#stop being shitty to kids

[sehtoast]

I’m glad you said something bc the number of people acting like they want Ryan dead is insane 😭 like usually a lot of posts are like “the morally grey characters in the morally grey show are acting kind of bad?! I want them dead” but doing it with Ryan is a whole other level like c’mon

99% of the time I don't engage in fandom drama (unless they walk up in my house, in which case that shit's fair game lol) but it REALLY bugs me when people are shitty about kids.

i don't get how people are missing the point of him being a literal CHILD that's being forced to choose between awful and awful. he's like 12, just lost his mother, found out his whole life had been illusionary all except for his mom's love, got swept up into a war he never asked to be part of, and hot-potatoes back and forth between Homelander and butcher because they're both family but there's no world in which he can truly have his family be whole without alienating the other half.

he's clinging to what he's got left. he's a little kid. he's afraid. if he loses Homelander, he loses his father- he loses his last parent and the person who taught him that he doesn't have to hate himself for his powers. if he loses butcher, he loses that last part of his mother. he loses someone who loved her just as much as he did, who can talk about her and share the beauty of her memory, and there's no world in which that won't tear his little heart out all over again.

grace dropped homelander's shitty deeds on Ryan as if the laundry list of them would somehow make turning on homie a cut and dry decision. Ryan now has to rationalize that the father he knows is the same man who did x y and z. he has to grapple with the idea that he'd be committing to killing another one of his parents if he were to join butcher's side.

he's TWELVE YEARS OLD.

there is no choice that doesn't break his little heart all over again. if I were him, I'd have run out of that room too. i'd have shoved grace too, especially if I thought she was going to lock me in a box and force me to become a weapon- especially if I knew that humans had done all that and worse to my father.

Ryan's not a monster for having a heart. in fact, he's the most human of anyone on that show.

[carlyraejepsans]

hibiscia!!! Sorry if youve explained before but is there something specific about reset-remember fics that you hate? I don't really like them either but for me it's just because I feel like a lot of authors type sans in very ooc ways

They're completely antithetical to Sans' character arc for the sake of cheap and easy angst. The nature of his brand of cosmic horror isn't in reliving his life again and again, that's Flowey's. Sans knows OF the anomaly, knows that it's manipulating time and knows it's a threat to the entire universe, but he doesn't know how or why, because he doesn't remember.

And that's crucial! him being mostly in the dark in spite of the MANY warning signs about us... because it's in that doubt that he remains hopeful. YES we could potentially end the world... but what if we don't? yes we have unimaginable power over everyone else and we can bring back time, but what if we're just.... sad? he needs that gap in his knowledge so he can take a leap of faith across it, it's his entire character arc in the pacifist run. sans THINKS he's given up, he wants to have given up, he chose to do it because there's a comfort in that. in contenting yourself with good food and bad laughs. there's peace. but he hasn't given up, not really. on himself? maybe. but not in us.

there's no way to have that arc if he remembers resets.

[galaxywarp]

I love how many mutuals I have on here who would otherwise never be mutuals with such a shameless Steven universe kinnie but im just such a genuinely nice guy that they can’t be mad at me for it.

it’s like how often I make friends with cishet guys irl before they realize how queer I am but by then they like me too much to be mean to me about it.

[trekkele]

Everytime you talk about how Bruce can react emotionally and/or as a trauma response I remember how a LOT of people don‘t view him as a 'person'.

It‘s a fun concept in Storytelling, in CANON. Seeing people who genuinely believe it out in the wild is frustrating. Fandom is always so resistant to recognize parents specifically as human.

(If I held a spider in my Arachnophobic mother‘s face s would slap/push/shove me. She would inadvertently hurt me to escape the situation I deliberately put her in. It‘s totally understandable behavior- You are 100%correct)

Also- in storytelling that view is challenged, where the characters learn to realise that even Batman isn‘t infallible. It‘s just a more fantastical version of kids discovering their parents aren’t all knowing.

High key grateful to always get my daily dose of DC sanity here 😂

Yeah watching the batkids realize Bruce isnt perfect can be so so good. That realization when you have a regular parent is devastating, i cant imagine having that happen because my parent is also a vigilante that just miscalculated so bad he almost died.

Whats fun is that Bruce also. Doesnt always consider himself a person. Thats bad thought that’s definitely not a good thing for him to be doing. Sucks when everyone around him reinforces it.

Also fandom is so bad at parents lmao its like the madonna/whore thing but its. Dead saint/living abuser instead.

[agalychnisspranneusroseus]

Imagine you're Mr. Wu and your weird gay daughter runs away in tears after destroying some unespecified object while yelling about you ruining her life. Because you told her you'd be moving to another state. This is the last time you see your daughter in half a year, and when she comes back, she comes back... wrong. She's wearing a light leather armor, a fur-lined cape, and a green flower crown. She has two long scars, one alongside her spine and the other along her chest, the tissue around them covered in burn scars. Doctors say she shouldn't have survived. Doctors say she didn't. Yet she's right here, in front of you, hospital gown clinging to her small, fragile, trembling frame. She fidgets with her hands. Getting her to stay still has always been difficult, but now it seems impossible. She won't let go of her phone. She's always texting her two friends. When you take it away, she gets anxious. You always knew those damn phones cause kids to act weird, but your kid having a panic attack seems too extreme, even for her. Then again, she's always been odd. Nowadays, she wakes up crying and screaming almost every night, and you realize she's been stealing her phone from your bedside drawer every night to text her friends, returning it before you wake up. You catch her once and decide to give her that damn phone back. It's the only thing that calms her down, as if she were a baby with a pacifier. She spends her last weeks in LA clinging to her friends, having sleepovers and playing her weird board games with them. Everytime they drop her back at her house, there's an excessive amount of hugs and tears. But the moments when they call her, or when she leaves to meet with them, or when they show up at their door to pick her up... those are the only moments in which you see her happy. One of her friends, the rude and disobedient one, came back with a big scar on her face. She's been acting a lot nicer, though. The other one too. She acts a great deal more adult now. You doesn't know what happened or where your daughter went. She won't tell you. But you can tell this friendship is the only thing keeping her afloat right now. Maybe you know, deep down, that no one else would understand.

And then you decide to move anyway because fuck her amirite

[its-a-beautful-day]

Been thinking about how it feels, being the wild child

the struggle of not feeling human, when emotions get too strong,

when hands feel like paws and teeth become fangs, shoulders and hunches raised in anger and low growls of fear,

somehow this body language is easier, is more natural than my own

[faunandfloraas]

It is kinda funny seeing people talk about Seungmin lately because he definitely has gotten more bold and confident for sure. He's also just getting opportunities to be perceived as an individual on his own as well for the first time in a while but it's still jarring to see people be like Aw he was always such a quiet goodie two shoes little nerd and it's like...... he was the one to leave and seek out his own vocal coach and blatantly talk about it, which of course lead to I.N and Lee Know also doing the same, he was the one to go on bubble and tell off sasaengs who used to camp outside their old dorm for invading members privacy but also because it effected other residents and staff at the complex, something that i'm certain upper management wouldnt have been happy about, and he wasn't curt or nice about it either. like he's never actually been a wallflower, he's always had a pretty strong backbone and seems to stick to his principals, its not really new.

[wormieapple]

i am once again thinking about emma

[trustworthycinnamon]

Feeding my sick as fuck baby bro some dope milk

[crimeronan]

kitkat. youve got apollos dodgeball’d. theyre doing shitty poly memes on tiktok and its nightmarish. its giving me active brain damage. its so awful.

(theyre deciding that all poly people have “the look” and. theyre basically just saying all poly people are somehow Inherently Ugly and Pretentious. the worst thing is that every person saying this looks EXACTLY like the example images they’re pulling up and then going on long tangents about how THEY dont COUNT because they ARENT POLYAMOROUS!!! theyre BETTER!!!)

that's not apollo's dodgeball. that's me saying shitty things are happening and have been happening & you having not seen it for yourself yet and then thinking i made some weird out-of-left-field prediction about the future of memes once you DO see it for yourself. instead of me just.... having said what has been happening online for ages. & you being surprised it's true when it's true.

people online are shitty about poly people and meme about it on all forms of social media, and they always have, and they will continue to do so. end of story. sorry you've just discovered this through the latest tiktok trend but don't drag me into it. i didn't predict SHIT.

[shoechoe]

this may be mean but i can't help but feel like putting stuff like "former gifted kid" in your bio when you're in your 20s is a little... i don't have the word for it but really no one cares about that stuff when you get out of school

i feel the same way about people who look down on other people who have poor grammar like man that's really something you should grow out of after you're 9 years old and get complimented in class for having a big vocabulary

[alagaisia]

Hey if you’re still enjoying and engaging with Harry Potter in any capacity you can unfollow me 😊 please and thank you

Like. I get it. I was super into it as a kid too. I did not have the social context to pick up on the antisemitism or transphobia or sexism or fatphobia or bioessentialism or racism or anything else. I also picked up on surface-level language of Fighting Back Against Evil and ascribed my own values onto what that meant and thought we were all on the same page. I remember when the original kids who grew up with the books started becoming adult fans and picking up on the (blatant!) antisemitism and everybody was still mostly willing to give JKR the benefit of the doubt on it. (“She was writing kids books!” They said. “She didn’t know she was penning a global phenomenon! She picked a common literary trend in European fairy tales (antisemitic caricature) and didn’t examine it closely. It’s a mistake anyone could make,” we said. “She would probably do things differently now. After all, she word-of-god confirmed the vaguest hints she dropped that Dumbledore might be gay,” we said.) There was actually a span of several years where biases inherent in the actual real content of the Harry Potter series were coming to light and even the people pointing them out still seemed mostly to think it was an unfortunate accident.

That time has passed. Years ago! We are long past the first months of “maybe she doesn’t realize this seemingly-feminist tweet she liked was made by a noted TERF” and then “how could she not realize that these many veiled TERF-y things she’s retweeted have implications for the many queer fans of her work” and finally “oh wow okay JKR just dropped an entire transphobic manifesto on twitter. I guess the transphobia was the point.”

Yeah, there were a few months after that where people were still processing and still working through how they felt about Harry Potter and all of its flaws with the context of the now open transphobia of the creator. I was there for that. Remember how I was one of the kids who built it up into something noble and worthwhile based on my own beliefs about what messages it was probably trying to convey? Turns out it wasn’t trying to say any of those things, and when you take the time to examine all of the terrible shit that made its way into the text whether JKR intended it to be there or not, the whole series falls apart. It’s weird to discover that there’s a room in your house that’s rotten to the core, but eventually you figure out you can’t live like that, still going in there and holding your nose and pretending it’s still the same room you thought it was when the termites were only inside of the walls and hadn’t yet started chewing their way through the furniture. Because what’s going to happen is that they are going to infest the rest of your house. If you decide you can ignore transphobia and antisemitism and everything else just because you liked the color of the wallpaper, the rest of your principles are going to crumble too. You get rid of that fucking room. You put those books on a high shelf in the back of your closet behind other outgrown clothes and interests and you move the fuck on.

JKR uses the money made from her transphobic antisemitic children’s books to actively funding hate groups and to lobby for legislation that will and has actually affected the actual lives of trans people in an entire country. We are past the point of grieving something you were wrong about in childhood. Kids are wrong about a lot of stuff. You grow up and you learn new information and you change your behaviors based on it. You have to choose. It is transphobic to pretend there is not transphobia where there is. It is transphobic to support the work of someone who is using those funds to take rights from trans people with every fucking dollar. It is hateful to continue to engage positively with a story that at its very core is rooted in hate and bigotry and prejudice. You can choose to do all of those things but you cannot claim ignorance of them and you cannot choose those things and still pretend that choosing them upholds the values we convinced ourselves that Harry Potter stood for over a decade ago as uninformed children. You cannot choose to do those things and pretend to still support your trans and queer and Jewish neighbors. I do not want you in my neighborhood. Leave.

[venacoeurva]

Learning so many youtubers are parents who for most of their online popularity weren’t lately is jarring, partially because a lot of them still look so young and I associate them with being like. early 20s. so my brain can’t get past that, but still refreshing that the reason this is also jarring is because they apparently don’t put their kid out there online and didn’t make their entire channels about being a parent

[dukeofthomas]

It's kinda funny how people reject the comics bc Batman is abusive and it's mostly ignored/not addressed properly... and then instead go read fic where Batman is abusive but it's ignored/not addressed properly

[satsuha]

i got so angry about the AB remaster i drew this

[navree]

to be clear, i'm not angry about pretty boy slade wilson at all, if clark is just starting out then bruce has probably only been at it for a couple years himself, and dick is definitely still flipping about at haly's with his totally alive not ever gonna die parents and a good few years from slade deciding that his archnemesis needs to be a teenager from the most insane family in all of north america, it makes sense that slade so far is a young man still fulfilling mercenary contracts and other things like that and still in the relative flush of youth

also again, the way they drew him was hot, if this is how slade's anime twink phase goes i'm not mad about it