s definitely a fair amount of work tbh. my primary lifting workouts are 4x a week, usually around 1–1.5hrs apiece. on the off days, I try to get in some light prehab/mobility work and ~30 min. of moderate cardio, usually on the stairstepper. and I walk a lot bc of my job and where I live.

my advice to folks starting out, however, is not to do anywhere near this much. I’ve been lifting for about four years now, so I’ve built up to this level over time. lifting 3x a week is the sweet spot for the vast majority of people. looking the way I do is definitely a part-time job, and I try to stress to folks that you don’t need to be as cuckoo as I am to get good results and — more importantly! — stay strong and healthy.

[spikeface]

Based on (x).

[thatsbelievable]

[mira-likes]

I found the scene of Fan Xian and Fan Jian jumping around with the discipline ruler and putting on the anger/punishment act very entertaining, but I just saw someone’s comment that like “Fan Jian knows he can’t hit him” and that made me pause. Can Fan Jian get away with flogging Fan Xian (the emperor’s biological son) if he wants to? How much of his approach to parenting Fan Xian is down to him being well aware that the emperor is looking over his metaphorical shoulder?

[vibingforjudaism]

I need a therapist who I can argue with and who will give me jewish advice ....a rabbi. I need a rabbi

[forestofsprites]

there's applying for jobs that you're applying for simply bc you physically can and you need a job, but then there's applying for a job you actively want and would enjoy and would genuinely like to have. and that's suffering

[anto-pops]

Can someone with knowledge of anxiety or panic attacks tell me if I dealt with that last night because I have never in my life experienced something like this before and it honestly freaked me the fuck out.

I was getting ready for work at like 3 in the afternoon and my heart started racing. Like, beating insanely fast. I didn't check my heart rate until way later, but basically for the entire time I was getting dressed, doing makeup, etc. I had to continuously sit down cause I felt like I couldn't catch my breath.

I finally got in my car at like 5 to head to work and once I parked, I checked my heart rate on my watch and it was reading at 142 bpm. It had been bouncing between 140 and 130 for over an hour and there was absolutely no reason for it. No caffeine, no exercise, no stress that I could solely blame for any potential 'anxiety' or anything.

I was sweating my fucking brains out for like an hour at work, was super winded for literally no reason, and I only started to feel anxious and worried once I realized just how fast my heart was going. My coworkers told me I looked red in the face even when I was standing completely still not moving. It stopped around like 7:30 give or take, but that was still roughly 5 hours of dealing with everything. I have never experienced anything like this before, and everyone I spoke to last night was on my ass about going to the ER, but I wasn't about to leave work for that.

I don't know. Should I make an appointment to see a doctor ?? I'm at a loss for what to do cause this was a one time instance as far as I'm concerned, but it was super scary and it lasted such a long time. I thought I was going to have a heart attack and my one thought was that I didn't wanna croak at my job LMAO

[happybunnykat]

Always throw your knife out the window at every available opportunity.

[that-one-dark-smiley]

Not wearing my binder s u c k s but i took a break from binding today (mainly because i desperately needed to wash my binders) and I just gotta say

Take days off from binding for your own good guys. Remember it'll be worth it in the long run even if it sucks now

[nohkalikai]

how tf do u open conversation on a dating app,, i struggle w that so hard. people say just be yourself but there are so many hidden rules to dating that people talk about. it shouldn't be, but it feels so different frm approaching someone to be their friend.

[poisoned-pearls]

you know, Idk if I have to say it, but, cut off those people who drain you. You shouldn’t always have to text first, your friendship shouldn’t end because you stopped talking.

And I know it sucks, that feeling of crippling loneliness. But when shit was absolutely the worst for me, when everything had fucking crashed and burned, I met a few people who finally reminded me what it meant to have someone care, and you’ll get it soon

[flikkerij]

erm are u not boycotting eurovision... come on now

...i am? i've only reblogged posts about the boycott too?

either this is bait or you gravely misread this post

[ffs-abalisk]

Some of you peeps knee deep in the discourse really need to go take a nap or something... Like drag out the sleeping mats and take an hour.

Or maybe eat some animal crackers and drink from a sippy cup and you'll chill tf out.

Life's too short to be mad about things all the time. You're gonna give yourself an ulcer....

[undercat-overdog]

In Shall These Bones Live, Curufin hasn't returned from Mandos. When/if he does, how would your Celebrimbor react?

Sorry for taking so long to reply, anon, and thank you for the question!

C's reaction: not quite a shrug, but not far from it. Celebrimbor hasn't seen Curufin for over two thousand years at this point and his father is just not a going concern at this point; he's reflected, he's come to terms, he's long since moved on. He loved Curufin as a child and still does, in a distant way, but rarely thinks of him - it was all very long ago and he had a long and eventful life since Nargothrond. He also doesn't think highly of his father or his father's brothers, for very obvious reasons, and as a result wouldn't really care to interact with them. (Does that make him something of a hypocrite wrt Sauron? Yes.)

So if Curufin returns when Celebrimbor is in Aman, they'd definitely meet but I don't think Celebrimbor would be particularly effusive or want to resume a close relationship. Which would probably hurt Curufin (their parting is far fresher/more recent for him), but Celebrimbor doesn't owe him anything. And me personally, I'm more interested in families growing apart, unknowing each other, dissolving, than in families coming back together and reuniting. It's one of the reasons I like the peredhil, though the details there are different.

(C and Feanor is the meeting I'm more interested in, though I have not the slightest idea how it would go. Probably not terribly well on C's end, and if Sauron's around, he would react strongly to Celebrimbor's distress. Could go badly. My Celebrimbor doesn't have daddy issues. He does - canonically! - have Feanor issues, but they're not familial or grandfather issues but rather "secretly desired to rival Feanor in skill and fame" ones.)

[babytarttdoodoo]

Gentle reminder that disagreeing with a headcanon is not a reason to send anon hate :)