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who let my flatmate host a houseparty surely i would have vetoed that. walking into the carnage of my living room and letting out a delicate gasp
#HELL AND HORROR. I quietly turned around and went back to my room#i am NAWT cleaning that up 😂😂😂#it wasn’t even that good of a party basically it was her 21st bday so she invited all her sports society friends#(already a red flag. sports societies have never once produced a tolerable person)#and they are SO CLIQUEY but also weirdly awkward with each other?#like me and my mate had our own little pres hiding in my room for a bit bc the start of parties is always so awkward#and we were like we’d rather skip that and go down when everyone’s a little looser#but my flatmate was clearly dead stressed bc it was her party and she was hosting#and she’s always banging on about how much she likes these people and they’re sooo crazy#and soo fun and better than us etc etc like she’s RUDE about it#but last night she was so clearly stressed and trying to impress them and i was just like girl. is it ever that serious#so me and my mate finally came downstairs i shit you not EVERYONE WAS JUST ON THEIR PHONES#HELLO??? and we started talking and getting people to blow up balloons and shit and suddenly everyone was partying#we fr were the life of the party it was so odd 😭#my flatmate though omdsss this girl was doing key after key#she came into my room at the start and i shit u not looked like she’d been punched in the nose#I was like girl i KNOW your ass is on ket gtfo#but yeah. generally a mediocre night. me and my mate made the most of the fact everyone else sucked#hella goes to uni
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going out to eat with ppl who can’t handle any spice in their food is wild, like homegirl ordered noodle soup with no spice then complained to the staff for like 30 mins that it was “too spicy” even tho the staff was like “bro we literally did not put any spice in it, like we actually can’t make it less spicy than no spice”
and it turns the “spice” she was complaining about was green onions
#GREEN ONIONS#man i try to be understanding of tolerances but cMON LMAO#h o w#apple babble 🍎#non fandom#green onions literally turn seeet when they’re heated too i#d ont#understand#i get noodle soup at this place all the time too and they barely put any green onion in it there’s like#maybe 5 little pieces at the most lmao#idk idk i’m not gonna judge too hard bc i know everyone is different but#G O D it baffles my BRAIN#SWEET NOT SEEET jfc
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putting in an nct dream playlist rn. everyone wish me luck im going in blind 🫡
#im not the biggest fan of most nct songs in general but dream is most tolerable to me so . we shall see#nct is just….idk. their music is usually messy but not in a good way :/#like sm if u don’t stop making them sound like they’re in an active construction area……….#🎆.txt
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Don’t be mistaken! Hidden behind everything I post about my silly old men and whatever I seem to be thinking and feeling for the last couple weeks, there has also been a horrible dark sickening underlying fear and stress and loneliness and dread thanks to the quite literally relentless and unavoidable Jew hatred that pops up everywhere one turns now
#trying to see and talk about it as little as possible#but. like all of us yes it is eating away at my insides and I’m exhausted#there’s the casual stuff the stuff you’re familiar with as a jew who exists in the world#ie turning a blind eye to what goyische friends post bc I emotionally can’t get into it about why they’re perpetuating blood libel#and then there’s like. genuinely the most sickening specific violent bloodlusting threats I’ve never imagined I’d see#earnestly and just out in public for everyone to see.#maybe I was naïve to think or hope that kind of antisemitism did not exist or would not be tolerated in 2023#but to see it shared and celebrated#anyway I’m actually doing really bad lately but I don’t want to talk about it!!! I’ll keep distracting myself
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Having salivated over European food yesterday, here’s the head children’s takes on gastronomy:
#just pav things#Inigo’s favourite food has and will always be paella 🥘#that or a good creamy risotto. rice in it’s most flavourful and nutritious forms is his comfort food ✨#And it makes sense because rice is filling! It helps tide over the heightened anxiety that comes with not eating for long stretches of time#And he also has an affinity for seafood considering he was born in Seraphin. The fondness for it is in his blood.#Especially prawns~ (good thing Amonea has many of them!)#Dism’s tastes in food lies more in the rich saucy/soupy realm of dishes#like coq au vin because I can tell he would like chicken the best#though if he’s anything like me than rajsko omačka should be his favourite 😋#he loves soup and stew :) (remember he had all the time in the world once to slow cook and develop the flavours of these to heaven ✨)#Cynthia’s palate can only be described as unrefined but she loves pizza (don’t they all? don’t we all?)#Matching her high sugar intake anything with a high amount of lipids (fats) is also in her tastes#like cheese and fried things and fried cheese (have u ever tried a cheese schnitzel? THEY’RE SO UNHEALTHY BUT THEY’RE GREAT)#Archie likes his food spicy >:3 He has a much higher spice tolerance than his brother#It’s a direct influence of the spiriters btw. They’ve dulled his sense of taste alongside his vision#And so Archie enjoys spicy things because he can feel something actually ✨#He also likes his starches in the form of noodles 🍝 (Dism is privy to potatoes— especially mashed potatoes— instead)#Archie will eat literally anything though let’s be real. He’s gone through too much food insecurity to be picky#He’d still cry (positive) if you gave him a beautiful cut of red meat though#Very much an enjoyer of bourguignon :> or steak. he’s more carnivorous than one might assume looking at his physique#And unlike the flavour enthusiasts that are the boys Idyllia much prefers things that are subtle and reserved#lending herself more towards pudding and yoghurt and crème brulee#or waffles with maple syrup! Croissants! Flaky little pastries! Things that are easily digestible bc of her medical treatment#And Archie’s kids? Luna likes foods with soft textures. Theon has no preferences because of his upbringing and finds ordering food hard#Ewan is notoriously picky but he likes homestyle creamy cooking with game meat. I like the implied cannibalism that arises from this.#Rabbits ofc are game meat and honestly if the people of Phyme were eating each other that would only add to the cult vibes ✨✨✨✨
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what are your current hyperfixations?
jjk which isn’t new but i’ve been quite into it lately, not technically one fandom but i’ve been exploring writing ship fics lately and it’s actually kinda fun omg, i think it’s too soon to call it a hyper fixation but i finally finally started mha and even before watching, i learned that shoto and katsuki are rich kids which means i could probably write at least 7k without knowing a damn thing else about them 😭😭
#anonymous#right now they’re all annoying in mha but i like katsuki the most#and i don’t hate izuku but i’m waiting to like him more 😭😭😭#i’m watching dub so idk if they’re more tolerable in sub#also i say i’m annoyed by them but i am already rooting for bkdk LMFAO
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Margin scribble please know he lives in her pigtails
#eggs can art#dr#Makoto Naegi#Izuru kamukura#junko enoshima#he stuck around her for the most part during the tragedy#they’re a bit closer than canon kamukura n Junko#(she thinks he’s funny and he tolerates her (barely))#danganronpa
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Rage
#not putting on the post bc it’s not a big deal#but if you come into my Nya posts and attribute all the credit of her actions and heroic feats to her brother#then yknow love you but also I’m challenging you to a wizard duel and banishing you to the never realm#we are nemeseees#sorry#i can at least tolerate kai stans in public but not the ones that continuously baby Nya when she’s narratively been through her own separate#stuff that he has no impact on#‘oh but they’re siblings! he’s her big brother!’#nah fam#not every sibling relationship is big bro protects his baby wittle sister and he taught her everything she knows#Kai explicitly didn’t teach her jackshit#at most you can say because of kai continuously leaving her out of stuff she got competitive and that’s how she gained the motivation to#work on combat skills#this is not a kai crit like yknow he’s got his own stuff to deal with them#but man#tumblr’s vision of him can be so incorrect in my personal opinion and it affects me way more than I should let it#sorry Ik y’all are probably tired of my kai rants I just don’t see the kai that others see#BUT SERIOUSLY NYA CHOICES AND SKILLS AND ACTIONS ARENT BECAUSE SHES COPYING KAI#SHE HAS A LIFE OUTSIDE OF HIM AND MOST IMPORTANTLY MOST OF HER ARCS ARE JUST INDEPENDENT OF HIM#…#peace and love peace and love peace and#tag rant
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I wonder if there’s any way I can get my Medicaid to cover a shower chair :/ or if there’s any local resources that would donate me one. Unlikely but I should explore it. I’m sick of taking a shower so short I don’t even get to clean myself as well as I’d like and still coming out of it feeling like im dying and exhausted for the rest of the day/night
#lous clues#showers are my arch nemesis#i used to be able to tolerate them. they made shit worse but not like they do now#ever since this chronic fever & fatigue shit started though#showers feel like they’re actually killing me#we have 2 bathrooms but 1 is totally nonfunctional and#the other one has so many holes in the basin that it can’t be used for baths#also people used to tell me all the time that they wish they could take baths#and it irked me so much because like#baths weren’t for enjoyment for me. they were my only accessible way to clean my body#you think i WANT to be taking barely lukewarm baths#instead of hot or cold showers like most adults?#lukewarm baths that I still have to climb out of and lay on the floor because I feel like I could faint?#like there is some enjoyment to the bath. but that shouldn’t take away that it’s an accessibility thing for me.#and because the bath is mildly enjoyable doesn’t mean I should be forced to take hellish showers instead#because accessibility shouldn’t be enjoyable or whatever#even if people don’t say that. it’s a bias many hold.
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“Our teenager is cursed”
(The curse being rewatching childrens shows over and over)
#i feel so bad for my parents.#i watch all these shows on the Tv#rambles#but also I want them to enjoy it too#so I force them to watch with me >:-)#actually most of them aren’t even childish. they’re just made for children.#whenever I watch Ducktales or Amphibia or TMNT my dad goes 'nooo you’re losing braincellssss'#he tolerates Ninjago#and loves Gravity Falls
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thinking maybe i was going somewhere when i wrote a note in my isidora fic speculating that maybe one of the reasons her foil relationship with claude works is bc of how interesting it is to look at them in terms of how the both of them are treated differently as these supposed ‘foreign’ entities within fodlan n how that could be analysed through a more meta political lens of the difference in perception when a racialised person is primarily seen as an invading threat vs when a racialised person is primarily seen as a source of extraction of resources/labour
#x#i gave up on pretending this wasn’t n oc canon thing lol#thinking so hard abt a thread i read on claude n his treatment by other characters in the context of the political surveillance of muslims#in real life and then i saw something referencing how latin america has historically been obviously used for both resource extraction but#also as the source for bodies to perform the unskilled labour white USAmericans don’t want to or whatever#and how that aligned in a rather interesting way with how i explained isidora’s in story justification for why HER family was allowed to#remain in such an otherwise closed off/isolated continent#and it’s because they were the key for providing a trade relation with morfis who’s resources eventually came to be greatly valued in fodlan#and THATS why isidora and her family have been ‘permitted’ to remain stewards of the land. they’re tolerated solely for what resources they#bring into the continent#and on a far more small scale/symbolic level isidora herself takes a role in combat that’s meant to be very gruelling as a frontline tank#archetype who’s meant to absorb most of the dmg for her teammates. something which while not Exactly the same could arguably be an analogy#for hard labour/her body being used as a shield for the rest of her team#AUGH…. it sorta clicked into place so neatly i’m kinda. :33333 abt it. omg#sorry for being insane but this is just a cool revelation to me and i’ve been rotating it in my head for a while#anyways now i gotta go to a meeting with a tutor without a fully planned essay structure LOL whoops#isa
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Literally obsessed w both of these aus I love the idea that marcias actually very good with kids. And then everyone's like you? Good with children?? Who r u and what did u do to marcia
she is good with children though!!! she’s wholly awkward and doesn’t know what she’s doing, but she assumes positive intent and treats them with unconditional positive regard, and she’s so genuine that the kids really do like her, which baffles everyone
#septimus-heap my beloved#they’re like why the fuck does my small child adore the worlds most cantankerous rudest woman alive#camera pans to her and she’s miserably tolerating jam hands as the small children show her various cool rocks
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the way that my affirmations rn are literally just “you only need to get a 40% to pass the class 💆🏼♀️”
#personal#the engineering chronicles#i am so so scared for it we did a practice final last week that was extremely suspiciously easy so i reached out to someone who took the#final today asking if his had aux views and/or tolerance stack analysis (neither of which were on mine) and he said yes and also that he ran#out of time to finish one of his drawings so. AAAAA#*on my practice final#the thing is i got comparatively great grades on both the assignments for those topics (100% and 90% respectively and the 90% was bc the#professor i went to for help in office hours told me to negate all my values when my original values were actually the correct ones smh) BUT#they were the most time consuming assignments of the semester and also both required hawk-eyed attention to detail that had me redoing and#editing so much to get the correct answers like i won’t have time for that on the final 😭😭 especially if they’re BOTH on it which is likely#the midterm was hell on earth and everyone basically failed it i don’t even want to think abt this…#i have just over an 87% rn so im under no illusions that i will be keeping my b+ let alone moving up to an a-. to end w a b i can get as low#as 74% on the final which is….possible. but im not banking on it.#to end w a b- i can get as low as a 64% which is what im hoping i can achieve wrdjfjf 😭#it’s only a 1 credit class so it’s not like it’s the end of the world or my gpa if i get that or even a c#lvl 100 1 credit engineering classes here are hellish idk why. you’re probably thinking leigh if you are struggling this much at that level#that may be a sign but no bc ive also taken/am taking multi credit and/or lvl 200 engineering classes and they are soo much better. at least#thus far#plus stats and calc are both multi level and above lvl 100 and they’re both fine i have developed a lot of respect for them actually even#a good amount of curiosity and enjoyment. it’s just the lvl 100 1 credit engineering classes what is up w them#*multi credit not multi level lol
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Fandom community
Wanted to take a chance with this post to say to all of you lovely people who follow me and interact with my art that I’m glad for your kindness and support. I am a human being behind the post you see. Saying that, I will not allow any form of disrespect or abusive behavior towards my person or any other person here. I’m going to delete, report or block if necessary. I always open to constructive criticism but you have to be educated because I will be. Always. Right of speech is not something that happens without limits. And my limits is the well being of others.
Love, your creator Annie.
Fandom can do a little gatekeeping. As a treat.
So I finally decided to archive-lock my fics on AO3 last night. I’ve been considering it since the AI scrape last year, but the tipping point was this whole lore.fm debacle, coupled with some thoughts I’ve been thinking regarding Fandom These Days in general and Fandom As A Community in particular. So I wanna explain why I waited so long, why I locked my stuff up now, and why I’ve come to the conclusion that I’m a-okay with making it harder for people to see my stories.
Lurkers really are great, tho
I’m a chronic lurker, and have been since I started hanging out on the internet as a teen in the 00s. These days it’s just cuz I don’t feel a need to socialize very often, but back then it was because I was shy and knew I was socially awkward. Even if I made an account, I’d spend months lurking on message boards or forums or Livejournals, watching other people interact and getting a feel for that particular community’s culture and etiquette before I finally started interacting myself. And y’know, that approach saved me a lot of embarrassment. Over the course of my lurking on any site, there was always some other person who’d clearly joined up five minutes after learning the place existed, barged in without a care for their behavior, and committed so many social faux pas that all the other users were immediately annoyed with them at best. I learned a lot observing those incidents. Lurk More is Rule 33 of the internet for very good reason.
Lurking isn’t bad or weird or creepy. It’s perfectly normal. I love lurking. It’s hard for me to not lurk - socializing takes a lot of energy out of me, even via text. (Heck it took 12 hours for me to write this post, I wish I was kidding--) Occasionally I’ll manage longer bouts of interaction - a few weeks posting here, almost a year chatting in a discord there - but I’m always gonna end up going radio silent for months at some point. I used to feel bad about it, but I’ve long since made peace with the fact that it’s just the way my brain works. I’m a chronic lurker, and in the long term nothing is going to change that.
The thing with being a chronic lurker is that you have to accept that you are not actually seen as part of the community you are lurking in. That’s not to say that lurkers are unimportant - lurkers actually are important, and they make up a large proportion of any online community - but it’s simple cause and effect. You may think of it as “your community”, but if you’ve never said a word, how is the community supposed to know you exist? If I lurked on someone’s LJ, and then that person suddenly friendslocked their blog, I knew that I had two choices: Either accept that I would never be able to read their posts again, or reach out to them and ask if I could be added to their friends list with the full understanding that I was a rando they might not decide to trust. I usually went with the first option, because my invisibility as a lurker was more important to me than talking to strangers on the internet.
Lurking is like sitting on a park bench, quietly people-watching and eavesdropping on the conversations other people are having around you. You’re in the park, but you’re not actively participating in anything happening there. You can see and hear things that you become very interested in! But if you don’t introduce yourself and become part of the conversation, you won’t be able to keep listening to it when those people walk away. When fandom migrated away from Livejournal, people moved to new platforms alongside their friends, but lurkers were often left behind. No one knew they existed, so they weren’t told where everyone else was going. To be seen as part of a fandom community, you need to submit to the mortifying ordeal of being known, etc. etc.
There’s nothing wrong with lurking. There can actually be benefits to lurking, both for the lurkers and the communities they lurk in. It’s just another way to be in a fandom. But if that is how you exist in fandom--and remember, I say this as someone who often does exist that way in fandom--you need to remember that you’re on the outside looking in, and the curtains can always close.
I’ve always been super sympathetic to lurkers, because I am one. I know there’s a lot of people like me who just don’t socialize often. I know there’s plenty of reasons why someone might not make an account on the internet - maybe they’re nervous, maybe they’re young and their parents don’t allow them to, maybe they’re in a bad situation where someone is monitoring their activity, maybe they can only access the internet from public computer terminals. Heck, I’ve never even logged into AO3 on my phone--if I’m away from my computer I just read what’s publicly available.
I know I have people lurking on my fics. I know my fics probably mean a lot to someone I don’t even know exists. I know this because there are plenty of fics I love whose writers don’t know I exist.
I love my commenters personally; I love my lurkers as an abstract concept. I know they’re there and I wish them well, and if they ever de-lurk I love them all the more.
So up until last year I never considered archive-locking my fic, because I get it. The AI scraping was upsetting, but I still hesitated because I was thinking of lurkers and guests and remembering what it felt like to be 15 and wondering if it’d be worth letting a stranger on the internet know I existed and asking to be added to their friends list just so I could reread a funny post they made once.
But the internet has changed a lot since the 00s, and fandom has changed with it. I’ve read some things and been doing some thinking about fandom-as-community over the last few years, and reading through the lore.fm drama made me decide that it’s time for me to set some boundaries.
I still love my lurkers, and I feel bad about leaving any guest commenters behind, especially if they’re in a situation where they can’t make an account for some reason. But from here on out, even my lurkers are going to have to do the bare minimum to read my fics--make an AO3 account.
Should we gatekeep fandom?
I’ve seen a few people ask this question, usually rhetorically, sometimes as a joke, always with a bit of seriousness. And I think…yeah, maybe we should. Except wait, no, not like that--
A decade ago, when people talked about fandom gatekeeping and why it was bad to do, it intersected with a lot of other things, mainly feminism and classism. The prevalent image of fandom gatekeeping was, like, a man learning that a woman likes Star Wars and haughtily demanding, “Oh, yeah? Well if you’re REALLY a fan, name ten EU novels” to belittle and dismiss her, expecting that a “real fan” would have the money and time to be familiar with the EU, and ignoring the fact that male movie-only fans were still considered fans. The thing being gatekept was the very definition of “being a fan” and people’s right to describe themselves as one.
That’s not what I mean when I say maybe fandom should gatekeep more. Anyone can call themselves a fan if they like something, that’s fine. But when it comes to the ability to enjoy the fanworks produced by the fandom community…that might be something worth gatekeeping.
See, back in the 00s, it was perfectly common for people to just…not go on the internet. Surfing the web was a thing, but it was just, like, a fun pastime. Not everyone did it. It wasn’t until the rise of social media that going online became a thing everyone and their grandmother did every day. Back then, going on the internet was just…a hobby.
So one of the first gates online fandom ever had was the simple fact that the entire world wasn’t here yet.
The entire world is here now. That gate has been demolished.
And it’s a lot easier to find us now. Even scattered across platforms, fandom is so centralized these days. It isn’t a network of dedicated webshrines and forums that you can only find via webrings anymore, it’s right there on all the big social media sites. AO3 didn’t set out to be the main fanfic website, but that’s definitely what it’s become. It’s easy for people to find us--and that includes people who don’t care about the community, and just want “content.”
Transformative fandom doesn’t like it when people see our fanworks as “content”. “Content” is a pretty broad term, but when fandom uses it we’re usually referring to creative works that are churned out by content creators to be consumed by an audience as quickly as possible as often as possible so that the content creator can generate revenue. This not-so-new normal has caused a massive shift in how people who are new to fandom view fanworks--instead of seeing fic or art as something a fellow fan made and shared with you, they see fanworks as products to be consumed.
Transformative fandom has, in general, always been a gift economy. We put time and effort into creating fanworks that we share with our fellow fans for free. We do this so we don’t get sued, but fandom as a whole actually gets a lot out of the gift economy. Offer your community a story, and in return you can get comments, build friendships, or inspire other people to write things that you might want to read. Readers are given the gift of free stories to read and enjoy, and while lurking is fine, they have the choice to engage with the writer and other readers by leaving comments or making reclists to help build the community.
And look, don’t get me wrong. People have never engaged with fanfic as much as fan writers wish they would. There has always been “no one comments anymore” wank. There have always been people who only comment to say “MORE!” or otherwise demand or guilt trip writers into posting the next chapter. But fandom has always agreed that those commenters are rude and annoying, and as those commenters navigate fandom they have the chance to learn proper community etiquette.
However, now it seems that a lot of the people who are consuming fanworks aren’t actually in the community.
I won’t say “they aren’t real fans” because that’s silly; there’s lots of ways to be a fan. But there seem to be a lot of fans now who have no interest in fandom as a community, or in adhering to community etiquette, or in respecting the gift economy. They consume our fics, but they don’t appreciate fan labor. They want our “content”, but they don’t respect our control over our creations.
And even worse--they see us as a resource. We share our work for free, as a gift, but all they see is an open-source content farm waiting to be tapped into. We shared it for free, so clearly they can do whatever they want with it. Why should we care if they feed our work into AI training datasets, or copy/paste our unfinished stories into ChatGPT to get an ending, or charge people for an unnecessary third-party AO3 app, or sell fanbindings on etsy for a profit without the author’s permission, or turn our stories into poor imitations of podfics to be posted on other platforms without giving us credit or asking our consent, while also using it to lure in people they can datascrape for their Forbes 30 Under 30 company?
And sure, people have been doing shady things with other people’s fanworks since forever. Art theft and reposting has always been a big problem. Fanfic is harder to flat-out repost, but I’ve heard of unauthorized fic translations getting posted without crediting the original author. Once in…I think the 2010s? I read a post by a woman who had gone to some sort of local bookselling event, only to find that the man selling “his” novel had actually self-published her fanfic. (Wish I could find that one again, I don’t even remember where I read it.)
But aside from that third example, the thing is…as awful as fanart/writing theft is, back in the day, the main thing a thief would gain from it was clout. Clout that should rightfully go to the creators who gifted their work in the first place, yeah, but still. Just clout. People will do a lot of hurtful things for clout, but fandom clout means nothing outside of fandom. Fandom clout is not enough to incentivize the sort of wide-scale pillaging we’re seeing from community outsiders today.
Money, on the other hand… Well, fandom’s just a giant, untapped content farm, isn’t it? Think of how much revenue all that content could generate.
Lurkers are a normal and even beneficial part of any online community. Maybe one day they’ll de-lurk and easily slide into place beside their fellow fans because they already know the etiquette. Maybe they’re active in another community, and they can spread information from the community they lurk in to the community they’re active in. At the very least, they silently observe, and even if they’re not active community members, they understand the community.
Fans who see fanworks as “content” don’t belong in the same category as lurkers. They’re tourists.
While reading through the initial Reddit thread on the lore.fm situation, I found this comment:
[ID: Reddit User Cabbitowo says: ... So in anime fandoms we have a word called tourist and essentially it means a fan of a few anime and doesn't care about anime tropes and actively criticizes them. This is kind of how fandoms on tiktok feel. They're touring fanfics and fanart and actively criticizes tropes that have been in the fandom since the 60s. They want to be in a fandom but they don't want to engage in fandom
OP totallymandy responds: Just entered back into Reddit after a long day to see this most recent reply. And as a fellow anime fan this making me laugh so much since it’s true! But it sorta hurts too when the reality sets in. Modern fandom is so entitled and bratty and you’d think it’s the minors only but that’s not even true, my age-mates and older seem to be like that. They want to eat their cake and complain all whilst bringing nothing to the potluck… :/ END ID]
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“Tourist” is an apt name for this sort of fan. They don’t want to be part of our community, and they don’t have to be in order to come into our spaces and consume our work. Even if they don’t steal our work themselves, they feel so entitled to it that they’re fine with ignoring our wishes and letting other people take it to make AI “podfics” for them to listen to (there are a lot of comments on lore.fm’s shutdown announcement video from people telling them to just ignore the writers and do it anyway). They’ll use AI to generate an ending to an unfinished fic because they don’t care about seeing “the ending this writer would have given to the story they were telling”, they just want “an ending”. For these tourist fans, the ends justify the means, and their end goal is content for them to consume, with no care for the community that created it for them in the first place.
I don’t think this is confined to a specific age group. This isn’t “13-year-olds on Wattpad” or “Zoomers on TikTok” or whatever pointless generation war we’re in now. This is coming from people who are new to fandom, whose main experience with creative works on the internet is this new content culture and who don’t understand fandom as a community. That description can be true of someone from any age group.
It’s so easy to find fandom these days. It is, in fact, too easy. Newcomers face no hurdles or challenges that would encourage them to lurk and observe a bit before engaging, and it’s easy for people who would otherwise move on and leave us alone to start making trouble. From tourist fans to content entrepreneurs to random people who just want to gawk, it’s so easy for people who don’t care about the fandom community to reap all of its fruits.
So when I say maybe fandom should start gatekeeping a bit, I’m referring to the fact that we barely even have a gate anymore. Everyone is on the internet now; the entire world can find us, and they don’t need to bother learning community etiquette when they do. Before, we were protected by the fact that fandom was considered weird and most people didn’t look at it twice. Now, fandom is pretty mainstream. People who never would’ve bothered with it before are now comfortable strolling in like they own the place. They have no regard for the fandom community, they don’t understand it, and they don’t want to. They want to treat it just like the rest of the content they consume online.
And then they’re surprised when those of us who understand fandom culture get upset. Fanworks have existed far longer than the algorithmic internet’s content. Fanworks existed long before the internet. We’ve lived like this for ages and we like it.
So if someone can’t be bothered to respect fandom as a community, I don’t see why I should give them easy access to my fics.
Think of it like a garden gate
When I interact with commenters on my fic, I have this sense of hospitality.
The comment section is my front porch. The fic is my garden. I created my garden because I really wanted to, and I’m proud of it, and I’m happy to share it with other people.
Lots of people enjoy looking at my garden. Many walk through without saying anything. Some stop to leave kudos. Some recommend my garden to their friends. And some people take the time to stop by my front porch and let me know what a beautiful garden it is and how much they’ve enjoyed it.
Any fic writer can tell you that getting comments is an incredible feeling. I always try to answer all my comments. I don’t always manage it, but my fics’ comment sections are the one place that I manage to consistently socialize in fandom. When I respond to a comment, it feels like I’m pouring out a glass of lemonade to share with this lovely commenter on my front porch, a thank you for their thank you. We take a moment to admire my garden together, and then I see them out. The next time they drop by, I recognize them and am happy to pour another glass of lemonade.
My garden has always been open and easy to access. No fences, no walls. You just have to know where to find it. Fandom in general was once protected by its own obscurity, an out-of-the-way town that showed up on maps but was usually ignored.
But now there’s a highway that makes it easy to get to, and we have all these out-of-towner tourists coming in to gawk and steal our lawn ornaments and wonder if they can use the place to make themselves some money.
I don’t care to have those types trampling over my garden and eating all my vegetables and digging up my flowers to repot and sell, so I’ve put up a wall. It has a gate that visitors can get through if they just take the time to open it.
Admittedly, it’s a small obstacle. But when I share my fics, I share them as a gift with my fellow fans, the ones who understand that fandom is a community, even if they’re lurkers. As for tourist fans and entrepreneurs who see fic as content, who have no qualms ignoring the writer’s wishes, who refuse to respect or understand the fandom community…well, they’re not the people I mean to share my fic with, so I have no issues locking them out. If they want access to my stories, they’ll have to do the bare minimum to become a community member and join the AO3 invite queue.
And y’know, I’ve said a lot about fandom and community here, and I just want to say, I hope it’s not intimidating. When I was younger, talk about The Fandom Community made me feel insecure, and I didn’t think I’d ever manage to be active enough in fandom spaces to be counted as A Member Of The Community. But you don’t have to be a social butterfly to participate in fandom. I’ll always and forever be a chronic lurker, I reblog more than I post, I rarely manage to comment on fic, and I go radio silent for months at a time--but I write and post fanfiction. That’s my contribution.
Do you write, draw, vid, gif, or otherwise create? Congrats, you're a community member.
Do you leave comments? Congrats, you're a community member.
Do you curate reclists? Congrats, you're a community member.
Do you maintain a fandom blog or fuckyeah blog? Congrats, you're a community member.
Do you provide a space for other fans to convene in? Congrats, you're a community member.
Do you regularly send asks (off anon so people know who you are)? Congrats, you're a community member.
Do you have fandom friends who you interact with? Congrats, you're a community member.
There’s lots of ways to be a fan. Just make sure to respect and appreciate your fellow fans and the work they put in for you to enjoy and the gift economy fandom culture that keeps this community going.
#I have received dead treats just because people don’t like what I ship or headcanons I have#they’re fictional people#and it’s not mandatory to interact with my art#I MOST IMPORTANT I DONT CARE IF YOU CONSIDER ME A SINNER#also I don’t care about canon#specially if canon is problematic or hegemonic#keep your religion out of my life please#I have zero tolerance to nasty people#it’s enough to have it IRL
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the thing is, us elections used to be pretty dignified, so if u had said this about the mitt romney vs obama election, i’d go ‘harumph’ and walk away but this is NOT different trump supporters aren’t republican they’re their own breed of weird people
#us elections#for the most part i can be civil with a republican or conservative and i’ve met a handful in real life and they’re not terrible people#but trump supporters aren’t republicans OR conservatives they’re alt right which is why nobody besides the people that agree with them can#tolerate them#i’m tired of seeing this chicken shit attitude of ‘hurr durr horseshoe theory middle of the road intellectualism’ like u haven’t been#watching the news
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I hate everyone 😭
#dora daily#I hate fatema#I hate how I never cry and I don’t like talking abt my pain because it makes it feel like I’m suffocating yet when I tell her she’s like#what do you want me to do and she feels sorry for a girl with period back pain#when my issue is consistent and doesn’t have a straightforward reason like that#and then I cried in class and she didn’t even notice even tho I sat right next to her#and then dahlia#I tried so hard to be so mindful so tolerant and accepting that she needs more time but when is it my turn to feel validated#not that she doesn’t validate me but I just feel so lonely a lot of the time#and I opened up to her abt how I maladaptively daydream most of my day away because I feel lonely and sad and that the only people who can#treat me the precise way I wish to be treated are the fake ppl I create in my head#it’s not fair#and she said she does the same but that makes me sad because I’m always there I always check for her messages but they’re never there#she has ME she doesn’t need to do that#but who do I have#nobody. so that’s why I maladaptivelt daydream#why I pathetically make people up just so I can keep my own self company and have fun or comfort or whatever I need#I feel like a freak.#and god my head feels so weird rn#ughhhh#I am not even kidding when I say every single human being that interacts with me in my day to day life makes me feel like to some extent#I am annoying to talk to or interact with#and that’s just how I feel. so is it all that surprising I pull away so easily#fjoaakala
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