#its 9am andn im just having morning wake and bake thoughts

[ghilan-maim]

so la luz de mi vida (hi zee!) has made me listen to chappell roan now and i have some thoughts.

i can't speak for her, i know nothing about her other than she's a cute lil lesbian, but i have seen a lot of discourse over who is allowed to relate to her music and enjoy it and uhm.

guys yall good? i really love that her songs do often explicitly make it clear that she is, as a woman, talking to another woman. that's really great to hear !!! so happy for you lesbians.

BUT. and hear me out. i don't think it's insane that men and women and everyone else of all sexualities can and do relate to her music. i dont think its "bad" or "not for them" if they arent lesbians and i think its weird if you do.

the fact that her music resonates with so many people with so many different gender and romantic expressions, to me, just makes me feel good yanno? because it tells me this: it doesnt matter who you love or how you choose to love them, there are certain things that most humans want if theyre so inclined and who they want it with doesnt matter. the feeling is, largely, from the same place like.

i think its great if a gay man can relate to the feelings she writes. or a straight man, or a bi one, or an aromantic allosexual woman. or any flavor of nonbinary. or whatever other number of mixups there are in the world. because to me its like "damn that really is just a human experience huh" ***

idk. i see a bunch of people who love different people in different ways all being able to relate to her experiences she writes in her music as a good thing, actually, after how much people try to other the queer community etc.

it just shows how bitter people are, and how no actually youre not as progressive as you think if you say with your full chest that "only a lesbian could understand this"

im an aroace genderless freak and i understand the feelings shes talking about. because broadly speaking, people are more alike than different and it makes me feel good to see that in looking at the diversity of people ive seen who enjoy her music. idk just my thoughts.

***obviously there is nuance. i am aroace myself so these feelings i my life have been SUPER rare. i know some people never feel them, but the vast majority of people have or will so it is, very broadly, just a human experience. that doesnt make anyone who doesnt experience it other, dont try to twist my meaning.