#they all think lesbianism is dirty and impure and here you people are saying that this is PROGRESSIVE

[sweetfool]

"gold rush" is one of my very favourite songs by taylor swift so i'm going to write my own personal interpretation of it. this is part 1, hope u enjoy :)

the set is a town alongside a lake, where many rich people own houses and go on vacation. the main character is the person singing the song, and i visualize her as a girl who is in love with the girl she sings about, a blue-eyed blondie who's the first daughter of a very rich family - they've had an ongoing situationship as the blondie doesn't really want to admit she's a lesbian due to the comphet and family pressure she experiences - she brings the narrator on vacation as a "friend". they've been talking about coming out as a couple during this vacation.

"gleaming, twinkling, eyes like sinking ships on waters, so inviting i almost jump in"

here they both are at the lake shore and the singer is describing her lover's eyes, blue as the lake they are beholding, filled with the rich people's boats. however these boats are 'sinking', just as their relationship will during this vacation.

FIRST VERSE

the singer is describing her lover as a gold rush, as she is extremely beautiful and she has always been pursued by many people, especially the sons of the rich families she has known since she was a kid. anyone 'would die to feel your touch, everybody wonders what it would be like to love you' and she is forced to pretend she enjoys all these men flirting with her, while in public her and her true love are forced to have minimum interaction as not to raise suspicion - 'walk past, quick brush'

The singer is always competing with these men and at first she was enjoying, as it was fun knowing that all these people who were trying so hard to have her lover could never really get her as she belonged to somebody already, to another woman - but the fun ended when the singer realized that their relationship was forced to stay secret, and all these men could publicly flirt and touch her and maybe eventually marry her, while she had little to no possibilities. She is starting to realize this and think about the gold rush that is this love.

CHORUS

What must it be like to grow up that beautiful? With you hair falling into place like dominoes?

The singer is wondering how her lover must have felt during her life, growing up gorgeous and pampered and always wanted.

I see me padding across your wooden floors, with my eagles t-shirt hanging from the door

They spent the night together in her lover's room, but now she must quickly get away so nobody could ever suspect anything. She's walking quietly, getting her t-shirt left on the door the night before.

At dinner parties, I call you out on your contrarian shit

Here, the singer is jokingly saying how at dinner parties they act like friends and how they bicker and tease each other.

And the coastal town we wandered 'round had never seen a love as pure as it

The town they're at and they visited during the only few moments alone they could get has never seen a love this pure - gay love is usually considered impure or dirty, but in a town where the marriages were combined for the sole purpose of money, this is the purest it gets.

And then it fades into the gray of my day-old tea, cause it could never be.

Here the singer is quietly reflecting on the moments they've had together, and her love is slowly starting to fade because of the forced secrecy. She's starting to realize it could never be any more than this hidden affair, which would drain her out totally - she is starting to let it go.

[star-anise]

Physician, know thy own queer history

I've come to suspect that a lot of LGBTQ+ discourse these days is conservative Protestantism with a gay hat because it's pushed by people who literally are conservative gay Protestants whose worldview hasn't been broadened beyond "now you can have 2.5 kids in a house in the suburbs... with a spouse of the same gender."

My girlfriend Marna has been a queer activist since the late 80s. She’s told me about the incredible deliberation and debates LGBTQ+ activists had, in the late 90s and early 00s as the community began to see past the AIDS crisis and immediate goals of “surviving a plague” and “burying our dead.” There were a lot of things we wanted to achieve, but we had to decide how to allocate our scarce reserves of money, labour, publicity, and public goodwiil. Those were the discussions that decided the next big goals we’d pursue were same-sex marriage equality and legal recognition of medical gender transition.

From hearing her tell it, it seems like it was actually a wrenching decision, because it absolutely left a lot of people in the dust. A lot of people, her included, had broad agendas based on sexual freedom and the rights of people to do whatever they wanted with their bodies and consenting partners—and they agreed to put their broader concerns aside and drill down, very specifically, onto the rights of cis gays and lesbians to marry, and the ability to legally change your sex and gender.

As a political tactic it was terrifically effective. In less than two decades, public opinion in many countries has totally reversed on gay marriage, and we’ve won some truly enormous legal landmarks. Gender transition has entered public consciousness and the first landmark battles allowing people to define their own gender have been won. Marriage equality means that husbands and wives are protected from being banned from their dying spouse's bedside, being forcibly separated from their children, or not being recognized as an important part of their spouse's life.

The LGBTQ+ community knew they were taking a gamble, focusing so exclusively on marriage equality, and trans activists knew that they wouldn’t be able to achieve anything else until they’d gotten basic medical transition recognized. By and large, prioritizing things this way paid off. But they knew going in that there would be costs—and we're reaping them.

Activists of 20 years ago chose to sideline and diminish efforts to blur and abolish the gender binary. Efforts to promote alternative family structures, including polyamorous families and non-sexual bonds between non-related adults. Efforts to fight the Christian cultural message that sex is dirty, sinful, bad, and in need of containment. Efforts to promote sexual pleasure as a positive good.

Those efforts have been going on for the last 20 years, but they're marginalized—activists who had to decide where their finite time, money, publicity, and social capital went literally sat in committee meetings and said, "Marriage equality is our top priority. Legal gender transition is our top priority. Everything else will have to wait."

This happened especially because sex education, sex positivity, and youth outreach were incredibly dangerous areas. Our enemies have been saying for years that all LGBTQ+ people are pedophiles, perverts, seeking to corrupt and recruit children to our cause; anyone trying to teach children basic facts about how to avoid disease, what’s happening to their own bodies, or what possibilities they have for identity and orientation, risks having their name, career, and life ruined. As a sex educator in the 90s, Marna had to tell teenagers, “I can’t answer your questions about safe sex now. Come back when you turn 18.”

So kids who grew up being told that girls and boys are different and ought to lead different lives, and sex is dangerous and sinful and gross, and you definitely shouldn't want sex UNTIL you get married to your One True Love, only had that message tweaked a little bit. Now you can cross the floor from the Girl Side to the Boy Side or vice-versa. Now your One True Love doesn't have to be a different gender from you. But those kids could survive with the rest of their worldview relatively intact. And I think that's what we're seeing in fandom, with an emphasis on "pure" OTP ships, on only including LGBT+ identities that use crisp, clear gender binaries and result in nuclear family life. The rest of those cultural messages about sex and love remain: men’s and women’s worlds are and should be different, "impure" sex degrades and defiles you, sexual urges that do not contribute to your One True Love and family life should be repressed, shamed, or destroyed, and sexual thoughts are every bit as bad as acting on them.

This isn't because kids today are bad or stupid. It's because as a community, we had to decide where our effort was going, and now we need to pay down the debt we've racked up over years of prioritizing marriage equality and legal trans recognition over sex positivity, sex education, and deconstructing gender.

TERFs, SWERFs, exclusionists, and transmedicalists have stolen a march over liberal queers because they're doing the work to educate youth. While liberal queers have been staging protests and lobbying politicians, half a dozen of my undergraduate professors were radical feminists. Communities of exclusionists and anti-sex activists have honed their expertise at engaging teenagers with their ideas and theories. They're the ones writing the FAQs, answering the asks, and doing the groundwork of saying, "Here is a basic framework of sexual ethics for you to follow."

If we want to win back the culture wars, we have to step up our own efforts. Go back to the sex educators and gender activists whose good work has been ignored or underfunded for all this time and support them. Let major LGBTQ+ activist organizations know that their work so far is very nice, but it's time to renew our focus on youth outreach and mentoring young activists. Brainstorm a way to help angry, isolated, disenfranchised young people form communities based around positive action and a sense of belonging. Get into mentorship or education yourself. Help us pivot as a community, to reach out to the kids who have obviously been underserved.

People doing the good work who need our support: San Francisco Sex Information Sex & U Scarleteen Sexplanations Making Queer History

We won a few battles. That's nice. But now it doesn't serve us to whine that they're not all won. We've still got work to do.

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