#stirring up action…

[aleatherheartandleathergloves]

Hello humans.

I was told to “stir something up” by the mothership so here’s something:

TAG GAME TIME!!!

Make a playlist based off your/ a jd character!

Orrrr, for double (aura) points,

Make it based off a ship!!

(Anyone can participate! I mean ANYONE!!)

I’ll go first:

And for the ship:

Have fun!!

Tags:

@the-official-rocking-russian-man @the-pham-ily-ask-blog @ken-okamoto-official @the-ado-cavo @formallake

[psalmsofpsychosis]

Today on Everyday I Wake Up And Gotham TV Hurts Me news: You think Wayleska is not canon? i'm hereby referring you to Fred Alford's essey on the nature of evil and how we're wired to react to it.

Next i'm reminding you that in season 3 Bruce desperately tries to define his connection with Selina in common terms and pull her into a semblance of a relationship, and Selina refuses the labels. "We do we have to be anything? Why can't we just be Selina and Bruce?" and eventually they grow into something far more complex and deeper and more meaningful and multifacated than the combination of a bunch of definitions.

in Season 5 Jeremiah desperately tries to define his connection with Bruce and pull him into a semblance of a relationship, and Bruce refuses to engage with the idea of Jeremiah putting a name to them, "enemies" "brothers" "best friends", and really what they end up being is simply Bruce and Jeremiah. Following this thread of thought, you can see the narrative disclosing to you, the audience, that by utterly refusing any and all definitions for what he and Jeremiah are, in principle Bruce is acknowledging that he does not see Jeremiah as evil nor does he see a true foundational need to contain him, and with this choice in his mind his connection with Jeremiah Valeska is elevated to hold the same quality and cadence as his connection with Selina.

[sydney-empire]

When season one of Arcane ended, I felt I had been misled. I felt it wasn't truly Jinx's story, but rather it was Jayce's. Obviously, there are a number of different characters that we're meant to explore, but Jinx herself felt like a plot device in her own story; gone for most of it just to show up at the worst moment and cause another roadblock. She felt so gimmicky that I didn't care much for her.

Well I feel like this new season just confirmed what I already felt. I was invested with the whole martial law plot and Jinx becoming a new symbol of hope for the people of Zaun, and I truly thought we'd see her and Sevika work together and fight for their people (Jinx making Sevika a new arm as a surprise gift was really cute!). Well Jayce's storyline ended up overpowering everything. I was never fond of the whole "progression goes too far and turns into annihilation in the name of perfection" trope, and watching Jayce save the entire world with a pep talk and then sacrifice himself with Viktor just.... idk man, the speech and forehead touch were both very sweet, but why did the entire conflict between Piltover and Zaun have to be discarded for this? Was this really worth it? You often lose all personality in your story when the stakes are raised so needlessly high. A civil war between two factions is already tense and has so much potential for character direction and relationship-building. We had martial law, relocation camps, threats of fascism, the first act gave us so much to work with. Jinx could've had that realization that she CAN in fact do something meaningful. She could've stepped up to the role and waved that damn flag we saw in the intro. Maybe Vi could've done something other than pine for Caitlyn and cry.

I definitely had fun watching the show, but the adrenaline wore off pretty quickly and I realized just how little we actually got. All that carried over from the first season were its flaws.

[lazzarella]

Why do some people continue to watch Thai BLs if they think they're all total trash, they're all badly written and insulting the intelligence of the audience among other complaints I’ve seen? 🤔 some people act like it’s their duty or they’re forced to watch things they don’t like instead of an active choice they make lol

[breadandbloodybutter]

Looking through Baldur's Gate tags is haphazard, because there's that one bg3 bad takes that I would 100% not get involved in, but

'Haarlep has no autonomy and acts on Raphael's orders'

that doesn't seem.. entirely accurate--

[tomwambsgans]

obviously a lot of the time a snubbing from or otherwise trouble with shiv can be directly linked to tom seeking greg out, but what's interesting to me is the fact that tom first tells greg that he'll take care of him literally within an hour of successfully proposing to shiv. and like i already fully believed it anyway but it's a nice little reminder that feeling unloved by shiv is FAR from the only factor in why tom wants greg - that he did, undeniably, just plain like him a lot from the very beginning.

[gydima]

You ever think about how there would probably be 25% fewer Izzy Hands posts if some of the people who dislike him would adjust WHERE they talk about him?

Like, I get why some people hate Izzy. No big deal that people have different opinions than me! The problem lies in beating the same dead horse IN THE IZZY HANDS TAG or in direct response to Izzy enjoyers' posts.

For anyone who hates Izzy and genuinely wants to see less about him, the solution is simple and two-pronged:

If you make a post criticizing him, tag it "Izzy Hands critical." Izzy enjoyers are far less likely to jump to his defense there than in the regular old "Izzy Hands" tag. (We may never even see it if we have that tag filtered!)

Try not to yuck someone's yum in response to Izzy-positive posts. You won't have to expend your energy in a pointless back-and-forth battle if you ignore posts by Izzy enjoyers or block us altogether if our opinions bother you overmuch.

Rest assured, we've heard MANY TIMES why Izzy is crap and people shouldn't like him. Unless you're a galaxy-brained individual with an earth-shattering new analysis, one more post/response isn't going to make us see the anti-Izzy light.

(For the record, when Izzy-critical folks say something negative about him in their OWN blogs and DON'T use the Izzy Hands main tag, I think it would behoove Izzy enjoyers to scroll on past and not engage either. No one's convincing anyone to change their opinions, let's be real.)

[dewgongs]

i dont really necessarily ask for it to happen but like.

[shorthaltsjester]

nothing more morally reprehensible than a cleric (checks notes) using the key features of their class…? surely that can’t be where we are regarding analysis of character actions in cr at this point.

[zoekrystall]

Saw certain tweets and here once again a reminder which a twt mutual luckily wrote shorter than I could (plus public so I can rb bc no way I do that myself on that site)

Also

And if you want smth I wrote myself which is longer and not just abt that here you go

[birgittesilverbae]

once again haunted by the phelps!beatrice and lochte!lilith doc it's been three years die already

[hellishvxbes]

Being a good person doesn’t meant taking shit laying down btw.

Like I think just in general, people think staying quiet about how they’ve been treated to avoid ‘drama’ is the best solution and I’m telling you it’s not.

Absolutely be loud about it. Point it out. Confront them. How they react is out of your control but at least you said what you needed to say.

I’ve been shushed before. Someone who I thought was a friend really hurt me, betrayed me. It was like a slap in the face, and all because I was going through my own shit and didn’t have time to be there 100%.

And it sucked, how I kind of had to swallow my hurt. How a lot of my ‘friends’ knew it was shitty of them but because they didn’t wanna cause drama they didn’t say anything. No one did a god damn thing and it’s really something when you see an abuser get love and praise and be treated like they are this wonderful person when they aren’t.

And true, you can’t make everyone see it. I know they will eventually, and it’s not my job to point it out for everyone. And I won’t. But at that time? It absolutely hurt me, and I started to look at things differently. Look at people differently. And it left me shambles for a good while.

I would rant about it and people would ask me to stop. Or to tag it. Because they didn’t wanna see it. And that’s valid? But also? Why is it you can only accept me when I’m showing my good side? The side of me that’s put together and makes you laugh and keeps you entertained but when I’m hurting you want me to take it elsewhere.

Started making me look at ppl on here who only look at you like a number. I know we all are going through our own shit. I don’t expect ppl to drop everything and help me, I don’t expect ppl to care. If I vent it’s usually just for myself to let off steam and it helps . But yet, somehow there’s always someone that makes it about them.

Therapy has helped me a lot with creating boundaries. I realized a lot of the things that happened where my own fault due to, seeing the issues but not saying anything about them. And also how I make myself to readily available for people. I was there for that person for so much, even bought them food when they were hungry and couldn’t for themselves. I don’t regret it, I don’t regret caring or having a good heart. No natter what I never want to lose that side of me that gives a damn about people.

I do the things I do because I’ve been there. I offer a safe space , a fun space for you to be yourself . Because I know what it’s like to have to hide. Show ppl how to love themselves because I had to learn on my own. I am an empath, I feel everything and I sometimes go overboard because I don’t have the proper boundaries set up. But I’m much more aware now. Learning and trying to be more effective in my communication.

But it makes me sad when you do call out bad behavior and instead of people looking at themselves and saying ‘you know I’m sorry I did screw up, I’m going to do better’ they deny. They gaslight you. They bring up everything YOUVE done wrong to them instead of acknowledging what you’re bringing to their attention. Suddenly they are the victim and you’re the bully being aggressive because they can’t tell the difference between an aggressive tone and an assertive one.

And it sucks that you’ll deal with people who can’t see anything past their own pain. Cuz there is no dealing with that, that’s shit they gotta work on and unfortunately they gotta be willing to look at themselves in the mirror and start seeing the truth.

We all got flaws. I had to look myself in the mirror, and see a lot of things I didn’t like either. Things that needed changing. That’s maturing. Recognizing you’re not perfect, that you do fuck up, and being willing to accept and change it.

But a lot of ppl on here not ready for that. And the moment I’ve started my healing journey I’ve lost a lot of people who aren’t built like me. Whether it’s because I make them see things in themselves that they don’t like, or think they can’t ever be or what it’s not really my problem anymore.

I’ve been stagnant for so long, I want things out of my life and for the first time in my life despite setback after setback I feel like I finally start getting them. I can respect people who aren’t ready to heal, but I can’t stay in those situations anymore. I wish you luck on your own path, but I’m done putting myself on hold for others all the time.

You’re not wrong for wanting to hold people accountable. There are always limits of course. Say your piece and be done, don’t keep adding fuel to it. How they react remember is out of your hands but you did what you needed to do. People say closure is pointless and I say you obviously learned to just not act on your discomfort and just bottle it up and to me that’s sad.

Because we shouldn’t have to do that for the sake of someone’s comfort who had no regard for ours.

And I am confrontational. I’m a nice person but I will come to you with an issue if there is one. And there’s nothing wrong with that, one mistake doesn’t make you horrible. Makes you human. Changed behavior means you’re growing and learning. It’s not a bad thing and I wish tumblr would stop viewing this stuff as bad. Because it’s so important to be able to grow and it’s why so many people suck because no one is really trying to do that.

[remyfire]

I totally get not caring for a particular character or ship or something. We all have our own tastes. What I don’t understand is why some people feel the need to be total assholes towards those who do like a character or ship that they can’t stand.

On the flip side, some people do need to grow a thicker skin and accept the fact that not everyone likes their favorite character or ship or whatever.

This is one of those asks where unfortunately I’m not able to tell if you’re sending it to me in good faith or bad faith, which is a shame. I’m hoping it’s good faith, so I’d like to answer seriously and trust that you’ll take it that way also.

Let me start by saying that I don't believe anyone is under the impression that everyone should like their favorite character or ship. We're all adults here. We all know that preferences exist. It's a matter of how we choose to honor and respect those preferences.

There are absolutely instances where a thicker skin should be grown. I can think of a number of situations where that can happen, such as if people are having a civil discussion about things they disagree about, but because one of the parties feels uncomfortable, they start throwing pretty rough accusations or virtue signaling to try and make the conversation end as quickly as possible. I get it. It can feel super icky and squirmy if someone has a different viewpoint from ours. Sometimes it’s really hard just to say, “Hey, I feel a little cornered. I wanna check in that we’re both still feeling okay about this, and if we’re not, then I’d like to agree to disagree. We can just leave it here with mutual respect, all right?”

But there’re also times where it really doesn’t come down to someone being overly sensitive. It comes down to downright meanness and rudeness.

Let’s be honest. There is a very high probability that you and I both know what’s being talked about. I don’t have to spell it out. So let’s be frank with each other. If you go through one of these tags, post after post of insightful, creative, loving, funny, interesting commentary, and not a single rude or mean thing to be said. The other one, a similar situation, but interspersed with just outright rude, mean, and intentionally inflammatory comments that absolutely did not need to be put in the tag at all. There seems to be this belief that certain characters or ships are disliked with an equal amount of vehemence, like two warring factions. This is clearly not accurate.

This isn’t a situation where someone just needs to grow a thicker skin. If there is a ship/character tag that is completely left alone by the people who don’t care for it versus a ship/character tag that keeps getting rudeness filtered in every so often, this doesn’t mean that the latter group of enjoyers should just…not experience annoyance about it nor withhold expressing that annoyance. And again, there is a distinct difference between civil discussion/disagreement/opposing opinions and intentionally inflammatory statements. I like to believe that people can generally tell the difference between them and react accordingly.

Everyone is free to express their own thoughts on this platform as long as they’re not against TOS. We all know this and we all respect this. This applies also to how we choose to use tags. There is a generally understood etiquette that if you’re saying something just outright mean about a character or a ship, you don’t put it in that specific tag. This is not a requirement. No one is asserting that it is. It’s just a polite courtesy because we recognize that tags are used by the people who browse those characters/ships because they enjoy them, so we don’t typically like to rain on their parade.

But this also means that if someone says something rude—if someone walks into somebody’s sandbox and kicks sand in their eyes—then they have no room to whine if that person stands up and complains about it, and they really have no excuse for doubling down with EXTRA rudeness either. If someone tells us not to tease an animal, and we do it twenty times in a row anyway, then ultimately we are responsible for the fact that we were bitten.

Notably, I am saying this about all people involved in a fandom. Including those who are intentionally inflammatory in the tags of posts where they really did not need to commentate. There's a way to say, "I'm surprised by this and I really don't understand how we got here," without implying that anyone who disagrees is lacking in taste. Again, differing preferences. Respecting them. Standing up and walking away from the keyboard if we experience a big and overwhelming emotion in our chest so we can ensure that we don't just kick a hornet's nest for the sake of feeling personally superior. So anyway! After that big long ramble, I’m happy to say that I agree with you. I just also believe in people’s right to express annoyance—especially if it’s untagged and on their own blog—when someone shows up and, again, kicks the sand around. And hell, for all I know, maybe you agree with that too and I made some assumptions about this ask out of habit due to some particularly awful anon asks that I’ve gotten recently. But I’d really, really like it if there was less sandkicking all around because, y’all, I really like it here. I love all of these characters and ships so fucking much. You only have to glance at my AO3 page to see that. And I’d really like to keep having fun with you all instead of flinching every time Tumblr yet again recommends me a super intentionally inflammatory post in a tag that I follow.

[rat-rosemary]

Tbh dre made tweets before the long one like the very passive aggressive "great minds think alike or something" and saying he was going to fight q (inb4 "IT WAS A JOKE" if q not saying shit was enabling drama I think that also counts as enabling drama lmao)

The thing is, those tweets were so clearly Dream trying his best to dismiss the hate and trying to make both his fans and Quackity fans calm down, specially since the norm with dtkq at the time were light hearted jabs like that

(Actually, honestly considering all that happen I think Dream was taking it very well? I mean, yeah it would of course have been better if they had talked it out and figured out how to do these two servers that were similar without stepping on each other toes, but if there were people showing up at mine and my friends house and a person who I thought was my friend suddenly started ignoring me I would react much much worse then just making some light hearted jabs at them on twt)

Edit: wait actually what does "inb4" mean

[stirdrawsandreblaws]

still baffled at how "these people weren't preyed upon" apparently got read as "I am laughing at these idiots dying". esp when i have repeatedly said how horrific this whole situation is. so lemme overexplain I fucking guess.

they weren't "preyed upon", since they had plenty of money and opportunity for lawyers to also look over the waivers and for private investigation of the company, and were made aware of every hazard and caveat before the trip.

the CEO literally went as crew to replace an attorney who cancelled due to work at the last minute; you gonna tell me the CEO's own company misled him into the deathtrap he jerry-rigged himself? you gonna tell me someone whos job it is to suss out bullshit and read legal documents definitely got taken advantage of? how about the dude who had already done the trip before?

come the fuck on.

literally all I'm saying is that none of these people were in a position to be taken advantage of/exploited/"preyed upon". most had an intimate understanding of the risks from prior trips, and all were given warning after warning about possible horrible deaths, and they went anyway for ~adventure~. "oh woe poor stupid helpless billionaires getting twisted around a malicious corporation's finger" please think about this critically for two entire seconds

[plantpest]

@ the anons in my ask telling me i'm a bully: have you ever wondered what the world could be like if you gained some basic reading comprehension?