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[deanssexplorations]

Went Down So Hard on Her My Lips Were Sore

A few weeks ago I removed a blog entry for the first time. It was about a date with my friend Gabi, coming out of lockdown, in which I went down on her for well over a half hour and the two of us enjoyed a lovely, intimate, orgasmic experience. I published it with her knowledge and permission, but she recently reconsidered her comfort level and asked me to take it down.

I kind of miss that entry though, because it was one of my most extensive descriptions of going down on a woman, and with friends recently asking to read my thoughts on providing oral pleasure, I decided to resurrect and rewrite the entry, but in a slightly different form.

So in this entry my goal is to leverage the narrative from my night with Gabi, but to tell it in a different context and instead focus on a recent night at Twist, my favorite sex club in San Francisco. I've never quite approached a blog entry this way before so let's see how it goes.

At Twist my night had been going well. I was there with my friend Dusty and after a while we had found another couple to play with and I was going down on the woman, a lovely blonde whose name I never did get, while Dusty was being fucked by her date.

Normally, when I'm on a one-on-one date, I like to take my time when performing cunnilingus, stretching out the enjoyment both for myself and for her. I believe so much is tied to the build up, and I like to take it slow, teasing her and building the anticipation . [Editor's note: if you really want to read a story about building anticipation, check out the Orgasmed with Her Pants Still On entry.]

Of course, it's different with every woman, and every date. Partly just because I don't want to follow the same playbook every time. It would get boring for me. But mostly because every woman, as I said, is different. Some are more orgasmic than others. Some like it rough and others like it gentle. Some love a long, slow build up while others would rather cut to the chase. You just have to get a sense for each woman and go where the mood - and their body language - takes you.

That said, if I have to describe a typical cunnilingus session, for me at least it all starts with a kiss. I love a long, slow, sensuous kiss, feeling her body quiver as I hold her head in my hands and run my fingers through her hair. Then I like to turn my attention to her neck and shoulders, kissing them lightly and stroking them with my beard, listening for her soft moans of delight.

I will usually continue my journey, in no rush, lingering for a while at my date's tits. I enjoy just taking the time to play with them, in the truest sense of the word. With no objective, no agenda,  no goal. I will fondle them for a bit, sucking and licking her nipples, maybe tracing them with my fingers.

After having my fill of her tits, I will allow my attention to start wandering lower and lower, slowly making my way down to her stomach, her belly button, and finally her pubic mound.

Usually I'll linger for quite a while before removing her panties. Instead I will play with them, teasing and torturing her the whole while. I may pull her panties down slightly , exposing and playing with the top of her pubic hair (if she has any). I may stick a finger between her panties and her pussy, pulling them away from her wetness, but being careful not to touch her pussy with my fingers. I may run my nose or chin up and down her panties, enjoying any wet spot I encounter. I may open my mouth wide and exhale slowly, allowing her to feel my hot breath through the thin fabric.

Finally, when I judge she can't take it any more (or maybe even well past that point) , I will slowly remove her panties and take in the pink beauty that lay beneath.

I love to just drink in my date's pussy, examining her puffy outer lips and inner ones peeking out. I'll check out whether her clit is standing at attention or whether it's being shy, hiding under her perky little hood.

At this point, I might start playing with her outer lips with my fingers, feeling how wet she is. I'll often trace her labia with my fingers, maybe taking it between my thumb and forefinger, applying gentle pressure to the pussy, gently moving it back and forth.

I will usually start kissing and sucking her outer lips, maybe nibbling gently and playing with them with my lips and tongue.  As with her tits, I am never in a hurry when exploring her pussy. I will take my time to enjoy every aspect of the ride. 

When going down on a woman I almost always avoid her clit until the last possible moment. I will work my way around her pussy, slowly making my way ever closer to her clit, but taking care not to actually touch it. Instead I want to torture her and make her wait.

By this point we could be 10 or 15, maybe even 20 minutes in, and chances are her clit is fully engorged, throbbing for attention. At this point I'll likely start using my tongue to trace all around it, around the hood, just above, below, and to the sides of it, but not yet giving it direct stimulation.

Another thing I like to do around now, if I haven't already, is to start playing with her pussy with my hand, touching her folds with my fingertips while my tongue continues its torturous circles around her clit. So close and yet so far. Eventually, my fingers work their way into her vagina, and I will start slowly massaging her G spot. Depending on her orgasmic style, I may start to feel vaginal contractions from the stimulation I'm delivering.

But you never know for sure. Every woman is different.

Finally, when I sense she's ready to explode, I will allow my tongue to find its way to her clit. I find it best to apply steady, gentle pressure, with rhythmic motions, which could be side to side, or could be in the form of gentle circles. But the key is whatever technique I've chosen, to continue it without variation. This steady rhythm is what I've found to be most likely to send her over the edge.

But I have one last trick, which I'll pull out when I really want to drive her crazy. I will envelope her clit in my lips, and apply gentle suction, while continuing to perform rhythmic flicking or circling with my tongue. With this technique I'm simultaneously pulling her clit out of its hiding spot and engorging it with blood, while still providing gentle, rhythmic stimulation. I've rarely met a woman who doesn't go nuts for this particular move.

Now, with the blonde woman at Twist, I accelerated the process a bit, which is par for the course as no one spends a half hour on foreplay at a sex club - in my experience at least. But I still followed the broad outlines I just described, playing with her tits and her stomach, starting with her outer lips, eventually rhythmically circling my tongue around her clit while my fingers found their way into her pussy.

And, eventually, I applied my suction trick.

I don't know what it was about this particular woman, but the moment I applied suction, her entire body convulsed, her back arched, and she grabbed my head and pulled it in closer to her pussy. But instead of a "stop doing this" grab, it was unmistakably a "don't you dare stop doing this" grab.

So I didn't stop. I just kept on applying the suction (and the back and forth tongue action, and the fingers in her pussy), and she maintained her orgasmic ride. For a heck of a long time. I could sense orgasm after orgasm washing over her and I could feel her pussy convulsing over and over. Every muscle in her body was tensed, and it was clear every ounce of her focus was on the sensations emanating from her pussy.

It was clear to those around us that something unusual was happening, even for a sex club, and we were starting to attract the attention of others. I have a top three orgasmic women I've known in my life, and this woman - or at least this session - tops the list. I felt it to be such a privilege to be able to impart this level of ecstasy to a fellow human being that I decided I was not going to stop, regardless of my physical state, and I would just let her keep riding it out.

The only thing that was slightly physically challenging came with the level of suction I was applying. I was sucking hard, because she was responding better the more I sucked (every woman is different), and my mouth was getting sore and my teeth were starting to chafe against my inner lips. And yet I continued.

I would estimate that we spent at least 20 minutes, maybe 30 in that position, and I doubt she had any letup in her orgasms the entire time. She certainly never let go of my head, and her body remained in its tense arch the entire time.

At some point in all of this, another woman had seen us from across the room and came over to watch, eventually getting her face right up next to mine. This second woman was trying to get my attention, I assumed because she wanted to have me go down on her, but it turns out it was because she wanted to take a turn going down on the first woman. I guess she wanted to experience delivering that much pleasure for herself.

My mouth now truly exhausted, I let her tag in, but for whatever reason, be it technique or enthusiasm, her attentions weren't doing much at all for the first woman so they quickly called it quits. I exchanged some pleasantries with the first woman and she expressed her gratitude, but the second woman really wanted to know what the magic was [Editor's note: that's exactly what she asked me: "Can you show me the magic?"] so I offered to go down on her to show her what it was like.

She (the second woman) jumped at the chance, and I replicated the process that had sent the first woman into such a frenzy. But instead of experiencing an orgasmic buildup, the second woman just seemed to start getting annoyed and finally broke it off, asking me "that was the magic?" Assuring her that it was, she shrugged and went back to her date, perplexed and I think a little frustrated.

Usually I have had very good experiences going down on women. I've certainly done my share of it and I've tried to observe and build upon what seems to have given the most women the most pleasure. And yet here we were, two different women in one night, with two completely different experiences.

The first woman seemed to have the orgasm of her life, while the second woman seems to have felt nothing. Don't ask me why.

Every woman is different.

[odddc]

RED NOVEMBER RAFT Hatched from El Guincho in the Marathon weast of Cape Albert. Blasted in the moonlight with Avalon & Sip on the bridge, the Cuban raft came kipping thru the night vision. Shoved off with a case of Solento, Shaaks on the brain, Montsz & a 3 day surprise Red Snapper window, the Wild Child jam session in the Dry Tortugas with a tender lovin SeaVee nearly lost in tow, was rocketing to zenith status. Starring Johnny Montana, Uncle Edible, Big Dawg & Co. Peaking on a pathfinder mission with an impossible DTX diver minnow landing a Wahoo in minutes flat with no GPS while dodging a high speed tropical meth troller, I imagine this all is what victory on the high sea looks & feels like, in no particular order. One adventurous sip at a time…Thanks for the memories🌀 #tdcart #wildchild #shaaks #sip #adventure #takeitslow (at Florida Keys) https://www.instagram.com/p/ClzQ0W4OZJq/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

[ksknair]

College Romance: The Teen’s Guide to Love and Friendship

I find wisdom in the old saying, "haste makes waste." Taking things slow might seem old-school in our fast-paced dating culture, but it's a practice I swear by. Whether it’s setting boundaries or learning about someone's favourite pizza topping, these moments lay the groundwork for something more meaningful. 🍃

College dating isn't just about finding a relationship; it's about discovering yourself and what you value in others. So here’s my mantra: Protect your heart, but keep it open. It's perfectly fine to build strong walls—but let them have a door. 🚪💖

We're living in times where respect is revolutionary, and accepting diversity is non-negotiable. Our dates and relationships should be no different. Remember to treat everyone with kindness, regardless of gender, sexuality, or background. Stand by the side of equality, and let’s create a love scene on campus that's as diverse as our world. 🌈

And with communication as our compass, let's foster connections that are authentic and free from misconceptions—where each person can share their heart and have it heard. Keep talking, keep sharing, because every conversation can be a stepping stone to a trust-filled partnership. 💬

Through this all, never forget to sprinkle fun in your dating mix! Laughter is the soundtrack of good company, and joy is the best foundation for any potential romance. So dive into the dating pool with a splash—whether it's a belly-flop or a graceful dive, it's all about the experience. 😂💦

And as I wrap up, I invite you to share your escapades and wisdom in the comments. We learn, we grow, and who knows? Your story might just be the lighthouse guiding someone else's little love boat. Until next time, happy, healthy dating, lovely people! 💕🎓

[musicarenagh]

Yarisho Unplugged: A Tale of Musical Evolution and Raw Emotion Yarisho started his music journey only a couple of years ago. He is from Kyiv, Ukraine. He's released three singles and rocked the live performances. His stage name, takes account of the search for peace in this life's cacophony while also hinting at Slavic mythology. In this chat, Yarisho talks about his life. He's self-taught, drawing inspiration from the small things of life, his development follows his music: from being addicted to TV-station performers, he springs onto the stage at a Kyiv festival. All is feeling in his music, leading you into a realm of emotions. James Blake and Joji are the artists that have influenced Yarisho's music, which has changed as he's grown. But outside music, he plunges into graphic design and marketing. Looking back at the hard places in his journey, he's used failures as a kick to get even stronger. Hinting at an upcoming album and keeping collabs hush-hush, Yarisho shares a heartfelt message with fans: stay true, don't forget the simple pleasures of life and pursue your dreams. Every song Yarisho spins a link and the sound of music isn't something that we just hear, it can also be felt in our lives. Listen to below https://open.spotify.com/album/0lLnNZpUg1n4xyyhx3T4Su Follow Yarisho Spotify Soundcloud Instagram Youtube Tiktok What is your stage name My stage name is Yarisho. Is there a story behind your stage name? I can’t say that I have a specific story behind my stage name, but if we are speaking about the meaning, it contains different senses. The main is “a place where you can find your calm”. Also it is consonant with Yarylo, slavic God of spring and vitality. Where do you find inspiration? Life inspires me pretty much. Although it sounds trite, you should definitely romanticize your daily life to survive in this crazy world. Any relationships, situations, people or nature can be the impetus for your art. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, inspiration in the same. What was the role of music in the early years of your life? When I was little, I was always fascinated by the artists on TV. The way they look and act on the stage. Then I became addicted to vocal shows and dreamed that one day I’ll definitely burst into the music world. Are you from a musical or artistic family? I am a guy from a regular family. My parents never played music, but they like to listen to it. Who inspired you to be a part of the music industry? Me, myself and I [laughs]. I couldn’t say that I have someone who spurred me on the music path, it was my own decision. How did you learn to sing/write/to play? I'm self-taught with no formal music training. I was learning from scratch, mainly through trial and error, and devoted all of my time to it. What was the first concert that you ever went to and who did you see perform? My first concert (if we can call it that) was at a Kyiv festival timed to the Christmas holidays. I remember it was a very cold day, kids and their parents danced below the stage. I was very worried but it was over in a flash. [caption id="attachment_53373" align="alignnone" width="1333"] My first concert (if we can call it that) was at a Kyiv festival timed to the Christmas holidays[/caption] How could you describe your music? I can sum it up in three words: emotional, sensual, engaging. Describe your creative process. Usually I begin with a short hook melody, which could suddenly come to me. Then I start to build composition around it, experimenting with the sound, taking the small steps toward the final version. And the last step is lyrics. I think I always keep in my mind what this song should be about, but the whole work with text leaves for last. What is your main inspiration? Well, like I said, this is life - love, my close and music itself. I really like to go to live performances, theaters and festivals. Cultural life inspires me as well. What musician do you admire most and why? James Blake, Sampha, Joji, Unknown Mortal Orchestra - their vision of music is close to my heart.

Did your style evolve since the beginning of your career? Sure, and it’s a common thing for young artists. At first I used to try myself in classical pop - because of music I listened to at that time. After a long break in my musical path, searching for a fresh sound and senses, I presented a new single “Take it slow”, which became the first swallow of the upcoming album. Electronic sound and new style made this song directly opposed to what I has done before. Artist worldview changes and, as a result, music changes too. Maybe I've become a more adulty adult. Who do you see as your main competitor? Actually I don’t like the idea of competition at all. We are all fighting our own battle, where the main competitor is you itself. I prefer to say I have people and artists I look up to, but I don't want to compare myself with someone. https://open.spotify.com/artist/6zFixeED5HhL77v7rnUvMZ?si=0aTTlG2cRhyZJv8LYfASMw What are your interests outside of music? Graphic design and marketing, I work in this area. If it wasn't a music career, what would you be doing? It would definitely be something connected with Graphic design. Love it. What is the biggest problem you have encountered in the journey of music? Do not give up after the first failure, as it should be seen as a further step to improve your skills. I am a very sensitive and emotional person like most artists, that's why every mistake makes me sad. No one will argue that we all want everything at once, but, unfortunately, it does not work this way. If you could change one thing in the music industry, what would it be? That's a difficult question, because there are many different aspects. I will not say anything new - fair compensation, more honesty, less predatory. What are your plans for the coming months? I’m working on my new album consisting of 9 songs — the release is scheduled for next year. Although I plan to shoot a video. Do you have any artistic collaboration plans I would like to keep it a secret. Let it be a great surprise for people who listen to my music. What message would you like to give to your fans? Never be afraid of being yourself, define your life goal which would make the greatest sense just for you and go ahead. Be patient and love what you do, avoid people who say you'll never succeed. Show gratitude for those who are kind to you and find your inspiration in simple things.

[kriderracing]

Hey y’all. Good to see you, good to be seen! Great day to enjoy a warm cup of coffee and a walk in the rain. #takeitslow https://www.instagram.com/p/ClpjC5CLis3/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

[jaechan01]

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[firebarzzz]

Moka Only - "Take It Slow" (Instrumental) - Album: Lowdown Suite' - (2003) - Battle Axe Records - Firebarzzzcom -

Moka Only - "Take It Slow" (Instrumental) - Album: Lowdown Suite' - (2003) - Battle Axe Records - Firebarzzzcom -

🎙️ARTIST: Moka Only📣TITLE: Take It Slow💿ALBUM: Lowdown Suite’📆RELEASED: (2003) La Note Firebarzzz “Take it Slow” de Moka Only, sorti en 2003, dévoile une atmosphère envoûtante où les rythmes délicats se mêlent à des mélodies captivantes. J’adore ce titre, j’adore ce beat, cet ensemble me transcende totalement. Les notes s’étirent comme des filaments d’une nuit étoilée, invitant chaque auditeur…

[junjiie]

ok so. for iseul day. would you rather me grind out his profile OR write out his bday live??? bc ive got a silly idea for the type of stuff that happens during his bday live

dont grind if u dont want to bsf #TAKEITSLOW #MOTIVATIONALQUOTE !!!! if u have a silly idea go for it omg we all love silly thibgs

[sandratognarini]

Takeitslow in Puglia / Ardecuore, la cucina tradizionale di Fasano

Takeitslow in Puglia / Ardecuore, la cucina tradizionale di Fasano La trattoria contemporanea Ardecuore a Fasano: una cucina che unisce tradizione e innovazione per un’esperienza gastronomica speciale La trattoria contemporanea Ardecuore di Fasano (BR) è un luogo dove la tradizione della cucina contadina si fonde con la ricerca culinaria, creando piatti che rivisitano i gusti e le preparazioni tipiche pugliesi. Scopri il gusto di #Ardecuore a #Fasano! Un’esperienza culinaria unica che unisce #tradizione e #innovazione con un menu stagionale e prodotti locali di alta qualità. 🍷🍽️ #CucinaPugliese Leggi di più su ramingare.com. @ArdecuoreTrattoria @ardecuore.trattoria @WeAreinPuglia #vieniamangiareinpuglia ... Read the full article

[thesewingstuffs]

Sewing Machine Goes Too Fast? How to Slow it Down?

🏎️ Slow it down, sewing pro! 🧵 When your sewing machine goes too fast, take control and stitch at your own pace. 🐢💨 No need to rush – precision and patience go hand in hand. #SewingTips #TakeItSlow 🧵✨ Read the full article

[odddc]

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Todd DiCiurcio x Rob Machado

“Weave of the Quantum Ranch Tunnel”

2023

Epoxy, acrylic, carbon fiber on polyurethane foam vessels

In this new body, @rob_machado uses carbon fiber wrap technology to embed DiCiurcio’s original image, creating a shadow effect through clear resin across the surface of 5 hand hewn vessels. Their edges smooth but deliberate, the microclimate within runs lateral to the shape of its origin, while two others run in parallel juxtaposed behind, all forged from a single TDC painting.  Concurrent to the @solentosurffestival & it’s projection, the duo references the phenomenon of Young’s double-slit experiment, an anomaly in light that gives way to intensely unifying dialogue, yet remains a mystery. Similarly, the surf culture & it's films inspire generations & a unifying language of never-ending individual expression.

These works are on display in the lobby @alilamareabeachresort in Encinitas, Ca. Please drop in to experience them & all the resort’s incredibly creative amenities.

#tdcart #robmachado #art #collaboration #installation #takeitslow

[unfoldingnarratives]

Feelings come and go like clouds in a windy sky. Conscious breathing is my anchor #ThichNhatHang #aventurasdeamigos #madrid #streetart #meditation #goodforthesoul #takeitslow #consciousbreathing

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[livinglifewithpots]

Sometimes in Life you just gotta take it slow and enjoy the ride💕 #backroads #backroadstravel #naturephotography #naturelover #takeitslow #selfcarejourney #motivationmonday #mentalwellnessmatters💚 #potsie #spoonie (at Normandy, Tennessee) https://www.instagram.com/p/Cj1QZh7uq1C/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

[eric-sadahire]

Step sister: Ugh, my boyfriend won't have sex with me. Me: Maybe it's smart to take it slow. Build a relationship on trust and shared interests. Porn director: Cut

[ederglis]

Road sign. #cedarbreaks #utah #snowmobiling #snowmobile #winter #snow #deep #experience #trail #takeitslow #snowing #snowstorm (at Cedar Breaks National Monument) https://www.instagram.com/p/Ca6LFTxgXfU/?utm_medium=tumblr