#that’s the only way to learn | Explore Tumblr Posts and Blogs

becauseimanicequeen · 13 days

Text

It’s great that Joe has someone on his side. I’m all for loyalty and protecting the people I love. But, at the same time, there are moments when Sol needs to back the fuck off so Joe can get a chance to deal with shit on his own.

And it’s definitely not loyalty to steer the one you love in the direction you want them to go. I get that Sol is scared to lose Joe again, but there’s a difference between loyalty (and genuinely wanting the best for Joe) and manipulation in a desperate attempt to keep Joe away from Ming. How can Joe ever deal with Ming if he never gets the chance to deal with Ming (no matter what the outcome may be)?

Will Joe never catch a break? Even his friends are manipulative bitches, lol.

#if I was Joe’s friend #I’d be there when he needed me #but I would also give him tough love and tell him to deal with his own shit #that’s the only way to learn #that’s the only way to grow #and I would definitely respect his decisions because it’s his life #he has the right to choose for himself #and I would be there to support him through it all #my stand in #my stand in the series #thai ql #thai bl #thai series #my shit

36 notes · View notes

cowboybrunch · 1 month

Text

i love when characters get angry when they're frightened. shelter dog characters. i love when they bite, not able to tell the difference between a hand that feeds and a hand that strikes. there is no difference. a hand is a hand is a fist. i love characters that are deemed unadoptable. unlovable.

and i love when someone loves them. i love when someone sits with them, patient. they don't flinch at the snarling and snapping. they're not trying to fix it—there's nothing to be fixed. this is you, all of you, and ill wait. because one day, one day you'll take the treat. go on, draw my blood. spit and curse and rage. you're safe with me. one day, you'll feel safe with me.

#savrambles #im in a Mood #thinking about my actual dog with actual behavior issues #and shes such a sweetheart but she was also a stray #and learned to defend herself the only way she knew how. with teeth #and i looked at her in that little cage. all raised hackles and curled lip and sad sad eyes #and i knew. i just knew. kindred souls and all that #ANYWAYS

11K notes · View notes

chloesimaginationthings · 17 days

Text

FNAF Michael refuses to be gaslit on “THE BITE OF 83”

#myart #chloesimagination #comic #fnaf #five nights at freddy's #michael afton #vanessa fnaf #fnaf vanny #fredbear #fnaf 4 #security breach #fazbear entertainment #fnaf fanart #literally like what is fazbear entertainments damage BAHA #IDK if you guys know this #In the pizzaplex era the in universe cover up for the bite of 83 #is literally Fredbear eating burgers #it’s on arcade cabinets and even irl merch #they’ve just made Fredbear a ‘hungry’ guy #which is so crazy what a way to spin Michael’s most traumatic moment #Michael here was just joking around he didn’t expect a legit answer back #Vanessa feels bad too she knows this is in poor taste..#honestly no joke I think ‘Fazbear entertainment’ is like #one of my favourite parts of the new fnaf era #you learn sm about them in subtle ways what lengths they’ll take for a quick buck #truly their only evil is their capitalism it’s great #sorry to Michael Afton again though they love to profit off your misery

5K notes · View notes

giantkillerjack · 1 year

Text

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need.#the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist.#the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28!#a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents.#they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong.#and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives.#you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead?#or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of.#no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow.#i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong.#just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

17K notes · View notes

ryssbelle · 3 months

Text

Drew a bunch of Marinettes in a bunch of different artists styles it was a lot of fun!!

Artists who's styles I mimicked: @buggachat @hamsternamedmarinette @ladybeug @sabertoothwalrus and @anna-scribbles all epic artists 🤟😎

#my art #marinette dupain cheng #miraculous ladybug #miraculous fanart #style mimic #sorry for the @s btw #yall should go follow those artists if you dont already also #this was sort of inspired by a post the three artists on the top row made #i think they all got together and drew with one another #which is really cool #but i was genuinely confused because i mimic styles a lot #and ive seen others do it too so i was just like #wow they really know each others styles really well #until i thought about it and read their posts some more #style mimicking is really freaking fun and i think its really good practice #and a good way to explore other ways of doing things #like you really have to learn new techniques and get out of your comfort zone #also anna scribbles i could not find a recent pic of marinette in her main outfit #so thats the only marinette i drew in different clothes cuz i couldnt find a more recent ref of you drawing it #anna scribble marinette has privileges thats the others dont #but ye #i also threw my own style in there as a frame of reference to what me draw like #ive drawn marinette before just not in a loooong while #sabertooth walrus was the hardest for me to mimic cuz they have a broad range in their style #so its like which sabertooth do i wanna be in this pic #Buggachat has such a distinct style thats very clean and consistent which is amazing so they were easy #being easy or hard arent bad things either it also has to do with like styles meeting up with one another #buggachats and mine arent too too different in some shapes and aspects #so yeah itd be easier plus they drew marinette like 3 sec ago so i have more recent of a ref #as opposed to sabertooth who i have a recent ref of ladybug but not marinette so we got two diff styles in one

3K notes · View notes

appalachianapologies · 2 years

Text

There are many new friends on the archive, and many are young and have only known social media, which is why I wanted to say something!

Ao3 does not have an algorithm! It isn't a social media site, it's an archive.

Posting fics on Tumblr isn't the same as posting fics on Ao3

Ao3 is like a giant virtual bookshelf, and everyone is able to add their own stories to the bookshelf, all stored with different tags and different fandoms. Works are automatically sorted by newest to oldest, but filters, looking at bookmarks, and using the search function can change that.

Certain works are not pushed to the top like social media posts. More kudos and reads don't push a single work to more viewers by some algorithm. Unless otherwise filtered, works will be at the top of the page based on how recent it was posted.

Smaller fandoms get less views, less kudos, less bookmarks, and larger fandoms get more simply because of the number of people inside the fandom.

Ao3 is a giant virtual bookshelf- there is no algorithm, and there is no man behind the shelf pushing certain books forward.

Happy reading, and if you'd like to have more people notice a fic, why not share it with them! Send a dm to a fandom friend and it might turn into one of their favorite fics!

#ao3 #archive of our own #organization for transformative works #i have admittedly only been a member of the committee for a couple of years BUT ive been a member on ao3 since i was much younger #and it took me a hot second to understand how ao3 works; so i wanted to write a lil post about it after seeing this comment #no shade or blame to the person who wrote this by the way!#after being on social media so much it's a completely understandable mistake and i totally get it #and in fandoms populated by younger ppl typically it's even more understandable!#so absolutely no hate no shade no passive aggressiveness #but i do think it is important to learn how the archive works #so if you'd like to share this it would be greatly appreciated! <3 #okay have a good day sorry this post/tags became so long haha

43K notes · View notes

bubblingsteam · 2 months

Text

#disco elysium #disco elysium fanart #kim kitsuragi #harrier du bois #harry du bois #this is probably one of my fav conversations in the game...#sad that not many people get to see it(?) cause you need like 7 in empathy?#comics #comic art #trans #cw blood #blood #cw smoking #my first time making a comic i hope it looks okay lmao #ough i have so many thoughts about kim and his complicated relationship with his name #im interpreting the dialogues in a very transgender way but its definitely about his racial identity too #cause its a *seolite* name #another factor of him not being seen as a revacholian #and its one of the only things he has left of his parents too #i wonder if the name kim is seen as more masculine or feminine in seol and in other isolas?#im definitely *not* projecting haha #i read once in a fic that kim *attempted* to translate his parents' letters when he was young #10/10 fic made me cry #thats why i decided to add the seolite dictionary - i dont think kim would have *tried* to learn seolite otherwise #he definitely has some kind of internalized racism he needs to get over #sorry for rambling #my art

1K notes · View notes

orpheuslament · 11 months

Text

isnt it amazing we live in a world where theres poetry. why is nobody else going insane about it

#like!!!? we learn words & then we learn to turn them into beautiful things because its the only way we have to even begin to express whats +#inside all of us.#theres been poetry for as long as theres been written word & you expect me to be normal about it????????#dante.txt #on poetry

4K notes · View notes

theabigailthorn · 6 months

Note

You're not uniquely talented or hard working you just went to the right schools.

Yes, yes! This is exactly why I started Philosophy Tube! Why shouldn't someone else, anyone else, have access to the education I got??? The intellectual and cultural heritage of our species is for everyone, not just privileged people like me! :)

#something else I'm learning from friends with ADHD is that I'm privileged to have the kind of brain that works in a way our society rewards #AND the institutions that I was able to attend and use to grow were often themselves the product of a society that not only excluded #but actively exploited other people!#And still do!#So not only should we widen access #We should give people the power to critique those institutions too #Education should give you power over your own life

2K notes · View notes

mobius-m-mobius · 9 months

Text

Mobius, I know you’re trying to help me, but we should be dealing with the bigger problem here. He Who Remains.

#mobius #loki #lokius #mcuedit #marveledit #lokiedit #loki spoilers #them crammed in the corner only to pan across a whole damn mile of empty space to that poor employee took me OUT 💀🤣#and loki trying to move even closer!!!#no matter which timeline they'll never learn personal space i'm sure of it 🙏💖#and fr their chemistry... god i'd watch them go back and forth on a topic of choice over literally any other media in existence #also i'm so obsessed w/ the way owen says 'horrible' PLEASE don't ask how many times i've replayed the clip .___.#owen wilson #marvel #owenwilsonedit #dianagifs

3K notes · View notes

ventresses · 9 months

Text

Star Wars: The Clone Wars (4/?) - Quinobi

Star Wars + Text Posts & Headlines

#in retrospect this is based WAY more on my Quinobi headcanons than the reality of Quinlan's character #plus i'd only seen this episode and read the first part of Dark Disciple #so i was going off of that like flirty and laid-back bro energy when making these #i've come to learn broader canon and legends his character is portrayed with a lot more depth #and i regret that these memes don't do that justice #quinlan vos #obi wan kenobi #quinobi #star wars #star wars the clone wars #hunt for ziro #tcw memes #star wars memes #mine #star wars text post #TCW text post #the clone wars

2K notes · View notes

posalis · 1 month

Text

challengers twitter pointed out something very cool: art's coach speaking to him in german!

the subs says "just invite her to serve." (which doesn't make any sense? and art doesn't even go to her after that lmao?) but he apparently actually says "wirf den ball etwas h��her." which means "throw the ball a little higher.".

so art knows what patrick's house looks like which means he went there, he understands when his coach speaks to him in german and he's the only one who can pronounce "zweig", a german surname, the right way.

art learning german for patrick and spending holidays with him and his family is canon, i don't make the rules.

#challengers #art donaldson #patrick zweig #idk if a lot of people actually noticed that but i didn't so!!#showing intimacy in such subtle ways... challengers knows how to talk to me #artrick #patrickart #artpatrick #“ZWWWWEIG” lol #anyway putting little nice things like this for non english speakers only to understand is so cool #this with germans #pensiero stupendo for italians #“l'oeuf” track (beach scene) being pronounced “love” for the french #to me; a french person; “l'oeuf” sounds more like “laugh” but i don't see why it would be called like that #and “love” obviously fits the track and their discussion on the beach wayyyy more so #anyway i love it #idk if i prefer art learning german for patrick OR patrick teaching art some german #art wanting to learn SO patrick taught him is the best i think

1K notes · View notes

madeofjules · 13 days

Text

I can't believe there are people who think Katniss and Peeta's ending is boring or lame. Two people who were tributes in the same arena TWICE living out their lives together in peace is literally the greatest act of rebellion in the story.

#it's actually mind-boggling that people don't see how radical their ending is #it's literally not supposed to be possible #the odds are stacked against them from the beginning and they keep finding a way #and people are really like 'she only ends up with peeta because he's the only one there'#learn how to read i beg #everlark #the hunger games

499 notes · View notes

your-turn-to-role · 1 year

Text

moment of appreciation again for what is possibly my favourite later game percy quote that everyone always forgets about