#they are wrong. the only real rule about gender is there is no rules. do whatever you want forever

[catboybiologist]

Yay I'm going to get all Political and angry again.

So pretty much every trans American is probably aware of the Sarah McBride situation at this point, but here's the bullet point summary if needed for anyone else:

Sarah McBride gets elected to the House as the first transgender member of Congress in US history.

Republicans predictably flip their shit. They pass internal rules of conduct that prohibit trans people from using bathrooms of their gender and stating that bathroom use is defined by AGAB. It obviously singles out McBride, but I believe there are trans staffers that are also affected.

McBride issues a statement that she will abide by these rules, and pretty much only use the bathroom directly associated with her physical office. She issues a statement saying she "wasn't elected for bathrooms" and will instead fight in issues that matter, with a milquetoast criticism of Republicans for wasting time on this.

Many trans Americans are predictably scared and disappointed by this, especially because this internal house rule is being used as a blueprint for more extensive laws, including a likely ban on trans people in gendered bathrooms in all federal land and buildings (including, notably for me, national parks. Which breaks my heart, but that's a different rant.)

There's been a lot of disappointment and criticism of McBride over this. The general leftist reaction has been criticism. There's lots of people that have expressed disappointment or rage, including Erin Reed, and also more "personality" type people like Vaush and Jessie Gender.

Now.

I'm disappointed too.

But. And please keep reading before chewing me out for being an apologist.

I think we can all understand that McBride is in an impossible situation. If she fights this too hard, then it vindicates the Republican rhetoric that Dems are crazy trans obsessed leftists. But there's a fear that this will only lead to more infringements of rights for trans people. McBride is completely stuck, and is a junior, freshly elected member of Congress who is trying to figure out how to make her voice the most effective.

I am so, so fucking tired of rights being ceded one by one. So I'm disappointed. But yeah, I understand McBride's statement.

But there's just one tiny. Eeny weeny. Minor. Itty Bitty question having over all of this. Just one little concern.

Where.

The fuck.

Are the rest of the Democrats?!?!?!?

There is a PAINFULLY fucking easy solution to all of this. McBride needs backing, solidarity, and other people to speak for her. If she's worried about her voice being effective, and being branded as the crazy trans representative, then step the fucking up, you spineless liberal slimebags.

AOC is the only one that I know of that has expressed any real opposition or anger. Her statements are getting aaallll the airtime.

But the real story is McBride's sentiment being echoed amongst the entire party. This is absolutely some kind of official platform. The fucking grumbling, milquetoast finger waving and "well I don't like this, but there's nothing to be done! Anyways"

Of fucking course minorites are abandoning the left. The message they're sending is "we'll abandon you with the most pathetic of excuses. We don't give a shit." Trimming groups out of their support one by one.

McBride is doing the impossible calculus of trying to be the most effective on the house floor. It's an insane task for a trans woman. And yeah, she got it wrong this time. But where the fuck is the anger for her cis colleagues? Why the fuck aren't people angry and terrified for everyone that let this shit happen?

As much as people love the narrative of the line wolf resistor, resistance takes coordination, effort, and solidarity. Without that, what would McBride raising opposition even be? One representative against the hundreds of others.

And yeah, of course I didn't expect any better from the Democratic party. But you should be disappointed and mad at your representative, not just McBride.

[amateurenjoyer]

I know the infertility stuff with Gemma has rubbed some folks the wrong way, and that's fair. These types of stories are not always handled with care and can feel as hollow as using a dead wife in order to give a man depth as a character. That said, I fear that criticism of the infertility story in Severance, or indeed criticism of the breadth of themes of fertility and parenthood in the series, has suffered as a result of gendering these ideas as being primarily explored through the women in the show. There was plenty of eye rolling when we met Gemma for real and her great trauma turned out to be the loss of her unborn child—"oh great, another woman defined by her inability to produce children!"—but this didn't come out of left field in a show that has put expectant parents, midwives, fraudulent lactation specialists, couples struggling to make ends meet for their kids, dads garage jamming with their daughters, and child laborers all on screen, not to mention the cult of Kier the Grandfather/Founder that props up the central mysteries of the show.

Parenthood, birth, and the power dynamics of progenitors and progeny all exist at the heart of Severance (right alongside love, agency, personhood, and capitalist critique), but I don't know that enough people look through this lens when thinking about the men in this show. Even when their stories explicitly touch on these themes, severed men like Petey and Irving and Mark—who, by the way, has every right to claim the same grief over the loss of their child as Gemma, though his experience is radically different as the parent who didn't carry the child—get kind of left out of the conversation.

They should not get left out of the conversation and the mpreg Kier statue in the birthing cabin was there to remind you of that.

Check under the cut for Mark Scout world's worst dad thoughts with lots more spoilers for the finale.

I don't know how many folks on Tumblr have Boomer parents, and I don't know how many of these ideas have filtered through to each generation of parents following, but I know that my Boomer mother and many (many) of my friend's parents had a whole litany of witticisms that they'd use to disempower and belittle the personhood of their kids, and they used these phrases with extreme regularity. "Because I said so," "My house, my rules," "If I were you (and thank God I'm not)," "I brought you into this world, and I can take you out of it," etc. Depending on tone and context, these could vary from pretty benign to legitimately threatening, but they all betrayed the same basic attitude: right now, you are not a person, and I make your decisions for you, until I say otherwise.

Boomers may have excelled at expressing this sentiment through phrasing that is worthy of shitty gas station hats and little else, but it feels as though it has been a dominant mode of parenting thought for a long time. The idea that it is the position of being a parent that confers power to someone, no matter how unearned that power truly is, is also extremely present in the outie-innie dynamic.

Mark S was straight up born from his outie's inability to actually grieve the death of his wife, his unwillingness to move forward through despair, and his complacency with his self-destructive coping mechanisms. Having lost his ability to work due to his alcoholism, Mark Scout created a whole new person who could do the work for him. He "hoped that [Mark S] would be spared the pain," but for much of the show thus far, he hasn't taken a single step to move away from that pain, be it in an effort to spare himself or his innie. This a couple in a dysfunctional marriage having a child to try and save it, only to absolutely fuck that kid up by refusing to acknowledge the reality of the situation or do anything to change it for the better. Only in this scenario the marriage is between Mark and the ghost of his wife.

Like the kid brought into such a marriage, Mark S doesn't need to know the details of his outie's life to carry his burdens. Their shared body is the exposure that ensures every hangover, every sleepless night, every pre-work weeping session, every fight with a rebound (sorry Alexa you deserve more than this title) or a family member worms its way into the innie's life. A life that is already deeply infantilized by Lumon's workplace culture more broadly, and doubly so because MDR is being babysat by step-dad Milchick while the literal Mother of the Severance Procedure goes rogue.

When he does learn the reason for his outie's severance, Mark S is compassionate, curious, and instantly willing to search for Miss Casey—not out of some deeply rooted love of Gemma that has somehow transcended the severance barrier, but out of recognition of his progenitor's personhood and pain and his desire to help a fellow innie with an unexpected connection to his own outie. How often do children make an effort to help and humanize their parents, even when they've been given very little reason to? Be it out of a sense of obligation or a misunderstanding that a parent naturally looks out for their child's best interests and so a child should do the same, many of us will go out of our way to try and understand our parents as people, at least once. Mark S does that readily, even when Helena-as-Helly pushes against the idea.

When we finally get a conversation between Mark Scout and Mark S, it begins on a disarmingly hopeful note. Mark Scout apologizes, willing to admit the world he brought Mark S into is not a sane or safe one. Things go off the rails quick when Mark Scout fails to recognize his innie has a separate person with his own motivations, and from there the conversation is steeped in patriarchal condescension and a fundamental sense of ownership. Mark Scout dismisses his innie's relationship with Helly R as an inferior, juvenile "experience," that naturally pales in comparison to the more.real, more adult life he had with Gemma, simply because the outies came first. He cannot fathom any resistance to the idea of saving Gemma, because he does not think Mark S is deserving of his own identity, desires, or agency. What claim can an innie have to such things when he doesn't even have his own body? "My house, my rules."

Mark Scout then drops the bomb that he's already started the process of reintegrating. Though he himself is not fully aware of how reintegration will actually impact their separate consciousnesses (or has seemingly forgotten what little he learned about it from Petey), Mark Scout positions it as a solution that benefits them both. Mark S challenges that assumption, and the outie is aghast that the innie fails to extend any trust his way. The trust was assumed to be there, because Mark Scout assumes authority over Mark S. "Because I said so." In the absence of more information about what reintegration really means, it sounds like Mark S will sit as a passenger in Mark Scout's life. Reintegration for the innie is not a solution, but a threat. "I brought you into this world, and I can take you out of it."

This whole conversation happens inside a cabin at a birthing retreat, where a statue of a pregnant man (presumably an Eagan and presumably Kier himself) watches with it's mate, wearing a sort of cartoon grimace. The camera lingers on this icon as a moment of scene setting, signalling that the audience should be seeing this as a conversation between parent and child, the elder lording their power over the younger, and the progeny rebelling against the progenitor by asserting their own humanity.

[lazy-ahh]

YOURS, ALWAYS

pairing jason todd x gender neutral reader

jason todd has always been yours—through scraped knees and robin stunts, through death and what came after. and when he finally says it out loud (awkwardly, over cold takeout, like the emotionally constipated bastard he is), you don’t let him take it back. because some things are just inevitable. like batman’s no-kill rule. like gotham’s shitty weather. and like you loving him, no matter what.

taglist @kasarian , @queermaeda , @yujensstuff , @thebatsgreatestfailure , @roryroro , @cynvia

you and jason have been best friends since forever. since the days of scraped knees and stupid dares—like that one time he showed up at your window in his robin costume, all puffed-up pride and poorly hidden nerves, just because you’d joked that batman’s sidekick couldn’t possibly be someone you know, let alone at your school. "oh yeah?" he’d said, flipping off your roof just to show off, only to eat shit in the bushes. you’d laughed so hard you cried, and he’d scowled, but his cheeks were pink, and you knew—he’d done it just to impress you.

since the nights of whispered secrets under starless skies, when he’d sneak out after patrol, still smelling like gotham’s grime and sweat, and collapse next to you on your bed. "tell me about the stars again," he’d say, even though he’d heard it a million times. you’d grin, bumping his shoulder. "what, robin needs a bedtime story?" but you’d tell him anyway, because the way he listened—like you were the only thing that mattered—made your chest ache.

even when the universe decided to take him away from you—ripped him right out of your hands, left you screaming into the void, left you staring at the empty space where he was supposed to be—you never stopped loving him. you dreamed about him. talked to him like he could hear you. got into stupid fights just to feel something, because nothing hurt as much as missing him.

and when the universe, cruel and kind in equal measure, brought him back—bruised and broken and yours—you loved him harder. held him tighter. memorized every scar, every flinch, every time his voice cracked when he said your name like he couldn’t believe you were real. like he couldn't believe that you waited and still chose him despite him coming back all wrong.

you never dated anyone else. never wanted to. how could you, when your heart had always belonged to him? when every stupid crush felt like a betrayal, when every "you should move on" made you want to punch something? you’d just smirk and say "nah, i’ve got high standards," but the truth was—no one else made you feel like this. like your ribs were too small for your heart. like the world made sense when they laughed.

turns out, he was the same. he didn’t want to fall for anyone else other than you. couldn’t. not when he’d come back 'wrong', all rage and sharp edges, and you were the only one who didn’t flinch. not when he’d catch you looking at him and his breath would hitch, like he was twelve again and trying to impress you with stupid rooftop stunts. not when he’d mutter "you’re such an idiot" after you did something reckless, but his hands would shake as he checked you for injuries.

you were it for him. he was it for you. and neither of you knew how to say it—until you did.

it happened like this: you were on his shitty couch, elbows knocking together over takeout, arguing about something stupid—"no way is superman cooler than batman, jay, that’s just objectively wrong"—when he suddenly went quiet. then, without looking at you, voice rough like he’d been holding it in for years: "i honestly don’t know how to do this with anyone else. i don't think i want to do this with anyone else. just you. always you. it'd just be wrong if it were with anyone else."

silence. your chopsticks froze mid-air.

he immediately backtracked, scowling at the wall like it had offended him. "i mean—fuck, forget it. that was weird." but when he finally risked a glance at you, your face must’ve been something pathetic, because his own expression went soft, stunned. like he hadn’t expected you to care.

so you grinned, kicking his shin under the table. "took you long enough to admit it, jaybird."

the second the nickname left your mouth, his breath stuttered—just a tiny, barely-there hitch, but you noticed. because jason loved when you called him that, loved it so much it pissed him off. he loved whatever pet name or nickname you called him, because it'll always be for him. but he'd pretend, he’d scowl and grumble "don’t fucking call me that," but his ears would go pink, his shoulders loosening like you’d tugged on some hidden string only you knew how to pull.

"you’ve got shit taste in heroes and shit timing," you added, just to watch him roll his eyes. but then, softer—because you could be serious when it mattered, when it was him—you leaned in, your knee pressing against his under the table. "but you’re it for me. always have been. always will be. fuck, i don't even think it's possible for me not to love you."

his breath caught, just for a second—sharp, like you’d sucker-punched him straight through the ribs. then he was laughing, that rough, half-breathless sound he only made when you caught him off guard, shaking his head like you’d just backflipped off a building without a grapple. "you’re such a fucking sap," he muttered, but his voice was too warm, too raw, and his fingers were already twitching toward yours, calloused and hesitant. like even now, after blood and bruises and all the shit the world threw at him, he still expected you to pull away.

so you closed the distance for him, lacing your fingers through his and squeezing tight. "yeah, well, you love it. admit it, jay—i’m the best damn thing that’s ever happened to you. bet you even doodled my name in your stupid robin notebooks back in the day."

he didn’t deny it. just exhaled, slow and shaky, his thumb brushing over your knuckles like he was mapping out every scar, every ridge, like he needed to prove you were real. "guess i do," he muttered, voice rough, like gravel and old wounds. then, quieter, like he was fighting himself: "fuck, of course i do. you’re—shit." his grip tightened, just for a second, like he was afraid you’d vanish. "you were always it for me. even when i was—even when i wasn’t me. especially then." a pause, his jaw working. "didn’t think i’d ever get to have this. have you."

the words hung between you, raw and unguarded, and for once, he didn’t try to claw them back. just let them sit there, trembling in the air like the ghost of a touch. like something holy. the takeout was cold now, the chopsticks abandoned mid-argument, but neither of you cared. all that mattered was the way his knee stayed pressed against yours, firm and grounding, the way his shoulders finally slumped—like he’d been holding up the whole damn sky and only just remembered you were there to help.

and when he finally looked at you—really looked at you, without the sarcasm or the scowl—his eyes were soft, wide open in a way they never were with anyone else. "always you and me, huh?"

you grinned, bumping your shoulder against his hard enough to make him grunt. "duh. who else is gonna put up with your brooding bullshit? face it, jay, you’re stuck with me."

this time, he didn’t even pretend to complain. just leaned in, forehead resting against yours, and let out a breath that sounded an awful lot like home.

so. this little 1.2k words of tooth-rotting fluff happened because my brain said enough. my fyp on tiktok has been nothing but jason todd angst for DAYS. like. bro. i get it. he’s tragic. he’s got layers. but PLEASE. i am BEGGING the algorithm gods to throw me a bone—a thirst trap, a shitpost, literally anything that doesn’t make me want to curl into a ball and sob into my hoodie. (…okay fine, keep feeding me the pain. but balance it out, damn it.) anyway. here’s jason being soft. here’s him happy. here’s him getting the love he deserves because i said so. hope it gives you the same stupid grin it gave me while writing it.

[fatliberation]

If its ok to ask; how do you feel about fat kinks? I havent seen any fat acceptance blogs talk abt it. /genq

I know it's a sore spot for a lot of fat liberationists (and yes, I'm quite familiar with why so please do not take to my inbox), I think people are scared to talk about it. personally, I think it is crucial that people with fat kinks are able to access fat liberation spaces so long as they leave the kink at the door. I say this not only because the majority of them are fat people, but because that community is steeped in a deep shame and feeling of brokenness for taking delight in fatness and/or weight gain, which perpetuates rampant fatphobia. and fat liberation is what will heal those wounds. I don't understand it when fat activists tell kinksters/fetishists/feedists, whatever you want to call them to stay out of the fat liberation movement. because what is the alternative? do you want them against the movement? that doesn't make sense at all. I think people are so uncomfortable, disgusted, or afraid of this community they don't understand, that they just wish they wouldn't exist. they aren't going away. kink is akin to sexuality, to identity, to queerness. I think what people really mean when they say feedists should stay out of fat lib is, "kink should stay within spaces designated for kink." we aren't talking about kink when it comes to who can belong in a movement, we are talking about people. it is wrong to equate every person who has a kink or a fetish to a predator. it causes very real harm to those people, because they internalize that message that their kink makes them a bad person who is inherently worthless, who has to hide. if feedists aren't welcome in fat liberation, they aren't welcome anywhere.

I think that people who love fat people, love feeding people, love their own fat bodies, who see their fattest selves as their most satisfying selves, would be natural allies to this movement once they find their way to it and feel safe and accepted here. I want to make it absolutely clear that ANYONE is welcome on this blog as long as they aren't harassing or harming anyone. so many of my followers and biggest supporters are kink blogs. some of my closest friends and fat liberationist allies are feedists. I know feedists who are way more educated and passionate about fat lib and body politics than most people I've met. I don’t wish for anyone to feel alienated on my blog - especially fellow fat folks and fellow fat allies. we are 100% FAT POSITIVE AND SEX POSITIVE on this blog, babey‼️

In fact I feel really glad when I see fat kink/feedism blogs engaging with my content bc it means that person is putting the work in to understand systemic fatphobia, how to be an ally to fat people (if they aren't fat themselves), but also healing their community through education and acceptance. and HOT TAKE, BUT: when it does happen?? when feedists aren't shrouded in internalized fatphobia, shame, and isolation, and instead start embracing this innate, powerful appreciation for fatness, it's literally so fucking beautiful? and so very queer?

choosing to gain weight on purpose as an act of self creation. because it feels Right for you. gaining weight to affirm the relationship you have with your body. getting fatter because you feel so much of your identity (even gender presentation!) is attached to your fat body. feeling sexiest when you're fat. someone else worshipping that about you. giving unlimited permission to nourish yourself and/or others - and taking carnal delight in it. releasing food rules and food guilt through centering pleasure. food and fatness as an erotic and sensory experience. finding feedist partners who also have this ingrained love of fatness that can't be replicated, partners who are willing and eager to support and adore your fat body, NOT merely tolerate it. reclaiming tropes used against you through kink, and turning a loving gaze inward. saying "fuck you" to the system and choosing to take up more space in a world that consistently tries to shrink you. never denying yourself pleasure even though everyone is telling you you don't deserve it. feedism is such an interesting facet of the endless spectrum of human sexuality and I think that once people in that community find liberation and heal their relationship to the kink, it can be one of the most radical forms of self acceptance and exercising complete bodily autonomy.

I already know that a love letter to feedism coming from a fat lib blog is gonna piss people off. I'm going to lose a lot of followers, I'm going to get a lot of hate. but. kink in general is SO demonized and SO misunderstood and as liberationists we should also be open to sexual liberation. so much of this discomfort around feedism comes from a lack of education and understanding about kink in general. feedism doesn't = fatphobia in the same way that bdsm doesn't = misogyny or abuse. quite the contrary, if practiced ethically, with informed consent. every community has assholes. especially when those communities are small, ostracized, and so young that there are next to zero resources for self acceptance, safety, education, and accountability. in fact, the assholes are the ones that you're going to SEE because every respectful person is staying away and out of your business. if you've been harassed by someone with a fat kink, that is so shitty and I'm sorry that happened to you. I know it happens a lot. try to remember that what you experienced was abuse, not kink.

what consenting individuals choose to do with their bodies is entirely their business and there is nothing wrong with kink. (and I will not stand for sex-negative, puritan bullshit in my inbox, thank you very much.)

reminder: fat pleasure is fat liberation.

[windblumewishes]

Hey, thanks for that post about no leaks. You're totally right. Could you please give us some tips on how to avoid ticking off Japanese fans? Like, what are the unwritten rules or things we should know about their side?

Hello, Dearie!

So there are a few ways you can avoid ticking them off, but it’s important to remember that many of them are rather protective of TWST and will legit pick fights with global fans for even trying to enjoy it.

Here are some that I picked up on so please don’t take this the wrong way or stir up unnecessary drama or problems. This is based on what I have seen, had happen to me, or have asked a JP fan about… wouldn’t exactly call them unwritten rules- just what I have noticed gets them angry…

No sharing the ABEMA stream content UNTIL the stream has concluded. They are VERY protective of the ABEMA streams as those are only accessible through Japanese VPN servers if overseas. I was sent death threats by one person because I posted a picture of Skully back at Halloween.

NO DATA MINING! There have been major leaks throughout the game’s runtime, most notable being the Ghost Marriage cards… someone went in and shared all the leaked groovy cards for that event all over the internet and the JP fandom was FURIOUS, understandably so. Someone did that recently with the Nightmare Before Christmas event in October- someone leaked the sprites and the entire lineup BEFORE the stream and it was all over YouTube, TikTok, and Twitter.

Card edits are a big one, now I have seen some beautiful edits by fans but many on the JP fandom find it to be highly offensive and disrespectful to the original artist. They hold a firm belief that it should not be touched and scribbled on as means to change the character entirely. I recently learned from a JP fandom individual that these card edits people make are a hot topic in many groups and make that side of the fandom look down on global fans because they believe everything is about them and how they desire to push certain narratives. Of course, that’s is only what I know from one individual.

Headcanons regarding gender, sexuality, etc. A lot of the fandom gets confused when people push certain headcanons and try to physically rewrite the canon by saying that their HC is the real deal. We all love to say a silly HC about the characters we love, I do to, but I learned that some of them can cause the JP side to get rather… upset. I’m cool with all HCs as long as they are not being forced onto people but I can’t speak for everyone or are pushing toxic narratives or offensive stereotypes.

Using official tags to spread spoilers, they absolutely HATE that. I’ve seen people do that many times and have to deal with messages like “umm hey, take that down, spoilers.” and etc.

REPOSTING THEIR ART IS A BIG NO NO! I have seen so many accounts on instagram reposting JP artists work and it’s just horrible… I get there is a language barrier but there are translator apps! No one should have to say “oh I didn’t know” when it takes a simple screenshot and upload to the Google Translate. Don’t do it.

Those are just a few I could think of off the top of my head, there are probably more so feel free to contribute to this in any way possible because it’s time we start heavily respecting the JP community as we as a global community have done enough damage over the years and it needs to cease.

- Windblume

[chocolatepot]

Hi! Can you elaborate on "Fuck GRRM's committment to 'historical realism' without knowing anything about medieval social history"? I would love to know about what GRRM gets wrong about medieval gender roles, specifically.

So Cersei learns at an early age that she has no agency, her only value is producing heirs and is barred from traditional routes of power so she has to use underhanded methods such as influencing men with sex or using underhanded magical means. I would love an explanation on why this doesn't reflect medieval queen consorts and noble women irl.

Sure! The basic summary is: GRRM "knows" the things that everyone "knows" about the middle ages, which are broad stereotypes often reflective of a) primary sources that deserve a critical reading rather than being taken at face value and b) the judgements of later periods making themselves look better at the medieval period's expense.

As Shiloh Carroll argues, building on the work of Helen Young, “readers are caught in a ‘feedback loop’ in which Martin’s work helps to create a neomedieval idea of the Middle Ages, which then becomes their idea of what the Middle Ages ‘really’ looked like, which is then used to defend Martin’s work as ‘realistic’ because it matches their idea of the real Middle Ages.”

Since you're mainly interested in Cersei here, I'd strongly recommend a book: Queenship and the Women of Westeros: Female Agency and Advice in Game of Thrones and A Song of Ice and Fire, edited by Zita Eva Rohr and Lisa Benz. It's an excellent read and speaks to exactly what you're asking about. The tone of the book is very positive and non-judgemental when it comes to GRRM and his depictions of women on the whole, but I think some of this is rhetorical positioning to not seem like "mean angry academics jumping on fiction for not being accurate," as the actual content turns the reader to thinking about how much agency and power medieval queens had in different European societies and how little of that worked its way into GRRM's worldbuilding.

It's true that women typically didn't inherit titles and thrones in their own right, and that they were usually given in marriage for political/dynastic reasons. However, they weren't seen as brood mares whose only duty was to pop out sons: both queens and noblewomen had roles to play as household managers, counselors, and lieutenants, actively participating in the ruling of their domains and in local and international diplomacy (women in political alliances were not just pawns sent to a powerful man's bed, but were to act as ambassadors for their families and to pass information back and forth), and they had to be raised with an understanding of this so that they could learn to do it. Motherhood was very important, don't get me wrong, but it's a mistake to assume as pop culture does that a wife's foremost duty being to provide heirs for her family meant that she was ONLY seen as a mother/potential mother.

Catelyn is a great example of what was expected of women in these positions. But in the books, Catelyn is basically the only woman who inhabits this role, and the impression given is that she's exceptional, that she's just in charge of the household because she's so great at it that Ned allows her to be his partner, and that he listens to her advice because she happens to be a wise person in his orbit - and also that Ned is exceptional for giving so much power to a woman, because in the world of ASOIAF, it takes an especially good man to do this. In GRRM's view of the medieval world, realpolitik and the accumulation of power are the most important things, so men in Westeros are extremely unlikely to give up any authority to their wives, even though this is historically inaccurate.

Cersei, on the other hand, is supposed to be a more realistic depiction of what would happen to an ambitious medieval woman. There's a chapter titled "Queen of Sad Mischance: Medievalism, “Realism,” and the Case of Cersei Lannister" in the book I've rec'd, and it deals with why this is problematic extremely well. (This is the source of the quote at the top of this post.) In it, Kavita Mudan Finn argues that Cersei embodies pretty much every medieval trope for the illegitimate wielding of power by a woman. She underhandedly gets people killed for opposing her, she seduces men into doing her bidding, she advances her family's interests and her own at the expense of the realm. She's made sympathetic through fannish interpretation and Lena Headey's performance, but in the text she's an evil woman doing evil things. Even when she gets to be regent for her son - a completely legitimate historical position that allowed women to handle the levers of power almost exactly like a king - she continues to do shitty things and not be taken seriously because she's just not good at ruling.

But even before then, from a medieval perspective she had access to completely legitimate power that she didn't use: she'd have had estates giving her a large personal income, religious establishments to patronize (giving her a good reputation as a pious woman and people she'd put in high positions being personally loyal to her), artists and writers to patronize as well, power over her household, men around her listening to her counsel. That she doesn't have that is a reflection of GRRM either deciding these things don't really exist in Westeros in order to make it a worse world than medieval Europe and justify Cersei feeling she had to use underhanded means of power, or not knowing that they were ordinary and unexceptional because he has a good working knowledge of the politics of the Wars of the Roses but little to no knowledge of social history beyond pop culture osmosis, and, imo, little to no interest in actual power dynamics.

There are a lot of books I'd recommend on this subject. There's a series from Palgrave Macmillan called "Queenship and Power" and nearly all the books in it are THE BEST. Theresa Earenfight's Queenship in Medieval Europe is a very readable introduction to the situations of queens in European societies across the continent. She also has a book, Women and Wealth in Late Medieval Europe, that also addresses non-royal women's power. I'm also a huge fan of English Aristocratic Women, 1450-1550: Marriage and Family, Property and Careers, by Barbara Harris, which really emphasizes the "career" aspect of women's lives as administrators and diplomats.

[zipper-neck]

Trans Rules of Engagement

By Florence Ashley

Strong communities make us all safer. As anti-trans movements gain in power and influence, holding space for each other through our flaws remains critical. Yet the very conditions that create our need for community care make it hard for us to care for each other. We are raw, wounded, traumatized, and hypervigilant. We make mistakes brought on by fear and hurt. We lash out at each other when we do wrong, often partaking in pile-ons facilitated by the synchronous nature of online interactions. Whether we realize it or not, we often exclude trans people from community when they need it most.

I have lost count of the number of trans people I have seen cast out of online trans spaces for misdeeds both major and minor—far too often with my help. I sometimes find myself wondering where they are now and whether they are still alive. Because, as Kai Cheng Thom has taught us, social death often means real death for trans people. Trans communities are life-sustaining in a world that hates us so, so much. In a world that wants us dead. We have lost too many people not to stop and think about how we can foster life among each other.

This goal I have for myself—that of fostering life—motivates the following principles and rules for engaging in online intra-community conflicts while preserving the life-sustaining spirit of our communities. Countless times have I failed to heed these principles and ignored these rules. This failure, which many of us share, is precisely why I now want to lay these principles and rules down on paper. If only as a reminder of my aspirations. The principles and rules are meant to be adopted for oneself, not imposed onto others. Their purpose is to foster productive engagement, not create even more conflict and rigidity. I hope that this will be a living document, and invite you to make your own version if you would like. Borrow what is useful, supplement with what is needed, alter what can be improved.

Some, and perhaps all, of the principles I acknowledge are false, hence the need for a living document. Each of my suggested rules have exceptions. In setting them out, I am staking a claim as to the sort of myths and half-truths that are necessary to sustain life in a world that wants us dead. We must treat them as true if we wish to foster life-sustaining communities and survive the hellscape we belabor.

Principles

1. We are all flawed, traumatized humans at the end of their rope. Many of our actions say more about the conditions we live under than who we are as people.

2. No one is disposable. No one is unsalvageable.

3. Life holds greater value than being right or comfortable. Hurt is preferable to death.

4. No one should be deprived of community.

5. Harm does not require further harm. Punishment does not equate protection or healing.

Rules

1. Do not depart from these rules, unless you have to.

2. Morgan M. Page’s Rule: Try to avoid criticizing other trans people in public. The world does it enough already.

3. Favor in person or private conversations: Addressing someone’s comments or actions in person or privately is typically more constructive and effective. It allows you to communicate more cogently and with more nuance problems in someone’s actions or words and because it is less likely to make them react defensively from a place of trauma or fear.

4. Take your time: Few things require an immediate response. Responding while caught in a surge of thoughts and feelings is often unproductive. Ask yourself how much harm was done, versus how much we are reminded of an earlier harm. Ask whether your response is rooted in misperception or potential biases towards the person due to race, disability, gender, or other marginalized identities. Consider whether their words or actions reflect a different kind of thinking or communication style, a lack of access to education, or limited access to progressive communities and norms. You can respond tomorrow, once you have collected your thoughts, talked to others, and gained perspective.

5. Don’t mob: Be aware of group dynamics. Ask yourself if you are connected to this person and in community with them. Avoid jumping into the fray when others are already criticizing the person. Do not invite others to join in and mob them. Withdraw if others join in, and kindly ask people to stay conscious of mobbing dynamics. Mobbing rapidly grows out of proportion.

6. De-escalate: Focus on de-escalating conflicts. Ask what people mean or want, and why. Ask them for clarification or elaboration if needed. Ask yourself if you know enough about the context of the situation. Distinguish the action from the person, and acknowledge that it is normal to respond defensively or aggressively to public criticism and mobbing. People are traumatized, mentally ill, and are scared of losing the little social support they have. As a result, conflict can trigger a fight-or-flight response in both those who are criticized and who criticize, which leads to escalating conflict and ends in a loss of community. Dropping the conversation to return at a later date is preferable to escalation. Often, I find it best to limit myself to three replies in conversations that aren’t constructive.

7. Respond proportionately: Responses to words and behaviours should be proportionate to their harm, and reflect a need for healing and protection rather than punishment. When we speak from a place of hurt, we can understandably but unfortunately forget the measure and impact of our response. Use language that reflects the nuances and gradations of harm rather than a coarse good and evil binary. Cutting all social support and community banishment are rarely a proportionate response, even for someone who doubles down and does not apologize. Responding proportionately is asking first and foremost what response sustains rather than dissolves life. Especially when it comes to words, it is better to under-react than to over-react.

8. Ensure support for everyone: Check in on those who are criticized and those who criticize them. Remind people that we are all in this together, and that banishment is not how we work as a community. Everyone deserves to have their needs met. Do not shun or reproach people who offer support to those who were criticized or called out. Distinguish supporting a person from enabling their behavior.

9. Hold space for people to grow: Allow space for people to be accountable, change, and move on from previous conflicts. Do not hold past behavior over people’s head, nor dig up past misdeeds to fuel present conflicts.

10. Resolve conflict and harm as a community: We must ask how our communities enable and cause hurt and harm, and find ways to transform the conditions that create them. Holding accountable, problem-solving, and conflict resolution are functions that should be taken up by the collective, not isolated and unsupported individuals.

11. Center those most hurt or harmed: Focus on supporting and empowering people who are hurt and harmed rather than on punishment. Ask what they need to be safe and integrated in our communities, while committing to support for everyone; what they need to repair their relationship to the person who hurt or harmed them. Focus your involvement on bringing people together, fostering dialogue and mutual understanding, and restoring a sense of community togetherness, rather than deciding who is right or wrong.♦

[sleepyangelkami]

I'm posting this from my phone so please bare with me guys.

"ew, you write y/n as a baby."

okay, so. I understand that the way I write might not float everyone's boat which is so okay !! But yk what you could do...? Scroll !! There's no need to hate. I really apologize if the way I've written my readers in x reader fics is harmful in any way. However, I'm not going to stop making the character they're with baby them and look after them. The beauty in all of this is that none of it is real. Life can be hard and life can be way toooo much and at the end of the day you might js wanna read ab getting babied. People baby their partners all the time whether you're male female any other gender none of this matters. I write female y/n and if you have a problem with the characters babying her but at the same time you're posting matt sturniolo (I apologize if I spelled that wrong) and saying omg cutie baby 🥺🥺 it's the same thing !!! It's so normal and people are making it weird. If you want to read badass!y/n then write badass!y/n. People get so hung up on writing shy readers and saying it's weird. It's how a lot of people feel and I'm personally really shy irl which is why everything on my account is fake !! Kami isn't even my real name ! You guys need to stop spreading hate towards people and if you don't like their work whether it's cringe or even a little weird then please just scroll

"ew innocence kinks are for p*edos."

Oh my. More often than not innocence kinks are usually submissive people loving the chase and getting dominant people to spell it all out for them. Not only that but sometimes people suffer from childhood trauma (me !!) and they read things that make them get to relive the part where their 'innocence' was 'taken' from them in a gentle way and not by abuse of power. Also, some people just have innocence kinks !! And that's okay as long as you're two consenting adults. When did everyone get so judgemental !! I've seen stepcest, ACTUAL incest and more prominently pain kinks and knives kinks guys innocence kinks really are not the worst problems out there ! I understand that some people take them too far which is not okay and under no circumstances would I ever support someone taking advantage of someone else who doesn't fully comprehend what's going on. But yk what this is?? Mere fantasies. They don't exist, it's just what people like to read so please leave us alone 🩷

And finally, "why is y/n such a pushover omg?"

Wanna start off by saying I don't condone cheating ever !! And I would never write a fic where the reader gets back with the character after they cheat. With that being said, the only fics I have ever seen of that (very VERY few) they have put trigger warnings at the beginning to let you know what you're reading. And for the people who say that the reader shouldn't go back because their partner yelled at them... Guys PLEASE !! I understand that yelling isn't something that should be excused, you should never put your partner in a position where they are scared or feel uncomfortable. However, I also know for a fact that everyone reading this has at one point in their lives yelled at someone. Being loved isn't about loving someone with happy rainbows there's gonna be bad days which I find realistic enough. Partners argue, sometimes relationships even take breaks and people get petty and people yell but you know why?? Cause we're human !!! It's in our nature if we're angry or annoyed or whatever it may be. Of course this behavior shouldn't be excused if it's constantly on show. Although denying the fact that you'd ever get back with someone after they yelled at you during an argument is a little bit childish. I don't mean hate to anybody whatsoever I'm just saying that you're dating a human (hopefully) not an alien (you'd be surprised on Tumblr I actually can't rule that one out) they have emotions and while sometimes they can be misplaced... It doesn't mean they're a bad person for it.

This isn't meant to harm or send hate to anyone !! I've just seen so much hatred spread across Tumblr and it's really upsetting. People should learn to support one another and if you don't like the content, scroll ! Once again this is hate to nobody enjoy ur day/morning/evening/night lovelies !!! 🩷🩷

(sorry for the ramble angels)

[twistedmionn]

Twisted Wonderland iceberg

Explanations ahead (slight spoiler warning)

Tier 1:

everything is self-explanatory, I think

Tier 2:

Haruhi = the protagonist of Ouran High School Host Club. She's a girl who dresses up as a boy (correct me if I'm wrong) and many players who have a female MC consider theirs to be like Haruhi. [EDIT: Thanks for the anon pointing out that I misspelled the name!]

Tier 3:

self-explanatory

Tier 4:

A fair amount of people headcanon Vil as a trans woman because he presents androgynously/feminine and doesn't care about gender roles. This has also caused discussion in the fandom because breaking gender roles ≠ trans.

Tier 5:

People sometimes wish TWST was more like a dating sim and had character/dorm routes.

Some people headcanon that Silver is based on Prince Philip (from Sleeping Beauty) and/or is a prince himself. I haven't played all of book 7 yet (only the parts out in the ENG server) so idk if the theory has been proven right.

Lilia is old and hints at dying soon.

Hot NPCs, such as Deuce's mom and Sebek's grandpa.

Ace and Deuce have expressed interest in Yuu at various points in the game.

Genshin VAs: Leona/Alhaitham, Silver/Kazuha, Idia/Razor are the ones I can think of

Tier 6:

A beastman (I think it was Jack) has stated that he has problems talking to animals, and Ruggie's talent at it is considered something special.

The tweels are considered intersex by some due to eel anatomy (I'm no eel expert).

Kalim is considered the real villain by some due to never really bothering to help Jamil.

Epel's backstory/attitude has many elements that a fair amount of trans men relate to.

There are theories that Lilia and Sebek are twisted from Peter Pan characters. I'm unsure about Silver, but I think I've read something about him being from another movie, too!

Tier 7:

Some people headcanon that Ace has experienced domestic abuse.

There's a theory that Ace will betray Yuu.

Cater has two sisters who boss him around, which is a resemblance to Cinderella.

Malleus might have two pps because well... dragon.

Epel and Deuce had a whole ass beach date. Deuce constantly cares for him and broke the school rules in order to make Epel feel better. Their scenes together (the settings) looked straight out of a shoujo manga. If Epel were a girl, this ship would be considered canon by most.

I'm not sure EXACTLY which languages Jade's VA speaks, but I do remember that he knows German.

In one of his Halloween vignettes, Ruggie — as opposed to Lilia — has indirectly expressed that he has no interest in romance/relationships.

Tier 8:

UH.

[jenchan-writingmultis]

Twisted Wonderland Boys x Fem Reader in their respective Fairytales (Series)

─────❅───── This was an ask by @cartoonykat I couldn't compile it in the inbox, m sorryyy (╥﹏╥) "Hi, I was wondering if you could do a Twisted Wonderland Boys (Except ortho) x Reader, Where they are in their respective Disney tale, or a fairytale that fits their character?" A/n: This is a pretty broad idea that makes me want to do a whole series about it! Maybe I’ll do everyone… but first I’ll put housewardens and their vice housewardens first! Thank you for requesting this! I was a bit lost how I can do this one but hopefully I hit the right point! It’ll be split into a series, cause when I was writing I realized, it got long. Hope you like it! About the Gender, I put fem, but the gender wasn't that specific in each part, it's very vague. Masterlist

─────❅───── Content Warning: This Fic will be tagged as 16+ since it is a bit suggestive along with mentions of Gorey themes (Azul), it’s very vague. I haven’t finished Book 6 and Book 7 because I’m stuck in Tartarus, but they’re not done here yet. Riddle (Suggestive Themes), Leona (Cussing, Blood mention), Azul (Obsession, Manipulation, Cussing once, Potential Cannibalism? (He eats merpeople who are turned into Polyps). The reason for potential OOC was cause I mixed both the classic Villains with the personality of our beloved boys Due to the Tumblr Limit, Each one will be divided unfortunately, hopefully it's an easy navigation for all of you! ─────❅─────

First Batch would be: Riddle, Leona, Azul Second Batch would be: Kalim, Idia, Malleus

List of Villains interconnecting with each character:

Riddle = Queen of Hearts

Leona = Scar

Azul = Ursula

─────❅───── Sypnosis: After an experiment gone wrong, you and Grim along with Deuce concocted a potion that exploded in your face, you fell into deep slumber, and due to the effects of the potion, it caused you to dream about your boyfriend/s reigning as their… villain counterparts?! And why are you in the outfit of the main character? What’s going on? ─────❅───── Riddle:

When you woke up as Alice, you didn’t expect to see Riddle in his housewarden outfit. This time, however, he was acting a bit strange. By strange, he was hostile with you, reminding you of the time when he was still in his strict, crazy, unjust ruler phase.

You thought that you were probably dreaming because there’s no way Riddle would ever be rough with you like this. Even before, he was often gentle with you, especially knowing that you were magicless. He was harsh with his words, sure, but he never laid a finger on you. The only time he did was during his overblot, but after that, he was the softest man you’d ever encountered.

“State your name,” he glanced at your figure sprawled down Infront of him, voice amplified with authority as he gripped a staff adorned with a heart symbol. He was the true image of a king—or rather, a queen. His authoritative presence reminded you of the true Queen of Hearts, whom he admired and aspired to emulate.

“Riddle don’t be ridiculous” You were hurt that he didn’t remember you since you two were practically dating in the real world, a vein throbbed on his head, patience running thin. He slammed his staff on the ground, the force sending shockwaves through the air and producing a loud clang. "I said, state. your. name.” he glared down at you, looking at you as if you were a feeble flea in front of him. "You're quite bold talking back to me"

Getting intimidated, you immediately stated your name as well as the reason why you were here truthfully, at first, he wanted to laugh at your face, transported to another world? Don’t be stupid, as if he’d believe you.

You managed to convince him that you truly were not from here by pointing out the fact that he didn’t know who you were despite ruling Wonderland. He, as the ruler, should have data on every citizen of his region, right?

That made him pause. He should have beheaded you for disrespecting him in front of his people, but you did have a point; Despite his anger issues and his pride taller than himself, he listened to what you said. “I see” tracing his fingers along the side of his staff. Narrowing his eyes at you, he continued, "If what you say is true, then you will have to stay here until I figure out how to send you back to your world."

“You’re helping me?” You finally lifted your head to look at his expression, wondering if he was lying or not, then again this was Riddle we’re talking about, he doesn’t do empty promises. Scoffing, he turned around to leave, the crimson mantle that draped on his shoulders fluttered prettily, he really was pretty.

“I rather have you gone than stay here for a while longer, so please, do appreciate that I tolerate you” he walked away, soldiers bowing in sync as he left the throne, “Trey, escort them to the guest room” he added, voice fading, Trey walks towards you, offering his hand to help you stand. “Well, this is a surprise, he spared you” he chuckles a bit while you look at him incredulously, unlike Riddle who had a housewarden outfit but a bit more exaggerated; Trey looked like a completely different person with his knightly outfit, and hair still the same, albeit neater than his usual.

“Trey?” you asked, he looked confused as you are, “Yeah? My name’s Trey Clover, you heard your royal highness, you get special treatment” Straight to the point as always, he ushers you to the guest room.

Sitting down on the soft bed, you didn’t know what to do next, will Riddle find a way to get you back home? Wake you up? You didn’t know, but you felt comforted by the fact that some familiar faces were around, despite them not knowing you.

Riddle didn’t understand himself; he kept a close eye on you while you were free to roam his territory. Truthfully, he was going to punish you, when he heard the news about a rat skewering and destroying some of his lands; however the moment he saw you, he felt an odd feeling as if he knew you, keeping his stoic façade as you were pushed inside and in front of him, he was going to be rough as usual with criminals, but for some reason, he really couldn’t with you.

You also acted as if you knew him with the way you looked at him and the way you got hurt with his harsh tone. Seeing you wither infront of him made his heart feel unpleasant and he didn’t want to see that expression you again, so he decided to stop talking to you; It was unlike him to not only halt your punishment but also offer you a bed to sleep in and have his servants feed you.

Should he be worried that you have that kind of effect on him? He could guillotine you any time, but the way you unconsciously trusted him, thinking about having you executed made him feel bad.

Part 2 (Riddle)

[xenasaur]

So, you gonna admit you were wrong and forced a trans woman to out herself because “Everyone I Disagree With Is A TERF!” or what?

holy shit, you mean homunyas? hey tell her to unblock me, if she didn't like what I have to say about cryptoterfs when I thought she was cis, she's REALLY not gonna like what I have to say now that I know she's trans. because now I know she's not only spouting off crypto-terf shit, she's also doing it to someone who was supposed to be her own fucking sister. this intensifies my dislike of homunyas and I stand by every single fucking thing I said. poor "mean lesbian" can't take backlash? she shouldn't fucking harass transfems. nobody made her come on my post (which was about trans positivity) and call me a bigot for having a complex relationship with gender and sexuality (which is especially funny because by her own rules I'm a good girl Real Lesbian™️). nobody made her mark me as a transphobe on shinigami eyes. nobody made her out herself as trans. she experienced the consequences of her own fucking actions and is now trying to use her identity as a shield, because surely a trans woman couldn't POSSIBLY have shittons of internalized transphobia.

that being said, I obviously do not support the harassment of transfems, even if they fucking suck and are harassers themselves. idk what is going on with homunyas bc if i did a "where are they now" with every harasser i got I'd never have any free time. but we already have so much fucking shit to deal with every day without it. if you think you are helping me by harassing her, or are in any way doing this shit on my behalf, take a big fucking step back and realize You're The Homunyas Here. then go live in a monestary where trans people don't have to exist around you for a few years to do some deep soul-searching. then come back and voluntarily self-report so I can block your ass. don't fucking harass trans people. i get it, she sucks. just block and move on. you aren't making me feel better by making my sister feel worse.

[lifeisaboutbeeltits]

‧₊˚ ⋅ 𓐐𓎩 ‧₊˚ ⋅ Hunger Knows No Rest, But You Feel Like Enough ‧₊˚ ⋅ 𓐐𓎩 ‧₊˚ ⋅

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✎ Character: Beelzebub Obey Me!, Gender Neutral MC,

Character and the picture belong to: Obey Me! One Master to Rule Them All

⚠️No reading proof. I had drinks 3 hr ago, and now it's three, and I'm just repairing some noticeable typos and grammar. But just fluff in the story. I tried to make it as in character as possible

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I hate being hungry. It's suck to have an empty belly. Everyone would say that because I'm an Avatar of Gluttony, I just need to eat something. But the need for food won't go away just because I eat, you know? I don't feel full at all.

I don't hate the eating part, though - It's satisfying, even if only briefly. Mammon once said I look like "A real younger brother looking", whatever that's supposed to mean. Lucifer was chuckling when he said that, so it's a good thing... Wait, why am I bringing that to the wedding speech...?

What I'm trying to say is that this starvation has more of a loss than a benefit. Once the hungriness comes, it will roar like a Cerberus, demanding food. It comes as it pleases but only leaves after I get enough food. That's made me tend to eat everything I think is edible, which I know sometimes concerns my brother. I hate it, MC. I don't like to see them worried, especially when it's because of me.

The starvation is consuming me.

But you changed it.

I know it seems like I don't change much at the eating part... I don't. That hasn't changed.

But you make everything more than a starvation for me. Did you remember the day you gave me a cheeseburger? You said you have to look somewhere to know what I loved after the dance battle around your first day at RAD; you remember, right?

That's the first time someone actually wanted to know my favorite food; they usually thought that as long as it was food, I would love it. Not that they're wrong, but knowing you going around to know is... Well... Nice to know. Please, don't stare at me. Satan is going to poke about this forever if I get any redder.

Our first interaction was actually when I tried to steal food in the House of Lamentation's kitchen. That day, I thought you would label me as someone whose world spins around food only. But you don't.

You bring me to so many adventures, you take me to so many places you think I'm going to like beside the restaurant or cafe. You make me feel like there are so much enjoyable things here and there

And somehow, I have so much time before I'm hungry if we're together.

Not only that, you also brightened my brother's life. You bring our strained relationship closer, moving past our differences to get one same idea - that we're going to do everything to protect this family.

And you're now a part of it; I love the thought.

You teach us that Lucifer is dependable. Mammon is actually so thoughtful besides money. Levi is passionate and fun at things. Satan has so many soft spots. Asmo loves to give us the best. Belphie just wants to be spoiled. And I... I don't speak many words because I prefer to be in action, right?

You continue to get closer to me, gets beyond the hungry Beelzebub everyone know. You somehow able to make your way to open my world. I don't take myself as someone who talks when eating, but you always remember the smallest detail I rumble while eating.

... Thank you. Thank you for wanting to know me even more than what I think about myself.

I Love You.

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MY LINK IS GOING NOWHERE??? BY THE SAKE OF THAT SUCK WINE. I'll repair it soon

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[theyanderespecialist]

Base Yandere Negan Headcanons (This Is An Improved Update/Remake) (The Walking Dead)

[Hello, My Sexy Muffins! I am back with a new chapter! This one is an update to an old one and is new and improved! I hope that you all enjoyed this chapter here, and happy Men's Mental Health Month and Pride Month! Negan is polyamorous with multiple wives, so happy pride month as well, muffins!]  (Disclaimer: Negan is polyamorous or just practices polygamy in canon! Although he is not yandere in canon! This is just for fun and not to be taken seriously at all! Simping for fictional characters and yanderes is fine! Just do not be illegal or gross about it! You know who you are! You Dirty, Flaky, Biscuits! Yanderes are not ideal partners to have in real life! Also, remember to separate fiction from reality and headcanon from canon! Thank you!) 

-Updated/Remake/Improved Base Yandere Headcanons with Yandere Negan X Gender Neutral Reader From the Walking Dead- 

.Negan is oof, he is a tough cookie and a tough yandere.

.He I think was once a gym teacher before all this shit went down and now in the season he is he is a leader of survivors and is getting paid protection resouraces from other groups of survivors.

.He fell in love with you and knew that he wanted you to himself, and since he would take what he wants and who he wants, that means he is taking you from your group of survivors so you can be his new spouse.

.You would mean more to him than any of his other wives, but he is not going to rape you at all.

.Rape is one of the things that he does not tolerate and if anyone tried to rape you he would castrate them, may they be man or woman and then have walkers slowly eat that person alive.

.He is willing to let you get away with a lot of things at first, he has you on a tight but long leash pretty much. Where he lets you push their limits and let you test the waters.

.But he will have to put his foot down and make you see you have to follow his rules, and he will only let you get away with so much!

.He does not want to break you, at least he does not want to at first, because he loves that spark in you and he finds a twisted humor in how you fight against him and test him.

.He is also a strangely charismatic man, and for the most part, as a man and yandere, he can be calm and jolly with almost anyone, even rivals.

.Being able to crack jokes with them and playing with their minds before he slaughters them for trying to take you from him.

.But he also has a temper, and that temper is put to the max with anyone who tries and hurts you, and a lot of his rivals end up getting to see his temper as well.

.He can also be pushed to his limit with you and lose his temper with you, where he spanks you or pins you down to make you listen to him. .Although when you show him affection and love, he has his temper calmed down, and he can have you soothe his temper, and he pretty much melts into you. .Unfortunately, with his rivals, he can lose his temper easily with them, with something as simple as them looking at you the wrong way.

.And lord help them if they actually tried to take you from him. They would be lucky to just be fed with walkers, given how brutal he can be to rivals.

.Despite being violent, sadistic, and murderous, he does have a compassionate and insightful side to him

.If he makes someone cry, especially someone he cares for or his darling, he would feel bad and apologize right away.

.He also knows when he crosses the line with his name-calling or teasing in the case of his darling.

.If he crosses the line and hurts your feelings, making you cry, he instantly apologizes and says you can do whatever you want to him in the bedroom.

.It does not matter your gender or gender identity, if you wanted him to service you or to dominate him, he would let you do whatever you want. Other than letting you go!

.If he makes you angry and you attack him, he will tell his men to stand down and let you lash into him verbally and a bit physically, letting you burn off that anger, as he was in the wrong.

.Like I said, Negan always follows his moral code: as much as he loves violence, he hates sexual violence as he finds it "unseemly"

.So even though he would never force you into sex EVER. He still may force hugs and sometimes kisses on you, but he does not do more than that, if he even does that.

.He has a good respect for the boundaries that his darling makes. At least in them being intimate or sexual boundaries.

.He needs you to know that he loves you and that he wants you, and he is going to do his best to court you.

.He will respect your consent for the most part and not go against your consent.

Except for sharing a bed with you, he will almost 100 percent of the time be spooning and sharing a bed with you, he is not going to let you get away from being in his arms.

.Negan also dislikes killing people at random, so he would have to have a reason to kill even his rivals

.A big part was to put fear in the other rivals and keep them in line, the next is because he cannot stand the thought of you being with anyone else.

.Fear is a big tool for him.

.He also would not just kill any partner you had before him right away.

.No, he would make a deal with you, you would be his willingly, and he would let your partner live.

.If you become his of your own will (More or less) he will be less likely to kill past lovers of yours.

.Only when someone fully tries to steal you from him will he kill them after giving them the choice to leave you.

.Yup, that is right, he would bribe or threaten or whatever to get your partner to leave you

.It may just send you closer to being his. So yeah, he is also a plotting yandere.

.As well as a manipulative yandere using your loved ones against you, and also holding things you need and want over your head as much as he can.

.Because he is a bit of a simp. You want to be a blanket stealer? He will not fight you on it.

.You want to be stubborn and not have sex with him for months? He is in a mood, but he would respect it. As well as he would have sex with his wives to take off his horniest, but what he wants the most is YOU!

.He would try to give you everything you want and WILL give you everything you NEED

.He is sometimes very daddish in the bedrooms, where he takes on a daddy dom energy and does what he can to keep you in line and behave.

.He will put you in your place and punish you, maybe even give you a spanking.

.Punishment and rewards are something he will do a lot.

.Also, he NEVER underestimates his rivals; he knows that if someone loves you, they are a threat and need to be put in line.

.He will be on guard when you are around them. If he lets you around them.

.Negan is capable of love; he did have love in his life, but as a yandere for you, you're the love of his life.

.And he would stop seeing his other wives for the most part and only be loyal to you, even if he has to suffer months of blue balls. He would rarely go to them for sex, sometimes he would give into the horniest and have sex with them.

.He is most likely polyamorous, and so he has an open relationship, but you are his main partner whom he always comes back to and who is his main spouse above anyone else.

.He is extremely protective of you, always has been, and he loves you like no other.

.Think of it like either Daddish or big possessive bear love.

.You are his, and there is no way he will lose you.

.Also, the difference with you and his other wives he wants a family with you.

.May that be adopting or having kids, a family with you, you are the one he settles down with.

.Also, he is brutally honest; he does not need the need to lie, so he would confess his feelings RIGHT AWAY, like right after he sees you, he just blurts it out most likely.

.He will always be honest and up front with you, no matter what.

.When he confessed his love, he told you he would let your loved one live as long as you accept his love and become his spouse.

.If you accept his love, you will be taken away and made into his spouse and be his most precious person and thing.

.He would adore you and make sure that he never stops loving you.

.If you do not accept his love he will start going innie minnie minni mo~ until you accept his love.

.Either way, you will give in, and if you do not, he will just end up straight up kidnapping you! 

[YASSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS another chapter is done! I hope you all enjoyed this chapter here, and please stay sexy, all of my sexy muffins! 

[karlachismylife]

Already I find myself in your asks ehehe

I notice I didn't give you the required banana for my first ask so here, to make up for it: 🍌

And three for this ask as well! 🍌🍌🍌 (you'll see why so many banan in a moment... Apologies in advance)

I have three language questions! :D

I read through one of your posts about affectionate nicknames and cool nicknames and the like. A lot of the examples had "ka" at the end (for the cutesy names). Is there a reason for this? Like etymology wise?

This could be COMPLETELY wrong but I heard "babushka" can be super insulting. Like. People would hate you on the street for saying it. But also... grandma?? So????

So I notice a lot of writers have Russian characters speak English then substitute a word for Russian. (In the specific example that made me think of this it was "Get out of my way идиот") Is this common for actual Russian native speakers that also learn/know English? If so does it go the other way around too? (like do those speaking full Russian sentences sometimes use English words?)(I would imagine not. No real reason for me to think that though)

Thank you very much for sharing all of your knowledge!! It is well appreciated :]

Yassss thank you for the bananas!!! They are very needed after two exams in a row.

Ending "-ka" in words.

Yes, there is a reason for this. If we simplify, Russian words have following structure: prefix + root + suffix + ending. Let's talk about nouns only for now to make it easier, but other parts of speech follow more or less the same general rules with some corrections.

The root is, well, the root, it carries the main meaning of the word, names the thing itself.

Ending is changeable when we put words in different cases, it does not change the meaning of the word, it only changes the grammatical form. When we say "I am a gorilla" and "I see a gorilla" in Russian these will be two different cases and therefore the ending will change ("я горилла" [ya gorilla] VS "я вижу гориллу" [ya vizhu gorillu]).

Prefixes and/or suffixes are added to change the MEANING of the word. This way we can form words with entirely new meanings (still tied to the root of the word, so for example we take the word окно [okno] (window), give it a prefix and a suffix and get подоконник [podokonnik] (window sill). The prefix под- [pod-] that has a twin preposition под literally means "under", so подоконник is a thing under the window. Makes sense, right?

But there also are suffixes that change the meaning of the word, but it's still the same object we're talking about, just, for example a very big one or small one - where the dimunitive suffixes come into play. There are quite many of them, and "-к-" is one of them. There are also several longer ones that include the letter "к", like "-очк- " [-ochk-] or "ик" [-yk-]. So these + an "-а" ending (typical for 1st declination that includes feminine and masculine gender nouns) make up a lot of dimunitive forms of nouns. I'll show on several of the words I used in my affectionate words post.

рыба [ryba] (fish) consists of рыб-а (root-ending) рыбка [rybka] (little fish) consists of рыб-к-а (root-suffix-ending)

звезда [zv'ezda] (star) consists of звезд-а (root-ending) звёздочка [zvyozdochka] (little star/starshine) consists of звёзд-очк-а (root-suffix-ending)

кот [kot] (cat, usually male) consists of кот- (root-empty ending) котик [kot'ik] (cat but affectionately, small cat but not same as kitten) consists of кот-ик- (root-suffix-empty ending)

*also a separate note, but suffix "-к-" also has another meaning which is to make words feminitives, so идиот [idiot] is a male idiot and идиотка [idiotka] is a female idiot, not a "small idiot"

I hope this made sense, I tried to kinda make it short and not go too far into word-building, but this should answer your question I think.

Offensive "babuska"

I honestly have no idea why would anyone tell you that, because yes, it's literally "grandma". I suppose women can be offended if you call them this word because of the whole weird "we have to always pretend everyone is younger than they are" thing, I literally witnessed yesterday a girl being extremely upset she was referred to as "woman", not "girl". So yeah, I guess don't call women that unless they're literally someone's grandma or they look more ancient that Lenin's body in the mausoleum, but it's not like a curseword or inappropriate. Man, I really wish we still had the soviet thing where everyone was called "comrade" (I do that unironically in all languages but people do kinda side-eye me in Russia for it because of connotations). But this literally is THE perfect word to call people. No misendering, no wrong age identification, moderately friendly but not too much in case they're not comfortable with it... bring "tovarish'" back!!!

Language cocktails

Actually no, we do not insert Russian words into English/any other language speech normally :) Instead, many people, at least from my circle, because we consume a lot of content in English and sometimes other languages (for studies, work, leisure), we often insert English words into Russian. And often English words get like widely appropriated into the langage, we use "cringe" as a noun and made a verb out of it with Russian verb formation rules. Globalization is no joke!

Of course the most realistic situation where someone would insert a Russian word into English dialogue is if they forgot the word in English (here is a wonderful NikPrice thing from my beloved comrade on the topic). But! I can tell you how I use this "inserts Russian words when speaking English" thing in my writing, mostly with my Russian-Ukrainian OC: it's a deliberate thing she does to often conceal the meaning of her words (when she is being affectionate but pretends she's not), or if she wants to ephasize her Slavic descent, or when she cusses someone out, because let's be real, nothing hits like Russian cursewords. Plus when the situation is emotional/stressful or the character is not fully conscious (drifting off or passing out), speaking non-native languages can be hard.

Also in your specific example it doesn't make much sense to me since идиот and idiot are basically the same word, just with different stress syllables.

I hope this helped! I am very sleep deprived and have a fever and another further math exam in ~12 hours so if there are stupid mistakes or something makes no sense, tell me plz >< And feel free to reach out for anything else!

[dandysworld-meh-imagines]

Welcome to this Dandy's World X Reader blog!

My name is Anna, but you can call me whatever you want, you can call me Grace too. I'm just someone who is attempting to write a bit of some x reader stuff again like good old times. I'm an adult so if that makes you uncomfortable, feel free to leave this blog. I want to try and make this a safe space for people to come and relax.

Let's get into the rules and that, shall we?:

-This is ONLY an x reader blog! I don't write ships BUT what I can do is write poly x reader if someone wishes for it. Please specify if you want it to be poly rather than separate!

-I will write for all toons and twisteds (No Blot yet!!), romantic or platonic. Toodles, Pebble and Coal will only be platonic and every request with them will automatically be so as well, please don't be weird. Please also specify if you want your request to be platonic, if there is no mention of it, I will make it romantic. Also specify if you want the twisted version of a toon! (Or both!). Scenarios that have more than one character without any mentions of poly will be platonic.

-Angst is allowed, no NSFW but suggestive stuff is fine. Reader is gender-neutral unless specified. Reader is also a toon.

-I can try writing for maybe heavier topics but know that it might not be my best work or I might back out if it's too much for me, please feel free to correct me if I get anything wrong.

-Requests might take a while as I have other stuff to do and work on or real life happened. Some days will be 1 request, others 2, depends on how I feel or if I'm busy!! Sundays are off but I might not post in other days too, really depends!!

-I also take my time writing and posting because I want to write a lot for each request and to also not get overwhelmed by writing all the time (I need time alone too to recharge well), apologies for this as new requests will take a very good while but it's something I need to do to not lose my sanity.

-I can deny any request if I feel uncomfortable with it, it doesn't elaborate enough (if you can, please put a lot in!) or even because I have no idea what to write for it, please respect that.

-If requests are closed and someone sends something in, it will be deleted. Please wait until I open them again to send something in!!

-You can only request up to 4 characters, if I get more than 4, I will randomly pick myself. If it's a scenario with the characters (for example: main toons, two or three toons reacting to something in general) this rule doesn't apply.

-If I don't post your request, either Tumblr ate the ask or I denied it (the first being WAYYY more likely), you can ask if you are curious about your request though.

-If I did your request wrong, please let me know so I can rewrite it! I do want to make you guys happy, after all!

-Most importantly, have fun!

Masterlist

Requests on inbox and in order of what will come out/be posted first, if your request is here, it means I accepted it (if I'm away, it might take a while to update with recent requests!):

1. Poly Headcanons About Dandy And Shrimpo With The Reader!

2. Connie Headcanons With The Reader Inspired By Some Lyrics!

3. Angst/Comfort Razzle & Dazzle With A Reader Who Comforts Them!

4. Dandy With A Reader Who Is The Antagonist!

5. Goob And Scraps With A Reader Who Is The Youngest Craft Sibling!

6. Poppy Who Snuck Twisted Reader Into Her Room!

7. Yandere Vee With The Reader!

8. Chef Reader Who Is Horrible At Baking And Cosmo And Sprout Try To Help!

9. Main Toons With An Antagonist Reader Who Is Like Dr. Doofenshmirtz!

10. Dandy With A Fem! Flower! Reader Who Was Made To Be His Love Interest!

11. Finn And The Reader Becoming A Twisted Together!

12. Toodles With A Teenager Reader Who Is A Horrible Influence On Her!

13. Sprout With A Reader Who Was Cut From The Gardenview Cast!

14. Reader Trying To Comfort Toodles As She Is Becoming A Twisted More And More!

15. Connie(+Twisted) Having An Obsession With A Male! Scaredy-Cat Reader!

16. Reader Trying To Comfort Rodger Who Blames Himself For The Loss Of Toodles!

17. Platonic Main Reader With Their Toon Handler!

18. Platonic Teagan With A Reader Who Goes To Her Tea Parties To Distress!

19. Eggson With A Granddaughter Who Looks Up To Him A Lot And Goes Missing!

20. Shelly With A Twisted Male! Archaeopteryx Fossil Toon Reader!

21. Astro Who Gets Startled From The Reader Waking Up From A Nightmare!

22. Rudie And Bassie With A Very Affectionate Reader!

23. Sprout And Reader Looking At Old Embarrassing Pictures Together!

24. Reader With Twisted Dandy Who Acts Like A Cat!

25. Sprout With A Bug Toon Reader!

26. Yandere Flyte With A Fem! Moth Reader!

27. Toodles Trying To Set Fem! Reader And Rodger Together!

28. Reader Comforting Vee After Hearing About The Upgrade!

Requests that I have accepted but don't write for a character (Blot) yet:

1. Blot Headcanons With The Reader!

2. Circus Troupe With A Ringmaster! Reader Headcanons!

[velvetvexations]

It's been awhile since I elaborated on my gender feelings, and I've had a lot of further thoughts, so here's a post about that. It's kinna unfocused. I don't really have many segues between points, I'm just throwing stuff out there. Maybe I'll edit it into something more readable later.

I identify with both the words "male" and "woman" because I feel them both about equally, intertwined, and sex and gender are equally arbitrarily. Most trans women are female, and like, that's great for them, but I'm not. I'm a male and I'm happy to be a male. While the word "man" is completely alien to me and I have having it applied to me, I do feel a strong kinship with other queer males, particuarly trans men and gay cis men.

One could theoretically call me bisexual, but I don't really vibe with being bi. When I'm with someone who also identifies as male, I'm a gay male, and when I'm with someone who identifies as female, I'm a straight male. I feel very strongly about that, not because I have anything against bi people, who are all very lovely, but being a gay male and a straight male at once is very key to how I experience gender.

I actually feel very seen when TERFs talk about trans women being parodies of femininity, and feeling insulted by the appropriation of womanhood as a costume. Other trans women aren't anything like that, but actually, my womanhood is very much satirical, and people who are offended by that should be offended by me. I am mocking women and femininity when I put on a skirt and call myself a woman, at least to ones who find that insulting in the first place.

If you're a cis woman who isn't offended by the idea of someone AMAB wearing a skirt, there's nothing offensive about me, but for someone for whom that constitutes an insult, yes, good, that's what I'm going for! Be insulted! I am parodying you. Especially when I dress up in hyper-pink frilly sissy outfits. "Bleh, look at me, this is what a woman is lol!"

You'd think people who consider themselves gender abolitionists would be more onboard with the idea of parodying gender. But a lot of TRFs are also offended by me in the opposite direction, though they disguise it as parternalistic worry over my "self-hate."

I would probably be the most normie woman ever if I had been allowed to transition when I was younger, but I wasn't, and now I'm the pornsick male crossdresser some other women, both cis and trans, feel extistentially threatened by. And TRFs take that as me indulging in self-hate, when it's entirely love for who I am. I like being a pornsick male crossdresser and calling my womanhood fake and artificial. I'm a fake and artificial person.

You'd think people who talk about themselves as robot girls all the time would be on board with this, but they use robots as a tortured metaphor for their victimhood, whereas it's much more empowering for me, and tbh goes a lot harder.

The thing is, yes, I'm a pornsick male crossdresser who performs womanhood much the same way a clown performs at a circus, but there's nothing underneath that! A statue of a woman is a fake woman but that doesn't make the statue a man. I simply am the idea of artificial womanhood, stripped of what makes that cute and gender validating for people really into that doll kink universe. I'm built with the wrong parts, big and hairy, with a deep voice, and when people see me they see a fake woman, and that makes me kick my legs in the air because that's what I am. Still not a man. Just a fake woman.

That doesn't mean everyone with those traits is a fake woman. Gender is inherently fake and not real and has no rules. The same person could be a he/him or a she/her or a xi/xir and you would never know because it's just an internal thing. Only you can decide if you're a man or a woman or whatever, or if you're male or female or both or neither.

And my gender, in many ways, is the embodiment of the transmisogynistic caricature. If you're cool about very butch trans women my existence shouldn't be insulting to you and you just move on, but some trans women are really bothered by that, and like with cis women, it's like, okay lol, good. Be insulted. I am parodying all womanhood, you're included in that, you're welcome. I am a nexus of misogyny for people who want so badly to see misogyny in another person dressing and performing gender the wrong way. I am a living monument of spite towards anyone who wants to control the self-expression of others based on their own insecurities. And in the course of my being a gay clown who calls myself a woman, I will make gender into a balloon animal, and everyone else - the ones who accept and encourage freedom of self-expression in others, who know that nothing I do for myself has to have implications for them - will be delighted.