#that people in horrible marriages

[turtlesallthewaytomgreg]

their relationship devastates me.

Tom and Shiv • Succession 2.10 — 3.09

[happytyrantsubmarine]

no one will understand me for this sorry 💔💔💔

[uncanny-tranny]

I think another aspect of conservative thought people need to understand is the idea that it's all about dominance.

The reason why sayings like "we don't want to trans your kids, we want trans kids to live" is because, in the conservative mind, you are replacing their dominance with your own. It can never be about what is best for others, it is always about expressing absolute power and control.

Natural selection, at its ideal, will weed out the people who "shouldn't live." If their existence is a threat to the already-established hierarchy, then it's obvious that they shouldn't exist in order to challenge hierarchy.

While this certainly isn't a "conservative-only" mindset, it's a trend I have noticed more in conservative spaces. This is why I don't always think it's helpful to go on about how, "Oh, we don't want to threaten your worldview. We just want people to live 😊". You will fundamentally be threatening their power in their minds. Therefore, nothing you say can truly take away from the anxiety, fear, and anger at losing control that may be instilled.

[eye-of-the-phoenix]

HAU is the saddest ND game bar none in my opinion. Fundamentally so depressing!!!

[thatscarletflycatcher]

One of the biggest problems of writing that Frasier post is that the logic of 90s comedies is not real life logic. It's not just that you can just pick which exaggerated thing to believe more (and sometimes you need to outright pick between two mutually excluding canon facts), but also the degree to which you believe anything. Which is fun for theorizing but also terrible for theorizing because to argue one way or another you need to create the fiction that the coherent narrative you are pointing out has value of truth in a universe where the value of truth is the rule of funny.

[scorpiusmalfoylovesoscarwilde]

NAH NO ABSOLUTELY NOT TELL MEEE TEEEELLLLL MEEEEEEE WHY I WAS PEACEFULLY SCROLLING TIKTOK AND I SEE ONE COMMENT SECTION FLOOODEEDDD WITH SHIT LIKE "astoria greengrass hate club lol" "astoria haters ⬇️⬇️⬇️" "I can't stand astoria" WHAAATTT WHAT THE FUUCCKK WHAT ARE YOU EVEN ACTUALLY FUCKING TALKING ABOUY WHTA THE VBGAGSJSLW I CANNOT EVEN COMPREHEND WHAT THE FUCK YOU ARE ON ABOUT IM GONNA FUCKINGFHFHFJFUFKM WHAT DO YOU EVEN MEEAAANN SHUT THE FYCK UPP OH MY GOD WHAT WHAT DID SHE EVER DO?????

anywayz number one astoria greengrass defender love her so much I will skin your whole body with my teeth if you try and fuck with her that is MY GIRL <3<3<3

[buoyantsaturn]

everybody should include michael in their fics. this extra 2 feet of attitude thing he has going on is doing wonders for this scene

[coachbeards]

I just do not know if some people realize that Michelle not liking Ted’s constant optimism … was because it was a flaw of his lmao. A byproduct of 30 years of trauma. Ted has a MASK. that’s what even sharon calls him out on when they first have a proper conversation…Ted has a mask. And he has for years. And when you’re married to someone who won’t take that mask off because they can’t, you can get a little tired with it

[my-thoughts-and-junk]

a character's self-deprication being what keeps them from being in a relationship can be really good but mostly when the self deprication is 1. justified and 2. only no longer an issue because their significant other is Into whatever they're angsting about

[deus-ex-mona]

genuinely, though, this has truly been a time to be a lurker on jp music project twt

[fromtheseventhhell]

Honestly, If we're talking about female characters who receive misogynistic hate then Lyanna needs to be high up on the list. She gets so much hate for a) her proximity to a male character (Rhaegar) b) the pure fanon that people have invented surrounding her and c) resentment that she's such an important part of the story. And the thing is, for as relevant as she is, we simply do not know enough about her character to justify the hate that she receives. A lot of it is just people inventing reasons to dislike her. I also find it funny that a lot of people who dislike her are Rhaegar antis who characterize their relationship as forced and non-consensual, but then they'll still find reasons to hate her for it. She's supposedly bratty and immature, but also somehow intentionally seductive and evil for "stealing" Rhaegar and hurting Elia 🙄. I wish people would learn to separate canon from fanon when it came to discussing these characters.

[floralovebot]

listen,, i am Not defending all of sky's actions or his personality but he's genuinely just not as bad as the fandom makes him out to be.

a lot of y'all forget that sky is a prince with extremely overbearing and downright abusive parents that refuse to listen to him or treat him with any ounce of respect. and that the whole diaspro vs bloom situation was started directly because his parents forced an arranged marriage between diaspro and sky, constantly telling her parents that it would work out and never listening to sky the hundreds of times he tried to stop it. like again, he's not great, he's my least favorite specialist. but that situation was never in his favor. he was a 16 year old that dealt with strict, emotionally abusive parents his entire life and got forced into an arranged marriage with someone he never loved and was constantly told that it Needed to happen for the kingdom. trying to play it out like he's a serial cheater with some nefarious master plan is like,, really weird. again! not a great person he does a lot of shitty things. but blaming that specific situation on him, a teen with absolutely no say in his life who just met someone he genuinely likes and could love, instead of his parents is incredibly weird to me.

[femmchantress]

I was talking to my husband about Catholicism last night and how fucked it is that mainstream Catholic institutions are still not on board with divorce of all things. Like, of all the regressive, institutionally backwards ideals held by mainstream religious bodies it really blows my mind that the Catholic church is one of the few clinging to the idea of divorce as an innately irreligious behavior

[likehandlingroses]

It is clearly a very bad idea for Oscar to just marry a woman and expect it's going to be fine

but the number of people who really think he's going to leave the church and immediately ignore his spouse and make it so obvious to her that he's not romantically interested (or actually even interested in her at all)...literally you would have to ignore everything about his stated intentions to believe that scenario is even something that has crossed his mind.

[daisyachain]

here i go again. I think I’d be a lot more tolerant of f/m romances in work if any of them actually engaged with the dynamics of heterosexuality. The two characters, no matter how much they like each other or get along, are performing the roles laid out for them. A script exists for their situation. In liking each other they are in some way bending to the whims of society (or not in the case of caste/class/etc differences. but those aren’t explored often either). The dynamics of their relationship have been already laid out and prescribed for them. He was a boy, she was a girl. He was supposed to treat her badly, ignore her whims, take control of their mutual lives. She was supposed to quit her job and hobbies, support his endeavours, relinquish independence. Even in e.g. sci-fi set in a world free of misogyny, we the audience still expect a degree of gender conformity from a f/m relationship.

This should introduce some interesting drama. Shouldn’t it! If people are getting into a relationship where they have to bury their own desires and dance out the little steps they’re supposed to--shouldn’t that cause tension? Angst? Shouldn’t there be some sort of fear that they don’t actually like each other, they’re just doing the done thing? Shouldn’t there be internal conflict over whether they have to adhere to gender roles to make the relationship work? When this does happen it’s fun and interesting.

Ao no Flag does it. Relationships between female and male characters are strained, torn, twisted by the crushing pressure of a) inevitable heterosexuality b) having to perform gender roles to pass the heterosexuality test. I’ve heard that Pale Moonlit Dusk and Lovely Complex do it, though I haven’t read them. But time and again I keep getting reminded why I avoid anything with a romance in it

[roobylavender]

i think one of the things i want to do over break for funsies is like. rewatch every pak drama of the major contemporary writers nationally hailed as progressive (e.g., umera ahmed, farhat ishtiaq, sameera fazal, etc.) and see how many of the male leads i come out actually still liking. like i want to make an excel spreadsheet cataloguing every red flag that went under my radar as a kid. for science