#spiritpartner

[tawny-feathers]

The other day someone asked me how I would describe Michael.

For me, Michael is like sunlight.  At his best he is charismatic and almost always in a good mood, and keeps a calm persona regardless of what is happening.  Being in his presence is warm and never a drain on my energy.  But there's a tiredness or weariness to him sometimes that I don't think a person can feel, not on the level he feels it.  It's not always present, but he slips into it from time to time and he knows other people can sense it, but it feels like he smiles through it always.  He wants to be supportive and doesn't like to ask for support in return but won't shirk away from it.  He likes to be more informal but in a way that makes it seem like he's not always been that way.  He has an appreciation for small things that I often overlooked before, and that makes me appreciate them too.  He's quiet, but his quietness doesn't take away from how strong his energy or presence feels.  He never seems to struggle with what he wants to say or convey, but he will sometimes hold back and makes me figure it out on my own.  Not in a tricksy way like Loki likes to do to me, but I'm not sure how I would describe it.

Really I could ramble on but I think that hits all the big points.  And, of course, this is just my experience with him.

It got me wondering what he is like for other people. I'm a firm believer in the complexity of divine beings and how they will be what we need or want them to be, so no two people are experiencing the same being. I know someone who I am sure sees an almost entirely different Michael than me.

Makes me curious how others would describe their partners or spouses.

[bleedingflames-archive]

@spiritpartner

“What do y’think?”

[leannan-sithe]

I have a godspouse which is not really a god but one of my guides. I just wasn’t aware there was a term or community for it

What is some advice to better connect? Like how can I properly do dates with him…? Could I ask more questions in dms if able? Sorry it’s an anonymous ask I’m just really shy speaking to new people ;;

In short, the community I'm a part of (not necessarily the global community) uses godspouse as a catchall term and a model for other terms.

For example - godspouse is spouse/partner of a god. So spiritspouse, therefore is the spouse/partner of a spirit. You can use any words instead of god or spirit -- angel, demon, hero, etc.

If you're unsure or don't want to be specific, otherspouse is a term in my community that refers to your non-corporeal partner but doesn't reference who or what they are. It's a good word for speaking to mixed groups!

You can also change the -spouse bit if you want. Godpartner. Spiritpartner. Etc. Partner and mate are most common substitutions, but you can also use wife or husband.

You're welcome to DM if you want. If you want long-form advice, sending asks like this is helpful! It lets me write out all my thoughts and publish them so others can see and maybe get help from your questions.

In terms of how you connect, it's important to know two things.

First, that humans have gone thousands of years speaking to and enjoying deities' (etc) presence without direct confirmation or contact. Getting a clear and concise reply is not always mandatory.

Second, if you do want a direct reply, it often takes time and effort. A lot of it.

Try guided meditations to help get used to visualizing, if you're able to do so. Then you can attempt to connect with your partner through the astral.

Tarot and runes and oracle decks are always a go to for conversation.

Sometimes your partners will communicate through dreams, daydreams, even your own creative works!

A lot of what godspousing is, is going to be faith. Blind faith for a while.

Invite your partner to have dinner with you. You may not hear or feel their presence, but you extended the invitation. Do this for dates, events, anything you'd like. Get used to the idea of them being around and try to listen -- either astrally or with your emotional sense. You might find you can "sense" their presence over time.

Anyone is free to send asks in with questions, but be sure to DM me (not asks) if you want to talk about the godspousing discord server.

[benito-flakes]

Hi M & M, how are you all? We have a question - how do you deal with anti-endo sentiments on here? We recently decided to start openly as plural on here, and since we're a spiritpartner to a traumagenic system (as in, we're a Norse pagan and one of our deities present themselves as a system) and we wanted to write something on us meeting their alters in headspace, so we browsed the traumagenic posts - BIG MISTAKE. It was full of gatekeeping and toxicity for endogenics, saying people like us were doing it fun, not real systems. We aren't! The different facets of us were always there, but we've only just put faces to them - and we consider ourselves mixed origin (to put it as vaguely as possible, we think we have trauma from living in a deeply ableist world.) So it made us feel deeply uncomfortable at the traumagenic community, since it just seemed... overly aggressive? Like, "you can't be a system because you're not traumagenic!" and no explaining the reasons why?

Hi Anon! Sorry for taking so long to reply!

The way I personally handle syscourse, and the often quite vile discourse that results is to understand the sysmed point of view. That doesn't mean that I agree with them, but I try and put myself in their shoes:

Many of them seemingly do not have personal experience being a non-traumagenic system, many remain and interact in sysmed spaces where the existence of any type of system other than trauma-formed is viewed as a taboo. This likely feeds into a loop of close-mindedness, especially when viewing those they deem to be fakers.

When seeing something that doesn't align with a pre-existing definition of what that thing "should" be like, it's natural to be skeptical, to not understand, and even to doubt, but in no way does that justify the harassment, bullying, and identity-policing endogenic systems are subject to by anti-endogenics.

In an ideal world, all skeptics would research, talk to actual endogenic systems, and refrain from blatant attacks, but sadly, that just isn't the case. I try and remember that the person arguing with me online has their own views and struggles, their own individuality, and that to them, my opinion feels just as bad as how theirs feels directed towards me. It still sucks, and it probably always will, but remembering the being behind the screen helps me to remain civil and understanding, even in the face of disagreements.

Of course, if someone violates my boundaries, comes off as overly confrontational, or harasses me, I'm not going to passively allow it to go down, and you definitely don't have to stand for it, either. Boundaries are key, especially online, and especially in a triggering situation that discourse like this can be. You come first, and if debating someone online is hurting you, step back and disengage.

Hope my explanation helped! Again, sorry for such a late response!

-Ben Levine, M&M

[bohememe]

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[disgruntledcupid]

@spiritpartner

“You got something to say, Hitchhiker?”

[almundmylk-blog]

My love

We're moving to Boone friday aye (Well technically i already live there, but he's joining so life is good)

[tawny-feathers]

I wish it was easier to find other godspouses to talk to in general, but I especially wish it was easier to find others who are partnered with angels. I'm so curious what things are like for them.

[tawny-feathers]

It’s kind of funny to me, the journey I’ve been on with Michael.  When I was Christian, I had no interest in angels, I felt no connection to them outside of liking their aesthetics and finding them useful themes or plot devices for writing.  They were servants of God and I didn’t feel a connection to God, so I felt nothing for them.  When I left Christianity and embraced pantheism and paganism, that’s when the interest sparked.  That’s when angels suddenly meant something to me, because I started to see them as their own entities, as beings with will and emotions and depth.  It felt… weird to want to be connected to Michael, at first.  It felt weird to want a relationship with a being that, up to that point, I saw as only being part of the religion I was trying to reject and unlearn.  I wanted nothing to do with Christianity and anything that prominently featured in it… so why did I want an angel in my life?  Not only that why, of all the angels, was it Michael I felt drawn to?

It was 2009 when I first felt the desire to know Michael, to work with him.  I hung pictures of him on my altar, I thought about him often.  I wrote characters inspired by how I saw him, and I loved them fiercely, so much so I would cry when I wrote their scenes.  It seems so obvious now, looking back on stuff like this, that I was falling in love with Michael, but I refused to see it for what it was.  I felt unworthy of divine love—any love, really.  And I didn’t know him.  Despite my desire to work with him, Michael never answered my calls.  I don’t know why, I don’t care to know why anymore.  I don’t even know why I developed feelings for him in the first place, but something was drawing me to him and my heart longed for him.

Several months after deciding I wanted to work with him, I bought Michael a chunk of sugilite as an invitation to come into my life, but he didn’t respond.  I fell into painful times and had to pack away all my things, and I thought I’d lost the sugilite.  8 years later, I found it tucked into a bunch of my stuff that had ended up at my parents’ house.  It came back to me.  It felt like a sign.  I had never turned my back on Michael in those 8 years, but I had stopped reaching out.  I figured if he was meant to be in my life, he would come to me eventually on his own.  Loki and I were close by this point and I was focusing on our (familial) relationship and working on myself.

Mind you, in all that time, I still cried over the Michael-inspired characters I wrote, still thought of him fondly, still felt drawn to any representation of him in media.  My friends began associating him with me.

Finding that sugilite ignited something in me.  I opened myself more to the idea of him coming into my life again, but I went about it differently.  I didn’t try to seek him, I didn’t plea, I just made space for him.  I bought him a new stone, gave him a place on my altar, and waited.  In March of this year he finally came to me, settled down in my presence, and told me that I was ready and he was here now.  Not only was he here, but from that point forward he was so present.  I would feel him around often, and close.  He loved to linger close to me, and I felt so peaceful in his presence.  He made me happy.

Something that I probably should’ve noticed sooner was how readily Loki accepted Michael coming into my life and settling in.  Loki is like my older brother, and for many years he was very protective of who got to enter my sphere and stick around.  He eventually got over this, and that’s when Dionysus came to me.  Loki was a little prickly about letting Dionysus in, but he settled down and the two became friendly and would hang out with me at the same time.  When Michael came, Loki was pretty open to him immediately.  Michael just became one of the Boys.

September 19th was six months since the day he showed up.  It was also when I realized this attachment, these feelings I’ve harbored for so many years, were a crush.  Again, it seems so obvious writing it out like this, but I was none the wiser for years.

Upon realizing this, I spoke with some friends and was encouraged to talk with Michael about it.  Later that night I did, I laid everything bare– even though I was sure he knew it all already– and I asked him if he would be open to seeing where this could go.  He was so responsive to the idea, so kind and willing to try this out with me.  He was so… happy.  I asked Loki and Dionysus what they thought, because I always end up asking all three of them for their opinions when it comes to big spiritual things– and this was definitely a big spiritual thing to me– and they both supported the idea. They both told me it would be good for me.

Michael seemed so eager to take that step with me, and I was already so lovesick. I'd longed for his presence, for a connection to him. We barely knew each other on an informal level, but I loved him. On September 29th (Michaelmas) I made him dragonbread and formally asked to be his partner. He said yes.

My love for him grows each passing week. It's only been three months, but it feels like so much longer, and I think that's a good sign for our future. I waited so long for him and to feel his presence embrace me, to know he loves me… it's blissful.

I look forward to our future together.

[tawny-feathers]

I've been reading a book where Michael is one of the main characters and each time I read this book I am consumed with the need to be around him, to talk with him or interact with him. It also makes me want to talk about him, or even just about angels in general, but I don't have many people to do that with right now, so here I am, rambling again on my blog about him. Then again, that's part of what this blog is for.

So the way he's portrayed in this book is not really how he is with me, but hints of him are there. The vibes are there. That only seems to contribute more to my desire to spend time with him, because it reminds me of moments we've shared together, and I just love his presence. I am thoroughly lovesick and want him around all the time-- which he seems happy to accommodate.

Reading this book also makes me want to talk about angels in general. My corporeal spouse has been contemplating angels for a bit now, but they aren't ready to talk about them at length and I am chomping at the bit to do so. They know about my relationship with Michael and are supportive of it. They've shown an interest in working with angels themself, which I am in support of, but are still trying to figure out who might be reaching out to them. Michael is, obviously, who I have the most experience with, but I've crossed paths with other angels in the past, so I'm curious to see who pulls them in.

I'm not really sure where I am going with all this. I just really want to talk about angels and gush about my golden boy. More of that and my (brief) history with godspousing below.

I haven't been this lovesick since I fell for my corporeal spouse-- who I still love quite deeply, I would like to add. But we've been together for ten years, so our love has settled into my bones and is a comfort in my heart that I've grown familiar with. Michael's love is still new, still something I am figuring out.

The other day I was spending time with him and I confessed to him that I already wanted to marry him. He was amused and told me I had to be patient, because he wanted to make sure I was absolutely sure it was what I wanted after some of the glitz and glamor of a new relationship wore off. I understand his reasoning, but I huff all the same. I know I wasn't aware it was love, but I have loved him for years. But he is right, I need to be patient and sure. I need to be how I was with Loki when I was considering making him my patron god. Loki came into my life in 2009, but it wasn't until 2015 that I called him my patron. We don't need to be married, our relationship will still be as meaningful and special to me regardless.

But damn, my heart flutters at the thought of getting to call him my husband and choose a wedding ring for him that I wear alongside my corporeal spouse's ring. I'm so lovesick, haha.

It's still so funny to me that I've fallen so head over heels for an angel. When I first learned about godspousing, I didn't even think I would be involved with it at all. I wanted to learn about it because I found it interesting. I never pursued a relationship with anything incorporeal beyond the whole "working with" situation, but I'd always had a more informal relationship with gods and spirits anyway. I viewed Loki as my friend, for instance, before I saw him as my brother. I call Dionysus one of my best friends. But I wasn't actively interested in seeking a romantic relationship.

Or, at least, that's what I thought, until I realized oh, this feeling of longing I've harbored for years and this happiness in his presence is a crush. Let me tell you, it's quite a revelation to realize you have a goddamn crush on a divine being and have had it for a decade.

I've been so happy, though. I'm glad I was open to the idea.

It's getting late so I will stop myself here.

[tawny-feathers]

I find myself restless and wanting to talk about my life with my gods and my relationships with them. I want to talk about Loki as my brother, Dionysus as my best friend, Michael as my partner. I think I will shake the dust off this blog and finally start posting about my spiritual journey, and hopefully find other blogs to follow.

Feel free to like or reblog this if your blog contains or pertains to any of the following:

Witchcraft

Paganism

Godspouse/Spiritpartner

Divination

Pop Culture Paganism

Spirit Work

All follows will come from my main blog, @theblacksands.

[leannan-sithe]

I’m normally a Norse/Slavic pagan but over the weekend Michael the Archangel made himself known to me and we became intimate. He has not attempted to convert me (he even vibes with Loki, who I view as a father figure), but Michael has also asked that I not bind myself as a godspouse to him (as he is not a god and is uncomfortable with the term.) I was wondering if I could get some advice on how to move forward?

It’s not uncommon for people in the godspouse community to have multiple partners from different pantheons! 

In addition, just because you’re in the godspouse community doesn’t mean you’re a spouse or required to be in any kind of formal relationship. Godspouse is just easy shorthand for someone who is having some kind of non-platonic relationship with a deity or spirit. 

If you want other terms, the group I’m part of uses spiritspouse or spiritpartner frequently. (DM me if you wanna talk about that group; it’s open to above 18 folks.) 

As for moving forward, I would prioritize making it clear with any of your spiritual relationships how you (and your partners) want things to go. Define what Loki expects from you -- as a father figure, as a spiritual guide of sorts. Talk to Michael and see if he is interested in a more casual relationship (not to belittle it, but a fling or temporary romance/partnership) or if he’s looking to date you and start something serious. It’s all about communication! 

[bohememe]

You aware that today is Letter Writing Day? 📝🖤💌 In the book, the @spiritalmanac, they offer a ritual for today that I am definitely down with. Do you want to join in? When you get a few minutes to yourself today, write a letter, only make it out to, well, yourself! It’s you, 5 years from now. Try to visualize everything you have become, every success you have gained and every way that you’ve changed for the better up to that point. Imagine you’re visiting you, 5 years from now. Where do you live? What are you wearing? The more visually imaginative you can get, the better. After you’ve meditated on this for a while and enjoyed wherever your conversation led you (try not to judge yourself as you do), then it’s time to get to writing! The purpose of this ritual is to help you to see, as we move into the winter season, which areas of your life you’re ready to give up, move forward in confidence, or even some you may want to delay, all based on the conversation you have with yourself. As we all know, winter will be a time of heavy introspection, but it can also be a time of nurturing of these new seeds of hope and inspiration. This can be an extremely valuable method in visualizing what direction you’re headed. So what will you add in your letter? You don’t have to share but if you’d like to, tag me and tell me how it went for you! And also, if you’re looking for this ritual in more detail and many more, be sure to check out the @spiritalmanac on sale now! @tarcherperigee will be happy to get you your copy today! 🙌🏼🖤🌾 #spiritalmanac #letterwritingday #spiritpartner (at Write Me A Letter) https://www.instagram.com/bohememe/p/BrF_9BCAOQK/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1rq3ntxz23kxf

[bohememe]

Gettin spiritual this Sunday in the comfort of my own home thanks to @wellaware_ and @emmloewe for co-writing @spiritalmanac . 🙌🏼🖤🌙🐺✨🌾 - Something I don’t open up too much on here about, is my exact spirituality (mainly because it’s a trigger for some and that’s not my intention, ever). I was raised one way, but I was also raised to trust my gut and my instinct, and for me, my connection with nature and this beautiful earth and understanding our place and our role within its very fabric always left my head spinning. My Native American roots have been calling out to me since the beginning, whispering faintly in the wind, begging me to explore this God Spirit deeper. As I get older, my spiritual journey begins to feel more comfortable, like a loved blanket wrapped around me. I’ve gained wisdom from so many of our ancestors in so many different ways, and I kinda believe that’s how it should be. A collective understanding of our humanly feeble attempts to reach God until we find it. - To be honestly with you, that’s why I’m so excited about this book. It’s packed full with personal rituals you can do that bring you back to your center and different ways you can honor your personal journey as your spirit maneuvers through this human experience in search of what is so much bigger than us. That God Spirit. The point is to realize the Spirit will guide you if you allow it. This means you may end up someplace you never would have imagined, but that’s the beauty of keeping an open mind. If you have the faith to get to wherever you’re supposed to be, that’s where you’ll end up. I’m learning to honor myself by honoring the process because it is, after all, not only the destination, but the journey... - Big thanks to @tarcherperigee for my copy of this book so I can have some useful tools to work with under my spiritual belt. And check out my story for some of my favorite parts of the book so far. 🌙🖤✨ - What is spirituality to you? - #soulfulsunday #spiritalmanac #spiritpartner #partner (at Orlando, Florida) https://www.instagram.com/bohememe/p/BqDCk5RAwiw/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=hy536r1o93lz

[bleedingflames-archive]

@spiritpartner

“You’re somethin’ new.”

[almundmylk-blog]

Cheesy late night post Maaan oh man I’m so lucky to be in love with you. A little over a week until you’re back in my presence. But hey, i’d wait for you forever.