#suicide hotlines

[girlcalledwhatsername]

This is your erratically scheduled reminder to be reasonably wary of suicide hotlines and sharing them as a one-stop solution towards 'suicide prevention'. Those hotlines will almost always report a person already under great distress straight to the cops and have them institutionalised which is awful for people's mental health, especially with the amount of abuse happening in there. They will also often either be unresponsive or insensitive in their responses. The reality of suicide hotlines is much bleaker than a convenient "safe space" or "mental health support".

The reality of suicide hotlines is that it's inconvenient to have people be suicidal so the Psychiatric system locks them away and people pat themselves on the back for having saved a soul when there is really no compassion involved in the process.

I only bring this up again because over the past few days I've seen more posts with mentions of hotlines or entire lists of those and I'd like for people to be aware of what this numbers actually entail. Suicide prevention isn't a one-off, it requires dedicated efforts to change our material conditions, the manner in which we treat disabled and mentally ill people, and true compassion and peer support/community building so people have a listening ear when they need it which won't just land them in a ward.

[if anyone seeing this is gonna defend these practices I would suggest going through my pinned post once, i will be blocking anyone happily ready to argue against bodily autonomy for mentally ill people]

[steve-cat]

[mental-mona]

[cljordan-imperium]

During these crazy holidays and trying times in the world, don't forget that there are people who you can reach you to. You matter. You are valid. You are loved. You are not a burden. DO NOT GIVE UP!!

[shizukaranmyaku]

Since someone was asking if I have any pics of me on the blog (there are pics, I probably didn't tag them 😂)

[postsecretsalone]

[coolbeesbro]

Happy pride month y’all!

I’m proud to be who I am, aro/ace and trans/masc, and I hope you guys can be proud of who you are as well. I know everyone’s experience in this community is different, and I know things can be harder for people in different households, so I want to take a moment to provide some helpful tools you may need.

Suicide Hotline Via The Trevor Project:

An important feature this website gives outside of providing a 24/7 access to a suicide hotline, through chatting on their website, over the phone, or via text, they also have a quick escape from the website feature in case you need to leave it quickly to prevent people from seeing it open on your computer. You click the escape button on your keyboard 3 times quickly and it sends you to the Google home page immediately.

LGBT+ Homeless Resources:

Here's a direct link to a page off the Trevor Project website dedicated to aiding those in the community dealing with homelessness, whether by unfortunate financial situations, or those who are kicked out from their homes for being found out/coming out.

Those Looking To Seek Asylum By Moving To Another Country:

Here's a link provided by The Trevor Project to help aid LGBT+ people looking to move countries seeking asylum. They help you navigate the immigration system, see what you are eligible for, and answer questions on the topic that you might have.

Online Safety For LGBT+ People:

This page is dedicated to helping LGBT+ people protect their personal information (sensitive information like name, address, school, place of work, etc.). They also help you avoid phishing situations, navigating dating websites, can walk you through using a VPN, adjust your settings, and so much more.

How To Signal You're An Ally In Hostile Environments:

For those who aren't a member of the community but want to support those who are, this is a very important page dedicated to what you can do to support your friends in a safe and compassionate way. If you are financially able, you can also make a donation to the organization, even if it's only 1$, because everything adds up. Making sure this charity has what it needs to stay up and running is important now more than ever.

In case it hasn't been obvious, most of these links are from The Trevor Project's website, and the one's that aren't were pulled from their website. These links only scratch the surface of resources The Trevor Project provide for LGBT+ people, as well as helpful information allys can learn from.

With all that being said, I hope y'all have a happy, positive and safe pride month! You are more loved than you know, even if it's hard to see it at times. You are here, you are seen, and most importantly you are loved.

[deerdollhouse]

I hate suicide helplines more than anything. They're the fucking worst. I know there is so much more to it and they work for some people, but never for me. I call or text, and they make me want to die even more

[wreckitremy]

Safe suicide hotlines

[coffeeinthelibrary]

me: *texts a suicide hotline*

the hotline guy: *texts back but his vibes are off*

me: oh no I'm going to get a bad grade in suicide, something that is both normal to fear and possible to achieve

[abrillustrated]

see arcane is so funny because none of these bitches have friends. honestly wasnt super into jayvik until the finale because That Level of codependence that jayce and viktor have makes total sense when u realize that neither of them have Any fuckin friends. jayce has caitlyn and mel but they're off doing their own shit, and viktor has absolutely no friends except for jayce. mel and caitlyn also have no friends. all of vi's friends are dead. so.

[flightspecialists]

Since 988 was initiated I feel like every time I see any mental health/suicide prevention resources shared it's one of the primary ones and there is never any explanation of what it really does or how it works. I do not ever recommend it and I will not share resource lists that include it

This Reddit story is frigging nuts, though.

Were you depressed before? Well, now here’s some crushing medical debt!

[postsecretsalone]

“I’ve contemplated, planned, and even attempted suicide. I've had friends who attempted suicide. I've had family who committed suicide.

The one thing I’ve learned is that there is ALWAYS someone who would be devastated if you were gone. Someone who doesn't deserve the pain and questions and anger that losing someone to suicide inevitably causes. It could be a parent, a sibling, a cousin, a niece or nephew, a grandparent, or a friend. It could be someone who isn't even born yet, or too young to remember the loss. It could be a pet.

Some days, the secret is just to find someone who would be upset if you were gone, and to stay alive for them. To stay alive because not doing so would hurt someone who has done nothing to deserve the pain. And, maybe, if you stay alive enough days, you'll remember how to live.”

[roserefrain]

hey ! I have seen some folks spreading around links to suicide hotlines, and though I understand the sentiment, most of the hotlines I’ve seen linked around are active rescue hotlines.

for those who don’t know, a hotline doing “active rescue” is them calling the police on you if they think you’re a big enough danger to yourself. these hotlines are pretty exclusively focused on you making a safety plan or they call the cops, not anything else. (sometimes they will even call the cops on you after you’ve already made a safety plan)

please, if you’re going to spread around resources for suicidal people, consider spreading this list of non-carceral resources.

this has hotlines, warmlines, peer support, self help tools, and more. I can personally vouch for the THRIVE lifeline, though you do need to be 18 years or older to contact them.

[ssaemilyhotchner]

CRIMINAL MINDS S18 BTS AN IMPORTANT MESSAGE FROM PAGET [x]

If you need support, reach out to the national mental health hotline: 988.

[thefatesofspring]

You know it really makes me mad that SJM had the cheek to put a DV hotline number in ACOMAF in regards to Tamlin & Feyre’s relationship but yet when it was also needed in ACOFAS & ACOSF she didn’t put it in there…when Feyre, Rhysand, Cassian, Morrigan & Amren were all abusing Nesta & Tamlin the domestic abuse hotline number or suicide hotline is nowhere to be seen…

In ACOWAR when Feyre abuses Tamlin by deciding she’s going to goad Tamlin into having an argument & he explodes due to a panic attack which is caused by reactive abuse WHERE WAS THE DOMESTIC ABUSE HOTLINE?!!?!!

When Rhysand goes the The Spring Court to speak to Tamlin & he actively notes that there’s no wards around the manor which means Tamlin is suicidal & then Rhysand tells Tamlin to rot after he helps save Prythian…WHERE WAS THE SUICIDE HOTLINE?!!!!?!!!

When Nesta contemplates jumping off a cliff on that suicide hike Cassian takes her on as punishment WHERE WAS THE SUICIDE & DOMESTIC ABUSE NUMBER?!!!

When Cassian tells Nesta he doesn’t know why her sisters love her, when he told her not eating won’t bring back her father, when he controlled what she was & wasnt allowed to eat, when he punished her on that hike even though they were all guilty for keeping it from Feyre, when he SA’d her when she was still human (the ACOMAF bonus chapter), when Feyre, Rhysand & Amren imprisoned her & then forced her into military training service, every time Cassian provoked Nesta on purpose into an argument & verbally abused her or weaponised his upbringing against her…I could go on. WHERE WAS THE DOMESTIC ABUSE HOTLINE?!!!?!!!

I say all this to say that when it was actually needed with “more serious/triggering” cases of mental illness/instability there was nothing in sight & was only added in ACOMAF to make Feyre look like the only helpless victim & to further attempt to drive home the narrative that Tamlin & Nesta were these evil pieces of shits.