#than the existence of transfems

[spitblaze]

Local Tumblr User Learns That Members of a Different Community Than Theirs Will Often Have Different Opinions on Certain Topics, More At 11

[thee-radio-host-is-a-kookaburra]

trans community listen to intersex people challenge (impossible)

[dreamyintersexouppy]

haiii green back with another gender thought, realized that as boy as i may be i still exist in a transfeminine body and live a transfeminine life, even if i don't specifically identify as transfeminine i still exist in a tma space in the eyes of society, my gender as a boy doesn't really affect that much. the people who know me and treat me like a boy are not treating me like i'm tme they're just respecting me... so basically all the tmra boys are jealous of me, the one true trannyboy

[penumbralwoods]

lays down and stares at the ceiling. really wish it was as easy for me to ignore casual exorsexism as it seems to be for so many of you

[theraddestfemalive]

im not even a trans woman and i look so fucking horrendous and ugly. im neurodivergent as fuck so i don’t know how to take care of my body properly without forgetting or my interests getting in the way. At the age i was supposed to be my prettiest, my shitty dominican dna cursed me with an ugly mustache, slow metabolism, facial acne, and like the ugliest boobs I’ve ever seen. I fucking despise my dad for putting me through so much for that alone, and he doesn’t even come around to help. He avoids paying my mom child support (which i need btw because im ND and I want to get lessons and actual good clothing)

In all due seriousness, all of the other girls my age are literally in normal schools and passing their shit with flying colors while developing a few talents. I can’t even complete regular tasks and im in a school full of weirdos and a boy that i used to like but stopped after finding out how fucking ugly he looked and how much he objectified me (he had a p0rn addiction, had a b3lly fetish, and is basically the corniest dude on earth, even my mom doesn’t like him)

I hate my heritage for giving me such a disadvantage, not only genetic wise, but also economically. (my dad was an immigrant, and my mom’s parents were too.)

It’s just every time i try to be better i look r3t4rd3d as fuck and i feel as if god as a whole entity is trying to hold me back from achieving my goals because I’m destined to be inferior to everyone

I don’t know how people (ESPECIALLY WHITE PRIVILEGED REGULAR PEOPLE) always argue that they’re a certain complicated form of a “gender” trying to find reasons to be mad when there’s an obvious fact that im literally the ugliest girl in the world.

If there’s a god, why did they give me this ugly body as a teenage girl? Eh? Did my stupid personality completely align with how im supposed to look? Why do all of the radfems and non radfems have pretty bodies but im just a slab of fucking cells? I literally got made fun of in a discord server for the way my boobs look and every other girl gets to be pretty with perfectly round and perky ones.

anyways, sorry for the vent. I’m just so frustrated with how I look and how normal every kid around me is. If I wasn’t so ugly, I wouldn’t be attracting the weirdest fucking creeps ever.

[lovelyrotter]

can ppl in this fandom like... stop... implying that transmasculinity in hcs or (especially) canon is shallow or misogynistic or even transmisogynistic on princible, like literally just by being prescent in someones mind or in the text. like that doesnt fuckin feel good. thats kind of really nasty to imply. if its not okay to say about other trans experiences, maybe dont say it about this one either. why is there a weird little exception here. yall KNOW how much that sucks to hear all day every day. what the fuck

[jingerpi]

since this discourse is going around again, some brief thoughts:

i think a lot of people who (mis)identify as being transfem/trans women while having been afab are speaking of real experience, but are mislabeling it. ultimately people can identify however they want, but that doesn't mean we shouldn't try to be legible or accurate with our terminology. some examples of this include but are not limited to the following:

"I was afab but-

1. I don't totally feel like what society expects of me as a woman" - you could be nonbinary, a demigirl, or even just a cis woman who is experiencing misogyny

2. I feel like I should have a penis/other "masculine" trait" - you could be any number of trans masculine identities, including things like "butch". Do you still feel ties to femininity? perhaps consider bigender, genderfluid, or another multigender as a label, or maybe even no particular label at all! penises don't a transfem make, not to mention many trans women don't have penises

3. I have been treated as overly masculine by society, growing up my femininity was always denied" - may I suggest that you may be experiencing intersexism or misogynoir? more people than just transfems are denied their femininity, to varying degrees and experiences.

[blueish-bird]

Everyone in Chainsaw Man is trans. Except for Angel Devil, who got a character/gender customization screen before he started life on earth as a fiend and is therefore cis in the least binary way possible.

[thatweirdtranny]

my opinion on egg jokes really just boils down to this: 1) be respectful and 2) don’t force people to confront their feelings about gender before they’re ready

[loki-zen]

so. thing.

while on the one hand i absolutely respect and get behind the reasoning for wanting to like encourage people to feel free to explore and experiment with their gender presentation, and it’s great if and when younger generations feel freer to think about that more and make decisions on it instead of being restricted by a category assigned at birth, etc…

on the other hand, ‘thinking about your gender presentation’ is literally a subcategory of ‘thinking about how you are perceived by other people’ and most teenagers & many other people do an unhealthy amount of that already.

not sure how to reconcile these.

[bisexualmaedhros]

transfem furries hornyposting online about the relatively niche/"out there" things they're into have inadvertently helped me accept myself more than the body positivity movement of the 2010s ever did

[lacefuneral]

anthem for my fellow fat/disabled/autistic people who get caught in the crosshairs of bodyshaming/virginshaming etc. that is supposedly done in the name of Dunking On The Right

[starshine-valley]

Something I noticed (in kind of regards to my last reblog about Mizuki) is that the people who yell at others for not using they/them on Mizuki are sometimes the same people who yell at trans headcanons for characters of the opposite gender (transmasc l/n, transmasc emunene and anhane, transmasc mmj, transmasc (minus mizuki ofc!) niigo and transfem fantasisita squad). These are the same people who preach about Non-Binary representation and trans representation only to yell at people who headcanon their favorite characters under the trans umbrella.

This is seen mostly in transfem fantasisita squad headcanons :((

Idk it’s upsetting to see others praise Mizuki for being Non-binary (even though she’s a trans girl) and yet belittle other transfem hcs (from what i’ve seen anyway) and trans hcs. I dunno it feels like people are making every excuse in the book to not see transfem as fem/women and transmasc as masc/men.

[theshalesky]

How far would you go for someone you love?

How far would you go for someone you once loved? How far would you go for someone who ruined your life?

A long time ago, she loved them. She was young and stupid and innocent, and still believed the world was a good place. She had a job and a friend and a father, and why would anything disturb that peace?

Then she met her. A bright and flaming blaze, so full of life, full of beautiful chaos. They convinced her to join this life: A night at the tavern, ending with a broken window and all the plates shattered against the wall. The next night outside in the cold streets, decorating the walls of stangers' houses with stolen paint. Every night ending with her wiping the dirt and the blood from her lover's face. She didn't enjoy the destruction like Azari did, but when she saw her eyes light up with that beautiful burning joy, it was all worth it. She could have lived like that forever.

Until she couldn't. Every day, as Azari chose the chaos again and again instead of simply choosing her, she felt the flame in her own heart fading. Every morning, her lover sound asleep in their bed, she sat at the window with her guitar. She stared into the distant night and waited for a song that didn't come. For months, the music inside her had been silent.

In the end, it was Azari who told her to leave. Who told her they could never love her like she deserved to be loved. And she felt it too, felt that neither of them could make the other whole anymore. So she left. And then there was emptiness.

Had there been light in her life before that fire? Even if it had been there before, now, there was nothing left. Nothing to warm her. Nothing inside of her - that was the real problem. Because her life had stayed the same. She had her father and her work, and also her friend, to some extent. She even found a new lover, a starry night that gave her comfort. But nothing more. She had fallen out of love once, and now she was incapable of feeling it again. Azari had taken away her ability to love. For a while, she tried existing despite it - despite the nagging feeling that there was now something wrong with her, something broken in the fabric of her soul.

But living like this just wasn't possible. She had to cut all the ties, destroy what had destroyed her so she could glow again. So she went to their house, and she burned it to the ground.

That was a few months before she decided to travel to hell for them.

[asordidbarwere]

first valentine's day in a long time that I have someone worth doting on and I'm wasting it feeling like shit about myself and my identity and everything else

[miraphoenix]

tumblr-specific (or online-specific in general tbh) queer 'movements' confuse the fuck out of me