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brionysea · 20 days ago

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it's weird liking spider-man and the umbrella academy season 1 before becoming aware of the typical superhero genre conventions because then you're like 'oh THIS is all the stupid stuff they were subverting'

#spider-man #the umbrella academy #spidey is about protecting poor people from the perspective of poor people (also about a young person being the hero not the sidekick)#which apparently ISN'T OBVIOUS that THAT'S HOW YOU SHOULD DO THE STORY #and tua s1 is like 'making your children be soldiers is abusive and unethical and traumatic and only a monster would do that to a child'#AND THEY'RE BOTH RIGHT #then you look at batman and it's doing all of that stuff unironically #the cognitive dissonance is so weird #this is also what the switch from arcane s1 to arcane s2 felt like btw

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biggest-gaudiest-patronuses · 1 year ago

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anyone else have multiple traumatic memories associated specifically with holidays/family vacations? because that is a topic I never see discussed in all the So You Had A Shitty Childhood, Now What? self-help books i've been reading. but for me, it was a significant thing. and the more i think about it the more it seems like this would be an (unfortunately) common experience. would be grateful to hear if this matches other peoples' experiences...

#not a shitpost #serious post #ask to tag #tw trauma #cptsd #c-ptsd #and if so we should TALK about it #because it means there are a whole group of survivors out there whose mental health regularly worsens during holidays #like i know i am most certainly not the only person who feels an undefined Dread hanging over christmas/my birthday/july 4 etc #bc too many shitty things happened during those times and now my brain is hypervigilant bc traditionally these are the Danger Times #and this seems like it would be particularly common for survivors of abusive/dysfunctional households (aka most people with c-ptsd)#because holidays/vacations typically mean 1) the whole family is together/being forced to interact #2) and undergoing external stressors e.g. travel/relatives aka 'outsiders' visiting/routines & coping mechanisms being interrupted etc #3) there is social pressure for this to be a Fun Family Bonding Experience which only highlights the cracks in the foundation #and exposes the common Everything Is Fine/We Are A Happy Family lie #4) the cognitive dissonance of feeling tired/anxious/stressed/afraid during a time when you are 'supposed' to be Making Good Memories #and then everyone is angry/tired/anxious/triggered and things boil over and something or someone goes Very Wrong #weird that i'm posting this in october when halloween is...sort of the ONLY holiday i have only good and happy feelings towards #i got lucky there #also i have positive feelings towards Labor Day but that's for socialist reasons

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simcardiac-arrested · 3 months ago

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you were anything but.

#hi. sorry (stabs you) im so sorry (keeps stabbing you) (stabs you again) oh my god im so sorry (kee #anyways i have been thinking about their friendship so much for the past. A While #cd🥹 cd come back to me🥹🥹#and young sep …. young sep is like a wholly different version of him #he’s so 2 cycles old #and drawing him without eyebags feels so weird. it’s just wrong. paradoxical #and also the way they’re actually affectionate …. ghhh …. (cracks down the middle)#(runs away really fast)#myart #mycomics #oc: cognitive dissonance #oc: needless separation #😁😁😁(normal)#i am extremely normal about the implications of this comic. and about them. trust #i miss their friendship can someone bring it back. Please. Oh god #enough bad things we need to time travel to when everything was good

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tititilani · 2 months ago

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Isabela: You know, Taash isn't the first non-binary member of the Lords of Fortune we've had

Taash, apparently concussed from countless fights against dragons: Really?

Rook, nonbinary, a Lord of Fortune, and also sitting right next to them:

#dragon age the veilguard #dragon age #datv #taash #dragon age veilguard #bioware i love you but also what the fuck was this lmfao #by this point i had had SEVERAL conversations with taash about being nonbinary #and explicitly used options to relate to them using it #so for taash to suddenly develop amnesia and forget that was SO funny but also really fucking weird #their whole plotline kind of requires the use of cognitive dissonance to get through it anyways #which i have Thoughts™ about anyways #datv spoilers

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yesterdayiwrote · 4 months ago

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I do think certain people within Mercedes should maybe consider that a quote like that wouldn't be half as believable if Toto hadn't spent the last six months fawning like a lovesick teenager in the press and dropping quotes of a similar sentiment himself...

Once you start to doubt someone's integrity, you'll believe more and more scurrilous things about them with less and less questioning

#f1 #I guess it's a form of cognitive dissonance #I like to think of it as the couch fucker paradox #I do find it weird an account would just make it up #And he was on their fp1 coverage today #So either somethings got lost in translation or... idk #Just a weird situation all around #Few years back people would have read that and gone THERES NO WAY THEYD SAY THAT...#Now everyone is like 'yeah sounds like something they'd say'#I even had people in my inbox telling me it wasn't disrespectful 🤣

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zebratimw · 2 years ago

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Spirit animal SQH

#svsss #shang qinghua #but mainly I'm just here to vague post LMAO I don't like to vague post its not very effective in terms of venting but #but basically I guess I'm becoming hyperaware of my like... cognitive dissonance codependency and derealization ee #also my general laziness ig and where it overlaps into executive dysfunction or whatever like I may genuinely have some issues but #I am also a lazy son of a bitch jfjfkgkg and i need to figure out how to figure it out so I can work on both in more effective ways hhggg #oh yeah but basically the thing to remember for later is the silence in the call and the immediate unmute and chat activity once I left #I should remember this and stop interacting I think? I should try to give em space I think I'm being too clingy or something #or maybe my own silence is too awkward and dampens the call? I was kinda just spacing out and not doing anything so I get its kinda weird #LMAO so I should just like try not to be in call for those times mm #I just like being in call with my friends jdhfkg but I suppose its not very good either #I overindulge I suppose another friend pointed it out to me before too haha but fjfjjt its just easier than facing bouts of dread by myself #eehh and that's why I gotta do something about my Metnal Ailneses hfjfj but ngl I don't really know how to go about it...#I get embarrassed looking stuff up djfnfkg and half the time I don't even know what to look up I just draw ?s and I give up #I suppose I also have commitment issues too but that ones not new which is an issue of itself aaaaaaaa #man idk idk I just don't really get it I guess djdjfjf and I've got existential dreads and think maybe it doesn't really matter whats wrong #cause there's no point to fixing them because ultimately I'm gonna die alone and a failure anyways? so like ehfjgkg idk #its depressing and I know its like sabotage cause my brain is being a little silly a little goofy and its not a shared sentiment #with the better half of me and the entirety of my friends but yknow its just ee harder sometimes to believe in the optimism ig #and i can talk about it somewhat normally and without like having a ✨️break down #but yknow djfjgkg I'm very emotional a person ya? I think sqh is relatable for gods sake 💀#irrationality sentimentality nihilism and existential dreads... wanting to die because living is too hard despite all my hopes for living...#just the ol regulars yknow?#and another thing... do I talk to my friends about these things? I vent them out here a lot but what do I really want?#I'm not strong enough to keep it to myself clearly but I'm also too proud to share these thoughts? I dump them out in the open and for what?#whenever someone reaches out with concern and care I don't respond in kind and refuse to elaborate?#so like what do I want with this? I guess I want someone to know I'm going insane half the time I'm awake? but not do anything about it?#that's pretty unfair I guess... and stupid I think I do want to share my thoughts with someone but I'm too scared of the ramifications #and that my pride can't stand the fact I might be looked differently by my friends even tho the image they have of me is already quite silly #man.... idk.... I'll come to conclusions myself and do nothing about them so I guess that'll happen again aah idk idk idk

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featuresofinterest · 6 months ago

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anthropology museums are so weird. like the one at ubc is amazing but its whole vibe is "yeah this entire museum is full of stolen indigenous artifacts. yeah that's problematic and we feel bad about it. not bad enough to repatriate anything though :)"

#i know it's more complicated than that but like. there's some cognitive dissonance going on hereeeeee #i was standing in a room surrounded by northwest coast masks and i was just. overwhelmed. feels like maybe a lot of this shouldn't be here #actually anthropology in general is so weird. this is coming from someone who was one class shy of an anthropology major

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bare1ythere · 5 months ago

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Okay, I just finished Strange Aeons' Dashcon video and I have two major conclusions, but the more important one is that the general experience for the participants, not the vendors in the artist alley, guests, staff, or security, but the nerds who bought tickets and attended the con, was generally MUCH more positive than I thought it was. And also, that people on tumblr who were not there were MUCH more vicious and mean than I thought they would be.

#shut up me #like I dont know- I guess I have a very nostalgic view of tumblr before 2015 (before I signed up)#me and my older sister would look at ''tumblr at night'' posts on google images #and it just seemed like this bright place where young teens were really genuine and annoying (POSITIVE) about their interests #in a way that tumblr isn't now #This is still the be annoying about your fandoms website- but people are so much more reserved?#Anyway. I often forget that this is the same tumblr that had massive issues with callout posts and hate anons #And holy cow. The cognitive dissonance #of these people who went to dashcon and made friends in the ballpit and had a weird but ultimately kind of fun time #all the while people on tumblr /not even attending/ are filling their inboxes with hate for going to this horribly organized event #without foresight?#I dont think im gonna forget the mental image of people helping draft responses to mean anons in the convention hall #Like WOW #Incredible video. I kinda wish I could go to dashcon 2 ngl

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sillimancer · 2 months ago

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yknow when my therapist closed last week's session with a "so next week is the election please talk to me before considering dying" talk I kinda brushed it off but now it's two days away and there it is, that funny feeling once again.

#my diary #(feeling the need for a trip to inpatient amirite)#nah I'm fine I just wasn't expecting to dread it this much this time around #the amount of cognitive dissonance required to survive american politics is truly incomprehensible #the closest I've ever coming to understanding eldritch horror #there's a post that goes around here periodically that talks about how americans don't really have a cool kaiju like japan has godzilla #and I'm not really into kaiju media much but my friends are so I've been seeing more of it #and idk that post got its hooks into my brain and I got to wondering how a kaiju would manifest here #like what would that look like #but brother I think the kaiju is us #the american empire is the kaiju being inflicted on the rest of the world #and we're in-the-hills-in-the-cities-style bound to this unstoppable empirical monstrosity that's consuming and destroying the whole planet #and at this point in my life I feel like I woke up from the matrix but am still stuck and plugged into the battery pod #too weak to break free but you can't un-awaken (at least not entirely)#so you're just....... stuck in the pod and forced to occasionally re-enter delusion land to cast a ballot #like the ballot is going to affect the giant squid robots back in the real world somehow #this metaphor is getting away from me which means I'm ruminating so I'm gonna go play splatoon now #all this to say I hope kamala harris wins #and ha ha hee hee hoo hoo my therapist was right I'd get weird about the election even though I thought I'd be normal and fine

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karlachismylife · 2 months ago

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I saw your post about your gender feelings. Hang in there, bud.

If it helps, I was once told that no cis person ever questions "what they are", they just are. I get the imposter syndrome though, and the disconnect between your day to day and a small haven of peace where you can be yourself. I come from a conservative background, without any of the queer influences I enjoy today.

We're constantly growing, constantly learning new things about ourselves; I think that's part of the journey of being queer, rather than any indication you don't belong or aren't queer enough. You have a significant added challenge in exploring too and I hope one day they're gone. Much love and solidarity to queer Russians. 💜🤍💛💚

Already was on the brink of tears and now am crying, mate

Thank you, that thing about cis people not questioning kinda helped actually. I was told same about mental health issues (at least those can be confirmed with a paper and a stamp, huh). So i guess yeah. True. It's just the terf rhethoric about being confused and actually just seeking a way around patriarchy and all that bullshit that gets under my skin.

I'm happy you're free from those things in your past though, gonna live out my gay dreams through you and your art then, lol <3

I think another thing that is gnawing at me is that I am actually priviledged (and/or lucky). I had a lot of queer experiences that many other queer people here are absolutely robbed of. So it feels as if I'm kinda taking what they deserve more. Or that I can't be grateful enough for being able to have these things while others can't because I'm out here not even knowing what I am.

Anyway. Love wins. And we're here, proud and queer.

Love you 1969 times, thank you.

#juju's replies #on-a-lucky-tide #gonna come back to this a lot probably #also not me reaching for my cigs every time you mention nik's homophobic background in your works #although. i kinda like to imagine he was there in the heart of the soviet queer scene sometimes.#fun fact: for some reason my very homophobic mother was the one who showed me some “gay spots” here in moscow #i have no idea how she even knew #i mean like spots queer folks were gathering at like in the 80s #sorry i ended up ranting below in the tags you don't have to read it i really appreciate your support mate #you're a real one #my queer experience is so fucking weird mate. i literally used to kiss girls out in the broad daylight few kilometers away from kremlin #but had to invent hiding spots for the pride flag and socks my friends gifted me so that mum wouldn't throw them away (she still did)#also i think my dad knew despite me never mentioning it??? he just casually dropped something like about my “boyfriend. or girlfriend”#never elaborated #and i found out my sister was queer FROM HER GAY FRIEND #AS WE WERE OGLING TRAINERS IN A ROCK CLIMBING HALL WE WENT TO TOGETHER #and he was drooling over the guy. and i was over the girl. and he was like “oh so it runs in the family”#i was like ??? my sis literally never said anything we just started exchanging gay memes #everyone at school knew what i was and yet i still had to make my fairy tales only queer coded to avoid getting taxed for “propaganda”#it's just constant cognitive dissonance #but i do still have it so so so much easier than other queer people here #hell even people i went to school with had and have it worse than me #so not like i have much to complain about #gotta get a grip and fight for them #thank u.

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swinging-stars-from-satellites · 1 year ago

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#HNNNNNN #survived a full youth group overnighter none the worse for wear!!#despite some hits to my pride (wiffle ball. also I lost at foosball several times alas) I think mayhaps I am even better for it #had a full functional one on one conversation with the sound guy which was. wild #but I was just wondering how long he'd been doing production stuff so I asked and we talked about it for?? several minutes???#also girl it's so weird bc I really really do not want children but how is it that watching him be SO good with kids #is one of the most goshdang attractive things I've ever seen #like it's almost cognitive dissonance bc I can't stand the thought of having kids but I also love doing youth group #and also that is. very attractive to me that the sound guy is so good with kids.#I spent like half the time watching people play ping pong. I played ping pong a little bit too as previously mentioned #also ough I love being with the kids... being a youth leader is so so fulfilling #like I never thought it was a ''calling'' until this year but it fills me up so much #and I think the kids like me #at least one girl in particular likes me skdkfnskgnskgns #even though I'm a doof and don't know how to play baseball #I just hope that my motivations are for THEM and not for ME yknow??#Lu rambles

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citriosis · 7 months ago

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praying i can still get a ticket when i get paid. i am determined to go to this and have fun. i want to be able to have fun despite everything. i don't want to push too hard but i want to live my life. i want my autonomy. my body can attack itself all it wants. i'm going to have fun. i'm going to have fun. i deserve to have fun.

#; the citrus speaks #weird how a tour i'm calling the TIT is central to me understanding how important automomy is to me #so if i'm talking about it a lot i'm sorry #i just. sometimes i need to remember that it's okay for me to like......not be constantly suffering in a state of cognitive dissonance #this is really important to me on a level that it usually wouldn't be #i'm going to fight for my autonomy so i can have a GOOD FUCKING TIME AT MY FIRST FUCKING TOUR.

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isan0rt · 2 years ago

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Kingdom Hearts really is the wildest shit [affectionate] sometimes though like, it's so sincere and heartfelt and so I totally forget sometimes about what kind of wacky Who Framed Roger Rabbit logic this series operates under, right. I just don't notice it. And then I suddenly remember that in one game two different characters get banished to The Void for a decade and one of them is a Jedi anime girl going through the most devastating, existential Dante's Inferno nightmare after making a crushing choice to sacrifice herself for a friend, and the other is Pete the Cat who is getting punished by Minnie Mouse for cheating at Go-Karts.

#Kingdom Hearts #this only came up for me because i am playing Isa as a very serious character on a personified panfandom rp board #and i suddenly had to justify why this very serious character with a really dark backstory was suddenly just not bothered by like #his best friend in this setting getting comedy slapstick stabbed because she is Zagreus Hades and like that's how Hades is #and i had to be like oh because this dude is from Kingdom Hearts #the game where Donald fucking Duck gets literally flattened by a door in the first four hours of the series #of course he can just cognitive dissonance away that this woman is a cartoon character so it's fine lmao #very weird experience for me though

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clit-a-cola · 5 months ago

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A child got mad at me for telling her she's homophobic on my own post, told me to go to a dyke march, then blocked me

Back in MY day when you were called out for homophobia you just doubled down and and owned up to hating gay people! Kids these days :/

#blogging #Apparently bisexual women saying it's ok to call themselves dykes #means it's ok to call themselves dykes!#You don't even have to ask any actual lesbians!#I have some great news for suburban white boys who love rap.#homophobia #Rip though I do feel for the younger lgb kids today.#Cause like again Back In My Day #people were just like proud to be homophobic.#They didn't try and pretend that actually they love gay people and are even gayer than them so who's the real homophobe lol #It's similar in that #they def still think they're the good guys who are in the right #and that they're somehow persecuted for being called out on their homophobia.#But now there's this weird extra layer of cognitive dissonance.

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moredifferentthanusual · 1 year ago

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Hey people of tumblr I have an idea of a way to help support Gaza. This one's especially for people living in Christian areas with a lot of mainstream acceptance of israel. It's only a few days until Christmas and as for all Gazans, things are incredibly desperate for the small population of Christian Gazans. In particular here are some articles talking about fears all Christians in Gaza will be dead soon.

So how about we call up our local churches and ask what they're doing to help the people of Palestine?

The articles I've linked come from a variety of backgrounds. Some predate oct 7th. All focus on the plight of Christians in Palestine. Take your pick for what source you think will speak to your audience.

I want you to find a church that is ignoring the genocide or even praying for israel and then point out it's not just people being murdered. It's their people being murdered. Contact your local church like "Hey I'm Name, I'm not really a member of any church these days but it's Christmas and I really want to do something to help people in Palestine. I was wondering if you have something planned over Christmas? Maybe a prayer meeting or a protest or something idk 🥺" Then if you recieve any pushback switch to "oh but I'm just sooooo worried about our fellow Christians unable to celebrate Christmas".

It's a great place to ease people into caring about genocide who normally wouldn't. And if you convince a priest they might tell their whole congregation about how this christmas they have to show up for persecuted christians in jesus' birthplace. Worth a try?

#free palestine #free gaza #christmas #christians in gaza #i did not fact check the articles i linked i wanna be upfront about that #this is from a place of emotive headlines i assume ppl will barely skim bcus thats how ppl engage with me when i link them things #i skimmed the articles and i straight up dislike some of them!#some of them are from right wing backgrounds so ugh #some make such a point of bashing hamas and its like sure yes hamas have done some bad things too does this really need such focus rn #but i reckon some ppl will have a way easier time with their cognitive dissonance if you gave them that article rather than a more focused #also and this is obvious i am not an expert maybe my idea isnt that good pls school me if im an idiot #im not palestinian #im white and was raised christian and like i read the part where they said being mean was a sin and was like okay why are yall ignoring????#so basically this is coming from my background with christian cognitive dissonance and how what they say and what they do are very at odds #but if you learn to point that out using juuuuuuust the right lingo you can make them do better #they generally genuinely do want to be good they just Do Not See the same things i do #and like my autistic ass cant see what all the other kids at church saw so diversity ig #also heads up if you do this you have to be down to pray like a bunch with nice people on the phone or whatevs #the churches i rang arent having separate prayer meetings but did pray with me on the phone and like my relationship with religion is weird #but it was ~emotional~#anyway they are all already praying for palestine near me so thats something ig #i checked in on a church that kinda scared me out of the faith by being homophobic years ago and theyre already prayin #so like idk everyone in the world really is praying for gaza

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zemnarihah · 7 months ago

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i hung out w my roommate and a couple of her friends last night and it was fun but it was a little surreal they were just... so different. from me.

#every single one of them has gone on a mission. and are now out of the church (kinda)#ppl not living in utah may not understand this but there is a phenomenon that happens to me a lot i think maybe bc i attract ppl who are #in the process of leaving the church #where you will talk to someone and ask them if they're mormon and they'll go 'well.... im kind of figuring that out right now'#and i have had this exact conversation a million times and it's very strange bc they're in a phase of cognitive dissonance with the church #that i went through at like 13. so i relate in a way and i know it's part of the process but it is strange seeing adults go through that bc #it's a very different experience #like when ur talking casually abt drinking and smoking weed and having sex and then get uncomfortable when i say 'oh my god'#just strange. i think i need to remember to be patient abt it but it's so weird seeing people kind of cling to the idea that they are still #somehow connected to the church when they hold no belief in the doctrine and don't follow a lifestyle that's conducive to it at all #but i get it. it's scary to let go #separation can be a terrifying thing... etc

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