#the only difference is i am. Very Aroace about my Lesbianism now .

[fruitsilly]

happy lesbian day of visibility!!!! i saw ur post the other day but forgot to reply oug, but anyway congrats on the lesbianism (!!!) and welcome to the club !!!!!!! :D ❤️🧡🤍💖💜

THAMK YOU ❤️🧡🤍🩷💜

[the-ninja-legacy-whip]

when did the characters (ninja and oc's) figure out their orientation (mainly for the people know currently know it as of book 3)

Kai: Learned he was very much Not Straight during one of Chad’s parties during his first year (before dropping out)….and then never looked back (I flip-flop on Kai being bi vs pan, but in Legacyverse he eventually sticks with being pan)

Jay: I am a huge fan of the Smith Siblings being his bisexual awakening; except here Kai was the first to do it for him snksnksnk

Cole: Was first exposed to the world of LGBT+ via crashing with Tox (who is a lesbian herself) when he ran away, and…kinda realized a few things about himself rather quickly afterwards

Nya: Also discovered she’s Not Straight in her freshman year via simply being curious, but hasn’t dedicated to calling herself anything juuuust yet

Jesse: “Of course I am guaranteed and destined to be with a woman, that’s exactly what my totally-not-homophobic father has drilled into my head for my entire life—“ *Cole exists* “—aaaand now I am bisexual”

Antonia: Has never been interested in romance for herself and fully is aware of this (romance for other people is an entirely different ballpark) but doesn’t commit to the aro and/or aroace label for herself until a little later in high school

Bridget: has also never been interested in romance for herself; even less so after coming out as trans. But, is more confident in calling herself aroace than Antonia is at first

Olivia: There was no real dramatic moment for her discovering she was pan; just kinda stumbled on the label for it and went ‘ah yes that one’

Harleigh: It’s always been girls for Harleigh. Head empty, girls only.

[foggyfanfic]

Queer Madrigals

I'm about to post a couple future!fic for Encanto, so I figured I'd take a minute to talk about my headcanons when it comes to their genders/sexualities.

The Obvious: I've posted somewhat in depth about what I think Bruno and Isabela's individual deals are, so I'm not going to really talk about it here, but yeah. Using the labels I am familiar with, I assume Bruno is demi, bi, and nonbinary, and that Isabela is a lesbian who ends up marrying a trans woman.

The Married: I mean, we can sit here all day and speculate, but the only real headcanons I got are that Juli is demi and Pepa has made out with more women than Bruno.

Mirabel: I've mentioned this, but I didn't really talk about it. Due to heteronormativity I suspect it wouldn't occur to Mirabel to question her sexuality until later in life when the Pride movement starts up. I think she's bi, possibly also demi, but most definitely not very focused on her love life (another reason why she doesn't think too hard about her sexuality). She's got shit to do and if somebody wants to date her they better speak up about it because she's got too many projects going on right now to bother with mind games. Mirabel ends up with a man mostly by coincidence, I saw somebody do the numbers and its just statistically more likely that a bi person will end up with somebody of the opposite sex (the math didn't factor for gender). I try to keep all of my headcanons grounded to peoples lived experiences, and this felt historically accurate.

Luisa: I think that if Luisa were a tumblrina she would end up being CIS+, but would have to go through the journey of exploring her gender due to societal biases. In the context of 1950's Colombia, she spends her youth hearing abuelas and tias talking about how she needs to be more feminine if she wants a husband, and struggles with that for a while. Luisa sings "I glow because I know what my worth is" and that's the sort of thing somebody says when they're on the other side of some serious self doubt, so I do think she had to deal with a bit of misogyny and body image issues. The thing is, Luisa likes the way she looks, and she's proud of what a hard worker she is, but she also wears ribbons in her hair and skirts instead of pants to work in. Furthermore, I suspect every bi person in the village, male or female, has a huge fucking crush on her because if she was a modern tumblrina people would be responding to pictures of her with that "not to be a lesbian but oh my god" stuff. I headcanon her as being technically cishet, but culturally gay due to people being people about the whole Woman with Biceps thing, if that makes sense. Once she starts allowing herself some free time, she dates every bi man in the village.

Dolores: Morosexual. No offense Mariano.

Camilo: You know how gender is a product of your culture and different societies throughout history have had different ideas of how many genders there are and what it means to be a man or woman? I think being able to turn into a woman at will would have an effect on Camilo's relationship with his gender. Like, I don't know if he would be full nonbinary, because I have never met a shapeshifter and asked them how they feel about gender, but I can't imagine he sees gender as a rigid binary. Like I said, I try to stay grounded in my headcanons, and I have zero idea what the lived experience of a shapeshifter is, soooooo...?

Antonio: I have spent a long time weighing the options here, his association with animals makes me think he would be the least traditional Madrigal, so I would like to think he'd end up in the least conventional relationship. I posted a list of headcanons where I floated the idea of him being poly, but I like the idea of him being aroace better. I stand by the rest of it, though. He marries a lesbian, let's her girlfriend move in with them, and he's just kinda there. Like, the women consider themselves married to each other and he's just some guy who talks to birds. They're his best friends and thinks he's pretty great but the only time he has sex is when him and the wives want kids, and other than that he's just vibing. I arrived at this headcanon because I love the idea of him being sorta a reverse Bruno. Like, people think he has two wives so everybody assumes he's this total lady killer, they sing songs about how charming he is, rumors abound that he can make a girl swoon with a single smile, then you talk to him and he's just some guy. Occasionally, a woman will throw herself at him and he's like "No thanks" then starts having a conversation with her cat. Do you see my vision? Anyone? I don't care if nobody else thinks it's funny, because I'm giggling at my computer.

[lucifer-spawn]

so i have seen dead poets society but it's been awhile and i know you like it so tell me about it

OKAY so this will be very long so proceed with caution

the main characters are neil perry and todd anderson. neil's father is very controlling and wants neil to become a doctor and basically neil does everything he asks always. then there's todd, he's new at their school (welton) and the personification of anxiety. they have a new english teacher, mr keating. he is everything that the school is not and not only teaches them english, but also to think for themselves, to make art, poetry, to live life to the fullest.

neil and todd are roommates (AND THEY WERE ROOMMATES) and neil manages to convince todd to join his friends. they are knox overstreet, charlie dalton, stephen meeks, gerard pitts and richard cameron.

knox is a creepy straight guy with a crush on chris noel (my gf fr). chris is a very (very very) pretty girl who has a boyfriend, chet danburry. knox has dinner at the danburry's (smth to do with making connections) and meets chris, who's there with her best friend ginny danburry. anyway he goes to a party and at some point chris falls asleep and this creepy bitch decides to start stroking her forehead. he gets noticed, chet beats him up, chris wakes up yells at him to stop. she's mad at both of them.

charlie dalton is charlie dalton. unique in every way and we love him for it.

meeks and pitts are nerds and built a radio together. they dance together. even though only one of them can hear the music at a time. they are everything to me.

cameron is the most overhated character in the series. he's a kid trying to survive school and be good and i need to hug him.

neil becomes a theatre kid. todd a poet. after the show shit happens that we don't talk about.

now for headcannons. obvi todd and neil are gay for eachother. the subtext is there. (walt whitman, tchaikovsky, gay ass staring, practicing lines together...).

charlie is a bisexual disaster. god i love him too. he's on the arospec btw. i feel like he's got some funky gender stuff going on but i cannot settle for anything, but he's something for sure. he's in love with knox, who is also bi and also a disaster. idk i dont really like cannon knox and try not to think about him.

meeks and pitts are in a qpr and no one can tell me differently. meeks is aroace and makes the worst sex jokes. pitts is aspec to me. ALSO bigender meeks my beloved.

cameron collects A's (grades, gender, sexual and romantic orientation, autism and anxiety). they're very sex and romance repulsed and hate it when people say that they're the token straight (they're very closeted to me). cam is my favourite character to write angry.

chris is very bisexual and transfem. she's in love with ginny after she breaks up with chet and the stuff with knox is unrequited because i say so.

ginny is non-binary and a lesbian. they've been in love with chris for forever and had to watch her date her brother... ouch angst incoming.

i am stopping myself here to protect my sanity. questions are welcome always. if you read all this you get a cookie.

[kokushibosbestie]

My favorite ships are

ZenNezu

TanZen

Ocs ships InoAika and ObaKanna

RenKana or Rengoku x Kanae

SaneGiyuu

SabiGiyuu

ShinMitsu

Deku x Urakaka

BakuCamie

Jiro x Denki

TodoIida

TodoMomo

Okaayyy! Let's get started with the very deep, in detail ship analysis! (The first ones are very simple though so forgive me!)

ZenNezu, like I said before, is one that I enjoy. 8/10

TanZen is okay, but I don't think Tanjiro would be into men, so I can't see it. 3/10

InoAika and ObaKanna (I'm sorry, I don't know much about your ocs! If you still want me to rate them, lmk!)

RenKana is actually not that bad, but because they have never actually interacted (from what I know), I can't say I ship it. 5/10

SaneGiyu is a no from me. I've said it once and I'll say it again, I don't really like this ship. They have no chemistry and Sanemi is not open to the idea of being friends with Giyu (before the final arc). Sanemi has been shown to dislike Giyu and has stated why on several occasions. Giyu hasn't shown much distaste for Sanemi, but he does give him sass and kinda just disregards what he says. And I also have an HC where Giyu is Asexual/Aroace/confused. That's only my opinion though! 2/10

SabiGiyu is always one that I am open to! I enjoy their dynamic and how Sabito cares for Giyu. I think it's important to note how Giyu only changed after Sabito's death. Things might've been very different if Sabito had survived. Giyu was happy around Sabito, and vice versa. 8/10

ShinoMitsu IS MY FAVORITE OF ALL TIME. One, I genuinely think Shinobu is Lesbian and I live for it. Two, Mitsuri is believed to be Pan/Bisexual, so it'd make sense. I love how Shinobu has been shown to care about Mitsuri and how Mitsuri believes Shinobu to be beautiful and cool. They have a ship dynamic similar to ObaMitsu, Mitsuri being the bubbly and kind person she is x Shinobu, being the soft though angry/jealous(?) person in the relationship. They would work well and already do. 10/10

Deku x Uraraka isn't one I was always fond of because I thought Uraraka was also Lesbian and/or Bisexual. Just an HC of mine. Though, now that I think about it, they would make a cute couple and are very much loved characters. 8/10

BakuCamie is not one I like. One, they barely interact at all. Two, Camie is into Shoto (I'm not saying I ship Shoto and Camie). Third, I don't think Bakugou is even shippable at this point. Their personalities clash and don't mix well, considering Camie is one who looks for attention and is gaudy, while Bakugou just doesn't care. He cares about being the number one hero, not being considerably famous. I think that's what a lot of people don't understand about his character. He is always angry while Camie is usually collected and flirty. Bakugou would likely get annoyed by that behavior. 2/10

Jiro x Denki is an amazing ship. This ship is badass girl x worshipper guy and I love it so much. They are one of the only sane ships in BNHA and I'm here for it. 9/10

TodoIida is not one I expected but that's okay! I think this might work, though their personalities don't work together. Both of them are stoic most times and are probably touch-starved. Iida would be inflexible (like Iida is) and Shoto would kinda just stand there like 🧍‍♂️. Their dynamic is similar to what I think Muzan x Kokushibo is. (I do NOT ship Muzan with anyone, I just need another example). 5/10

TodoMomo is a cute one! I think positively about it because of the concern Shoto showed for Momo in season 2/3(?). And the way Momo and him work together so well. He is a gentleman and I think that works well with Momo's slightly timid and respectful personality. 7/10

[compassionatereminders]

Hi, Kat! I really need to know what do you think about this situation.... If you can, please answer as soon as possible (but of course I'm not forcing you, take your time!)

So, I started college this year and...I think one of my classmates loves me. Im Aroace, who was never in love, nobody ever loved me and I never had a date. People don't even ask my number of smt. And I'm not saying this for a pitty, just so you know how inexperienced I am in the whole love thing. But I also WANT to be in a relationship, also I'm SCARED to do so.

So, there is this girl, Spike, and two weeks ago we started to chat. We are both autistic lesbians who are touch starve, so we got along. We hugged and all the sweet stuff, and soon she began to kiss me on the cheek, joke that she would marry me, and in general the friendly tenderness was diluted with flirting on her part... I wasn't against it, opposite flattered and it was nice that someone was showing at least some signs of attention to me, especially physical ones, no matter platonic or romantic. She even drew me and only two days later I noticed that in the upper corner she drew her persona, looking at me with a heart next to it.

And you know what? I liked this relationship. They were comfortable in their own way and I got what I wanted (attention, physical contact and a friend, even with a little spice). But today, as I was waiting for my bus, we hugged goodbye as usual, kissed on the cheeks, and then she says "I love you" and I feel how she tries to break free from the embrace to leave faster. I didn't see if she left right away, because I was rushing to catch the bus, but I'm more than sure that she didn't, although usually she would have at least watched me sit down. I think, maybe it's obvious, it was a confession, but for some reason I don't feel happy about it, although this is exactly what I wanted for so many years. I don't know if I love her, yes, I feel different with her, but I often convince myself of this because of desperate loneliness and then I quickly forget my "crushes". I don't think I feel like in movies or books, everything is so easy and difficult at the same time....And most importantly, I don’t know if I want to know the answers to my questions! I'm scared. Very scared. I feel like my whole life will be turned upside down (in a bad way) if I get into a relationship. But at the same time...that's exactly what I wanted, to love and be loved. I don't know what to do. I don't know how to behave with her tomorrow. I don't know if I'll be able to look her in the eyes. Should I pretend nothing happened? Or talk to her about it? But I'm so scared... I just want to bury myself in a blanket and cry. I never thought that my first confession would make me scared and sad....

I'm completely confused now.

Don't pretend nothing happened if you care about her at all. Even if you aren't interested in that kind of relationship with her, do her the favor of taking her feelings seriously

[sapphic-aroace]

I recently realized that I may be an oriented aroace(pan oriented aroace).

My life has been very messy, as I was not well educated about sexuality and gender, and I had unexplainable feelings for many people.

me in the past when I might have felt an aesthetic attraction: from "What the-" to "I see, this must be a crush!" to.

Past me, who may have felt alterous attraction: "is this a - true - crush? Wait, then what was that?"

Past me who may have experienced squish: "This is crush!? Again!? No, no, this is really a mistake. Because we're just friends..."

(Yes, I internalized fucking heteronormativity and fucking amatonormativity🤢)

I learned superficially about aroace: "What were those things? I sometimes wonder, and sometimes I can relate to the experiences of aroaces, but if I called myself an aroace, I would definitely get complaints from all kinds of people"

Me, who finally began to recognize the diversity of aroaces and learned about tertiary attractions: "Oh, so attractions don't have to be only romantic or sexual attractions?! I don't think that those things in my past fall into those two categories! Then maybe I can recognize that I am an aroace! tertiary attraction finally gave me a name for what I was feeling🥲︎"

Me on another day: "there is no way I can call myself an aroace. Because in the past I was... That behavior...were full of alloalloeness..."

(But when I found the label for oriented aroace and the description of the tertiary attractions, all I know for sure is that I felt at peace. I wanted to exclaim, "I finally found this place!"... is all I can say now)

...Even now, I often wonder if I am crazy, or if my existence is disloyal to the LGBTQ+ community and other aspec people.

Do you ever feel that way? When you do, how do you get out of it?

I apologize for the length of the sentence, and I am not very good at English, so I apologize if my writing is not correct🙏

hello!

don't you worry about your English, I understood every word! and English is not my first language either, you're fine 😉

I'd like to start with saying your experiences are entirely valid and that many LGBTQ+ people have been where you are or are still at the same point.

Of course, there are LGBTQ+ people who knew really early that they were not cishet, but many others doubted/are doubting that they were/are really trans, gay, lesbian or bi; aspec as well. feeling like they're mistaken. or can't admit to themselves they're not cishet. you're far from the only one and I can assure you that your experiences are in no way disloyal to any members of the LGBTQ+ community.

As for my own experiences, I can tell you I have dealt with some of what you're feeling.

I am not confused anymore about my attraction, but I have been for the longest time.

it took me many years after I learned about asexuality to admit I was indeed ace and not a late bloomer. while I knew, as soon as I discovered the label, that I was in fact ace, I refused to admit I wasn't "normal". I wanted to be like everyone else.

I still read a lot about acespec people talking about their experiences even though I was in denial, because, deep down I knew I was ace as I said.

I didn't learn about aromanticism at the same time, I discovered it existed many months later, at least.

and I didn't believe that was me. even if I had yet to experience romantic attraction, I wanted to have a girlfriend, so that couldn't be me.

like you, I've dealt with internalized aphobia. I still struggle with it sometimes, but less and less so as time passes and I accept myself more and more.

and like you, I finally started to accept my aromanticism when I learned about oriented aroace and tertiary attraction.

I understood I could still find women attractive in different ways. my feelings were making sense. and others related. it was a relief.

I would also add that even if you believe your past behavior was alloromantic and/or allosexual, it doesn't mean you are not aroace. your struggles with internalized aphobia may have been the reason for this perception, or maybe you've just grown and changed, it can happen.

Finally, I would advise reading about other aroace experiences, especially oriented aroace ones, since it's the label that feels right to you. I think it can definitely help you realize that many people have indeed been or are still questioning and doubting, that you're not alone and that you're feelings are valid. it has helped me a lot.

I would also like to thank you for sharing your experiences, I think it will definitely help others that are looking to understand themselves and have similar feelings to yours.

[erigold13261]

🌻, 🌈 and 🌌 for the OC ask game 👀? (i dunno if some were already asnwered btw)

"🌻 Do any of them hide dark secrets under a cheerful veneer?"

Hmm... I don't actually think so!

Pretty much all of my OCs that have potentially dark secrets either don't keep them a secret (or are very casual about it) or aren't hiding them behind cheerfulness and instead of gloomy.

I would say the closest thing to that would be Synthia, but he doesn't hide the neglect and abuse he gets from his mom. He's very casual about it because he dissociates her hate for him which is why he's always very happy.

Oh! I think technically Carna tries to hide faer kleptomania through cheerful attitudes, but that is more like playful lying from being raised in a rich and spoiled environment (the second time being raised since the first time was in a dysfunctional house with an abusive mother and neglectful father). Though that isn't really a dark secret, so doesn't really count.

I guess technically Ilia hides his past by being happy, but it's not like he is actively hiding it. He's more of a lying through omission kind of person. So if you don't ask the right questions, you aren't getting the full story from him (which is why the curses think he's a human when they first meet him).

The only other OC I can think of would be a much older OC named Emi that I haven't drawn in a while. She wears a mask with a permanent smile on it and has a pretty cheerful attitude as she hunts down humans to collect their teeth and eat their faces.

I haven't thought of her much in a while, but she isn't really hiding her past/dark secrets. Though, since I am thinking of her again, I can make her into an entity and she definitely would be a character who hides her actions behind friendliness! Very much looking like she is a perfectly friendly entity on the outside but a human hunter in reality.

"🌈 Which ones are The LGBTQ+?"

I mean... I better question would be which one is NOT queer lol!

Pretty much all of my OCs are some flavor of queer. Mainly asexual, aromantic, or aroace. I also tend to have a lot of lesbians or wlw as well as trans or nonbinary OCs.

The ones who are cishet are Sharon, Matvey, Martha, Aria probably, Nuru, Sarabi, Joust experimented a bit but is cishet. Quida is cishet, so is Noa and Asa. Honestly Asa might be something, but for now he is cishet. I think that's all but I'm sure I'm forgetting someone.

A lot more cishet OCs than I remember lol! But otherwise, pretty much all my other OCs are somewhere on the LGBTQ+ spectrum!

"🌌 Do your OCs inhabit a shared universe?"

Yes and no!

I compartmentalize my OCs depending on where they are from. So a JJK OC would be in JJK while an NSR OC is only in NSR.

However, because I made the Eriverse, technically all my OCs can now live in a single universe! Even single fandom universes like JJK can be connected to the Eriverse through Ilia now! Meaning that event though they aren't in a shared universe, they share a multiverse through Ilia's powers.

And speaking of multiverses, I have a LOT of NSR AUs that I basically turned into OCs in my head as they are so far removed from the base NSR premise. Though these are in a different multiverse compared to the one connected to the Eriverse. If that makes sense lol.

So yea, yes and no. It depends really. For the most part, if I want them to be connected then they can be in the same universe. If not then they aren't. Really depends on what I want to do in the moment.

[roykiller07]

crappy art dump bc i feel the need 2 establish me and my friendy's ocs on this platform bc im probs gonna end up posting about them a lot and i love them and i will make everybody on earth love them also

open for sillies :3

darleneee!!!!!!! my silly this drawing does not do her justice but she is a 13 yr old lesbian (she/her) and 🔥suthern. she is thr coolest oc i have ever had any part in creating and her lore consumes my mind daily and i am gnawing at the bars of my enclosure containing myself from infodumping abt her and the rest of them all the time until the comic my bestie and me r making w them starts coming out but im posting this oc stuff here on purpose to motivate myself to actually draw it by summer so u guys will not be safe for long. shes a virgo 💖

starria delaunchey my sweetie pie her design has actually developed a lot since this piece she has completely different hair now and all sorts of stuff i mean i dont think she even plays hockey anymore but the essence remains the same 💗she is ALSO a 13 yr old lesbian (she/they) and she and darlene r in a long term loving relationship so get ur starlene fanart started asap pwease and thank yew. if im gonna list the zodiac signs for all of them then starria is an aquarius.....

fun fact she is the oldest oc of all 4 she was the very first to ever be created !!

matty! matisse! mat! he is stars half brother and they are bffs and he is the most peculiar fella on the planet and is lowkey my fav tied w syd but i practically never draw him bc i am like. intimidated and so bad at replicating what we actually want him to look like😞 i have no clue bleh but hes the one with the full torso and hes a sagittarius like meeee!!!!!! hes 13 too and a transmasc aroace with he him pronounce

this is syd my stupid idiot i love her w all my heart.same thing as matty i have barely ever drawn her ever bc im like scared to but shes basically leonardo ninja turtle 2018 if he was mikey batman vs the tmnt edition and also donatello 2023 all at the same time (very normal points of reference yes). his only flaw is hes a libra

he is a 13 year old bigender bisexual (she/he) and also btw every single one of them is autistic because we can

WE ALSO HAVE MIN!!!!!!! shes the best character but i have literally almost never drawn her ever let alone RECENTLY with a REMOTELY up to date design so the only information yall get about her is shes a cancer

the comic is called honeysuckle and/or cheriton creek bc we changed it recently but we still tend to refer to the overall project as honeysuckle so oh well deal w it

BE A FAN NOW (pointing gun)

[schizowitchic]

re: the last post i reblogged i am now going to rant about biphobia i have experienced and am experiencing! yay /s

(under a cut bc this got way too long)

so in secondary school i was in a friend group full of queer people, majority of whom were bisexual girls (at the time. a couple are now nonbinary / asexual) . and they were very big on the whole "bisexual culture is liking every woman and 2 men" thing, a lot of "ew men" jokes, and all in all general "liking women is better than liking men" "why am i dating a gross icky man i should be with a woman".

now i am more attracted to men than women, not by much, its typically fairly equal, but i definitely have a leaning towards men. and i repressed that for AGES. because it simply was "frowned upon", so to speak, from almost everyone i was close with

(for further context for the rest of this. i am not out as genderfluid. i use she/her pronouns irl and ppl know me as a cis woman. i am not really out as aromantic, when i identified as aroace i did tell a few people but i think they either completely ignored me or forgot. lol.)

nowadays, i tell my friends i am bisexual. one in particular always seems to forget, constantly calling me gay/lesbian, assuming i have no opinion or that my opinion will be "ew no" when she asks if i find a man she likes hot. (she has told me so many times "why am i asking you this you don't even like men". i have told her i am bisexual several times) (she also thinks it's funny to call me & another friend "f-slurs" . she says that not the actual word but still. i have to find it funny bc she gets so defensive if we imply she's homophobic)

(i do call myself gay bc i consider none of my attraction ever to be straight. i have no major issues with being called a lesbian apart from the fact that. yknow. im not a lesbian and have never identified as such)

i made a post a while back saying something like "help im being biseuxal erasured". because i am!! i am stuck in yet another situation with people who are either mainly attracted to women/only attracted to women/don't often talk about their attraction to me & also two cishet girls who are attracted to men in a very different way than i am (one of whom erases the fact i am attracted to men and the other who i don't like and probably assumes i'm a lesbian bc of how often everyone else says that)

also full of "ew men" jokes!!. might i add.

i literally have no space to talk about the way i experience attraction, i have to water it down and pretend i only like women, pretend i am interested in romance, pretend i feel attraction when the occasioanll bout of extreme sex-repulsion hits, take (albeit censored) homophobic slurs, sex jokes about me & another female friend that are getting uncomfortable.

and pretend like the main perpretatror of this isn't being at all queerphobic. (she also has massive racism and antisemitism issues. although my friend did throw basically a whole book at her face when she made a really bad joke). to the point where i no longer consider her a friend but i can't say that bc then im overreacting and i'll get the same bullying ostracisation treatment & my friends are still gonna hang out w her so i can't avoid it

people wonder why i am aplatonic when throughout friendships i have experienced: making fun of me to my face & behind my back, bullying, homophobia, biphobia, aphobia, ableism .

like what the fuck. im sick and fucking tired of having nowhere safe to express my sexuality bc let's be real, the internet often isn't the best space.

ive made my peace with either having to compromise my aromanticism or my allosexuality irl (ie either be out as bisexual or out as aroace) but apparently i can't even freely be bisexual without people making assumptions and at this point im just waiting it out until i can hit restart and try make new friends

[evilwickedme]

What are your sexuality headcanons for all your superhero faves?

Oh my god do you know how many superhero favs I have

The OG, first in my heart, first in my tags, Buffy Summers: bisexual. End of story thank you

Willow Rosenberg is also bisexual tho whether she's a superhero I guess is more up to debate. One of the biggest cases of bisexual erasure in the history of television, in this essay I will

Actually warning you most of these are going to be bisexual

Peter Parker? Bisexual. Literally always. There has never been a straight Peter Parker the media is lying to you

Mary Jane Watson? Bisexual

Tim Drake? Bisexual (obviously as this is canon but it needs to be stated)

Matt Murdock? Bisexual

As are all his friends so Elektra, Foggy, Karen, etc, all bisexual

(I am working off the show for daredevil characters I'll get to the comics I swear I promise!!! I've read two whole issues that's progress right)

Gwen Stacy, in any and all iterations? Bisexual. ESPECIALLY Spider-Gwen/Ghost Spider but also 616 and 617 and tasm!Gwen

Emjay I believe is canonically a lesbian but it might be up to audience interpretation. Either way I can also see her as bisexual

Dick Grayson is bisexual, obviously

Roy Harper is also bisexual

Kory is bisexual

Actually there has yet to be a teen titans member who isn't bisexual

Except for Bart who's gray ace biromantic

Kon is bisexual, obviously, following this path

So is Cassie

(I've been reliably secondhand headcanoned that Cissie's a lesbian but a. she wasn't a teen titan b. I've read very little YJ)

Deadpool is omni or pan! That's different!

We've gone over this before and we'll go over it again: Jason Todd is aroace, maybe demi aroace. Maybe even demi aroace and gay

Murderdock is gay

Clark Kent is heterosexual, actually. He's biromantic tho

More importantly he's lois-sexual

Lois is bisexual tho

Smallville!Oliver Queen specifically is also bisexual because a. I love him and this is the highest honor I can bestow upon him and b. He like everyone else on that goddamn show was also in love with Clark

Actually now I need a Smallville!Clark/Lois/Oliver threesome fic. Something to think about

Magneto is, and I know this is going to be a big surprise to all of you, bisexual

Stephanie Brown is bisexual

Cassandra Cain is an ace lesbian

Diana (WW) is another canonically bisexual character but everyone's too big of a coward to write her a female love interest. It's worse than Wade he just got his first non binary love interest and he's only been around for 32 years

Idk I'm probably leaving someone important off just assume they're bisexual unless they're canonically queer in which case I respect that. Unless it was bisexual erasure in which case they're once again bisexual

[xshybutdeadlyx]

Just gonna be a big rant of word vomit.

Please note I'm not trying to attack anyone I'm just kinda laying my feelings out.

I kinda wonder why I bother with Fandoms. I rarely act in any fandoms I'm hyperfixating over but for hazbin hotel I thought why not. But to the surprise of no one it is just like every other Fandom with backhanded comments always being tossed around. And most of it is centered around the character Alastor which I get but God it's giving me anxiety.

Like right now I'm seeing the a divide on the possibility of him having a kinship with the people of the hotel. Personally I think he does or more like did but he's going back to his roots of keeping everyone at an arms length and using them because of his defeat by the hands of Adam. But I personally think those feelings can resurface, but it's gonna be a battle to do so. But I am seeing a lot that people don't believe those feelings were ever there. He really is just a cold heartless bastard who has a God complex and is just mad he lost and that's it. And I feel like that is also correct. But I don't think that makes my hypothesis or how I feel I read the scene wrong? But I've seen people say "if you think this certain way then you are show illiterate and you don't know his character and IM the only one who understands him!" Like....OK? That's the beautiful thing about any piece of literature characters and scenes, anyone can interpret it in so may different ways and it doesn't make anyone wrong. So can't we all just have our own interpretation and just gush over it instead of scoffing at people who didn't see the same thing you saw?

As for shipping, that's a whole monster within its own. I personally don't think anyone is entitled to dictate what someone can and can't do with pixilated characters. I honestly very much understand that Alastor is a big deal considering he's aroace, and that doesn't get enough media representation. And I respect the hell out of it. But I'll also in the same breath say I'm a shipper. I love staticradio because I'm a sucker for enemies to lovers trope. In canon, I want Alastor to keep being the beautiful dick head he is that just has gossip tea parties with Rosie and just doesn't have those romantic or sexual urges. In fanon, though, anyone can really do what they want. I think as long as there aren't death threats or literal force being used to make the creator of the show force Alastor into a relationship I don't think theirs anything in fanon that should be taken seriously when canon is right there glaring everyone in the face. If people wanna keep the "relationship" one-sided? Awesome. If they want Alastor to smooch someone? Cool. They want him to rawdog or get raw dogged by someone. Hey, power to ya, just put it in the tags so people can steer clear of it if they don't wanna see that. I see many people saying it's erasure, but I just don't see how it's erasure when it's still there in canon. Nobody, and I mean NOBODY, can erase Alastor, who is a sassy aroace king. I can't say I don't understand the mentality, though. As a bisexual woman myself, I see fanfics where bi characters are labeled straight or lesbian/gay completely, ignoring that who they date doesn't make them, neither straight nor gay. It does sting and leave a bad taste but again they can say that, they can write all they want and if it's cathartic for them then ok more power to em because at the end of the day that character is still bisexual they didn't erase it. Usually, people are good at tagging, so if they do make them one way or the other, i dont read or look at the art. It's very easy to scroll down. Sometimes i see it repedidly, but that's what blacklisting is for too. There are many countermeasures. Plus, a lot of things are all in good fun or just canon divergence. People can be creative and play with different ideas. "What if a character was like that!?" "What if they do this!?" "What if this happened instead, and it changed their whole character!?" That's what's supposed to be fun about being in fandoms. Everyone is entitled to feel how they feel. You're allowed to not like something. But I don't think you're allowed to make other people feel like shit because they go against canon, or more precisely, against your views. I genuinely don't think anyone ever means disrespect. All they want to do is have fun and create along with like-minded individuals. You're allowed to not like something. Hell, I don't like Vox and Val together, and that shits canon, but that just means I ain't gonna actively seek it out. (I personally ship Valentino with a bug zapper.)

All in all I just want everyone to feel safe and just have fun because I've just seen so many people to scared, me included, to do anything in the Fandom in fear of getting attacked and that's mostly what's been really eating away at me. But at the end of the day, this IS the internet, and discourse is basically its bread and butter.

Like I said though this is mostly just a vent post but I wouldn't mind to hear others thoughts if you're willing. I know I just probably talked out of my ass for forever. At the end of the day we are just all apart of this silly little Fandom of silly little demon people and we should all just be having fun look at what we like, write/draw what we want. It's exhausting spending energy like anger and malice, we should just focus on the things that matter to us and the things we like and just enjoy it for however long the hyperfixation lasts. Nobody is wrong. Nobody is right. we are just creators or people on here to just escape for a little bit and connect with a show or characters that resonate with us.

Ok for reals this time peace ✌️ if you made it this far and actually read everything I had to say thank you, you're a trooper. I hope I didn't offend anyone since that was not my intent. I just had a lot of feelings and I'd rather we all get along then tear each other apart.

[pollyanna-nana]

With the tide finally turning in favor of a-spec identities and their place in the queer community, I wanted to write something kind of (no idea where they are now, this isn’t even the same account I knew them on) to the person who brought me to tumblr in the first place, all those years ago.

I don’t know if you remember me, but I remember you. You were one year ahead of me in school, and we became friends, somehow. I told you I had a Tumblr, but not a personal blog. You encouraged me to make one, and we followed each other. I have such complicated feelings about this. I was not a very good person then, I was a traumatized teen taking it out on the world in some pretty shitty ways. In a way, following you was what helped make me better. The things you posted was the last key in breaking down the bigoted views I had and seeing them for what they really were. For that, I am thankful.

But you also made me hate a part of myself.

I identified as aroace before we met, I think. Though the timing on that doesn’t so much matter as it does just knowing that I was using that label at the time I knew you. I remember your reaction when I told you, that you saw asexuality as a modifier, and not as it’s own identity. I was confused and maybe a little hurt. I’d seen ace discourse on tumblr before this conversation and it’d made me righteously angry, but here you were, someone whose opinions I held in high esteem agreeing with them. It was then that I noticed you reblogged plenty of aphobic and exclusionary posts. I started to believe there was a real degree of truth to it all, and that I should be ashamed of my identity.

It wasn’t until years later that, talking to a friend, they finally talked some sense into me. You’d already graduated at this point, so we were really only tumblr mutuals and never saw each other IRL. I realized, with some coaxing, why am I following someone who makes me feel miserable about myself? (As it would turn out, this was a pretty common occurrence for me. But that’s neither here nor there.) Some time later, I realized that my identity was different than what I thought. That I was actually an asexual lesbian, not aro. At this point I’d gained more confidence in the validity of the label, so I sardonically thought back to you and how you would’ve finally accepted me as sufficiently queer enough to be in the community you introduced me to. That pissed me off, still does honestly, because I was ALWAYS queer enough. Even when I identified as aro.

All of this is to say. I don’t know where you are now, what you’re doing or even who you are. I hope, I sincerely, truly hope, that you’re a better person now. That you don’t think the way you did when we were both teens. But I do know one thing.

Fuck the version of you who made me believe I wasn’t good enough.

Sincerely…. Pollyanna.

[forabeatofadrum]

Happy Wednesday March 22, Cosmo had an idea! Thank you @aroace-genderfluid-sheep​ and @artsyunderstudy​ for the tags. I have A Lot to say. A Lot. A Lot.

First off, I actually did some fic writing 🥳! It’s been a long while and it felt so good. It’s for my AU Please! fic and man it’s also been ages since I wrote for that fandom. It felt good.

“Zimms-”

He hears Kenny before he feels the hit. His body hits the glass and fans of the opposite team roar. This isn’t new. Jack’s life has consisted of hockey ever since he was a baby. He knows how to take a check, but this one is different. He slides down the glass and he closes his eyes.

He needs to get up.

But instead, everything goes dark.

Now, here comes the long part. It’s about my thesis. I’m gonna put it all under the cut, together with the weather, cause again, it is long.

So, I got my feedback on my theoretical background and it’s... mixed. As in, I did too much, and not gonna lie, I was kind of expecting that. While I was writing it, I was constantly thinking to myself “I am being nuts”. I have over 50 sources for 3000 words. Basically, I am not surprised at all that my main feedback was to cut things, but I am still kind of saddened about it, because I loved writing it and I put a lot of effort in it. But also, on the same vein, I am not surprised. Hence the mixed feelings lol.

Now, a lot of stuff can be saved by rearranging my theoretical background. I, uh, got so lost in writing down the interesting things that I found that I completely forgot this is a theoretical background that is meant to introduce my own research, not a meta-analysis of sorts of the phenomenon. I kinda completely forgot to ask my research questions in my paper. As in, yes, I need to draw conclusions based on the theoretical background, which is what I have done now, but I also need to describe what I am going to do with it. But yeah, even when I rearrange my stuff, a lot will be cut so what am I going to do? I am going to give it to you, to preserve it, because again I am still really happy with it.

It’s a lot. Don’t worry if you do not want to read it.

The representation of queer women is limited and the existing representation is not always positive. Something that could be improved is the way the looks of queer women are shown. Ciasullo (2001) distinguishes three types of appearance: 1. the very feminine lipstick lesbian, 2. the ugly butch and 3. the everyday girl. These three types cause the appearance of queer women to be represented in a non-political way, so they lack depth. Instead, they fill a role in the mainstream. The lipstick lesbian was first received positively, because it removed the previous stereotype of the angry, militant, butch lesbian who secretly wants to be a man deep down (Dhaenens, 2013; Jackson & Gilbertson, 2009), but through lesbian chic it changed them into an object for men to watch. Indeed, queer women are still marketed as fan service for men (Annati & Ramsey, 2022; Diamond, 2005; Jackson & Gilbertson, 2009; Nölke, 2018). The butch is still portrayed as a threat to heterosexuality: she is scary, dominant and not sexy (Ciasullo, 2001). If a butch is portrayed in a more positive way, then being a butch is portrayed as a phase (Nölke, 2018). Finally, there is the everyday girl. This agrees with what Dow (2001) and McCarthy (2001) write about Ellen. The everyday girl conforms to the heterosexual order, which immediately portrays her as non-political, non-sexual and non-threatening (Hantzis & Lehr, 1994).

Ciasullo (2001) also emphasizes in her article that these three types of appearance create additional problems for women of colour. Women of colour are more likely to be seen as less attractive, because they do not easily conform to white beauty standards. That is not the only problem when it comes to racial diversity: there is also skewed representation. Research shows that most queer women are white and that queer women of colour are more affected by racist stereotypes (Annati & Ramsey, 2022). This also creates negative consequences for fans of colour, because fans adopt the racist ideas (Pande & Moitra, 2017). On the other hand, queer women of colour are also presented in a conforming way, namely conforming to white culture (Pande & Moitra, 2017; Yue, 2014). This makes it difficult for fans of colour to express their own culture (Stanfill, 2019), because not all cultures benefit greatly from the Western “I’m Coming Out” narrative (Weber & Weeks, 2022).

As indicated earlier, the term 'queer women' is used instead of 'lesbians'. This is because there are more sexual identities than homosexuality. Yet homosexuality is the most common (Bond, 2015; Sender, 2011). Bisexuals and pansexuals are depicted less because they threaten binary ideas about identity. This is why bisexuality is often portrayed as “one or the other” (Allen, 2022). Bisexual women are still portrayed as prone to cheating (Diamond, 2005). Asexuals are almost completely invisible, or they are not taken seriously by the media (Chen, 2020). Most of the characters are cisgender (Nölke, 2018) and trans women who appear in the media are often victims of (sexual) violence (Abbott, 2022).

There has been improvement in recent years, with TV series such as Pose, which stars trans women of colour (Joyrich, 2022), but several articles indicate that there is still much room for improvement and argue for intersectionality (Annati & Ramsey, 2022 ; DeCeuninck & Dhoest, 2016; Rodriguez, 2019; Yue, 2014).

Damn, this is Kill your darlings.

Look, I am not saying all of this will be completely gone. And this isn’t even the only part that needs to be “cut”. I just need to shorten it a lot. I will find a place somewhere for the core findings of this section, but alas, it is still a shame.

And now, the weather @quizasvivamos​ @blurglesmurfklaine​ @coffeegleek​ @esperantoauthor​ @otherworldsivelivedin​ @caramelcoffeeaddict​ @sillyunicorn​ @bazzybelle​ @dragoneggos​ @raenestee​ @tectonicduck​ @nightimedreamersworld​ @urban-sith​ @thnxforknowingme​ @captain-aralias​ @you-remind-me-of-the-babe​ @takitalks​ @justgleekout​ @cerriddwenluna​ @tea-brigade​ @ivelovedhimthroughworse​ @moodandmist​ @whogaveyoupermission​ @bookish-bogwitch​ @confused-bi-queer​@ionlydrinkhotwater​ @1908jmd​ @special-bc-ur-part-of-it​ @larkral​ @chen-chen-chen-again-chen​​ @cutestkilla​​ @nausikaaa​​/@wellbelesbian​​ @martsonmars​​ @facewithoutheart​​ @shrekgogurt​ @boyinjeans​

[pride-flag-planets]

Hi!

I’m Theo (any pronouns + it/its + neopronouns)

Feel free to use any of the pieces on this blog as a pfp, header, wallpaper, background, etc. (with credit please!) Use it, modify it, destroy it. Go absolutely wild. I believe art should be set free to grow and evolve outside the original artist. However, these are for PERSONAL USE ONLY. I DO NOT APROVE OF USING MY DESIGNS FOR COMMERCIAL USE.

This is supposed to be a fun project for me and I do it in my free time. I don’t get paid for this. I make this for myself and for all the queer folks I can make happy with this.

List + links for completed ones under the cut

If you want me to draw something, send in an ask :]

Take my other art as an example of what I can do. But also feel free to ask me about something I haven’t drawn before and I’ll try my best.

I tend to do multiple versions with different backgrounds but not always

I’m absolutely willing to redo any of the flags I’ve already done.

Every post will be tagged to the best of my ability, if you know any other tag a post should have please tell me :]

Groups of 2+ will include #queer planetary system or #queer koi pond

To do list

(I am always taking requests, but right now im going through something also these are taking a while)

sapphic transmasc intersex

!!!! Very subtle !!!! Nonbinary, lesbian, ace (stars) planet.

Faeflux flag

No current projects :]

Completed

‼️‼️ A lot of these are old and don’t represent my current skill level. I am 100% willing to re-do any of the drawings I’ve already made to make them better ‼️‼️

Key:

🪐 #pride flag planets 🐠 #queer koi 🫙#pride potions 🌳 trees ☁️ clouds/fog 👾#arcade rug 🌼 #mandala ❓IDK how to categorize these

Individual

(Alphabetical)

🐠Abrosexual

👾Abrosexual

🐠Achillean

🫙Achillean

🪐Agender

🐠Aplatonic

🪐Aro Neu/Neu Aro

🪐Aroace

🌳Aromantic

👾Aromantic

🌼Aromantic

🪐Asexual

🌳Asexual

☁️Asexual

🫙Asexual

❓Asexual

🌼Asexual

🪐Autosexual

🐠Autospec

🪐Bigender

🪐Bisexual (no rings)

🪐Bisexual (with rings)

🫙Bisexual

👾Bisexual

🐠Demiboy

🐠Demigirl

👾Emojiself neopronouns

🐠Gay (mlm)

🐠Genderfluid

🪐Genderfluid

🫙Genderfluid

👾Genderfluid

🪐Genderqueer (no rings)

🪐Genderqueer (rings)

🪐Girlboy

🪐Intersex

🪐Lesbian

👾Nebularomantic

🐠Nonbinary

🪐Nonbinary

🐠Omnisexual

🪐Pansexual

🐠Pansexual

🐠Papyrusromantic

🪐Polyamorus

🐠Polyamorus

🪐Queerplatonic Relationship / QPR

🐠Queerplatonic Relationship / QPR

🐠Quoiromantic / WTFromantic

🐠Sapphic

🪐Transfem

🪐Transfemmasc

🐠Transgender

🪐Transgender

🫙Transgender (corked)

🫙Transgender (pouring)

🌼Transgender

👾Transgender

🪐Transmasc

Multiple

(Ordered from least to most recent)

note: planetary systems are named by their planet, and moons are in parentheses

🐠Aroace (Aromantic and Asexual fish with Aroace moon reflection)

🪐Transfemmasc (+Nonbinary, Trans, Genderfluid, Genderqueer)

🐠Lesbian + Asexual

🐠Bisexual + Asexual

🐠Aroace + Demigirl

🐠Bisexual + Non-binary

🐠Lesbian + Non-binary

🪐Bisexual (+Demisexual, Demiromantic)

🐠Bigender + Genderfluid

🐠Lesbian + Oriented Aroace

🐠Pansexual + Oriented Aroace

🐠Bisexual, Demigirl, Greyace

🪐Lesbian (+Asexual, Oriented Aroace, Aromantic, Nonbinary)

🐠Aroaceflux (aroaceflux, aroflux, and aceflux fish)

🐠Aroace (Aromantic and Asexual fish redraw)

🌳Aroace (Aromantic and Asexual split trees, some with Aroace background)

🐠Greyromantic + Asexual

🐠Aroace + Nonbinary

🪐Aroallo (+bisexual and quoigender moons)

🪐Transgender, Asexual, Aromantic

🐠AAA (aromantic, asexual, agender)

🪐Aroace (+demigirl rings)

🐠Transfem + Greyrose

🐠Transgender + lesbian

🪐Aroace Genderqueer (+genderqueer rings)

🐠Aromantic, Asexual, Genderqueer

🐠Pansexual + Agender

🪐Lesbian (+greyasexual rings)

🪐Transgender (+lesbian rings, asexual moon)

🐠Panromantic, Asexual

🐠 Aroace, Transgender

🐠Pan ace

🐠Bisexual, lesbian

🐠Lesbian, Agender

Fandom

(Probably won’t make a lot of these)

Generation Loss: Showfall Media supports all of our viewers

Deepwoken: Asexual Sharko

Deepwoken: Genderfluid Sharko

[sigynsilica]

Something I mentioned to my sister earlier that I have now been able to more thoroughly think through.

You know how the vast majority of media feels the need to generate some form of romantic subplot? To the extent that many romantic subplots are forced and don't fit into the themes or nature of the story? But the media creators feel obligated to put it in anyway?

I have a theory that this is why the representation of Lesbian, Gay, and Bisexual experiences are so much more represented than Trans, NonBinary, or Asexual – especially Aroace – experiences.

Sidenote: I'm obviously not saying LGB characters are overrepresented, I'm addressing the Trans, Enby, and Ace characters being criminally underrepresented.

I can think of only five or six trans characters in media off the top of my head. Maybe three nonbinary characters, and in media that I have seen? Only one canonical aroace character. (That's Lilith Clawthorne, btw)

The theory states that since lesbian, gay, and bisexual identities all have to do with romance and who a person could potentially be paired up with and shipped with, it's far easier for their identities to be represented in media, due to that incessant need for romantic subplot. But since being trans and nonbinary have nothing at all to do with who a person can canonically be shipped with, and being Aroace excludes the possibility of a ship in the first place, they're not as commonly represented. They don't already neatly fit into the generated world and storyline of what would be considered a popular story.

A few weeks ago, I was storyboarding with my younger brother (no hate to him, he's still learning), and I mentioned that one of the characters in the story was a trans woman. He asked me why I had made that decision, saying your typical stuff about how it didn't add anything to the story, and it would be forced diversity. I countered him with this: name one character in media that is canonically trans.

He couldn't. He'd never even heard of one. Part of that is because our parents shelter him in the same way they sheltered me, but it's also because there aren't very many. So how can this be forced diversity when in the real world, people are trans, yet in fictional worlds, people very, very rarely are?

The more I think about it, though, the more I begin to question if he might be on to something.

There are a lot of stories where a character's sexuality is integral to the plot, and a character being gay or bi actually does drive the story. We have coming out stories all over the place, stories exclusively about the gay experience. But if we have any stories exclusively about the trans experience, I've yet to see or hear of them.

I'm currently working on a story that is about the trans experience, specifically finding confidence and making space for yourself in the world as a trans person. When I first got the idea for the story, I was concerned it would come across heavy-handed, or people would call it propaganda. But to be honest, I don't care. I want there to be more of this kind of book in the world, so I'm making one.

And to any cis ally authors, or allosexual allies out there who want to write trans or ace characters: Do it. Please. If you're afraid of getting something wrong or playing too hard into stereotypes or making "bad representation", you're probably right. I'm afraid of that, and I am trans. That doesn't mean it isn't worth it. Every character is worthy of critique, and the way you get to a point where we have lots of good representation in the world is by having a lot of bad representation first.

Do your research. Talk to real people who identify with the label you've bestowed on your character, and listen to what they have to say. And when it comes down to it, you have more wiggle room in your characterization than you might think. There's a million different valid ways to be trans and ace, so unless you're being actively offensive, you're probably good.

Please write us. Our stories are important.