#stupid idiot lesbian

[mes0p0tamia]

The blatant homoeroticism of sharing fruit with someone

[tiredyke]

every time queer discourse surges on this site everyone is so quick to jump to “it was actually the evil lesbians who divided us” because y’all heard the term “political lesbian” and never bothered to figure out what that meant

[plasticbabyart]

Idiot boy failure and his lesbian girl best friend, who’s gonna tell him ?

[balkanradfem]

Your story about that man attempting to groom you was so sad, and I know it doesn't work like this, but you really shouldn't blame yourself. Predators are predators because they're good at hunting.

As a slightly cheering story, I wanted to share my exact opposite experience as a young woman that a man attempted to groom. It's extremely long, so start at your own risk.

When I was eight, my family moved out to a remote farm. And on one hand, it was awesome, because I got to spend years wandering forests and fields so remote that I only saw other humans a few times each year.

On the other hand, I was (and still am, lol) an pretty autistic woman who was receiving zero social feedback during critical formulative learning years. And my mother, who was a lesbian who had married a man because it was expected of her, was really my only major human contact since my father was always at work.

So when I went to college at eighteen, I was very feral and had zero respect for men as a sex, thinking of them as mainly bumbling idiots that you only interacted with if you wanted babies.

Shortly after I started living in the dorms at college, an old man (60s) came up to me in the library and started talking to me. And he was actually pretty fascinating, mainly because he owned a fox and my immediate plan was to befriend him in order to pet his fox. So we exchanged numbers and he immediately he starts calling me every day and would drone on for hours about his life. And I could not care less, so I would let him blabber on in the background while I played video games and ignored him. He started calling so often, that I actually unplugged my phone and then plugged it back in a few days later only for him to call at 3 AM. And when I picked up the phone, he identified himself, and I told it was 3 AM and demanded to know why he was calling at such an hour. He said he just wanted to hear my voice, so I replied "Well you have." and then hung up.

Days later, he calls again and asks if I would like to go out for food and shopping. I respond with deadpan no, and tell him I have no money. He responds he'll pay for everything. And it never occurs to me that there will be expectations from him, because that was just never anything that had occurred in my life. The only adults I knew often bought me food and clothing for no discernable reason.

So we go out, and right away he gives me a ring with a gemstone in it. He blathers on and on about how expensive it was (like $90?) and tells me he knows it's too soon but that I deserve it. And I'm nodding along because this is all true and correct, I am amazing, I am incredible, and people should give me tribute for no reason. (Growing up feral, your ego will never be checked once, so you grow up with iron self esteem.)

We go out to eat, he only talks about himself some more, I eat a delicious chicken plate and then he drives me to some mall. He then tells me to get whatever I want.

And in his head, I imagine he thought that the social expectations would have been set up, that I would pick something cute and made for his gaze, because I'm spending his money and he already paid for my dinner.

But instead, I beeline to the thickest working man's jeans, grab six pairs, and then go straight to the dressing room before slamming the door into his following face. I then try on all six by myself, before coming out and announcing them all adequate and that I will take them all.

He's completely crestfallen and tries to stear me towards the underwear before holding up a thin gauzy thong and recommending them. And I look at him with such distain, like he is the world's stupidest fucking idiot that just fell off of the slow truck, before responding, "Stop being stupid, those will be uncomfortable." I then demand he buys me a six pack of durable cotton granny panties.

After he purchasing everything, we drive back to my dorm and I hop out with my bags. But for some reason, he gets out too. So I turn and face him and just stare at him, waiting for him to explain himself. And he kinda falters and stammers that he thought I was going to invite him up. I inquire why in a severe tone, starting to suspect that I have befriended the village idiot.

He responds that he thought the date was going well so he wanted to come up and see my dorm. And my look of distain, disbelief, and disgust is so severe, that he looks shocked before I even respond: "Why would you think this was a date? You are so old. Older than my father. And ugly. And fat. And I am so young. Why would you ever think this was a date?" And my outrage is so strong that I stride away towards the lobby door without waiting for an answer. He shouts "I want my fucking ring back." and I tell him no, you can't take a gift back, before walking through the door and locking it after me.

I never saw him again and I disconnected my phone, but he did send me an increasingly deranged series of emails where first he attempted to blackmail me into returning the ring by threatening to tell my college that I was defrauding innocent men and get me expelled, and then eventually started writing fan fiction erotica about me and exactly what I did when I had sex with them. But none of it bothered me because you can't taunt or hurt someone with something that isn't true, so I continued to ignore them and eventually he stopped.

So I hope that experience made him too wary to try grooming any other women in the great that he would encounter another autistic farm girl.

By the way, I never got to pet that fox, and that's the real tragedy of this story, that I listened to his annoying voice for so long and didn't even get to touch it.

Noo you didn't get to pet the fox!! Do you think the fox was real, did you see pictures? Maybe it was fake, because that is a perfect pull. If someone came up to me with the information that he has a fox, that would also work on me, I would want to pet that fox so badly.

Other than that, you are incredible, I wish we could all download your mindset and live like this. Amazing, unstoppable, unbothered, cannot be guilted, unafraid, will look a m*n in the face and tell him exactly whats up.

The funny thing is that I thought the same about my creep! I thought he was so old and ugly and boring and stupid and how could he in any realm of possibility even attempt to think he could date me? It was so inappropriate to even imagine that! I just couldn't say that, it would seem unforgivable for me to hurt his feelings by speaking my mind on the issue.

Anon I admire you so much, I can't believe you weren't bothered by all of the insane things he did (calling, trying to blackmail you, writing erotica about you) because I would be at the end of my nerves, changing my name and address, living in hiding for 20 years.

You did the completely right thing by ignoring him, wait if he knew where your dorm was, would he ever wait for you or try to physically assault you? That would be my first fear. You must be so strong to be this brave. I can't even imagine.

[vintage-bentley]

If you want an example for how heavily policed lesbians are by the Kweer Community, just look at the lesbian flags.

First we had the labrys flag. But oh no, that’s too terfy. Lesbians need to make a new one.

Then comes the lipstick/pink flag. Because lesbians are girls and pink is for girls. But oh no, it’s too exclusive! And the creator said some mean things :( so lesbians need to make a new flag!

Then comes the sunset flag. Because if we add orange then maybe it doesn’t seem like obvious pink = girl. And it’s super duper inclusive! But oh no, it’s not inclusive ENOUGH. Make a new flag!!

And I’ve seen many attempts at creating a New Lesbian Flag.

I’m somebody who doesn’t think lesbians need our own flag. I’m also somebody who thinks that if we do need one, the labrys was just fine.

But I’m really tired of the way that everyone just accepts that for SOME UNKNOWN REASON (aka lesbophobia 😑) lesbians are the only LGBTQIALMNOP+ group who’ve gone through multiple flags. Who have whole infographics about the multiple flags and why each of them are bad in some way. It’s not because lesbians are just shit at making flags or something…it’s because people LOVE picking apart every single thing we do or say. It’s because we cannot do anything for ourselves without people going “ummm…that seems a bit exclusive of you…”.

I’m just tired of seeing so many lesbian flags, not only because it’s stupid and the pink ones are ugly, but because it’s a perfect representation of how lesbians are repeatedly ripped apart by those who claim to be in a “community” with us.

[best-of-theworst]

Finally thought I meet the perfect girl and then I realize it was 3 foxes in a trench coat who brake my heart again...

[mixyyyx3]

//nickloon................kesbian yaoi.............

grandslams expect i got INCREDIBLY lazy with the coloring

+nickloon beacusae im delusional

I MIGHT CHANGE BASEBALLS AND NICKELS DEGINS TJEY ARE UGLY

[evil-flesh-eating-ai]

grrrrr…. my darling femme got a dress that’s so cute and sexy…… and now i have to tell them it’s too cute and sexy for my nana’s dumb stupid idiot old person wedding…. grrrr…. society….

[fatsmyname]

you dont have to answer this question but ive been feeling really confused about myself lately.

ive gone back and forth on identifying as a trans man or a gnc woman so ive settled on the label "transmasc woman" bc i want to physically transition to a degree but i have some attachment with womanhood solely through butches and other gnc women.

however i am bisexual and i've received a lot of hatred from other sapphics cause of my past with men even though i mainly prefer women now.

i want to embrace butchness bc i feel so attracted to that community but im scared i'll be rejected cause of my past with men. is butch solely for lesbians and if so, is there a similar label i can use to make up for the fact that im bi?

hey there anon!! first I wanna say sorry you experienced that from other lesbians/queer folk that’s literally so gross and stupid 😭 but there are bi butches!!! ive met some before but butch is historically a term that’s been used by many groups, such as gay men, lesbians, and bisexuals! if the word butch resonates with you, you don’t have to justify using it imo

being genderfucked is confusing! and to this day i teeter between language used mostly by trans men and language from butches. sometimes you will always be confused about yourself (i know i def am) and learning to live with the uncertainty really helps. understanding and accepting that u are in a constant state of flux and that how you feel today can change tomorrow!! and there’s nothing wrong w that :3

[mes0p0tamia]

Kneel for the cross. Stand for the flag.

[bookmothic-dyke]

Reminder: don’t walk over 20,000 steps in a day. I am sunburned and my feet hate me. Fuck.

[edgelordtozier]

the steddie fics where steve is embarrassingly air-headed and has no clue what bisexuality is even though his best friend is a lesbian are so funny to me (in a bad way). it’s like what’s another way that we can mercilessly infantilize him and make eddie munson (pathetic clueless loser) guide him and navigate the relationship as if steve hasn’t been in many relationships himself?

[girlivealwaysbean]

if all the men in my life disappeared right now 99 of my problems would be solved

[godblessrachelcarson]

if anyone is reading this feels insecure about their identity and whether or not they can use lesbian as a label i give u permission. doesn't matter if u dated a man or had a weird fantasy about oscar isaac or kermit the frog like my friend did that one time u can use whatever label u want the sun is going to eat us anyway.

[lostryu]

anytime someone tells me that "words are made up and so they don't have concrete meanings, the same goes for labels" I am throwing a fucking dictionary at their fucking head

[zapsoda]

like fuuck i cant be trans i dont even have the excuse of being hot