#stop being assholes

[secretlytranced]

The proper way to start a conversation with another human is not to send a spiral gif and try to drop them without consent or warning.

That is the proper way to get immediately blocked.

[fallenwerewolf569]

They literally talked about how good of friends they are, how much they trust eachother and care for eachother as friends after their Season 3 experience. They never once said they were dating, they never implied they were dating, they never implied they were secretly in love. They. Are. Friends. It’s not a PR stunt. Just because two people are seen to have chemistry doesn’t mean it’s felt as sexual chemistry between themselves.

With enough clips slowed down and played to the right songs you can take any clip out of context and easily make it look like two people are in love.

I do not agree with real life shipping but if you are going to do it at least have the decency to show even an ounce of respect to the 2 people you are shipping.

Also if you aren’t willing to do that, think of it this way: the more frustrating, difficult and painful you make all this for them the more likely they are to start associating each other with that pain and frustration. You aren’t driving them closer to eachother you’re just giving them more reasons to distance from each other and that will result in them losing their friendship with eachother.

All this is to say…

Leave. Them. Alone.

[theresthesnitch]

it can be both, you know? it can be both.

fem sirius can be wonderful and validating for people who see themselves align with that representation of him but also the popular trend in fandom to make a fem sirius, particularly when paired with a hyper masc remus, can start to feel like fandom is forcing an m/m pairing into traditinal steretypical f/m roles and that can cumultiviely start to feel like homophobia and that doesn't change anyone's right to create fem sirius or mean that someone who creates fem sirius is homophobic because they create fem sirius or that someone else might feel validated by hyper fem sirius but that validation might also make someone else feel isolated because they don't fit into that depiction either and it can be both.

it can be both.

[drpoisonoaky]

it pisses me off so much when people say “there are only a few fics for this ship so i have to lower my standards” bitch write something yourself, at least the people who are writing your “low-standard” fics are doing smt for the ship instead of just whining

[littlemisspipebomb]

I know I'm going to sound like an absolute twit right now but if big brain movie people want more people to enjoy shit with a heavy emphasis on symbolism and stop watching marvel movies, you gotta stop being an asshole. You can say "my interpretation of the scene in the bathroom was the main character expressing how her self doubt was brought on by her mother" but then someone else is like "nah you're dumb. It was actually about something else entirely" and they don't realise what they're doing. It feels like they just want to win at watching movies and not actually have a discussion about them. So the effect is that people stop watching movies where it's possible to lose a conversation about them, and just watch marvel shit instead.

[caddy-crystal-queen]

So apparently there are marvel fans that need to be slapped...welp I need something to bitch about while I wait for House of the Dragon to come back on so why the fuck not?

So...on this mornings episode of fans that need to be slapped: Some Loki Fans.

Oh I'm not gonna make any friends with this one but I think that's okay because there's VERY little in the MCU that I care about (really only Moon Knight and maybe Dr. Strange...).

Anyway...

Let me just start this off by saying if you're a loki/mobius shipper or a loki/sylvie shipper who dumps on either side's ship, congrats, you're officially an asshole!

"Oh I'm SaD tHaT mY sHiP iSn'T cAnOn, BuT aT lEaSt YoU dIdNt GeT wHaT yOu WaNtEd EiThEr!!!!"

*slaps, clean in the face, Back. Of. The. Hand!*

Congratulations you're a fucking asshole! There's your prize!

What the hell even are you? Five years old? You're fighting over ships like they're fucking toys instead of, gee, I don't know, FICTIONAL. FUCKING. CHARACTERS! Get a fucking grip, seriously.

Grow. The fuck. Up.

This bullshit right here is what's killing Fandom right now. It's not the lack of support for artists, but the Fandom is tearing each other down over insignificant bullshit that doesn't even fucking matter. Do you really have nothing going on in your life to the point where you have to shit on things other people like? You realize that makes you a bully right? Is your life seriously so fucking boring that you take delight in this childish nonsense? God's I can't wait for some of yall to hit your 30s so hopefully you'll see what an idiot you were...

Because look, no matter whether you ship Loki/Mobius or Loki/Sylvie, here's a little truth nugget for ya. Come here, I'll whisper it in your ear...

NEITHER OF YOU GOT WHAT YOU WANTED!!!!!!!!

Happy now?

Congrats, all of you should be/are fucking miserable. All of you should be pissed and burning the showrunners in effigy! I know I fucking would if I thought this shit mattered that much.

And I don't wanna hear any bullshit about how "Oh well sylki is wrong because self-cest" or some bullshit. I don't care. Keep your bullshit ass "morality" out of Fandom. I've said it many times on this blog and I will continue to say it: Fandom activities DO NOT determine one's morality. Use. Your. God. Damn. Brain!

And even if you wanna play the stupid morality card: well wasn't mobius apart of an organization that was actively against the free will of everyone in the MCU? Like seriously, he's not that innocent either. I don't know the dudes backstory and I don't care to know it, but in my eyes thats a little fucking worse in my opinion.

Look the point is, neither of you guys got what you wanted, the ending was disappointing, and this is why I don't watch most TV anymore. Ever since the ending of GoT, happy endings in media have become increasingly rare. I'm beginning to wonder if they're even really allowed anymore at this point. I'm sorry but I really think the Loki Fandom needs to come together and support each other rather than tearing each other down over nonsense that doesn't even matter and kicking each other while they're down is seriously shitty behavior.

Because seriously, that shit is why people are leaving Fandoms and actively killing them.

Anyway yeah, you guys needed a slap and a big fucking reality check. Peace and love, I'm out peeps.

[saetoru]

me at the bottom of a fic: please don’t comment about a part 2

people: part 2 pls !!

[zebiscool]

New years resolution idea!

Stop being misogynistic towards Lily and making her a bad parent or a horrible jealous person in fanfiction. I love jegulus ffs, but this has just gotta stop.

Hope this helps some people😁😁😁

[h0llym0lly]

HELLO FELLOW SPLATOON FANS

i would like to gently remind yall

splatfests are something that we do

for fun

this is fun

this game is meant to be fun

if the splatfests make you that angry go do salmon run or a completely different game when it’s splatfest time

shiver isn’t bad because all the people who are good at the game choose her team

we have a whole other year of splatfests and such

we have sooo many chances to win

i was on team big man

i fully get why it’s upsetting

i’m not telling you to not be upset

but don’t harass people who genuinely enjoy the character just because they’re better at the game

because

this

is

fun

[embodiedinscribed]

Just saw this, and I'm pretty into it:

"There is no Queer review board."

[goddessofuckery]

someone messaged me a few months ago, “you think you’re so pretty n you’re acc not its so embarrassing, acc makes me so annoyed” - i’d been really struggling with my self image when they messaged me that, which is funny really because nothing anyone had said to me on the internet had affected me since i was 15 and going through a rough time, but at 21 when i thought i was finally happy with the way i look, and who i am as an adult, this one message from some random girl i’d never spoken to ruined the self confidence i worked so desperately hard to have,

Now I struggle to look at myself in a mirror, or take pictures of myself. I can’t stop looking back at when i was younger and wishing I looked the way i did back then, i’m constantly struggling with my mental health and medication, trying to balance being a uni student and working, trying to desperately pretend that i’m okay because i’m tired of people asking me how i am, or if i’m lonely, i’m tired of making excuses as to why i don’t want to see people or why i don’t wear what i used to or why i barely leave the house.

mean people don’t stop being mean because they’re no longer in high school, and thats something i’ve had to come to terms with.

i deadass only use tumblr to repost stuff but i’m really bringing back the “i’m 15 and sad” tumblr days🥶 let me rant tho i deserve this

[evachocolate]

Stop bullying.

Tʜɪɴᴋ ʏᴏᴜ'ʀᴇ sᴏ ᴄᴏᴏʟ?

-Tʜᴇ ɢɪʀʟ ʏᴏᴜ ᴊᴜsᴛ ᴄᴀʟʟᴇᴅ ғᴀᴛ?… Sʜᴇ ɪs ᴏɴ A Diet.

-Tʜᴇ ɢɪRʟ ʏᴏᴜ ᴊᴜsᴛ ᴄᴀʟʟᴇᴅ ᴜɢʟʏ?… Sʜᴇ sᴘᴇɴᴅs ʜᴏᴜʀs ᴘᴜᴛᴛɪɴɢ ᴍᴀᴋᴇᴜᴘ ᴏɴ ʜᴏᴘɪɴɢ ���ʜᴀᴛ ᴘᴇᴏᴘʟᴇ ᴡɪʟʟ ʟɪᴋᴇ ʜᴇʀ.

-Tʜᴇ ʙᴏʏ ʏᴏᴜ ᴛRɪPpEd?… Hᴇ ɪs ᴀʙᴜsᴇᴅ ᴇɴᴏᴜɢʜ ᴀᴛ ʜᴏᴍᴇ.

-Sᴇᴇ ᴛʜᴀᴛ ᴍᴀɴ ᴡɪᴛʜ ᴛʜᴇ ugly sᴄᴀʀs?… Hᴇ ғᴏᴜɢʜᴛ ғᴏʀ ʜɪs ᴄᴏᴜɴᴛʀʏ.

-Tʜᴀᴛ ɢᴜʏ ʏOᴜ ᴊᴜsᴛ ᴍᴀᴅᴇ ғᴜɴ ᴏғ ғᴏʀ ᴄʀʏɪɴɢ?… Hɪs ᴍᴏᴛʜᴇʀ ɪs ᴅʏɪɴɢ.

-Tʜᴀᴛ ᴋɪᴅ ʏᴏᴜ ᴊᴜsᴛ ᴍᴀᴅᴇ ғᴜɴ ᴏғ ғᴏʀ ʙᴇɪɴɢ ʙᴀʟᴅ?…Hᴇ ʜᴀs ᴄᴀɴᴄᴇʀ.

-Pᴜᴛ ᴛʜɪs ᴀs ʏᴏᴜʀ sᴛᴀᴛᴜs ɪғ ʏᴏᴜʀ ᴀɢᴀɪɴsᴛ ʙᴜʟʟʏɪɴɢ. I ʙᴇᴛ ᴍᴏsᴛ ᴏғ ʏᴏᴜ ᴡᴏɴᴛ ʀᴇ-ᴘᴏsᴛ, ʙᴜᴛ I'ᴍ sᴜʀᴇ ᴛʜᴇ ᴘᴇᴏᴘʟᴇ ᴡɪᴛʜ ᴀ ʜᴇᴀʀᴛ ᴡɪʟL!!!

[bit-of-a-timelord]

Joseph Quinn fans are fucking gross and creepy.

[caddy-crystal-queen]

So...looks like I have a new Fandom full of folks that need slapping. Which is a shame because I really like this. Now keep in mind, I don't know all the details about this as I learned about this literally a few hours ago, and I never really interacted with this individual. So forgive me if my knowledge of the situation is skewed or limited.

That being said...

On today's episode of who in what Fandom needs to be slapped, i present to you all the Call of Duty fandom...for literally everything...but most prominently how it treats each other...

My history and feelings with CoD are very...complex to say the least. As a propaganda piece, I absolutely fucking hate it. Yes, the CoD games, all of them, are military propaganda. Whether you believe it or not, this is the truth. However, having seen firsthand what the military does to someone (my father) I have no intention of ever joining the military, much less for fictional dudes.

However I do find the characters intriguing. The last game was a total shitshow though (RIP Soap, you never did get to juju on that beat...). But like with most things on this blog, it's not the thing itself I'm taking issue with.

It's the fans.

Yep. That shouldn't surprise anyone.

You people make this Fandom so God. Damn. Fucking. Unbearable to be in. From fucking up characterizations, to flat out racism in regards to certain characters, and especially what I'm about to bitch about today: and that's how you treat each other. I'm about to go over two situations in which this is very prominent. But before I do

(SLAP! CLEAN...IN THE FACE!) STOP. FUCKING. HARASSING. INNOCENT. PEOPLE! ENOUGH! Be an actual adult and take responsibility for your shit!

So earlier this year, a couple months ago as of writing this, a young man killed himself on tiktok live because of allegations that he was grooming a sixteen year old. He was bullied, harassed, and treated like absolute garbage by you people over shit that turned out to not even fucking be true. But whether or not it was true, poor Inquisitore most likelt knew that his reputation would be forever soured. Pair that with possibly a lot of mental health issues (I didn't know him personally but I'm sure he had problems) and well, I'm sure you all already know what happened. I believe this was back in September, I know it was before Halloween, but yeah we all felt the impact of his death. You did that. Whether you want to believe it or not, you all did that to that poor young man who it turned out didn't do anything to anyone.

Now for the situation I heard about this morning and that's the situation I've heard about in regards to a writer who went by Puff. I'm afraid that history is repeating itself already only this time it's a minor who's being attacked. First of all, I don't know this individual personally, I followed them for their self aware AU and just the general positive vibe they gave out. I never interacted with them though, I did like to see their posts because they seemed like a general decent person. I did not know they were a minor until all this stuff came out. Now apparently they were facing harassment for interacting with MDNI/NSFW stuff. This is a tricky situation in my opinion. I don't control what people write. I don't control what people interact with except for regards to my own content, regardless of whether or not I write smut (I generally don't because I'm on the ace spectrum and I'm bad at it but that's neither here nor there).

However, and it's a big HOWEVER, you have no. No. No. NO right WHATSOEVER to promote the bullying and harassing of an innocent person! It's the same thing that happened to Inquisitore, just the other way around. I get blocking minors, especially if you don't want them interacting or reading your stuff. I'm all for blocking them, or whatever it is you need to do. What I'm NOT for is the blatant bullying and harassing messages being sent to a child to either delete their entire account (which puff did, by the way) or even some saying they should kill themselves. Seriously...what in the hell is wrong with you people? How would you, as a minor child, who wanted to make content for other people, feel if someone sent you or someone you love a message like that? Enough is enough! You are not in fucking high school anymore, this is Tumblr. If you're an asshole, you deserve to get called out for being an asshole!

Call of Duty fandom, all of you, stop telling people to kill themselves. Just ..seriously. it's not cool. It's not funny. It's not edgy or whatever cool fucking term you think it is. In the words of Ghost of all people: "Actions have consequences".

And sometimes that consequence can be someone's life, with their blood on your conscience. Stop. Be better.

[lizzie-tempest]

for fuck's sake guys, we are practically playing with dolls. it's fucking fiction! get a grip on yourselves and go outside and touch some grass! i'm so sick of fandoms turning into toxic places. just let us fucking enjoy ourselves!

The Three Laws of Fandom

If you wish to take part in any fandom, you need to accept and respect these three laws.

If you aren’t able to do that, then you need to realise that your actions are making fandom unsafe for creators. That you are stifling creativity.

Like vaccination, fandom only works if everyone respects these rules. Creators need to be free to make their fanart, fanfics and all other content without fear of being harassed or concern-trolled for their creative choices, no matter whether you happen to like that content or not.

The First Law of Fandom

Don’t Like; Don’t Read (DL;DR)

It is up to you what you see online. It is not anyone else’s place to tell you what you should or should not consume in terms of content; it is not up to anyone else to police the internet so that you do not see things you do not like. At the same time, it is not up to YOU to police fandom to protect yourself or anyone else, real or hypothetical.

There are tools out there to help protect you if you have triggers or squicks. Learn to use them, and to take care of your own mental health. If you are consuming fan-made content and you find that you are disliking it - STOP.

The Second Law of Fandom

Your Kink Is Not My Kink (YKINMK)

Simply put, this means that everyone likes different things. It’s not up to you to determine what creators are allowed to create. It’s not up to you to police fandom. 

If you don’t like something, you can post meta about it or create contrarian content yourself, seek to convert other fans to your way of thinking.  

But you have no right to say to any creator “I do not like this, therefore you should not create it. Nobody should like this. It should not exist.”

It’s not up to you to decide what other people are allowed to like or not like, to create or not to create. That’s censorship. Don’t do it.

The Third Law of Fandom

Ship And Let Ship (SALS)

Much (though not all) fandom is about shipping. There are as many possible ships as there are fans, maybe more. You may have an OTP (One True Pairing), you may have a NOTP, that pairing that makes you want to barf at the very thought of its existence.

It’s not up to you to police ships or to determine what other people are allowed to ship. Just because you find that one particular ship problematic or disgusting, does not mean that other people are not allowed to explore its possibilities in their fanworks.

You are free to create contrarian content, to write meta about why a particular ship is repulsive, to discuss it endlessly on your private blog with like-minded persons.

It is not appropriate to harass creators about their ships, it is not appropriate to demand they do not create any more fanworks about those ships, or that they create fanwork only in a manner that you deem appropriate.

These three laws add up to the following:

You are not paying for fanworks content, and you have no rights to it other than to choose to consume it, or not consume it. If you do choose to consume it, do not then attack the creator if it wasn’t to your taste. That’s the height of bad manners.

Be courteous in fandom. It makes the whole experience better for all of us.

[sunnywalnut]

Tired of defending myself to people that won't even listen.

If I'm going to be the villain in your story, let me be the villain.

I've tried and tried to do good, spread good, and uplift others.

I may not be right all the time. Or even word things correctly.

But I'm not a fucking dumbass like some people think I am just based off of tiny snapshots from my life that I have chosen to share with them.

I am good because I choose to be good. I am kind because I choose to be kind. Your hate only fuels me to add more kindness into the world. And yes, while it might be futile in the grand scheme of things, at least it matters to some.

However what I will not tolerate is people harassing others in my comments. Fuck you all. Do better.

You are grown fucking adults. Act like it.

Pathetic, really.

Just pathetic.