#thank you so much for sharing

[bloggingboutburgers]

Hey, allo anon with an ace partner here. I wanted to say thank you so much for the well wishes! I figured I would send this in here again, so anyone else who is curious about what this experience looks like from the other side can see it.

My girlfriend came out to me a little over 2 years into our relationship. At the time it surprised me a lot, because she'd never given me any signs that she wasn't enjoying what we were doing. After we talked more I understood that she wasn't repulsed by sex and she didn't hate it, but she didn't really love it either and wanted to stop doing it for a while (so a sex-neutral ace).

Honestly, at the time, I did get anxious about it. Not just because of social conventions, but because I had viewed sex as an important bonding part of our relationship. I don't do well with change, and I was super worried about how a lack of sex would change our dynamic. I also had some insecurities about my own body, and my girlfriend admitting that she didn't see me as sexy was upsetting. But after speaking to my therapist, I realized that I was projecting my own issues on to the relationship. So I spoke with her again, and she reassured me that she wanted to be with me, and that she was confiding these feelings because she trusted me. She likes how I look, she just doesn't have the same sexual impulses I do.

So, I realized this was pretty much like cuddling. I love physical touch a lot, and I want to cuddle for a much longer time than she does. I like it when someone lies on top of me. She doesn't want me on top of her chest during cuddling. She still cuddles with me, but she tells me when she's satisfied, and we stop.

A few months went by, and I noticed that she wasn't spending any less time with me; she was actually spending more. We would still call every evening when we didn't meet up in person, we would still joke around, and she still told me she loved me and did everything she could to show it to me. We also began trying out new stuff together, and playing games and watching stuff more often. We also still had plenty of physical intimacy with things like cuddling and kissing, which made me really happy.

I realized that I didn't feel like anything was missing from the relationship. I just needed her to show and tell me she loved me in the ways she normally did. Sure, I am still attracted to her that way, but it wasn't something that would make or break the relationship.

It's been years since she came out, and at this point, I never expect anything sexual. It happens rarely, and I always check in with her multiple times before and during. We stop at any point she tells me. There are quite a few hard boundaries about what is and isn't off limits, and I always keep them in mind. I would rather satisfy myself forever than make her uncomfortable, and she knows it.

It's been over 5 years and we are still going strong. I am hoping to ask her to marry me in the next few years, because honestly, I can't picture wanting anyone else by my side. She is kind, funny, beautiful, intelligent, and treats me well. I could never ask for anything more from a partner.

Thank you SO MUCH for sharing. I myself definitely lack knowledge of what it feels like from an allo's perspective, so this was very educational for me, but beyond that... You have no idea how much hope this gives me.

From you being aware of how much sex meant to you in the context of your relationship and still being fine without it, to just... Heck, even your therapist for not blaming her for the situation. Therapy is still very much, in my country at least, an area where the absence or lower levels of sexual attraction will be hastily labelled as something wrong physically or mentally, so... Yeah, the amount of relief I felt reading that, you have no idea. And I can only imagine how much your partner appreciates it too.

Honestly I teared up a bit reading this - I sincerely wish you guys all the best and I hope you have a bright future ahead! (Also fun fact, seems you guys have been together as long as my partner and I have, it's nice to be able to relate to that too hehe^^)

[minyard-05]

What do you think of aaron learning to crochet/knit (to help with surgical dexterity) but not telling anyone and everyone just starts finding little knit/crocheted stuff (key chains, bags, scarfs, cat toys! Etc) around there rooms and there's a huge mystery on who's doing it (Idk where I was going with this but I find it cute)

(Not sure how aaron would do it without no one seeing him, maybe katelyn gets him into it and he only does it round hers)

aaaaa anon i love this so much actually!!! i can imagine him and katelyn learning together actually and they combine it with studying so they test each other, one reads out questions and the other answers and knits oh my goddd making each other little keychains and then aaron makes foxes for each of the og nine and wymack and abby and maybe he even makes a bee for betsy and he does this for YEARS and then none of them figure it out until the cousins graduate and they stop finding things and robin and neil call andrew and nicky and it wasnt either of them so they finally call aaron like 'were you making all those little knitted things????' and hes just like yea why

[jewish-vents]

I’m Jewish through my dad but I wasn’t raised in the community(i learned what Purim was two weeks ago, i was fully not in it), so when I got to college last august I decided to really dive in and it’s been a beautiful sort of homecoming for me. I joined SAEPi and got into Chabbad leadership at my campus, and I’m almost at the point where I can do the Chabbad Shabbat prayers before and after dinner without stumbling over my words. Gonna surprise my grandma if I see her in the summer. Anyways.

When October 7th happened it was a shock to my system, because I was a baby Jew barely getting my feet. My parents never mentioned antisemitism to me as something that could affect me in the future, it was always a thing of the past. But I was right there standing in the doorway between jew-ish and Jewish, and it pushed me over the edge. I had many friends with family in Israel. I had a couple friends whose friends died in the attack. Everyone in that group was my family. It felt personal.

When the march in dc happened I went with one of my friends, and it was sad, but amazing to see in person how strong we are. In the plane terminal on the way home he and I got cornered and called baby killers, among other things, because he was wearing a kippa and his Israeli first responder coat. That was my first time experiencing antisemitism and it was terrifying, even though I didn’t get hurt. It was terrifying even though my friend was built like a tank and would’ve protected me. It was terrifying just to sit in the train car with him and watch a woman stare at him with wide eyes like he was some kind of criminal. I stepped closer to him as if to remind her he’s human. I stared back at her with just as much fear and watched her snap out of it, confused.

Last week was holocaust awareness week at my college, and one of the things I did was spend a couple hours in the plaza reading the names of people that died. I found 34 Feldmans and Fotts. I found family names, Chana and Fayge and Jeshua and Sophia Feldman one after the other, and still am wondering if that was part of my family that didn’t make it to the US in time.

I called my grandma and asked for everything she could remember about her family lineage and how we got here, everything she had from that part of her life. I thought that there would be plenty to lean into, family recipes and heirlooms and stories, but there was barely anything. She has a Star of David necklace and a ton of repressed memories, next to nothing else. The recipes I could find were through my great aunt, some short instructions from my great grandmother on the back of a letter she sent to the aunt about what to ask for from a kosher butcher.

My family made it here in 1915 and 1921, they escaped before the holocaust, but they still weren’t untouched because of the ways they were ostracized and othered when they got here. My grandmother will barely admit she’s Jewish because none of her kids passed it on, it’s easier for her to let it go. I didn’t understand this until I realized that one couldn’t be hurt by the grief and pain of a family they aren’t part of.

Even those that survive are not left unscarred.

How could this not be personal? How could it not be generationally affective when it’s pushed so many to minimize their Jewishness out of self preservation? Raise their kids thinking they aren’t Jewish and hope their names never end up on a list of living or dead Jews? People still don’t see us as human. the antisemites still want to scar us. They want us to forget who we are.

It’s unreal to me when goyim act like American Jews in the current day are unaffected by the past and safe from antisemitism. I’ve been here less than a year and have been screamed at in an airport, have uncovered serious intergenerational trauma, and realized that of my Jewish family I have nothing to hold on to but a torn in half piece of paper with a sentence long tangent about brisket.

We are strong and we will outlive them, but god are we still fucking fighting for our lives.

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[mintytealfox]

I’ve noticed a bunch of NortAlice Shippers coming out with fan kids and I saw you posting about them so I digged up an old design I made about a year ago. The idea of Norton being a girl dad makes me happy.

I thought of her being a pilot because she’s like a polar opposite from her dad. He works underground she works above ground.

OH MY HEART!! CUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUTTTEEEEEEEEEEEE

What CUTIE PATOOTIE AWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW

And oh my goodness ME TOO!! I ADORE the idea that Norton would be this big ol softie for the ladies in his familyyyyyy ;w; They have him wrapped around their fingers lol Just melts for his gurls hehe~

And I LOVE THAT SO MUCH!! Her taking to the skies!! The very skies that Norton longed to rest and look atttttt ;w; And Traveling like her motherrrrr OH MY GOSH MY HEEAARRRTTTTTTTTTT

THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR SHARINGGGG I LOVEEEEE HEARING ABOUT NORTALICE BBYSSSS ;w; 🙏🙏🙏🙏

[hiraethminds]

HOLY MOTHER OF GOD HOW DID U FUSE THEM????

[1moreoffkeyanthem]

*sharp inhale* so anyways I was in the middle of work when this popped into my head and I wanted to share it with you.

It’s half angst with a dash of main 4 silly.

So, literally, picture main 4 as teens/young adults, chillin’ at Tegridy with Stanbert, who’s having a depressive episode.

I have the mighty need to HC that Stan is a Green Day FANATIC, and like-

Picture, if you will, they’re watching YouTube or some crap on the TV, and they’re watching the video of “Kill the DJ” by Green Day

Cartman busts out with, “Imagine everything’s the same but instead of Kill the DJ, it’s Kill the Farmer and the Farmer is Stan’s Dad”

Cue silence, and then for the first time in a hot minute, Stan starts giggling, and it is the most beautiful thing Kyle’s heard in a while. All four would end up laughing a little but Kyle is just basically in a trance just listening to his super best boyfriend ACTUALLY GENUINELY LAUGH again.

Dude this actually made me tear up that’s DELIGHTFUL and PRECIOUS!!!! God I love this gang and the STYLE OF IT ALL AAAAAA

[tricitymonsters]

I love making OCs for VNs!! I especially love working through the stories and figuring out who pops up from the choices, if that makes any sense at all.

I've got three main ones for this (awesome amazing more words but they won't all fit) game.

With Mori I have Maya, a spunky, mildy grumpy young woman who likes to sing. I feel barista as her employment, some place open way way too late. Generally always smells like coffee and laundry. Would very much like to feed Mori a vegetable. Will probably try to tube feed him miso soup at some point (she worries and is an excellent cook with confidence issues (her parents are both amazing chefs))

Leo, who's romancing/being romanced by Amir, is a 1st grade teacher and a total softy. Lots of sweaters and curly light brown hair cut short. He's a sweetie and just very gentle with people. Likes trashy movies and embroidery. Smells like cheap orange perfume and glue. Uses very silly interjections instead of cursing, I can see Amir taking that as a challenge. Then one year Leo gifts him a lovingly decorated pillow that just says fuck in a fancy font.

Last but not least is Brielle! Sweet until you notice how snarky she is, and typically honest to a fault. Loves plants, Legos, puns and ghost stories. Not sure of her employment. Makes flower crowns with any spare bits of plants (very excited to put them on Akello). Smells like crushed mint and the leather polish of her jacket. Saw Akello the first time and wanted to climb him like a tree. Has definitely made puns about that too his face.

Anyways, thanks for reading my rambling and thank you for writing this game!!!

AUGH your blorbos sound so sweet (and REALLY well matched!)

I can easily see Mori getting late night coffee and bothering Maya with his dumb flirting and getting her to sing with him when there aren't a ton of patrons around. You can also expect Mori to white knight if any other patrons want to try out Karen tactics while he's within earshot.

I think Amir would- in a very delightful, odd-couple way- eat Leo alive. They arrange a nice library date and Amir shows up in latex and stilettos with his serene little smile like Recommend Me A Book Please. Pretenses aside (and after Amir moans out late 18th century poetic, yearning erotica to him) Amir really REALLY appreciates honesty and that will be a powerful grounding force for whenever Amir's a little TOO extra. Also, Amir has NO concept of children really so I think it would be very interesting for Leo to be like OH the kids are really into marsupials and Amir's like aren't we all darling.

Akello and Brielle sound like a great match too, there's a lot of intersecting interests there and both of them can be honest to a fault. Akello's less on the puns and ghost stories perhaps but I can see her finding exactly the right type of horror story to freak him out even if he wont admit it.

[split-spectrum]

Hello!! This might be a strange compliment but bear with me. I just wanted to let you know that your writing gave me the courage to push through with finishing my first ever smutfic today, which I'm super proud of!!

I've been writing fanfic for so long, but the sheer mortification of writing explicit scenes has held me back so badly. Today, I had up my fave chapters from Water & Rock alongside my WIP, and every time I felt like I was struggling, I went back to look at the 18+ passages I adored and used my love for them to hype myself up to finish my own 🧡

Legitimately I hope this isn't weird to say because they really, really helped!! I admire your writing sm, and it really pushed me through to (hopefully) a new era of my writing!! Much love, hope you're doing well!!

This is what it's all about!!!!!!!

Wow, this is so unbelievably kind of you to say, and I'm beyond happy that you've pushed through that self-conscious barrier to let your voice be heard! Let ten thousand filthy words flow forth!

If you ever do post it, and I hope you do, I would love to read it!

[bisexual-horror-fan]

Bex have you watched Grimcutty?

I'm watching it right now and I feel like I'm going crazy because I saw people saying the monster is "terrifying" but it looks like this

and it moves like a fucking frat bro trying to flex with every step he takes

I have not seen this, but I want to!

Why does he look like that?!

[andrwgarfields]

i saw joe yesterday for his opening night and when i tell you i was floored, i really mean it! im a fan and have a soft spot for him so i was excited he was cast but was also a little doubtful of if he can sing but like he really can sing! he sounded so beautiful and really clear. I might be a little biased but Not While Im Around has to be my favorite song. hearing him live was even better if anyone has the chance too, 100% go see it live.

genuinely will be telling everyone i know about the show, it was sooo good 

OMGOSH ANON THANK YOU FOR SHARING YOUR EXPERIENCE AHHHHH IM SO GLAD YOU HAD AN AMAZING TIME

and i totally get you cause we have no reference of him singing so i was kinda nervous tho i believe he could sing the qns is how good would it be? And its GOOD GOOD singing and yes thats my favourite too!!!

[unfortunate--moth]

Mikofuu blob.

-Mikoto ☁️

MIKOFUU BLOB!!!!!! THEYRE SO CUUUUUTE

[prismatic-starstuff]

I don't know if you saw the game model height comparison but I have a feeling you'd enjoy it like I did

hooooooooooly fuck,,,

[polyamorouspunk]

Hiiii sleepover stufffff

I celebrate the winter solstice over Christmas, so we do it on the 21st or 22nd, have a big meal n a fire n that

I'm making my mum a bag out of a pattern she found and liked, it's almost done, did granny squares for the main part N now I've just got to knit the edge parts and straps

It's just a touch tedious bc it's teeny tiny cotton yarn so it takes forever to knit, but I'm making my way through the 90s moomin show as I go which is pretty cool

Man that sounds like so much fun.

The only textile craft I ever got into was friendship bracelet making.

My grandma tried to teach me how to crochet and I wasn’t picking it up so I stopped and she was like “you’re giving up already” and I’m like I’m not going to get it if I just sit here and continue to be frustrated at it, but also it’s not something I’ve really had a passion to learn anyway, it was just like my mom wanted her to reshow her how to do it and I was like ooh I wanna try too but other than that I haven’t gone out of my way to learn.

I was making a moss rug and I was listening to my podcasts while I did that but that was before school started and it honestly killed my back to do it, but I want to pick that up again, so I guess that’s another textile hobby I picked up (latch-hook).

I always like the style of granny squares. I have some granny square pillows that I bought at Bed, Bath, and Beyond when I worked there and I was going to give them to my cousins but my mom really liked them so now they’re couch pillows (although we’ve replaced them with holiday pillows).

Having a fire and a big meal sounds nice! And celebrating the winter solstice more than Christmas as well.

[firstdivisiongirl]

https://www.tumblr.com/usernameforaboredcat/732772943856271360/little-babies

Hi! Just wanted to let you know they were inspired by one of your works in case you didn’t see :) worth checking it out it’s cute

Hi! OMG! This is so great that I could inspire someone with my writing! I feel so honored that I could inspire someone else to write something. Thank you for showing me this. It really made my day today!

[icharchivist]

yknow im okay with seofons balls getting shattered but #2143 brought back summer belial to have his balls used as target and im NOT okay with that!

I DID NOT EXPECT THE SUMMER BELIAL USE IM BEING TAKEN THE FUCK OUT

Seofon caring for Belial's balls in term of PR only to then go back into whoring Belial out to spare his own balls is TRULY A STORY FOR THE AGES IM LOSING MY MIND

[bunnygirl-titties]

Closested trans woman here, thank you for that post. I felt that in my chest. ~ 🐉

YOURE SO WELCOME!!

You are wonderful, and you deserve to feel comfortable in your own skin!!

I’ll literally fight anyone who says otherwise!!!

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