#sorry ppl who r uncomfortable that was me once

[chemicalarospec]

joined the college queer group discord besides pronouns the only roles they do are star signs i'm gonna fucking leave

[blair-the-juggalho]

Hi, hope you're okay! Could you possibly do TWDG s1 group reacting to a reader who is maybe s4 clementines age taking care of a kid? Like in the form of headcanons. If not, then could it possibly be s2? Thanks a lot and you're great at writing, don't worry if you can't do this.

Of course I’ll give it a go tysm for all that btw it truly means a lot to me <<<333 sorry if these are a bit rubbish/ out of character I’ve never written for S1 before but I’m exited to do so! :D low key forgot who was a part of the S1 group lmao!

Twdg Season 1 group with an reader who’s looking after a kid

Lee

He empathises with you a lot since he kinda sees himself in you

And he will always be there helping you out and giving you advice if you needed it

He will also look out for you kid! Yk that part when he has to choose who to give rations to? Yeah well you and yer kid r defo getting some food <3!

He’d relate to you a lot and you’d both talk about how stressful it can be but it’s totally rewarding as you both love yer little guys!

This man is always on your side no matter what he has full trust in you and he’s glad to know that your child is in safe hands!

Kenny

This man really loves you and your kid!

He’s always nice to you (and as long as your loyal and treat him with equal amount of respect) he’s always on your side backing you up

If anyone questions wether or not you old enough to take care of a kid he will be right by your side biting their head off!

He’d encourage duck to spend time with your kid and warn him not to be too energetic especially at first lmao

Your most definitely ok to come with him and his family in the caravan if things go to shit :D

Katjaa

This gorgeous soul truly empathised with you

She would always be there if you needed advice or just someone to talk too!

She’d also encourage duck to hang out with your kid and she’d have to remind him to try and chill out about around them lmao

She had a lot of respect for you and thinks your an amazing person for taking care of a child in a world like this

There’s not many good, caring people left so it really does warm her heart

She will also try and help you relax more when your not doing whatever job you’re doing!

She knows you need a brake, lovely! No matter how strong and capable you are <3

Duck

Duck was super exited when you and your kid showed up!

It was two new ppl to hang out with!

He can be a bit much at times, always asking you two questions and trying to get your kid to play with him but he means well!

He thinks your a totally awesome role model so he has a lot of respect for you! Especially if you where cool or was willing to play with him and yer kid :D

Sometimes he would get a bit nosy because he was confused, you where very young and you where looking after a kid??? What happened to their parents???He’d ask you about it and if it made you uncomfortable you’d get katjaa or Kenny pulling him away and apologising to you

He doesn’t really understand what’s not ok to ask <:p but I’ve said it once and I’ll say it again he does mean well lmao

Clementine

Clem really liked you and your kid!

You where like a younger version of lee in her eyes, therefore she’s trusts you a lot more!

If your kid is more like duck then she’ll be nice but won’t talk to them as much :p

However if they’re more like her in the sense that they’re more relaxed or quite then she loves hanging out with them!

She’ll always draw you two pictures!

And if you ever needed a brake to just relax she’d drag your kid of to go and draw with her!

Larry

(This man is so fucking scray oml 😭😭😭😭)

He’s a pretty serious, grumpy guy and he’s super intimidating so your kid (and you) probably tried to avoid him at first

However even if he didn’t show it he would look out for you kid!

Sometimes he was a bit suspicious and doubted wether such a young person could look after a child in a world like this:(

But he lets you be (unless he gets really mad and he’ll bring it up :p)

But deep, deep down in that stone cold heart he does want you and your kid to be safe and he feels low key sorry that all this shit happened

Lilly

She always looked out for you and your kid

She’d make sure your child (and if they had enough you) had some food when it came time to ration food

Also if yer child has longer hair you can bet she’d give them some hair bobbles! :D

She also always made small talk to your child she wanted to make sure that they where as happy as they could be in an apocalypse

She would also be there if you needed advice or to vent, her advice can be a bit honest and sometimes hard to hear but it’s pretty helpful tbh!

Doug

His man, like Carley, was never really good with kids

He would always back you up tho and he would always be there if you wanted someone to talk too

He would do anything in his power to make you and your kid feel safe!

I’m sorry but all that’s running through my brain is

“Hey, (kids name)! You want some batteries? :D”

He will try his best to keep you two happy!

Carley

(confession time, I’ve never played her route so I know f all about her)

She’s never really been good with kids tbh

She’s always been nice to them but she never really knows what to do with them

That being said she will always be nice to your kid!

And she really respects how capable you are for taking care of a child!

She truly does admire you for that

She will also go easy on you but will remind you to be strong and to put yourself and your kid first!

Ben

This man does understand you

I mean he’s your age and he did have a younger sibling!

But this man is no help I’m so sorry 😭

Like he wants to help you in anyway he can!

But bro can’t give you advice or anything!

I mean he can tell you stories about his sibling that kinda relates to any issue your having?

But he’s way more of a listener lmao <:)

So talk to him all you want! He’s all ears <3

[mariska]

hi i would like to share a recent personal experience (with a surprisingly positive resolution) about challenging hate speech in online video games that have chat features as an extremely socially anxious autistic person + also some thoughts i've held for a very long time regarding the need for folks who are privileged enough to not be targets of constant harassment in video game social environments to use that privilege by speaking up when witnessing hate speech for those of us who can't safely do so

(this ended up being a super long post i'm sorry, i tried to split it into separated paragraphs to make it a bit more accessible to read but i needed to get this whole train of thought written outside of my brain before i unintentionally move on to some other point of focus and forget all of this)

i dont usually like posting about bad online video game interactions since thats a Bummer, but. i wanted to make a post to share a brief interaction i was a part of in the text chat of an online team game last night that actually had a positive resolution even just for the sake of being able to say that i've witnessed a bad video game interaction involving me as a target end up with a positive resolution. i'm gonna put the rest of this whole thing under a 'read more' so that it hopefully doesn't clog anyone's dash up with long-scrolling text wall:

i was playing 'versus' mode in Left 4 Dead 2 on my computer last night, which for anyone not familiar with that gamemode, is where one team of 4 people play as the human survivors and the other team of 4 people play as the game's 'Special Infected' zombies (Boomer, Hunter, Tank, etc. on a randomized respawn rotation). its very fun and chaotic but because of the chaotic rapid respawn nature of the zombie side and the fact that you don't usually play as the special infected zombies in the regular 'campaign', its not uncommon to be put in matches with ppl who have no patience for anyone who isnt super experienced or skilled or whatever as every special infected on the zombie team and people start arguments in the chat pretty often. im not a fan of ppl acting out like that but usually its just Annoying and i ignore it and carry on,

last night though, someone on the opposite team of mine (mine was currently the zombies; the game goes back and forth to let each team do their best at surviving the same levels on both sides; one team gets as far as they can as humans and then the other tries to match that score or do better if they can and so on) was getting increasingly frustrated that whenever their team was playing as the survivors they weren't quite making it as far towards the map end goals as my team was, because my team was doing slightly better at teaming up as the special infected zombies to get bigger scores and hold them away from their goal.

eventually he got so visibly upset in the text chat that he went "ok. r*tarded but ok', and then followed up quickly with something along the lines of "yall know you're a bunch of fkin r*tards right" (i censored it here, he did not originally) and that immediately crossed a boundary line for me because i'm autistic, and once was already too much, but twice in a row made me very uncomfortable. i didn't know or care if he was saying it to us (his enemy team), or his own team for having a slightly lower score as the survivors, but nobody else in the game had shown any text or voice chat signs of being unsafe people or angry people, so i felt safe enough to go in the text chat (i usually do not do this because i usually do not feel safe enough to do so in groups of strangers online)

i said something like "learn a new word to use, maybe?", just to kind of be like, 'hey, nobody else in this game is talking the way you are, don't be That Guy' you know? he said "why? its not like its a big deal", which was kinda sad to read 'cause it gave me the impression that this person probably spends a good amount of time (willingly or unwillingly) around people who commonly use slurs because its 'not a big deal'; again, nobody else in the match was getting involved verbally or textually, and we all continued to play the game while this happened, so i decided that i was going to stick up for myself since i don't often feel like i have the opportunity to do that in the text chat of games without feeling humiliated or thrown under the bus by my teammates or whatever.

while i was typing the guy added "i wasnt even saying it to you anyways" (does not matter to me, obviously). i finished the response i had been typing to his message about 'its not a big deal' and said "it is a big deal, actually!". by this point, his character had been eliminated entirely and his team had one or two human survivors running to their end goal map exit for the round, so he had more free time to type and he replied to me and said "whatever, you do you i guess". i said "well. i'm autistic, so." and meant to say 'i guess i will' in response to 'you do you', but the round ended after i sent that reply and the loading screen popped up for the survivor/zombie team switch

when it did, he wrote "fair 'nuff." in the chat like a minute or so into the very start of the round when both teams were getting set up and everything, and i was honestly fine with that as a general resolution to the whole thing, because the minute or so of time in between my last message and the non-aggressive bluntness of it made me feel like he probably felt at least a little guilty realizing that he was casually tossing around a slur that is very commonly used against autistic people to An Actual Autistic Person in the same game as him, and that worked for me.

the game went on as it regularly had been for like five or so more minutes, and then he suddenly sent another final and honestly unexpected message in the group chat that said, in no response to any other messages that had been typed by anyone since his last one, "alright i'm sorry i used that word in chat mariska" (my name/username). which was actually wild for me to see because i am very much not used to getting actual apologies from strangers who say bad stuff in game chats, and i genuinely appreciated that he either hadn't stopped thinking about it and felt bad about acting out, or maybe some of his own teammates had prompted him to apologize in their respective team chat or something; either way, i gave a genuine "thank you." in the chat to let him know the gesture was appreciated, and for the rest of the maybe 30 or so mins that the whole match lasted, there was no more aggressiveness or slurs or toxicity at all in the chat from either team's side. when the game ended all together, he was one of the first people to type "gg" (good game) in the chat, as did myself and almost all of the other folks in the match, and after that i stopped playing for the night.

sorry for the big long text post, but i wanted to share this somewhere other than just that isolated game match chat between 8 people, because i very often see a lot of people (on pretty much any social media but mostly on here tbh) make posts regarding this exact kind of video game or general online text chat community experience where the person writing the post encourages others who also commonly witness it, or are the target of slurs, harassment, threats etc, to speak up (if it is safe to do so, imo 'speaking up' or 'calling out' people you dont know especially in aggressive game communities should be the responsibility of allies/friends/non-targeted folks more often than those of us who are being harassed or threatened or talked down to ourselves since it is inherently more dangerous for us to defend ourselves unfortunately and it can take a very serious turn against us very fast, think 'swatting' or doxxing, as a few examples off the top of my head) against the language/slurs/bigotry/harassment that aggressive, angry, frustrated strangers commonly spew in text and/or voice game chats, and as someone who plays a lot of team based online games regularly and has played online games in general since the mid-2000's, i couldn't agree more with the people i've seen writing posts or game journalism articles encouraging people to refuse to allow that kind of behavior to be validated by others in an online match, or to only ignore it when there is a safe opportunity to make it known that at least one person refuses to tolerate whatever behavior the aggressor is displaying.

anyways, to make an accidentally way too long story short; more often than not, in online video game chat circles, it's unfortunately just not going to be super productive to call out casual hate speech & harassment because there are typically (in my personal experiences at least) more people in a group of strangers that either enjoy seeing targets of harassment get upset and will join in with the original aggressor to humiliate whoever speaks against it, or who behave the same way as the aggressor and validate their own patterns of hate speech as being acceptable and common by defending their behavior/siding with them in larger numbers.

but! in situations where you're watching that happen, to yourself or others, and everyone else is either silent or doesn't seem to agree/enjoy watching someone have a bigoted hissy fit in a video game chat, it absolutely can be worth it to be the person who makes it clear to that person that they are the problem. unless you personally know every individual person who is playing in the same match group as you, there is no 100% way to know exactly who all the other players are outside of their characters or personas they're represented by in-game. people who tend to be commonly perceived as pretty emotionally mature in general, in any part of online or offline life, can and do absolutely come across as temporary social role models/behavioral leaders to the other real human beings around them in the moment, regardless of whether that's intentional on their end or not.

i'm not quite sure if the term 'peer pressure' is exactly what i'm looking for as terminology right now since that term is typically applied in negative behavior patterns, but that concept is very real in any gathering of multiple people - it can (and again, in SAFE settings, should) be utilized in a positive, constructive way to prompt someone to think before they speak/type, and to make a point to everyone present in the moment that we are all allowed to openly bring attention to harassment and hate speech. that point is an especially important realization for people who may hold generally higher positions of privilege than those of us who speak against it, since they are the ones that really need to be doing this kind of thing more often and in larger majorities than those of us who are put in danger when we bring attention to hateful behavior simply by existing as oppressed people of any kind.

i guess the whole main train of thought i'm attempting to explain with all of this is, like. before that one person started typing out a slur two times in a row that has been used against me so many times in my life that my brain went into auto-pilot and refused to let him feel comfortable saying it again, nobody was typing anything like 'gg' or 'gr' (good round, when a game isn't totally finished yet) at all, which was fine that's not like a requirement, but when that next round ended after the guy apologized and i said thank you, everyone else started saying 'gr' until the match ended and there were a bunch of 'gg's instead, like i mentioned above.

in all honesty, if i hadn't been so exhausted last night from having a really difficult day earlier that involved a lot of unintentional trauma triggers, panic attacks and anti-anxiety medication, i probably would have just left the game or not said anything when that happened, because i am terrified of confrontation and i am very used to it resulting in bad outcomes for me so i try very hard to have self-control and not potentially feed into trolls online, but i had a really really bad day, and that was my late night comfort special interest activity, and it pissed me off that i couldn't avoid traumatic triggers even in that short distraction before attempting to get some sleep. i was acting totally on emotionally charged impulse which is something that i try so hard not to do with strangers in video games of all places.

but i mention that specifically because it still made a difference in that one match, and because of that we were all able to have fun playing a video game the way it was meant to be played for friendly competitive enjoyment. i will probably never interact or maybe even just run into any of those people in a game lobby again, so obviously there's no way for me to know if the person who typed the slur messages will just continue to do that in other games anyways or if getting called-out on hateful behavior had any kind of impact on how he might think a few seconds longer before saying something like that to strangers online again in the future, but like. i don't know. that's kind of the point, i think? he seemed at the very least pretty embarrassed that nobody wanted to defend him or feed into the whole 'its not a big deal' thing, to the point that he actually apologized appropriately to me directly in a social setting where 6 other people saw it, so maybe that was a feeling of temporary guilt or shame or just being humbled a bit that he needed to experience to learn something from.

some people really are just not worth the mental or emotional effort to respond to because they are so set and fixed in their ways, and they're a stranger, and it's not our responsibility to fix that, especially in video games, that's why i usually. Dont Bother. but also sometimes people are so self-centered or uncaring or maybe even projecting self-hatred of how they think of themselves onto strangers because they don't view those strangers as fully realized human beings that continue living their lives after exiting out of a video game, who knows, i don't and i really don't care to, but i truly think there are a large amount of people in this kind of situation that just repeat whatever they've learned and heard around them for however long, and think of it as 'no big deal', and they suddenly feel very embarrassed and ashamed and small when one of the usernames they view as just a username on a screen talks back and they are faced with the realization that they said something awful to a real person, not an npc, not a left 4 dead 2 zombie character, and the other 6 real people there say nothing to defend them, because what they said sucked, and we're all trying to have fun playing a silly game, and they deserved to be embarrassed about it.

i think that's maybe my Big Concluding Thought on this whole thing. not necessarily 'everyone join me in Bringing Peace And Harmony To Left 4 Dead 2 Online Text Chat', but like...your words mean things to people you don't know when you say things to them in a place like a video game chat, and the largest majority of people playing most games just wanna play the game, so like. maybe think for a second or two before you just say stuff that sucks. especially if it sucks because it is literal hate speech? but also in general when it just sucks because its just a mean unwanted and unhelpful comment. and maybe ask yourself, if you're someone who jokes about wishing you werent 'so toxic when i play but i cant help it' or if you say things just to say things because 'its no big deal', why? why are you like that? you literally do not have to be. you don't know the lives and experiences of the people you're spending a very small amount of time with together in a game online and when you do this kind of stuff, when you're mean and 'toxic' and you call people slurs when they don't get as many high little numbers next to your digital team's fake video game scoreboard as you want them to get, the only impression or memory they will ever have of you is that they don't like you and you made a lighthearted experience suck for 7 people. that is all you get to be to that person forever.

idk, maybe other people don't think that's sad and maybe it doesn't bother them, but if that was the most common impression i left on a bunch of different groups of strangers that i wont get to interact with again afterwards i would feel pretty sad and ashamed about it.

anyways. i need to partake in tasks that do not involve rambling on my phone now but if you read this that is cool thank you, if you didnt that is fine i understand this became a ridiculously long post out of nowhere i do not blame u, and. i hope you have a good day. ok goodbye

[ginnsbaker]

New chapter, woo! First, I loved the therapist scene since I’ve been all about them healing! Haha I understand Wanda and am so rooting for her well-being! Reader has been an ass, some times it has been completely understandable, but also Wanda didn’t deserve the way reader was treating her at some point, so I loved this quote, “your past action doesn’t determine who you are for the rest of your life,” because for me personally, you know, I’ve committed mistakes and for some time I thought my bad mistakes made me a bad person. But that’s not the case, as long as you’re willing to move forward and heal, as long as you recognize that your mistakes were obviously bad and you’re working on rectifying them that what you did is not who you are and I’m glad that Wanda is trying to keep that in mind to help her healing, that she’s using that to help herself! Two, Agatha is a really great friend! Really there for Wanda and although she was subtle with her jabs towards reader, which if that were really me I’d be like, “fuck, get on with it, just tell me!” Haha I love that she respected Wanda’s wishes and made reader you know like uncomfortable, because it kinda seemed like reader was sorry, but not too much? Like “yeah, we both went through it, moving on.” Third, hello Peter!! I love Peter already, he seems like such a cutie!! Haha fourth, Sparky is going to be okay!! As an animal lover, I was like already nervous for his health and trust me that would’ve made me cry!! Fifth, Kate and Yelena sleeping together?!? I could see reader’s frustration with that one!! Although Yelena didn’t reciprocate feelings it’s still a pretty big thing I feel to live with your fuck buddy knowing said buddy had feelings for you while you’re chasing someone else? I don’t know?!?! Great chapter once again!! The mixed emotions I continue feeling are just going to have me like a ball of emotions until everything is resolved and done!! Haha always excited to see what’s next!! I hope you have an amazing week! Stay safe and take care! -💫🥀

P.S. again, I feel like my words are all jumbled up so if anything doesn’t make sense, sorry! Also if I ever reply off anon I apologize haha I get so excited responding that I don’t see if I’m anon or not sometimes, but if I do, if you can just message me because I’m horribly shy! 😭 (I wish I wasn’t, but here we are haha)

Thank you for reading the latest update :)

The most scene that received mixed reactions is R's frustration when she found out about Kate and Yelena. Some think her reaction was over the top, some, like you, thought it was understandable. So it's really interesting. I love the different way ppl receive the story.

Have an amazing week as well and take care :)

P.S dont worry you never sent an ask other than anon :D don't worry about being shy as well. it's fine :)

[princelouisau]

slayyy, a ross geller hater as you should be! he reminds me of that tiktok sound where it's like "all of a sudden, i hear this agitating, grating voice" skdflsdjf

yeah i get that, people esp in this fandom are so annoying about policing how other's enjoy their experience, i literally hate them. there's no way anyone should literally be uncomfortable to have fun somewhere bc of how it might look to other people ,, like ?? little r@ts anyone who does that.

i do be standing perfectly still straight faced at concerts though, and ppl def do not care lmao

i've seen louis once, but i haven't seen harry yet! i mostly just cant justify spending more than $150 on a concert ticket idc, but i might go see him if i end up traveling to europe next summer!

i'm so tired and i just realized i have work tomorrow and it made my fatigue 10x worse so sorry for the shitty question 😭 but what is ur favorite condiment? i always see us x britain fights abt this so i'm curious lmao

hope you have an incredible day bby!

i’m so sorry i didn’t answer this 😭 i kept reminding myself too and then just didn’t because i’m a mess

yeah people and their policing really annoy me, one of the reasons i’ve been so stressed about how i act is because i remember at some point during harry’s tour someone filmed another person at a concert not being visibly hyped and everyone in the comments was being AWFUL about it. i saw it too in another fandom, people straight up saying they’d pull someone’s hair for not singing 💀 i hate people lmao

and yeah i’m only going to see harry bc my gf got tickets, and they were ridiculously priced 😭 i still feel bad about it but they’re an angel and don’t mind

i hope you managed to rest well! and that work went/is going okay ♥️ and no question is ever shitty

i am usually a barbecue girly but i also like ketchup! and with fries/wedges/whatever i loveeee garlic mayo. i haven’t really tried many other sauces honestly shjsdj i also like curry sauce which is like something you get at chinese takeaways/chip shops here and it’s delicious

idk whats popular in america other than ranch and mustard 👀 i feel like ranch would be my sort of thing

[trixstriforce]

hey i get where ur coming from and i get i didnt explain well in my tags bc i didn't wanna derail bc ngl i tend to ramble and get off topic but i saw one of the the hc creator reply and i get how u can be offended from my tags which i am genuinely sorry about! i didn't realize it could come off as me being "oh blue bad so trans blue bad!!!" which was NOT my intent. as a feminine nonbinary person w/ a lot of trans friends i dont want ppll to think im some cis idiot who looks down on gnc trans ppl or dont like trans hcs for characters i think r gender conforming honestly i see the four swords links as all trans men tho she/her blue i genuinely do think is a good hc i only put it yhere bc i LITTERLY haven't seen she/her red which i did get told was also popular so from what i personally saw i was iffy if the hc was rooted in anything deeper bc i tend to be sceptical of fandoms bc of stuff im going to explain if u here me out, i know my cynicism was seen as me insulting a hc so i get why u were aggressive but pls dont assume my intentions based off one post.

now this is going to be an eassy fair warning bc that is just how i talk. which is why my tags I wanted to be short bc i struggle to get my point across w/out being verbose but like...clearly i shoulda just kept my og tags and not cut it down but oh well whats done is done ig pls read it through bc u were rlly agressive in ur reply which is fine but at least hear me out bf u label me like that ok?

to explain rlly what i ment i have to be clear that i am in the cookie run fandom and that fandom has a LOT of queer characters many r canon nonbinary and there r a lot of widespread trans hcs. in that fandom, in the past, i specifically was very uneducated on trans stereotypes so when a very masculine cookie who for years the fandom saw as a man but had no canon prounons was announced to be a woman the fandom for a hot minute(including me) saw them as a trans woman. some trans ppl in the fandom got uncomfortable w/ that including some of my friends and one of my friend's friend explained the possibile transphobia of the hc and in a fandom never adopting widespread trans hcs for characters unless the fandom assumed they were the opposite gender ie a he/him cookie in makeup and a dress was always hced to use she/her or be a trans man. and at that time i genuinely was shocked that ppl were making these hcs w/ those intentions bc i never considered that bf. and in general? cookie run fandom just has so many issues man ppl never respect the nonbinary characters genders or any lesbain codded characters so ive learned to look at hcs that i see get adopted w/ a cynical eye bc im like "is this hc popular bc ppl see trans ppl that way or bc they like the character?" i am heavily fandom critical bc ive been burned before so id rather point out a possible issue in a hc than ignore it bc im giving the op the benefit of the doubt, i dont trust ppl like that anymore bc i have to be more critical of the things i see nowadays

now loz fandom while not perfect, is leagues better than my past fandoms and im glad for that. thats why i put that in the tags not the main post bc i was genuinely curious if it was from a fic bc i did read a few fics w/ she/her blue so i was actually looking forward to reading a new one lol or if it was a post seeing how it blew up. my intention was never to say "oh only she/her blue is popular" or something it was to say "oh ive seen she/her blue around alot wheres that from?" i mentioned vio/shadow they/them bc ive also seen that a lot but didn't mention she/her red bc i havent seen that like ever tho i was told its a thing so yeah ig the point of my og post more so was i havent seen a lot of the four swords fandom which is true bc i dont check fandom tags a lot and read fics once in a blue moon nowadays

blue in itself was never the issue btw, i think i need to point that out that i never even had an issue. i just have seen a lot of ppl make blue out to be the angry violent one whos hard headed and never listens before swinging. these r sterotypicaly masciunle behaviors and while blue in canon is stubborn and brash hes not as bad as some fics have portrayed him which has in general made me critical of how i see him in fandom and one of the reasons i rlly do not interact w/ four swords fandom in general bc blue honestly has so much potential as the groups protector and ppl just...over look it.

which is WHY i pointed out it was stereotypical to make the most agressive one in the group trans bc it IS a sterotype even if u urself don't personaly mean it that way or lean into that trope that DOESN'T mean me as an outsider can not see a trope ove seen and be wary of it. that is not an attack on those w/ the hc that is me as a feminine nonbinary person w/ transfem friends that likes a character and is worried ppl might be steering into a direction ive seen bf. that is something while u dont have to acknowledge u gotta be a lil aware of even if u urself have never written blue to be the "agressive one." it is a trope ive seen a lot and this is to be clear not bc im saying u or others r writting blue like that, its bc i am wary in general. i can admit i didnt word that well at all i do like the hc and respect the ppl who use it! i was relieved it HASN'T been used that way which is why i said i gave a thumbs up bc it was honestly refreshing to see. let me be transparent and say i havent once seen a she/her blue i disagreed w/ or i felt was leaning into bad blue tropes every she/her blue ive seen has been written well and respectfully which makes sense if queer/trans writters are making her

has anyone so far that ive seen done such stereotyping? no, from what ive seen the fandom has done an excellent job writting her tbh bc the best blue portrayals have been in a few fics ive seen w/ she/her blue, i think one was called color theory? it was rlly relatable, ive always liked blue as a character and never rlly liked how some fans portrayed her bc imo it was one dimensional writing. which is why i was like hm where did this come from! its an interesting hc and dodges more toxic blue tropes, but that doesn't mean i cant be wary still it just means i in general approve of the hc and have my wariness on the back burner.

the implications that i dont like ppl making transfem hcs of their favs kinda points to me that u have never been on my acc bf or clicked on my pinned post. which is fair, if u felt attacked and just replied out of hurt then thats fine but pls be aware of who u r talking to when u wanna demean a person bc u assume they cant think critically about media and assume they dislike transfem hcs in general bc like man i have multiple transfem links and nb links in my hc pinned post i literally am not the one to tell about let ppl hc what they want my hcs r wild dude i know

i didn't know where the hc came from which is why i made the post i didnt know if it was made by someone unconsciously linking those behaviors in blue to that hc and not being aware of that or from someone trans in themself which is what i assumed regardless but i am a cynic w/ fandom bc i have literally had to have been told by trans woman friends in the past i wasn't seeing their issues and to be fair back then i wasnt. me as a person i can admit im rlly obtuse sometimes and my words never come off like i mean them too im sorry, i didnt put that there to offend anyone. i put it there bc i was scared the hc could have been something unintentionally bad and while i didnt think it was, i have in the past given ppl the benefit of the doubt w/ queer hcs widespread only to learn the orgin was something rooted in misogyny/homophobia/transphpbia. so i added those tags as a reassurence to myself if someone replied w/ something like "oh the op sucked so we just reclaimed it"(which, has happened bf in fandoms im in).

im happy the hc came from a place of love like i assumed! i do genuinely like that and im glad to know some ppl i follow started it. im glad honesty im the only one who was a lil wary seeing it which imo means the creators r trusted ppl in the fandom so i didnt have to worry, pls be aware of all i said above tho and dont assume my intentions were sinister or i dont like the hc just bc of my fandom wariness its kinda unfair to me as a person u got agressive and projected what i assume r things uve also seen in the fandom onto me(ie "blue is the bad agressive one!!!") bc u think i was trying to attack a hc.

idk if thats why u replied that way or if it was something eles honesty im not upset u were mad or anything i get wanting to defend a trans hc from perceived backlash(lord knows ive sent my fair share of eassys defending my favs lmao). but also pls be aware not everything u see in a 2 sentence tag is how u first read it and u could have just pointed out where i offended u w/out being agressive bc ur upset i didnt give u the benefit of the doubt when u in turn also didnt give it to me.

i get me writing out a multiparagraph eassy is gonna seem like a lot for a reply but as i said in the beginning i am a verbose person and the way i get my thoughts in order is to write them out. since u personally misinterpreted what i meant bc of my admittedly lacking context tags, pls read this all the way through to actually get what i tried to say in my tags.

all in all...this was a misunderstanding bc i didnt think i needed to add context in my tags bc i thought ppl would have understood why i was wary which! was wrong to assume on my part!!! i get why it rubbed u the wrong way!!!! so let me just say this...

tldr: i literally as a nonbinary person w/ trans friends do not give even the most wholesome seeming trans hcs the benifit of the doubt if i clock they mightve fallen intona sterotype unless i know the origin which is partially why i asked and partially i wanted to see if there was a good fic i coulda got my hands on. its great the hc is a Thing tm rland made by queer ppl who like making their favs transfem! im queer and like making my favs trans as well! there is no beef only me pointing out a possible thing i was uncomfortable about bc i lacked the origin of the hc so pls dont take it as a personal attack it is literally just me not trusting fandoms to treat trans characters right even if the fandom is a majority queer 👍

where did the blue she/her thing come from in four swords fandom? i rlly wanna know bc i never see the other three??? called she/her??? Sometimes shadow or vio r given they/them but ive constantly seen she/her blue in some spaces so??

[spywitch]

I think I’ve just realized part of why I get so uncomfortable when people cry around me is cuz like. The majority of the time when my mom cried around me as a kid she was being manipulative. We’d get in any kind of argument and she’d cry and be like “Why do you hate me I’m sorry you think I’m a terrible parent” blah blah when I never said anything like that and it was extremely uncomfortable... and then it got MUCH worse as now the subject of me being transgender also makes her cry and beg me for sympathy because its soooo hard for her and she just can’t accept it and she feels soooo bad cuz I have “no empathy” for her. Even though I’ve been faaaar more patient than I should be with her bullshit.

And it feels bad cuz now every time she cries, even when its for a legitimate and justified reason that has nothing to do with me, it feels super uncomfortable. I have 0 capacity to comfort her when I should be because her crying puts me in fight or flight mode lmao.

[witchthewriter]

hello, love

1st and foremost i wanna thank you bc you give so much content and truly make me feel like im back on 2014 tumblr nostalgia.. so lots of love your way cs i adore you and your stuff and you brighten my day♡

i wanna ask for a lvl 2 ship (did 4 rbs and will do more heh..) cs those honestly are so much fun ♡ for Marvel, hotd and stranger things

describing myself.. as for looks i am 5.3, petite. hair is wavy, atm in a shaggy/wolf cut bob that's brown with my natular blond ends showing. eyes r dark blue sorta like denim. also have tons and tons of freckles/moles all over my bod

as for personality.. ppl say i am a smartass and way to sarcastic borderline mean at times. (esp that to my crushes..) yet that's cs I'm get nervous around ppl and become too teasingly mean for some reason. so all in all my friends say i look and even behave sorta like a b3tch and yet to close friends im a ride or die. and wjen it comes to any sexy business i try to be bratty and yet am suchhh a sub pft so all mean facade crumbles. im a straight gurlie that uses she/her pronouns

i like spitting random facts, enjoy walks and new places, study art. drink way too much coffee.. mb a lil too much wine/beer too heh. and am a passionate horror fan. also have no phobias.. literally don't give a damn about anything. did archery and knife fighting so i can whoop someones butt if needed~

once again sending loads of positive vibes your way love~ ♡

Want one? Here be the rules 🦋🌈

Hello!!! Oh my god, a fellow OG! Thank you for being so kind, and for participating!

𝑾𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒆𝒂𝒄𝒉 𝒔𝒉𝒊𝒑 𝒉𝒂𝒔 𝒊𝒏 𝒄𝒐𝒎𝒎𝒐𝒏: ✧ Outgoing ✧ Care-free ✧ Light-hearted ✧ Loyal

𝐒𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐧𝐠𝐞𝐫 𝐓𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐬

𝐷𝑒𝑠𝑐𝑟𝑖𝑝𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛

I ship you with Argyle! I think you suit someone who doesn't take offense easily, who walks on the more chaotic side of life, and likes lifes' pleasures.

𝐻𝑒𝑎𝑑𝑐𝑎𝑛𝑜𝑛𝑠

・You have endless pizzas, like a lifetime supply. He never makes you pay, and you always go to the store that he works at - so everyone knows you (yay free pizza!!!)

・Just a pair of giggling gurties; once you start you can't stop

・You never feel uncomfortable around Argyle; it's like he just understands everything.

・Getting into trouble, but somehow always getting out of it?

・ Chilling in his van, whether that's smoking, drinking or just laying on your backs and talking about life

𝐌𝐚𝐫𝐯𝐞𝐥

𝐷𝑒𝑠𝑐𝑟𝑖𝑝𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛

I ship you with Thor - more specifically, I ship you with What If! Thor, where he grows up as an only son. In this he's more the Thor that Taika creates; fun-loving, carefree etc. This is especially seen in What If! Thor, he's storyline is that he goes out partying.

𝐻𝑒𝑎𝑑𝑐𝑎𝑛𝑜𝑛𝑠

・You and Thor would be two chaotic dumbasses who probably share a brain cell (not to be an insult, it's just a trope.)

・You make each other laugh all the time, and there is rarely a bad mood in sight.

・You have millions of inside jokes. That ONLY you and Thor understand. It makes your relationship feel special.

・He defends you against ANYONE, no one can speak ill of his lady

・Like two golden retrievers in love <3 always fawning over each other, making each other snort in laughter

𝐇𝐨𝐮𝐬𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐃𝐫𝐚𝐠𝐨𝐧

𝐷𝑒𝑠𝑐𝑟𝑖𝑝𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛

I don't know if you know much about Ser Harwin Strong, but this man is a cool guy. I mean look at the way he reacts to seeing a princess covered in blood? He's like, 'shiiiiii aight.'

𝐻𝑒𝑎𝑑𝑐𝑎𝑛𝑜𝑛𝑠

・He loves laying in between your legs in bed. Whether you're reading or talking, he'll climb onto you and push his back onto your stomach, so you can play with his hair

・He also loves to hear about gossip, but you're like "no Harwin, we don't like that person," and he goes, "oh right right sorry love."

・He rarely gets jealous but is very protective

・Isn't much for tradition and has an open-mind. This is very unusual in those times, and he astounds you. Most men want a wife to bed and have children and make them dinner. Harwin isn't like that, he wants to know about you. He'd marry you for love, not for reputation or what's expected.

・Pet names for you are, 'Love, Sweetheart, Darlin'

[shoezuki]

If im being honest;; schlatt antis make me uncomfortable

I know hes fucked up but i see so many antis making things. worse? than schlatt does. like one of them sent me intense gore because i said i have a hyperfixation on schlatt. i d. i don't understand peoples thought process

and even more, my ex (who traumatized me greatly- big win for me! i haven't talked to them months) was a schlatt anti and made jokes about.. watching cc! him.. dying? how fucked can people get. Some people only watch his main channel where he puts on an edgy character and dont even look to his 2nd channel where hes not botherinf with his character and publishs videos talkinf about how to help with anxiety and depression,, he even talked about binding and doing it safely once on there.

ack. sorry for ranting. ^^"

yo ya i fuckin feel u n im sorry u got that kinda shit. ppl really like. go so Extreme w these 'problematic' ccs

like. i STILL do watch schlatt n like his shit. n yes he fucked up sometimes most notably the blackface jokes n shit on that One video were. yea wack. but like. i dont get it still? how intensely ppl hate on him

like discomfort and dislike of him as a person n the shit he said? yea i understand that completely n thats valid. but to be so brutal and disgusting to ppl who even mention watching his content? fucking wild

like i dont think the dude is a Bad Dude in any regard. some white guy that fucks up? yep absolutely. if he was so deplorable like ppl seem to think then i doubt even his homies would stick it w him like connor n jus. like. even hasan is friends w him n talks bout him n defends him. but ppl r jus so adamant on hatred for the sake of hatred.

the dudes funny. n i see a number of his side channel videos where hes more open n like. the dude is Human. hes not some inconsolable asshole. to act like its disgusting for ppl to even Watch his videos is. weird.

[vampyrfagg]

hi Ive kind of been lurking in your anons bc you reblogged a post once and I don't have any mutuals so you're like my bestie in my head so sorry. anyways you mentioned theyfabs the other day and I feel kind of out of the loop. like calling it a slur is a bad take but it does seem like just calling someone a "biological female" with extra steps. or am I missing something?

hii !! <33 u do not need to lurk at all i promise im v friendly<333 but nw! i do understand being uncomfortable w the phrase but it's not like. all ppl who r afab and use they/them, it's intended to be like a subset of the tenderqueer group - it's specifically describing generally transmisogynistic nonbinary people who cling to their afab label - yk the kind of person who will offer up that they are afab w/out any prompting or relevance to the conversation as if it somehow makes them better or more safe than amab trans ppl? the kind of trans person who will bring up ""female socialisation"" and ""male socialisation"" and use it to justify both their transmisogyny and inflated ego? so calling it a slur is quite funny to me bc it's often describing ppl who put down other trans ppl to make themselves seem safer or more palatable? if that makes sense? idk it is v early here so i'm not sure if i'm being super coherent :,)

[sukunastoy]

hey, srry to be the one to rant in ur inbox but i saw u were open to anons and ur one of the few ppl ik in this fandom space thts around my age group and i was just wondering. how??

ive been on tumblr and in fandom/fanfic communities since i waz around 15, its basically my main hobby and pretty much the only social outlet i have, and ive just been so down and so lonely because ive been feeling shunned and excluded pretty much everywhere once i disclose my age and i absolutly completely understand WHY bc there r so many younger ppl in these places, but i dont know what else to do. it feels like nothing is fun anymore. the general consensus seems to b that i should just fck off and have some kids and pay bills until i die. how do u deal with it?? are u ever bothered by it? i feel likr a creep for even being here still, but it’s one of the only things i still have tht brings me joy. srry if that was a lot, i feel bad even compareing myself to u in any way because im nowhere near as talented as u are, absolutly delete this if it makes u uncomfortable whatsoever

hope u are doing well yourself 💙 ty for being u

First of all, NEVER be sorry to rant to my inbox!! And I truly feel appreciative for you to tell me all of this. This is a safe space and you're always welcome to it! My reply is a bit long, I didn't want to flood anyone with a super long post, so the rest is beneath the cut.

I completely understand how you feel, about the age thing and the ever present societal norms of "Must be an adult, must have kids, must do this, yada yada". Its depressing as fuck.

I've been into anime and manga since around 13-14 years old (apart from Pokemon which I've loved -And still do!- since the age of 5.)

I always wrote fanfics, always did fanart, even if I thought it was absolute garbage, I was still so happy just doing it. It has been something that got me through the toughest times in my life. I struggle with suicidal depression, always have for as long as I can remember, even back in my single digit days before even becoming a teenager. When I started to reach the age of "adulthood" I started to shy away from what I loved doing because I felt as an adult, I wasn't allowed to enjoy what I truly loved anymore, cause I needed to "grow up." And I did that. For a while. I rarely acknowledged anime. I sold all of my manga, my wall scrolls, my merch. I stopped drawing/writing it as much cause I needed to focus on being an adult, paying my bills, going to college, all that crap.

But, I got worse in my depression. I self harmed, had to go to therapy, had to start medication, and at one point I actually wrote that final goodbye note because I couldn't handle the norm of "being a mature adult" so I figured I must be useless otherwise. If I wasn't happy playing my adult role in society, what was the point of me even living?

During this time I went to college for 3 years, stressing, crying, working on a degree that I didn't even want because I thought it was expected of me. (I've always wanted to go to an art school and get a degree there. But my parents and everyone else in family told me, thats not a real degree. So I left it behind...) For 3 years I wasted my time and money and sanity to try to appease the people who don't pay my bills, don't put food in my mouth and certainly don't do shit for me otherwise, and I finally stopped and thought...

WHY?

WHY am I trying to impress and fit in with people who don't even really know me or provide for me?

I dropped out of the college that was stressing me out. I lost that money, but oh well, I was miserable, and my mental health is more important to me.

I don't want kids. I don't want that boring life of "just work til your dead". I don't want to have boring hobbies that I don't even like just to fit in with the people of my age range who I could care less about.

I'm turning 30 in a few months, and I regret wasting a few years of my life trying to fit into this norm of, bullshit. (And please note to whoever is reading this, if doing a lot of the 'norm' and having a family with kids and everything IS happiness for you, that is beautiful!! I am only referring to the people who don't want that life, and it should NOT be forced upon them.)

I love anime. I love drawing it, writing fics for it, interacting with other people over it, and I don't know why I ever tried to deny that.

I was afraid to return online in the fandoms because surely everyone must only be young teenagers right? Actually, not at all!

I've interacted with SO MANY people near my age range, and, it is truly amazing.

There are lots of people close in age, sometimes they're just a little difficult to find, but they are there, I promise, and they are amazing. I've enjoyed anime more in my adult life now than when I was younger tbh because I stopped caring about what others think and that my age is literally just a number. I'll be 30. So what, that doesn't change what I love. My body is getting older, that's all. I am still ME.

My fiance and I still go out and play Pokemon Go, collect Pokemon cards, like, I have BINDERS full of cards. The store we go to is ALWAYS packed with other people our age and way older who love Pokemon, Digimon, YuGiOh, and all sorts of other anime things they offer there.

These people are out there!

I started being more open with my likes and interests with strangers and coworkers, and I found out a lot of people really are into this, but felt they had to keep it hidden cause they didn't want anyone to think they were weird because of their age.

I surround myself with those who I know are supportive of me, or don't have a problem with my likes and interests and I stay away from those who try to shame me, and I kick them out of my life because I don't need that negativity in my circle. Some people my age who aren't into anime don't have a problem with me being into it at all. They've never shunned me for it. If anyone does, goodbye.

Life is short, its hard, its shitty. It doesn't need to be made worse by trying to appease those who aren't providing for you or feeling like you're not allowed to love what you love. So enjoy the things you love to enjoy. If there's something that you can latch onto that brings honest happiness into your life, cherish it.

I hope this helped in some way...even if just a tiny bit...

I know it was long, but I wanted to explain as much as I could so you don't feel like you're alone or left behind in the fandoms because of age. I tried to deny what brought me joy, and it only brought me more misery. I hated it.

I'm so much happier now, and I truly hope this type of peace comes for you soon as well.

Always feel free to drop in my inbox as anon, I would NEVER delete something like this.

Again, I hope this helped. If I didn't acknowledge something, or seemed to entirely misunderstand, I dearly apologize and please correct me if needed!!

💕 (´▽`ʃ♡ƪ)

(❁´◡`❁)~Stay shameless!

[hazystars]

dude adhd autism solidarity! Whenever I need my ear defenders or to stim or just yknow…. Show any signs I’m autistic other than just being uwu quirky I get SO many stares from other people who claim to be neurodivergent based solely on a few tiktoks they saw. They instantly get so uncomfortable when confronted with neurodivergance in anyway that isn’t instantly palatable and I’m so sick of people looking at me like a freak whilst still claiming to be part of our community. And I’m pretty good at masking there are people on my course who are treated WAY worse and their autistic traits are openly discussed as ‘creepy’ or ‘off putting’ and fuck I feel so bad for them.

no this is honestly so real. once ppl r met with neurodivergence that isn't cute or charming they flip so fucking fast & it truly shows how fuckin performative and fake bitches really be. i'm so sorry that you have struggled with this tho & i'm sending u love and good vibes. u rock

[avenger-hawk]

DON’T INTERACT:

pro-SS/SSSfamily/S*rada/NH/ending/b*ruto/new stuff (keep that shit away from me)

pro-Sasu//naru, pro-SNS (also pro healthy NS: for me it’s unhealthy Dark NS or nothing)

pro-Sasu//ita, pro anything topSasuke, pro martyr-dorky Itachi (it’s ooc and kinda ridiculous imo. Itasasu only)

moralistic ppl who police FICTIONAL age gap/ unhealthy/ dark stuff and whine that if you like certain things you’re a bad person: here you’ll find all the bad unhealthy things: itasasu/ Kakasasu/madasasu/orosasu and more. If your hobby is to judge ppl you are not a good person. If you can’t tell reality from fiction you are a functional illiterate.

anti ships/shipping: you’re not better if you don’t ship. You’re just judgemental. I tag ships even when the 2 characters are simply close. It’s my way to do things.

Ppl expecting to be protected from ‘dangerous’ content: I’m 18+, this is my blog, if smth makes you uncomfortable just leave.

(fake) woke Sasuke/Uchiha ‘activists’ applying real life stuff to the Naruto universe: I support Sasuke 300% but activism is for the real world. Fiction activism is an offense to real oppressed ppl. Besides you don’t even understand Sasuke’s personality, you just project an ideal of cool first world activist on him.

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if you want to discuss the ending &new shit: I probably agree with you but I’ve had this blog since before the ending happened, I discussed it a lot already, I still express my negativity against it but mostly I try to process it in a creative way. Also I avoid new stuff, and if I’m asked about it I reply once but then I’ll tell you to avoid it too if you hate it. It kinda works. Almost.

‘but Hawk why you have a blog if you’re not open to discussion?’ ‘you speak of free expression but you criticize other ppl’s’  Because it’s my blog.  I am free to express how much I hate smth. I tag my rants so that they will not be visible for those who like that stuff . So I respect what I hate much more than those who come to me as anons and criticize my attitude. 

[daesungindistress]

fwiw: gd has never been the most thoughtful instagrammer. even after the blackface photo he was still constantly liking drug and sex related memes and softcore porn pictures back when ig allowed nipples, etc. i think ifans forget just how big of a celebrity he is in asia, and how detached he probably is from the reality of ppl reading into his posts. it's entirely possible he just doesn't think s*r* has a right to infringe on his own memories or sense of ownership of bigbang.

Yeah, I have gotten that impression this year. He doesn’t seem to give a flip and there’s a certain sense of detachment in much of what he posts. I’m quite certain he never reads the comments; he doesn’t wade in and converse like TOP or Youngbae, just drops his pics and flits away, only returning on rare occasion to make changes if something wasn’t right with it (the image order, for example).

Given his tremendous celebrity stature over there it’s probably for the best, but man, is it just me or is there a serious disconnect? Aside from Daesung, who doesn’t do social media at all, GD might be the least in touch with the goings-on in the fandom, and, um... I think it shows.

Re: your last point... bit of a personal anecdote again, sorry. In a previous post I said that although I despise it now, that five hands photo once meant the world to me. But thinking about it, in another timeline, things might have unfolded differently. In the spring of 2019 I had said goodbye to Seungri and made my peace with a four-member BB, yet I continued reblogging and appreciating OT5 content for some time -- not because I believed we would return to it, not because I supported it, but because there was, I thought, no real harm in reflecting on it fondly as something that was once special to me, albeit firmly in the past.

Had more VIPs come to the same (and in my opinion obvious) conclusion and accepted the change in BIGBANG’s lineup, things might have remained that way. Me, sensitive toward the memory of OT5, as something to be remembered, but not sympathetic to it, as something to be revived. Side note: this is where KVIPs by and large seem to be today. Secure in BB’s status as four, among themselves they share both OT4 and OT5 content, not because they expect the latter but because that is BIGBANG’s unchangeable past, and the occasional OT4 edit aside, it’s about all we have to survive on to date.

Regrettably, that is not how things played out. Too many IVIPs resisted this necessary change at every turn, and when it comes down to it, this nasty OT4/5 war that we’ve been embroiled in for far too long is primarily what’s driven my views of the group to such extremes. Before long I realized I couldn't post anything OT5 without it being interpreted as support. Only then did I stop. SR/OT5 fans have no idea just how much they’ve personally contributed to the souring of Seungri’s memory by repeatedly forcing him on those of us who do not want him. The more I’m made to see him against my will the less I like him. We could have let him go peacefully, perhaps even somewhat amicably. In the beginning I wanted that, and I implored others to allow it. But no. Instead, removing him from the group has been akin to severing a gangrenous limb with a dull, rusty blade. And we’re still working on it.

My point is, had this been handled better by everyone, even while embracing a four-member BB I might still regard that five hands photo with affection, if nothing else as an artful symbol of unity, had SR/OT5 IVIPs not spent the last ~2 years preventing the fandom and the group from healing and turning 1/5 of the pic into something so inescapable... and therefore detestable.

As far as we can tell, GD seems to have remained largely out of fandom politics. Whatever that photo means to us, it doesn’t necessarily mean the same thing to him.

That said, I don’t blame anyone for jumping ship; y’all have every right to walk away if he’s made you uncomfortable. But as for me, I’ll wait and see.

[joculatrixster]

ok jsut want to say if anyone folkows me or i interact with u and u genuinely believe milkyam/darkmilk is disgusting pls jsut dm me to unfollow u, i jsut...am tired of this fandom sometimes, im not mad or anything yall can have ur opinions but unless cookeis have GENUINELY SHOWN to have a power imbalance like with Dark Enchantress and Pomegranate or they have age codidng thats very obvious like Captian Ice and Prophet i dont want to hear u argue its an age gap ship, ill say it once and ill say it again MENTAL AGE MATTERS IN NONHUMAN CHARACTERS STOP EQUATING PHYSICAL YEARS TTO MENTAL YEARS, ffs the cr timeline is bonkers! we have no idea all the age gaps are! adualt cooies cpuld be 10 minutes old or 10 thousand years even when we know one cookie was an adualt while another was a child if they dont mentally age past like what 20-25ish years old while the other os mentally like 20ish i DOTN think thats an issue and honestly i think yall need to stop ship shaming with literal COOKIES, and the argument against yam is even flimsier considering ive YET to see someoen point out when in the timeline yam faught dark?? was it ever confirmed that was before dark turned well dark? even then my above points still stand and if anythign ive seen milk has more power in a milkyam ship. i also get some ppl still hate milk, thats ur prerogative if u want to go cookie bad i cant stop u, i just want u to unfollow me cause i UNDERSTAND why ppl would think hes bad but hes not rasict im sorry to point out that milk could be offensive and i see that but actually being rasict hes not. i do agree the devs are sus in alot of what they do and they should make a clearer timeline with less age ambiguity and yeah the devs rely on stereotypes way too much to the point some cookies r offensive, but i dont think yall who think those 2 ships r bad actually ya know, critically think this over? age gaps in age ambiguous media is wack and i see why ppl would be uncomfortable but pls DONT call others gross for shipping something that clearly doesnt have a bad power imbalance in canon thank u.

SIDE NOTE DO N O T USE MY ARGUMENTS FOR PROSHIPPER SHIT YALL KNOW DAMN WELL THSOE KIDS R HEAVILY KID CODDED IDC IF THEY R A THOUSAND YEARS OLD OR 1 YEARS OLD ILL DROP KICK U IF U TOUCH THIS POST BUH BYE

[matoitech]

hello u dont have to answer this if u dont want, but ur situation with gender is scarily similar to where im at except im in the mindset that im nb wlw and dont rlly kno whats going on. I guess if u kno how to explain it, I wanted to ask how u made that jump or how u could tell it isnt just a "womanhood is like that" kind of thing and is actually "i am a guy"

oh man i wish i had smth that would make it Click for u easier cuz i def understand being rly confused abt this kinda thing.. i got a few Thoughts, idk if they will help u out but hopefully they give u some more thoughts to chew on that will maybe help anyway. this got so long oh hell sorry gbfhg

i think like the main thing as like a tip b4 we get in2 the Meat of it is it is good to relax and b open to thinking abt bein a guy as a possibility, i dont know if this will make sense bc i do not know how to explain it rly but when i was struggling 2 figure stuff out what i had rly needed 2 know was that being a dif gender can just feel like You (but as u become more comfortable w it, you but happier!) for some reason i thought u had to meet certain criteria to b ‘allowed’ to make what seemed 2 me at the time a Leap but thats not how it works lol. u as u r right now can b a guy if u want to or r considering it. u dont have to feel different and u dont have to think abt ur body a different way or anything. sry if this part doesnt make sense its difficult for me to verbalize lol

it was hard for me personally bc ppl would b like ‘if u Want to b a dif gender than b one’ but like i said in those last posts, for a long time i genuinely did not know i Wanted to be a guy/was a guy, or whatever. i had no conscious longing about it or anything, that came later once i was more comfortable w accepting it. i didnt have ‘i want to be a boy/am a boy’ moments i can rly consciously remember putting into those words as a kid, cuz i just did not care about gender on that level till i was a teenager. like i cannot stress this enough, ur life and feelings abt gender n whatever do not have to match up with what u have commonly heard the trans experience is about. once u figure stuff out and r more comfortable w urself u may look back and notice things that may b like that common trans experience, but remembering this stuff or having these childhood experiences or whatever in the first place is not a ‘requirement’. like i said, no requirements for bein a dif gender

for me like.. knowing it for sure... making the Jump as it were. like its kinda embarrassing but literally the way i Found Out was i was feeling all sorts of things whenever i watched promare and i just felt this INTENSE longing whenever i saw galo that i later realized was just me rly feeling the Gender w him and being envious of that.. it had happened w other chars b4 growing up, but i had never rly noticed to that extent till now. and one night i was thinking my usual ‘i wish i looked like galo i wish i could be a guy’ maybe for the first time in like a Conscious thought, when i had never rly heard it in words b4, and i kinda stopped and was like. what? i WHAT? and then it clicked and it was like a euphoric moment for me. easily top 5 best 2 ams of my life. it is kind of a hyperspecific experience but it is also not UNCOMMON rly lol

also figuring out my sexuality was intertwined in that bc i was iding as a butch nonbinary lesbian and i had tossed the idea of ‘maybe id b more comfortable as a man’ around a bit but the idea of being a straight man didnt feel right 2 me, but luckily i kind of made the connection of wait im a man and im attracted to men at like the exact same time, it had to b both at once for me personally to figure it out and b happy about it. idk if thats smth going thru ur head at all but it was for me and was part of my Journey i guess and may help to think abt it a bit lol

and while yes its absolutely about what makes u more comfortable at the end of the day, i think it wouldve helped for me to hear ppl say that just bc the idea of being a dif gender (in this case Man) might make u feel confused and maybe even uncomfortable rn, that doesnt necessarily mean u r not one if youve been struggling w this and wondering, it might just mean u havent had that clicky moment and r ready to rly think abt it yet. i have grown much more comfortable w myself over time as ive figured this stuff out and i am still open to figuring out more abt myself and i think thats a good place to b at! just b open to stuff like this that u maybe had never thought would have a positive effect on you or make you happier.

speaking from experience i think if ur confused and maybe even miserable telling urself that womanhood is just like that and u gotta suck it up and get used to feeling uncomfortable and bad, u dont have to live like that! im not saying that ‘oh im actually a guy’ is gonna b what everyone who is struggling w thats answer is cuz obviously thats not true- and im not saying how i just described it is even how u feel- but like. as someone who thought that same thing but less consciously. womanhood does not have to be a confusing sad experience, its not an inherently miserable experience, it is possible it just isnt for you and trying smth else might make u feel better. and that can b rly hard to figure out in the moment, cuz ur Used to feeling like this and even if youve heard it can b different it might b hard to have that ‘oh theyre talking to ME, it can be different for ME not just everyone else’ moment lol

also i dont know if this is relevant to u but im saying it in general 2 anyone who needs it i guess; being a man isnt a bad thing and it doesnt make u an inherently bad person, manhood and masculinity r not inherently or naturally toxic or something. thats a harmful mindset to have for multiple reasons and a whole nother post so im not gonna b like and now a word about transphobic red flags but like, worth mentioning that that can b harmful or dangerous to trans ppl, transmascs and transfems.

my god this got rly long... if anyone else has went thru a similar thing and has anything 2 add, feel free to :0 hope i somehow got around to answering ur question w all the rambling! i am just one guy and my experience may or may not b helpful to hear about, especially bc my memory is not the best lol <3 hope it helped at all tho!