#the most accurate words i use to describe me general basal feelings and emotions are very blue
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I would put this under a read more under the cut or whatever but I’m on mobile and I don’t think I can so basically I just need to dump this here to put it in my diary tag for future reference and posterity etc
So I’ve been back to watching crazy ex gf on Netflix after a long break (watching too much at once makes my own personality go a little crazy so I gotta be careful) and it helped me realise the context of my brain a little better. Unfortunately I can’t find the exact scene on YouTube so I gotta send the script quote instead which has less impact
...so I can’t even find the quote so maybe I paraphrased it in my dream idk. But anyway, not the point. So Rebecca has an emotional collapse and just... gives up. Like wholly and completely. Overdosed on antianxiety pills and gets sent to hospital for a psych evaluation bc clearly she’s not right
And this new doctor comes along and tells her he’s talked to her therapist and checked out her symptoms and thinks he’s maybe got a real accurate diagnosis for her
And it suddenly fills her with so much hope, and she sings this incredible song that might stay in my heart forever
https://youtu.be/nK2DlLmVc20
“Fake it til you make it” is my absolute motto I live by bc I always felt like I don’t feel like other people do. If I get caught up in the moment of something then I can have fun, sure, but generally? Day to day? I mostly just exist inside my own violet thoughts
Everything is just a hazy dark purple
So she sings this song about finally, _*finally*_ having hope that somebody can tell her why she feels how she feels and that there’s a way to cure it
And she’s looking at people who have mental illnesses and says ‘perfect they’re not but at least they know who they are’ (I’ll come back to this part later for another reason)
And that hit me like a ton of bricks
So I’ve been on antidepressants now for three years, but over those years I’ve tested a whole bunch and different concentrations (wait, doses? Science brain takes over sometimes) and even though the one I’m on now makes me feel... I guess stable, I still don’t feel... good
And every time I see my doctor she asks if it could be better
And it’s so hard to remember what I was like _before_ I started taking meds, but then I saw this episode and it just smacked me up the head
Like if you go from having long hair to bald, it’s an easy comparison, yeah? But what if you just chop centimetres at a time until there’s nothing left
It’s so hard to compare between what it was and what it now is
Just sort of realising that knowing what your problem is is a huge weight off your shoulders and I realised how different I am now from me back then
And then I was watching this and Rebecca was like ‘it’s too much effort to do things or see people or go outside or even just exist’ in the most heartbreaking voice, like completely not a deadpan joke, just absolutely broken down and reduced to basal nothingness, and I got like a sudden timetravel moment back to those feelings
When I was in high school I couldn’t hang out with my friends bc of anxiety. My mum forced me into the car to drop me off once and she had to drive me home after I couldn’t stop sobbing in front of my friends for 10 minutes telling them that I really wanted to hang out with them but I felt physically atrocious and was about to throw up my entire gastroinstestinal system
Realistically, one of my biggest issues is that I haven’t even been diagnosed with depression. I’m taking antidepressants but my doctor has never outright stated that I have depression
And even though I’m rational and I know the symptoms add up, there’s still this really quiet voice in the smallest corner of my brain rejecting it
Even back last year when I was in a flat by myself and not working bc I couldn’t find a job, I had... at least two absolutely gut wrenching breakdowns
I was crying so hard I couldn’t breathe, like a goddamn baby who can’t use their words to convey their feelings
And it sucked even more bc I CAN use words and I SHOULD be able to convey my feelings, and I just can’t
I cried for almost two hours
It was an awful wail/shriek and once I stopped hyperventillating it would start again
I’ve had anxiety literally as long as I can remember. I was never able to hang out with friends or go to a bathroom without my mum in a restaurant or even just go to a shop and buy something at the checkout until I started uni, and even then it was such a struggle getting through that
I still have that anxiety but now I’m able to boss it around better, but even then I shit myself when I have to go to a shop alone or just... have a professional opinion? Because I feel like an absolute fake
My entire being is just consumed by ennui (the most accurate definition being ‘a crippling listlessness’)
Even going to the doctor, I know it helps, but every month I get anxiety over making the appt, getting the train, seeing the receptionist, talking to the doctor, filling the prescription, making a future appt for the next month, getting the train back, and getting back to my flat
And the whole thing takes ~2h a month but it absolutely destroys me bc it’s not... I guess it’s not enough
I’ve never been seriously suicidal and I hope I never will be, but at the same time one of the reasons is... you have to have an actual desire to kill yourself
I don’t know the last desire I ever had
When I was in high school and my sister almost died in hospital from anorexia I had a complete break, bc my parents just went distant and I probably saw my mother... less than an hour a day. While I was 16. Once I woke her up to tell her I was going to school and instead of saying morning she said ‘I think your sister is going to die’
8am that happened at
I had to then deal with the anxiety of ‘how do I deal with going from being the older sister to the only sister’
If I could pinpoint a moment where I broke? That would be it
...getting back to your original point about how nice it would be to _live_?
I’ve never lived
Not once in my life
That’s why i was trying so hard with online dating even though I hate it so much, because I just want to figure out who the fuck I am and maybe that’ll help me live
It’s similar to the depression - I’ve never had the label so I don’t feel comfortable knowing what’s wrong
I can’t say ‘oh I have the flu, that’s why I feel shitty so it’s ok’
I’m never ok with feeling shitty just _because_, there’s almost always a reason
‘Perfect they’re not but at least they know who they are’ is the one thing keeping me going, that maybe if I work out who/what I am then I’ll start enjoying my existence
I have no major problems, nothing financial or emotional or physical, I’m privileged and surrounded by a support system I guess but I’ve still always felt an extreme detatchmebt
Recently I’ve found myself being super bitter and jealous towards things like the LGBT community bc it’s people celebrating their identity, and I feel like I don’t have one
And yeah ok I can tell myself things like ‘it’s fine to not have a plan’, ‘it’s ok to not know who you are you just need to find yourself’, ‘it’s alright not to get married and be in a committed relationship’, but there’s always part of me that can’t accept those things
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#text#im v much not expecting anybody to read this but if you do pls dont judge me#i just needed to be honest with myself for once and get things off my chest#the most accurate words i use to describe me general basal feelings and emotions are very blue#melancholy ennui and just plain ol morose
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