#they also dont know if he needs to be prepping for surgery or not because 2/3 doctors said different things

[witchblade]

i thought that like communication was just an issue with like big companies contracting + my own stupid job but it's also completely abysmal at hospitals apparently

[yomiurinikei]

give us the disability pride HCS too babe the world needs them-

AAAAA okay this is just gonna be me going hmm not necessarily like "yeah i genuinely think this is real" its just things i think are fun!!!!!

(also hi babe <3)

(also, this is from yomi the next day, who just finished the post. my head went somewhere else while typing this but i cant think of anything else to say? so. ill just upload this)

kiyoka: hmmm.... mayhaps minor hearing damage due to not being safe with guns when she was first getting into sniping? i can see that!

kanata: her carpal tunnel in both wrists is fucked up from how precise her surgical work is. shes fine but she has to be really careful, and has to prep and care for her wrists both before and after surgeries. no ones gotten hurt, but it has caused complications during surgeries before

kakeru: autoimmune disorder kakeru is so dear to me (as is chronically ill midori ofc <3)

haruhiko: not a disability but pilots r considered radiation workers because they get exposed to soooo much radiation. mans is gonna get cancer af- wait a sec

utsuro: prolly the only like.. non physical disability im gonna point out but mans is such a system. its debilitating.

tsurugi: WE TALKED ABOUT THIS AS A LIKE. GROUP U ALL SHOULD REMEMBER THIS. tsurugi grows up to become a chronic pain haver from his high impact lifestyle and uses a wheelchair. yeah. also i like hard of hearing tsurugi cuz of all his work with guns and his experience with explosions but we know this. (if you dont know that well maybe. go read beta)

~*~

hajime: chronic pain haver! also has light sensitivity aaaand is immunocompromised. weak immune system.

emma: also a chronic pain haver but like its her scars. they bug her a lot it impacts her daily life so yeas.

hibiki: actually no i lied in utsuros section. she has rlly rlly bad ptsd and also has dissociative episodes. yeah.

setsuka: has a prosthetic eye :]

mikado: well. his mobility is going to be very limited after i hit him with a car and kill him but he will be dead so.

[mueritos]

Hey! I’m getting my top surgery soon (it got moved back, so I have more time to worry about it) and I was wondering how your in-hospital experience was, since that’s what I’m most worried about.

Hi!! In the hospital I am referred to as Matteo in the system, though my legal name is there too. There was a lil mix up when the first nurse brought me into the prep room and she used my birthname, but when she was looking for my name in the system, i had to correct her because she was looking for my birthname. She apologized and said she should have checked on the file, but also on my wristband “Matteo” didnt fit entirely on it, so it’s cut off lmao. Overall I had no issues, everyone called me Matteo and he and it all felt very nice. You get changed into a gown and you have to wipe yourself down. The worst part was them getting an IV in, that shit is GHASTLY and PAINFUL AS FUUUCK. never again do I want a needle digging into my VEIN that shit sucked so bad I almost passed out LMFAO so prep yourself for that shit. Your surgeon might draw on you while youre awake but there was a nurse in the room while that happened. It felt kinda cool to watch him draw on my boobs lol. You’ll also meet your anesthesiologist before going under, snd they’ll explain the process and whether you have side effects. Here you should ask for anti naseau medicine or patch if you get very sick like me. Also you’re probably going to get the iv in pretty early because they’ll need fluids for you to PISS because they make u take a pregnancy test. Its just something we have to do as people with uteruses and before going under general anesthesia. If you need to pee before surgery, consider holding it so you dont have to struggle for an hour and a half like me getting an iv in and pissing like four ml into a cup LMAO

They’ll either wheel you or walk you into the surgery room and tje whole time i was crackin jokes. Kinda helps me calm down maybe itll do the same for u. You’ll meet the team, like the assistant to the anesthesiologist and the other nurses/surgeons. You get onto the surgery table and lay down (you’ll be naked under your gown btw). They will strap you in for safety around the waist and arms, snd you’ll be in a t pose position laying down. They’ll get an oxygen mask onto you. I was told that they were gonna give me something to sedate me snd calm me down, and i felt the coldness of that fluid in my iv and veins. After that my body felt heavy, the anesthesiologist came in and let me know she was gonna put me under. I said thanks guys have fun and then knocked out to Radio Gaga (the assistant anesthesiologist was playing Queen). I woke up to my first nurse giving me ice chips lol. You’ll be woken up either in your recovery room or the recovery area. I was in the recovery area and once I was awake, they wheeled me back to the room i was prepped in. Apparently I was there for a lil over an hour before being coherent enough to be wheeled out and go home. You will likely be told to try drinking something, and I did try, and I threw up a couple times. The relief after I vommed was DOPE, so if you get sick after anesthesia, all i gotta say is to just let yourself throw up. You will feel much better after.

After that you are home! I tried to explain what I could and I hope that its enough to give you an idea of what to expect when you go in. Good luck in your own surgery!

[pan-fangirl-345]

Heyyyy!!! Saw your 300 follower event!! First off, Congratulations!!!! And then uh, i wanted to ask a Sebastian x reader, the sebastian of Clary's dream btw, the good one, whose eyes turned green 😭😭😭😭

The other information:-

•She/her

•Angst snd Fluff

•Sebastian being the good one, that had green eyes... Who said... ‘ I've never felt so light ’ 😭😭😭😩😩

• and uh, make me a herondale!!!

I mean thats tge only thing I could request without disrupting any of the ships because TMI ships are ON POINT, i hope you find this ask good and write about it, though it will be fine if you dont.

Congrats again dude!!!

A/N: You are my first Mortal Instruments ask Anon! You're also the first ask of the event! And that scene made me cry so badly, oh my gosh! And thank you so much for requesting! I will do this, and I hope that it's what you were thinking in your head! I also had to look up the Herondale family tree because I didn't want you to be Jace's sister. I love him, but I had a feeling that might be a little weird since I don't know the technicalities for the kind of situation if you were his sister.

Also, you mentioned Clary's dream, and I was kind of making this based on that little thing. So, he's not 'Sebastian' in this, he's Jonathan.

Summary: Your boyfriend's sister is getting married to Jace, who was always more of a brother to you than some distant cousin.

TW: Other than doubts of a relationship, there's nothing major that needs tagging.

"Are you nervous?" you asked Jace as you messed with his hair while Alec messed with Jace's suit.

"Only if she doesn't walk down that aisle," he said, but one look at him and you knew that he was more nervous than he had ever been.

"She'll always get to you Jace, you know that," Alec chided, swatting his brother on the arm.

"Exactly, thank you Alec," you said, frowning at one cowlick that refused to be wrangled into place. "And if she doesn't, well, I have contacts in France, I can have you be an entirely different person with a few phone calls."

"(Y/F/N)!" Alec squawked, attempting to swat at you but you moved out of the way.

"I'm joking! Kind of," you mumbled. "Look, Jace, you and Clary were inevitable. There is probably no world or reality in which the two of you don't end up together. This is the happiest day of your life, just enjoy it. Worry about everything else after that."

He nodded, though you weren't sure if he was breathing.

"Look, I'm gonna go find Jonathan. He's with Clary, and he's going to tell you the same thing Alec and I just did. Don't stop breathing before I get back, alright?"

Jace nodded, his eyes a little wider than they usually were.

"Idiot," you muttered affectionately, stepping out of his prep tent, rolling your eyes.

Clary and Jace were never going to end up with anyone but each other. They were damn near perfect for each other.

Clary, it seemed, had needed to take a walk before the wedding, getting sick and tired of all the fussing.

She was over-looking the wedding, Jonathan and Valentina laughing with her.

"There you are," you said, making all three of the turn to look at you, "I was looking for you Jonathan. Your future brother-in-law is currently on his way to a full on panic. Can you please go tell him that Clary isn't going to leave him on the altar?"

"Aunty (Y/F/N)!" Valentina cried, reaching out for you as Jonathan swung him off his shoulders.

"Here," he said, handing his sister to you. "Take the little monster. I have to go calm the groom and do surgery on the cake."

"What?" you asked. "What happened to the cake?"

"That little monster decided she couldn't wait," Jonathan teased, ruffling Val's hair. He kissed your cheek, heading down the hill.

"So, how are you feeling?" you asked, turning your attention to Clary.

"I knew, for a long time, that Jace and I were forever," Clary said.

"But," you prompted.

"No, I know that I only want him. I'm just worried that something's going to go wrong. What if the seating chart is wrong? What if someone gets food poisoning?"

"Clary, if someone starts a fuss, you know that the rest of us are going to put them in their proper places. We aren't going to let anything ruin today. Jonathan and I, especially, aren't going to let anyone ruin today."

"I was kind of surprised that you both started dating," she admitted, her eyes getting that far away look in her eyes. "Jonathan has never really been interested in anyone but Isabelle. No one I've heard about anyway."

"How do you think I felt?" you joked, letting Valentina wiggle her way out of your arms. "I thought it was a bet or a dare for the first few weeks we were together."

You watched as Clary's younger sister danced around the hill, picking flowers and throwing them around like she was already doing her job as flower girl.

You tried to hide your wince, and you either succeeded, or Clary was just off in her own world again.

"I don't mean to be rude," Clary continued, "but you aren't like Isabelle at all. You're more like me in that way."

"To be fair, there aren't a lot of people like Isabelle in the world," you said.

Clary let out a small, breathless laugh, nodding. "Yeah, you have a point there. Anyway, I just wanted to thank you."

"For what?"

"For looking after Jace, for caring about my brother as much as you do, for being the best sister I could ask for."

"What about me?" Valentina whined, pouting.

"You too Val," Clary said, smiling at her younger sister.

The little girl giggled, and you couldn't help the small smile that broke out over your face.

Clary was right, you did care about Jonathan, but you had often thought that he chose you because Isabelle was unavailable to everyone but Simon.

Compared to Isabelle, you were very much a Plain Jane.

"Anyway, thank you, (Y/F/N)," Clary said, wrapping you into a hug.

"Yeah, always. Now. You've had your breath of fresh air. Now it's time to go get yourself right pretty for my brotha," you mocked, and she laughed at your terrible accent.

"Yeah, I will as long as you promise not to do that again," she said. "Come on Val, you can help Mom."

The little girl squealed, running down the hill, her older sister trailing behind her.

You wrapped your arms around yourself. Your talk with Clary had brought up some insecurities, ones that you had tried to bury deep within your heart.

You knew that she hadn't meant to upset you, but that's what she had done.

You took a deep breath, collecting yourself before you headed back down to Jace's tent.

"Are you ready?" you asked when you stepped in.

"Yeah, Jonathan did a really good job of convincing me that Clary wasn't running off," Jace said.

"Good, then he did his job. Now if he can keep Val away from the cake until the right time, then we're golden," you joked.

"That girl does have a sweet tooth," Jace muttered.

"Indeed she does," you said. "Where'd Alec go?"

"Magnus was trying to change the color of the flower petals and make them glitter."

"Ah," you replied, shaking your head fondly. "That explains it."

"Are you okay?" Jace asked, frowning at you.

"Yeah, I'm fine. Why?"

"You just seem . . . I don't know, pale? Dull?"

"Eloquent dear brother," you teased. "And yeah, I'm fine. I just have some things to think about."

"Did Jonathan say something to you?" Jace asked. "Because there's enough time for me to murder him and hide the body."

"No, Jonathan hasn't said anything to me," you told him. "Clary did, but I think I'm just being insecure. Don't worry about me. Today is about you and Clary. Remember your vows?"

"Yes, I think they're practically tattooed onto my eyelids at this point. But what did Clary say to you?"

"Nothing important," you told him. "I already knew Jonathan had a thing for Isabelle. But Simon is the only one for her, so Jonathan got stuck with me instead."

"What?"

"Clary said that she was surprised when Jonathan and I started going out because he had a thing for Isabelle and I'm nothing like her."

"Just because you aren't like Isabelle doesn't mean that he doesn't love you," Jace said, frowning. "Besides, I think everyone has a thing for Isabelle at least once in their lives."

"You didn't," you pointed out.

"That was because she's my other sister," Jace said, patting the top of your head. "Trust me little sister, Jonathan isn't looking at anyone other than you."

"How can you tell?" you asked.

"He looks at you the way I look at Clary," Jace said.

"Don't exaggerate like that, Jace, he does not," you said.

You frowned when a piece of his hair fluffed out of place.

"Let me fix your hair," you said, grabbing a comb and more hairspray.

"You can't keep dodging the subject," Jace told you.

"Says the guy that excels at dodging the subject," you countered.

"I excel at everything, little sister, you should know that by now."

"I can't believe we're related," you muttered, rolling your eyes as you fixed his hair.

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

The ceremony was beautiful, and you were happy for Jace.

He had been like your brother since a young age, even though you knew that you were really more like fourth cousins. He had stood by you through everything, and you were grateful for him.

It was nice to see him so happy, to see such a bright smile on his face.

After dancing with Jace, Alec, Simon, Clary, Val, Magnus, and Isabelle, you were standing by the drinks, watching everything from afar.

"I always find you in the shadows," Jonathan said, wrapping his arms around you from behind.

It was true. You had found (more like Jace and Jonathan had pointed out) that when it came to things like this, you had a tendency to hang back, scared of taking attention away from anyone else.

"Hey," you said, allowing yourself to appreciate the contact.

"So, apparently you think that I'm 'stuck with you'?"

You winced, letting a slow breath out.

"What did Jace tell you?" you asked, watching Luke dance with Jocelyn.

"He told me that I needed to come and see you, like I wasn't going to do that already," Jonathan said. "Told me that if you hadn't changed your mind by the time he got back from his honeymoon that no one was going to ever find my body."

You snorted, putting a hand over your mouth.

"Yeah, that sounds like Jace," you said.

"Why didn't you tell me?"

"I thought it was stupid. I mean, pretty much everybody wants Isabelle Lightwood, and if they don't want her, they want to be her."

"Hey," he said, spinning you around to look at him. "That weird crush I had on Isabelle ended when I met you. I am in no way 'stuck with you'. I love you, I chose you, and it was the best decision I ever made."

You watched him for a moment, watching the way his green eyes roved over you, pleading with you to believe him.

"I love you," he said again, cupping your face in his hands.

"I love you too," you murmured, leaning your foreheads together.

"You believe me this time?" he asked, grinning so brightly you had to blink a few times.

"Yeah, yeah I believe you," you told him.

"Good, 'cause I still want to dance with you," he said, pulling into the fray, spinning you around, making you laugh.

"Good, you've got your smile back," Jace said, appearing out of the mass of people.

"Yeah, thanks for being the best older brother I could hope for," you said, taking his hand in yours for a moment before you turned to see Clary.

"Sorry about what I said earlier," she told you.

"Don't worry about it. I know you didn't mean it the way I took it," you replied, waving your hand dismissively. "I just got sensitive."

Jonathan's arms tightened around your waist, almost like a warning and you rolled your eyes fondly.

"Anyway, I wanted to thank you for being here," Clary said. "I know it means a lot to Jace."

"I wouldn't have missed it for the world," you told her, smiling. "It'll be nice to have a sister figure."

She smiled, nodding.

"Yeah, it'll be nice to have you around more often," she replied, sending her brother a look over your shoulder.

Jonathan made a small noise, but it got drowned out as another song started up.

"May I have this dance?" Jonathan asked, moving in front of you with his hand outstretched to you.

"Always," you told him, letting him pull you into the spotlight.

[autisticmob]

HELLO everyone i am now ten days out from my tiddy surgery so i think while everything is still fresh-ish in my mind I should get a rough timeline of how things went for me, just so anyone having similar stuff done in the future can have it as reference?? 

so under the cut is how shit went down, warning we are gonna be tmi about it for Max Information Dissemination, i will be talking about IV placement, Needles, Bleeding, Bruising, Bathroom Stuff In General, etc. so like. Be Warned.

OKAY SO what did i have done and how did i get it:

- i got a bilateral breast reduction with a “T,” “keyhole,” or “anchor-shaped” incision. this procedure, unlike double-incision top surgery, does not detach your nipples at all, but it DOES leave a decent hunk of breast tissue behind to avoid the nip graft. this connecting tissue keeps your nip attached and supplied with enough blood to survive. that means with this one, theres basically a limit to how much they can take off, and it depends on how big you are to start off with. 

- i went with the T-incisions because as a NB person, I wanted to sidestep the “gender-confirming surgery” route with my insurance. technically, I believe it would have been covered if i had gone through the process of talking to a therapist and getting a note that the surgery WOULD help confirm my gender, but i suspect it would have taken much longer, and I was afraid that my doctor and community resources would not have ended up approving me FOR the surgery since I don’t exactly fit the typical trans narrative. and luckily for me i had Massive, Spine-Bending G Cup Tiddies to contend with. so every doc that took a look at me said “yeah, you need those taken care of for medical reasons.” so i thought hey, let’s see how far this will get me!

- i talked to my primary care doc about my back pain and mentioned i’d like to look into a breast reduction, and she referred me to a local surgeon who could do the procedure. at the time i was still entertaining the idea of double-incision, but as it turned out, this surgeon just didnt do that. but i knew for certain my insurance would cover him, his results were good, and he was local, so i said yes to the T-incisions, which he said would likely get me down from a G to at least a C. it wasnt my ideal scenario admittedly, but frankly the back pain was getting to be too much, and i needed it to be addressed sooner rather than later.

- i had a consultation with the surgeon in early december, and they took pictures and measurements to send to my insurance so they could confirm the tits WERE in fact Too Bomb To Live. Doc said that it varies between insurance companies, but most will have a minimum amount of tissue that needs to be taken off, in grams, from each breast. he was like, “your insurance needs at least 1000g total removed, which’ll leave you on the small side, is that cool?” and i was like “My Man, take AS MUCH as you possibly can, im sick of these” and he was like “cool, makes my job easy then.” 

- it took my insurance like 1.5 to 2 months to get back to me, but late january the surgery place called me and we set a date for february 5th, 2020!!

PRE-OP:

- before i went into surgery, the hospital made me go over my medical history with them over the phone, informed me of all the risks, and gave me a special scrub kit to shower with at home for the last 2 days before the surgery

- fun fact this soap will make your whole bathroom and body smell strongly and exactly like a hospital and it is gross as hell if you hate hospital smell

- i also had to go to my primary care doc to get the OK that i was healthy enough to go under general anesthesia, and also get some blood tests and a urinalysis done. i fucked up the urinalysis tho (which is a whole other story) so i had to redo that the morning of the surgery when i got to the hospital anyway. 

- when i scheduled my surgery they also gave me a list of things i had to NOT DO before i went in. this included stuff like avoiding herbal medications and non-prescription supplements and not drinking any alcohol for like 2 weeks prior to surgery, and not eating anything after midnight the night before surgery.

- then it was SURGERY DAY!!!

- i went in with uhhh a LOT of anxiety about what everything would entail, ngl. i knew i had to do it because staring down the barrel of life with tiddies forever was way scarier than surgery, but yknow whenever you go under general anesthesia they legally do have to let you know that you could die and thats just a lot to consider, PLUS the whole thing involves just, really mangling your torso so like. its a lot! its okay to be scared!

- both my parents went with me for moral support which i appreciated a lot, but i didnt actually see them much since they had to spend a lot of it in the waiting room.

- when i went back with the doc they had me Wash The Tiddy Off with some antiseptic and change into a gown. i got some grippy socks out of the deal which is probably not a universal experience, but this hospital did it so shoutout to them for the socks i guess

- then they asked me all my medical history stuff again and checked me for any like, rashes or open sores or anything. i had some Tit Zits but they did not seem to be worried about that.

- then the surgeon came in and drew lines on me for the incisions. bro when i saw how high up my nips were gonna be i was losing my damn mind. this is one of the really exciting parts, because you finally get to really visualize what your end size is gonna be!! 

- once he was satisfied with how everything looked, they started really Prepping Me For Surgery.

- they hooked me up to a blood pressure cuff, a heart monitor, and some compression leg thingies that would inflate and deflate intermittently around my calves to help me not get blood clots. this felt weird but tbh also like kind of a nice massage

- then the iv placement. bro im not lying when i tell you this is the worst part. the nurse numbed me with some lidocaine before placing the needle and let me tell you that shit HURTED. lidocaine Stings and Burns when it hits and this was arguably the most painful part. but the good news about that is it means nothing else after that is all that bad. and i got THREE lidocaine shots because these two nurses could NOT find my blood anywhere. they finally called in their ringer (an EMT named kirk, s/o to kirk) who got that sucker in my arm with NO numbing and NO pain in like, 2 fucking seconds. i pray you all have a kirk. kirk knows where your fucking blood is and hes not gonna fuck around getting to it because he JUST wrestled a drunk dude into an ambulance like an hour ago and compared to that this is nothing. kirk had sleeveless scrubs. im obsessed. anyway.

- then they put a plastic, inflatable, heated blanket over me? it was between two regular blankets so it wasnt as uncomfortable as you might imagine, but it was strange. warm tho so that was nice.

- THEN they wheeled my bed down to surgery. i was having so much anxiety at this point it was like... dreamlike. getting wheeled into the OR was just surreal. i was like, no thoughts head empty, just taking everything in.

- once i got there the surgical team was very cool about keeping me calm tho. they were playing their like, pump-up music and one of the guys was like “hey fyi about halfway thru the surgery we will be turning the lights off and having a rave, just in the interest of full disclosure. promise not to leave any glowsticks in there tho” and i was like what no i would LOVE glowstick tiddies

- i had to kinda roll from my bed onto the operating table, which was significantly harder and smaller. that kinda made things feel real, so i got a little more anxious at that point.

- to help me calm down they had me breathe in some straightup oxygen thru a mask while they hooked my iv to the fluids and such, and the guy was like “WHOA you got some lungs on you dude” and i was like yeah thanks im recovering from hyperventilating

- then they let the anesthesia into the iv, letting me know the whole time what was happening, talking to me until i was just OUT, which was not a lot of conversation time because i was out in like 5 seconds or less. they didnt make me count down or anything, but i promise you it was nigh instantaneous.

POST OP

- it really was instantaneous. i know everyone says that but it really is the truth, it feels like the whole thing takes seconds. like one moment youre laying there in the OR feeling the drugs Hit, and the next youre waking up in the little wake-up room feelin kinda groggy with a nurse talking to you, and youre still druggy so youre just rambling to her about how fucked your voice sounds right now and as soon as shes contented that youre basically lucid they start wheeling you to your room where youll ACTUALLY stay while you recover.

- THE THING I WAS THE LEAST PREPARED FOR WAS MY THROAT

- your throat will Hurt afterwards, but even more than that, you will be producing So Much Mucus. my surgery took about 2 hours and during that time, all my muscles were paralyzed by the anesthesia, including my lungs, so i was on a breathing tube. my throat, understandably, hated this, and started producing Gallons Of Fucking Mucus to protect itself. it then continued to do this for the next two days or so. the nurses were encouraging me to breathe deep and cough Hard to combat this, and avoid getting pneumonia, so i did. but THAT hurt the tiddies. it was really a vicious cycle. but its necessary because god if i had to have pneumonia on top of all the other recovery shit?? god. 0/10 wouldnt recommend. so it might hurt but dont worry your tiddies wont bust open or anything.

- i spent basically the rest of the day still hooked up to all the machines i listed earlier, PLUS a thing that would beep at me if my heart rate went too high, which it did a lot because i have anxiety, but luckily the nurses didnt seem too concerned. it really kept my breathing on track though because if i didnt breathe deep enough my heart would shoot up super fast and it’d beep and god that was just annoying and im pretty sure that was The Point. you kinda have to get used to breathing again, and the beeping trained me.

- they gave me like a bunch of crackers and a huge mug of water to work on at my leisure. i actually had lunch pretty quick after waking up? i know a lot of people have nausea issues from anesthesia but i didnt experience any of that. i DID move like a fucking sloth while i was eating tho. the pain meds and general grogginess of recovery slowed my whole body down sooooo much. my mom was actually like “are you okay??? like neurologically??????” and i was, totally, i was just. on slo-mo.

- anyway i didnt have to get catheterized for this procedure thankfully but they DID make me measure my pee every time i went to the bathroom. like i had to pee in a little bucket attached to the toilet and the nurse had to come check it every time and i felt really weird about that. so idk just be prepared for that i guess lmao

- also idk if it was the pain meds or the anesthesia itself but post-op, i couldnt shit for like a week. the constipation is real so get u some fucking laxatives asap when you get home, this is not a joke lmao

- they also had me put on a belt every time i got up so the nurse could hold onto me in case i decided to fucking biff it. they got me up a couple times throughout the day/night to walk up and down the hallway outside and get my body used to being upright again

- oh speaking of i never got to lie down completely flat, they had my bed locked at like a 30 degree angle minimum to help with... something. im not quite sure what, but im not gonna question it

- when i got up the next morning they had a couple nurses come in and help me un-bandage so i could shower and finally look at what the tiddies looked like for the first time!! and it was exciting but i didnt cry like i expected lmao i think i was too drained and too distracted by the bleeding

- the bleeding wasnt too bad actually, just little beads kinda coming out of parts of the incisions between the stitches. but once i got in the shower obviously stuff started getting diluted in the water and it looked like a lot more than there actually was, so dont be alarmed by that! 

- SHOWERING: its a little complicated. youre not supposed to soak the incisions, and youre not supposed to apply direct water pressure or actually touch them at this point. so what i had to do was get a washcloth wet and soapy (with antibacterial soap, i think it was hand soap honestly. hand soap’s what ive been using at home so........) and then just kinda. squeeze it at your collarbone and let it drip down over everything kinda minimally. its kind of a process but it works fine. washing your hair and like, tbh literally everything else is gonna be hard. reaching over your head is hard and scary at this point. i will admit my hair care Suffered the first week. 

- then i got bandaged back up and they got me back into my own clothes and ready to go home! they also put a bra on me over the bandages in my new size. i was only there for about 24 hours total, since i didnt really have any complications. 

- on the ride home i had to make sure the cross-chest part of the seat belt was NOT touching me. if whoevers driving you hits a pothole, your soul WILL exit your body tits-first for a moment. im sorry if you live somewhere like here in nebraska where the roads are garbage but its not gonna be fun.

ONCE YOU’RE HOME!!

- i live at home with my mom and sister and if you live alone, id try to have a friend basically move in for the first week. you will need Help with things. basic things. you’ll mostly want to sleep because of the pain meds but those made me pretty dizzy so it was cool having my mom around in case i like. fell on the way to the bathroom and died or anything like that.

- changing bandages is really kind of a 2-person affair too, and youll have to do it at least once a day post-shower, so keep that in mind. 

- the bleeding is like, not that bad after that first day honestly. i never had to change the bandages more than just the once per day. 

- basically from here the procedure is just to take it easy, get up every few hours and walk around a little to keep the blood clots at bay, and enjoy yr new silhouette basically

- worst thing about recovery honestly? im a stomach/side sleeper, and i cant manage anything other than laying flat on my back with my arms at my sides right now, and thats just like.... idk i really cant sleep like that. its not comfy. ive had to set up kind of a pillow fort around me to keep me from rolling over in my sleep bc im afraid i might hurt myself accidentally like that, but idk how well-founded that fear is.

- i will say as someone who did have back problems before this, the difference is IMMEDIATE. i literally had better posture like Day 1. im still a little hunched over because the stitches create a bit of tension in your chest, but like literally it was instantaneous. god. once i got healed to a point that i could like, kinda relax and not be so fucking tense all the time? back pain has basically just been GONE. 

- other fun things to notice: i had some pretty significant stretch marks before, and now they are running in a completely different direction. i crossed my arms over my chest the other day and they actually touched my torso for the first time in like, well over a decade. if i close my eyes and try to grab my tiddy from muscle memory, i stop like a full 3 inches from where my tit actually starts now. the size i am now, just like, freeballing it? this is how i looked when i wore a binder before. if i wore a binder now i imagine id be completely flat, and honestly if i layer up at this point you cant really tell that i have anything more than the average chubby dude’s moobs, which as a kinda chubby person is totally fine. 

its a trip relearning what i look like and what im supposed to feel like but its just. such a fucking improvement over where i was. absolutely no regrets, regardless of how hard recovery has felt at times. anyway i hope this information is at least interesting and maybe helpful to anybody considering anything similar!!

[shijiujun]

history3 ep10 summary - POOR SHAO FEI AND TANG YI BB, this is what heartbreak looks like

I JUST ABOUT DIED. I DID. THE LAST PART WAS MAD - just this 30 seconds alone carried the entire fucking episode

We are at the halfway mark - Part of me doesn’t want it to end at all but I need to see the birthday cake and domestic scenes ASAP!! Currently I’m just enjoying the ride and so glad we get to see Chris and Jake and Andy and Kenny and everyone of those other hot and excellent actors in this show. I’ve never done a GIF or subtitled in all my years on tumblr before History3 - life changing this is what this show is and I’m so happy we’re all doing this together! Let’s make it through the halfway mark together omgosh excited guys!!!!!

Shopping scene with Shao Fei + Hong Ye: Hong Ye is telling SF to walk faster they go into a department store and she keeps changing clothes OMG LOL THEY ARE SO CUTE TGT!!! She wears smth with ruffles and then asks SF how it looks and then he’s like ‘why do u look like a seaweed’ and she’s like ‘who’s a seaweed you’re a seaweed’ and then she dances LOL and then LOL HE FELL ASLEEP WHILE SHOPPING WITH HER AND LOST HER omg Shao Fei seriously

They’re playing a game on the escalator this is the funniest shit and OF COURSE she brings him to a lingerie shop and omg Shao Fei so poor thing just sits there and OMG YAS HONG YE SISTER-BROTHER RIVALRY and she buys him UNDERWEAR and she’s like “hang on a second, this is too big for you, you need a smaller one” LOL BURN

Carpark/shooting scene: They’re almost like friends or something, although later after we see the hong ye and bodyguard ah de scene you’ll realise why she was speaking to shao fei like that (because she knew smth was going to happen and she thought everything was going to go to plan but who knew they were coming with guns) and anw, then the bullets start going off and shao fei protects her with all of his body like OH MY GOD - And wow the angle of the shot and how it struck SF is totally wrong and omggg this scene was faster than I thought JESUS CHRIST - is it just me or did Shao Fei get hit on the wrong side? Either they missed a scene or the bullet came from elsewhere

and then we get the scene of tang yi storming into the hospital and he goes straight for hong ye first, hugs her as she cries etc. and then hot doctor is there and when hot doctor is NOT SMILING  YOU KNOW SHIT IS ABOUT TO GO DOWN - anyway, the nurse tells hot doctor that the surgery has been prepped, and then hot doctor nods and says ‘let’s go’ - and that’s when tang yi REMEMBERS AND LOOKS UP - “is that for meng shao fei?” And his look of absolute regret is ridiculous

and hot doctor just somberly nods 

Police chief STILL DOESNT KNOW THAT SHAO FEI HAS BEEN SHOT omg he’s going around doing his usual shit and everyone is clearing shit with him and fuck he misses shao fei so much I like that they finally show that shao fei is useful in the office and everyone is dependent on him and then suddenly Yu Qi turns up because she somehow got the call that shao fei is in the hospital

Oh goddddd Tang Yi’s face as he sits there AND LOL Dao yi (glasses guy) knows police chief quite well he called him Brother Bao, and tells him to calm down and they will take care of everything but POLICE CHIEF AINT HAVING NONE OF THAT BULLSHIT he pushes dao yi aside and this is one of the only times he can legit grab a mob boss by the neck and not get shot at after - police chief loves Shao Fei so much you can tell he totally lost it and Hong Ye genuinely feels bad and she’s saying sorry over and over to him as tang yi sits there catatonic - tang yi is totally quiet

also not sure if you guys caught it but the older guy in the investigative team, the one who always kind of says smth subtly bad about shao fei, he shot a look to bodyguard ah de when police chief was confronting tang yi in the hospital - they are totally up to something, corrupt police!!!!

The rest of the investigative team - LOL Zhao zi: “wow I’ve never seen police boss chief grab someone so much larger than him by the neck” - Yu Qi really likes Shao Fei, she’s crying by herself at the stairs and police chief is the one who’s standing by Shao fei’s door the moment he’s out of surgery and he scoffs “what ‘they’ll take care of everything’? the moment they heard shao fei was going to pull through they all left’- he tells zhao zi that they’ll start investigating who the fuck was behind the shooting and reminds them all to be careful

Captain Shi: “those who dare to touch any one from the investigative team, I’ll bring them all back to the police station!!!!”

OMG WE GET THE SCENE WHERE TANG YI IS HOTLY WALKING AND RIPPING OFF HIS JACKET AND OH JESUS CHRIST BRASS KNUCKLES?!!! Anw here’s the gem oh my god: Tang yi comes in where the culprit is already seated and he tells everyone to get the fuck out (OMG YOU KNOW HE MEANS BUSINESS) 

Ah De is like ‘boss, this is a small thing, let me do it’ - and he’s so damn insistent on interrogating the culprit himself even though tang yi is literally ready to set fire on the bitch you know and i’m like AH DE THAT IS SO NOT SMART YOU WANNA DIE?!

and well, we all called it - tang yi hears that and he’s like wtf and he gets mad, hauls bodyguard ah de off his feet and slams him against the wall and yells: “SMALL THING?! HE TOUCHED MY PEOPLE, AND YOU CALL IT A SMALL THING?!”

and bodyguard is like fuckkkk: “yes i’m sorry boss, i said the wrong thing, i’ll leave now”

and then he goes out and hovers by the door while tang yi puts on his brass knuckles and starts punching the dude who is yelling a bit like... not realistically HAHAHAHA - and omg Jack hit it right on the nail, he asked Brother De why he looks so worried and ‘jokingly’ asks, “why, do u know the person inside?” And Brother De is so angry and defensive - jack totally knows what is up

Brother de and Hong Ye meet up and here we find out that they ordered the hit on shao fei in a sense to get rid of him - they wanted to show tang yi that shao fei can’t protect anyone and then chase him away, but they were supposed to come teach shao fei a lesson with like wooden sticks and not guns - hong ye was a bit stunned by that as well and she asked ah de like wtf did you really want to kill me?! and ah de is like confused also, he doesn’t really know how the plan went wrong?! and hong ye is like, whatever, i will cooperate with you only up to here, if tang yi manages to get any answers, it’s all on you (like not cool hong ye, tang yi would totes forgive you if you just admitted it i think)

anyway, switch to the balcony scene with tang yi and jack, where jack asks who it was that ordered the hit, and tang yi says: “chen wen hao”

okay so my theory is that maybe chen wen hao really has smth to do with this - he kind of derailed the plan and changed it to legitly wanting to kil hong ye and shao fei (more hong ye than shao fei more likely) - but right now they dont know it they just think that they’re safe and their story checks out

Okay so Hong Ye and Dao Yi - Gosh she’s kind of a brat but I get where she’s coming from. anyway she leaves brother de and then dao yi is waiting for her in the carpark - the man knows he way better than she knows herself, and i think he knows that she had something to do with the shooting, but he didn’t say anything except to hint that she better leave shao fei up to tang yi and stop trying to interfere. hong ye is adamant that shao fei is a different kind of person from them, and dao yi is like: “that’s for the boss to decide. the way he treats him... shao fei is different to him”

OH MY GOD THANK YOU SOMEONE SAYING IT AS IT IS FINALLY NO MORE SUBTLE LOOKS AND SMILES SOMEONE SAID IT

and anw, hong ye manages to make this entire thing about her and how dao yi doesn’t love her - sister, i really get you and dao yi really needs to get his shit together, but srsly, a man just got shot for you because you were unhappy with his presence - and gosh unrequited (actually requited) love, but i get her in this part

but seriously, i get that she want shao fei out of the way but they way she did it was totally wrong, does she not know that tang yi is soft for him and cares for him like he has no one else before? she was willing to hurt him to make a point, and then ah de is - gosh dude get a grip

AND OMGGGGGG TANG YI’S FACE AS HE IS BY SHAO FEI’S BEDSIDE - this is what heartbreak looks like guys, he looks like he’s saying goodbye and his fucking expression - wow Chris did a fucking good job he totally looks heartbroken and as if shao fei died or smth, he’s holding his hand and air-tracing his nose and he looks like he’s going to cry - HE REALLY LOVES HIM GUYS - the emotion was really right on point

(and lol the chinese audience - they were scolding tang yi during the first part of the ep because he didn’t seem to have much of a reaction to shao fei’s injury and then when the last part came everyone went BATSHIT CRAZY)

what the fuck is going to happen next episode? i ask, but i know already - tang yi is getting ready to say goodbye to shao fei and push him away because he realised how dangerous it is for shao fei to be around him BUT OUR FAVE CHARACTERS WILL FIND SOME WAY TO BE TOGETHER AGAIN NO WORRIES I DOUBT THEIR BREAKUP WILL LAST MORE THAN AN EP

[brokenhayatim]

[now playing: in her honor by sleeping at last]

so after 3 whole months i’ve finally decided to call my neurosurgeon back. also my neurologist is gonna hate me buttt. my neurologist is obvs busy so the receptionist tells me he’ll give me a call. i dont know why i’m nervous. i spend the day waiting, mentally prepping, and he doesn’t call so i figure later in the week then. i get a call today, recognizing the number’s area code and answer with a hello..? and it’s a woman. somehow, i’m chill now. it’s his nurse that was in the room with me for my visit. along with two other residents i made a fool of myself in front of. she recommends that since it’s been so long (huh!) that i should come in to talk more. obviously can’t do that since i live in another state, so i just tell her what i called about which was the surgery name, she happily gives that to me and i realize just how bad i am at writing med vocab so im like ......can you spell that last part [low laugh] and i can hear her smiling as she goes through the whole word giving me “c like cat.” I ask more questions about it, and about wanting to do another mri. me?? sick of doing those?? wants another??? it’s just that i feel like something got worse and i want validation i guess? i wanna know that what i’m feeling is actually wrong. which the mri may or may not even prove yet but. anyways, she recommends that i come in, after i ask if i can do the mri by me first (they usually take a while to get) and i tell her maybe sometime in december. she calls me back two hours later, to tell me he’s agreed on me doing it here and she’s sending me the two orders.

i’ve been thinking about this surgery almost non-stop for these months and pushing off this call to find out the name to do more research bc it’s been so long and too careless. it’s nothing urgent or life-threatening to seem that way logically i know, but to me i feel careless and remiss of me. now that i have more information though, now that i have these mri orders and an email saying to let them know when i complete the scans..it just feels worse. before, while i was idly ignoring this problem of many it was like coming back home with a suitcase of clean, new clothes. clothes that i should probably rewash and hang up, but they could stay down in that red suitcase for months and i just take out what’s needed. it sorts itself out eventually. i’ll get to finishing that eventually. now though, with everything going on, there’s just three suitcases lying around my room with dirty clothes i need to wash, i don’t know which colors to do first, whether i need one thing important in each for right now, or if i just throw all of it away because i’m confused. they’ve started to overpower my room’s scent so i should try to chill out and light some candles. nothing will work, till i open these suitcases and work on this. 

but the thing is with me, number one, i’m already having 11 crises right now and this has just added to the pile called ‘i don’t even wanna think about but need to like..now’ and my mind feels like its being pulled in every motion possible, with every outcome not being certain. and i don’t take risks, i don’t put myself in unknowns unless the net balance is 0 or positive. the slight possibility of something wrong happening, i can’t do that anymore. i’ve grown up living in that negative interval and i just can’t do that anymore. i’ve built myself in a way that stops me from even considering that as a choice. 

anyways, this is for another day but i’ve been thinking about love and loss for me, how they’re so intertwined to the point where i see loving someone more as this sense of loss in many aspects. but i’ve grown up, gotten through the toughest and saddest parts of my life with pain. pain was this fearful monster that threatened to rip everything away, then soon turned into this itchy blanket i used every night that i became attached to. attached to this point of me being afraid to get rid of even some ounce, because maybe, just maybe, it’ll all go away and the girl under that blanket won’t like what her body became. what she let her body become. 

i’m not afraid of surgery, i’m gonna hate the recovery dates, but i’m not afraid. there’s this part of me, so rooted deep, that just wants something terribly wrong to happen and i just. like you know in the movies when that girl has her father go in and they reassure her it’ll be a few hours and soo minimal, and they come out with this terrible look and she’s confused and wrecked. i’m afraid of the opposite. being okay. being this pain-free person. what twisted person is afraid of that. god, im terrified. this logical objective part of me is going through these scans and reading my diagnosis and thinking about that time i couldn’t feel my legs or wanted to just break down and cry from my migraines. i think of her wanting to throw up in class but pushing to make another hour, then giving in and go home crying to sleep. that me, says do it, you’ll get better of course. then this other me just keeps refusing. my therapist once said i seem to always have physical pain that matches my emotional, especially if one is dormant, the other is there. and i can’t seem to figure out why i hate happiness, or why i’m afraid of being healthy so badly. it’s like a risk to me. an unfamiliar risk i just know won’t last, and never has. 

so i made my mri appointments last night, with that logical me pushing forward. but i wanna be other me so bad...and probably will....i hate making commitments man. 

[parkjmini]

Outlier | the end

poly!au: park jimin x reader x kim jennie while your lovers said they needed you, you wondered if they knew how much you needed them. word count: 3988 genre: angst warnings: explicit language

[an]: nothing is medically accurate lmao im so sorry i researched like 70 percent and then i implied everything else so dont trust me idk what im talking abt. but a BIG thank you to everyone who sent me so so so much support and feedback for this entire series bc i wouldn’t have had the motivation to finish. getting those messages after posting a chapter made me giddy for my own story and i know what happens. I truly love interacting with my readers and going into plot/character analysis, i just love hearing everyone’s thoughts and thinking processes bc we all interpret things differently, again, thank you everyone who enjoyed reading this story (: 

prologue . 01 . 02 . 03 . 04 . 05 . 06 . 07 . 08 . the end 

After confirmation of the surgery, it became prepping sessions. Your doctor slowly took you off the chemo and gave you medication to ease any discomfort. You were given less visiting hours because you needed to rest. 

But your troubles stirred when you were alone. The moment replayed in your mind when Jennie told you that they were broken up. There was nothing you could say, nothing for you to fix. Jennie and Jimin were respectfully dating you, aware of your decision for still wanting to be with the both of them. It didn’t feel the same though, it didn’t feel secure or safe.

There was no way you could date them separately. Jimin lacked what Jennie brought to the relationship and vise versa. It wasn’t complete without the both of them. Your nurses didn’t let you worry about that, brushing away Jimin and Jennie during your resting hours. 

Jungkook visited you once after you added him back onto your list. He also brought you a vase of your favorite flowers. There was part of you where you didn’t want to make things awkward, but the other part didn’t allow for that. Instead, you blurted out that you knew about his crush on you. Then, he left quickly after you rejected his offer to be with him.

Hoseok respected your time and didn’t visit when he wasn’t allowed to. You were aware of how he had other important events in his life, but you really wished he tried to see you more. You’d hate to admit it, but Hoseok seemed to be the only person you could turn to for any non-biased advice. Since he stopped coming around often, you had to turn to your nurses.

The two weeks were absolutely the dullest moment in your life. You thought that living in your small town with your mom was bad, this was worse. You were stuck in a huge hospital with no friends majority of your stay. Your nurses were only with you for max ten minutes before they needed to go. You had the television, sleep, and your own nervousness.

Surgery was a big decision, so big that you even called your mom about it. You didn’t have the best relationship with your mom, so calling her was a surprise to even her. She totally didn’t bother to follow up on your life, so she never called first. But, you couldn’t go into surgery with the possibility of death and not tell her about it.

She offered to fly over and you insisted that she didn’t. So when she arrived to see you, you didn’t hesitate to give her a piece of your mind.

“What are you doing here? I told you that you didn’t need to come. Where did you find which hospital I was staying at?” You groaned into your pillow.

Your mom set her things down and crossed her legs while she took a seat across from you. “I asked the school. I’m your mother, for fucks sakes.” 

“Yeah, well you didn’t think that when I was growing up, so now that I’m dying, you decide you should start caring.” You rolled your eyes at her gasp.

“How dare you say that to me? I raised you when your dad walked out on us.”

“If you think being drunk and picking me up from my after school programs means raising me, then yeah. You did great mom.” Your sarcasm came out in train wrecks when it came to your mom; she drew the worse out of you.

“(Y/N), you have cancer and you decide to let me know when you’ve already decided for surgery is not exactly the most responsible daughter thing you pride yourself to be.” She shot back.

Your nurse came in to cue that she only had 15 minutes left before she needed to leave. “It honestly didn’t cross my mind that I needed to tell you since you’ve never cared enough to call me these past years except to invite me to your stupid wedding. Might I also add that you didn’t tell me about until the day before, so that makes two of us.”

“I didn’t raise you for you to treat me like this.”

“You didn’t raise me at all, what are you saying? But how about we talk about something else, since that’s all we ever talk about. News flash, mom, I have fucking pancreatic cancer and I’m going into surgery tomorrow. I’ve been going to chemo these past three months and I have almost to no hair. My body is bruised from being poked by needles. I am dying! Thanks for even having the audacity to come see me before my maybe death tomorrow. Don’t let the door hit you in the face.” You shouted as loud as your lungs let you go.

Your door opened and you both stopped your argument to see Jennie and Jimin standing under the frame. They looked stunned and confused to see the lady who you resembled. “Did we come at a bad time?” Jimin asked.

“No, since this is your visiting time.” You crossed your arms, glaring at your mom.

“Who are you two?” She asked, rudely.

“Mom, that’s my boyfriend, Jimin and that’s my girlfriend, Jennie. Welcome to the modern society of polyamorous relationships where I love two people at once.” Jennie and Jimin have never heard such sarcasm run out of your mouth. You were always just subtle, but this side of you was new.

“Hi, it’s nice to finally meet you.” Jennie stepped forward and your mom got up.

“Well, I can see that you have a whole double life I know nothing about. I guess you don’t need me anymore. Good luck on your surgery and whatever you call a relationship.” She grabbed her things and walked past Jennie and Jimin.

“She was pleasant.” Jimin said sarcastically and you rolled over on your side.

“This is why I never brought you home with me for the holidays.”  Jennie hurried to cuddle up to your side. 

“At least we avoided an awkward argument over Christmas dinner.” She chuckled and kissed your ear.

Jimin sat on your opposite side. “Are you ready for tomorrow?” 

Sitting up in Jennie’s arms, you buried your face in your hands. “No. I’m so scared.” 

“You’re going to be fine. Jennie, Hoseok and I are going to be right outside of your door. We’re going to be with you when you’re recovering. We’re with you every step of the way, we already packed our go-bags.” Jimin tried to comfort you, but you sobbed into your hands. You couldn’t help but cry so much nowadays. Staying strong was hard when you were so vulnerable. 

“And if something happens? Will you be there with me?” It was a rhetorical question that caused them to both fall silent.

“Nothing will happen. They’re highly trained professionals and I made sure you had the best surgeon in this hospital.” Jennie bragged proudly and Jimin laughed.

“Yeah, seeing her demand it was very terrifying. But, she did it. You’re in good hands, baby.” Jimin smiled and kissed the top of your head.

“Can you two just lay with me for the last couple of minutes before my nurse comes and kicks you out?” You sniffed and moved over for Jimin to join the sandwich fest.

“(Y/N), I love you so much.” Jennie and Jimin said in unison, and the unsettling feeling set back into your system.

A group of nurses and surgeons rolled you into a double door room. It was dim, except for the big spotlight that shined above you. Squinting, you saw the surgical masks that blinked back at you.

“Ready?” Your doctor was smiling behind her mask.

“No.” Your voice trembled from your nerves; your palms slick with sweat. “I want to be okay.”

“And you will be, (Y/N). We’re going to start with the anesthetics and we’ll get everything going. Relax, I’m right here.” She held onto your shaking hand and you stared back up at the bright light.

You felt the drugs enter your system, slowly stripping away your consciousness. You’ve already cried out all night your worries and said a few important goodbyes before the day arrived. The jittery feeling caused your body to shake uncontrollably and you were so terrified. This could mean recovery or death.

And while you hoped for survival, you knew the chances were split between the two options. Death was unavoidable, but to die so early shook your bones. Your dreams have just been memories of past events in your life, reminding you of the life you lived. The life you might soon leave. It was harder to ignore death than it was to wish for recovery.

Once your eyelids fell over your eyes, you’ve never felt more alone in your entire life.

“Would you stop pacing? You’ve been walking back and forth for the past two hours.” Jennie complained.

Jimin stopped in his tracks and narrowed his eyes at her, “I’m nervous.” 

“What happened to ‘it’s going to be fine’ and ‘you don’t need to worry’?” Jennie laughed and Jimin rolled his eyes.

“I can’t help that my body reacts the way it does when I’m the slightest worried. How are you so calm about this? They’re literally cutting her open in that room.” Jimin gestured to the closed doors.

“By not thinking about it like that. I’m thinking about the lovely time I get to spend with my girlfriend when she’s done.” Jennie muttered.

Jimin walked up to her and pointed to his chest, “you mean my girlfriend?”

Hoseok pushed the two apart. “She’s both of your’s. Are you two done making a scene in a hospital?” 

Jimin went over to sit next to Hoseok’s other side, making him stuck in the middle of a not-so-friendly feud. Even though they showed up together for visits, they were incredibly hostile to one another when they were alone. 

They slept in separate beds, Jimin taking over your room and Jennie in her’s. They ate dinner with their own friends and didn’t bother to tell each other about their whereabouts. They mostly spoke to each other in scoffs or groans.

Suddenly, the hallway doors were slammed open and nurses were rushing in a big machine --- a defibrillator.

The three of them stood up, seeing how rushed and hurried the nurses looked. The surgery door opened and a surgeon walked out with sweat dripping down the side of his head. The sound of a flat line heartbeat caught the attention of Jennie.

“Her heart isn’t beating, is it?” She was afraid to hear the answer to her question, her chest rising and falling violently.

Your doctor held the door open for the other nurses and defibrillator. “Her pulse went out, but we’re doing our best. But prepare for the worse.” 

Jennie collapsed onto the floor, bawling. “Holy fuck, we’re going to lose her!” She shouted with heavy tears running down her face. It was like her words pulled Jennie’s heart down to the pit of her stomach. Her whole mind and body were shutting down at the news.

“You have to stay calm, Jen.. we’re in a hospital.” Jimin tried to get her up, but she kept slipping his grasp.

“I don’t care! That’s our girl in there and her heart isn’t beating!” She exclaimed and Hoseok helped with holding her up.

Jimin’s head was in shambles, utterly speechless at what was happening. Hoseok was numb to the news, unaware to how to react. They wanted to stay optimistic, that the defibrillator will work. It had to work. 

“Why don’t you two go outside and get some air? I’ll stay here for any further news. Please... it’s not a suggestion. Go.” Hoseok needed to clear them out before they both stressed him out more than he already was.

Jimin walked Jennie outside. The light breeze clearing their heavy, crazy minds. Jennie was choked up by her tears, constantly wiping at her wet cheeks. Jimin stared at the ground, listening to her sorrows. His heart too heavy to express.

“Aft-er -- everything.. --Jimin --- I’m.. really, truly sorry...--” Jennie had trouble speaking with the endless waterfalls from her eyes.

“--Jen..” Jimin barely got out.

“No.. listen to me first. I’ve felt really guilty about all the rumors. We should’ve never gotten together in the first place, especially with someone like me. I’m known as the campus hoe, right? I can’t hold onto a stable relationship even if I wanted to and now my --- girlfriend --- is-- she’s -- dying.” Jennie cried harder, holding her face in her hands as she slid against the wall and onto the ground.

“I didn’t do anything with Jisoo ever. I don’t know how many more times I need to tell you, but I would never hurt you or (Y/N) like that, especially coming from a place where that has happened to me multiple times. Maybe you’ve always secretly doubted our relationship, considering how we got together through an accidental one night stand.” 

“Through our three months together, I fell head over heels for you, Jimin. I’ll admit it. I liked (Y/N) first, but you had a piece of me I didn’t think I could give to anyone after Taehyung. You’re so open, so understanding, so kind. I’ve never fully gotten the chance to explain myself because you keep shutting me down and every time, I believed that my explanation doesn’t matter. I’ve been devalued my entire life by my partners and sadly, I made myself feel that way with you when you ignored my pleads. But I think now is the best opportunity to tell you because we honestly don’t have anyone else who understands us the way we do. We’re both suffering because our girlfriend is in there not breathing. Our girlfriend, Jimin. I love you and through everything, you’re the one of the only people in this world who knows my struggles.” Jennie held him by the shoulders, so he could look her in the eyes as she gripped onto the only hope left in her life.

Jimin invited her into his arms, holding her tight. He had forgotten why he was upset before. He just wanted to be with his girls. He wished, hoped, prayed that things were back to how they were before the misfortune. 

“I’m sorry for making you feel invalid. I’m sorry for hurting you the way I did.” He admitted and Jennie sobbed harder into his chest.

“It’s okay... -- we’ll --- be...”

“--- Okay?” Jimin finished off and she nodded. 

You couldn’t breathe or move. Your lungs collapsed into your chest and you struggled to supply oxygen to your body. You screamed, but no noise came out and your arms were glued to your side. It was like you were trapped in a motionless body.

Everything was turning fuzzy and a white light blurred your vision. This was it. You were dying. You weren’t sure what realization hit you. Maybe it was the lost of breath and your heart rate slowly declining. Maybe it was the blinding light that caught your attention ahead.

Your memories started flashing before you. Jennie and Jimin flooding your mind. Your eyes scanned for anyone else, but them. However, you were left with scenes of your once perfect relationship.

Your first date night. It was the day you officially joined your partners. Jennie hurried you down to meet Jimin. He was cleaned up nicely, standing all cool against his sleek car. He peered up to see Jennie with the biggest smile on her small face, hand holding yours. 

She told Jimin the news and he was overjoyed, ready to hold you in his arms. He rushed you into the car and it didn’t feel much different than it was when all three of you hung out. The only difference was that you’ve never been more intimate with your best friends. 

Your first kiss. You anxiously sat next to Jimin on the couch during a lazy movie fest you were having with them. He had his arm wrapped around you, twirling the ends of your fingers with his. Your heart beating so fast, being not use to the touching from either of them.

He picked up your chin, knowing that you were distracted. It was an instant spark once your eyes connected and soon, your lips did as well.

Your first ‘I love you’. This moment was one of your favorites. It was Jennie’s birthday and you three were excited for the day ahead. However, a huge storm was rolling in and you were almost home. Jimin insisted in stopping to buy more snacks before rushing back. 

Once you all stepped out from the convenience store, it was showering, pouring heavy amounts of rain. Jennie, you and Jimin were drenched within seconds of going outside. Your plastic bags filled up an inch with collected water. Jimin’s leather seats in his car pooled with rain. All three of you laughed with glee as you marveled the escape from the wet mess.

And you suddenly stopped to admire the way Jimin’s eyes disappeared cutely and how Jennie’s nose scrunched up, her adorable snort catching your attention. In the midst of their happiness, you blurted out, “I love you two.”

The news of your mother’s wedding. An invitation was addressed to you. It had pretty cursive handwriting and a beautiful design. It was a wedding for your mom and her boyfriend, inviting you to join them for an evening of unity. You weren’t aware of them even being engaged, let alone a marriage. 

Jennie and Jimin never mentioned your mom, knowing you didn’t like pressing on too much about her. Their initial reaction was for you to go, until you explained that you didn’t even know she was getting married. You had crumpled up the invitation and threw it away in the trash.

Jennie consoled you, reassuring you that it was perfectly fine that you don’t attend. While you sulked in the living room, they approached you with the idea of still giving your mom a gift to congratulate her. It showed that you were the bigger person and that you acknowledge her efforts. They made you a better you.

Throughout every flashback, and every memory, your heart was searching for something beyond them, an image that wasn’t them. You laid there, dying, and all you saw was your girlfriend and your boyfriend. There had to be more than that and your heart was looking, waiting, for any other memories to surface. 

But nothing. It was only them and you couldn’t help, but feel a little disappointed. For the last few years of your life, you’ve revolved your entire world around these two people. You’re alone, not because you’re not social, but because you chose to focus all of your efforts into your relationship. And as you slowly lost sense of your consciousness, you became regretful about how you lived.

You heard distant voices, “1, 2, 3!” and you slowly opened your eyes. There was a rush of air that filled your lungs. Your vision adjusted to the bright spotlight and the many surgical masks above you. 

“She’s awake! We got her pulse!” They cheered and one of the nurses pulled down his mask.

“You’re going to be okay, Ms. (Y/N). The surgery was a success.” He smiled and you nodded, reaching for his hand to hold to make sure it was your reality. 

“We’re going to move you to your recovery room now, but you did really well.” The young nurse cheered with so much excitement, there were tears in his eyes. He was a complete stranger that just saved your life, yet he was even crying for you.

“T-Than-k yo-u.” You barely made out and he patted your shoulder. You shut your eyes again and felt the bed move and the voice of Hoseok calling after you as natural light hit your eyelids.

Several hours after the surgery and going over the post-surgery care, you carefully sat up in bed. Hoseok had to leave, but the two stayed. Jennie held onto you tighly, and Jimin blinked at you with stars in his eyes. But the thought you had while you were close to death never left your mind. 

“There is something I need to talk to you about.” You began, and Jimin and Jennie shared glances. “There was a lot to think about when I went under, my heart stopped for a few minutes and I was so close to my death. All I saw were our memories. I saw you two, but... something inside of me longed for something else, something more.” 

“If it’s not the three of us, then I don’t want to be in an individual relationship with either of you. That would mean making me choose and I don’t love one more than the other. It’s either both of you or neither. I will always love you two with all that my heart has to offer, but my life is so valuable and I need someone who is going to recognize that. I realized that the best for us is that there simply is no us. I love you both so much, I really do, but right now is not the right time. I’ll never forget us. ”

“Jennie, you were the first girl I love. Jimin, you were the first boy I love. But throughout it all, I won’t try to remember us. Maybe we’ll realize each other’s worth once we’re ready for it and we’ll be new people when we meet again.”

Jennie didn’t let go of your hand, instead, she nodded to every single word that you poured from your heart. “If that’s what you think is the best option for us, then I’ll accept your decision.” She agreed and no longer shed any more tears. She knew it was for the better, even if it did break her heart.

With a turn of events, Jimin was actually the one crying this time. Jimin’s tears spilled down his plump, supple cheeks. It was difficult for him to talk.. it was difficult for him to express how he felt in general. “I felt so regretful because I thought I was going to lose you forever when I was ready to trade my life for your’s. I’m just happy you’re alive and breathing. I respect your decision and I think that you’ll always know what’s best for us three.” 

Your heart was healing, bit by bit. The shock of almost death woke you up and you no longer wanted to be trapped in something that didn’t seem to work out well anymore. It was time for an end. It was time for change and you were more than thankful to have Jennie and Jimin, who loved you so much, they were willing to let you go and live life with no more regrets. 

Jennie smiled before gently kissing your hand, “I’m unsure how long me and Jimin would’ve lasted without you, but we were two people who fell out of love for each other, but back in love through you. I want you to know that even though you felt like you didn’t belong in our relationship, you were actually the connection between us. You were the reason there was an us.”

It was an epiphany ---- you were not the outlier in the relationship. You were the core center. Jennie and Jimin were more than thankful to have you in their lives, who loved them so much, that you were willing to look past their differences and to fight through every trial. 

“You were the reason there was an us.” That single line replayed in your thoughts, in a constant loop. And you smiled at Jimin and Jennie, the monitor beeping being the only noise in the room.

“I love you both, don’t you ever forget that.” 

[jaunes-erotic-world]

Cure for Kitty

(A new Chapter in the Ebony Reznor story)

Ebony was nervous, Sakura and Carli held her hands smiling and calming her down as Jaune, Ruby, and Weiss looked over at them smiling. This was a big day they met someone recently who was able to get them the rest of the information they needed. Yes, today Jace and Ebony Reznor would have the dust in their bodies partially removed and the rest treated as to prevent to crystallization process.

They had made it to the lab the surgery would take place. When they got there, they were greeted by a man and a woman, who was holding a baby. Ebony rushed forward and wrapped her arms around them tightly “Mama, Papa, Genesis you’re here!” She was as happy and nervous as someone could be as were they this was a huge moment for her and her family.

The three had a short conversation before the two parents saw the man their daughter loved and who helped this all occurred, Jaune Arc. Alyss gave Ebony her baby brother and the two rushed to the boy and swept him up into a loving bone crushing hug. “It is so great seeing you Jaune this day is finally here. We can never thank you enough for all of this,” Jace said as his wife cried into the knight’s back.

“Honestly it’s no problem I’m really happy I was able to help make this happen,” Jaune said trying to breath.

“Calm down you two,” Carli said to her Aunt and Uncle. “You’re gonna kill your cute little savior if you don’t ease up.”

“Sorry son we were just so happy to see you and probably thank you,” Jace said embarrassed.

The parents went to talk to their niece while Ruby and Sakura went to check on Jaune. Weiss had made her way inside already to get things set up. The there was a cute squeak of a yell, “Genny stop there is no milk in there,” Ebony said as her brother tried to feed from her. Everyone laughed and Alyss went take Genesis back then the two parents got aquatinted with everyone else.

Jaune went over to his Pretty Kitty and wrapped his arm around her waist, “Nervous?” He asked.

“Yea I keep thinking what if something goes wrong, what if I don’t make it or dad doesn’t or…” her words of worry were stopped by Jaune’s lips on hers.

He broke the kiss after a few seconds and he told her what he was told when he was scared and unsure, “Nope.”

“But what i-”

“Nope”

Ebony tried to open her mouth to say something else when she was met with another Nope.

“I have faith in you, your dad, the info we got, and the surgeons, you’ll be fine,” he smiled and then pressed her nose with his finger, “Boop.”

Ebony giggled and pulled Jaune into her own tight hug and nuzzled into his shoulder. “I love you so much master.” The two heard laughing as they realized they had an audience. The two lovers turned red and looked away.

Then Weiss came out with a man in a white, “Mr. Jace Reznor Miss Ebony Reznor if you are ready it is time,” the man said

Ebony’s parents hugged one another before Jace leaned in and said to Alyss and said, “I’ll be out soon and this nightmare will finally be over,” he kissed his wife, “I love you, Pretty Kitty.”

“I love you, too,” she said putting her forehead to his chest.

Jace wiggled his finger playfully in front of his son’s face, “Papa will be back in a bit.”

  Sakura had tears in her eyes and was shaking holding her hand, “Ebby it’s gonna happen it’s really gonna happen I-I *sniff* waaaahhh,” she buried her face in Ebony’s chest while the cat girl hugged her.

Ruby gave her trademark warm smile and Weiss gave a reassuring one.

Carli swatted her cousin on the rear and said, “Kick some ass in there cuz.”

Ebony locked eyes with Jaune once more and pressed her lips against his. The two kissed over and over the passion admittedly made them both the smallest bit hard. They broke it off when the doctor coughed. When the strand of saliva broke the two pressed foreheads and said at the same time, “”I love you, see you in a bit.”” And with that the father and daughter walked off following the doctor to prep for the procedure.

The two were put on tables and hooked up to IVs, blood bags, and a device that resembled a dialysis machine. The IVs were filled with solution to break down the heavy dust clumps and build up in their blood streams, then the machine would clean their blood a put it back in and the bags were to add the new blood that would be taken away with the dust but also wasn’t able to exist/flow properly because of the dust build up. There was more to the procedure but this was the basics around it. The two were nervous but like Jaune said they had faith in the scientist, doctors, and most importantly Jaune that things would work out fine.

Outside the operating room, the girls were trying to calm down the panic attacking Sakura. Jaune was sat by himself looking at the floor until he felt someone sit beside him. Looking up he saw Alyss’ smiling face, “How are you dear,” she said.

“Fine just a bit on edge, I’m sure you can relate,” he said with a weak nervous chuckle.

She giggled, “I do but I know that everything will work out. A mother knows these kinds of things.” She giggled some rocking and bouncing Genesis in here arms.

Jaune smiled at her, her words, laugh and calming presence made him feel bit more relaxed like being with his own mother, “Thank you Mrs. Rez-,” he stopped seeing wagged her finger ‘No, No” and corrected himself with what she wanted him to call her, “Thanks Mom you really made me feel more relaxed.”

“It’s no problem dear, Mommy will always be there when you need her,” she said her hand on his thigh. He blushed then shook his head obviously reading too much into the gesture.

He then felt himself being watched by a single tiny eye. His godchild/ ‘brother’ was looking at him curiously. When Jaune looked down at him and smiled, “Hey there little guy.” The small faunus then looked away and curled into his mother’s chest.

“Sorry Jaune he’s just shy. Come on now sweetie no need to be scared,” she cooed. “He’s just like his big sister, so why not try and scritch scritch his wittle earsys,” she said in baby talk holding out him just a bit.

As Jaune moved his hand over Genesis began to shake, squirm, and flatten his ears all the while making scared sounds but as soon as Jaune started to move his finger nail gently as possible behind his ear the shaking stopped. As it continued the baby became relaxed and giggled. Soon enough Jaune was holding him as Genesis tried to grab the finger Jaune was wiggling in his face. Alyss smiled at the sight imagining how her grandbabies would look like.

About an hour passed and Genesis had just gotten used to all of the girls, it happened. The light above the treatment room turned off. The Doctor came out and took off his mask revealing a warm smile. Tears of joy welled up in everyone’s eyes. The doctor stepped off to the side and Jace walked out and Alyss rushed to him Genesis in her arms. The man hugged his wife and son kissing her as well.

Then an 8ft tall, cat faunus walked out her face a bit pink, her one pure black hair now had silver white tips like Ruby’s red ones, her ears had a few bits as well and so was the tip of her tail, but the most eye-catching bit was of the long streak of the silver white down it.

Smiling tears in her eyes, “Dig the new look cuz,” Carli said.

No one could hold back any longer everyone rushed her hugging and kissing her during which she began to squirm a bit. They all stopped and looked at her in concern but she assuaged their concerns, “Don’t worry, my breasts are just feeling a bit sensitive.” Naturally Carli poked her nipples causing her to moan.

The doctor went over the usual spiel about if anything abnormal happening let them know but Ebony and Alyss were more interested in rubbing their rears into their lover’s lap. The Reznor’s were hugging everyone as tight as possible tears flowing and the giggling of a confused but happy baby filled the halls of the Altesian hospital. Carli took her baby cousin from her aunt knowing what was about to come. “Good luck you two they seem friskier than they do during heat,’ she said to her uncle and her boyfriend.

She was indeed right and Alyss pulled her husband into an empty room. While Ebony picked up Jaune bridal style and ran to find a room for themselves not even wanting to wait until they got to Weiss’ place. The next few hours in a mile radius around the hospital you could Nyaahs of pleasure.   

(Tomorrow a short follow up will be written to discuss other things that happened to Ebony’s body besides her hair. Dont worry they are all good)

[rabbitears91]

The year is almost over, this is so crazy. 

This year has been crazy in no shortage of the imagination. It’s been scary, rough, surprising, etc. I’ve passed my one year since phalloplasty, earned my Master’s degree, obtained full time employment (I don’t start for another 6 weeks) and started on prep. All of these things have been incredibly meaningful to me for various reasons, most of which I cant talk about IRL.

My life has been pretty normal in many ways since surgery but there have also been moments where I didn’t know if I’d make it to where I am now. I didn’t always voice those things because I know folks worry and this has been my life since I can ever remember so...only in hindsight do things seem crazy, scary, dangerous. 

I’ve had many moments where balancing responsibilities and personal relationships have been exhausting but that’s really just life. I didn’t have a stable housing situation for much of 2017 so I needed to do what would generate money. I’d want to just go to Starbucks or Del Taco for some chili cheese fries, you know? I was trying to wrap up my MA thesis for much of 2017 and stress eating is expensive. 

I had a falling out with a close supporter (we have since sorted our differences out) and in a way, it was what I needed to knock that fucking thesis out once and for all. I had my defense and the eventually it was May and I had my degree!!!

When I was kicked out of a relative’s house I recall being told my education would be something I wouldnt obtain. I totally fucking did it though! I have my MA and nobody or no situation can ever take that knowledge and journey away from me. I undoubtedly need a break from school for the time being but no regrets, surprisingly. I didnt think I would say that when I was trekking through the chapters, the edits, the comments from my committee but here we are :)

My thesis focused on religion, sex, sexuality, identity, etc which was super appropriate for the year and my own sex life. Being further and further out from phalloplasty has really put me out there sexually. I’ve had a lot of sex this year. While it hasn’t all been amazing or even alright, I never in a million years thought this could be my life, should I choose or need it to be so. If my life were different financially, I dont know if this would be my life but today it is, yesterday it has been and I pray to have this same body in case I need it for sex work tomorrow. 

I’ve gotten better about caring for myself though in some ways with regards to sex -- in cultivating working relationships with those I’d like to encounter again while trying to be as safe as possible with those helping me financially, who I may only see once in less than safe environments or circumstances. Which..has been rough. Unfortunately, I’ve had my share of experiences this year where I didn’t consent, which has looked many different ways. I know that can range from physically violent, drugged, intoxicated, changing one’s mind during sex, etc. Two instances I’m ok referring to occured or began at gay clubs in my area. One involved a man busting in the fucking restroom with me. He was drunk and like 60x stronger than me. That wasn’t protected; the other instance I’ll mention was when I was trashed. I knew this guy wanted to dance so we danced and I remember sitting down on the bench on a patio outside the club and then I woke up on the floor of my room, halfway under my air mattress naked. I was terrified because I didn’t know how I got home once I realized I was home, and my ass was really sore. I don’t know if that was protected or not. I didn’t pursue it further beyond not going back to that club. A few others have happened and it’s been a fucking trip to say the least. I am ok; I am dealing with it in the ways I can.

As a result, I’ve tested far more frequently than usual and started on PrEP ( Pre-exposure prophylaxis, Truvada). I had headaches and an upset stomach for several days which resulted in me simply stopping my dosage. I quickly learned those are things I needed to deal with as it beats the alternative of potentially getting HIV.  I started taking it at night rather than in the morning because I cant have headaches at my day job. Some staff members annoy me to great lengths and I can’t deal with that, headaches and shitting more than I ordinarily do. My side-effects have virtually gone away this second time, however. The only difference is the time I take it and that I take it with a vitamin D. 

I notice I’m taking care of myself when I moisturize my rff donor site and take my medication and it’s been two days I’ve skipped out on both which I need to not fucking do. I was having sex with someone yesterday and he was trying to penetrate me without any barriers. I swear I can be so stupid sometimes. I dont care for anal sex on rare occasions, and commonly I fucking hate it. It is not pleasurable for me at all... but the folks I sleep with, esp those who are helping me pay for life, want anal. I finally got up and was like hey, put this on and tried to make it sexy. It worried me I was pretty indifferent for many minutes before it occuring to me that this is my fucking life and this is just a random dick Ive never in my life seen who could have just about anything.. 

I’ve been preoccupied by thoughts that have troubled me but aren’t actually all that troubling in the bigger picture of my life. I mentioned I’ve been employed and it will be full time in a few weeks -- so through this new opportunity I’ve met someone who I’ve technically known for some time now. 

She reminds me of nobody I’ve ever had in my life and that’s kind of a huge inconvenience. I’ve replayed our interactions 8293432 times in hopes of finding what about her has been validating, or affirming, or whatever...that has allowed her to impact me in this way. When I first met her, I noticed her voice and her hair - both are unique in the sea of hair and voices present in our usual gatherings. Now things are rather dramatic and I’m not quite, but basically avoiding her. I’m sorry, I can’t actually like anyone and for certain reasons, I especially can’t like her. But yeah, unfortunately what I’m tripping about most as this 2017 year wraps up isn’t related to surgery or safety or any of that but developing feelings for a woman.

[perfectionistincrisis]

-1-

so this whole week was a busy one. because of surgery final exam which took place on 3 days. last week was quite interesting too. in a weird way. so tuesday of the last week, we had an OR in our schedule and it turned out to be the operation of the patient about whom i was assigned to write a case report for the week. it was a 4 months old baby girl and the operation was a Ladd’d procedure where they were going to correct the malrotation of the GI. however we had to attend OR from 8 and a different operation was going on then. so we wore the scrubs you have to wear to get into the OR, and we wore the head mask and cap but we could find the shoe covers. As we entered the OR area, a nurse came to us and started to tell us why we didn’t wear shoe covers and even though we told her we couldnt find them, she was still kinda mean. anyways she gave us shoe covers and then we went to the OR room we were supposed to attend. and the moment we went in, 2 nurses came to us and were asking us if the scarf we wore around our heads were worn from outside or did we wear it in the changing room where we wore the scrubs. So we told her that we wore them from outside and woah. she immediately took us outside the OR. then she started telling that we are not allowed to wear anything that is from outside. everything should be worn in the changing room and that it is the new  policy since this week and bla bla. but well we told her that if we remove the scarf, our neck will be exposed and we cant do that and that we were new here and no one knows us so we dont know who to ask for extra scarves which were not worn yet. so she made us sit there in the changing room and wasnt allowing us to go to the OR. we then went and removed our scrubs. and didnt know what to do. our doctor was done with the surgery by then and when we called him to tell him what happened and why we werent in the OR he told us to come back. we needed to inform him because we needed his signature in the schedule. When we went to him, he took us to a different changing room and told us to check if we get scarves here. and we did. so we changed into scrubs again and wore white scarves which was presumably ‘sterile’ and then went to the OR to attend the next surgery, which was for my patient. so the surgeon who was going to operate was not there yet. thats how it usually is in the ORs. the main doc, he is usually the last one to come. before that, everyone else, the nurses, the residents, the anesthesiologists and all, they make the patient ready. so they were prepping the little baby and she is hardly 3 kgs so it was such and interesting thing to watch. me and my group mate were so interested that we went really near the bed of the patient who was getting prepped when all of a sudden one of the doctors, most probably a resident maybe, asked us who we were. we told her we were medical students and then she was like - first of all you need to introduce yourself when you enter an OR, and also, why are you standing so close? now step back! - 

wow unbelievable! that was so rude of her. i mean it was the 7th week of surgery and i swear, i have seen many big consultants but not even a single one was even rude at all. infact when anyone hears that we are medical students they start treating us like babies. this lady however, was  very rude. and we already had a rough day being kicked out of the OR because our hijabs were worn from outside. and because we cover and exposing the neck is not something me and my friend would do, we had to sit in the changing room wasting out time. that was already a lot to take and then someone being so rude was just unacceptable, we just left the OR. especially because we could already get the doctors signature on our attendance sheet anyways so yeah. 

[keratoconusgroup]

My Kerataconus and Epi Off CXL experience

Hey y'all, When I was researching when I first found out I needed the surgery, I didn't see the amount of in depth explanations as I wanted to see, so is literally every detail I remember for that next very curious/overwhelmed person who comes searching. This is going to be full of all types of errors. I'm on day 3 recovering and only give enough of a fuck to write this not to write it well. :) Diagnosis: I always watch tv with subtitles. I started noticing ghosting and thought my prescription was off. I went to the dr and he gave me a new prescription and told me not to wear my contacts overnight cuz my eye was swelling. He said to wait a month then come back if swelling hasn't gone down. I waited a month and came in still complaining of ghosting. He then figured it was kerataconus and sent me to get a second opinion. Second Opinion/Medications/Insurance/Surgery Prep: I went to a big bad legit eye dr and she took the topography of my eye. My memory is a little hazy on this one, but they dilated me then I basically sat in a chair with my face to some other big eye machine and took pictures. Wasn't a bad experience just annoying because I have long eye lashes. She then told me I had a mild case and she's surprised my eye dr caught it. She told me to start taking zaditor which is an OTC eye allergy drop. It's available at most pharmacys I've been to since being told to use it. I definitely recommend it if you haven't heard about it yet. I was a chronic eye rubber and I never feel the need to rub my eyes anymore. She also gave me some eye drop used to relieve eye pressure. It's usually given to people with glaucoma, but she said it could potentially make it so there is less pressure in my eye and the cornea will warp less. That eye drop made me a little woozy so I didn't take it as much. She recommended I wait 9 months to come in and get more topography done. She didn't want me to go through the cost of having the surgery if it was going to be stagnant. However, everything who had waited online said they regretted it and wished they had done their eye as soon as they were diagnosed. So, I asked for the surgery. (Thinking back I should have asked on the phone that this new big bad legit eye doctor did actually do surgeries. She didn't and I was hoping for a one stop shop instead of being bounced to yet another doctor.) She referred me to other doctors, but none of them took my insurance (TriCare). I knew tricare covered the surgery so I had to call around to literally every single big bad legit eye doctor to see who took one. One of the most well known eye places in my area actually told me there isn't any insurance that would cover the surgery, which was just their ignorance but point is keep searching even if you get feedback like that. I finally found the only eye doctor in the Kansas City Metro (Grin Eye Care for any of you who happen to live near KC) to take my insurance. I went in and they said they always performed the surgery on a specific day and were booked out a few months. That was fine with me, just sharing so you all can be aware your surgery may not be scheduled super quick. They prescribed me 3 eye drops in prep for my surgery. One was an antibiotic and one was a steroid. She said to begin them 3 days before my surgery. They also asked I wash my eyelashes using diluted baby soap for a week prior to my surgery. I also couldn't wear makeup for a week. Surgery Day: My surgery was at 330, but they asked me to get there at 3. I signed in and there was a misunderstanding about insurance and they asked me for 2500 to pay for the procedure. We got it all cleared up, but that's how much it would've costed without insurance. They gave me a Xanax and told me to sit down. They called me into the office where they explained the 3 parts of the surgery. They started by numbing my eye using drops. Then he put those eye opening apparatuses on my eye. He then explained he was removing the first layer of my eye. He had me put my chin on that machine they normally use with the rectangle shapes light where they tell you to look at their ear (dont know the name of it and not in the mood to check). He then took out this sonicare looking brush thing and started brushing my eye. To which I was like "ohhhh my god" multiple times. I was so afraid of looking away and him taking off the wrong part. It took about 2 minutes to do. I did feel some slight burning after but it was super slight. We then began the eye drops. They moved my seat about and put me all the way back in a laying down position and then just started to drop this yellow stuff in my eye every 2 minutes. There was a machine that would ding whenever she needed to do it. Nothing special about the yellow stuff. It would sometimes roll down the side of my face but the nurse would wipe it. I will say during this piece I noticed everything would get super blurry between the drops. My nurse said it was because my cornea was dehydrated. Whenever she put the drops my vision cleared up again. Just a note: after my epi was off I could still see things fine. I was expecting to be blind the rest of the time, but it would just get blurry from my eye drying thanks to the eye separator. That device wasn't super uncomfortable either. I was fine with it. It did feel a little weird when I tried to blink, but the eye number kept me not realizing how dry it was. Last step was the UV light. They had to measure my eye with that stick jabbed thing to make sure it was thick enough for the next part. Had to be at least 400 microns and I was at 460. My nurse continued to add the drops and then kept the UV light above me for me to look at. The UV light wasn't super bright like I thought it was going to be. It was blue and kinda dull. I was worried about my light sensitivity for this part before the procedure but it was fine. As I stared at the light everything would get black until she put more drops. Thats normal just keep looking wherever you were originally looking. Also dont move around too much because your nurse will have to move the uv light over and over. My husband was in the room with me after my epi was off and he took a picture of this part of the procedure and sent it to our family. So, if you want your family in the room to keep you company during and hour of eye drops ask! Once we were finally done she put the bandage in my eye. It felt like a really big thin, badly fit contact to me. She said if it falls out to tape my eye and not put it back in. Before I left they taped my eye and gave me more tape for the road. Recovery Day of Surgery: I left the eye care center wearing big cover all sunglasses that went over my glasses. They were amazing and I'm actually wearing them as I type now due to light sensitivity. Anyways, I had 0 pain from when I left at 445 to around 7. I had basically 2 hours to text my family and do everything normal because nothing hurt. Around 7ish I started to feel the burning. My doctor said it would feel like hot sauce, but it literally just feels like someone scraped off the top of your eye. The same analogy works a little better in my opinion. I also had some like just eye throbbing mixed in too. My eye was swollen. The doctor was telling me to expect 10/10 pain. I would gauge it at a 6/10 and mostly just because its so new to me to have my eye hurt. There was no sharp pain. It was manageable and someone I read before said it was like a toothache and I would agree Again, every one has their own pain tolerance. I do consider mine to be a little higher. Anyways, I kept my eye closed with tape and removed it only to add drops. Adding drops was a big difficult because I didn't want to open that eye. It was fine though I got them in. I kept that eye shut all night. One of my questions before my cxl was if I would be able to use my phone afterwards once the pain started. I was texting some, but did not feel comfortable looking at the phone very often. I could see my with good eye but it kind of was difficult to use it. If I turned my eye any way I would feel the other eye turn as well and it was uncomfortable. It also was a bit sensitive to light, but that might've been because I kept myself in a very dark room. It was very difficult to go to sleep. The whole throbbing and burning thing was not going my way. I did take some ibuprofen and it took the edge of. They also had prescribed me xanax, when I finally took it I fell asleep around 3 AM until 8 AM. Recovery Day 2: I woke up with some pain but definitely less than the previous night. I took more ibuprofen and my eye drops. My eye was still pretty swollen so drops were still a pain. I still kept the eye closed. I went to the doctor for a follow up and he said I had some "goop" around my eye and I needed to make sure to wipe it every once in a while with a wet paper towel. I had been afraid to touch my eye at all so I was happy that I could do that now. He had me open my eye and asked how many fingers he was holding up. I was surprised that I could see! I expected to be super blind. Everyone was blurry, but I could still see a lot. He also told me I needed to actually open my eye to let it heal. That visit to the doctor was super quick. I came home still with some pain and took more ibuprofen. I then attempted to open my eyes. Opening my eyes was weird because my bad eye was so swollen. It didn't want to open and then my other eye was light sensitive and affecting my other eye. It was weird. I got home and made it a challenge to myself to open my eyes. I ended up putting on pocahontas (one of my fav childhood movies because nostalgia makes everything better) and actually opened my eyes to watch it. It was great. I could read the subtitles with both of my eyes open. When I only used my bad eye I saw the subtitles suuuuuuuper ghosted. Everything was also blurry but not a terrible blurry. A similar amount of blurry as when you don't have glasses on. Again, I was able to use my phone way better than the first day, but not for extended time. I also started using cold compresses the second day. I should've used it sooner! I felt no pain when the cold was on my eye. It was great. By the end of day 2 the pain had dulled a bit but was still there. Recovery Day 3 (right now as I type): I woke up with very little pain. I would describe it as more so irritation that is mostly in the middle of my eye. I can keep both my eyes open for an extended period of time. I put reddit on nighttime mode to make it easy on my eyes. I am able to look outside with my coverall sunglasses on with my good eye and not feel like the other eye is dying. My bad eye can only stand looking outside 3 seconds. I might will update this later in the week, no promises though. Hope it helped someone feel better about CXL! submitted by /u/zabreeta [link] [comments] https://www.reddit.com/r/Keratoconus/comments/8wt8uy/my_kerataconus_and_epi_off_cxl_experience/?utm_source=dlvr.it&utm_medium=tumblr

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How Fast Does Car Insurance Start?

"How Fast Does Car Insurance Start?

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Where can I find affordable insurance for my dental practice?

Cheap UK car insurance companies for 18 year olds?

Im 18 and paying 2600 a year for a 1.1 peugeot 206 with insure2drive found on confused.com. Ive been driving for 6 months with no ncb but i have my parents on my policy as 2nd and 3rd drivers. Does anyone know any cheap insurers or know anything i can do to get the price down?

Whats the cheapest car insurance for 17yr old girl?

Whats the cheapest car insurance for 17yr old girl?

Will my car insurance change if?

I have two cars under my insurance .. one has had an accident and the payments went up.. now if I remove that car from my insurance cuz I wanna sell it does the other cars payment go up..

Insurance quote for a vehicle?

hey i just want to know the 5 important factors they consider when giving an insurance quote and an example of an insurance quote?

Do college students get medical insurance?

or like some kind of discount, program kinda thing for students? I am a 2 yr college student right now, is there such a thing? do I have to check with my school? thanks!""

""Affordable dentistry in Dallas, TX?""

I am currently looking for an affordable orthodontist this will most likely not be covered by insurance, so if you can please recommend me to an affordable dentist in the Dallas area, yes I have tried searching but sometimes its easier from hear abouts. Thank you""

Question about car insurance?

if insurers are allowed to stereotype that all males are aggresive drivers and as a result should be charged more, why do asians not have higher premiums too? hasent it been proven that driving below the speed limit is just as dangerous as speeding? i did a quote for a car im looking to buy, and insurance would be about $6000 a year for me (17 year old male), for my girlfriend it would only be $3000. i think thats pathetic! not all male drivers are bad, sure a lot are, but alot of asians are horrible drivers!""

Why is reasonable profit for insurance companies bad?

Many jobs are provided in insurance.

""I had a crash in my driving instructors car, do i have to tell my insurance for my car seeing as this was on h?""

I had a crash in my driving instructors car, do i have to tell my insurance for my car seeing as this was on his policy? thanks""

Life insurance for 18 year old?

My daughter will be 18 this year & she wants to know if she needs life insurance. She lives at home with us,is in 6th form at school (UK) & has no responsibilites like mortgage etc.She has a Saturday job so does work. It doesn't sound like she does, but my husband & I are not sure. Any advice? Thanks.""

Do you think its fair to tax smokers to pay for children's health insurance?

Do you think its fair to tax smokers to pay for children's health insurance?

Car insurance? first car?

i have a '96 fiesta 1.1.its my first car. i cannot get insurance cheaper than 2000. it is garaged, minimal miles per year. any one know where i can get cheap insurance??""

Classic car insurance with Geico?

I have a 1967 Chevrolet Impala SS. It has 118k. It's all factory except for a cd player, two 6x9 speakers and window tint. I don't have any insurance on it at the moment and I want to get classic auto insurance. How exactly does that work and what would it cost me. Thanks.""

How much auto insurance must I have?

I want to know what are the legal limits on car insurance in the state of Ohio for a financed vehicle? I have an 06 Mazda and an 07 Hyundai. They are both financed. How do I go about figuring out the lowest limits I can legally have? Thank you!

How much will car insurance cost?

i know you cant exactly guess the costs but can you give me an estimate? i live in va im 17 years old i have 3.81 GPA i am a female how much does it cost a teenager each month?

What companies can insure a Ferrari or Lamborghini?

Progressive, Geico, eSurance, all the crap didn't even list Ferrari, as its a specialty car. So who the hell DOES insure a ferrari? and how much does it cost annually? its a ferrari 360 modena convertible""

How Fast Does Car Insurance Start?

Can I buy insurance today and have it ready same day or next day or is there a long process before it starts. I want to buy a car tomorrow, get insurance, and drive the car to my job by Friday.

Can anybody help me figure out how much car insurance would be?

I am 19 years old, female, and I'm moving out on my own. I have to buy my own car insurance. I have a 2004 Mustang that is completely paid for in my name. I need help finding a good insurance company and price range?? PLEASE AND THANK YOU (:""

Will Vandalism affect my Car Insurance rates?

My car was vandalized last night, they ripped off a piece on the back and cracked the bumper in the front. If I make a claim with my insurance company will this affect my rates?""

What's the average cost for adding a teen to auto insurance who've completed drivers ed?

I got my license this past Thursday, and I'm waiting on my dad to add my to his insurance (State Farm) So I can begin driving my car. It seems like he's procrastinating;UGH! Anyways, How much do you think it will be? & don't I get a discount if I've completed drivers ed? another question do I have to pay like this huge first time fee? or do I just pay like what i'll be paying monthly?""

Who took over an insurance company?

who now administers insurance policies previously administered by american health and life insurance company of new york

Best child Plan or best insurance plan or Mutual funds ?

hi iam 30 year male from india working in merchant navy..i want to invest for future of my child through monthly investment of Rs.5000..please suggest me right way to achive my goal of getting good amount when my child reaches age of 18...i already have LIC jeevan anand..with cover of 10 lakh..and i am also depositing 70.000 p.a in P.P.F...so where u should think i invest to get maximum returns..??

How much does car insurance cost?

I'm looking at a car that costs about 2,400 dollars. It's a 1997 Toyata Camry. It has about 147,000 miles on it. How much insurance would I have to pay. I live in PA and I'm a 20 year old dude so I assume it's expensive. Also is 147, 000 miles a lot for this car...or is the camry super reliable?""

Motor insurance policy q2?

hi contemplating on making a second claim. how does this effect my renewal premium? situation is the policy holder had an accident where the third party was at fault and this claim was dealt with few months ago. now a named driver had a piece of metal flung at the car. the excess is only 50 and estimated cost to repair independantly 150-200. but i'm not sure how much premiums usually go up by? if for example making a second claim bears not much difference as a claim has already been made then I might as well do it through insurance. If making a second claim bumps up the renewal considerably higher then maybe I should just pay 150-200 GBP by independant garage and save on my premium?

Car insurance.. help please?

I got a 2000 Dodge Neon a couple days ago and i was wondering how much the insurance will be a month? I'm a sophomore girl in highschool and i usually maintain a B average (you get about $25 off insurance for maintaining good grades). And how much will it be to get it licensed? I payed $1300 for the car (they were desperatly trying to sell it) and it's in perfect condition.

Car insurance..17yrs old!!!?

I am 17yrs old, looking for cheap car insurance. Haven't got a car yet but have been looking at cars such as Ford Fiesta, Peugot 105, Fiat Punto and have been getting around 3000. I cannot afford that and was wondering if anyone knows any ceap cars for cheap insurance and who are the best companies to get cheap insurance? Thanks""

How will this 15-20 mph speeding ticket affect my insurance?

I just turned 18 and I am a senior in high school. I live in a small area that is just between two towns. This area is known for its police; they have a tendency to give speeding tickets out like crazy. They hide in places so that they can catch people speeding; the area is generally a 30mph zone. I had a good morning and got a little foot-happy...I sped right up to a cop that hides next to my neighborhood. Needless to say, I was going 50 mph in a 30 mph zone. Without a seat belt. I was extremely honest, so I got a speeding ticket but the seat belt issue was simply a warning. This is my first ticket ever; the only other time I had been pulled over was because I forgot to turn on my headlights...I was 16 at the time. I have State Farm Insurance and have an extremely decent rate for my age. I have no issues paying the speeding ticket because I did speed...I just don't want my insurance to be crushed. I went through driver's education, State Farm's Steer Clear Program, and I have maintained my grades to ensure that I get a decent rate. What will this ticket do to my rate? And what is the best I can make out of this situation?""

CAR INSURANCE!? LIBERITY MUTUAL?

ok so my parents haveLibertyy Mutualinsurancee covering their house, life, car insurance and some other things as a package throughlibertyy mutual. Anyways, I took driving school classes and passed. Its supposed to lower myinsurancee.I'mm turning 17 in October and my permit says i can get mylicensee on september 19. ( i got it late and in az you have to wait 6 months) Is there a way thatLibertyy mutual can insure me? I heard from one of there reps that they wont insure a new driver unless they've had theirlicensee for 6 months. Please help Also if i got a truck could i just insure it under my parents name even though they already have cars? or is it one car per person?""

""Becky has 25/50/10 automobile insurance coverage. If two people received $35,000 each how much will be covered?""

Becky has 25/50/10 automobile insurance coverage. If two people received $35,000 each how much will be covered?""

What car to get for cheapest insurance after crash at 17?

Im 17, 18 on october 1st. I crashed my car in january, claimed for write off and got given 3000, i put that in premium bonds, i ahve that money sat there to but a car with. I want to get a car on my 18th, what car should i get, bearing in mind ive had a crash, then claimed? the cheapest ive seen is 3470 a year for insurance. thanks.""

Anyone know any California insurance based company writing in Texas?

Anyone know any California insurance based company writing in Texas?

Can I take my car to get repaired anywhere even if my insurance says no?

I got my window broken when someone broke into my car and I had an appt at the dealership where I bought to the car to get it repaired ASAP (and was going to) but my insurance nixed the idea. They said they wouldnt pay a dime if I did that. I HAVE to go to their suggested business. Now I have to drive to and from work with a taped up window for 2 more days till THEIR guy can fit me in. Is this legal??? It seems so unfair. BTW- I have Mercury auto insurance and I live in California.

Where can i find the cheapest insurance quote for a 95 Dodge neon?

I pay 140$ a month at dairy land Proggresive, I have about 10 points on my liscense, and when are my liscence points deleted from my insurance""

Car insurance for a 16 year old?

hi, i live in city center Mississauga, ontario, Canada. (Hurantario and Eglington) I am 16 years old and i can get my G2 next month if i am a second owner and second driver (my dad is the first driver) of a MAzda Rx8 2003. also receieved driving lessons. how much will my insurace will be per month, both my parents insurance is 300 per month""

""Selling Car, how to do a test drive with no insurance?""

I'm selling my car but it has no insurance or a plate. I live in Alberta, Canada. I know people would like to test drive the vehicle before buying it, is there a way to do this legally?""

Why is car insurance so high for young drivers?

I am 18 and currently on my fathers motor trade insurance. This covers me for anything upto 1600cc for social and domestic, you are actually having a laugh 1600cc is a joke! I can drive anything for business purposes. Recently rang the insurance to see if they would insure me on an IVECO DAILY 2.8 turbo diesel, as i was delivering some furniture to my grand parents in malta, about 1000 miles away from the uk, 2000 mile round trip. The answer i got was a blatant no, i didn't even get chance to say .8, anyway i was so pissed off i did the trip. didn't have one accident what so ever, not even a near miss when i drove to malta there and back. explain why they wouldn't insure me i really don't understand. My dads friend who is 53 years old was born not to drive a car, he has an accident atleast once a week because he mentally switches off when he drives. He drove down to germany any rolled his car times on the autobahn and i didn't have a crash or a near miss once in a 3.5 ton van, where is the common sense surely they should coin the people who litterally can't drive?""

""I just found out I'm pregnant but I dont have health insurance, what can I do?""

I just found out that I'm pregnant however I dont have health insurance. I currently dont have a job because the company I used to work for went bankrupt. Where can I go to get prenatal care? and is there any inexpensive health insurance I can apply for? I live in the Los Angeles, Ca area.""

How much would insurance cost?

How much would insurance be if I bought a Mustang GT or GT Premium coupe with a 4.6L V8 and 260hp? I'm 15 and in driver's ed, one of the best in class, I make all A's in school, if that matters, and I'd prefer an estimate for liability and full coverage. By the way, I'm a good driver, I'm more concerned with driving smooth than driving fast. I want a Mustang GT because my friend has one and I love it. It would be a 2000-2004 model and I live in Alabama""

How is insurance on a 2004 GLI?

I am a 17 year old High School Student I am a male and make Good grades, How much would insurance be on a 2004 VW GLI. Most of the cars I've been looking at are way to expensive to insure. Does it being a 4 door sedan lower the price at all.""

I cannot find any cheap car insurance quotes?

Does anyone know any cheap car insurance companies?

Does term life insurance have an expiration date? (Other than death)?

Does term life insurance have an expiration date? (Other than death)?

Affordable health insurance?

for milwaukee wisconsin?

How Fast Does Car Insurance Start?

Can I buy insurance today and have it ready same day or next day or is there a long process before it starts. I want to buy a car tomorrow, get insurance, and drive the car to my job by Friday.

https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/how-much-time-do-you-have-get-car-insurance-after-buying-eric-lewis"

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THREE - Why I Stopped Going to Church | Color, Curls, Curves & Class

Friend: What are you doing on Sunday?

Me: (pause) Brunch, Meal Prep...maybe chill.

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I remember when there was not a moment that I contemplated what I would do on Sunday. It was always church. I had surgery on Wednesday and went to church on Sunday. I was dedicated. To God and to my church.

    I have always attended church, but I was saved in 2003. It changed my life. I became more serious about serving God alongside my family and church members. I loved it. I was at church almost every day. I even had my own ministry working with young girls.

Me and Mommie before church!!

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 The Good Times

Our family also started to enjoy real financial success at that time. We moved to a much larger home, purchased more cars and were making much more money. It was a very good time. My sisters were getting married, their weddings were social events of the year. Everybody (in the church) wanted to be invited, and generally they were.

 We also had a tight core of church friends who we would spend time with socially outside of church. Their children would come over to our home, make tea in my Mother's large pool and watch television in our theatre sized den. People always asked us for money. My Mother was loaning money out to help people with their rent and basic bills. She even bought one single mother a refrigerator. We not only spoke the Word, but we tried very hard to live it.

 We lived 40 miles away from church. So people had to come far just to chill with us. But you knew that it was going to be a place of good, clean fun and we kept it real.

 Then Came the Dark Days

I remember 2008-2012. It was a tough time. We were losing everything. First we had to turn in one of the BMW’s. Voluntary repossession. Both of my little sisters started to get sick. Yes, the ones who had the weddings of the year. I lost my job, we lost my childhood home in Oakland (that I was living in at the time), I ended up moving back home, the real estate market dropped (my Mother worked in loans) and we continued to have more bills than we had money. It was truly the worst of times.

#BibleStudy | Don't I Get It From My Mama? #UnadulteratedBeauty

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 You would think that our good church family, who had sipped on our good imported Tequila, had their kids swimming in our pool and constantly asked us to support whatever program that they needed help with...would have helped us. It was literally crickets. While my Pastor and a few true friends continued to check up on us...most did not. Most of our core actually started avoiding us like the plague. It was one of the most hurtful experiences of my life. Sometimes we did not even have money for gas to get to church. We slowly slipped away from worshiping with the Saints, but never from God.

 My Pastor Tried

My Pastor is one of the most amazing people that I have ever had the pleasure of knowing. Intelligent, giving, intuitive, humorous and he Loves the Lord and the Lord’s people. He Loved and Loves my family. He called and called. We were staples in the church and our family not being there was a clear gap. The people who observed what we were going through gave zero fucks. Including some people that are very close to him.

 I Do Miss Church

I miss church, but I do not miss church people. I don't miss the self-righteous snickers nor do I miss the fakery of people who are good with you when you are on top of the world, but cannot be bothered when you fall off.

 While my Auntie Irma, Rev. Cecil Williams and the Stroughters (Camille and Rob) were always kind and loving to us. Most other people who had permanent ass cheek molds in my Mother's couch couldn't even bother to call us.

 So when I see my church “family” I smile, give them a good church hug and keep it moving as soon as possible. While they didn't want our “nouveau poor” to get on them I never want their two-faced behavior to jump into my spirit.

 I will always have an amazing relationship with the LORD. I had one before I was a member of that church. But going back to that church as a member will never happen. Becoming a member of another church...I dont know.

 I miss Sunday mornings. I miss the feeling that the holy spirit is filling the church house and filling my spirit too. However, scowls, mean mugging and back biting is not something that I am interested in going back to. Especially when it comes down from the spouses of the clergy.

 So when people ask me, “Why don't you go to church anymore?” All of the above, and other things that I have too much respect and class to mention are why.

 Until the church starts being more kind from the top down, there will always be those Christians like me and my family who will fall through the cracks. Seeing my Mother hurt because the people that she loved like real family turned their noses up at us, has been too much for me to bear.

 The Pastor cannot do everything and he cannot be everywhere. However a Pastor's extensions must also make sure that loving kindness is truly running amok through the church as heavily as the church gossip.

I write this piece NOT to vilify the church, I love what the church has done for me. I write this to be a mirror to the church. To show them what is silently happening. When your church numbers are diminishing and not growing-there is a reason. This is a true story and this happened to me and my family.