#this is about us finally unfollowing people who post things that make us uncomfortable.

[lovvecherrymotion]

Hello!! Can I ask for a personal opinion...? I hope you won't mind too much, I really like your posts and didn't know who else to ask :') It's a really amazing fandom here and I love everyone like real friends, even if I haven't met anyone. Some time ago I shared few personal posts which was just me grumbling about life, and got unfollowed by a mutual I really looked up to :") Then few months later it happened again with another mutual. I know not to take it personally but now every time I post anything, especially if it's personal stories, all I think is that people hate seeing it and I should just shut up deactivate completely. I still follow them and I see them making real friends with others, so it kind of stabs me twice I guess.. And even months later I keep questioning what did I do wrong? Am I that annoying, even online where people can just scroll past? I know it's not that serious and I shouldn't care and no one cares either, but it's been eating me up. Actually I don't think there's anything that can be done, sorry to use your ask box to gush out xD I really wanted to be on anon so no one else can unfollow me :') (also I don't think you know them and we don't speak but I love seeing you on my dash). Yeah I don't know what this was either, also sorry to jump you up with this from an early morning xD (You can delete it too I promise it's completely fine, I don't want to make anyone uncomfortable)

hi, anon! i'm finally sitting down and chilling for a couple of hours until my next flight, so i can answer

i think we've all felt that way at one point or another. hell, whenever i make a personal post or vent about something i'm always really scared i'm annoying others. i think it'd be really hurtful if i wrote a personal post and had a mutual/friend unfollow me over it and i'd be overthinking it a lot. while i'm a big believer in curating your online space and i don't think unfollowing/blocking has to be *that* personal, i can't recall ever unfollowing a mutual or a friend because they were venting about their problems. once again, people are free to do whatever and they don't have to justify themselves, but it just sounds really shitty. tbh we're not always in the mood to deal with other people's problems, but if it's just a post you can scroll past, you can... just do that

that being said, i don't think it's a you problem. i mean, obviously i don't know who you are, but just from this ask you seem very sweet. i do think joblr is a very nice place, with very nice people, but it can be hard to get a conversation/friendship started, especially if it seems like everyone else is somehow able to make friends and you're not. suddenly it feels like a big thing you're excluded from and while everyone else is having fun you're left wondering if you can be a part of it. i've felt that way - and i still do sometimes ngl. but i can promise you there's plenty of us around here who love to talk to others and make friends. ofc you don't always click with everyone, but i'm sure there are other joblr users who'd love to befriend you 💜

(also thanks for the very kind words! i'm sorry if this is a bit rambly but it's been a long week lol)

[napsaps-archive]

incoming semi-vent that i will probably end up deleting later

ok so i know im like . usually unbothered by things going on here especially recently like usually i just dont care but like yesterday and really all other similar incidents really got to me and i started thinking about a lot of different things that have made me unhappy and miserable and a lot of it boils down to not unfollowing/blocking people i should and not blocking/reporting anons and not filtering the things i need to and part of it is fomo and i just want to see everything but part of it is also just . falling into that cycle of miserable that a lot of other people seem to be stuck in. and like i was really adamant on blaming other people and getting mad at them for things but like really it's all on me, im not doing what i should be to make myself feel comfortable safe happy etc etc in a space that SHOULD let me be all of that like i should not be crying over this stupid app and the things i see and the general vibe every other night. and yeah most of this is bc im on my period and emotional but like ive talked about it with a lot of people and honestly have been thinking about it for months and i dont think it's an insane line of thought

so basically im just gonna go back to curating really really heavily like i used to (i did kind of fall off the wagon there, i'll admit it) so minimal discourse and neg, even less than im posting currently which is close to none. i dont want to say absolutely no neg ever but a lot of it and other things going on here make my stomach hurt and honestly fuck with my head and i dont want to deal with it anymore and im finally really realizing that i dont HAVE to deal with it anymore. im gonna be way more strict with who i sb and unfollow and hb (something else i also stopped doing), like i'd like to think im usually pretty tolerant and i dont like to ruin mutuals or friendships over disagreements or difference of opinions - and i still won't!! i fully believe we can disagree on some things and still be chill :) - but there are things ive seen that have made me uncomfortable that ive sort of ignored and now im seeing them all the time and its like . yeah i dont want that anymore lol

[spyxfamilyanalysis]

Announcement! HELP REQUEST!!!

Sorry for being inactive recently ;-; Because of being too busy for school works and revision for final exams, I wasn't able to be active on Tumblr. I'll try to finish part 2.2 episode 2 analysis and working on Facts (6) if possible...😭

To make up for all this, I would like to ask for a favor...😇

❗️❗️ Help wanted ❗️❗️📢

I am looking for amazing artists on Tumblr for future arts for spyxfamilyanalysis posts💮 DM me on Tumblr (or other social accounts) if you would like to cooperate with me for cool arts for Spy x Family posts, no need to worry about art talent because I appreciate your work! I add credits for your help!😊

This blog is family-friendly💗, so respect each other's gender and sexuality, 🚫 racisism, or I will block you.

🚫DM about sex or 🔞 and links to 🔞 accounts, or I'll show no mercy but to block you from my blog!

I would like to offer you a great opportunity to help and work with me for upcoming post and draft ones if you are a fan of SxF in general (even better if you know Vietnamese a bit and follow me💖) and you don't mind working with me. You don't have to ask to join as a member of this blog. However, you are not allowed to spoil it without my permission, otherwise, I will no longer work with you.

Link about rules of Tumblr members:

I will appreciate you if you are being honest and supportive to me and everyone in this blog as well as being as active as possible. If you don't like SxF, it's okay, but please show respect to the other ones who love it. If you don't, you may leave this blog, otherwise, when this gets to the worst scenario, I will no choice but to block you💢

Recently, I have had these weird sex followers in both of my blogs, They followed me for a while, I checked their blog and it's empty and then they unfollowed me. I ignored and marked as a scam if they DM me anyways, but if you follow me for this reason only, you come to the wrong blog.

As I mentioned above, this blog is family-friendly for all ages, I may not know your age, but there is at least a 13-year-old here, and this is the minimum age to have Tumblr, as well as other ages below 16. This is something that makes me feel really annoyed and uncomfortable, as some weirdos who found me and asked me on my main blog shared a 🔞 link. At first when I replied that post, it was flagged by Tumblr because I was not old enough, and the second time, he did it again and I deleted his ask.

So warning, please do not send me those asks like that. It's acceptable to ask me about SxF and other things -> LINK, but please no sex jokes, and I only accept some of yours if it's okay.

Tumblr has rules, you know:

Here are my social accounts:

Tumblr: @spyxfamilyanalysis

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No Facebook or Instagram because it's private, no Discord because rarely used and dunno how to use ;-;

If you are reading this, I'm very sorry if it sounds sensitive or offensive to you. I just want you to know that I'm very annoyed of people who don't take this seriously. I feel better now, and I let it go all this weird followers, but whenever they DM me, it's a bit weird and I feel very uncomfortable and confused (?).

Thank you for reading this!!! If you would like to offer me your support, follow me and DM me and wait for my reply to be accepted When you are accepted, here are the benefits you receive:

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(Special offer for followers under 16~) Ask/ DM me anything abt your HW, I'll try my best answering them for you. Just don't tell your parents abt this ;-; And pls don't ask me about Literature, I suck at it. Pls translate them into English or Vietnamese so that I can read it. I'm such a bad sister

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[pridesung]

#𝑷𝑹𝑰𝑫𝑬𝑺𝑼𝑵𝑮. ⸻  independent and private Lucifer Morningstar of Hazbin Hotel. est April 2024. as adored by Zayne.

𝐀 𝐒𝐓𝐔𝐃𝐘 𝐈𝐍 𝐓𝐇𝐄 𝐓𝐇𝐄𝐌𝐄𝐒 𝐎𝐅 : hell being a cage, dreams that turn into nightmares, the void inside oneself & wings that can no longer fly.

𝐀𝐅𝐅𝐈𝐋𝐈𝐀𝐓𝐄𝐃 𝐖𝐈𝐓𝐇 : hazbintales , helluvahotpot / impassin , demonsdealings & infernalfated 𝐂𝐑𝐄𝐃𝐈𝐓𝐒 : blog graphics by isaworks & psd by somresources 𝐎𝐖𝐄𝐃 : asks : zero & starters : zero & drafts : zero

GENERAL ,  ( following & dash & respect. ) treat me and my muse with respect. do not god mod, forceship, mass-like posts, ignore my rules, etc. treat me right and we'll be just fine. i am mutuals only so please keep this in mind. if you follow me, you're doing so with the understanding that i will reply to what i want when i want and you're not going to complain to me about it. i will not be stressing myself out to meet the activity demands of anyone on this hellsite ever. i refuse to be anxious and worried about being blocked for getting a reply out "too late." this is a hobby, and if you don't like that, my blog is not the place for you.

CONTENT ,  ( triggers & tagging & all that jazz. ) my blog will include all the standard triggers you would expect with hazbin hotel & helluva boss. everything will be tagged to the best of my ability as trigger /. i do not tag ships, but you'll rarely see me reblogging ship art anyway. please tag any and all mentions of discourse / drama / callouts, ooc alcohol / drug use, realistic spiders and clowns. please, please tag accordingly. i am fine with dark and disturbing themes. i do not have any triggers other than the aforementioned ones. i am more than willing to have not safe for work material on my blog other than smut ( nsfw headcanons are welcome ).

FOLLOWING ,  ( i see you and you see me. ) as mentioned earlier, i am mutuals only. this means that i only interact with people i'm following and who are following me. i do follow sideblogs, and i keep track of what mains are to make sure we're mutuals!  i like a clean dash, so i only follow who i look to interact with. don't take this personally but if you have multiple blogs, i will only follow the ones i'm personally interested in. if you wish to unfollow, please hardblock me. i will do the same when i wish to unfollow. if i follow you and you're not interested, you're free to hardblock as well. no hard feelings, curate your space. on why i hardblock vs softblock, it's simply because i have poor memory and this is easier for me!

INTERACTIONS ,  ( basic rp etiquette applies. ) again, respect is key. no god modding, no metagaming, no forceshipping, all the general jazz. also a note that i am extremely oc selective. this is just a comfort thing; i know people breathe their life into their ocs! if you have ocs on your multimuse, i ask that you allow me to approach them if i'm interested. single muse oc blogs, you're all good, i followed for a reason! finally, i am not crossover friendly. this is another comfort thing, so i will not be interacting with or following any crossover muses. there are several fandoms that are simply uncomfortable for me, so i have simply made the decision that i will only be interacting with canon characters originally based in hazbin hotel and helluva boss.

DRAMA ,  ( i seriously do not want to see it. ) drama is a serious no. there’s never any reason to answer a hate anon and if i see you do so, i will block you without hesitation. i require discourse/drama and callouts to be tagged like you would triggers. even if you don’t think it’s discourse, please tag it. this allows me to get myself into the right mindset before i hop into reading anything. with that, also know that i will unfollow if i see an abundance of negativity on your blog, especially if it's untagged or just tagged with a general ooc tag.

SHIPPING ,  ( yep, we made it to this part. ) shipping is not a priority for this blog. at all. on the off chance it becomes a thing, it will be done with respect to the muse's character and canon orientation. this means i won't be changing any of the canon sexualities just to ship. as far as i'm aware, lucifer's canon sexuality has not been announced and is therefore up to my interpretation.

MISCELLANEOUS ,  ( i had to google how to spell that word. ) if a thread is on my thread tracker, don't bother me about it. i know it's there and i'll answer it when i get to. if we've been talking for a while in ims, feel free to ask for my discord for easier communication. my muses do have abouts linked in my masterlist, where important headcanons are listed so i implore you to read the abouts. any not linked are under construction. i have an interest tracker that can be filled out if you would like to.

KING ,  ( it's me. i'm the problem, it's me. ) my name is Zayne and i use he / him pronouns. i am twenty seven years old and tbh i'm just happy to be here. i don't bite so don't be afraid to pop in to talk. chances are, i'm more afraid of you than you are of me. i just love velvette's sass and my lil deer man. aroace solidarity. married to @/hazbintales ( this isn't a joke, we're literally married ). you can also find me at radiosrequiem and helldrip.

[sabrinawearsprada]

the best relationship advice i could give

I've been in a relationship with my best friend for almost 10 years now and have gained so much wisdom from it - and the number one question I get is "How do you guys manage?" or some people say "I want a Glen!" or "I want what you guys have." Well let me tell you - I didn't always have a Glen. My first relationship caused me so much pain and trauma that I bet the universe said "Let's cut her some slack and match her up with someone who will make her happy for once." And you know what? They finally did!

As much as we seem so happy on the outside together, there are times where we drive each other crazy and make one another upset, but we're both fortunate enough to be with someone who makes us happy and feel loved all the time while never leaving the honeymoon phase after all these years. At the end of the day, we're just lucky that we never get tired of each other's presence, and the fact that we could look at each other and just smile and not say anything at all but still laugh says a whole lot. Ten years of endless smiles and laughter and now we're getting married in May.

If you ask me, I think it's important to be with someone who you call your best friend. When you're with someone who you're ONLY attracted to and have lustful feelings toward or have barely anything in common with, chances are that you'll burn each other out and just call it quits because there's no spark. You don't have to have EVERYTHING in common with your partner - just as long as there's loyalty and feelings of warmth and love, by all means you're in the clear. For example, I'm into horror movies (Glen's not into horror movies) and Glen loves Star Wars (whereas I'm not much of a Star Wars fan except for Rogue One), but we're still happy! But I mean, other than that we basically have everything else in common - so that's a plus.

Loyalty and trust can either make or break a relationship. I know so many people have different opinions on this topic - where as if your partner still follows or likes posts of their ex or someone they used to be involved with and if it makes you uncomfortable, what would you do? Some people would tell their partner that they're bothered by this and their partner would calmly offer to block or unfollow said person, or their partner would have a fit and try to think of as many reasons to not block or unfollow or stop liking said person's posts due to narcissistic behavior. What do you think is the right response? I'll leave that up to you.

As for my relationship, if anything bothers either of us, we communicate and talk it out - which is what every person in a relationship SHOULD do. When you sweep things under the rug and let them bubble, the outcome you're going to get is NOT going to be pretty and you both won't be able to talk with a clear, calm head. If your partner or you are uncomfortable with anything that has been said or done, it's important to reach out so that you can come up with a healthy solution that works for both of you. For example, if someone was CLEARLY constantly hitting on your partner repeatedly and it made YOU feel some type of way and you express your feelings to them, they should respect your feelings and cut ties with them - no questions asked - because they care about YOU and WANT to put YOU first because YOU are their priority. There are some cases in where some partners are overbearing and are just possessive in general, but that's a whole other story!

And listen "ladies," I understand we all want to be treated like princesses and all that, but please do not expect your partner to pay for you at all times. It's disrespectful and your partner is human too and deserves to be spoiled by you as well. I think it's fair to take turns when paying the bill or going shopping and whatnot, and when you live together, splitting up the chores definitely keeps a healthy, happy household.

Green flags in relationships:

Open communication

Both of you are honest and trust each other

You validate each other's feelings

You're able to share and feel safe with one another

Overall just enjoy being around them

You're comfortable introducing them to your friends/family

You see yourselves growing together

You share morals and core values

Your future goals align with each other (marriage, children, pets, etc.)

Red flags in relationships:

Constantly catching your partner being dishonest

Being constantly put down

Not wanting to compromise

Shutting down or running away from difficult discussions

Possessive behavior and excessive jealousy

Being passive-aggressive or blaming when trying to communicate

Your partner has no friends/difficulty keeping relationships with people (#1 red flag!!!)

Both you or your partner have or show no support for the relationship

Now, even with all of the information I have given you, it's important that you know that finding the right person is a gamble. Some people find the right person right away, and some people take a little while longer, especially when searching for dates and having high standards. I tell this to everyone who asks me for relationship advice: stop searching for someone and let them come to you. As cheesy as it sounds, good things come to those who wait. So please, be patient and the right person will come along. They always do.

Even if you're a shithead.

- Sabrina :-)

[dreamcast-official]

I think we’ve forgiven something we shouldn’t have for a long time. This isn’t as serious as I’m making it sound but I do feel relief washing over me

[bookofmirth]

Diff anon but two things on Mor/Nesta because yes this is more interesting that the ship wars lol. 

Mor does kinda compare Nesta to her abusers:

“Dark fire simmered in Morrigan’s eyes. ‘I knew plenty of people like you once.’ Her hand drifted to her abdomen. ‘You never deserve the benefit of the doubt that good people like him give you.’

Nesta was well aware of that. And knew what manner of people Morrigan referred to—those who dwelled in the Court of Nightmares in the Hewn City. Feyre had never told her the full story, but Nesta knew the bare details: the monsters who had tormented and brutalized Morrigan until she was thrown to the wolves.” (ACOSF, Ch 6)

And re: the dress incident. I know we’re gonna interpret it differently, but I think the first half of the scene is really important to why Nesta reacts as she does.

“Where did that dress come from?” Mor said, red gown flowing behind her as she breezed toward Nesta. My sister drew up short, shoulders tensing, readying to—

But Mor was already there, fingering the heavy blue fabric, surveying every stitch. “I want one,” she pouted” (ACOWAR, Ch 17)

Nesta is uncomfortable, understandably so. Whether it’s because she’s in a room full of strangers, or it’s triggering because of her SA, or because she’s still uncomfortable with her new fae body. And even if all that didn’t happen, I will never condone getting into one’s personal space like that unless you’re like really friendly with each other. If Mor was trying to be welcoming and nice, she should have backed off immediately, but she ends up holding on to Nesta's dress for a while. And if Feyre notices Nesta tensing, then I have to assume Mor does, too. So some people view this scene as Mor being disingenuous as a result. 

Was Nesta harsh? Sure. But I don’t think it was coming out of nowhere. 

Yes, this thing she says about Cassian and "people like Nesta" is the one thing that I think was super harsh of Mor. But also, it's the one (1) thing that I think was super harsh of Mor. I just didn't really care. It was more like... "oooooh bitch that was mean!" more than anything else, to me. Drama. I don't hold it against Mor.

The whole dress thing, I have seen people say that before and it makes me ???? Because Nesta didn't say anything about being uncomfortable, I didn't read her that way at all, either. I just read her as being typical Nesta. Nesta "the best defense of a good offense" Archeron. And getting in Nesta's personal space? It's not like Mor tried to give Nesta a hug. If Nesta has some invisible barrier around her that she doesn't want people to cross, she needs to say that. People didn't know about her assault, so why is that a reason for Mor to treat Nesta differently? And even if Mor did, it's sort-of on Nesta to create her own boundaries and communicate those? Which was part of my point in that one post -

Nesta has no healthy boundaries, so of course people are crossing those boundaries all the damn time. She makes up her own boundaries arbitrarily depending on if she wants people to be close to her or not, and 99.9999% of the time, she doesn't want them to be. That's what led her to being isolated for a year. Feyre, Elain, and Co. finally said okay fine, you want none of us around ever, have fun in your townhouse! She created impossible boundaries for them to respect. And that was what I saw as the point of her story - not using her anger as a way to push people away.

But I guess I don't understand why the other characters are supposed to treat Nesta with kid gloves when she treats them with boxing gloves. I just personally have no time for that nonsense. Someone is rude to me or treats me like crap, they're blocked, unfollowed, reported, out of my life. So to me, Mor's attempt at being friendly and then smiling in response to Nesta insulting her? Valid. More than valid, especially since they didn't know one another, Mor didn't owe her any sort of kindness or anything. I would have probably insulted Nesta right back. Well that's not true, I probably would have bit my tongue for Feyre's sake. But not for Nesta's.

Nothing that Nesta has done has felt unforgivable to me, is the tl;dr. So given the fact that Mor has done 1/100th of the bad crap that Nesta has, in terms of being cruel to people, Mor especially doesn't bother me.

I know this might be me smushing different people's opinions together, but I don't understand how Nesta being aggressively cruel for 80% of the series is okay, but Mor being cruel once isn't okay. Or Elain being cruel once isn't okay. As a Nice Person irl (and mostly online), the double standards bother me. (All of their behavior okay to me, idgaf if they are always nice. It would be boring if they are. It's just the way that people see a Nice Girl being mean once suddenly makes her the biggest bitch, but a Mean Girl being mean is just her personality and totally okay.)

[mafuyuh]

this is a call out post for @frailuta

i’ve had enough of you. you stealing my edits and ideas. you manipulating people. your drama posts. your hunger for notes. i’m so sick and tired of seeing all these things and not being able to say anything because i’m sure you’d talk behind my back to people and make yourself the victim, because i know you have been doing that all the time. you made me feel so uncomfortable and disgusted to the point where i thought about quitting tumblr for weeks. but i’ve had enough of you. you should get help because this behavior is not okay and you’re clearly not in a healthy mindset. 

there is also a whole old document about her old blog which you can find by clicking this. i’m not even going to get into this lmao. it’s so embarrassing that you still continue to do this.

anyways, here are ALL the receipts:

first let’s start with you stealing edits:

(left: frailuta right: original)

(left: original, right: frailuta)

do i need to say more? more people can link their stolen edits if they feel so.

then let’s talk about your manipulation:

you’re using your mental health as an excuse. i have a mental health too?? i’ve been trying to avoid you as much as possible because seeing you copy my edits make me feel so uncomfortable that you can’t understand. witnessing you steal an idea of mine and then get more notes? think about how that makes me feel huh. i thought about quitting tumblr countless times because of you. i didn’t feel like giffing stuff for days because of you stealing them. although i’ve never talked about you, unlike you. 

this is how i know you talk about me to my mutuals, because you did the exact same thing to me about another person. i know someone who blocked me after your post about me. this clearly shows how manipulative you are. (this is her message to me after someone blocking her)

expressing your depressive thoughts with gradient text? i guess you wanted more attention :D i leave the interpretation of this to you. still, i think you should get some help. like seriously. 

(this screenshot is not mine) why don’t you just leave people alone when they block you? you instead complain about them through several dramatic posts and messages.

first i unfollowed you because you were annoying me with all your drama posts and copying. then you started talking about me PUBLICLY using my name how i unfollowed you. then you started copying my edits MORE. i blocked you. then you started talking about how i blocked you using my name PUBLICLY. people started blocking me because of your posts. in the meantime, i’ve never talked about you. but this is enough.

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i’ve been feeling extremely uncomfortable for months because of her and i feel so relieved that i finally made this post with all the receipts. i hope this was enough for you all to understand my issue with her, both as an editor and as a human. 

@frailuta, i hope you seriously consider getting professional help, because you clearly need it. tumblr is not that serious, get over it.

[mcmoth]

Dream SMP fandom etiquette

So. This post is probably too little, too late, considering the fandom and the issues I'm about to talk about have existed for so long now, and a lot of the people who need to hear this probably aren't on tumblr anyways, but I just wanted to dedicate a quick post to talk about fandom etiquette. Mostly pertaining to discourse, and interactions with people outside of our circle. These are just going to be my own personal thoughts, of course, but I felt it could be good to bring some of this to attention. So without further introduction:

Where to (not) talk about discourse:

Don't go into other streamer's vods to only focus about a different character. If you want to analyse, for example, c!Techno, do it in Techno's stream. Don't go into unrelated streams, like Tommy's, Tubbo's etc. to do it, even if they were a part of the event in question. This is, of course, with the exception if the character in question didn't stream their own pov. But otherwise, stay in your own space. This is to prevent cluttering a streamer's comments about unrelated discussion. To give further example: Tubbo's vod comments should primarily focus on Tubbo's character. Not Tommy's, Ranboo's, Techno's or whoever else's.

Don't start discourse in the comments of animatics. Seriously, stop that. Animatics aren't discussion boards. The comments are there to analyse and appreciate the video presented, not argue. It's especially rude if you pick a small detail, that wasn't even the focus of the animatic, or even a completely unrelated issue to rant out your frustrations about. To give examples: starting disc discourse in an animatic of Tommy talking to Wilbur, or rambling about how tragic Techno's character is in an animatic focused on clingy duo, etc.

This applies to fan songs as well.

Video essays are the exception to these rules. I think it's safe to say they're the place to bring your hot takes, if you really feel so inclined to argue in youtube comment sections (Though I'd personally advise to still keep the topic relevant).

Keep negativity out of fanfic comments. This isn't nearly as big of an issue as the last points, but I've seen it happen a couple times, so I'm deciding to mention it. Fanfics are written for fun. Even if you disagree with the characterisation or something else, unless the author is clear in accepting critique, keep criticism to yourself. And definitely don't rant about how you dislike a character unrelated to the fanfic. Sharing your thoughts on the fanfic itself is of course fine and welcomed, but when it turns from discussing the author's story to talking about how you dislike a character in canon, that's when it crosses a line. Example: comment talking about what you don't like about c!Tommy on a Bench Trio fanfiction.

When commenting on art, keep the feedback positive. Even if you dislike any presented character, keep that to yourself. Example: Don't say things like "I hate x character, but this art is good". You might think the author would feel honoured, but it's actually just hurtful.

How to deal with discourse:

This is gonna be a shorter section, because I think we all chose to do it in different ways, and that's valid. Also, it's just that I, myself, am still learning how to do this well, but I thought it could be good to try to lay it out anyways.

Try to scroll past takes you disagree with instead of arguing if you don't think you'd be able to keep your cool. Noone likes a random person yelling at them through a screen, and if you rant, you'll get an equally frustrated reply back, and noone will be happy. Either explain your point in a calm manner, or scroll past/ unfollow/block.

On the keeping cool thing, remember to just step away. Take a deep breath and calm yourself down before proceeding. To minimize the frustration you feel on a daily basis, filter tags, block people, avoid videos and youtube comment sections that you know will upset you, and leave certain internet spaces if you find yourself unable to escape negativity even with all those steps. Remember: in the end, it's all a game played by friends, a story, and your enjoyment of it lies in what you take from it. Abandon what makes you unhappy. Marie Kondo your fandom experience.

Also, here's your reminder, to whom this is relevant, to take care of yourself. Hydrate, eat, sleep, clean up, get fresh air, remember the things outside of all this. There's plenty to do outside of this fandom, and what you can do here can wait. There is no pressure, or obligation. Not for the content you create, not for the discussions you bring, not for responding to discourse, not for anything. Fandom is meant purely for fun, so take care <3

Interacting with people outside of the fandom:

This is something that I've seen a bit of talk about, and I thought I'd drop in my own thoughts on this as well. No matter the differences, we're all just trying to vibe, and I think these are important things to keep in mind to leave both sides better off:

Don't interact with hate posts. Just don't. You don't want to see them, they don't want to see you. Even if your response is lighthearted, their animosity is not. They will feel frustrated regardless, and the grudge will only grow. And if they're being agressive, calm discussion most likely won't happen even if you're being polite. Just leave it, please.

Correct misinformation calmly. I completely get how it can be frustrating to see blatant lies and all, but with our reputation, people will not listen if you're being antagonistic. Provide sources, explain, and leave it at that.

Don't be hateful, send death threats, or assume privilege or whatever else. That's stepping into the same shoes of the people you hate. Misunderstandings go both ways, and the fact of the matter is, I think most people who dislike DSMP, even the ones who are agressive about it, don't have their stance rooted in maliciousness. To expand on why the situation became what it is today, taken from a discussion on discord:

I think it's just a combination of Dream growing so insanely quickly + how internet spaces have changed over the years. When ccs like jackstepticeye or pewdiepie etc. grew popular, activism wasn't as prevalent and held to such importance. Now it's thankfully more talked about, but that also leads to Dream being more scrutinized in comparision. Add twitter trends and the general prevalence of the fandom, and you've got everyone feeling tired and frustrated and paranoid. People also tend not to fact check stuff, especially when it comes to celebrities and stuff they're not really interested in, so rumors spread fast.

And actually, I think there's absolutely valid reasons to be made uncomfortable by Dream SMP, either in it's creators, content or fandom, and there is, of course, stuff to criticise in general. The problem is the hate and misinformation and overexposure, but we are not going to solve any of that by being aggressive in return.

(This is, by the way, not talking about more serious cases. Like doxxing, or leaving gore images in hashtags, or similar instances. That's a whole different complicated issue that I don't feel qualified to tackle.)

And finally, don't overwhelm outsiders who merely mention the Dream SMP. Don't send asks asking them to watch it, don't write paragraphs explaining the lore, don't confuse them with inside jokes, just... Don't jump on people like that. Unless they're explicitly clear in wanting interaction and getting into the fandom, that kind of thing will just drive them away. This is in no way exclusive to the Dream SMP fandom, pretty much every fandom has people enthiastic to have more people involved, but since there are so unbelievably many of us, it's especially easy to go overboard with this stuff. Just... be polite, and don't pressure anyone. Be nice, please.

So.... ya! This would be it for this one, I think. Sorry that it's kinda long, thank you if you read it at all. Hope y'all have pleasant days ^^

[iamanartichoke]

I am posting this mostly to get it off my chest, and I'll probably regret it, but ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

I think the biggest problem I have with Fandom Wank(tm) in regards to positivity or negativity, is what bothers me has literally nothing to do with whether one's positivity/negativity will turn out to be right.

last night I followed a couple of posts and went down a rabbit hole of "series negativity" bashers' posts, bc apparently I hate myself and do not wish to be in a good mental space right now, and the common thread I noticed is that those who are overwhelmingly positive and take issue with criticism seem to be doing so bc they see their own versions of Loki being portrayed on-screen, either as how they've interpreted him as a character in generral or as how they've written him in fics. And not only are they fiercely protective of those versions but they also get validation from the confirmation that their Loki is The Right Loki(tm). Criticism takes the on-screen portrayal (and, subsequently, their own personal versions of The Right Loki(tm)) and says, uh, I can't actually see Loki doing this? I think this is ooc? I think Loki as portrayed here is not consistent with previous portrayals? -

- and suddenly you've got this rabid backlash on your hands where it becomes 'omg stop being toxic,' 'your headcanon is not canon' (look in the mirror), 'this is tom's loki so it's accurate,' 'i see no difference whatsoever in characterization y'all're just deluded and have invented a loki that never existed' (tf????), etc.

And I can't help but conclude that the backlash against criticism/negativity has nothing to do with the criticism itself; it's more to do with the undermining of someone else's validation in how they view this character.

This is purely speculation. There's some mental gymnastics here, admittedly. I could be way off base and I realize that I risk my post being shared and misconstrued and mocked by even posting it publicly. But the only reason I'm writing this - and thus getting it off my chest after my spiral down the rabbit hole - is bc from my point of view, I didn't feel like my experience in enjoying this tv show was being threatened until the discourse backlash over the negativity started spilling onto my dash. Not the negativity itself; the actual discourse. (And, look, there's a lot of negativity that's been posted that I don't agree with whatsoever, and there's other negativity that I may agree with but don't agree that it's an issue, or - my point is, this isn't bc I don't have conflict with the actual arguments themselves.)

Full disclosure: for the first three weeks, I was more positive than not regarding the show. (I think I still am.) I posted about what I liked but I also posted about what I felt was ooc and about the elements I liked less. A lot of my mutuals are not thrilled (to say the least) with the show, so there was already a ton of negativity on my dash and I personally went through a few minor meltdowns on whether or not I was on the right page with my enjoyment when so many others (whose opinions I trust and whose versions of Loki [that I've read] in fic ring true to me) were not sharing that enjoyment.

I did/have been talking it out with friends who feel similarly and I've more or less come to terms with being in the middle. And in the meantime, when I felt like the negativity was not something I wanted to be cognizant of, I skipped those posts entirely. Doing these things allowed me to come to terms with where I was standing regarding my overall feelings on the series, and overall enjoyment with my fandom experience.

And then, mostly after episode 3 (which seems to be the most divisive so far), discourse started popping up on my dash more and more. I'm defining discourse, in this context, as 'wank regarding whether or not Loki is actually ooc, wank over people who enjoy the show not wanting to see the negativity, wanky posts asking people who are critical to reserve judgement until the show has finished airing (but praise is fine)' -

- and suddenly, I feel much more self-conscious about posting my takes. Suddenly I feel much more anxiety about hitting the "post" button when said post is more critical than not. Suddenly I am worried about who, exactly and actually, is reading my posts? Who is going to decide to paraphrase my takes and include them in a 'guess what they're complaining about NOW' post? Who is going to decide to pass around a post I've made only to mock it, as has happened to some of my friends already?

Over the past three days, I have gotten 30+ new followers, and instead of feeling good about it - hey, some of these may be porn bots but still, people are interested in my blog?! - I feel just increasing anxiety about it bc, I mean, I don't know who anyone is or what they're here for.

I do not feel secure in the current fandom environment, is what I'm saying, and the reason I do not feel secure is not because of the negativity; it's because of the wank coming from the people who post about the negativity and mock the negativity and call other fans deluded stans who have a shitty grasp on characterization, story telling, and Loki in general. It's Ragnarok bullshit all over again, only worse.

And this circles me back to my original point, which is that the anxiety and the wank/discourse and whatever else really has nothing to do with the on-screen portrayal of Loki.

For me, personally? It took me awhile to realize it, admittedly, but I did realize that I do not care if what I perceive as ooc actually isn't. I do not care if the final product of Loki - once the entire series has aired - is a different Loki than what I've written and perceived as "my" Loki all this time. It's not going to make me feel like less of a fan or less valid; it's just going to make me feel like I have a perception of Loki that may differ in some ways with "canon Loki" but is still similar enough that I will continue to enjoy engaging with him and writing meta about him and writing fic about him and sharing those things with people who view Loki similarly. Likewise, I am not going to feel less valid as a writer and a critical thinker; it doesn't make me feel like I have anything to prove.

So if the root of the wank is coming down to the negativity making you feel less valid or less vindicated bc "your" Loki matches the show but is being called ooc by a lot of other fans, like, maybe take a step back and consider not taking it personally? Maybe really think about why the fact that negativity exists bothers you so much? Bc I mean, at the end of the day, it's not like Tom Hiddleston himself is going to descend from the clouds with a choir of angels singing and acknowledge any one of us as The One True Fan Who Has The Best Interpretation Ever of Loki. So what actual difference does it make if (we agree or disagree that) he's ooc or not?

Ultimately I'm just saying, there is definitely wank that is ruining the fandom atmosphere and the show in general, and it's not coming from those who are posting their negativity and criticism of the source material.

*Disclaimer that this is how I am perceiving and interpreting things today and possibly in general, but I'm not necessarily saying that my perception is factual to what is actually happening. I don't know what is happening. This is the guess that I've come up with in order to reconcile the fandom discomfort I feel, discomfort which is ruining the show for me, and where it's all coming from.

** Second disclaimer that I have unfollowed those who were participating in the wank, if I was following them in the first place, to the point that it made me uncomfortable, and obviously this post doesn't apply to everyone bc there is a certain amount of just being tired of it that I understand, so if we're mutuals, this doesn't apply to you regardless of where you stand on the wank.

*** Third disclaimer that said fandom environment is what makes me feel like I have to add disclaimers on every fucking thing I say, partly bc people read what they want to read and partly bc I have very debilitating anxiety regarding being misunderstood.

[msviolacea]

I see spoiler discourse going around again, and it always makes me a little tired because it feels like everyone’s talking past each other, and/or not examining what they actually mean when they’re talking about spoilers being perfectly fine versus spoilers being the Worst Thing Ever.

Experiencing a piece of media unspoiled is a fundamentally different experience than experiencing it spoiled. Neither is objectively better than the other, but they’re different enough that a person should be able to choose which one they want to have at all times, I think.

I’m thinking about it in terms of the last post I reblogged, about sometimes letting yourself experience uncomfortable things because it can be good. Experiencing a story unspoiled is, at its heart, an uncomfortable experience. For many of us, it’s the good kind of uncomfortable, more anticipation than dread, trusting the person creating the story to take us on a journey that we’ll like in the end. Think of it like a roller coaster - when you get on, you know you’re going to end up in the same safe place you started, but you’ll feel an exhilaration you don’t feel right now, a memory of an experience that you haven’t yet had. That’s what an unspoiled story feels like to me.

But ... I don’t like actual roller coasters. And I know that people who seek out spoilers are like me and roller coasters. That exhilaration is more like terror, or dread, or plain old disinterest in being flung into the unknown in this particular way. Going on a ride that doesn’t give the same sweeping highs and lows is a very different thing, but it allows for more comfort, a chance to stop and look at everything and choose what you want to take from the experience.

Very different experiences. Both worthwhile.

I remember, back in the days before the internet was quite so widespread, I ended up being spoiled for the movie The Sixth Sense before I got a chance to see it. When I did finally see it in a theater, it was a fun experience, because I was able to see all the things that led to the twist at the end, see how the filmmakers constructed it. But I was also disappointed that I didn’t get that experience of gasping and going “what did I miss!!” at the end. I’ve never watched that movie again. It wasn’t the sort of thing that would become a comfort movie for me, and I already did the story analysis I would have done on a subsequent viewing.

I like that exhilaration, when it comes to stories. The risk of experiencing one that doesn’t work or betrays my trust is, for me, worth it. Not everyone feels the same, and that’s cool. Everyone can choose to take risks in different parts of their entertainment/leisure lives.

But the internet makes it very hard to remain unspoiled. Very hard, but not impossible. And ultimately experiencing a thing the way I want to is my own responsibility. When there’s something I don’t want to be spoiled for that I know will be a huge, gigantic thing in my parts of the online world? I have options.

I can block words on Tumblr, on Twitter. There are tools. If there’s a way I can’t use those tools (i.e., mobile), then I just don’t look at that site that way for the duration.

I unfollow accounts that I know will be spoiling things. Media sites, pop culture people, even friends temporarily.

I deliberately do not go to the pop culture sites that report on the thing, and I turn off any feature that usually gives me headlines, i.e. Chrome’s landing page on my phone.

But Jaime, you might say, social media is my primary form of communication with people! Notice I didn’t say “don’t read social media at all whatsoever.” I said “curate it for a while.” It doesn’t guarantee 100% you won’t get spoiled, but if you want the 100% guarantee, you really do need to just sit in your room disconnected from everything, and that’s not sustainable.

But what do I do in the meantime? I don’t know, play an offline video game? Watch a show I’ve been meaning to binge on Netflix? Read other books? Talk to my friends about our D&D game, or the fandom we last had in common, or whatever?

But all my friends are already experiencing X and want to talk about it! This is where you have to use your words, my friend. Pick a friend or two you know is the understanding sort, and say “listen, I can’t play/read/watch X for like two weeks, can I just message you to talk about fandom Y for that time so I’m not tempted to go somewhere that will spoil me?” Or create yourself a secondary Tumblr or Twitter account and just follow accounts that talk about something else you’re interested in so you have something to read while you wait. Or announce on your main account “I’m creating a Discord/group chat/whatever for people who can’t see X immediately so we can talk to each other” and see if you can get a bite or two.

You have options. You’re not required to experience media - standard or social - that gives you FOMO. And other people are allowed to use their social media for whatever makes them happy, even if it’s something you don’t want to see at this particular moment. There are ways to get what you want, you just have to be willing to work for them sometimes. And that includes avoiding spoilers in this day and age. You’re not going to change media, so you have to change your own habits.

[tummy-stuffing-king]

I love that we are finally having these fat-based degradation discussions! They are so important. Everything you’ve mentioned has been spot on in my opinion, except that I think two important distinctions should be made.

First, you keep referring to fat-based degradation as fatphobia-based degradation, something I personally don’t agree with. Fatphobia refers to a societal and often systemic discrimination towards individuals because of their weight. It is often exercised through comments like these, but these comments alone do not equal fatphobia. The intent behind them and the context they’re used in is very important and I think conflating them as inherently fatphobic overlooks much of the nuance of this situation, to the detriment of those trying to fully understand it.

Which brings me to my second distinction; consent. This all hinges on consent and how it must be applied correctly for these comments to be (in my opinion) morally sound. As long as the teaser and teasee have both consented, no matter how harsh the teasing, I see no issue. Many people are into a myriad of “harsher” kinks that may appear violent or abusive to an uninformed observer, but are actually quite intimate and loving when consent is applied correctly.

Your mention of couchqueenie is a good example of this I think, because while her posts often express fat-based degradation, they are always about her alone and they never implicate that the insults she hurls at herself should apply to all fat people. She degrades only herself, for herself (and her followers who consent by following the blog). Personally, I don’t see this as an issue at all. It may make some people feel uncomfortable due to past traumas with fat shaming, and that’s fair, but those people are not forced to consume her content when she posts! They can remove their consent at any time by simply unfollowing the blog, just like you did. This is consent being applied correctly.

The issue arises when consent is not applied correctly. Frustratingly, these cases are far too prevalent in our community specifically. I have been in many other kink spaces and concluded that feedists, unfortunately, are often the least educated on the best practices and unspoken rules of engaging with kink in general. This leads to many (usually cis male) feeders pushing their fantasies onto others without consent, or taking advantage of a certain level of given consent to go above and beyond with their fantasies, effectively breaking consent. The scariest part is most times they don’t even realize what they are doing.

Anyway, I said all of this to say that I believe our first step as a community must be to educate ourselves more deeply on kink, kink spaces, and consent. Only then can we hope for improvement!

Hi, thank you! I appreciate your comment, but I did want to clarify a few things. My original post wasn't exactly a deep dive into the sociology of degradation and fatphobia in kink spaces, just a vent/rant post about patterns I'd seen in the community, so it wasn't as nuanced as it could have been and I apologize.

I do agree with you that a major part of this issue hinges on consent. If a fat person says they enjoy being teased or shamed for their fatness, then that is their prerogative and I'm not trying to say they're wrong or bad for it, and certainly not fatphobic. As I said in my previous ask, my comment on couchqueenie wasn't meant to be a callout, just an example of the type of language I'm talking about from a blogger many people would be familiar with.

In regards to your distinction of fat-based degradation vs fatphobia, I feel like the violation of consent when using this language is itself a symptom of fatphobia. The need to comment on the "ugliness" of any random fat person's body or make generalizing posts about fat people at large is a consequence of the negative societal view of fat people, just placed under a horny kink lens. The air of "I'm disgusted but aroused", especially by cishet white men (though they are not the only perpetrators, just the most prevalent), is reminiscent of similar attitudes toward queer people, people of colour, or disabled people, especially women, and it'd be remiss to argue those cases are not the result of bigotry.

In my opinion, the distinction lies between "fat people are [x]" which is fatphobic, and "this fat person who has consented is [x]", which is not.

[the-insomniac-emporium]

thoughts on Bela///Donna?

What a lovely can of worms you've placed in my inbox, dear nonnie. I cannot wait to open it and lose followers (regardless of what I actually say).

Since this is, uh, a subject of some debate among RE8 fans, I will be inputting my thoughts on the idea of the ship (and the possible controversy), as opposed to doing HCs or something for it (which I recognize might be what you were asking for, despite the excessive /s).

This is all based on my playthroughs of the game, as well as what I've managed to double check on the fandom/wiki for it. I know that a lot of people who read fanfic for the game haven't actually played it, likely having been lured in by Tall Vampire Milf, and so I hope that some people will be open to a reminder of, like, canon vs fanon? I've mentioned in a previous post that there's a lot of details for RE8 that are not made clear, and I feel the need to reiterate that in this post. Capcom left a lot of stuff up to people's imaginations, or kind of just hinted at in game or in concept art.

But more importantly, regardless of what game we're talking about, regardless of the conclusion I come to (and the one you come to) at the end of this post, I want to say that I absolutely understand the need/desire to have your own perspective/take on the characters from the game, as well as their dynamics. If a ship makes you uncomfortable because you see the characters as being family members, it's totally okay. Block the ship tag, or filter it out when you look through fandom stuff, don't follow people who post for it, etc, etc.

If you think of characters as being family-family (like, not just "we got married and are now a family" but, like, "we're siblings/parent and child") and still ship them? uh. sorry, bruv, maybe think of hitting that unfollow button. No, seriously, hit that unfollow button. This blog is anti-incest, thank you very much.

The last thing I'll say before putting it under a read-more (for both length and major RE8 spoilers) is that I recognize that I might have missed something, either in game or developers talking about things on social media, and so if you read through this and go "god, J, you're such a dumbass for forgetting *critical piece of media*" or even just "okay but have you seen *small but meaningful piece of media*?" please. Just. Please. Tell me. Link me to that shit. I WANT to know if I'm wrong. I've literally avoided talking about this for as long as I could in order to TRY and make sure I have all the context I need.

With that said, let's examine what context we are given for Alcina Dimitrescu, Bela Dimitrescu, Donna Beneviento, and their relations to each other. I will be leaving my personal thoughts on Bela///Donna at the very end of this, as somewhat of a conclusion, somewhat of just a "hey, this is what you technically asked me about".

Firstly, let me begin by explaining what I consider to be the 3 tiers of "canon"

In-Game/Direct: The highest, truest tier, the definitive canon. This is everything that takes place in game, excluding certain hallucination scenes (ex: Mia was not really in House Beneviento, but we can infer some things from what Donna made Ethan hallucinate about). Things either happen, or are directly stated by characters. There's some wiggle room for dialogue, as characters can lie, but overall we, as the audience, assume we are being told the truth. At the very least, games usually eventually make it clear when a character has been dishonest. Examples of Direct Canon include the following: Ethan is infected with the mold, Lady Dimitrescu drinks blood, Heisenberg wears sunglasses, Mother Miranda can shapeshift.

Concept Art/Developer's Notes/Indirect: Mid-tier and debatable, the "we think, but we're not sure" of canon. Resident Evil: Village contains lots of concept art that the players can browse through, all of which include notes from the developers about the game, characters, environments, and story. Sometimes the notes make something "direct", but oftentimes they do not specify whether the listed idea is still canon or if it was removed during development. This tier also includes information that is implied/can be inferred from tier 1 information, but is not directly stated. Examples of Indirect Canon include the following: Donna's mother died by suicide, Moreau was going to have his lover fused to his back, Duke was originally a fifth lord, Heisenberg was going to have a twin. As you can see, not all of the concept art ideas made it into the final version of the game, so it can be hard when some information seems like it might still be true (such as the matter of Donna's parents).

Fanon/"False": Sometimes collective ideas in a fandom become so widespread that people start interpreting them as actual canon. Sometimes it gets hard to remember what's just obscure lore and what's fanon. When we get a piece of fiction as overall vague as a lot of Resident Evil: Village is, there's bound to be some confusion over time. That's one of the main reasons I waited to talk about Bela////Donna until after I had recently replayed relevant sections of the game, as I wanted to remind myself of what we're actually told. Examples of False Canon are difficult to pinpoint, but might include things like: Hufflepuffs are good at finding things? The Avengers got along for awhile and all had their own rooms in the tower? There's a number scale for the danger level of ghosts in Danny Phantom?

For this post, I will be limiting the majority of my notes to the first two levels of canon, and will do my best to mark them as such. Now... let us... begin.

Alcina Dimitrescu:

Born no later than 1914, Alcina Dimitrescu was 44 years old when she was granted the Cadou by Mother Miranda. (1st Tier: Canon. Source: A note in the castle basement from a servant is dated 1958, and mentions both Alcina and her children. Secondly, Miranda's experiment notes state that Alcina was the 181st subject, and was given the Cadou at age 44. By doing math, we can then determine the earliest Alcina could have been born.)

Alcina refers to the other Lords as her family once without any disdain (when Ethan first arrives at the castle and is caught, Alcina says "you've escaped my little brother"). In a private journal (located near where she threw the infamous vanity) she insults the other Lords, and expresses anger that she is "treated like a sister to them". She argues with Heisenberg without any hesitation, and seems honest in her hatred of him (per Maggie Robertson's wunderbar performance). (1st Tier/2nd Tier: Canon with a sprinkle of interpretation for the last line)

Alcina openly refers to Bela, Cassandra, and Daniela as her daughters, and wrote in her experiment journal that she felt instantly connected to them (as mother and daughters). (1st Tier: Canon).

Bela Dimitrescu:

Likely born in the 1930's or 1940's, in order to be an adult by 1958 (the first dated appearance of the Dimitrescu daughters). (2nd Tier: Based on inference)

Dialogue shows that all three of the daughters do love their mother, and reinforces the bond Alcina's journal mentions. (1st Tier: Canon)

We are not given any information about how Bela feels about the other Lords, or even what she knows about them. Once can assume that she shares the ideas of her mother, either because Alcina tells her things directly, or because Bela (who is eager to please her mother) picks up on them over time. (2nd Tier: Based on inference)

Donna Beneviento:

No idea when she was born. If you've read one of my recent posts, then you know that it's almost entirely a matter of 2nd and 3rd tier canon.

Of the four lords, Donna seems to have the most story within the 2nd tier, and has very, very little in the 1st tier. Duke says she's somewhat isolated, and that her "playmates" never leave the house. Miranda's notes state that Donna is mentally ill, and the gardener's diary states/implies (bit of both) that Donna has severe social anxiety. (1st/2nd Tier: Mostly canon)

Supposedly, her parents committed suicide while she was still a child. This is indicated in concept art/the attached developer's notes. However, the only part that's also directly stated in game is that her parents (specifically her father) died while she was young. (1st/2nd Tier: Mostly canon)

While Donna only has one voice line in the game (and it's sad), Angie talks a fair bit. Angie seems to disapprove of the other Lords, or at the very least enjoys mocking them, as well as enjoys watching them fight with each other. As Angie is connected to Donna, and Donna has some level of control over her, one can assume that the two have similar (if not the same) opinions. (1st/2nd Tier: Mostly Canon)

Donna was adopted by Mother Miranda as an adult. It's unclear exactly how old Donna was, or what exactly Miranda did as her "mother", just that Donna was excited about it. (1st Tier: Canon)

Other Relevant Information:

Heisenberg refers to the other Lords as his siblings a minimum of 1 time. Similarly to Alcina, however, he openly insults them and seems to hate them. He just, you know, hates Mother Miranda the most. (1st Tier: Canon)

Mother Miranda does not actually give a shit about the four Lords, intended for them to die before the ceremony, and has been manipulating them for her own gain this entire time. Her notes and dialogue make it clear that she only cares about getting Eva back. Somehow mother of the year and worst mother ever. At the same time. (1st/2nd Tier: Mostly Canon)

It's unclear who treats Alcina "like a sister" to the other Lords. Were there cut lines of dialogue that cemented the idea of them being a "family"? Did Miranda call them a "family" as part of pretending she cared about them? I've done my best to dig around, but there's very little in game that treats them as a family of any sort.

As each Lord ruled their own section of the region, they don't have any mentions of interacting with each other outside of meetings with Mother Miranda. None of the notes for any Lord (and their relevant experiments) mention what the others are doing. In game, their environments are very separate, very well divided, though this is likely as much for gameplay as it is for story.

Conclusion:

I do not not believe there is enough in game evidence to suggest that Alcina and Donna consider themselves to be siblings. There's the possibility for a large age gap, Alcina was a fair bit older than Donna when she met Miranda, Donna is a social recluse whose closest bonds were with dead blood relatives and dolls, Alcina openly dislikes (if not hates) the other Lords, they seemingly lived very separate and distanced lives, and Mother Miranda does not enforce the idea of "family". Furthermore, the sheer contrast between how Alcina interacts with/speaks of the other Lords compared to how she interacts with/speaks of her daughters says a lot about her feelings. Even if Heisenberg takes the brunt of her anger, Alcina never once says anything remotely positive about anyone other than Miranda and her daughters.

As Alcina/Bela and Donna are not blood-relatives, the definition of what would count as "incest" does vary depending on who you ask. Personally, I do count non-blood relations as potentially incestuous. For example: Alcina "dating" one of her daughters would be incest, regardless of the fact that she's a mutated human and her daughters are weird swarms of flies.

Now, I do understand how popular the idea of the four Lords being a real, chaotic but still close family is. And as I mentioned above, it's totally valid to not like the Bela///Donna ship, whether it's because you think they're family or some other reason. I don't personally see them that way, even in my definitely-not-canon stories.

Do I personally ship Bela///Donna? Nope. Have I liked art for the ship? Admittedly yes, even if I thought some of it was, like, maiden x Bela because Donna didn't have her veil and I'm a DUMBASS who doesn't always remember to read tags. Would I ever write for it? Yeah, probably, assuming I didn't miss anything in game/that I don't eventually change my mind.

[inkdemon-whore]

when you get this you have to answer with 5 things u like about yourself, publicly. then, send this ask to 10 of your favorite followers (non-negotiable, positivity is cool) ♡

Btw i dont care if youre proship

bro my phone yeeted the fuck outta my response, anyway uuuuhhhhh

i've been engaging in more media lately, can actually sorta kinda cook, i've been actually doing at least some stuff with some ocs which is great i never use my lil guys, i've been doing some introspection, and uh.... idk, breathing is nice?

i don't really have fav followers, let alone 10, plus i wouldn't be surprised if some of my "faves" are some ppl who left or where just, the most engaged with my content

i appreciate you tho owo uwu

anyway, i know this isn't really in your ask, but it feels sorta relevant, to me at least. i've kinda been thinking about, like, platforming, i guess? and how audiences see creators, and really just, how i go about making content. not super in depth, but like, worrying if my art style is too soft and squishy for me to get into darker/taboo topics, or if i'm some how pulling in the wrong crowd. i don't know any of you, i can take a guess, but at the end of the day, i'll never know why any of you people like my content, or what you're "here for". because i can only ever hope it's for me, and not just the stuff i make, which is probably a bad mindset to have as a creator on the internet, especially tumblr dot fuck off. not gonna bore ya with this shit, i'm still meditating on it, rollin it around in my head, yada yada, so yeah

uuuuhhhhhh there's gonna be some stuff posted in like, march, i think? end of feb sorta? i don't remember, it's scheduled bruno x mirabel art i did not too long ago, so again, to anyone who doesn't wanna see that stuff, blacklist the tag "tw ship"

imma also take the time here to say, yeah, no, i haven't really been doing the whole "break" thing i said i would, it's kinda hard not to sneak in here when i can just type in the password, so, imma key smash a new password, and try to not worry about this place for a bit

if i get like a call out post or somethin when i'm gone........................... idk, i'm not sure if i'd wanna hear about it, i've had quite a few, and though i know i can defend myself and whatnot, i'm getting really close to "why even bother" territory.

if ya want anything from me, fiction doesn't equal reality, but it can be a representation of reality, and sometimes reality is fucking gross and uncomfortable, and art can be a safe place/way to explore those ideas without.... idk, sleeping with my uncle? like, don't, don't sleep with you're uncle, like, i shouldn't have to hold your hand and say that, i expect you people to be intelligent enough to know the difference between non-existent characters and real people, but also like, if that kinda content/relationship triggers you or makes you uncomfortable, then yeah you have every right to unfollow, or even block me.

anyway, that's my final think thunks here, maybe they're a mess, i don't know, i don't care, i've been looming over this blog for too long already about this, and i should probably leave, so, mmmmmmmlater, maybe in like....................................................................... fuck it, i'm not putting a time frame on it, just know this is officially a hiatus until it's not

[leviskokoro]

LIGHTS, CAMERA, ROMANCE!｜ACTOR AU

note/s :: In the Twisted Friends server, @rrasado and I keep talking about Actor AU so I figured that it might be good to post here as well

Maria Ambrosio is a new rising star in the film industry and she’s gaining fame quickly with her talent at acting and with Azul Ashengrotto as her manager.

Problem is, she’s rather unsatisfied with constantly being typecasted into “Damsel in Distress” roles or “Protagonist’s Mother that Immediately Dies in a Very Tragic Way” roles. Azul often tells her that taking these roles are necessary to get her name out there and rack up tons of cash. While she wishes for roles where she could be a strong female lead, she just grins and bears everything.

Vil Schoenheit is a veteran actor in the industry who has been acting since he was a child. He takes notice of Mari and realises that she has identical struggles as he did; So, he takes it upon himself to help her out.

Mari obviously returns the favor and they form a friendship built on mutual benefit, wanting each other to improve their skills. Mari tries to help Vil find protagonist roles with happy endings, Vil tries to teach her to have more of a backbone so that she can be more eligible for strong female lead roles.

The media and paparazzi notice their friendship and start mistaking it as a relationship. Azul also sees this and decides to capitalise this. He convinces Vil and Mari to start ✨fake dating✨

His reasoning was that since Vil is extremely popular as a veteran actor, hers own popularity would rise as well. Mari didn’t like the idea of using Vil like that, but Azul said that she could finally get the roles that they want.

He also manages to convince Vil and they start ✨fake dating✨

Azul was correct and their relationship ended up going viral. After that, roles started pouring in for Mari.

Her first lead female role was an angelic warrior and she did so well that that Rook, one of Vil’s makeup artists, had given her the nickname “Radiant Angel” and people started calling her that.

They started getting more and more roles together as the two grew closer due to having good chemistry

On their third movie together, they had to do a zombie movie and Mari had to be killed off by Vil because her character was bitten. She didn’t have any lines during that scene but before Vil shot her, she locked her eyes with his and whispered “I love you...”

The editors decided to keep it because it made the scene way more impactful

Vil started wondering about that line. She seemed so genuine about it and her eyes... Dear goodness her eyes. They sparkled with beauty when he looked at them at that moment.

Later after the movie came out in theatres, fans started to really ship them. One of those people being Phoebe Arrodas, @rrasado ‘s oc

She’s an editor who wishes to see a lot more scenes of those two together so she and Rook, Vil’s makeup artist, form a friendship around that.

Later on, Vil finally confronted Mari about that scene and she finally fully confessed that she’s liked him for a bit but didn’t want to make him uncomfortable and accepted that he wouldn’t like her. He said that he’d like to go on a real date and see if her words would be true. Spoiler alert: he did like her a lot.

So the fake relationship turned into a real one and Azul is like hehe all according to plan in his mind. Him and Phoebe still hate each other in this au but he does want to get to know her more. He does and ends up developing a crush on her. Too bad she’s too busy shipping peacockwings together

The two were put in a movie together again amd to everyone’s surprise, they accepted the roles they usually didn’t like. But why could this be? Turns out, the movie is a gothic horror where the villain is a vampire who falls madly in love with the damsel in distress. He picks off her friends one by one and he dies at the last moment because of the damsel but she touches his cursed throne and turns evil, then she revives the villain and they live “happily ever after”

(Art is a commission by KEMM01 on deviantart)

Things are great for a while until the hype over the ship is starting to die down and Azul didn’t like that. So he decides to add more ✨drama✨ to their relationship by putting them in this movie adaptation of a wattpad book.

And it involves Leona. Because he and Leona’s manager, Ruggie, agreed to work together for that extra cash.

It was the typical story with a love triangle where the female lead is a shy and sweet girl (Mari) but has to choose between the Perfect Prince™ (Vil) or The Bad Boy with Baggage™ (Leona)

This all happens while Phoebe is out doing work abroad with Neige so she doesn’t notice. Azul distracts her from the news by bombarding her with peacockwings videos of them being sweet on set.

Mari ends up having to kiss Leona a lot and Vil is trying his hardest to stay professional.

“Did you like kissing him?” “Nooo... He was sloppy and his tongue felt weird.” “YOU USED TONGUE?!”

Mari’s character had a lot more scenes with Leona’s and even ended up choosing him by the end of the movie.

The movie was released later on while Phoebe was returning from abroad. Then— she noticed The Betrayal thanks to Rook telling her all the details, so she unfollowed Azul from all platforms. She only followed him for peacockwings content but she can’t ignore this.

Even more chaos happens between the characters so far. Leona and Mari became trending after the movie and it earned tons of shippers and publicity, which caused Phoebe to start going ham and making fanfiction. She refused to talk to anyone besides Vil and Mari. She also refused to rest.

Mari ended up having to focus on trying to get Phoebe to sleep properly while Vil and Leona brawled in the background.

Meanwhile, other characters have been watching this while eating popcorn.

[snlangford]

Let’s Talk About Trackers...

Because of the major talk about them yesterday and how an anon tried to throw me under the bus, I want to make an informative post about the specific tracker I use and certain others do too (assuming they still use these). This will also go under a keep reading so you don’t have to scroll in case you read it and then don’t wanna scroll past it a second time.

I personally use a site called statcounter. What is stat counter? Well, let me explain with an excerpt from Wikipedia!

“StatCounter is a web traffic analysis website started in 1999. Access to basic services is free and advanced services can cost between US$5 and US$119 a month. StatCounter is based in Dublin, Ireland. The statistics from StatCounter are used to compute web usage share for example. As of May 2019, StatCounter is used on 0.9% of all websites. StatCounter statistics are directly derived from hits—as opposed to unique visitors—from 3 million sites, which use StatCounter, resulting in total hits of more than 15 billion per month. No artificial weightings are used to correct for sampling bias, thus the numbers in the statistics can not be considered to be representative samples.”

Statcounter I find has some cool features too if you do run a business site, which I aim to do in the future, here’s some of the cool analytics stuff they have if you’re a business marketer:

This above is a capture taken for the tracker on my OC blog @ / barashikki-dialoversoc

This tool here provides where the majority of your people come from, so it will help businesses to have features such as this, so StatCounter is cool to use for business and marketing.

But that’s not why we’re here, are we?

StatCounter says they provide you with IPs in hopes of blocking/banning them from your site and/or stopping fraud on your website.

Sure, that’s useful as I personally use that to block people’s IPs if they send me hate anons. But here is how it’s an issue... This specific tab, which I know M/C uses quite often from my former friendship with her: Visitor Activity

Now, let’s go there and break it down. I will be censoring sensitive information like people’s locations and IP addresses to protect them.

I want to also address the “xxx is now using 100% of its log space” too.

It may be hard to read, but it says the following 

“Your Project Bara Shikki is now using 100% of its log space. This means that your website traffic data for detailed stats older than 7 months* will be overwritten to make room for new data. You can upgrade for $9/month to increase your log to 10+ years*. If you don't mind losing this old data for detailed stats, then no action is required on your part. Summary Stats are included with all plans and are unlimited.

* Estimated based on your current traffic”

For my other blog @ / dialoving-lemons, it deletes this info in 7 days due to the high demand traffic (it is a LOT more popular than any of my other blogs despite me being on hiatus there).

So while that is good, this information stays for a while. If someone is paying for this service, they can keep this info for a long time.

Now onto the part we are mainly addressing, addresses and IPs. I will use my own visits for the example (the white censor). And yes, you can appear on your own tracker as it picks anyone up who visits the URL.

I color coded this so we can do a breakdown. 

Yellow is my city. Green is the state (will be providence if you are in another country). Then you see “United States” as the country it says I’m from. Your country’s flag also appears before your location.

^^^This here is already pretty accurate and sensitive information, and we haven’t even gotten to the second line yet.

For the second line, we have these: Purple is your internet provider. White, that’s your IP. See that tag next to it? You can click on that and make notes in it for when that person returns to your url. You can even sign up for notifications to get emails or alerts on your phone (if you have the statcounter app). How do I know this? This is how:

Incognito doesn’t have dark mode, so sorry for bright image lol

Idk about you guys, but that’d make me uncomfortable to know someone could just get a ping saying I’m visiting their page. Again, I don’t know what features M/C uses, so I can’t say if she has this or not.

So not only can you find someone’s location, internet provider, and IP (which I think is enough for someone who hack or screw you over somehow, idk. I’d want to look that info up) but you can also stalk when they’re on your blog. This is a big YIKES.

Now back to the breakdown of the image from earlier...

You can learn what device they used, their browser, get a timestamp, and also how long they were on your page. I personally don’t care sharing this info, many of us use the most updated browser of our choice and most of us are on windows 10 for computer users.

So... yeah. While I use statcounter myself to block haters and redirect their IPs so they can’t get on my page anymore, I feel this site does give out too much information. On top of that, the one we all know who uses this software also has some software that checks who unfollows her. She uses these to get dirt on people and to expose them, it is not for her safety.

Now some tips on how to be safe if you don’t want to be tracked thanks to me testing things out:

Use the tumblr app.

The tumblr app uses coding for mobile usage. It does not rely on urls, but another form of code. StatCounter cannot log this code, so you will not appear on the visitor activity tab.

View blogs in side view

This is side view for those that don’t know. Side view acts a lot like the app in terms of the coding. So viewing like this is safe for you to not appear on trackers.

StatCounter relies on you typing in and clicking on urls on someone’s tumblr page (if installed on a tumblr).

As long as you are on a way that doesn’t rely on url systems, you are safe from appearing in someone’s tracker.

And a final note, if you are going to use one like I do, for blocking haters’ IPs, then I highly recommend putting a disclaimer in your description. I immediately did that when I installed mine so people knew they’d get rerouted if they started crap with me. I personally feel that keeping it secret that you have a tracker is violating someone’s consent as you are gathering info without their permission. By saying you have one, them being able to use ways where they won’t be tracked is very useful and helps them feel at ease knowing they can decide if they’re fine popping up on your tracker or not. Here is an example disclaimer you can put if you do put one in. Feel free to copy and paste too!

"Disclaimer: I use a tracker that allows me to see visitors’ IPs so I can block them if they cause problems for me, proceed at your own risk"