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[wyrdify]

I can't say much right now because I'm training a manager to do my job, but have pictures of my three cats to brighten your day just a bit. This is Vincent, McCoy, and Liora. All three of them were adopted from humane societies at some point. Vincent is about 13 years old, McCoy is 10 years old, and Liora is 9 years old.

[thewriteadviceforwriters]

Why Writing Is So Lonely | Rin T.

Hello writers, and anyone else who uses Tumblr on a daily basis like me. (Although I’ve been inactive off and on.) It’s me, Rin, and I wanted to talk about something that I think a lot of us struggle with. Or at least anyone, and everyone who considers themselves writers.

The loneliness that can come with the writing life and being a writer. We spend so much of our time alone. It doesn’t matter if you're using your laptop or scribbling in notebooks. Or pacing around in your living room and muttering dialogue to yourself (which I'm completely guilty of.)

Writing is really a solitary passion, and it hasn't just recently been like that. I'm sure Jane Austen and Edgar Allen Poe dealt with similar feelings. And sometimes that isolation can take a real toll that many of us choose to ignore, both on our creativity, our passion, which I assume is writing in this case, and our mental health.

I’ve been writing for about 4 years now, mostly working on my own little passion projects that I plan on publishing and side hustles, not only for my writing project but also my blog (TheWrite AdviceForWriters). I’m currently knee-deep in 4 different novel drafts that I’m absolutely in love with. However, let me tell you. It can get Very lonely a lot of times. There are days when I feel like I’m the only person in the world who cares about these made-up characters and their fictional problems. The characters I create in my mind are so vivid that they seem like the only individuals who actually care about my passion. (They technically are, considering they are basically my passion.)

It’s so easy to start wondering whether anyone will ever want to read the stories I'm pouring my heart into. The self-doubt I get has been a big part of my writing journey, and sometimes it breaks my heart knowing that I may not please everyone who reads my stories. That I possibly could get the worst reviews out there on my book. If it's not perfect for society. For example, I have been reading and receiving news on Alex Aster and the amount of bad reviews she received for her LightLark novel, and she has had a few times where she’s stated she poured her heart into it. And it's not just Aster who deals with these as a published author; there are many others, and it sometimes scares me.

But you know what? I've come to realize that this loneliness is just part of the writer’s journey. And that it truly is going to be the process of every writer’s journey and career. It’s going to be one of the prominent challenges we have to face if we want to do this crazy, wonderful, painful thing we call writing. And I think it's important we talk about it, especially since I'm a blogger who owns a blog specifically for writers. The biggest reason I chose to create this blog was for this reason and the many other challenges of being a writer. 

I definitely will consider this blog post to be a discussion, and if anyone wants to reblog or reply to this blog post and start a conversation, please do so, just so we can support each other and figure out healthy ways to cope.

So, why is writing such a lonely pursit? Well, there are quite a few reasons, especially reasons for each individual writer; however, here are a few key reasons:

The Act Itself is Solitary.

At the end of the day, writing is something we have to do on our own. Sure, we can brainstorm with other writers and friends who write or get feedback from beta readers. Or even develop  and edit your manuscript with a professional book editor. But the actual act of putting words on the page is a solo endeavor. We’re the ones doing the typing, the (physical) writing, and the constant racking of our brains to find the perfect word or phrase to put down on paper or the blank page on a screen.

Even when we’re writing collaboratively, there’s still a certain level of isolation involved. I mean, after all, our individual writing process and creative visions have to align for the collaboration to work.

And let’s be real—aligning those things isn't always easy.

I’ve reached out to book editors, more so of developmental editors, which is an editor who guides the writer/author on the actual plot and outline of the novel itself. And they have mentioned the difficulties of needing to align with the creativity of the topic or novel. It isn't easy at all.

I know that for me, my most productive writing sessions happen when I'm alone. And I know for a fact I'm not alone on that.

Having no distractions when it's just me, my thoughts, and the blinking cursor on the screen with a Spotify playlist playing in the background. And while that can be deeply fulfilling and very productive, I will admit it can be incredibly lonely.

It's an Emotionally Draining Process.

Writing isn't just about stringing words together. It's about pouring our hearts and souls onto the page. Were digging into our deepest emotions, our biggest fear, our wildest dreams, our thoughts, our philosophy, I can go on. And that kind of vulnerability can be utterly exhausting.

When I'm in the process of drafting a new novel or the many current projects I'm working on. I often find myself emotionally drained at the end of the day. I've been living and breathing these characters, feeling their joys and pains as my own. describing the actions, words, and emotions these characters do and feel. And then after that, I have to close my laptop, put my pen and notebook away, and try to reenter the “real world"—a world that doesn’t always understand the weight I've been carrying. 

It can be so isolating, feeling like the only person who understands the emotional journey of your writing. Knowing what it feels like to create characters and their stories and emotions and personalities just as if they were real humans. Our non-writer friends and family members try their best to be supportive, but unless they experience it firsthand, they cannot fully grasp the depth of what we go through. I can tell when I explain my projects to others who aren't writers, it can sometimes feel like they don't care about what I'm saying to them. Or it can also feel like, my stories are just a synopsis for an underrated movie no one’s ever watched.

It's a Profession of Rejection

I think we all know, writing is a tough gig. It's a tough career and job. Even the most successful authors have had to face their fair share of rejection. The rejections can be received from agents, publishers, readers, or critics. (like I mentioned earlier), and that constant stream of “no’s” can really chip away at our confidence and sense of self-worth. And especially if you're an aspiring author and have not yet published your work. Knowing that rejection is a big part of the career of writing is frightening. Really.

I remember when one of my best friends, who is a writer, who is currently in the process of publishing her book, would send query after query only to receive endless rejections. She told me it felt like the entire world was telling her, “Your writing isn't good enough,” and that can be a pretty lonely and demoralizing place to be. It has made me anxious about getting to the querying phase, as I still haven't begun to query yet.

Even when we start to find some success, the fear of rejection never really goes away. Will readers love our next book as much as the last one? Will readers even like my debut novel? Will the critics tear it apart? I know when I first started writing my first novel project. I rewrote the first chapter. 13 times!! And that’s because of all the questions and doubts I had in mind. It’s enough to make any writer want to crawl into a hole and never come out.

And the thing is, as writers, we often don't have the same support system that people in other professions might have. We don't have coworkers to commiserate with or a boss to reassure us; it’s just us. Our doubts and the eerie silence of an empty inbox. For example, Ana Neu, one of my all-time favorite Author-Tuber's, has dealt with similar struggles. She’s mentioned several times how lonely she feels and how her family doesn't fully understand her love and passion for writing. And I completely agree with her. If you want to listen to more of her, please listen to her podcast and watch her videos on YouTube here.

So, now that I went over the key reasons as to why writing is so lonely, I didn't want to end this post on negativity, that’s why I wanted to list the main strategies that have helped me:

Build a Writer’s Community

One of the best ways to combat the isolation of writing is to surround yourself with other writers. That’s why I found social media to be a gift, not just for the other obvious reasons, but because we get to find writers around the world who enjoy the same things we like. Having that sense of community can be a game changer.

When I first started my Tumblr blog, TheWriteAdviceForWriters, I was really hoping to create that kind of supportive space for writers. I wanted to create a space where anyone who enjoys writing—not just fiction writers, but anyone who finds writing to be a passion of theirs—can share their dreams and struggles with. It's been amazing to connect with so many incredible people who just “get” the unique challenges we face. Being able to share our achievements and share our compassions. It's been vital for my own mental health as a writer, and I hope that it can also be vital for all of you.

And of course, the community is not about venting or seeking validation from others; its about providing feedback, encouragement, and just being able to make friends. Having that makes the lonely parts of the writing process and journey feel a little less lonely.

Prioritize Self-care

It's so easy to get caught up in the work and neglect our well-being. There have been multiple times where I wouldn't take a break from my writing sessions and simply not eat and drink. I wouldn't give myself time to process everything I wrote, and I immediately after would criticize it.

However, I find that self-care is the most important part of combating the isolation that comes with being a writer. For me, that looks like making sure I get enough sleep. You can't process, learn, and remember anything when you don't have enough sleep. During my personal self-care, when I do 45-to 1-hour writing sessions, I usually take a short nap after. Eating nourishing meals and snacks is important, as is making time for the hobbies and activities that bring me joy. I usually like reading books, spending quality time with my family members, and very feisty (and sometimes scary) cat.

3. Cultivate Gratitude

When loneliness starts to creep in, it can be really helpful to shift our mindset and focus on what we are grateful for; this can be really productive and rewarding. Being a writer is a gift; we get to spend our days doing what we love, bringing our creative visions to life and sharing them with people who love literature. Readers are such a big part of being a writer, and they're huge motivations to me.

So, if you can, just take a moment to appreciate the joys of writing. For example, if you have any writing quirks, I personally have to wear bracelets on both of my wrists in order to produce some type of creativity when I write. I'm not sure why it's just something I noticed. I also really love writing my manuscripts physically. I tend to do this when I'm suffering from writer's block, and for some reason my writing style is a lot better.

And don't forget the many other joys of writing, like drafting, and the excitement of sharing your work with others. Having a new idea come to mind that fits perfectly in your plot. Or even a reader or beta reader sharing a comment on your work and giving you encouragement.

Also, please celebrate your wins; it makes writing all too fun, and it's a great way to integrate writing into the real world.

End Note

I wanted to write this post because I know a lot of us deal with feeling lonely; I’ve been feeling that way for quite some time, and I wanted to share it with Tumblr. I feel like each and every one of you all feel the same way. And that’s why I created my Tumblr community; that's the reason I created this blog, and that's the reason I strive to build this into an entire brand.

I want to bring more awareness to writers, we are the people behind the stories, movies, and media that we consume today, and we barely get any credit for our work. I want to make a brand where others who never thought writing to be their passion could actually for once consider “Is writing for me?”

I feel like it's such an underrated yet overrated passion. Yet it's not acknowledged as much. 

I hope this post can make you understand that writing is 90% lonely and you are not crazy for thinking so. But, we can use the resources we have today, like social media, to change that and make writing better for the present and the future. 

Thank you all for reading. And please, if you are considering joining a community if you haven't already, please join The Write Right Society. We recently met 100 members, and the community is continuing to grow.

[kingofthering]

april-may 2024

ao3

rosquez

arms out like an angel by @yekoc

I do not promise that you will come out alright after reading this because it's so well written and full of emotions and very Rosquez in terms of communication and conflict (non) resolution.

can't change that, can't change you by @cvrthage

Marc putting the helmet back on is something I'm still thinking about btw. Very into Marc's attitude through the whole thing.

higher than the heights by @splitstuura

Mile High Club baby. Valentino asked for that one and this was perfect.

Bikefuckers by @sammyche

Again. Fic that just had to be written. And it was done perfectly.

special topics in calamity physics by @serve-cunt

I'm in love with Valentino's brain in this, his POV is so interesting and the dialogue is so good. The beginning of that scene in the kitchen? Yeah.

bezz/cele

you let me desecrate you by @celestinovietti

Hot shit for one of the biggest bike fuckers out there. Just had to be written.

Masculine, sweet like cherry cola by @sunnyeti

Hot. Necessary as well. Do read.

helping hands by Anonymous

Yes :))) Confident Cele ily.

others

tyre marks (bezz/marc) by @anitalianfrie

Bless you Jerez 2024 podium.

switchblade (pecco/cele) by @vanillow

Such an interesting pairing and I always love a good vampire AU. Cele's mind is so interesting in this and I loved all the visuals of how he managed his thoughts and the tension with Pecco and the dialogues were just so good. Could have read 10k more of this easily.

the sweetest torture one could bear (pecco/bezz) by @volchitsa-of-winterfell

Love me some Pecco/Bezz friends with benefits situation, always. And they're both omegas? Very interesting to me.

tastes like champagne (aleix/pedro) by @vanillow

Still 😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫 about it.

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Please note that I haven't included the continuing tumblr series that have been included in the january-march recs list already.

rosquez

"marc knows mean" with a side of bezz by @thewriters-world

cowboys by @moonshynecybin

marc wearing vale's necklace by @uwabbittuwabbit

inside vale's head by @frogsonabike

pollen sex by @splitstuura

tavullia post reconciliation by @love-leah

teen dad marc by @moonshynecybin

threesome with a girl by @moonshynecybin

hunger games au by @moonshynecybin

vr46 gangbang universe by @sammyche

omega auction by @baking-soda

horror au by @hotmessmaxpress

laguna seca 2013 by @moonshynecybin

actors au by @moonshynecybin

others

bezz/cele during a night out by @yekoc

bezz/cele roadtrip by @splitstuura

bezz/cele + quick fuck pants by @yekoc

pecco/bezz trashtalking gone too far by @hotmessmaxpress

pecco/bezz surfer au by @vanillow

sad dovquez by @agnst-crrnt

marc/bezz over the 2024 season by @vanillow

marc/bezz post jerez 2024 by @love-leah

vr46 boys + marc abo (with established rosquez) by @sammyche

[seasonofanangel]

G'day! Welcome to my kinblr. I'm both spiritual and psychological otherkind, fictionkind, and a human reincarnate. Not here to start discourse, just to chat and have fun!

Call me Raph, I use they/them pronouns unless the comedic timing is too good, and I'm an adult.

Here's a list of tags for each past life and/or kintype, in no particular order!

This is to help folks navigate my blog, and also to help me keep track (I'm forgetful).

#past life, #otherkin, #nonhuman, #alterhuman:

Seraphiel (seraph, first life): #seraphiel, #angelkin, #forjohn

Morgaine le Fey (priestess): #thepriestess

Malaki (fairy): #malaki, #fairykin

Blue (mermaid): #blue, #mermaidkin

Kitsune (kitsune & fox): #kitsunekin, #foxkin, #therian

Reaper (grim reaper): #reaperkin, #grimreaperkin

#alterhuman, #nonhuman, #otherkin

AI (psychological): #aikin

#past life, #human reincarnate:

Jay (medieval England stableboy): #jay

Aurora (princess): #aurora

Keeper of Keys (human ???): #keeperofkeys

#past life, #fictionkin:

Priestess (Bella Sara): #priestessofhorses

#fictionkin: (for context, I see these more as parallel lives than past lives)

Security Puppet (FNaF; the AI, not Charlotte): #thepuppet

Gene Khan (Iron Man Armored Adventures): #theking

Harley Keener/Stark (MCU): #theengineer

Nick Carroway (The Great Gatsby): #thewriter

#otherhearted, #hearttype

Genevieve (Barbie in the 12 Dancing Princesses): #genevieve

Stiles Stilinski (Teen Wolf): #mischief

Jaskier (The Witcher): #thebard

Jason Todd (DCU): #therobin

John Tracey (questioning, Thunderbirds): #theastronaught

If you somehow found this post from fandom tags (tumblr's tagging system is weird), feel free to move along if you're not interested. If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all.

My system blog is @round-table-cottage!

I co run @otherkin-confessional and @calling-for-kins !

I'm the admin of the otherkind discord server Divine Side!

Enjoy the chaos that is, and has been, my lives. Believe me, I have no idea either.

[donnas-dollface]

hmm, how's the top 7 then:)

that's do-able and disclaimer, i enjoy all of their company and I'm in no way favoring anybody because you all have equal parts of my love and friendship :)

@noarawriteszr she's the sweetest and enjoys praising my work! I'm actually on her post of blog recommendations and like oh my i nearly cried. cause how sweet is that :(

@uselessaussie Cas is somebody i consider to be a good friend. he's goofy and is good for a laugh. his little newspaper blog is amusing and helps when I'm in my bitter moods. they're also very encouraging and i appreciate it!

@vintage-cherrylady a goof. she's good for a laugh and i enjoy talking with her. shows me some interesting content and has very good ideas. her rambles are very interesting

@peachpringle I've only interacted with them with a few times, but they seem to have very good ideas! like a religion based on Donna? sign me up 🫡

@thewriting-dragon i love the little scribs they leave in my incorrect quotes. like?? very interesting good concepts maybe one day I'll turn them into fics 🫶

@theyenvymarleyyy + @love-sicklesbian they're good at reminding me of how horrible my cooking is and the bickering is entertaining.

and finally. all of you 🫵 mhm, that's right no matter if we haven't interacted or spoken you're my favorite people. i look forward to y'know feedback with my fics and people gushing over the silly little donna quotes. 🫶

[secondlifep]

Corsica, September 2022 - Frau Dr Hofstätter reading.

[mar-thewriter]

welcome!

hello and welcome to mar-thewriter.

my name is mar, and wouldnt you know it? i write. (masterlist)

occasionally. sometimes. i try. hopefully.

my blog is 16+. yes i will check even though my blog is not an nsfw one

im 22, use she/they pronouns, and im simply a girl in the world

more info:

im easily obsessed with many things.

currently i am obsessed with dc comics, specifically my boy nightwing, my own oc rayva (there will be much about her here im sure), bg3, specifically my boy astarion, and honestly probably other stuff i cant remember. i will talk about astarion and dick grayson for days and you cant stop me.

i like music lots (indie rock shit, pop shit, some rap n country shit, lots scattered between). some of my favorite artists are: los campesinos!, paramore, mitski, phoebe bridgers, taylor swift, chappell roan, arctic monkeys, mcr, ptv, and im sure theres more i just dont remember.

i like to keep things chill, however i do have some boundaries for things. for example, my page will never be a safe space for homophobia, transphobia, racism, xenophobia of any kind. i also will not take writing requests for nsfw concepts*, and i will never allow writing requests for fetishization or p3dophilia, and even things not outlined here are subject for me to decline at my discretion.

*if i ever write nsfw, it will likely be on a separate blog. you can send nsfw requests in, but dont expect me to reply to them here. if ur age is in ur bio and u are 18+ then you will be tagged on the corresponding post in the side blog.

other than that, i like to consider myself a pretty kind person so never be afraid to hit me up in the dms or reblog with a comment or anything like that. idc. i love talking to people. i may be a gothic bitch but im a nice gothic bitch

[tenevaya]

I may or may not be in the process of downloading a bunch of KH screencaps so I can make my own icons. The amount I have for Ienzo so far is just... god. I haven’t even started on getting Zexion’s yet.

I’m not promising a lot of activity, but we’ll see if I can get this gremlin to work with me.

[flameleadsarc]

Get to know the blogger

tagged by: @deathleads tagging: steal it from me and tag me!

Favourite Colour: Cerulean. Really, though, I love most shades of blue. Currently Reading: Nothing at the moment. I still need to finish Middlegame, though. Last Song: Currently listening to Sway by Arabelle on repeat. It’s a lovely piano track I found through spotify weeks ago. Last movie: Black Widow. Last series: Ducktales. I think we’re almost finished with season 3. Sweet, savoury, or spicy: My sweet tooth is horrible. It’s a good thing See’s Candies is on the other side of the country, or I’d be in one of their stores far too often. Craving: Perhaps it’s because I just ate dinner, but I’m not really craving anything at the moment. Usually, though, it’s something sweet. Tea or coffee: Tea. I like the smell of coffee, but I don’t like the taste. It doesn’t really make sense. Currently working on: Exploring Inazuma in Genshin, getting more replies done, trying to find the positives in my job, and playing Stardew Valley when I can’t get myself to focus on anything else.

[wyrdify]

This is what I wrote on my Instagram/Facebook today now that I've had a day to process. I'm slow when it comes to processing my emotions.

--

Sometimes the fight is to survive.

I woke up yesterday to the news feeling apathetic. Was I surprised? A little, but not overly so. I was mildly hopeful that we would not have another four years like 2016-2020, but elevated. Being a trans person was hard during those years, and it's been hard ever since. Never mind that I happen to have a uterus as well. The Republican Party does not like people like me.

Gradually, the apathy gave way to sadness and fear. "But Aly, you live in Maine. You live in New England where people vote blue, and your rights are protected." For how long? That is what I ask. We all know policies and laws can change. They have before, and in my very state no less.

I read a post on Threads today on a black person's reaction to the election results. They were used to disappointment, and it broke the white woman's heart more to hear. While I cannot relate directly to that struggle, my skin white as the White House that was and will be desecrated, I relate to the frequent disappointment as a trans and queer person. It takes everything I have to just survive in this country where so many look at people like me and dislike our existence.

Sometimes all you can do is survive.

Sometimes the fight is to survive.

That's all I can do right now. If that's you too, let's survive together.

[kingofthering]

january-march 2024

ao3

be sweet to me baby (rosquez) by @moonshynecybin

Not written for me but it came out on my birthday and I considered it the best present possible.

butterfly effect (dovquez) by @lestelledreams

This was so soft. And tender. I was right there with them and it was beautiful.

once and almost completely (bezz/cele) by @crozley

Hot shit. Hot shit.

ace of cups, the fool, eight of wands (bezz/cele) by @baking-soda

Do you wanna know how many times I reread this? Truth is, I don't even know myself.

A House in Nebraska (rosquez) by @austenaire

As a French person, the choice of city in this one is so funny to me but that aside, it was a really nice read, I promise. And that last line is very Vale.

steamroller (rosquez) by anonymous

Yes these two were made to be playful in bed. "So I win?" !!!! Very into the banter there, I don't like being sad but it was okay there, worth it.

this is a love story (rosquez) by @anitalianfrie

Mixed Media AU. Please look at this (on a computer) for the sheer amount of work that went into it. Insanely beautiful.

kill your heroes (rosquez) by @moonshynecybin

PWP to end all PWP. I am so in love, it's so hot and fun and perfect.

young hot trouble (enea/diggia) by @anitalianfrie

Yes. Hot. Give me more.

situations like this (casey/vale) by anonymous

Things that are absolutely delicious in this : the characterization of the two of them, Valentino's lines, Casey's internal monologue, how hot they are.

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omega verse pecco/luca by @baking-soda

rosquez feminization by @moonshynecybin

pecco/luca sex thoughts by @baking-soda

mr. and mrs. smith rosquez by @topnotchquark

virgin sacrifice rosquez by @love-leah

pecco/luca harem au by @baking-soda

abo rosquez with marc's heat by @love-leah

bezz/cele kissing thoughts by @f1vegas

ski resort dovquez by @lastlatebraker

rosquez + marc topping by @baking-soda

rosquez cyborg au by @vanillow

pecco/luca moment by @uwabbittuwabbit

pecco/bezz nightclub moment by @love-leah

rosquez abo + their bond post divorce by @moonshynecybin

rosquez + reporter marc au by @moonshynecybin

bezz/marc body swap by @anitalianfrie

royalty au rosquez by @love-leah

rosquez only fans au by @hotmessmaxpress

marc knows mean (rosquez, bezz/vale) by @thewriters-world

marc/vale/bezz threesome by @moonshynecybin

bezz/cele + confession by @yekoc

And like, this feels a little self-centered but I feel so blessed every time @moonshynecybin develop any kind of FCO AU thoughts (with me and others). Turns out you can admire artists from afar and then work with them months later, how insane is that.

[restbeyondtheriver]

My e-book is available for pre-order now!

E-book will be $0.99 during pre-order. Paperback & ebook out on August 30th. 🙂

[tenevaya]

lordofoblivion​:

@tenevaya Ienzo has problem sleeping?

/ They do, and it’s a problem.

They’ve had insomnia due to PTSD since they were a child. What Riku’s doing now? Yeah, Ienzo’s been doing that since before they became a Nobody. Couple that with their illusion magic. After 72 hours, things get fun.

[applekaur]

[colourblindhedgehog]

I I just need to know are you 7men

(Been wondering this for years)

Oh yeah, definitely. I have.... a lot of sideblogs? Which all vary in how active they are. The most active ones are usually 7men and @thewritings. @hedgehogreads varies a lot depending on what/how much I'm reading and I haven't posted on it in a long time.