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If you're a leader seeking to build a culture of trust & achieve organisational values-alignment, a healthy amount of oxytocin in you and your employees could strengthen your chances. Oxytocin turns us into right-brained systems thinkers, and helps us trust and empathise. It's antagonist, testosterone, however, is released when a breach of trust occurs, making us even more distrusting. And as it rises, it suppresses oxytocin. Without oxytocin, our testosterone would cause us to be more fear-based in our decisions, or at best, coldly analytical. The oxytocin that gets released when we reach out to understand and forgive makes us more trusting and allows us to see world views we didn't know existed. It's important to note that a healthy amount of testosterone is needed: it makes us more logical, linear, rational, more goal oriented and keeps an eye out for threats, dangers. An excess amount, however, makes us self-centered, short sighted, egotistical, less trusting, and more closed minded. More oxytocin needs to be released to override the effects of excess testosterone. How do we create natural oxytocin? Through: Touch, hugs, kisses, sex, crying, walking, giving, being in gratitude, meditating, listening to music, dancing, getting a coach, creating art, laughing & relating. Read full article here: https://hbr.org/2017/01/the-neuroscience-of-trust?utm_campaign=hbr&utm_source=facebook&utm_medium=social #selfleadership #leadership #culture #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #selfawareness #trust #behaviour #oxytocin #tessnobile #neuroscience #neuroleadership

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We cannot pretend that we don't have a shadow. When we won't acknowledge our shadow we push it onto someone else, and repressed elements of ourselves ends up being expressed through projection. These secondary emotions can cause us conflict, miscommunication, and physical, emotional and mental pain. Sitting with our shadow and without judgement is the hardest part; it takes self-leadership. But it's on the other side of this we grow the most. Deliciously and beyond words. #selfawareness #selfleadership #selfreflection #sittingwithourshadow #allowingourshadow #emotionalhealth #mentalhealth #emotionalintelligence #tessnobile

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Positive and Negative Reinforcement is a reward base learning process our brain tends to use to determine how we pay attention. Our brain relies on context dependent memory when deciding how to act, and this learnt repeating process then validates and reinforces our patterns and habits: trigger > behaviour > reward. Important to note: When seeking to change behaviour, our prefrontal cortex does all it can to help us on a cognitive level. Unfortunately this is also the first part of our brain that goes offline when we're stressed, hence reverting back to old patterns and habits. There are many reasons to care about how we feel; if we're trying to change a pattern/habit, it's wise to start with managing our stress levels. Understanding our brain is a worthy investment in self-leadership. Watch full talk via this link: https://youtu.be/-moW9jvvMr4 #selfawareness #selfleadership #brain #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #behaviour #judsonbrewer #neuroscience #tessnobile (at The European Melbourne)

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Intellectually stimulating and many thought provoking takeaways from today's 'Narcissism, Guilt & Shame' Seminar. In distinguishing between a healthy sense of narcissism and pathological narcissism, research shows the answer is in how 'the self' is shaped in childhood. Further, the influence of secure and insecure attachments in childhood is contributing to the problem. When a child feels they need to contain and validate the parents feelings [parents own narcissistic tendencies], it can in turn derail their own self-esteem and may lead to pathological narcissism as adults. This conversation isn't going away. Hubristic pride is flourishing and this is encouraging a rise in insatiable, enraged & empty human beings. It is no wonder mental health is rising. Speakers: Anne Manne, Frances Thomson Salo & Jan McGregor Hepburn. Book that may be of interest: 'The Life of I' ~ Anne Manne #behaviour #narcissism #shame #guilt #mentalhealth #insecureattachments #fearbasedattachments #psychology #neuroscience #balancedchildren #balancedadults #selfleadership #tessnobile (at The University of Melbourne)

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Day two of a Values Alignment workshop. It's smart business to understand how your employee's values and beliefs drive their behaviour in the workplace. Asking staff to list four of their core values is harder than you think. It's hard because we are asking individuals to go inwards and reflect on their character. Well done to all organisations who encourage character development. Culture alignment starts here. #selfleadership #valuesalignment #leadership #culture #selfawareness #tessnobile

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It's a $16billion industry with an intense focus on complex leadership models, yet it's not developing the leaders we want. We need to redefine leadership for an era of overwhelm. Action for organisations: accelerate and embed new behaviours through brain based strategies. Great session this morning with @davidrock101 #leadership #leadingwiththebraininmind #neuroleadership #culture #selfleadership #behaviour #brain #davidrock #tessnobile #HR

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An underlying theme in my conversations is that the acceleration of innovation and the velocity of disruption are hard to comprehend or anticipate and that these drivers constitute a source of constant surprise, even for the best connected and most well informed. Indeed, across all industries, there is clear evidence that the technologies that underpin the Fourth Industrial Revolution are having a major impact on businesses. Is there a role for HR in the Fourth Industrial Revolution? What does it look like? Read the full article here: https://www.weforum.org/agenda/2016/01/the-fourth-industrial-revolution-what-it-means-and-how-to-respond/ Looking forward to our meet-up session on the 27th April. Register for the event via this link: http://meetu.ps/e/CBk5d/tHBwV/a #HR #leadership #culture #leadershipmastermind #VUCA #meetup #tessnobile

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The hardest leaders to coach are those who won’t reflect, particularly leaders who won’t reflect on themselves.

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'Me' time is my favourite part of my day; an opportunity to re-connect with my creative side. As I prepare to write a ceremony to help a beautiful couple renew their marriage vows, these moments of reflection are blissful for me; I escape to that place of feeling and sentiments. #celebrant #reflection #life #tessnobile #creativeliving #selfleadership (at DOC Espresso)

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Great leadership mastermind session this morning, thank you for your contribution & insight.  Summary of today’s discussion: -Where in the past leaders and teachers were the primary initiators of thinking, the future will require leaders and teachers to help their people initiate their own thinking.  -It is not so much that we want to encourage thinking, what we are looking at here is encouraging people to think better, and do so 'outside the box' -Critical thinking is not innate, and it does not occur automatically, it requires learning. Pleased to hear the Victorian Education curriculum has mandated the assessment of critical thinking in our children aged 5-18 -Critical thinking requires a healthy dose of self-correction. Self-correction is not the same as self-awareness. Self-awareness is the ability for the mind to turn on itself and think about its own thinking. But it can do so without thinking self-correctively. Self-correction is engaging in an active search for one’s own mistakes. It means being comfortable looking at our long-held beliefs, biases and truths and willingly play devil's advocate.  -Critical thinking is taught by discussion rather than by lecture. It requires individuals to engage in reflective and active skepticism -We need critical thinking to help us consciously filter all the information we receive daily, to ask relevant clarifying questions, to search for reasons, to draw conclusions and to look at all sides of an argument before forming a tentative belief. Knowing that our beliefs change depending on new insights coming to us daily.  How do you, as leaders, teachers and role models, encourage conversation and dialogue if it doesn’t agree with your way of thinking? #selfleadership #criticalthinking #tessnobile (at The European Melbourne)

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We spend too much mental and emotional energy caring about understanding why things haven't gone better. We fixate on making it mean something about ourselves, which disempowers us and keeps us stuck in victim mentality. Living in the past keeps us sad, and living in the future makes us anxious. Feeling this moment we're in, consciously and purposefully selective in our focus, is our minute by minute challenge. We're not going to un-live what we've lived; un-grip the past, and let it settle. #selfleadership #selfempowerment #selfaccountability #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #tessnobile (at Sydney Opera House)

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A recent study by The World Economic Forum found that one of the required skills needed to thrive in the Fourth Industrial Revolution is Critical Thinking. Organisational Culture surveys reflect the difficulty in encouraging critical thinking amongst their employees... Critical thinking is defined as being 'the objective analysis and evaluation of an issue in order to form an opinion.' Critical thinking is not a matter of accumulating information. A person with a good memory and who knows a lot of facts is not necessarily good at critical thinking. A critical thinker is able to deduce consequences from what they know, and they know how to make use of information to solve problems, and to seek relevant sources of information to inform themselves. A critical thinker is aware of their cognitive and emotional bias and its impact on their actions, beliefs and decisions. Are we naturally critical thinkers? Or is it a skill we need to learn and practice? Can we be coached in developing our critical thinking skills? If CEO's are finding it difficult to encourage critical thinking among their staff, why? I'd like to see the skill of critical thinking developed, encouraged & practiced in the education, social & corporate system. Please do join me on Tuesday 28 February for breakfast, to discuss and unpack critical thinking as a skill needing our attention in the corporate world. In preparation, I'd like to ask you to reflect on your own critical thinking ability. I look forward to sharing a meal and conversation with you. Register via this link: http://meetu.ps/e/CrK2y/tHBwV/a #selfleadership #selfawareness #cognitivebias #emotionalbias #criticalthinking #tessnobile #meetup

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In everyday life people have to evaluate the validity of opinions given or conclusions arrived at by others. People accept or reject these conclusions or opinions depending if they are consistent with their everyday knowledge or prior beliefs. This cognitive process is called unconscious and conscious bias. The four leading biases playing a role in the current world’s disorder are: Bandwagon Effect: A form of groupthink. As more people come to believe in something, others also "jump on the bandwagon" regardless of the underlying evidence. The tendency to follow the actions or beliefs of others can occur because individuals directly prefer to conform. Attentional Bias: Refers to an increased attention or hyper-attention to threatening information, despite the threat being unrealistic. This unconscious bias tends to promote an escalation of fear. Belief Bias: Belief bias occurs when there is a conflict between existing belief or knowledge and the logical conclusion. People accept any and all conclusions that happen to fit with their system of beliefs. Confirmation Bias: It is a tendency of people to favour information that confirms their beliefs or hypotheses. People display this bias when they gather or remember information selectively, or when they interpret it in a biased way. The effect is stronger for emotionally charged issues and for deeply entrenched beliefs. Self-Leadership is being aware of how our biases are impacting and influencing our opinions, actions and state of mind. Read full article here: http://netmind2011.blogspot.com.au/2012/04/psychology-of-bandwagon-effect-and.html?m=1 #selfleadership #selfawareness #cognitivebias #emotionaldevelopment #criticalthinking #tessnobile

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Being inside our own minds is, for most of us, and very understandably, a deeply anxiety-inducing prospect. We are filled with thoughts we don’t want properly to entertain and feelings we are desperate not to feel. There is an infinite amount we are angry and sad about that it would take an uncommon degree of courage to face. We are checking the news at four minute intervals, to keep the news from ourselves at bay. We’re doing sport, exhausting our bodies in the hope of not having to hear from our minds. We’re using work to get away from the true internal work we’re shirking. The most compelling addictions sound very righteous to the world. Read the full article here: http://www.thebookoflife.org/why-we-are-all-addicts/ #selfawareness #selfleadership #observerofself #cognitivedevelopment #emotionaldevelopment #mirrorwork #tessnobile #yourbodydoesntlie

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A worthy workplace mental health conference today for Mates In Construction. Here are some worthy points from today's discussion: -8 people kill themselves every day, 5 are men. -The #1 killer of men aged between 15-45 is suicide. -3 people in construction kill themselves a week. Our minds are the first thing to change, but that doesn’t necessarily change our emotions, which is where behaviour change happens. Implementing mentally healthy workplaces takes commitment and leadership. What might success look like in the space of the mental health program in your organisation? For more detail from today's conference follow me on twitter @TessNobile #MHC2017 #matesinconstruction #mentalhealth #selfleadership #leadership #culture (at Doltone House Jones Bay Wharf)

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Despite the increased spending and research into mental illness, 2016 showed there was an upward trend. I'd like the research to seperate between 'Desperation' and 'Depression.' The cause and the treatments are different. #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #cognitivebias #selfawareness #selfleadership #tessnobile